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i feel so much better now I am very happy for you thank you. feel less pressure Is there anything else on your mind that i can help you with? no that's it. you've been very helpful

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I’m trying to be hopeful to That said I think it will take another year or two to get there I hope that things go well with you and your mentor. Thank you. This conversation has helped and you were able to offer good suggestions I think I will try to apply this going forward. And find a group to join.

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I think mostly the latter. I just do not want to face the world any more . I feel that everyone must know that I've been dumped and be laughing at me. you havve already made it two weeks by going one day at a time I did not really have any choice though . I do not see any future for myself now that we are separated. do you know brene brown and her work No I do not, who is that?

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The struggle is real my kids act as if they dont hear me which causes me to become overwhelmed and loud then they dont wanna listen anymore. I am well today and you/ That sounds really hard! Does that mean things tend to escalate quickly in your home? I am loking for ways to communiate better specifically with my 5 year old son. well i always get yelling as a response which is what i cant seem to break as soon as my son gets mad he screams and calls for me no mater where i am or where he is I don't wanna yell i wanna get my points across. I also homeschool them all so i am mom teacher and bas guy bad guy

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he only angry with me but i am still loving him If you still love him, what is the reason for the break up? he is going to abroad , so he is leaving me So then he is leaving the country. Why don't you want to go along? my working platform does not allow me to outside the contry

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I saw a psychiatrist face to face but only once every month. I've always had a low mood but now I'm anxious that it will continue to get worse. Talking to a professional is always ideal. Is there a way to see that psychiatrist again? Since lockdown haven't spoken to her but maybe she can do a video call. At the start it was fine, I was feeling just as I always have but I don't want this to get any worse. What if she isn't available? It wouldn't hurt to try and reach out. If she isn't available, there are other services. What like support groups etc? I'm also sure this isn't just related to lockdown and not seeing my specialist. It's weird and a little concerning to be honest.

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Thank you. I don't want to lose the friendship. I don't think I can stay calm with that woman around. Tell me how you are feeling to leave your friend because of one girlfriend I am feeling that it would be a shame. We have been friends for so long. I don't think the girlfriend cares about my friend's feelings or friendships. She just thinks about what she wants. Make sure with me today that you won't break your friendship. Please reassure with me . I will do my best to maintain the friendship. I might have to put it on hold for a while. Until he breaks up with the crazy woman.

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It is hard to feel ok when I keep hearing that I am missing something. I don't even think I need to lose weight. It is just that my friends think model thin is what beauty is. I would have to starve myself to achieve that. If you are comfortable with your weight then why are you so concerned with what everyone around you says or thinks? Because they are the people I spend time with. I want to be accepted and I want them to like me. It sounds like you care more about what others think of you than how you feel about yourself. I wish I could not care about what they think but I do. I don't know how to not let their opinions not bother me

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I also tried to be the supporter but I think the screen froze at some point. I couldn't complete that side. So, I'm trying this again. Not sure if I got credit for the others. Hoping I won't be punished with a rejection for talking to myself. Hello how are you? I am here to support you. Oh, hi! Thank you. I was just talking to myself. lol No one showed up the last few times I tried to do this.

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Finance. I know this is an extremely hard situation, but I know you can make it through it! I doubt it. But thanks for the positive vibes. Is there a lock down where you live? Yes, we are currently in a lock down.

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Really thanks for that.you done a great job.If i need any help means surely i'll revert you back. ok! Have a wonderful day! Sure you to have a great day. I think you should submit the test now May be you should submit the test.

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I'm really freaking out here. I have got to find a job before Monday. Did they have a reason for giving you the pink slip? They are getting rid of all kinds of people and I think the newest hires are going first. You will find a job if you are determined enough :) People were let go every Friday for the last month. I was hoping I had another week to try and save up.

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Yes. Video calls are not the same. I understand. Video calls can feel a bit less personal sometimes. Do you live alone? Unfortunately I do. Thus it contributes to the loneliness. And I work from home. I see. So you aren't even getting that social contact at work really. Do you video chat to your family and friends regularly? I do but I’m getting tired of video chatting. It’s just not the same. It’s tough, especially with the holidays approaching.

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bad guy That sounds really challenging. I grew up in a home with a lot of yelling, and after a few years it just became our default for communicating with each other. I really regret that we didn't do anything to change the pattern sooner. What have you tried to break the pattern so far? yes i can not have that become the normal. I want to feel proud of their beviors they need to learn manners which i think is someting they really missed out on in public schools. the need to conform wouldve taught them manners without them even noticing. So far i try to keep myslef calm and communicate simply i still get screams back and i just try to make him ty again with a nice voice and tell him i am here to help if he can talk to me Do you have kids? what do you suggest? somedays I feel like I am in a mad house.

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Thank you so much :)! Your so welcome was there anything else I could help you with today I think I am okay! Thank you again for all of your help Your so welcome and have a great day and stay safe! You too!

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I don't have any kids but I live with my partner so this is putting a strain on our relationship as well. Do you feel that she feels less of you because of you being unemployed? Yeah, maybe that' s part of it I am really sorry for your situation and I really want things to be better for you in the New Year. All the best to you and yours for 2020! Thanks! Same to you.

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im good. how are you? just dealing with this guy So, you are having trouble dealing with someone? yes and no. i agreed to work with him on the board when he asked me. he said he trusts me If he says he trusts you I am sure that he does. He would not have asked you to work with him if he did not. very true. not sure if he just likes me as as friend or if he wants me back. we dated then he broke up. then he asked me out again and didn't see me cuz he was busy. now he's asking me to be on the board with him. not sure if he has other motives to try to get back with me

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I am just a student right now. All of my classes are online oh okay I think things will get better eventually do you like any subjects in particular? Biology and anatomy

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I could be better. Sorry to hear. What's going on? i'm having difficulty dealing with a coworker that doesn't take constructive feedback on standard work procedures well and is now starting her own investigation. Sorry to hear that. An investigation on who? you? Me and my manager. She feels that we are targeting her.

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I didn't. I was younger then. who knows. not gonna lie. maybe they're right. Sometimes I think I'm a psycho. My last therapist was always doing deep breathing exercises. It didn't help. I also have a lot of anxiety. A LOT! I even got an emotiona support dog I understand that as well .. I am on medication for it. A dog is a wonderful thing to have! Do you feel that it has helped you? Yea, he's my best friend. At least I have one boy who has to stick around. He's on a tight leash

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Except deep down I wish I could. Thank you very much. You have been kind to listen. No problem. and don't see him again, it's tough but it's better that way Have a good rest of the night. Bye bye

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That is good advice. You tell him that this has been a valuable lesson and you have learned a lot from it. And that this mistake would not happen again. If your manager is a leader and not a boss, he would appreciate your honesty and give you chance to rectify. Otherwise, at least, you now know what type of manager you are working for! you are so right!! thank you for putting this all into perspective

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Thank you You are welcome. Watch your thinking, when it goes off track, take charge, change your thinking, get up and move about and do something else because it's not healthy for you to worry. As you said, you freak out, and that is not good for you or your children. definitely, I think I can do that! I feel a lot better! It's a rough situation, it will be difficult, you seem very intelligent, have thought about this, are working on a plan and are able to discuss it. That's a big plus on yoru side. Thank you! I'm feeling a lot more confident!

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Yes. I suppose. Maybe even two would be better. I completely agree. Having a dog as a companion has been a life saver to me in so many situations. I would want him to have a friend this time. What kind of dog do you have? Having a playmate for the dog will make it easier to justify leaving when you do need to go back to work in the office. The puppy won't be lonely.

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What if I fail another exam this week? I need at least an 80% to pass my class, I am so worried. Psychologies studies show that spacing out your studying and relearning helps you remember more information, you could try to section off your studying and then reviewing information before the exam! That seems like a good plan, hopefully I will be able to get the score I need to pass. I'm sure you'll do your best and pass that exam with flying colors! Is there any other piece of advice you have for me before I get to studying again?

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paying the bills. ugh. i do mturk and then i am on upwork. i write articles and edit papers and books. Got it. Mturk is always there when you can't sleep! lol my day is so packed i wish i had more time to sleep! i'm usually up late writing papers for scool i graduate in september. i keep telling myself to hang in till then

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thank ya. him and I are there for each other. We dated briefly at first but have been friends ever since. He said I was the one who got away. But he was the one who ended it lol It sounds like you and him have had quite the history, but your friendship has proven to remain strong through thick and thin (20 years!). I can't imagine how stressful it must be to be for him to be waiting for surgery, and I'm sure it means the world to him that you are by his side. How has your friendship been in the midst of everything these days? It's been good. We've been talking about Covid and the election too. I know I'd be nervous to go in for heart surgery. That's great to hear. Both COVID and the election have certainly been stressful. What are some ways that you have been able to support each other? just being there for each other as a listening ear

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I tend to watch TV or check my phone, once in bed I just try to relax and close my eyes I made a rule in my house where we cannot use any technology 1 hour before bed time. We read a book for example. That might be something you can start to implement in your schedule. Cutting out technology 1 hour before bed time. I think that is a good rule, I have to recognize I use too much technology specially towards the evening/night I will try to stop all that and have a read tonight, what about if that does not work? Have you tried anything else?

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yes Sorry about that, ex-husband. I can definitely tell this is making you feel very anxious and sad from the few messages we have exchanged. Yes very much so Do you have any advice?

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Working on a notebook of studies I did during my prison time. Content that is becoming the Youtube channel. Also work out to stay fit and mentally healthy Sounds interesting. I wish I had more ideas to do youtube as well but I am not good doing this things. Thanks for the effort. This task seems to be taking longer than I thought. Yes Im working out too not much as i wish.

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how are you? I wanted to briefly chat about my jealous feeling My friend sent me a pic as a greeting showing her hubby and I am jealous I am doing good. How are you? Next time I see her I want to hide my jealous feeling, but not sure if I can do it well great. I am good

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but what if that thing is your career choice? That is a totally normal aspect of human nature. It's normal to get bored of things even if we really liked them at some point Of course, some topics like those are more serious, but as I said, even if you chosed wrong ,you can always change your major. I guess thats right. All I care about is helping others so as long as the choice i make supports that then it will be fine. thank you for your help

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Not really. I had people to talk with It sounds that you are feeling lonely because you cannot talk to people face to face. Do I have that right? I WFH. I am a writer Basically because I can not at least have the nise of the people around me at times I WFH as well. It can be very liberating, but oftentimes I feel lonely too.

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I have tried going to support groups and therapy. I also take medications. Despite this I still feel overwhelmed. It sounds like you have tried a lot of different methods, so good for you for taking care of yourself. What is overwhelming you? The situation with COVID is scary. I just found out someone I care about may have the virus. I am a worrier anyways so it is hard not to feel butterflies in my stomach about the issue. It is a very scary time we are all living through, so it's very easy to understand your higher anxiety with someone you care about maybe facing it. What can you do to feel better? I can try to keep myself busy and practice self care. It is hard though because I still worry. Sometimes I feel too worried to do the things necessary to stop it all spiraling

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For the most part... my friend told me she's leaving her husband so that was pretty shocking. how did that news make you feel? Very confused and upset. They don't have problems, she just fell out of love with him and wants to be with a woman. I have had feelings of uncertainity in my relationship before as well. I know these feelings can be upsetting Right. It's tough because we are all friends, she and I, our husbands and our children.

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When do you think this pandemic will end? I'm very worried. From what I have seen, the vaccine will be coming soon to the United States and after we get that we will be in much better shape. Oh, ok. It is getting worse from where I live. Just the other day a Walmart closed due to 10 COVID-19 cases. Hopefully it will work out. I completely understand where you are coming from. I also work in a grocery store and with being around a lot of people all day I also worry at times about COVID-19. Does your store take extra safety measures due to this pandemic. Does customers have to wear a mask before entering?

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That's a good idea I'll try to be more active. Thanks for all the help I appreciate it. Of course. Anytime. It's nice to have someone to talk to thanks for hearing me out. Do you have any more advice?

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No but near him and take care of him. that's really nice of you. i'm 800+ miles away from my parents That is good and bad. I think it is good to talk about though I do feel a little better thank you. if i can suggest something that might help - brene brown, a leadership coach and researcher has a great TED talk about shame and vunerability and a CUTE cartoon animal video on yourtube about empathy Ok thank you very much. I think this is a good stopping point, so thank you for your help

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I have tried a few meditation apps on my phone, i never know if i am doing it right Thats ok as long as you try doing it, eventually you'll be perfect at it. Is that what you do when you're feeling down and out? Thank you for chatting with me and for your great ideas and helpfulness, it made me feel better. I am so happy to hear that. You are wonderful and you have a little person that needs you. Things are going to get better, just make sure you remember to stay positive Thanks again, you stay safe too. :)

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I am thinking about going to the park... well I can tell you, the first 3 times I tried to make 'regular bread' it was a disaster. my bread came out hard as a rock. I kept working at it. You are truly involved when making bread. Cool! I did not know it was a trend? look at me I am a trendsetter, lol. YES! I recommend that wholeheartedly, Ive walked and done more sight seeing during this pandemic than my entire life. Do you have scenic place to go? Do you like to read? I do not have a scenic place but have some nice trails. I do read. I am reading bob iger's new autobiography. Trails, offer an experience of letting go, I believe, you become immerse in nature. I would definitely explore all trails. I did not know Iger had a book out. That sounds really interesting, I would actually love to read it, is it dull? or engaging? I do remember the headlines, he forgo his salary despite the risk of Disney losing billions in revenue, that takes guts. Do you have a pet? His book is good. Do you enjoy reading to help relax?

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thank you so much You are so welcome. I am so happy you are feeling better! Fine love you I hope you have a great day. thank you

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And I feel that I have let them down It sounds to me like you're thinking that you've disappointed your parents by falling behind in class a little? I felt much the same way back when I was in college. My parents paid my way through school, and even got me to pursue a major that I had no interest in. Yes, that is exactly how I feel My parents came from quite a rough background too, and they have sacrificed a lot to get me here

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oh yes that's it exactly I understand this completely, as I have been working in grocery stores since the pandemic began so it has made me very anxious about contracting the disease. And next year I think will be like now. I thought the worse was over but it's not. It feels like March job market wise. Just from these few messages I can tell you are very anxious about this Yes and the news shows recent weeks cases of Covid going up again. That's very upsetting.

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It's a link I found while searching but it turns out to be a server that is used for studies. oh interesting JATOS I just use my experience and try to help just another tool for online studies

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A year is a long time when you are 76 years old. I just want to enjoy the rest of our lives - my husband and me - and travel until we can't enjoy it any longer. Sorry to hear that. It is really tough being restricted to not travelling. I call my parents (around your age) about once a week. Thank you so much for your support. It is tough and there is nothing to do. Do you have family you can talk to?

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Ive never done one of these before me either but i think we have enough data you have to end it because you're the peer okay, well I really appreciate your time and your input. it did cheer me up good luck in college!

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reason for i have more boy friends in my carrier but i am good my partner not believe me Having many boyfriend is not a big deal I believe that you are good

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but yes i am trying to just stop and leave but sometimes he calls especially when he needs help and I cant not help him, and I get reminded of everything somewhere a long the way okay, in my opinion I believe its best to be strong and try and focus on yourself and live a good life without him for now, until he changes his mind then maybe you re-asses the situation. Thank you will keep trying to do that. if you can't help him, its best you try and focus on yourself.

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Yes, that is exactly how I feel. I was deserted, I feel unlovable, like no one will ever want me again. Please don't think that! I have been in this situation and I know how awful it is but I also know that it will pass. It doesn’t;t feel like it will pass. It feels like it will only get worse. I don’t want to go to bed alone. I won’t be able to sleep tonight. Would you be able to go and visit friends or family members? Get some support? My family is out of town. My friends were also his friends and he told lies about me so they wont talk to me. I want to just get drunk and go to sleep.

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I'm starting to feel better now. yeah i love grow herbs in my house this is one of my favourite hobby Nice you are welcome and thanks to spend this time youre welcome have a nice day

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Hi Hello there, how is your day going? It's going okay. I'm just having a hard time. Is there something that you'd like to talk about? It's mainly my husband. His spending habits are out of control. He thinks he need to reward himself for living. We can't survive if he keeps gifting himself.

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Hello Hi from Michigan! How are you doing today? Im going pretty good, just trying to get through laundry Ugh! That's a never ending battle for me! Do you have a lot of it? Not too bad, it's more so the folding and putting away afterward that seems to take the longest.

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pretty good, stressed about finals but not bad otherwise. How about you? I understand that you are going through a stressful time with finishing up finals. Are you doing anything to destress Yeah, I'm making sure to spend plenty of time relaxing and dong things I like in between studying. Also making sure to eat enough and get plenty of sleep too That is awesome! Sometimes it is really hard to take time for yourself. Yeah, it can be difficult to convince myself that being good to myself isn't just me being lazy. I've gotten a lot better at this during the quarantine though!

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And the holidays are just about here. This is going to suck. It is a difficult time in general for a lot of people. I think most people are going to be understanding this year when it comes to gift giving. I wouldn't worry too much about that and instead focus on what you are able to do about the situation. This is the first time in 3 years i will be home for Christmas I was hoping to make for not being here. Perhaps think of you just being home as the gift. Having time to spend with your family and friends is likely to mean more than something you can buy. My luck we won't be able to leave the house.

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But i have never done laundry. My mother did it when i lived with her. and i moved out from my mother to live with my girlfriend. How am i gonna do my laundry? I've never done it. If you focus too much on the break up, you will have a hard time getting over her so try to do some fun activities that you can enjoy alone so that you are safe. You can search youtube on how to do laundry and other chores, you will be ok Thank you for your advice. It probably isnt that hard. I just am nervous about trying to do it myself for the first time. Its starting to pile up now. Don't be nervous, Just take some time to learn the house chores and you'll be fine It'll be new, but i guess i could at least try. But i miss her so much. I dont think i can ever find someone else like her.

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The worst part is that church is our support, but he has religious delusions. I see how that could be intensely difficult to deal with. I think your strength is admirable Thank you, but I'm worried about how long my strength can last From our communications it seems you are feeling anxious and stressed as well. Do you have any suggestions?

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Oh wow, that sounds horrible. Pushing through though I guess is all one can do then. Thank you so much. I believe in prayer. Prayer is what gets me through every day! :D It was rough, but I believe these hard times strengthen us in some way. Because life throws hard balls, and we have to move forward or be consumed. That's true. I'm glad I did this project. You really helped me. I'm so glad I did too. It was a pleasure to meet you. And once again, (hug). :D You too. Thanks so much. bye

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But recently, he was talking as if he was having symptoms as a result of having had COVID previously. So I asked, Oh, you had a positive COVID test? I didn't say it like I was challenging him - I just hadn't heard this before. ah I see. I have had problems and sometime negative interactions about Covid with some friends too. I think it's a very difficult time for everybody; we are all feeling the strain and might be more irritable than previously Can you see any way in which you can work around it and be friends again? Yes - he's always irritable! ha ha. So instead of answering, he launched into this thing about how COVID antibodies disappear, so the tests are pointless. I know there are some issues with the various tests. As it happens, I have a PhD in immunology, so I know a lot about this stuff... Yes - I want to be friends! It's not me...

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then hopefully after these two courses are done, I can have renewed faith and maturity after the new year and take new courses with better results. not much, just academic pressure and how to deal with time management and being contentious. yes, that sounds like a great idea. It sounds like you're really trying to help yourself grow. Yes I hope so, because when I was younger, I used to be great at not being distracted so much in my studies and just bang it out real quick and well with my books and all this is also worsened by the pandemic, I am afraid, of just not having a renewed from the indoor isolation.

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Of course, I always think its working then I get to the store and my hands hurt from gripping my steering wheel so hard XD Whatever music you think would be best would be a good idea. I think a lot of my anxiety doesnt stem from social stuff but from a fear of death tbh What other distractions can you reccomend? *recommend

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I am concerned that my boss may try to not take me back at my job. Because this is an "at will" state, he can terminate me without cause. Although he can not legally fire me for being ill with COVID, he can take me back and simply release me the same day saying that I have become redundant. That would be incredibly immoral of him. Do you feel that he is likely to do such a thing? I would not put it past him. Sadly. But I have taken the attitude that if it does occur, there is nothing I can do to change the situation. I would simply pursue a charge against him for wrongful termination, and seek a new job. That is a very rational way to look at things. I really hope that it does not come to thank though! Thank you for talking and I wish you all the best for the coming months. I may not win the suit, but I would definitely file one. In 2000, I had an employer fire me without cause. I sued and won that time. Not only did they have to pay me back wages for the 90 days that the investigation took place, which was no minor sum,

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I'm trying. I feel really ashamed. It helps to tell someone. Its nothing to be ashamed about, and there is always someone to talk to with these things Thank you for letting me vent. I'm going to call about my phone and search some job boards. Yes thats the spirit, and you are very welcome :) Take care, and thanks again. Bye bye.

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I'm depressed... When did this start? Since as long as I can remember. I've always been depressed. That sounds really hard. Depression is tough to manage. I know. It feels like I've tried everything but nothing works.

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This looks like a good idea. I have never tried online searches, I just depended on my doctors advice. I will try searching online to connect with people like me. I am so happy to hear that. You deserve so much more, I want to you find happiness through all this. Yes my dear, I really miss to be happy, your advices are so helpful. I will try following them. I have done this myself and it really did help me understand my feelings and know that I was not alone in how I was feeling. This can happen for you too. Sure i really have to do this soon. I really need help.

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really angry at my friend can you tell me what happened so that i can understand ? i told him a secret about my self in private and he played a stupid pranks that reveals it to other people i don't like It's ok dear. did you asked him why he did that? he said he was drunk

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Yeah that's right. It's the uncertainty that's making me fearful. Yes, I can sense that you're quite anxious and fearful. I don't know what to do for the best and how to really get myself out there again. I imagine it must be difficult. From a practical standpoint, have you tried to reach out to people you can trust in your personal and professional network to see whether there are opportunities for work? That is a really good suggestion I have tried agencies but not actually made a concerted effort with my network. I think I'm in panic mode!

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I have to think about it more but I am lonely already I understand but wouldnt you rather be alone and focusing on yourself instead of miserable relationship? I am thinking of pursuing a new relationship and hoping to move forward I think that would be a wonderful idea for you. I just don't know where to find someone.

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Yeah. If it was up to me I would probably just be dead silent I suggest talking to your girlfriend about how it makes you feel when she insists you continue a relationship that causes so much pain. Yeah. That's a good point. Well I think the point about boundaries really stuck with me I feel so much better now

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Yes for the most part. Unless a family emergency arises. That's great. Did u love your studies? I guess so. I want to have a good career. That's a good idea. Even I had this problem during my studies I think it's a common problem, but I don't feel good about it.

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No family or friends around, especially with the virus What do you do for work? Are you able to get out of the hotel frequently? I am a writer. Witht he virus it is hard to meet anyone i am only here until next week then I have to go to Virignia My children r all over the country

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well I don't know. why end so abruptly What did she say when you broke up? she just said it's over! over the damn phone Yikes! I'm sure that didn't feel very good. not at all, so heart broken

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I just keep thinking that every evening when he was returning home with me and with every nice thing he said he was being false. i'm totally into the podcasts "a slob comes clean" basically it's about getting your poop in a group Hmm that sounds .. interesting :D. Is that a metaphor? that's so hard. imagine how much energy he had to use to keep his lives from colliding. he couldn't find a better use for that energy?! I know, right!! Do you think it would be helpful for me to try and talk to this woman and see how she feels? I dunno if she even realises that he was in a committed relationship

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I just wish we would of talked about this a year ago when I uprooted my life the first time. I fear that this will continue to happen. Oh ok then it's not the first time this has happened. I think you might be right, if you notice a pattern then it might continue to happen So you think this will continue to happen?

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I am stressed out about having to move and I just can't seem to calm down when it is time to sleep. Moving is such a stressful time. When do you move? I am moving in a month, but there is just so much to do before then. I see. What is your wind-down routine like in the evening, if you have one? I usually put my kids to bed and then try to relax for about an hour while I watch tv before I head to bed.

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thank you. For sure I will keep persevering. May have to sleep late for awhile but it's what I have to do okay. And thanks for understanding and listening. And sorry again for that interruption just now. You got this! I appreciate your help and good luck to your studies also. And stay well and safe. Thank you very much!

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I need to do that more! When my maternal grandma passed away in 2013 I kind of fell away from just calling people up. She was my go to person to call, always. She and my grandpa raised me and its been hard to pick up a phone knowing I cannot call her. Sounds weird I know It is NOT weird. I'm like a granma to you! hahaha I'm almost 60. We need people in our lives, older, younger, all ages. We all learn from each other. Perhaps call and aunt and check in with them. Sometimes it makes us feel better to reach out and encourage others. I will try to do this more, for sure! Thank you for this conversation, I feel like it has helped me remember the things I can do to start working on myself again! As for your son and homeschooling, I'm sure you are challenged but think of this as a great opportunity. Perhaps teach him to cook? Make games up that are learning games about how to care for a home, perhaps repair things, all kinds of ideas. Perhaps have him test you on things. Sounds like a plan for sure :) I will do this, he would really enjoy it!

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I don't know how to make ends meet now. I haven't looked yet. I'm not sure where to start. have you tried to sign up for unemployment? That's a good idea, I guess I could start there. I am so worried, I can't get a hold of my emotions

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Agreed but it is hard to not be suspicious that the mom knew something about hi actions. Yet I feel horrible that she lost her husband. I understand but right now is probably not the best time to confront her about it :( I know. I am trying to be supportive and help her with her kids but a part of me is still anxious that she may have played me. People can hold values that to other people seem strange. She might not have considered it wrong to be driving on drugs, even though it is. Very true. I really never even considered that!

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Well* It's great that you are putting out applications elsewhere as well! What makes you anxious about coming home late? I am walking Oh I understand

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So I should just ask her if something is going on? I would remember though, its ok for people to want to be left alone though if things are bad, sometimes they just need their space. Ok, that makes sense, I can get like that. What if something isn't wrong though? I would just say something along the lines of: Hey, youre not acting like yourself today, anything you want to talk about?

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Stay safe suring ths crazy pandemic God bless you aswell :) I hope you get through this During You aswell stay safe Im from florida where are you from?

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No i feel happy talk about me Tell me more about you then? I am very jolly type and independent person and easy mingle for every one It sounds like you have lots of positive attributes and you are a good friend. Ok thank you for your positive comment

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hello How are you this evening? I am doing ok. I am feeling very sad . How are you? I am doing well, I am sorry to hear you are feeling sad.

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Then he said he has no life after he had played video games for like 3 hours. I am sorry to hear that you two fought! What made you feel that he was not concentrating on his homework? Does he often struggle with homework? he just didn't like doing things sometimes but generally is fine.

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That's what is so frustrating - I feel like a couple more months or so and I'd have the vaccine. Made it a year, then get infected during the stretch run of this pandemic. Very true! It is kind of never ending. There should be some permanent solution for it. I don't know if that will ever happen, but if it becomes rare and much less deadly like colds and flu, we should be able to return to a pre-covid life or close to it. We can still hope for the best right now. Let's stay positive and fight it. I was fighting it, but Covid won this week!

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You are right. I am definitely not going to sit and pout. I am just a bit frustrated with the system. It's a very strange situation and I suspect that some of the authorities just feel overwhelmed and have no idea how to cope. I am concerned that my boss may try to not take me back at my job. Because this is an "at will" state, he can terminate me without cause. Although he can not legally fire me for being ill with COVID, he can take me back and simply release me the same day saying that I have become redundant. That would be incredibly immoral of him. Do you feel that he is likely to do such a thing? I would not put it past him. Sadly. But I have taken the attitude that if it does occur, there is nothing I can do to change the situation. I would simply pursue a charge against him for wrongful termination, and seek a new job.

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That's exactly right. It's a deadline for a journal that I recently submitted a paper to. That must be really hard, but I know you will finish it on time. I know, I always get worked up about deadlines even though I rarely miss them. This one is a bit more important than usual, however. I am just so stressed! It seems it must be very challenging for you. Exactly! This is a big step for me in the PhD program I'm in, so it's definitely a bit more pressure than previous deadlines.

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okay right now I'm glad to hear that. Is there anything in particular you wanted to discuss? i am 66, my immediate family is dead, no kids, in touch only with a cousin who is a very troubled person, sometimes her depression spreads to mine, limited friends, COVID makes conditons more sad That definitely sounds like a rough situation and I'm sorry to hear about it, though I'm glad you decided to reach out. i unloaded a lot on you but current situations do not feel good

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Thank you this is very kind and helpful advice, and it is helpful to know that it comes from experience It took my 2 years after my last breakup to find my now wife! Just be patient and keep looking Please tell me if there are any other things that I should try that you have not mentioned as well?> Well, you could read a few books about relationships? Do some research Are there any particular books or authors that you would recommend

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I am afraid to get another puppy. Yes you are right it is TOO much! I do not know how to deal. It seems everyone I talk to is going through a horrendous time with this virus and all the horrible predicaments it is putting people in. I am trying not to be selfish with my feelings knowing everyone else is having a bad time too...but DAMN! It almost is too much to take.... Should I get another puppy riht away? I feel very lonely without him. Getting a new puppy might be a way to make you feel happy during this dark time in your life. I work at home now and I have a husband who does the same. Also my two kids got o school online. They are sad as well, but everyone knows he was my bestie,

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Not to be hurt again ..to be open enough to trust someone again.. I hear you that is the sad thing, you kind of have to accept that getting hurt will always be a possibility, maybe it won't sting as much when someone has to go an prove you right.... that's my thought Truth. I guess I just have to keep that kind of mindset. Go into things and enjoy them but proceed with caution?

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I love my wife and my great kids It's important that you know that you can feel whatever way you need to about your loss. Its a tough time of year for something like that. Had things been pretty rocky? Things like this were sudden. I mean, I never expected her to up and walk out with the kids. The only thing I can think of was that California was getting too expensive and the homeless were taking over LA; that may have spooked her to leave the state.

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Despite of professional qualification and work experience, it is still hard for me to get it. What is it hard for you to get? job I don't know where I am lacking behind Maybe try reaching out to Human Resources of the company you are applying for to see what qualifications and experience they are actually looking for.

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That's so exciting for you! I am hoping I will be able to get mine in the coming weeks. I've definitely been looking forward to getting it. I decided a week ago that I would get a puppy as a companion. So I am looking forward to that, but he will not be coming home until the beginning of May. But you're right I need to look forward to the things that will bring me happiness even though it's hard right now. Absolutely. The weather seems to be getting nicer as well. Do you like any outdoor activites (ex. walking outside)? I love walking outside. We had a 60 degree day not too long ago and I went outside immediately to walk. My mood was better that day than it has been in months. I am definitely looking forward to spring, which is quickly approaching now! I have to say, I appreciate you pushing me in the direction of thinking positively and looking forward to the future, it's something I definitely lost my grasp on for a little while. I think you got a lot of things to be excited about and look forward to - 1. warmer weather 2. longer-daylight hours 3. vaccine upcoming - which then will open up the activities you enjoy like shopping and going out for coffee 4. Getting a puppy In the mean time, I think it helps to try to keep busy. Is there goals you can set for yourself each day? Like maybe working on a room for a puppy, to take a walk outside each day, an area of the house that should get cleaned, or start a new hobby (like finding a book you have been meaning to read) You're definitely right I have a lot to be excited about. I like the idea of setting goals each day. Now that the weather is slightly nicer I think going for a daily walk is a good idea. Also, definitely preparing for puppy and getting an area set up and arranged for him is a great idea. I find myself mindlessly scrolling the internet many days so reading a book is also a great idea.

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I guess so. Well, it is a bit anti social but there are a lot of worse things she could be doing :) I was pretty slobby at that age too I'm 53 so going through menopuase while she is going through puberty. True. I just wish she would take some pride in her things and herself.

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thats true how can you tell. it is really hard for me right now. That's ok. Don't worry everything will be ok. Remember little steps forward are better and easier to achieve. even if it seems really bad right now just know it will always get better. Thats true. Just by talking to you I can tell you are down, but you also seem a lot more receptive and motivated that i think you realize. I am sure you can make the changes and succeed. Thank you so much. Sometimes it just takes someone believing in you

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Its hard because they dont answer there door so i can tell them about the issue. If noise levels are above the legal limit, you can get the police involved, however, its probably better to have that open conversation with them first. Let them have the opportunity to fix it before it escalates. Have you tried just a simple knock on the wall to let them know you are not happy? Since they are not answering the door. Unfotunately the police won't do anything about it because they know these neighbors are trouble. i even tried to communicate with the neighbor one day getting my mail.

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How do I stop the shaking at night? Do you have suggestions? I would work on making sure you are in a positive mindset before you go to bed and try to focus on the things you can control. Maybe I could think of things in my life like my new nephew to cheer me up! He is so cute and makes me smile. That is a wonderful idea. You are on the right track with that. You should try to think about him before bed and see if it help tonight! I wish I were home and not in college though but I guess I am growing up and will learn from this to make me stronger.

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Thanks a lot for your sincere help. Happy new year too my dear. God bless you. Take care! Take care too and please keep safe. You too. Thank you.Bye.

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No Iam very scared to get out of this relationship thinking about my kids.. You need to be strong for the sake of your children. How old are they? can you tell me how to reach out to the government There should be a website for the local gov't in your city. Also: there are NGOs that help people in abusive relationships. They can provide counseling and more. okay i will try to find them..also is there any peer support groups that you can suggest me

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