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4,773 | About three months ago. I have started to miss her badly. I saw her with another guy when I was out at the supermarket at the weekend. She lives near me so I wasn't surprised but I don't know who this guy is.
So to clarify, you ended things and think this wasn't the right thing to do. You have seen her with someone else and now you think you want her back.
Yeah that's right. I can't believe she has moved on so quickly.
Can I ask, for how long have you thought you have made a mistake by ending things. was it when you saw her with someone else?
I must admit it was only when I saw her with someone else that I started to really miss her. do you think I'm just feeling jealous because we were so close and now I've seen her with someone else? | Self-disclosure |
1,612 | I have applied every week but haven't have a single response.
I'm sorry you're feeling blue. I can understand, the job market is really tough right now.
You're not alone in feeling this way, but that doesn't change how hard it can be.
Sometimes I don't even think the job postings online are even real
And the pandemic has shifted the markets a lot and i don't think my skills are relevent anymore | Self-disclosure |
8,189 | Currently I am worried to show up to work. We had a staff appreciation Thursday and we all got super drunk in front of our boss, and I am honestly scared he will judge me or fire me.
that's really hard, have you spoken to any of your coworkers
Yes, we are all laughing at the matter, but you can tell our boss is looking at us different. We all showed up to work Friday hungover, and he just made lots of comments and jokes to play the part, but you can tell he is looking at me and everyone different. I do not know how to redeem myself.
I would recommend speaking with him privately about the issue one on one
That sounds a lot easier said than done. I was the one who was the most drunk. But I do now know if he knows how drunk we all got since he left after one of us got hit in the face with a golf club and had to take her to the ER. So what if I say too much and apologize for what he does not know. | Providing Suggestions |
2,440 | I don't have enough money to buy my 5 kids X-mas gifts.
Hello?
Are you still here?
I'm really sorry to hear that, but I'm sure your love for your kids can still shine through
I do love my kids, but they are expecting some toys and stuff from Santa. | Providing Suggestions |
5,202 | I know I'm not the only one feeling this way.
So you're stuck with your roommate but she doesn't care about you?
She's just busy with her boyfriend. They go out on hikes and stuff, but they just want to go by themselves. I'm just on my own all the time.
Everyone feels that, and it's totally normal. Don't be too harsh on yourself
Do you think I should quit school and start again next fall? | Others |
6,186 | Hi
How are you doing?
Today hasn't been too bad
Anything you need to talk about?
Lately I have been having trouble sleeping | Affirmation and Reassurance |
1,030 | I am angry I trusted my ex partner. They cheated on me and tried to hide it for months.
I can personally relate to that myself. I have went through something similar like that 4 years ago. It can be very frustrating when it happens.
What do you do when you are reminded of that situation or think about the person?
The easiest thing that I did in my situation was obtained a new hobby. I took my anger out on my ex by joining Crossfit and interacted with that community. It helped me take my mind of from my ex.
I've seen that Crossfit helps a lot of people. That is a good idea but it is kind of intimidating | Affirmation and Reassurance |
3,607 | I'm pretty sure they were talking about me
2 of myy friends have been helping me with rent money
and I'm pretty sure they must be fed up
Have you tried picking up odd jobs maybe cleaning for someone or helping them move or organize there things?
Yes I have. That's what helps with feeding and getting some little things at home. | Question |
7,737 | I've thought about growing my own but can't do that in the dorms....too risky.
Hmph I am not a very good counsellor am I? I should be telling you to stay in and work. But hey, life is short and beer is good.
You gave some good advice . Nothing wrong with a little side chat to prove we are human.
Of course :). Hmm it's been many years since I was in Uni. Too many.
Probably not too much has changed besides the cost. But that's a whole different story about anxiety. Luckily I am going for engineering and have a half of a chance to get a job once I graduate next year. | Question |
5,814 | What step should I take after this one?
See if the conversation gives you some insight on how things could be better. Maybe you could see things from someone else's perspective.
Thank you so much!! You're helping me a ton
Would you be willing to give it a try?
Yes, of course~ | Providing Suggestions |
5,909 | Yeah I do have a tendency to be negative sometimes and make a big deal out of things. I should actually focus on the good things. Has this technique helped you in the past?
Yes, in the term "fake it until you make it." I keep on thinking of what could go right, or in my favor, and when I am done, it actually went okay, and any "fears" i had, never came to fruition.
I think that is really good advice. I think I have just suffered from a bad experience in the past and this has shaped my way of thinking to always be fearful. I'm fine in meetings or virtually but something about a stage just scares me.
That's understandable. But now that you're aware, you have the steps the move forward and be successful.
yes I don't want it to hold me back personally or professionally any more | Affirmation and Reassurance |
2,647 | He has but it was a long time ago and was before we had a talk about exclusivity in our relationship but it still hurt.
Have you considered getting some sort of couples counselling? Or do you just think that he is never going to change?
We tried counselling once.. It was online and we got paid to do it.. I don't think he took it seriously at the time. He always said he felt like he was being attacked.
I am sorry to hear that. So you feel that he is not really taking your problems as a couple seriously?
Yes. I feel he thinks of me as some sort of trophy and he does not have to work now that he won me over in the first place. | Self-disclosure |
4,590 | I keep telling myself that but I feel really betrayed. I keep wondering what she is like and whether she is prettier and more successful than me.
are your parents supportive of that idea?
I have not really talked to them about it. I feel a bit ashamed having to admit to them that my relationship has not worked out.
it's not about her or you. it's about him.
But I can't help thinking that perhaps I did something wrong that made him stray? | Information |
8,035 | Thanks so much for your encouragement
As for your pending bills, you can always try to see what type of assistance you can be provided by the company billing you. There may also be assistance by your local government for electric bills, water bills, and so forth.
I have some things that has been moved to collections
Collection companies will usually work with you so you can make payments instead of paying one lump sum. After the payment plan has been sent or you've paid you're full amount it will even come off of your credit.
well i hope so, because i have been so worried about it | Affirmation and Reassurance |
2,290 | How are you?
Sorry I was temporarily distracted. Is there anything that you'd like to talk to me about?
I am okay thanks. How is life treating you?
It's ok. I am trying to get my crafting business off the ground. I'm just stressed.
It is a very hard time to get a new business going, isn't it? Are you having problems due to the pandemic? | Self-disclosure |
2,570 | what is the point of this relationship then ?
You seem really focus on just one person. Life is rich. Think about other important people in your life such as parents, friends
i can understand all of this. may be i need some time.
Yes of course you should take your time as long as you want and you can do it, one day you can leave all those problem
hoping the same. want to be the happy person like i was before. | Providing Suggestions |
6,523 | sighting girls
I loved doing that too! Have you thought about going out and doing that with your friends now?
yes. after having a chat with you i feel some goodness in me
Good! From talking to you I can tell that you have a lot of goodness in you!
thank you so much | Others |
2,220 | Yea, I definitely need to get better at doing that. I end up letting them play video games and with toys in the middle of the day sometimes because I have work that I have to get done as well.
For my example, my daughter very much likes to play video games. In order to earn video game time I need two successful assignments. They have to be small, reasonable tasks, but also an amount of time that allows you to take it one bite at a time.
I mean, think about it, how do you eat a cow?
That's very smart on your part. I really need to learn to actually follow through and do that.
That is true and a very strange reference. | Others |
6,337 | That made me giggle a bit. Thank you for that
Maybe you could try and just put things in perspective. I mean this will all be behind you soon enough, and no matter how it goes it's not like you're going to wind up on skid row over it, I wouldn't think.
You are right, only skid row I know is 18 and life. Best with Sebastian Bach
So in the short term I'd just try to get a good night's sleep, give it your best shot, and keep in mind that it's not really all that significant in the grand scheme of things.
Now that helps take me back to a better time. It will be over before I know it. Thank you for the nice uplifting words | Others |
6,733 | I could buy a lamp I suppose, to see if it helps? But when I am awake all night it's in the dark so I'm not sure if the light is the problem>
Aw so you are so exhausted from racing thoughts and not enough sleep the night before that you end up taking it out on others, but not meaning to. Am I understanding correctly?
Do you get any exercise? I sleep better on days I go for walks, and my sedentary days I sleep worse, it's quite clear to me.
I have been trying to do lots of walks, I need to lose weight as well so they kind of go hand in hand!
I do also have back pain so that's another thing that doesn't help! | Affirmation and Reassurance |
8,219 | I'm good thank you, how about you?
I am okay thanks. Is there anything you'd like to talk to me about right now?
Yes, I don't know what to do anymore, I'm just lazy on everything. I don't have any motivation anymore
It sounds to me like you are suffering from depression. That sounds scary but it really is common. Would you consider professional help?
I don't know, I don't even talk to my family anymore, I'm just at my room watching and playing all the time. | Self-disclosure |
4,165 | I also have kids so i have the added pressure of trying to teach my own kids and teach 80 others.
I hear you on that. I would just try to keep on going, unfortunately for everyone's safety we have to make these sacrifices. Hopefully we will be able to get back on track soon.
i hope so , i know that everyone has to sacrifice but that doesnt make it easier. Knowing that some kids have no one to help them or even take care of them can take a toll on you
Yeah even i can see that when i see my daughters class. It is a bad situation all around. The thing is though you cant focus on that or it will bleed out into your job. You have to try to stay positive and promote positivity even with how hard it can be.
yes but my job is the kids, turning that of me off would be turning the teacher in me off | Others |
7,848 | right. I will try and start that more today and commit to it
yes that's the spirit! And with that mind set good things will always come to you!
yes i agree. when i consistently use meditation and positive attitude, any bad things are defintely minimized
Yes, as long as you keep focused and not divert into any other thoughts :)
yes. do you meditate?
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2,239 | It's community health. It's a paper not a test. And it's a group project. We have been implementing a class in a homeless shelter for months and we are measuring the success on that implementation for the adult male population.
And we have been finding research articles to support our project.
Papers can be very stressful, especially when it is a group project. When I went to graduate school I had to complete 4 full papers on different subjects in 72 hours.
Do you feel like you've made progress in finding the necessary information?
Yes I understand it's stressful. And yes we've made progress. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
7,015 | yeah but i had a good family right now.i don't want to hurt them either.
That's great if you want to move forward and forget about it. You should engage yourself in the activities which you like. It will help you a lot coming out from this situation.
YEAH REALLY THANKS FOR YOUR SUGGESTIONS.I REALLY WORK ON IT.
Best wishes for you! Please let me know if you need any other help.
Really thanks for that.you done a great job.If i need any help means surely i'll revert you back. | Others |
6,975 | i have too much living to do have to beat this cancer!! And getting a good night's sleep is important for my recovery
Yes it definitely is. Are you at liberty to nap during the day if you feel really tired?
ok so a walk in the evening and call my cancer nurse and make a appointment wtih my doctore, you've given me a plan of action
Try a nice milky drink just before you go to sleep too. Very soothing.
yes I do nap, thankfully i live alone so it's nice and quiet :) | Providing Suggestions |
6,057 | It is difficult to judge on the phone yes,which is why i wanted a physical meeting but she snapped at me and said that she will just pay me when she can
I see. I am very sorry about that! it is very difficult when a friend betrays your trust like that.
Yes,very difficult
It sounds like you are doing what you can. It is very nice of you to have been this patient.
How do you suggest i shoulp proceed? | Providing Suggestions |
1,937 | That's a good way to look at it, it would be more messy if I had never found out
I feel a little better now, thanks for your help
Very good, Now you wipe your tears girl and get back out there like he never exsited. Move on like you never he knew who he was & you will find how much life has to offer!
I do hope I will find that person one day
I will stay positive and optimistic | Affirmation and Reassurance |
1,035 | Thanks for all the great advice
Only if you think it will help. Do you think it will?
I think it might be at least comforting knowing people have the same experience.
No problem. I really hope that I was able to help you at least. I am still available if you want to discuss further. Like I said, I know how it feels because my ex hid from me 2 years that she was seeing someone else, so I can relate with you.
This was very helpful, thanks again. You can end the conversation. Bye | Others |
1,827 | cant get help from home am just depressed
I can tell just from this short chat how upset you are.
I know when I was dealing with issues in school talking to my friends helped.
i have no friends, all they do is mock and make fun of you
It sounds like those people are not your friends then. | Question |
4,411 | I suppose that I probably do not have anything to lose - all that they can say is that they won't help us!
and in that case you are no worse off
This is very true. It does help to realise that I am not the only person in this position right now!
what have you been doing at home now that you aren't working to keep busy?
I have been keeping in touch with friends and family on social media. It is a lifeline but I would still really prefer to be back out there at work! | Information |
7,354 | Yes that is a very good summary of what is going on. And I am glad to see you can relate. While I am lucky to not work in sales since I know those jobs are extremely tough but the lack of reward is all the same.
Are there other jobs available in your area that you could apply for that are more up your alley?
I have not seen anything worth jumping ship for. I am afraid of the old adage of the grass always looks greener from the other side of the fence. Meaning I leave this job and only find a worse job.
I see., yes that could be a risk for sure.have you spoken to your manager to see if there may be other opportunities in the manufacturing facility for you? I bet they would rather retrain you for a different position than lose you.
Unfortunately there are no other positions at the place I work. Yes my boss is very well aware of how unhappy I am. He is also unhappy and has been looking for jobs too. It isn't that great of a place to work at. I have had 3 different friends leave my place of employment, I've just been to lazy to leave too. It's a catch 22, too lazy to leave but due to feeling sad from being here I don't have the energy to try to leave. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
8,752 | Yeah I understand, maybe I should put in more effort because I have less of the crazy schedule. Maybe send her things or send her messages. I feel that she is just working too hard, and maybe is tired and cant make the effort. i should be there and support her virtually if thats what it takes.
I know you can just about anything delivered out there. I think a gesture of something tangible would be a good idea, whatever it might be. Maybe delivery of flowers and a pizza?
I think thats a good idea, I can do that. Maybe be make her day and feel
better.
Thank you for helping, I probably thought too much of the situation and I'll put in the effort to make it work!
Feel a lot better now. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
7,424 | Hi
hello how are you ?
I'm in depression because my exam is near and I can't finsh my studies.
can i ask you ,why you can't finish
It is because i'm very behind in my work. | Restatement or Paraphrasing |
4,006 | Between work, school, keeping up the house, and caring for my dad, it's a lot to handle.
That's very exhausting doing that much, I really feel bad for you, you're a strong person to be able to handle so much by yourself
Thanks. But I'm really not that strong. It's really exhausting and overwhelming. My depression and anxiety are through the roof, and honestly, I'm not sure how long I can keep this up.
Someone else would have collapsed already. Do you go outside a lot?
I actually am not able to go outside. Its been a few weeks. | Others |
802 | I'm doing alright, I'm facing a lot of academic pressure from my program and I feel trapped
Oh, it sounds like you are stressed from the academic pressure that you are facing right now?
Yes, I have a lot of coursework but I have no help from from my advisors. A few of my peers feel the same way. Not sure what to do. I don't believe remote learning is helpful in a master program because the professor/advisor are not always available.
I see how this can be stressful for you and your fellow peers. Have you tried other steps besides the one's you tried before by contacting the professor?
I tried, but the coursework is difficult and the other solution is tutorials on youtube but there is so much you can do on your own. Plus I have a job as well, so limited hours | Reflection of feelings |
477 | There is no proper communication from top level people so happening error
That time i am getting angry
I can understand that, kind of makes you feel mistrustful?
Yes, you are correct , So i home i like to listen some good music to reduce my tension
DO like music? What type of music do u like | Self-disclosure |
6,120 | Yes, but he barely calls me back. I'm worried that he all of a sudden is so distant.
If it were entirely up to you how would you like your relationship to proceed from here?
I would ideally like him to say he was sorry and never look at another woman but now I doubt his faithfulness and think the only reason I'm with him is because I'm so lonely.
It sounds like you worry you will not be able to trust him in the future because of this no matter what his future actions are, do you think there is anything he could do or say that would change this?
I do worry a lot. If he would commit fully to me that would help perhaps. If he never cheated again but I don't know if he can do that reliably. | Question |
38 | I have been staying home since last March due to COVID; getting very depressed.
Ah I hear you, I have been self isolating too. Do you have an online support network?
What do you mean by support netwrok?
Well, friends you can talk to during this difficult time? I have a lot of friends on facebook and similar that I can talk to.
I have few friends and can talk to but not sure how would they help. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
219 | My co-workers don't know about my personal life, I don't go to church. Maybe I should go see a therapist?
I think a therapist would be a great way to process this situation since our time is limited. From what you shared, it sounds like you have some past hurts that you may want to share with someone you trust. Do you have insurance or are you uninsured? There are great therapist for the insured and uninsured. :)
I do not have insurance, I am between jobs and have nothing currently. The holidays are an especially lonely time.
I see, that is very difficult. This season bring many feeling like this myself. If you had a magic wand and could change anything about your situation, what would you change assuming that we cannot fix this situation per se.
I would treat my girlfriend better I think. She was pushing for a threesome with my best friend, but I told her no way. That is why she left me. | Restatement or Paraphrasing |
6,033 | It would be nice if I didn't have to explicitly spell it out. It makes it seem less meaningful when I have to spoonfeed to her what is wrong and what I need her to do for me.
I think you need to try to tell her about your problems, and maybe even if she feels like she is helping you she is more inclined to help herself some too?
That's true, I didn't think about that really. Helping others def can help to take the focus off of yourself.
I know, it would be nice of her to ask how are you? But maybe she thinks you are a very strong person that does not need help since you do not voice it.?
Yeah, that is true. I guess I am not looking at it from her persepctive. | Information |
4,383 | Yes, they are open. I got an email yesterday or today that they're making snow now.
Groupon is awesome! You're very welcome. I'm happy to help you think of things that you can do to make yourself feel better.
Let's go tubing! lol j/k
Wow! That's great to know! I might look into taking a trip up there myself with my daughter. She's 12 years old. She would absolutely love it!
I miss getting together with friends. And live music and live sports. | Others |
5,975 | so I started to skipping the classes and failing
It sounds like that is a lot of reasons to be stressed. Have you spoken to a school counselor?
Yes lots of stress and pressure. I did not, because we didn't have such things or at least I wasn't aware
But nobody even pointed that why I'm failing, they just didn't care
I agree it is a lot of pressure, but do not let bad teachers deter you. I would reach out to a school counselor and let them know your situation. Every school must have one. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
1,232 | The kids are pretty smart, they found out and was mad at first, but now they are accepting, which is making me even more disgusted. I have even started to resent my kids for it.
I think it would help to sit down and have a conversation with them about it. It is important that they know how you feel and that you are there for them, and that they aren't the reason for the issues.
I did at least sit down with the kids about it, told t hem how I felt, explained the nature of the situation. But they weren't on my side, they acted like they were on my side at first but then switched up on me, made me feel like I was the one wrong!?!
Have you thought about seeking a group of people who have been through this same situation that you are going through now? It often helps to talk to people who have been through the same things and get their help to get through the situation.
Apparently that's you smh lol.. How did you feel? What did you do? | Self-disclosure |
5,212 | *they are not
I just meant if they had borrowed in past and returned it than maybe they were telling the truth but since you saw them blowing money that s rightfully yours is a problem
Can you talk to a mutual friend of both of you or if you are close maybe their family ?
Absolutely. This has put me in a tight spot financially
I can try talking to their family but I am afraid I am not that close to their family | Self-disclosure |
7,527 | Iam a victim of domestic and sexual abuse by my partner.yes,I need some help
It is OK to ask for help. Many people do it every day. You deserve to be heard.
Yeah I have two beautiful kids,I just want to be there for them in their life.
You have a wonderful dedication to your children, I can tell.
Yeah also I am looking for some financial security for my kids future which is possible only with a job.. | Providing Suggestions |
6,963 | Maybe just not sure how to get to that point
Is there anyone in your home that you can discuss this with? Spouse?
LOL...you are funny my husband is self employeed I do all his paperwork, and he is not the empathetic kind...
I hear you on that one too :(. I think you are being put under unnecessary stress
I think you are right and I am sure I put a lot on that myself by trying to do everything right | Question |
1,920 | And advance happy new year.
And to you!
Thank you.
Is there any other way I can help you today? I am here for you.
No friend i already have great today. I am feeling great right now. | Others |
6,491 | I think I’m going to lay low on dating for a while.
I completely understand. You'll know when you're ready again and it's great to take things at your own pace. All that matters is to do things when you're ready to.
How long do you think I should take a break for?
Honestly, that will end up being up to you. With my last big breakup, I didn't date for almost a year until I met someone. I would suggest at least a month or so to take some time for yourself and focus on yourself and what makes you happy so when you are ready to date again, you have a stronger sense of self.
Thanks. That is great advice. I wouldn’t want to go into something just for the sake of dating. | Providing Suggestions |
3,583 | I've tried calling the unemployment office to get some ideas but they do not answer their phones.
Or you could look for some side jobs like cleaning or organizing things until you find something more permanent.
Yeah, i'm kinda old for that - LOL!!! My back would not hold up to that - and my salary wouldn't be comparable.
Yea it seems to be hard to get up with a lot of places at this time. Persistent is the key.
Well I hear that their offices are closed and you have to do everything online - so not sure if they can even help me. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
908 | I feel disgusted so much that I got played "like an old fiddle." It sucks.....
I know how you are feeling but I think that you need to get professional help to move on. Are you able to go to therapy?
I haven't thought about getting therapy. What would help?
Well, I think it could be really beneficial to let your anger out
I am glad to be able to vent to you about my girl's actions. I hope she is not going to hook up with my "wing man,' Rick. I would be filled with even more disgust. | Question |
4,490 | That sounds like a good idea. Maybe they are feeling this way too.
Also sometimes just stepping back and taking some deep breaths can help to alleviate some anxieties. Have you tried that ever?
I will have to give that a try. I've done that in the past and had forgotten just how much that helped me before.
That is reassuring that it worked before for you and can work again.
I'm so worried about failing because I just don't feel the support from my professors to care either way for my successes. It's so different from high school and home when my parents encouraged me and supported me full-heartedly. | Reflection of feelings |
4,461 | Yes. I watch the news and it's everywhere these days. There seems no end to it.
Yes, there seems to be some credibility to the claim - the effectiveness of the vaccine. So I would say even though it seems a lot difficult, there is some hope early next year.
What of his vaccine doesn't work. Even the thought of leaving the house still feels me with worry and I start to feel panicked. It's like my mental Outlook has completely changed.
I understand your concern. In fact, a lot of people have questioned the effectiveness given how fast it was developed. Are you anxious because you have to provide for your family besides yourself?
In fact I have been on sick leave from work since it started. My partner is understanding to a point but yes, I'll need to provide once this is all over. I'm starting to think I'll be scared of leaving the house, even when Covid gets managed and we gather back to 'normal' | Self-disclosure |
3,793 | Hopefully, but how to deal with it in the mean time?
i think you're already taking a step in the right direction by talking to me about your anxiety and depression. i'm amazed that you've been able to just deal with it for 8 years
i've had friends who suffered from anxiety and depression, and i've noticed that just talking things through can sometimes help a lot
It's been very hard, I've also had to take care of my mother in that time period, but she sadly passed away last march, possibly from the virus and I've been having a hard time processing that grief.
i'm very sorry to hear about your mother's passing, and a significant loss like that can take some time to process | Providing Suggestions |
5,337 | I have to drive 3 hours away
Oh dear, that's a long time alone with your thoughts.
When I need to escape intrusive thoughts and rehashing things, I'll put on a podcast. Or documentary, or something that's calm, straightforward and factual.
yes, I know. family is always important during time like these
That's really good that you have that kind of relationship with your mom though! Moms are awesome for that kind of stuff. They can really make you feel protected and safe. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
554 | Honestly, I've been feeling very depressed lately. My dog died a month ago and I've just been feeling very empty.
Very sorry for you loss. How long you had the dog?
7 years. I had him since he was a puppy. He would have turned 8 years old next month.
I understand what you are going through. This is one of most difficult time of someone's life.
Thank you. One of my coworkers told me that "he was just a dog and that I should get over it,"
but I just can't. He brought so much joy to my life and now that I don't have him anymore, I just feel so empty. | Reflection of feelings |
7,952 | Ya you are probably right.
I think I am just mad now that she couldnt just talk to me about her feelings
Yeah, don't take it out on her
I'll try not too
For not I have enough to keep me busy. It's just a sad situation | Affirmation and Reassurance |
6,225 | Things have much worse the last couple weeks
It seems like things have not be great for you over the past couple of weeks. Why do you feel they have been worse?
I had been seeing a therapist online and two weeks ago he was really mean, but said he thought it was a good session and we were making a breakthrough. Then when I signed on last week I signed in to request entrance into the meeting and after a few moments was told it was denied. Nothing like feeling the person who is paid to help you refusing to talk to you
That seems like a frustrating experience. What were your expectations of the session you were supposed to have? Did you feel like what you learned in your previous session would have helped you with dealing with what you typically work on in your mental health sessions
?
I feel like he didn't help at all. Up to that point we mostly just talked about politics or whatever. I'm a charity patient, he get's paid through the organization, but because of my financial difficulties, I'm not paying. I think he saw that as a shortcoming on my part. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
6,201 | thanks for your support
You're welcome! I'm more than happy to provide any help that I can. I'd also very highly recommend finding hobbies that you enjoy, even if arts and crafts or reading aren't your thing. Can you think of anything else that would help you to keep your mind off everything going on?
I've also found that guided meditation (you can find a lot of these for free on YouTube) helps to calm my mind down at night and allows me to get a really good night's sleep.
thanks
You're very welcome! I hope that some of the things that I suggested help you to get through all of this. | Reflection of feelings |
7,719 | hi. i dont feel too well. I lost my job 6 months ago and i am not ablle to find work
Oh wow I am sorry to hear that - it is a bad time to be out of work isn't it?
yes it is a horrible time. I dont know what to do and i dont have a lot of support and my rent is due for over 2 months
There are organisations out there who can help due to the exceptional circumstances .. do you have anyone helping you?
i dont have anyone helping me and i am new to this city so i dont know who to turn to | Self-disclosure |
6,567 | Hello, I am fine at the moment, but I just have a general sense of nervousness as I am not looking forward to facing up to academic deadlines.
And I have a few assignments and two exams coming up (all to be done at the end of this and the next month)
You're feeling nervous because you have a lot to do this month academics-wise and you're worried you won't be able to succeed. Am I correct?
Right, plus I am nervous because I am scared that I won't do as well as I would like under the constrained time and sporadic slacking off. Just that fear as impending deadlines come up.
so I guess I need to feel hope and optimistic and renewed sense of wanting to work hard and do well. | Self-disclosure |
7,891 | My boyfriend brokeup with me 6 months ago and without saying good bye face to face.....it is just making me wonder why?
I am sorry to hear that.
We were not able to see each other ever since the pandemic and we just ended our relationship
I would like to give some suggestions
that would be great | Affirmation and Reassurance |
3,110 | Hi ok I guess
Very worried
What are you worried about?
I am being evicted
I am very scared I will not find a place to go in time | Restatement or Paraphrasing |
7,048 | Thank you so much for your time.
Large corporations are always over concerned about their images. (we have to talk for fifteen minutes :))
oh ok I thought it was just for 10 lines, lol
but none the less, there are people really going through that scenario I just portrayex
naw there's a time thing too :). Anyway, what sort of therapy do you think would be appropriate for you? | Self-disclosure |
6 | im fine how are you
I'm doing ok I'm glad you are good. Is it snowing by you?
Merry Christmas!
thats great and no its not snowing its very cold thow
merry christmas to you also | Question |
4,970 | being on the board gives me perks
Do you feel that perhaps you might be using him just a little bit?
yes and i think he is using me to a degree also
Let me get this straight - you do have feelings for him but you are confused and you think that there's an element of mutual manipulation.
yes | Affirmation and Reassurance |
6,356 | Really well, I enjoy being there. And it pays well, so can't go wrong with those two positives.
Absolutely, I think finding a job that you are passionate about is a goal for a majority of people.
Yep, it works fine for me. Can't complain very much about it.
That's awesome, is there any aspect about your job that you don't like or enjoy as much?
To be honest, not really. I pretty much self-manage and do not have to deal with people, which is a good thing for me. Every now and then I'll have to work with a new person who isn't as competent and that can be frustrating. | Self-disclosure |
684 | Lol. I think I can do that!
Yes, we women function better when we get pissed!
You're right. What do I do if he contacts me again? Do I let the conversation play out and see what happens?
Play it cool and be ready to make up a whole bunch of fun things you have been doing.
That's a good idea. I can do that. | Others |
6,214 | Hi
Hello, what can i help today?
I am going through a bad breakup
I am sorry to hear that, when did it happen?
This month. We've been together off and on for over 17 years | Question |
9,039 | But thank you for talking a little bit about it with me and sharing those resources
Hopefully I can find a 'natural' way to fix these things without taking meds that might change who I am for the worst or something
Hope you have a nice night and stay healthy, you and your family
hang in there!
Thanks, you too, bye | Others |
7,011 | yeah but right now i would be recovering myself
May I know where the person is right now whom you are missing so much?
yeah he is in Canada right now.
means far away from you. It must be hard for you to stay apart from him.
yeah its been really hard for me before.But right now i am with my family.so i just recover from that. | Reflection of feelings |
717 | I cannot believe my Girl is breaking up with me....
I am very anxious about how to cope with my emotions.
Can you IMAGINE?? Breaking up with ME?
just stay calm
I am trying. | Providing Suggestions |
1,101 | I used to trust my friend but she told everyone what I told her, however I told her that it's not to tell anyone.
Unfortunately, i hate to sterotype but women do this quite often. it depends on the severity of the information you told her.
Yes, I know. I have no idea if i'm going to forgave her. Probably no
Do you think I should forgive her?
If it was something extremley important, say jail worthy, I would get rid of her immediately. If it was something dramatic but not extremely dangerous, I would sit down and haev a serious talk with her. | Reflection of feelings |
1,055 | America is just not fair.
Its great that you are working hard despite whatever you faced and I assure that this will help you build a great future in this country
I will try and talk to my manager, thanks for trying to help me out. have a nice dayl I doubt it. this country is about to fail.
i've already made plans to go to brazil
then paraguay | Others |
4,751 | I see, well my family isn't that big but we do try to get together every thanksgiving to have a good meal and hopefully watch the Cowboys win. This will be the first time in a long while that I can even think of we aren't doing it.
Yea i dont think anyone here has missed one in years. My partner will be cheering on the cowboys for you as well ha. I was trying to tell my partner though, traditions have to start somewhere, why cant now be time to start a new one?
That's a fair point. Hopefully this will only be a one year disturbance with these vaccines on their way. They should both have theirs well before then and hopefully me too.
Yea it is looking good with for both vaccines right now. I always try to focus on the positives. You can almost always find some good in a bad situation.
Agreed. Well you have been most helpful letting me vent a little and talk about it. Thanks a lot. | Others |
4,802 | Well I have been wanting a relationship. and i normally dont feel that way at all. and past week i think how much i kind of should have a family as I am 37 but not sure if i truly want that or i just miss human contact as i have only been around family and not gone out at all except to walk and go to store in town, and am confused if it is actully me wanting somone in my life or just a physical thing
I think your exactly right, human contact is now a premium and I'm sure you miss that contact that we were once so use to. Missing the contact makes you realize how much you enjoy the company of others. Take it slow and once the vaccine is out ease your way back into the dating scene and see if a relationship is what you really wanted after all.
yeah i mean emotionally i want to go maybe try a date or two or even just an adult night out but know logically it is a VERY risky idea. And that I need to not do anything like that till next year at the minimum . I do appreciate the advice and ideas
Remember that age is only a number and love will no no number, we are hear to listen and support you so if you ever need to talk just know we are a mouse click away.
And appreciate that especially during the current situation. | Others |
4,127 | Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him. | Providing Suggestions |
3,887 | I'm doing okay.
Is there anything you want to talk about?
I'm having problems with getting up everyday and doing my daily routine. I feel bad because these are things that other people do normally
Yeah, I've definitely felt that way...especially during COVID and having to adjust to working from home. What are some of the things in your routine during the day?
Exactly. Jogging, eating breakfast, getting dressed | Providing Suggestions |
7,236 | Yes, I had a bad sleeping schedule, when I would go to sleep around 2-3am. I now get around 8 hours of sleep but I feel like it isn't enough still.
Would this relate to a health problem of not being active or maybe stress?
I used to be a night owl, going to bed early in the morning. I reset my schedule very gradually. I went to bed 15 minutes earlier, and set an alarm for 8 hours later. I did that for 3 days, then I would ratchet it back another 15 minutes. It was a gradual process and the only way I could fix it.
Are you getting any exercise during the daytime?
I see, I should set more alarms for myself. I have not put the time to exorcise as I would like to. I was planning on ordering a pair of weighted jump ropes for myself. | Information |
8,913 | I appreciate your willingness to listen and offer support. Life just is so hard right now
Hi, How are you feeling right now?
pretty crappy. Just lying in bed. never got out of my pjs today.
Today must have been a hard day for you. It seems that there are some things that are really bothering you.
The problem is I just don't really know how to feel better. I have much to be thankful for but don't seem to be able to really enjoy anything. | Affirmation and Reassurance |
2,980 | looking to work exclusively at home in sales which is more my specialization, so yes to both questions
Online work can be very lucrative. I have been doing it for years personally. It is nice to be your own boss and choose your own hours.
I currently do day trading on the side and make great money at it but want something stable to challenge me
It is true that stability is important. Do I hear you say that you are frightened of the insecurity of working from home?
more so the lack of benefits I would lose, especially healthcare | Question |
9,181 | nope, im scared
It's ok to feel doubtful about it, you can keep wearing mask and social distancing and take the vaccine when you feel ready
yes, thats what I keep telling myself.
we all need to play our part to flatten the curve. at my job, people are getting covid and its scary.. so maybe the vaccine can and will help them
thanks for the talk. i feel a little better. | Others |
3,945 | yes i live with a roommate and we are in the same program, but i sometimes feel dumb when i study with her
Try not to think of yourself that way. I'm sure you both provide a benefit to each other while studying.
it is fun when we study together,
i also forget to eat sometimes because im so stressed
I also felt that way around finals and with friends, I think it's important to recognize this is one semester and that it's equally as important to take care of yourself as it is to pass those finals. | Self-disclosure |
6,974 | hmm....i think so now that I think about it, yes
I would definitely advise talking to her then. There might be something helpful she can recommend.
i have too much living to do have to beat this cancer!! And getting a good night's sleep is important for my recovery
Yes it definitely is. Are you at liberty to nap during the day if you feel really tired?
ok so a walk in the evening and call my cancer nurse and make a appointment wtih my doctore, you've given me a plan of action | Providing Suggestions |
7,460 | do you know any best counsellors
I am glad that you are preemptive about it. I think one year in, if you still constantly think about it, a counseling session would help you get closure. Even if it is a one session, you can always assess after trying this out. My current company actually offers free counseling session if I want to, I understand it is called "One Medical"?
yeah thank you for the help..is there any other strategies i can follow
I also took up a lot of volunteering. It gives me a purpose and a group to belong to, where I can start fresh, have no baggages and meet new people.
Yeah i think i will start fresh from tomorrow..Do you have any ideas about choosing next partner.. | Providing Suggestions |
6,158 | I still have some self-doubt given that I have failed an exam in the past...
Well studies show that if you continuously think negatively, than that is how your life will be lived. But if you try thinking positively and confident than you will more likely live a better life and do better. Try thinking positively the rest of the night and your brain will feel confident enough to remember and retain important information about your exam.
I really appreciate this advice. I am feeling better about the exam and feel like I should envision myself passing and doing well.
Yes, thats the spirit it works for me!
I will give it a try! | Others |
8,689 | I lost my job 1 month ago and I can't find a new one, I have fear and anxiety that soon I will have nothing to pay with for my rent. Would you be able to suggest me how to cope with my fear?
I am sadden to hear that. I'm sure if you think positive and try really hard you will find a job and thinking postive will help with your fear and anxiety.
It's just I feel fear all the time, and now with this pandemic it's really hard to find a job. I have a feelings now that if I fail I have to go back to my country as a loser.
It sounds like the pandemic has caused you to feel fear and have anxiety, is that right?
It some sort of way, I lost my job because of it and my girlfriend is not talking to me as well now... | Reflection of feelings |
5,307 | I'm almost near gradution too.
Oh no! I am so sorry to hear that. Academic probation does seem very scary. When did you learn you failed your finals?
I learned yesterday. Because of the pandemic the semester is shorter.
And how long do you have until graduation?
I should be graduating in June. | Providing Suggestions |
7,293 | yes but I'm angary on them because they not study
you teach them that what they want to study
yes but they are busy on their phones all the time
just borrow his mobile phones from them
They say we can do studies if you let us to play game | Affirmation and Reassurance |
5,227 | and he would prove I am an unfit mom
The mom always has an upper hand in these issues
but he has photos of dirty house and that I was dignosed with major clinical depression
You should also have photos of clean house to prove against him
I do | Affirmation and Reassurance |
9,075 | I'm feeling really anxious these days. I'm finding the COVID online learning experience to be too much for me at this time. I want to stop school, but I don't think I can afford to. I need to get done with school.
I understand your frustration. All of us are challenged due to COVID.
School was always hard. Now it's gotten harder. I think a lot of people are stressed.
How long are you doing the online school?
Last semester and this semester. It feels like a lot longer though. | Question |
3,823 | I feel so sad. I just want to crawl into a hole and die.
I had a similar situation where my fiancé left me after cheating on me and getting pregnant by another man, so I understand completely what you are feeling.
We were so in love! How could he do this to me?
This is a really hard situation to get through, but I know that you can do this!
How? Please tell me how? I don't feel like I could ever be happy again | Providing Suggestions |
7,165 | Sure. I feel so lonely sometimes because we were very close.
I can imagine that you are feeling lonely. Did you have any mutual friends with your best friend that you can reach out to? I am sure they are feeling the same way and it could help both of you to talk to each other and share stories.
Yes we have mutual friends. I do reach out to them sometimes. But the feeling doesn't go away. It makes me have sleepless nights. I can't sleep. Every time I close my eyes I see him very close to me like we are having conversations.
It sounds like you were really close to your best friend. It can take time to get through the grief of losing someone. Things will get better I promise.
I hope so too. And I hope he is a better place. Have you ever lost someone close to you? | Self-disclosure |
5,817 | Hi, i've been feeling really depressed lately and I'd like to talk to someone about it
That is very understandable. Depression is tough to deal with.
Do you have specific things that are causing you sadness right now or is it an overall feeling of being sad?
It's a bit of everything. I've recently lost my job and I'm just really worried about how my bills are going to get paid. I feel so tired, you know?
I totally understand. Losing your job is a very rough thing to go through, I'm sorry that happened to you. Feeling constantly at red alert is taxing both mentally and physically. | Self-disclosure |
4,679 | I think you've given me some good advice.
Thank you.
I feel a little less anxious than I did.
You are welcome.
I appreciate it! | Affirmation and Reassurance |
7,057 | i've cut them off before but this time i have more stability and am happy with my life (unlike they come and ruin all the nice things in my life with their bad attitudes)
It is a very big decision to make, but in some cases it is the best one.
#toxicfamily - it's just all very sad
Is there any possibility of getting professional counselling or something before making the final decision?
yeah we just talked to my therapist | Others |
5,593 | I need another job to pay more bills
It seems you are having a difficult time with your finances. Is that correct?
yes somewhat. i can pay it off within 2-3 years without a second job. id like to pay it off faster though
I'm sure it will take dedication and hard work, but I bet you can do it!
I think so. Im doing mturk for a second job right now. it helps some. i don't know about getting another job | Self-disclosure |
1,756 | You're welcome. I understand, but I am not suicidal.
What would you like to talk about, then? We could talk about the problem more, or if you feel like it is defined, we could talk about solutions, or not talk about solutions at all. What would make you feel better?
I would like to talk about solutions since I feel like the problem is defined.
I know what it is like to be depressed. I also take medication for this. For solutions, studies show that working out and exercising can help depression. Have you considered this?
Yes, I enjoy taking walks and doing a cardio workout at home. | Question |
9,080 | No, I haven't. I thought it wouldn't be the same as really hanging out. I don't drink. I do like to play board games though.
It will not be same.. but better than being alone..
That's true. I wanted to play board games online with some friends, but they weren't interested. It's not the same thing to play with strangers.
I have a group with my elementary school friends.. we hang out in zoom because we all are spread out across the globe.. some times.. it;s fun as we can share a lot of memories..
That's great. I wish I had kept in touch with my friends from those days. I'm not really much for just socializing though. I like some kind of activity, like games. | Providing Suggestions |
7,316 | i think when I can GO places to do things with other people it will be easier to be motivated/active
i have tried breaking jobs down into smaller tasks that does help, you're right on that
but it breaks my heart that i have not touched my art and sewing! i had all this "extra" time over this past year, and couldn't crack into it
have you any other ideas?
of course! i got into puzzles...and games with my little one helped pass the time | Providing Suggestions |
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