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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: me (23f) lying to my boyfriend (27) about smoking POST: So, I've been a smoker since I was 14 years old, I realize at this point how horrible it is for my health and after many failed attempts to quit I seem to be having an extremely hard time. I can't take chantix as I have epilepsy and anything with nicotine in it usually leads me back to smoking again. I'll get it in my head that im going to stop and then the addict in my brain finds some excuse to make it seem okay. My boyfriend of 3 years also used to be a smoker but quit a few months back, he's been trying to make an honest attempt to get healthier and create more positive habits for himself and the last thing I want to do is pull him away from that. He's caught me lying a few times the past couple weeks. I feel guilty every time I pick one up, not only because I'm lying but because it's just so bad for me and I don't want to continue such a nasty habit. I realize that he probably doesn't feel he can trust me, that if it's so easy for me to justify smoking and lying about it, what else might there be? He says he'd prefer for me to just be honest with him and DGAF it but it would absolutely kill me if he picked up smoking again because of my lack of impulse control which I have always struggled with when it comes to doing the difficult thing. I'm afraid of failing and I know that's exactly what im doing by not trying. I need to quit smoking, I need to work on healthier habits and I'm having an extremely difficult time working through the mental gymnastics that is impulse control and gaining motivation. Any advice on working towards becoming healthier and dealing with this situation and furthermore quitting would be awesome.

I'm lying to my boyfriend about smoking and I feel guilty. He's trying to get healthier and create more positive habits for himself. How do I get over this? TL;DR: I'm lying to my boyfriend about smoking, he's trying to get healthy but I'm having an extremely difficult time.

I'm lying to my boyfriend about smoking, I'm scared of failure and I need to quit. He doesn't want me to continue smoking. What else can I do? Any advice on how to work towards becoming healthier and quitting?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [18M] and a newly met girl online [22F] What do i do now? POST: So I recently posted on CL looking to meet with someone new in my area for nothing too serious but something that could develop in the future and I got messaged by a girl who was interested. We Exchanged numbers but have been talking online more. Our plan was to get to know eachother and then maybe meet up and go on a date but in the few days we have been in contact she hasn't been engaging me in any convos. I text her and she doesnt respond but does when she is online through skype. I don't know if its a change of heart without telling me or something else but I really want to talk to her more but not come off like im pushing too hard or acting like a stalker. She initially gave me her number and sent me a photo of what she looks like without me even asking so it doesnt seem like she isn't interested, and when I do initiate a convo she replies to me, but every time I bring up the idea of talking in person or arranging to meet up she seems to either not reply or ignore answering the question, and I cant work out why seeing as our main intention was to meet up! So what do I do now to get her to talk to me and/or want to meet up without seeming like im being forward?

TL;DR: Girl I met online hasnt been engaging me in convos. I want to meet up but she seems to ignore me when I talk to her or initiate a convo. What do I do now to get her to talk to me?

TL;DR: Girl I met online seems to be interested in me and I want to talk to her but she seems to not be engaging me in convos. What do I do? What do I do now? What do I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [19M] been seeing [20 F] for just over a month, need help understanding relationship POST: I've been talking to this girl for just over a month now. We have been working together at a fast food place for about a year now and we have always been kinda just work friends where we say hi to each other and maybe talk every now and then during work. I would really appreciate some help in understanding how my relationship is going. Is my relationship progressing at a normal rate, is everything I'm going through the usual stuff for a relationship of this length? I really enjoy spending time with this girl so I guess I'm happy but I'm seeking an outside opinion. I have a legit problem with overthinking things, so maybe that is whats happening here. Within the last week or so I have started noticing some of her tendencies, such as her always judging what I say, never wanting to ask to hangout and instead waiting for me to ask, and every now and then she sends me low effort texts(IMO atleast) like "ahahah yeah!" and "looool true". I know that for a relationship to be successful you need to be able to accept your partners faults... however I just feel like I'm putting in a lot more effort than she is. I know this last part is a bit selfish... but atleast what some of my friends have told me my relationship sexually with this girl is apparently really far behind. After just over a month with this girl all we have done is make out and feeling out and rubbing all over eachothers bodies. We havent done anything sexual yet. Are my friends wrong in thinking that this is far behind where we should be? I think this is another problem of how I am approaching the relationship. I feel like I always expect the nights to end in an intimate experience. I think this is the wrong approach.. but I don't know how to get the thoughts out of my mind. Maybe its because I've never had a sexual experience before so I'm just really excited and anxious, but the times I enjoy the most with this girl are the times where we just chill, spend time together and talk... not the makeouts and whatever. Thanks for reading guys :-)

feel like I'm overthinking things, and I don't know how to explain it to my friends. Need help understanding my relationship. Is my relationship progressing at a normal rate? Is it not getting better?

I'm really overthinking things, and I'm not sure if I should be overthinking things or if it isn't. Any advice? Thanks! Looking for an outside opinion on my relationship. Need help understanding how it is progressing.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: Ex-friends are badmouthing my relationship, they like my GF more, and constantly tell her she deserves better. POST: Some history I guess, we met in High School, and I graduated last year, while she graduated a year before. During the time I was still in school, she was working, but had quite a few days off, so she spent those days visiting me and the ex-friends(before they were Ex) at school. Fast forward, we're out of school, doing some upgrading at a place called Center High, which is like outreach for highschool, and those friends are now ex-friends, mainly because they, for some reason I'm unaware of, don't like ME anymore, but have no issue with my GF. I don't speak to them anymore, but they speak to my GF. Not saying I have an issue with that, it's nice to know that she has a group of people to back her up if we ever break up. Lately, they've been telling her things like she deserves better, or I'm always a jerk to her(ok, this one is completely untrue, and she knows it.) One of them(a girl) has even asked her out to dinner this Thursday, to give her some "advice" about the relationship. I'm worried that this "advice" will lead to our breakup which neither of us want, but if things go wrong, it'll happen. What do I do about us, and is it wrong to ask her not to go to that dinner?

Ex-friends are badmouthing my relationship, they like me more, but have no issue with my GF anymore. Is this wrong? What do I do? What should I do? What should I do? What do I do?

Ex-friends are badmouthing my relationship, they like me more, but have no issue with my GF anymore. What do I do about it? What do I do about it? What do I do? What do I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: AT&T keeps sending my girlfriend faulty phones. Either the phones restart constantly or never have service. What can she do? POST: My girlfriend has the HTC Inspire. She originally got one last summer that worked fine. A few months ago the phone started to lose service frequently for hours at a time. We took it to the store and they had replaced the SIM card. It didn't help at all she kept having calls dropped, text messages unable to be sent and no service. We called AT&T and had them replace the phone. The first phone she received was DOA so they sent her another which had the same connectivity issues. She sent that one back for a new one that had service but would restart a few times a day. I told her to send that one back but she said it was fine as long as she had service. About a month later the phone starts doing the same as all the other ones, no service. She hasn't had any service at all for the past 3 days. It isn't a problem with AT&T in her area because her family is on the same plan and everyone else has perfect service. She just wants a phone that will have service. I don't think her contract is up for another year but she can't go that long with a phone that isn't working. Why should she have to pay them for not providing her with a working phone. What can she do to guarantee she gets a working phone?

TL;DR: AT&T keeps sending my girlfriend faulty phones. Either the phones restart constantly or never have service. What can she do to guarantee she gets a working phone? What can she do to guarantee she gets a working phone?

AT&T keeps sending my girlfriend faulty phones. Either the phones restart constantly or never have service. What can she do to guarantee she gets a working phone? Is it worth it? What can she do? Is it worth it?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Need help moving on. Ex has a new boyfriend and I am in a bad mood at all times. POST: I (M- 21) was in a very loving relationship for over a year with my ex (F-20) until mid-June when we realized that we both did not want to try the long distance thing (We both got into uni's and she's staying near home and I've moved out of state). We were very civil about it and both agreed to remain friends. It was awesome until recently- we would talk frequently all the time about everything. Now she has a new boyfriend and I have slipped into a phase of pseudo-depression because I just cannot handle the idea of some other guy with a woman I still very much love. I have issues with self-worth and this has been awful for me. We have talked about it and I have resolved to do some soul searching and trying to work on myself. I am very supportive of her and her choices and want to preserve a friendship with her (she was by far my best friend before we dated and I trust no one else more than her). What can I do to expedite my healing process? She was the first relationship I've ever had so that might explain why I'm being such a dipshit about all this.

TL;DR: Ex has new boyfriend and I am in a bad mood at all times. How can I move on? I am in a bad mood at all times and need help moving on. She is having a new boyfriend and I am in a bad mood at all times.

TL;DR: Ex has new boyfriend and I am in a bad mood at all times. What can I do to move on? What can I do to move on? What can I do to help? What can I do to help?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: (20/F) Me and my SO [25/M] had an argument. POST: Two days ago me and my SO of 1.5 years had an argument. Nothing weird all couples have arguments, and we have had others. *For some back ground info: He is a full-time student who's mom pays for everything he wants, and I work 180 hours a month on the overnight shift, so I am not home a lot.* This one was different though. We argued because he lied to one of his friends about me. I asked him about it and he explained he did not mean me, he meant his ex and forgot to put it. Later on I asked if he wanted to go with me to a family function, to which he replied * "actually can you drop me off at my friend's (same friend he lied to) house on the way instead? I replied "K" because I was insulted and mad at the same time (He does this all the time.) to which he said never mind then. After that I told him that I did not like that he asked to go to the friends house that he lied to, especially since he never set it straight. That resulted in him turning it around on me and making me feel like shit. He made comments about my weight, me not trusting him, the fact that he has paid more of the bills than me, that I'm not a house SO that stays home all day and cleans it. We argued some more and then seemed to just talk it over, however I feel numb towards him now. I don't want to have sex, I do not want to kiss him I do not want to even speak with him. I don't know why I am feeling this way but I want it to stop and I have tried to get over it. Mind over matter right?? How do I get over this?? Has this happened to you? What did/would you do??

I was shit and numb to him. We argued a lot and then he turned it around. I don't want to have sex or kiss him. How do I get over it? TL;DR: Me and my SO had an argument.

I got angry and he made comments about me. We argued, he lied to his friend and made me feel like he lied. I have tried to get over it but I am not sure how to get over it.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Does Signal Loss from Coaxial Splitters, Cable Length, etc, affect internet speed/quality? POST: So recently I had an issue where my modem wouldn't connect because I was getting too much signal loss due to a 6-way splitter meant for different frequencies than comcast cable (it must have been used by previous homeowner and first comcast guy just used it instead of replacing it). The down and upstream lights were on, but not the 'online' one (dpc3000). Comcast guy replaced the splitter, as it was pushing my signal loss to too much. So I was wondering, if I reduced the signal loss further (as it now is within spec), would it improve internet speed/quality? I could just remove the splitter since I'm only using a single line (connection to modem). I could probably cut and reduce the line length too. Thanks.

TL;DR: Comcast guy replaced the splitter, but my modem wouldn't connect because I was getting too much signal loss. Does it affect internet speed/quality? Is it better to reduce the signal loss and cut the line length?

TL;DR: I was getting too much signal loss due to a coaxial splitter meant for different frequencies than comcast cable. Comcast guy replaced the splitter, but the modem wouldn't connect. Does it affect internet speed/quality?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me (23M) am having a hard time understanding GF's (23F) "connecting" behavior POST: So I've been dating this girl for about a year. Things are good, and I think we get along very well. We have our tiffs but hey what couple doesnt. What bothers me though is that shes claims that she must meet as many people as possible; shes really obsessed with "connecting" with people. The other day when we went out with a bunch of her friends to a bar, she got the number of numerous guys. From what I saw, it was rather innocent in context, but it just bothered me a bit that it seemed like she was actively coming up with "list" of people she can get with after we're done... I feel like if I did the same, shed be uncomfortable too. When I asked her about it, she said it was just for friendly encounters and that she just wanted to "connect" with people. Now mind you, she does do this a lot. Shell just go to some random store owned by a man clearly in his 50s/60s and will be very friendly with him because she wants to connect... I dont think this is sexual in nature. I just dont know if this is normal behavior but anyway. Before me, shes dated plenty of guys which is fine. But one gets to me more than the others. Apparently on a trip to thailand, she wanted a lay and hooked up with a hostel bartender. Then after the vacation, she went back to further "connect" with him. But it seems now that she has no desire to connect with him, and Im starting to think her hyper "connection" behavior is some sort of odd... I dont know scapegoat for something. Am I being a bit too jealous? Should it bother me that shes still actively seeking male friends? (its really the motive that bothers me). It seems really strange to me that someone is so desperately in need to connect with people.

I think its sexual behavior. I dont know why. Is it normal? Shes actively seeking male friends. Is this normal? What do I do? am I being a bit jealous? or am I being too selfish?

I dont think its sexual in nature, but it seems like shes actively seeking male friends. Is this normal? Is this weird? Am I being a bit jealous? Should it bother me that shes still actively seeking male friends?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My (f/23) ex-boyfriend (m/22) of 3.5 years is depressed, but I don't know if I should be there for him. POST: Let's call my ex- boyfriend James. OK first off, I don't really know if he's really my ex, since we are pretty much in contact and he keeps saying he will come back to me when he's done growing up. So recently, James's father has not been well, and needed to get surgery. Living in Canada, health care is pretty much free, so hospital bills are not the problem. However, because of this illness, he will be unable to continue working for the next 3 years. James has just finished his bachelor in electrical engineering, but has no internships or related working experience. His mother who is also working, says she can't afford working alone to support their family of 5 and is pressuring him to find a job. I don't know what she exactly said to him because I wasn't there, but James last week, cried to me over the phone, saying he needs to find a job and grow up, and to do that, he wanted a break. James, for the years I have been with him, has sort of slacked off, and would sort of treat me like shit occasionally, for which I would reprimand him. But I've always felt the need to help him however I can. It's partially my fault, that he has become the way he is, because I was the one pushing him to apply to jobs (I would make his resume and cover letters as well as apply for the jobs for him). He would get interviews, but unfortunately would not pass them. Because of my success with finding jobs and his failure, he sometimes tells me "you're only getting hired because you're a girl". Anyway, he's been feeling really low on himself, but he doesn't really have anyone to support him except me, but he just wanted to be friends until he can figure things out. I wanted to distance myself from him so he could get the peace he wanted, but he calls me and wants my company, so I don't understand... Why he wanted a beak. Should I keep supporting him, or do I leave him be?

: my ex-boyfriend is depressed and wants a break. I'm not there for him, but I don't know if I should be there for him. I want to distance myself from him, but he calls me and wants my company.

ex-boyfriend is depressed and wants a break. I'm not sure if I should be there for him. Should I keep supporting him or leave him be? How do I help him? How do I protect him from he's depressed and not be around me?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [21M] fell hard for [18F]. POST: I basically love the stupid fucking girl. I've had girlfriends in the past and some casual shit, but have never truly cared for any of those girls and she's the only one good enough to get me emotionally invested and now I feel like a big fucking pussy about it and act like one too. We're both military she adored me, I adored her back but knew orders would eventually seperate us. So she was my girlfriend for a few months and she's heart melting and beautiful and all that annoying shit, but she has some skeletons and problems of her own which is cool because she's still the best. She likes me so much that she insists I be her boyfriend over the distance which is like 3 gazillion miles. So we're eventually seperated (fuck you military stop giving me good people and taking them away) and I get all nervous and paranoid because of course the only girl I ever fucking care about is now not with me and I eventually get all annoying about her friends because they're all guys because she's military. It was my first long distance thing because before that I was like "lol why would I wait for some dumb girl" and then she comes into my life and I'm like oh I understand why people fall in love now and do stupid things because of it. So she is becoming more distant and some more awful shit happens in her life when she's goes home. She's tough but has her own way of handling things which is to not communicate with anyone and this makes me frustrated because I can't stand not talking to her. She eventually says that it won't work over the phone and I'm like wtf you dumb perfect girl you wanted this to happen. So I've been trying not to talk to her and delete her from social media but I still end up texting her and saying stupid shit especially when I'm drunk. She probably hates me now and I accused her of just using me because I checked her Facebook from my buddies account and what do you fucking know? It says in a relationship.

I'm not sure if I'm the only one good enough to be my boyfriend but she's a good girl and I'm angry about it and I'm angry and fucking about it. She's a bad girl and I'm like she's not good enough.

. I'm a big fucking pussy about it. She's the only girl I fucking care about and I feel like I'm a bad fucking pussy.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Without my [20M] knowledge, my girlfriend [20F] opened up to my sister [32F] that she had an abortion, knowing that my sister has miscarried. POST: My girlfriend of one year (who has only met my sister once) had recently started messaging her about some personal topics. She eventually told her that she had an abortion. My sister had a miscarriage late into one of her pregnancies that hit our family hard. I was only young at the time and I know I've never been able to recover from it. However my sister has understandably always had a problem with abortion since. It's hard to talk about so I haven't told my girlfriend directly about it, but she did know that I lost my nephew. Yet of all of the things to say to my sister. I only learnt from my mother today after she managed to find out why my sister wasn't fond of my girlfriend anymore. Apparently after that message my sister told her to no longer talk to her. I'm conflicted between my girlfriend who I do love, and my sister who I've always been close with.

TL;DR: Girlfriend of one year opened up to my sister that she had an abortion, knowing that my sister has miscarried. I'm conflicted between my girlfriend and my sister. What do I do?

TL;DR: Girlfriend of one year opened up to my sister that she had an abortion, knowing that my sister has miscarried. I'm conflicted between my girlfriend who I love and my sister who I've always been close to.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [16 F] dumped by manipulative boyfriend of 2 yrs [16 M]. How do I stop being so bitter towards him? POST: So I dated this guy. And he was great while we dated: funny, smart, caring, ect. but he has always been the ass-kissing attention whore type. He dumped me because the relationship had gone bad and I tried to move on, but every time he saw me get close, he would do something to keep me (hook up with me, apologize, tell me how great I am, you get the gist). Essentially, I was manipulated a lot by him and even though I don't love or want him anymore, I can't seem to move on. He has turned many of our mutual friends (that he was always closer to) against me and I'm just so bitter about the whole situation. Every time I get close to forgiving him, I'll be undermined by my anger at being alone without all the emotional support and friends I had before the breakup. Please help I just really want to move on with my life but it's hard because it's high school and he's EVERYWHERE.

TL;DR: Dumped by manipulative boyfriend of 2 yrs. How do I stop being so bitter towards him? How do I stop being so bitter towards him? How do I stop being so bitter towards him? How do I stop being so bitter towards him?

TL;DR: Dumped by manipulative boyfriend of 2 yrs. How do I stop being so bitter towards him? How do I stop being so bitter towards him? How do I stop being so bitter towards him?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Reddit, how do I (22F) stop my boyfriend (22M) of two years from determining my mood? POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now, and a few months ago went through a wee hiccough. We're back together now and enjoy each other's company more than ever.. But I can find myself falling back into the old routine of things. I'm obsessing over him and want to see him every day. If he's unavailable, I find myself getting really upset, and if he doesn't text back I feel really down. I DON'T WANT TO BE A STAGE FIVE CLINGER!!! (I don't tell him he makes me feel this way 'cos I know how irrational I'm being). On the other hand, when we're together and he's showing affection I feel like the luckiest girl on the planet.. I know this is unhealthy, and I *do not* want to depend on him in this way. I want to know how I can break this habit; Reddit, can you help?

TL;DR: I feel like I'm a STAGE FIVE CLINGER. I don't want to be a STAGE FIVE CLINGER. How do I stop obsessing over my boyfriend?

TL;DR: I'm obsessed with my boyfriend, and I'm not happy with him. I want to break the habit of obsessing over him, and I'm getting really upset when he doesn't text back. How can I break this habit?

SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by pouring piss all over myself POST: It literally just happened 5 minutes ago. I don't feel good. A bit of backstory here. Sometimes while staying up late I would need to use the bathroom. My parents always grill me about why I'm using the bathroom and get super suspicious of what I'm doing every time and it gets on my nerves, so I turned to the ever so elegant solution of using ziplock bags to piss it, sealing them and pouring the piss out next morning down the drain and throwing the bag away. Efficient? No. Unethical? Yes. One night (the night of this post) I needed to use the bathroom. Now next to my bed is a little cardboard storage box filled with things like magazines, books, hats and you guessed it, empty ziplock bags. Now I was being a cheap ass so it was filled with old ziplock bags because the day prior, I was exchanging coins at the local coinstar machine and I like my coins sorted. Anyways I pulled out my plastic bag and began to piss in it. When finished, I would put the bag on the other side of the bed, just incase people walk in and see a bag of piss. Not the best sight. I was moving it over my bed and I felt something warm. At first I thought it was just the piss or something and then I realized a wet sensation on my body and could finally hear dripping noises. Turns out the bag had a small hole in it. So I was panicking, piss being sloshed all over my bed, floor and of course, me, when I managed to stuff the piss filled plastic bag into another ziplock bag. When moving it over again, I realized that same wet-warm feeling. Turns out, THIS bag had a hole as well. More piss everywhere. Yay. After finding a bag that DIDN'T have a hole and putting the first and second bag in there, my bed looked and felt as if I pissed my self and my floor looked as if I took a water gun and went Rambo. My upper body was also covered in piss as well. I'm going to clean this mess up in the morning and just sleep in my desk chair.

piss all over myself, piss all over my bed, floor and even my lower body. I didn't feel any better.. piss. piss... I'm going to clean it up.

piss all over my bed, floor and floor. piss all over my bed, floor and floor. I was really bad. I was pissed. My floor was covered in piss. I was so bad.

SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by using my hands when talking on a first date. POST: TIFU but recovered. Ok, So there I am......on a first date. This was a date that was essentially set up for us, so we had never talked to each other before other than text. Generally, I suck at talking to girls and I'm a pretty shy person in general. So I pick her up, and everything is turning out pretty well. I'm actually on fire. I'm talking really well, coming up with subjects where I normally draw blanks, and making her laugh. We're drinking the first round of beers and getting pretty comfortable. The bar is pretty packed and so the whole time we were kind of leaning against the wall. So we go to get the second round and afterwards a table has opened up. At this point I'm feeling great and I'm really opening up and using my hands to talk a lot. I tend to get animated when I do talk. So here we are with totally fresh beers having a great conversation. I can't even remember what we're talking about and mid-sentence I'm waving my arms around and knock my entire beer over. The table is totally dry. The glass perfectly tips towards me and spills entirely all over my body. YES, some got on her, but for the most part I'm soaked. I'm speechless and my body is tingling from the embarrassment I'm feeling. So then she pulls the most suave move I've seen a girl do in a while. She picks up the glass, pours half her beer in, and says, "let's drink this quick and go for a walk so you can dry off." Anyways, we end up staying out way late, drinking more, and making out.

I'm really open to talking. We're drinking beers. I'm soaked. I'm really open and I'm a pretty shy person. We're having a great conversation. She pulls the most suave move I've seen a girl do in a while.

I'm really opening up and using my hands to talk. I'm really being a good guy. She's a bit shy and I'm a bit of a jerk. We're having a great time. We end up staying out way late.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [23 M] can't get past my long distance partner [29 F] sleeping with someone else 3 days before I arrived to see them. It was a sort-of-open/not official relationship POST: She was in my country backpacking, she approached me after a lot of time spent interested (we worked nearby) and we started casually seeing each other. I have never been interested in a relationship and she was much more invested than she let on. She flew back a few months after leaving because she wanted to see me again, but not letting on I was hugely important in this decision. After she left again, she soon sent me tickets to see her in her home country. It wasn't until this point that I got the hint and realised she was a bit serious, so I stopped seeing anyone casually and waited until I got there. I was under the impression she would too, but I found out (while I was there) that she had been seeing someone quite intimately for a couple of weeks, and (she told me after I left for home) the last she saw him was only three days before I arrived. She told me she cut him off completely and has no interest in him anymore, and I believe her.. But I feel cheated and gross for not knowing this before hand. It's an awful feeling that she was sleeping with someone so shortly before I was there. We've spoken about it at length, but I still can't let go of that shitty feeling. She says it was because she was emotionally lost and didn't know if I even cared about her, and thought I might also be sleeping with other people before I got there. I adore this girl, and she means an awful lot to me, and I clearly mean an awful lot to her. She regrets what happened immensely.. But I still feel like shit about how close it was to me arriving to see her, like it was disrespectful and shouldn't need a conversation to be known not to do. What the fuck do I do, am I overreacting?

I'm not sure why she is sleeping with someone else so soon before I arrived to see her, and I still can't get past the feeling. What do I do? What do I do? What do I do? I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or not.

I'm cheated for not knowing she was sleeping with someone else 3 days before I arrived to see her. She regrets what I did, but I still feel like shit about it. What do I do????

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [32 F] with my ex [33 M], he broke up b/c I have a mental illness and I want to get better and get him back. POST: My boyfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me recently because I have mental issues and other problems, and wasn't working on them. I also need to quit my job and have major surgery, but I cannot do either of those things for another couple months and have a plan for how that will go down. He's very ill himself, and he said my constant sadness was really wearing on him. I have an appointment to get my blood drawn to see what's wrong with me physically. I am always fatigued, never get enough sleep, rarely feel good and energetic, and always have headaches. I made another appointment to go to a psychiatrist because I think my issues with depression are not just physical. They tend to get worse in the winter, and a month ago I seriously talked about killing myself, so I think that's what set all of this off. I don't think the illness *itself* bothers him, just the fact that I'm not trying to get better. I want to maintain my dignity, but I also want to let him know that I'm working on things to the best of my ability. What's the best way to let him know I'm making progress, and to see if he wants to continue things? I'm thinking of just sending him a quick summary email in about a month to see what he thinks. I texted him this weekend (not the best idea but I'm OK with it) and he said there's a 2/3 chance he would take me back and that he still loves me.

TL;DR: Boyfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me because I have mental illness and I want to get him back. How do I let him know I'm making progress and if he wants to continue things?

TL;DR: Boyfriend broke up with me b/c I have mental issues and want to get him back. I want to keep my dignity but also keep my ex happy. What's the best way to tell him I'm making progress and if he wants to continue things?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [27M] was told by her [30F] that she doesn't know if she 'likes me' or 'likes me as a friend' POST: I met a woman a few weeks ago and we've been on three dates. In my eyes, all three went pretty well and I was getting good vibes from her. She was a bit delayed when responding to texts, but I tried not to think about that too much. Fast forward to yesterday's third date. We meet at a bar and have a few drinks. Everything is going well and we decide to part ways. I ask her something like "so hey, would you like to get together sometime next week?" She looks at me and says "look, I like you, but I can't tell if I just like you as a friend or if I actually like you. I'll text you." I basically said if she's not feelin it, she's not feeling it. I told her that I did enjoy her company and I wanted to see her again. She thanked me. Now I understand I probably got let down the easy way, which is fine, but normally I'd just move on to the next relationship and not look back... But there's something about her that I like I don't want to give up on so easily. If I don't hear back from her within a few days, is it acceptable for me to text her something like "look, I know you're unsure about your feelings but I just want to make it clear that I like you and I want to see you again. I'm not looking for a friendship."? Or should I wait it out and only text her back once she's texts me (if that actually happens)? I know this is a lame post, but I've never been in a situation like this before :-/

I want to see her again, but she's not feeling it. I want to get back to her. I'm feeling good about her. I like her but she doesn't know if she likes me or not. I want to see her again.

I like her, but she doesn't know if I like me or not. I tell her I'll text her back. She replies. I give up on the relationship. Should I wait it out and only text her back once she's texted me?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: So Reddit.. I just found out that this guy I really liked asked a girl out, what are some ways to cope? Any songs to cheer me up? POST: [I'm 17 so please bear with the teenage drama/immature hormone infused decisions] To begin with, I liked 'James' ever since the beginning of my junior year, we have always been good friends but I just started to like him (because of hormones? I don't know? Seriously... he is like the sweetest guy ever). I thought everything was going fine and dandy since he asked me to prom. Keep in mind that my stupid introvert self refuses to tell him my true feelings, so I think he was confused on whether I had feelings for him or not. A few days after prom he texts my friend asking her if I would say yes if he asked me out; she then shows me the text, replies yes, and at this point I'm exuding happiness. Then..... a few days following the texts, at a typical underaged binge-drinking occasion he gets wasted and gets blowed by a whore; he is now incredibly ashamed and tries to keep this chapter of his life away from me, but of course I find out when my friend sends me pictures of it. By this point he texts my friends that he has no chance with me. I am, at this point confused too... Fast forward a few months, we have just been hanging out as friends but I still have feelings for him, which I cannot subdue. I just got a call from a girl him and I just met at the fireworks that he has just asked her out. I don't know what to do/feel... I am completely confused... I am too new to this whole romance/love thing Any help Reddit from your experiences?

I am completely confused and I just found out that this guy I really liked asked a girl out. What are some ways to cope? Any songs to cheer me up? What are some ways to cope? Any songs to cheer me up?

I'm confused. He textes my friends and tells me he has no chance with me. I am confused. What are some ways to cope? Any songs to cheer me up? TL;DR: I just found out that this guy I really liked asked a girl out, what are some ways to cope?

SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest TITLE: I am in love with someone I hardly know. POST: I knew this person in high school and we were both interested in each other. It never worked out although I have had dreams about this person ever since (8 years of dreams). They aren't sexual dreams, but this is really, really wearing on me. In the dreams I am very happy to be with her and when I wake up I am devastated. The worst part is that I am currently in a relationship and know that this other girl is single. I went for lunch with her a little over a year ago to see how she was doing and we seemed to both enjoy ourselves. I have not pursued this relationship because I am in a fairly good relationship and feel delusional thinking this "dream" relationship could work out.

TL;DR: I have had dreams about someone I barely know. I am in love with someone I hardly know. I am in a relationship and I am in a good relationship. I am in a relationship. I am in a good relationship.

TL;DR: I have had dreams about a girl I barely know since high school. I am in love with this person and I am in a relationship. I am in a good relationship and I have not pursued this relationship.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How do I [19M] learn to not try to prove I can still get girls even though I have a girlfriend [20F]? POST: Okay I know the question is a bit strange, so let me elaborate. I've always had this back-of-my-mind need for people to like/want me. I'm in an amazing relationship with a girl I love more than anything or anyone in the world, but i can't shake this need. The problem is that it mainly manifests with other girls. I don't cheat, I don't even flirt very much, but I have this awful habbit of seemingly trying to prove I can still get some of these girls I'm around. It's almost like I miss the chase, but I don't because I love my girl and would never cheat. Is there a way for me to change this quality? I seriously hate being like this, but I don't know how to stop as I've had this problem pretty much my whole life. It's creating strain in my relationship, and my girlfriend and I have talked about it and I'm obviously going to do my best to get over it, but I'd really like to stop for good and not have to force/fake it forever. Has anybody had this problem before or have any tips for how to do this?

TL;DR: I love my girl but I'm trying to prove I can still get some of the girls I'm around. I love her and would never cheat. How do I stop? I'm in a wonderful relationship but I'm in a bad relationship.

TL;DR: I love my girlfriend and I love her, but I don't try to prove I can still get girls even though I have a girlfriend. How do I learn to stop trying to prove I can still get girls even though I have a girlfriend?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23M] interested in a girl [23F] but I'm trying now to be a rebound POST: So I've been friends with a girl for several months now. At the time we met, she was dating and living with a guy I considered a friend for a while. She told me they were having issues and could end up stuck here (she's from out of the state). I told her that if that ever happened she could stay with me until she figured out what to do. Fast forward a few months and she finds out he was cheating on her, so she packed up and has been staying with me for a few weeks now. Her original intention was to go home but she decided to keep working at her job and live with me a while longer. We grew close and developed a physical and somewhat of an emotional relationship. Things were fine, and she's been sleeping next to me every night. So the other day, things were fine, but her ex wanted her to come over and talk, so she did. When she got home, she came home late, and was very distant. She promised they didn't have sex or anything. She started to apologize saying she's a burden to everyone and she's tired of ruining everyone's life. She wouldn't tell me what she talked to him about, just that he seemed like a different person and she feels he is up to something. Since then she won't lay next to me, or hold my hand or anything. She said it's just a "mood" and she has them quite often. I know most people would say, "Get out now, don't be a rebound". But I still feel like there's the potential for more. I'm not sure if I should back off some and let her heal, or back off because she's trying to work things out with him. I want to avoid being a rebound, but I also feel like if I distance myself, she'll get lonely and start to see him more. I'm sure he's going to ask to see her again, and I don't know if I should try and stop her or tell her to go. Any advice is appreciated.

I'm trying to be a rebound. She's been a lot distant and has been staying with me for a while now. I'm trying to avoid being a rebound. What should I do? How should I move on?

I'm trying to avoid being a rebound and she's trying to work things out with the guy. I'm trying to avoid being a rebound. Help pls.. TL;DR: I'm interested in a girl, but I'm trying now to be a rebound.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Reddit, I've been up for ~55 hours and worried that I won't be able to get sleep tonight. Help? POST: Tuesday night, I was unable to fall asleep..at all. I've had a lot of 2 hour nights, but this is the first time I didn't fall asleep at all in 10 years. I was awake from the 4 day weekend I had (being able to sleep late) and then when it was 2:00 AM and I wasn't asleep still I started getting anxious which prevented me from falling asleep. I was exhausted last night, went to bed at 9:45 PM and still couldn't fall asleep. I was so nervous about not being able to fall asleep again (as neurotic as that sounds) that it didn't happen. Once 11:00 PM hit, I took Nyquil and it did nothing (in the past it has knocked me out when i had colds). I'm approaching the end of the work day today and somehow managed to get by even though I'm very cranky and overly emotional about everything. I'm concerned about not being able to fall asleep again. I know the "cure" is to just relax and not worry about it and my body will do the rest, but I don't think it's that easy. I'm looking for advice on what I can do to help me fall asleep tonight. Anything would be appreciated..I'm getting desperate. No "get drunk" recommendations since I will only feel worse in the morning. Thanks!

TL;DR: Been up for 55 hours and worried about not being able to fall asleep tonight. Need advice on what I can do to help me fall asleep tonight. I'm worried about not being able to fall asleep again.

TL;DR: I'm worried about not falling asleep tonight, took Nyquil and it didn't help. Need advice on what to do to help me fall asleep tonight. Thanks! Need advice on what to do!

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I'm (18M) jealous of other guys flirting with my (18M) girlfriend on social media. Help? POST: My jealousy is starting to become a problem in this relationship. Actually, it has always been. Last year, a boy my girlfriend was friends with had kept walking her to class, writing her cute notes (something boyfriends do) and asking her if she's sure about being with me. I threatened to break up with her if she never stopped talking to this guy, because he was obviously trying to make a move. Now that she's in college, she's hanging out with more guys! 75% of her friends are guys, always hanging out with her, and after the "friend" she had last year, I can't stop being jealous or mad about her friends. The social media part about this, guys put heart eyes on her photos on instagram, and I tell them to back the fuck up, and my girlfriend gets mad at me for confronting them! "You don't know what they meant by them, it doesn't mean they're flirting with me." I understand that she is right, she doesn't respond back but she obviously likes the attention she gets. My jealousy is also fueled by my friend group. My friends have dated my exes, I've been apart of closed door conversations about how some of my friends want to fuck my other friend's ex, visa versa. I would never do that to my friends, and in my world, most guys in college or highschool just want to take my girlfriend if they hang out with her. Or want to fuck her. She has already encountered a guy trying to flirt, and she gave him her number just to talk when we were arguing and on a break from our relationship. I have influenced her as well to be jealous with how i act with my anger and jealousy, but a big break up caused her to stop being clingy. Now i'm stuck being mad and jealous towards guys around her, and now I feel overprotective.

I'm jealous of my girlfriend's friends hanging out with guys, and I'm mad and jealous of them. Help? TL;DR: I'm jealous of my girlfriend's friends, but she's not clingy about them anymore. Help?

I'm jealous of guys flirting with my girlfriend on social media. I tell guys to back the fuck up, and she gets mad at me for not doing it. Help? TL;DR: I'm jealous of guys flirting with my girlfriend, and I'm not overprotective.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [26F] boyfriend [27M] of 2.5 years doesn't have sex with me but masterbates everyday. POST: My boyfriend and I used to have sex every day, multiple times a day. It was literally the best sex I've ever had and he told me he felt the same way. Of course after a while it didn't happen as often but often enough that I was always pretty satisfied. We've been living together for a year and were still sleeping together a few times a week but it became monotonous and boring. It was literally always from behind and only lasted a few minutes. Its now gotten to a point where we are only sleeping together about once every two weeks, always first thing when we wake up, always from behind. I thought maybe he just wasn't feeling very sexual (we recently moved into a new house and finances are pretty tight) so I never spoke to him about it. However, he told me a couple of weeks ago he masterbates every day. I told him the fact he prefers jerking off by himself rather than actually sleep with me is really starting to affect my self esteem and he assured me he thinks I'm beautiful and sexy and there's nothing wrong with masterbasting. I started feeling so low about myself I even posted on AmIUgly recently! Just today I told him I had to run to the store to pick up something really quick and I was only gone for about 15 minutes. I walked into our bedroom when I got home and there was a "dirty" shirt on the floor. I asked about it and he told me he masterbated as soon as I left. I just walked out of the room and am now sitting outside posting this. I know I should talk to him about it again but after nothing really changed the first time I tried I'm hesitant to bring it up a second time. Everything else in our relationship is amazing and wonderful and he's my best friend but this is really starting to make me feel insecure and bad about myself. I don't even like changing in front of him anymore.

I was so insecure and unsure of myself after he masterbated. I started feeling low about myself and I'm not sure what to do. I'm really feeling low about myself and I'm hesitant to talk to him about it.

I was having sex with my boyfriend every day. I still have sex with him but he masterbates daily. I started feeling low about myself and I don't like it anymore. I'm not sure if I should bring it up again.

SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance TITLE: If you are thinking about joining DirecTV - DONT!! POST: Hey all, first time post here. Just wanted to share my DirecTV experience in the hope of helping out anyone else that might be considering signing up. I joined DirecTV a little over year ago because I had grown extremely dissatisfied with Time Warner Cable. One the the incentives/perks DirecTV offers to new customers is a free season of their NFL Sunday Ticket package. This is a nice perk for many people I guess, but not really useful for me because I follow the local team and all the games are on local broadcast TV. Fast forward to this year, I looked at my October billing statement and found out that DirecTV has been charging me $40/month for the past several months for the fucking NFL Sunday Ticket package that I did not choose to renew! I have auto pay, so I don't normally look at my bill very closely and didn't notice until my October statement. I called customer service and had to speak to four different levels of people before I finally got someone who said she would take care of it for me. The call took more than 45 minutes and was beyond frustrating. Two weeks later I received my next bill and, you guessed it. There is another $40 charge on there for NFL Sunday Ticket. I called back in and found that the first three people I had spoken to on my previous call had noted the account, up to the point that they told me the most they could do was credit me for half of the charges. The final supervisor I spoke to never noted the account - how convenient. I ended up spending another 55 minutes on the phone and talked to another four people, but never got anyone to offer anything other than crediting me for half the charges. At this point I am going to file a small claims suit against DirectTV and will be cancelling my service as soon as my contract is up in July.

DirecTV is charging me $40/month for NFL Sunday Ticket, I did not renew my contract and I was frustrated. I decided to join DirecTV because I was dissatisfied with Time Warner Cable. I am going to file a small claims suit against DirecTV.

DirecTV is charging me $40/month for NFL Sunday Ticket. I called customer service and got the bill, and they never credited me for half of the charges. I am going to file a small claims suit against DirectTV.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Are some people just incapable of love? POST: My SO (21) and I (20) have been together for over a year and 6 months. The one thing that really interests me is how difficult he finds it to say I love you, to anyone really. He was bullied a lot as a kid and conditioned himself to stop feeling so the bullies couldn't hurt him. 'Love' hasn't been an issue between us at all because I accept that it's hard for him to say it and when I say it myself, I don't expect him to say it in return. A year ago he did tell me he loved me and I was shocked but after a while he stopped saying it. I was worried that he stopped having feelings for me, so last night I asked him if he did love me because I've been confused about what his feelings are towards me. He shrugged and told me that he doesn't know what love is and doesn't know if he's feeling it. I then asked why he said it to me earlier in our relationship and he said that he thought that I wanted him to say it. I told him he was crazy for thinking that and that I didn't care if he couldn't say it. But he says he feels guilty that he can't say it because then he feels like everything is one sided (which it isn't). I thought about us today and realised that although he can't say it, he's shown it. During some off our worst fights (in cases where most guys would up and leave) he couldn't bare to leave me (even though he thought about it) and he was there for me when I was at my worst (he's always tolerant) he'll always want cuddles, be happy to drive me when I need him to (he hates driving), buy me flowers, pay for dinners, cook for me, the list goes on. A word to me doesn't matter because he treats me well. I'm not saying we are perfect, we're probably worse than must when we get into huge fights but will always stick around for the other. Does anyone have a similar relationship? I don't know what I can do to make him realise saying I love you or thinking you can't feel love towards someone isn't an issue for me?

I'm sure he can say I love you but he's not. He doesn't know what love is and I don't care about it. I'm not sure what I can do to make him realise that.

TL;DR: SO can't say I love you and I'm worried he will stop saying it. He says he doesn't know what love is but he still shows it and he's always tolerant and helpful.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23 M] don't understand my crush [25 F] absolutely anymore POST: So I've known this girl for almost 3 years now. We dated a little while when we met, but as soon as things started to get little bit more serious, she moved to Australia for 2 years (in my defence, she had the tickets bought before we started dating). Now last november she came back, at that time I was at sea (working in the Navy). Since February we've been seeing each other again, been to the movies, restaurants, just hung out at each other's places etc, it's been fun. Couple days ago I asked her, what does she think about a relationship, to which she replied that she's not really looking for anything serious. I reluctantly agreed. Since we've known each other for some time now, I won't start ignoring her just for that, better to stay friends. 2 days ago I had a party at my place, to which she came also. By time others fell asleep, we stayed up the whole night, drank and watched some stupid cartoons and spooned like there's no freakin tomorrow (got horrible blue balls from that). For a girl, who told she's not looking for a relationship, that was kind of odd thing to do, am I looking at "friends with benefits" kind of invitation or something? Confused af. Sorry for long post, let there be a invisible potato.

I'm not sure how to handle it. She told me she's not looking for a relationship, but she didn't. We're still friends, but I'm not sure if I'm looking for a friendship or something.

TL;DR: Girl I've known for a long time tells me she's not looking for anything serious. I don't understand her, what do I do? Am I looking at "friends with benefits" kind of invitation or something?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [22F] how to handle being ignored on my birthday by [27M] POST: Hi all, thanks for reading. So I've been casually seeing a guy for about 6 months now. I like him a lot, but its clear that he does not want to pursue a relationship with me. i am okay with that because i'm extremely busy. Anyway, this past Friday was my birthday. I asked him to hang out with me about a week in advance. He said maybe. I texted him the plan on Wednesday night and he never answered. Then, my birthday arrives, and I don't hear from him. At all. Not even a happy birthday text. He doesn't show up to my bday thing and never even texts to say he won't be there. I know we aren't boyfriend-girlfriend, but my feelings are really hurt that we have been sleeping together for 6 months (these instances often include taking his dog to the dog park, cooking dinner together, going to art shows, etc) and yet he doesn't respect me enough to even acknowledge my birthday... Even with a polite invite decline... I don't know how to talk to him about this in a way that conveys how I feel without making it seem like Im being clingy and expected boyfriend treatment from him. I work part time in the same building as him so will probably run into him Monday and am nervous. Do you guys have any thoughts/advice/insight into why we would act like this?

he doesn't respond to my birthday, never even texts. He never shows up to my bday, never even texts. how to handle being ignored on my birthday by him? Need help. Please help. TL;DR: How to handle being ignored on my birthday by [27M]

I don't even get a happy birthday text. I'm going to be clingy and expected boyfriend treatment from him. How do I handle being ignored on my birthday by [27M]? Is it normal?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My (20M) hypocrisy over a girl I've been casually sleeping with is eating me up inside POST: Two months ago I met a European girl in a club. We slept together that night, and since then we've been in touch fairly often, and even done things like going to the beach together and a football match (she's a fan, don't worry I didn't drag her there). However we always made it clear that this is not some sort of relationship. She recently got out of an abusive one with a man she was going to marry and I know she needs some time to be free; I'll be leaving here back to Britain in a month or so too so I can't really date anyone per se... However every time I see her post a photo with another guy on Instagram, it eats me up inside. It makes me feel horrible. This is despite the fact that since I last saw her two weeks ago, I've had sex with someone else I'm planning to meet up with. At this point I would like to appreciate that it is me at fault here, but how can I overcome this?

TL;DR: Met a girl, casually slept with her, but I've been having sex with another guy since then. It eats me up inside. How can I overcome this? How can I overcome this?

TL;DR: Met a girl, slept with her a lot, and now I'm just a stranger. I'm hypocritical over her posting photos on Instagram with another guy. How can I overcome this?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [38 M] with my new girlfriend [31 F] 2 weeks, introducing new gf after separation from wife (9 years relationship, 7 years married). POST: I've been married for 7 years, and was together with my ex wife for about 2 years prior to that. We separated in spring (may/june), and we are done. Law here in Norway means we have to be separated for a year. We have two children together, 6 and 1,5 years old. I've met three women from Tinder, one of whom I'm now intimate with. We're very open with each other, and consider ourselves gf/bf and are exclusive. Neither of us have any hurry to make things very serious as we are both vulnerable because of past breakups. She will not be introduced to my kids before we're ready (after new year?). We came home from a very nice weekend together a short while ago. One of my closest neighbors, who I also consider a friend, was outside. I introduced my new gf (only by name, but he probably read the situation), and had a talk with him about what he'd been up to the past weeks, as we'd both been on summer holiday. My wife lived here with me almost since we met. I felt awkward introducing someone new, and uneasy now after it's done. We are both reluctant to officially announce being together, since our past breakups are not too far in the past (hers in june). We're not sneaking around or keeping it a secret, but we're not announcing it either. She's more reluctant then me as she has a past of some broken relationships. I'm still processing the breakup, and probably still will for several months. I feel like I'd be judged if I made this public, but this is'nt anything very unusual. Am I being crazy?

TL;DR: Introducing new gf after separation from wife (9 years relationship, 7 years married). We are very open with each other, but we are reluctant to announce it. Is this a normal thing? What do I do?

new gf after separation from ex wife. we're very close, and I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable. How can I make this public? Do I have to make it public or is this just me?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I [20 M] went on a date but was it really a date? POST: So first a little bit of backstory to put things into context: I recently started university and got along well with a girl. I subsequently asked her out for dinner to which she accepted. It wasn't explicitly mentioned that it was a date but I guess I assumed it was implied which probably was a bad idea. The "date" went extremely well and I did have a wonderful time with her and although I really do like her, I get the impression it's one sided. During the date, I told her that I considered this a date and whatnot and well I feel like I've put my foot in my mouth. How do I now tell her that I don't really care what happens and I would rather keep her as a friend than be awkward around each other?

TL;DR: I went on a date but was it really a date? How do I tell her that I don't really care what happens and that I would rather keep her as a friend than be awkward around each other?

TL;DR: I went on a date but was it really a date? What do I do? What do I say? What do I do? What do I say? What do I say? What do I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I'm [18M] going to a party where an old middle school crush [17F] is also going. POST: Story time! Back in the summer after 8th grade, I hung out with my group of friends everyday for the whole summer. There was this girl in the group and I really liked her. Like I had the biggest and dumbest crush on her. I was only 13 so I didn't know shit, but I was thinking she's perfect for me, I gotta marry her and all this dumb stuff. The puppy love was so strong I wanted to be a part of her life and I wanted her to be a part of my life. I never had the courage to ask her out, and we went to different high schools. Eventually we stopped talking but during high school I never really liked anyone else. Every other girl felt dull compared to her. I still get nostalgic thinking about her and what would've been different if I had the balls to ask her out. Anyway I'm going to a party this Friday and I heard she's coming. I honestly don't know what to do to so this goes great and eventually ends up in a relationship.

I still have feelings for this girl. I'm going to a party with an old middle school crush. I really like her. I don't know what to do to make sure this goes well and eventually ends up in a relationship.

I never had the courage to ask her out. I remember that crush. She's coming to my party this Friday. I'm going to get married. I'm not sure what to do. What to do???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Which should I choose (25f) when it comes to my career POST: I have been a Pharmacy tech for years now and still am in school, doing pre-med now. Got a new job that will cover ALL pharmacy school expenses and will give me a stable and well paying job as soon as done. Or I continue with pre-med and become an MD, which I feel like I will love more, but still requires years and years... With both I am confident I will be good enough with studying, but one will be completely payed off and with the other I will need to take out a huge loan since I won't want to take away the time form my studies and work.

TL;DR: I want to be an MD and I need to know if I should go with pre-med and get a stable job. Which should I choose (25f) when it comes to my career? What should I choose (25f) when it comes to my career?

TL;DR: Is it better to be a pharmacist, or is it better to become an MD? Is it better to continue with pre-med and become a pharmacy tech? What should I do? How can I make my choice?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [25F] with my [28 M] boyfriend of 3.5 years - I'm incredibly jealous of his porn/nsfw browsing habits. JEALOUS because he'll get turned on by it then want to be intimate with me. POST: Not really sure what to say but I am really *jealous* I guess is the right word of bf's porn and Nsfw browsing habits. He will sometimes be in another room and open nsfw links or when I leave he browses stuff. I'm not comparing myself per se to the women and feeling bad that way, but I have an overwhelming sense of jealousy. It makes me uncomfortable knowing my bf looks at other girls and is attracted to other women. I know I should be fine with this but it makes me uncomfortable a bit, which is fine. BUT I CAN'T GET OVER IT. It's like an obessive negative obsession! he will sometimes browse nsfw posts on reddit...when I'm around him but in another room..just looking though not fapping. But even something simple as this bugs me. **I guess its just the fact that he's getting turned on throughout the day by various other women, nsfw pics, etc. and then wanting to be intimate with me later on in the day or he'll just grope me later on....but it makes me feel negative and i'm jealous and I get kind of mad sometimes.** How do I get over this. It's like a negative obsession I have. :(

TL;DR: I'm jealous of my boyfriend's porn/nsfw browsing habits. I'm jealous because he'll get turned on by it then want to be intimate with me later on. How do I get over it?

TL;DR: I am jealous of my boyfriend's porn/nsfw browsing habits. I'm also jealous of his porn/nsfw browsing habits. How do I get over this? How do I get over it?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: I think I may have a sleeping disorder, reddit please help me find an answer. POST: Whenever I do activities that don't involve much focus, I get extremely tired and have an almost uncontrollable urge to close my eyes and fall asleep. This happens when in church, in class and even when driving (only in low activity areas like driving between towns). I love going to church and listening to sermons but am unable to stay awake. I love to drive but again fall asleep. My classes are understandable because most of them are boring but I still have an almost uncontrollable urge to fall asleep. I am only tired when I do these things and as soon as I stop and do something that involves more focus or brain activity I am wide awake and couldn't fall asleep if I wanted too. I am a 21 year old white male, who sleeps for 8 hours every night. I have a sleep number bed that is only a couple months old. This has been happening since I was around 17. Is their anything that I can do? An actual diagnosis for this?

TL;DR: I get extremely tired when I do activities that involve more focus or brain activity, I fall asleep. I love to go to church but I am unable to stay awake. Is there anything that I can do to help me find an answer?

TL;DR: I get extremely tired and have an almost uncontrollable urge to fall asleep when I do activities that involve more focus or brain activity. I love to go to church but I am unable to stay awake when I do these activities.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Anyone know someone getting rid of a RV? POST: So my husband and myself will be doing a year long fundraiser, to help other diabetics Live the Cure, through an active and natural lifestyle. We will be climbing everyday for 365 Days across the US to do this. Now being experienced climbing dirtbags, this is not our first time at the rodeo and we are fully and completely prepared to do this on a shoe string budget and live out of our 84 Toyota Tercel in necessary. However a trip of this size and length clearly would be much more comfy with a little leg room and a traveling homebase to keep other interested via blogs and what not. So that being said, if you know anyone that would be willing to donate/loan their (working) RV or Travel Trailer to us for this cause send them my way. and just so you know I'm not full of shit. [LIVINGVERTICAL] If we weren't trying to make an impact on difference in the feeling of dread that accompanies a Type 1 Diagnosis and just wanted to climb everyday for a year for funsies, I wouldn't be trying.

TL;DR: We are going to do a year long fundraiser, to help other diabetics Live the Cure through natural and active lifestyle. Need help finding someone willing to donate/loan their RV/Travel Trailer to us for this cause.

We are going to be doing a year long fundraiser to help other diabetics Live the Cure through an active and natural lifestyle. TL;DR: Anyone know someone getting rid of a RV? Send them my way.

SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU-By browsing reddit at work and not being familiar with /r/creepy POST: So this actually just happened...I'm at work, obviously not being productive and browsing through reddit. I click a link that takes me to /r/creepy, a sub I haven't really looked at much. Apparently there's a small smudge on the screen when you browse that sub. I was not aware of this. Fuck up, initiated...I spend 5 minutes first using the old spit and fingerwipe, then full blown windex and towel to try and clean it. I figured since it wasn't dirty, the screen must be about to go out. Since this clearly was not my fault, I called my boss and texted her a picture of said smudge. They've already ordered a new computer, she's going to call her techie daughter to try and "fix" it. I shut down the computer and put it in her office, and just grabbed her laptop that she keeps in there to continue my browsing. Which leads me to go back to said page and see the smudge again. I've just realized I just got trolled by /r/creepy. I'm just really hoping her daughter doesn't use reddit very much :)

: I accidentally click on a link that takes me to /r/creepy, I click on it, it goes out. I'm at work, not being productive, and browsing reddit at work. I'm not sure why, but I'm just really hoping her daughter doesn't use reddit too much.

TL;DR: I was not aware of a small smudge when I was browsing reddit at work. I went back to the page and saw it again. She's going to call her techie daughter to try and fix it.

SUBREDDIT: r/self TITLE: To ignore POST: Today I realize something, I am ignored almost all the time, specially by women. It is not something new, I knew that, you talk to someone, and you never get an answer, or she only answer with monosyllable until you stop by boring. But as I told you, this is not the one thing I discover today. I guess than from their perspective is something like that: He only wants to fuck me, I am not interested in him, I have better candidates (I am not perfect as most of us, in my case I am not ugly but I need to lose 12kg) and I don't need a new friend so better to ignore him. As I really hate being ignored, without realizing, I completely stop to talk to girls, and in the last 5 month I almost hadn't talked to anyone. And this happen, a girl surprisingly makes up her mind to talk to me without any apparent reason, except that automatically I have assumed (as they assume men wanna fuck to every women they talk) that she is going to ask me something. Unconsciously I began to answer using only monosyllables and after 3 minutes she was asking something to me. I reject it, she was a little surprised I didn't accepted and after she insisted one more time I have answered that she wasn't interested really in how I am, or what I am doing right now, that she hasn't talked to me in months and that I have better things to do that spend my time helping someone that has ignored me all the time. She didn't know how to answer and I left so,

I fuck, I don't know how to answer and I quit talking to girls. I am not interested in him and I have better candidates. I am ignored, I am not interested in him, I have better candidates and I have better things to do.

I know what I am doing right now. To ignore? I start to ignore women, I give up on them, I refuse, she says that I am not interested in her and I don't know how to answer. I have been ignored all the time, and I don't know how to answer.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: How can my LDR boyfriend (31/M) and I (24/F) build trust after it's been broken?? POST: Basically...my boyfriend cheated, in my eyes. He got emotionally involved with an ex and I caught him. He was aware I was sensitive about this ex and he disregarded my emotions and continued talking to her in a sexual manner. He has said sorry and promised to stop contacting her and I think he has, to an extent. But he has moved away since for a new job opportunity and wants me to move with him when I'm done with school. Meanwhile I'm constantly worried he is being unfaithful....one of the conditions we made when resolving the lying with his ex was that he would be completely transparent and open with me about things. I thought over communication would help with our long distance and trust issues and he agreed. He promised he would talk to me about where he was and who he's with just so we can build trust and to include me in his day to day life. But he's not been as open as he said he would be. He withholds names (I think he thinks I'll freak if he's with a woman) but the fact that he's hiding things is what's bothering me. I just don't know how to stop jumping to conclusions after what happened between us.

TL;DR: Boyfriend cheated on me. He's been lying with an ex and I'm worried he's being unfaithful. How can we build trust after it's been broken?

TL;DR: My LDR boyfriend cheated with an ex and is now moving away for a new job opportunity. I'm worried he's being unfaithful and hiding things. How can we build trust after it's been broken?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me (20F) with my boyfriend (20M) will be moving in with 6 other people (20-21 M/F), how much PDA is acceptable? POST: This is just a simple question, nothing dramatic. My boyfriend and I have been dating 2 years and will be living together next semester in an 10 person flat. 7 of these other people are single women and 1 is a gay man. We're the only couple, and we don't know any of these people. My question is, how much cuddling is acceptable in common spaces? There are 10 tiny bedrooms so there is private space for cuddling and such, but would it be awkward to do that in common space? My boyfriend's pretty demonstrative and I'd like to know if this is something we should avoid. Obviously no sex will be occurring at all, the walls are thin. But should we keep our couple-y demeanor for behind closed doors? What about hugs and flirting? It may sound stupid, but from facebook stalking I've seen at least a couple of these girls post stuff about hating obnoxious couples. A couple are also very unhappily single based on their statuses, and I don't want to rub it in their faces. Is this a conversation I should have with my boyfriend before shoving him aside if he tries to go in for a kiss? Or am I overthinking things? What are the appropriate boundaries?

TL;DR: Moving in with 6 other people. How much cuddling is acceptable in common space? What are the appropriate boundaries? What are the appropriate boundaries? What are the appropriate boundaries? How much hugs and flirting is acceptable?

TL;DR: Moving in with 6 other people next semester, how much cuddling is acceptable in common spaces? What are the appropriate boundaries? What are the appropriate boundaries? What are the appropriate boundaries? TL;DR: I'm moving in with 6 other people, how much PDA is acceptable?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: My friend of two years just recently started ignoring me. Am I being paranoid? POST: I don't get this at all. We've been friends for two years. Simply put by being his friend I was in the cool crowd without having to be a total doucheface or anything. But that wasn't the reason I was his friend, it was cause we both played minecraft and toribash and both knew what a trollface was and shit, and we just tried to make eachother laugh. Lately though I've felt like he's ignoring me. We got put in seperate homerooms but we still see eachother in half the rotations. In math we were goofing around across the room with the whiteboards and markers that were supplied. We laughed a bit. And typically after school we'll talk on skype and play shit, and pause when we want to watch youtube or do something else. For the past few days we haven't been using skype. And just today when he was bringing a mutual friend over to his house, he decided to take another path, even though I could've walked with him as our houses are on the same path. Sorry if I'm sounding like a girl with all the complaining. I just want to be friends again.

TL;DR: My friend of two years just started ignoring me. We're in different houserooms and we're still playing minecraft and toribash. Am I being paranoid? I want to be friends again.

TL;DR: My friend of two years just recently started ignoring me. Am I being paranoid? Am I being paranoid? Am I being paranoid? What do I do? Am I being paranoid?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [21 F] having trouble trusting my boyfriend [21 M] POST: I recently found out that for a majority of my six month relationhsip with my boyfriend, he's been on and off chatting up other girls on facebook and okcupid. He says he never intended to cheat and that he couldn't have and what's more he says he realizes now that he loves me, he told me for the first time a couple weeks ago. He says he didn't realize what he had and he took me for granted. He says he doesn't deserve me but that he's so lucky I've forgiven him. He says he thought he doesn't deserve to be happy and that he was afraid to fall in love again. All he ever did was chat with other girls, flirt, and ask them to hang out or hookup. He hung out with two girls but says nothing happened and I completely believe him on that. I'm wondering if maybe it could be true that he was just cheating because he was scared of a serious relationship? I really want to believe he won't cheat again and he's completely changed in the way he treats me since he realized he loves me, but I've just heard so many stories about how people never really stop cheating. But he never physically cheated so I'm wondering if my situation is different? Any advice would be much appreciated! Thank you so much!

TL;DR: Boyfriend has been cheating for a while and I believe him on that. I have trouble trusting him on his behavior and I'm wondering if maybe he was just cheating because he was afraid of a serious relationship.

I completely believe him on everything he said. He never physically cheated. I'm having trouble trusting my boyfriend. He's been on and off chatting up other girls for six months. He says he never intended to cheat and he's not cheating again. Is this true?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [25F] with my fiancee[32M] adopting his brother anxiety POST: So, i'll try to make this as short as possible. My fiancee and I are planning our wedding in a few months and hope to be trying for a baby soon (like within the year). We both have decent jobs and live together. His 16 year old brother recently came to visit us because he lives with a relative (both parents passed away). Now he is saying they do not treat him fairly, he is uncomfortable there, etc. Naturally fiancee wants to help his brother and told me if anything he will take is brother and raise him. I know i sound self centered and i'm really trying not to be, because i know family comes first, but how can he make this decision that affects my life as well without consulting me? He never asked how I felt about it, or if i would even be willing to step in and help. I understand how he feels, and would do the same for a sibling in a heartbeat, but I would never just spring it on my partner like "take it or leave it". I think that is so effed up. Why should I have to put our plans on the backburner??? He is a great kid and it isn't anything personal, but we live in a cramped two bedroom one of which is currently being rented out, and the person is moving out soon, so we can prepare the room for future baby. Now it would essentially become his brothers room. I feel like what i want, and all of our plans are completely irrelevent and its his way or the high way. Please try to help me not see this as badly as I do, i know i sound horrible and self centered and I feel horrible about that, but i feel steamrolled by all of this!

TL;DR: fiancee wants to adopt brother of two years. He wants to raise him. I feel like we are in a bad place. I want to know how to get through it without consulting me. How can i help him?

. TL;DR: fiancee wants to adopt brother, but fiancee doesn't want to let him. How can i help him without consulting me? Is fiancee's brother being treated unfairly, and what should i do?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [F26] adopt a cat and one of my roomates [M25] turns out to be allergic, he wants me to get rid of the cat, i don't. What's our half way? POST: Me: [F26] Donald: [M28] Richard: [M25] As the title says, I [F26] adopt a cat one month ago. I've move out from my sister house (you could read it in my username) cause i'm bisexual, all of my family stop talking to me (till now) and i end up alone looking for an apartment. I ask one of my friends (let's call him Donald) to move out with me [M28] he's such a great guy, we found a great place but we needed another person to rent it, he ask one of his friends (let's call him Richard) to move in with us. The lease it's on my name. So we all move in together and everything was "fine" untill i adopt a cat. Her name it's Pippi and it's the best cat ever :) she's sweet and i feel so great when i'm with her, after everything i've been through it's soo great to get home with my baby girl :) Dick told me that he's allergic to cats so i left Pippi stay only in my room and never leave it, but yesterday he told me that he want's the cat out cause he can't take it anymore. I understand that he's allergic but my cat never leave the room, not even to poop (she has everything in my room) so i don't believe that she could create such a big problem if she never leaves the room. I don't wanna get rid of Pippi just because he ask me to, that's my house too, but i also don't wanna "put myself in that position" where it's him or my cat. Does anyone else knows any way we could solve this without get rid of my cat or him to leave?

I adopted a cat, one of my friends is allergic to cats, he wants me to get rid of her, i don't. What's our half way? How can we solve this without getting rid of my cat or him to leave?

TL;DR: I adopt a cat and one of my friends is allergic to cats, he wants me to get rid of the cat, i don't. What's our half way? What's our half way?

SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: Tifu by walking into the wrong room at work. POST: Obligatory, it didn't happen today (but around a month ago) and I am not a morning person. Interning at a company. One month in I had a meeting with my boss and his boss. We were to meet at 7 am. I usually get into work at 8:30 so 7 am was early for me (specially cause it's a 1 hour drive) I get to work at 6:50 and see my boss and he said go ahead into his boss's room (since he will be in the meeting late). I'm super tired and I walk into the room and wait. No one is in this room. 10 minutes pass, 20 minutes pass, and then 4 people walk in and I'm like finally (I have never met my boss's boss) and they all sit down and start discussing some project that makes no sense to me -- definitely not the project I was assigned. And I'm completely flabbergasted. I sat in that room for one and a half hours confused as hell. Finally the meeting ends and everyone starts asking me who I am, and I explain and then they tell me I got the wrong room. Completely embarrassed I leave and see my boss and his boss leaving the adjacent room. They ask where I was and I explain my story and they just laughed and said that I'll have a one on one meeting later this week since I missed the original meeting Kept my job, looked like a dumbass, all in a good day's work. It's been over a month and everyone in our department constantly remind me of this whenever I go into conference rooms or meetings.

I walk into the wrong room at work. It's been a month and everyone keeps reminding me of it. I walk in and everyone starts asking me who I am. It's been a month and everyone in our department reminds me of this every time I go into conference rooms or meetings.

TL;DR: I walk into the wrong room at work. Everyone starts asking me questions and I walk in. I get the wrong room. Everyone says I'm a dumbass and I walk in. I walk into the wrong room.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My girlfriend [23 F] of ~1 year needs to have a sexually open relationship and I [21 M] don't know how to handle it POST: My girlfriend I and Have been together since may of last year, and everything is going swimmingly, and at the beginning of our relationship (probably about 3 months in) she brings up that at some point we should have sex with other people. Didn't really think to much of it and said that we could talk about it when the time came. In my head I was thinking DOWN the road like 2-3 years in. Fast forward to saturday night when we are hanging out in her room and she brings it up again, only this time she says that it needs to happen soon. She explained that she LOVES sex and she is in love with me (the feelings are mutual) but that I cannot fully satisfy her sexually and she sometimes needs to go out and have sex with another guy/girl. She also explained that the way she views sex is that it is purely physical and that no physical attraction would get in the way of our relationship. I am honestly torn up about this... The idea of going out and being able to sleep with other people honestly is appealing, but at the same time I have never ever been in love and I feel like my heart can be broken easily as well as my ego getting in the way. I really want to be okay with this but I am having trouble with the whole idea. What do I do?

she says that we should have sex with other people but I don't think about it. I am torn up about it. I don't know how to handle it. I want to be okay with this but I don't want to be in love with this.

I was thinking about it for a while. She brings it up again but says that we should have sex soon. I am having trouble with the whole idea. What do I do? TL;DR: girlfriend of 1 year needs to have a sexually open relationship and I don't know how to handle it.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: Should I [21/f] ask my boyfriend [24/m] if he lied about something that happened in the past in our relationship? POST: We've been dating for 2.5 years and are getting pretty serious, but I believe that this thing happened in the beginning (four months in) of our relationship, and it just keeps bothering me. Basically my boyfriend told me he was going to be somewhere else, and I think he lied and went to go see this girl he used to have a lot of feelings for who just broke it off with her now ex. I asked him one night after we both drank a lot if he went to go see her and he said no. I'm pretty sure he lied about it, and I've been going back and forth for months about whether or not to ask him while we're both sober. I just can't get over the fact that he wasn't really committed at the beginning of our relationship, and if he really did lie, then this adds to the list of lies he's told me when Ive always been honest with him. I want to ask him because I'll finally be at peace with what really happened. I don't want to ask him because it is in the past, and I already brought it up once.

I want to ask my boyfriend if he lied about something that happened in the past in our relationship, but I can't get over the fact that he didn't really commit at the beginning of our relationship. Should I ask him?

I believe he lied about something that happened in the beginning of our relationship, and I'm having a lot of trouble getting over it. Should I ask my boyfriend if he lied about something that happened in the past in our relationship?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [24M] ex-girlfreind [28F] of 1 year (NC that entire year, dated for 2 years) randomly texted me the other day. POST: We've been broken up and absolutely no contact for a year when suddenly she texts me out of the blue that: " This guy at the fair I am at looks so much like you that it is crazy. The only difference is that he has a goatee. I am really glad you decided against growing it while we were together. This is why I told you it wouldn't look good on you." Then she attached a photo of the guy. He looks vaguely like me and the photo shows her posing with him at the fair. I texted her back immediately with " LOL. I am good at with not having grown it. You had a valid point." I attached a picture of me and then I asked her how she was with a simple " How are you doing? I hope you are well. It has been forever. " And she never responded. We both have iphones and I got a read receipt but she never responded back. We had a pretty emotional break up after she miscarried. I blamed her getting pregnant on purpose in the heat of the moment but later apologized. She attributed the miscarriage to the stress I caused her by throwing accusations at her but she later apologized for blaming me. It was a pretty mutual split and we both asked for quiet time to get over it. I'd like to know how she is but I don't want to push her to responding and it is so weird to hear from her after a year. How do I proceed? Can I ask her to catch up?

I sent her a photo of me and he looks very similar to me. She never responded. How do I get her to respond? Can I ask her to catch up? How do I get her to respond? What are my options?

I told her to avoid growing it while we were together. She never responded to me. I asked her to respond and she never responded. How do I proceed? Can I ask her to catch up? What do I do? What do I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [23M] want to buy important jewelry (Greek Lavalier) for my girlfriend [22F]. We've been dating a year and I can't afford it because of her metal allergy. POST: Hi, this is my first post to /r/Relationships! I have been dating my current girlfriend, who I met in college, for just over a year now. We have fortunately had a very strong relationship with few fights. To add a little background, I am a member of a fraternity in college, and I am graduating this semester. I understand this is a controversial topic, but please see me through. A tradition of greek life is to buy a girl who means a lot to you a "lavaliere", a piece of jewelry containing the greek letters. However, I am unable to completely afford this before I graduate. I have elected to buy her the necklace chain that this charm will go on. However, she has a metal allergy, which I have not had completely explained by her. From what I know, she is able to tolerate gold jewelry, but not gold plated jewelry. I don't want to ask her because I'd prefer to surprise her. What I am asking is, does anyone in this sub have any familiarity with this issue, and if so, what karat of gold is reasonable? Must I buy the most pure gold (24K, right)? Or can I skate by on lesser quality? I want to purchase this before I graduate in the next couple weeks.

TL;DR: I want to buy important jewelry for my girlfriend, but I can't afford it because of her metal allergy. She is able to tolerate gold jewelry, but not gold plated jewelry. How much gold is reasonable?

TL;DR: I want to buy important jewelry for my girlfriend because of her metal allergy. I want to buy this necklace chain, but I can't afford it. What karat of gold is reasonable? Or can I skate by on lesser quality?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My SO [25M] of 3 years just lost 3k on a real stupid purchase, now he's mad with me [23F] because I'm not being understanding enough? POST: He went and bought a motorbike without getting a mechanic to check it out. A week after he loaned $3000 to pay for it, something fucked up and he had to take it in. Turns out the stupid thing has a cracked head in the engine block and is a complete write off. Worth nothing. My boyfriend said he knew that he should've had it looked at before he bought it but he was impatient and just wanted it. The guy he bought it from doesn't want a bar of it (the transaction is done). So, I'm annoyed about the whole thing. I didn't go off at him whatsoever, but expressed that I felt disrespected, because he considered the risk he was putting both of us in (we share incomes), but went ahead with it anyway. Now he's pissed at me because I'm not being understanding and want him to find a way to fix the issue. He says that I'm getting angry. I thought I was just telling him how I felt.

TL;DR: SO of 3 years just lost 3k on a stupid purchase, now he's mad with me because I'm not being understanding enough. He says I'm angry. I'm not being understanding.

TL;DR: SO of 3 years just lost 3k on a stupid purchase, now he's mad with me because I'm not being understanding enough. I'm annoyed because I'm not being understanding enough.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [31/f] think i need to break up with the dude [29/m] i'm "casually" dating POST: I started "casually" seeing this guy, he warned me up front that he was going through the break up of a 4 year long marriage and it had only been a few months. Since he didn't really seem like someone I could see "long term" possibilities with I went with it anyways - he's cool and fun and that's all I wanted anyways. No rushin'. Since then I've developed feelings for him and he has been so great and cool about it all. He talks about me to his friends, we hang out with each others friends. Focus on not just having sloppy drunk sex, etc. Not really the stuff "casual" is made of. He has started counselling and is focusing on himself and doing everything right, that he should be at this point. I, on the other hand, am feeling like it's a really bad time to be falling for him. I don't wanna put pressure on him to have to take care of my feelings right now - I think it will just lead to me getting hurt. Not to mention getting in the way of where he's trying to go right now. The best thing I can think of is just pulling back and settling into just friends. Genuinely, without any ulterior motives. The problem is I don't know if i'd actually be cool with that - what if we are at a party with friends and he goes home with someone else? I'd be so bummed out. I try hanging out with other dudes too - but I just spend the entire time wishing I was hanging out with the person I actually wanna be making out with. Is there a way of being like "hey call me as soon as you are over being heart broken" ? Put him in my phone as "call him in 2017" ? Fake a "just friends" friendship till I make it (I'm sure i will - it's not been that long that I've had these feelings and I'll be fine) ?

I'm a really good guy and I think I need to break up with the guy I'm "casually" dating. I think i need to break up with him. I'm feeling like it's a bad time.

i want to break up with the guy i'm dating. He is focusing on himself. I want to stop hanging out with him. I think it's a really bad time to be falling for him. How do I do that?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23f] with [23m] 2.5 years LD. In what circumstances is it acceptable to go dark? POST: I've been dating my SO for 2.5 years, all long distance. I don't want to emphasis our issues as I've already made my decision. But I don't know how to execute. He's been emotionally abusive and manipulative to me for the last 6 months. It's become unbearable. He plays mind games. He's emotionally and physically cheated on me. He would ignore me for days, weeks as punishment. He would break up with me and when I would plead, he'd take me back. Long story short, it's a very unhealthy relationship. I've been through some traumatic experiences with men, particularly him. I'm wondering if it's okay if I just disappear. I don't have the courage nor the strength to officially end things with him. I will get pulled back in. He doesn't love me. He doesn't care about me. He just likes the affection, my attention, and the feeling of control. He wants me to chase. I quit. Is it okay if I just block everything without saying a single word about it? He would never come to look for me. He really doesn't give a damn. He's never come to see me. I'm the one who did the traveling. Last night, I got my clarity. He broke up with me again and recanted it. I told him okay and went to sleep. He texted me this morning with a cute message. I really don't want to respond. I know a lot of people on Reddit believe that's unfair and will tell me to "woman up" but I don't trust myself. I need help and I need to get away from him. I love him but he's toxic. He's toxic to me and I need out.

TL;DR: My SO has been emotionally abusive to me for 2.5 years. I'm a woman who doesn't want to end things with him. I want to quit. I'm a very strong woman. What is it okay to go dark?

TL;DR: I'm 23f with LD 2.5 years. He's emotionally abusive. I'm the one who did the traveling. I'm the one who did the traveling. I'm 23f and LD. What circumstances is it okay to go dark?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [M19] Going to dinner with my G[F20] and her family, am I supposed to pay..? POST: So my gfs family (4 people including the gf) is currently in town. She invited me over for dinner this weekend and we're going to this nice buffet restaurant which me and my gf love. Per person the price is around $30. So this is the first time I'm meeting my gfs family and I know its nice to pay for dinner. I would gladly pay but I absolutely do not have that kind of money. Me and my gf both go to college and I don't even have a job. My parents provide me with money and if they see me dish out $150 for one night they will literally kill me. What do I do? Do i pay for my own and let them handle theirs? Or do I just let her parents pay for everything (I'm sure they will offer to) Im so lost at what to do...

TL;DR: Going to dinner with my gfs family. I have the money to pay but I do not have it. Is it okay to pay for everything? or do i just let them handle theirs?

. going to dinner with my gf and her family. We're going to this nice buffet restaurant. I would like to pay but I do not have the money. What do I do? Or do I just let her parents pay for everything?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Having some conflict in deciding what to do with my best friend. POST: I've known this girl, I myself am 20 and she is 19, for quite some time now and we became friends very quickly. I've only recently begun to develop feelings for her, but it's been quite obvious to me for some time that she has had and now shares those feelings. I've really been trying to hide my feelings though because she; however, is in what her family, friends, and I call a terrible relationship. She no longer has any guy friends left because they were all scared off by this guy and she's trying her hardest to keep the fact that she's been talking to and hanging out with me on the regular a secret because she's afraid that he'll harass me or try and hurt me. Her sister and I are also starting to get concerned that the relationship might become physically abusive. I would like to specify that at this point it is only to the, best of my and her families knowledge, a verbally argumentative relationship, but she's told me it's been getting worse recently. And they have been dating for 6 months. I've never really been one to ask for advice, but I don't know if I should continue being passive and deal with the problems as they come or if I should just put myself out there? I'm just afraid if I do that I'll risk pushing her away and losing someone I consider to be my best friend. That's my conflict, I just want to know what you think and if I should do anything at all, I know this is a rather small bit of information to go on so any advice at all would be helpful. Thanks

I'm worried that she might hurt me or hurt me or hurt me, I'm just having conflict in deciding what to do with my best friend. What do you think? Is there a way to avoid pushing her away and losing someone I consider my best friend?

TL;DR: Girl I've been friends with for a while is in a terrible relationship and I don't know if I should continue being passive and deal with the problems as they come or if I should just put myself out there.

SUBREDDIT: r/running TITLE: Advice on upcoming Half Marathon: to run, or not to run? POST: I should really say run/walk, I am no where near advanced enough to simply "run". I'll try to stick to the "need to knows" and keep this short-ish... I trained last fall for a half marathon, I ended up not run/walking in the official marathon(financial issues) so instead went to a park where I normally do my thing, I ran/walked the 13.1 miles on my own(my time was 3:11:17). That was in October. November I barely ran (maybe 10 days total, including a 10k, but most of the other runs were 1.5-3 miles). I did not run at all in December or January, and I started running 2-4 days a week mid way through February and have been consistent with that up until last week when I dropped the ball(kind of messy break up). So I haven't ran any more that 3 miles since November, and am feeling really unprepared for this half marathon I am signed up for on March 11th. I have a friend who is amazingly supportive and wants me to go for it, but I just feel I am going to make a fool of myself(we have a 4 hour time limit) or worse, end up hurting myself. I know only I know my own body in the end, but with the information at hand, any advice, opinions would be greatly appreciated. I am teetering in the middle so I thought some advice from strangers that know something about running might be able to help.

I haven't run any more than 3 miles since November. I am feeling really unprepared for this half marathon I am signed up for on March 11th. Need advice on upcoming half marathon: to run, or not to run?

running 2-4 days a week since November, feeling really unprepared for the marathon I am signing up for. Any advice, opinions on upcoming Half Marathon: to run, or not to run? TL;DR: I am no where near advanced enough to simply "run", but I am not ready to go for it.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Hi reddit, new user! Please, I need some inspiration. What kind of observational/field studies pertain to internet censorship? POST: Hi reddit. Newcomer, here! I've been lurking for ages. Too long, in fact. So this was an excuse to change that because Reddit is the best place for this. My name was originally just to be quick, but now I'm going to continue with it! Here's the fuckin' deal. I am a college freshman currently taking English 102. My research topic is Internet Censorship. I'm supposed to do an observational study. I am allowed to use the internet itself, for example, a forum or, hell, even Reddit. Somebody viewed Occupy Wall Street for a paper about a person's voice in the world. Another person attended a lecture about Transcendentalism for her chosen topic of Thoreau. My problem, what the fuck can I do? I am at a complete loss for this. The stance I will be taking is AGAINST censorship of the internet. I've thought about pushing the envelope on a forum to see how much I can get away with before I begin getting censored Also, if internet censorship has affected you, whether financially, emotionally, or in ANY form, I would enjoy an email interview with you. I need interviews as well... SORRY for the wall of text. Be like Good Guy Greg and help me out, please! I will be in your debt forever. Thank you!

TTL;DR: New to Reddit, new to Reddit! I'm new to Reddit, need some inspiration. What kind of observational/field studies pertain to internet censorship? What kind of fuck can I do?

TL;DR: New to Reddit, new to the forum. What kind of observational/field studies pertain to internet censorship? How can I do something to help? What kind of fuck can I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: I know here on Reddit we know working in IT/Tech call centers sucks and the reps really aren't bad, but what is the worst experience you have had? POST: For me it was a few days ago. We use Comcast here (unfortunate but all we can get in our area) and the woman I had to talk to must never have touched a computer outside of work and talked out of her ass. Our internet was supposed to be about 25 MBS but we were getting 3-4 (used speedtest.net to check for a week). So after checking everything I called up to see what was going on/get a tech to come. The woman I got spend the first 15 min telling me everything was perfectly fine. After finally getting it through to her it was not she tells me that everything was fine with them and it HAD to be my wireless router. Best part? I don't use one. I'm hard-lined. I dont even have a wireless router IN MY HOUSE. She didn't care. It was my wireless router. THEN after another 20 min of finally explaining my setup she asks how I know its slow. I told her I did the check online to their server via speedtest. She told me that's not accurate and I NEEDED to use THEIR test. I did and it was at 2. WORSE than speedtest.net. She went back to its my wireless router I must be using. I then immediately hung up, called back and asked someone to set an apt for me for a tech. They transferred me to the department and after I explained my situation I hear 4-5 clicks and a "Oh yeah here's the problem, a tech can be there tomorrow at 2 to fix it for ya (it was their end, some type of signal problem.) Guy comes, 10 min later I'm good to go. I normally don't complain to supervisors but i called back with the her name and HAD to for the absolutely BLATANT ignorance and her not listening to a goddamn thing I was sayin

I hung up and got a tech to come to check. She said it was my wireless router. After 20 min of explaining everything I was doing I called a tech. She was ignoring me. I was told it was my wireless router. I'm a hard-lined woman.

they were ok and I didn't know it was my wireless router. I called to see if they were listening to my apt. She said it was not. She said its slow. I told her I need to use speedtest.net.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Girlfriend said she doesn't want to be exclusive, but begins treating me exclusively. Wat do? POST: Alright, so, **I've known this girl for about 3 and 1/2 years.** **I'm 21, she's 20,** both at the same college that we commute to, and live about 15 minutes away from each other. We went on dates on and off casually over time, and then **recently we made it official.** We are very natural together and are very easygoing with each other as a part of that. A couple weeks ago we had "the talk" and she said **she didn't want to be exclusive with me.** I said I was fine with that and she seemed pleased. Over the next few weeks though, **she began treating me more and more exclusively**, intentionally calling me her boyfriend, her other half, etc. We compliment each other very well, she enjoys my family, we have similar life goals, etc. She has plenty of other guy friends and I respect her and have no problem with that, I'm not overbearing or trying to control with whom she can or can't spend time. (She's not one to be pressured into things.) We've spent time together with her and her other friends and **I've had time to witness how she interacts with these other guy friends, definitely not the same way she treats me.** Then, **last Saturday things got a bit steamy,** if you know what I mean, and we ended up sharing our first kiss. After this, however, we had a dead time (just small communication), and didn't spend time together until today (A week later). It went alright and she assured me that things were still great between us, she just needed a little time after so many emotions. She held me close and looked me straight in the eyes as she told me this, as well as gave me a reassuring squeeze. (This is the kind of assurance I'm talking about.)

I'm very comfortable with her, she started treating me exclusively, I'm not overbearing or trying to control her. She continues to treat me differently. I'm not sure what to do. Is this a good idea?

I'm happy with that. She started treating me exclusively, and I respect her. We're not as close as we used to be, but we're very happy. We're very natural together and are very easygoing with each other.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [20F] with my girlfriend [21F] of 3 months, just found out she is an escort don't know what to do POST: Throwaway for obvious reasons. So I just found out that my girlfriend is an escort. Although we haven't been together for very long, things were moving fast. The past couple of days she has been rather distant, and vague about where she is. We are in a ldr but manage to see each other about once a week. The time we spend together is very intimate and we have great chemistry. I've never met somebody that I can laugh with and be myself around. However, the past couple of weeks I feel like our relationship has become more distant- only replying every couple of hours instead of minutes. Tonight my friend told me that they had found back page ads of her and some were recent, and the locations lined up with places she had told me she was at the time. However, I was told she was just visiting her friends- I didn't think anything of it. I'm sorry for this messy text post, my mind is kind of muddled right now and I'm unsure what to do. Do I tell her about the ads? I feel very hurt and confused about the whole situation because she truly did make me feel special and happy, but I don't think I can be with somebody who has hid something so (IMO) big from me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I'm at a loss right now. I have very bad trust issues and I was starting to fall very fucking hard for this girl and now I don't even know what to say or feel about this situation.

: Girlfriend is an escort. She has been distant and vague about where she is, and I feel like we're becoming more distant. What do I do? Is she still an escort? What do I do?

I'm very happy with my girlfriend, but she has been distant. I'm not sure what to do. I'm at a loss for what to say and feel about it. Thanks in advance. I'm very confused and unsure what to do.

SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice TITLE: She seemed so interested and couldn't seem to stop texting me. Now, the night we're supposed to hang out, she's suddenly MIA. What's going on? POST: I (25) met a girl (22) at a party. Basically, we hit it off. Starting texting constantly and found out how similar we are. We tried to meet up last weekend, but she got sick (actually got sick) and she seemed super bummed about having to skip. She says things to me like "I can't believe you exist", "I feel like I've known you a long time", "this is so exciting and scary at the same time", so I thought she liked me. Today, I ask her to meet up tonight and she seems excited and she'll keep me posted. I wait hours and hours, and text her "are you up for tonight?" with no response. I see she is liking photos on Facebook, so I know she saw it. What the hell? I'm actually angry right now. She would text me like, every day and if I ended a conversation she would text me again several hours later. I really like her, and I thought she really liked me. At 25, I'm able to tell when a girl is just being polite or if she actually likes you. Should I call her? Just move on without asking what happened? Should I lay it out (say "hey, that kind of hurt when you ignored the text to hang out, because you've really been giving me a different impression")?

TL;DR: Girl seems so interested and can't seem to stop texting me. She seems to like me. Now, she's suddenly MIA. What should I do? Should I just move on without asking what happened?

TTL;DR: Girl seemed really interested and wanted to hang out, but now she's MIA. What do I do? Should I just move on? What should I do? Or should I just move on? What should I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Choosing apartments - Living above a store/restaurant POST: Me and my girlfriend are planning on moving out mid-july to beginning of August. Finding the right place has really been a pain in the ass. It's only the beginning of the month, but we found two suitable places: Apartment 1: Looks recently renovated and very clean. The sinks and the appliances were very new. The landlord seemed very kind and caring about the building. However, one of the big drawbacks bugging me is that it's located above a store/restaurant. The entrance was separate, but around the corner in a weird spot. It's also a bit smaller than I wanted, and lacked storage space. There are no laundry facilities in the building but there is a Laundromat one only a couple blocks away. Apartment 2: This one was very large for a great price. Although do like it as well, my girlfriend is a little iffy about this one. Some things were a bit beat-up, mainly the hardwood floors. Older appliances but I don't mind. The landlord was kind but I'm not sure how well kept thing will be in the long run. The building in no way looked dirty, but it did look like things could be repaired here and there. There are a few small chips and cracks on the walls, which worries us because we live in a city where bedbugs roam. We worry about those and other bugs coming in that way. I do feel like our view of this one is skewed because we viewed it before they had a chance to clean and paint it. Our other option is to wait out for other units to become available elsewhere. I'm just afraid of leaving things too long as places have been snatched from me the same day I viewed them. Both places are in the area we like, but I feel like it's a bargain between new renovations vs. size. What do you think? Apartment 1 or 2? Or wait out for another option? Has living above stores/restaurants been a problem for anyone else?

TL;DR: Looking for apartment in an area we like, but I feel like we're being snatched from me the same day I viewed it. Buying apartments at the beginning of the month. Finding the right place is a pain in the ass.

Apartment 2: Nice and clean, but it's located above a store/restaurant. I don't like it. What do you think? Apartment 1 or 2? Or wait out for another option? What do you think?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: What will my [24M] relation be to my mother's [50F] soon to be child be [0 M or F]. POST: It sounds simple enough but it really isn't. I'll try to be brief. My uncle's girlfriend is going to be having a baby soon, and they aren't sure if it's his or not. Either way they can't afford to having another kid, so they asked my mother if she'd adopt him/her. She and her husband (my step dad not biological father) agreed. Which is great and we're all incredibly happy if it all works out! Now my question is what exactly will my relation to this kid be? If my uncle is the dad that makes him/her my biological cousin. If not then biologically I'm not related to this kid at all. So then the kid will be adopted by my mother and step dad, making the kid either my half brother or sister, but also my cousin maybe...? But either way he or she will be my adopted half brother or sister but also my cousin? But adopted and potentially biological? And isn't half brother or sister sharing one biological parent? I'm fairly confused. I'm just interested in know what exactly this kid's relation to me will be. Plus I have a fascination with complicated family ties.

TL;DR: My uncle's girlfriend is having a baby, and they want to have another kid. What will my relation be to this kid be? What will my relation be to this kid be? What will my relation be to this kid be like?

TL;DR: My uncle's girlfriend is having a baby soon, and they are going to be having a baby soon. What will my relation be to this kid be? What will be my biological cousin? And if so what exactly will my relation be?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Hey Reddit! What's your best Bachelor/Bachelorette Party Story? POST: Part 1 We were loading up at a nice bar before heading out to begin with the actual Bachelor's Party. Deciding to keep it safe, none of us had cars and would be cabbing it all the way. The problem is, 1.) there weren't many cabs passing our way and 2.) there were 20 of us. Then, after several minutes wait, a stretch limo comes out of nowhere and the driver sticks his head out and tells us "Need a ride fellas?" We book the driver and head out. Part 2 The Gentleman's Club was on the 4th floor, so we take the elevator up. The maximum number of people the elevator could carry was 20, which for some reason we found quite amusing. We tested it, squeezing into it one at a time. A beep was resonating, but it stopped. We thought we had succeeded. The elevator was slowly moving up, then for some reason someone decided to chant "20! 20! 20!" With fist pumps and joyous laughter and our new chorus of "20!" we were looking forward to the beginning of an epic night. When suddenly... "BAM". The elevator stops, right between the 3rd and the 4th... and it stays there for the next 2 minutes. Stuck. Eventually, the elevator makes it back down ever so slowly and we are asked to vacate the elevator which we slightly damaged and take the other. We take the other elevator and proceed with the festivities. END

We took the elevator up to the 4th floor. The elevator was slow, then it stopped. We were looking forward to the beginning of an epic night. How do you tell your best Bachelor/Bachelorette Party Story? TL;DR: The elevator stops.

TL;DR: I was rushing to get to the Bachelor's party, and I was excited. The elevator stopped, we took the other elevator and proceeded with the party. Is this true? If so, please share.

SUBREDDIT: r/loseit TITLE: Loseit, I am about to embark (pics). What tips do you have for me? POST: Loseit, I have for you a success story gone awry. In my sophomore year of high school, I finally realized I was fat. It had never occurred to me before until I saw myself in a video. I was 180 pounds. I was shocked by how obese I was. I decided to do something about it. I wasn't really sure how to go about it, but started watching what I ate, walking more, took a dance class or two, but didn't get really serious about it until just after high school. a It was the year after high school I became something of a gym rat. I got addicted to bike riding and would hit the gym every day without fail, just because of how good it felt. I lost a lot of inches (not much weight, what with building so much muscle from dance, running and biking, but I did go from a size 12-14 to a size 10. I was steadily making my way down to a size 8 and very happy with my progress and how great I felt. [Cue the "gone awry" part.] I moved to New York for volunteer work and (long story short) had a nightmarish experience. I gained so much weight that I am now the heaviest I have ever been in my life. I am at a size 14 and hate everything about that. I am shaking off some PTSD from my experience and I believe in order to be healthy again mentally, I need to lose all the weight I brought back with me. Help me, Loseit! None of my clothes fit! What tips do you have for a beginner in her early twenties who went from this confident girl: To this new frightened and unhealthy version:

I was a gym rat. I had a very difficult experience. I was a size 12-14. I am now a size 14 and I am a size 14 and I am still struggling to find the motivation to keep moving.

I was a gym rat. I was a size 12-14 and I am a size 8. I am now a size 14 and I am shaking off some PTSD. What tips do you have for a beginner in her early twenties who went from this confident girl: to this new frightened and unhealthy version:

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How do I go about fixing my (20f) relationship with my boyfriend (20m)? POST: I've been with him for a year and a half and we live with his mother in his family home. Lately he hasn't been putting much effort into us. I'm always the one making plans, only little things, like dinner or a picnic, ect. We don't have sex regularly and that's a common argument starter and that's been going on since last July. I've talked to him about it a few times, just to let him know how it makes me feel. He tries to assure me that it has nothing to do with me, and that he finds me attractive (which I think he does, I get a quick frisking now and again :P) It was my birthday a few days ago and we started making out and he just turned away. He said he didn't want it to 'lead anywhere'. I almost left him that day because that rejected feeling is just unbearable. I don't want to pressure the guy because it would just scare me the other way round, but on the other hand it's just been pecks and cuddles for a year. He mentioned that if I dumped him I'd lose my job, which I would, I work for his father. For him to bring that up when I was upset scared me a little. I just feel lonely. I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I've asked, he says he's just being 'spacey' or he's in a bad mood. Obviously I love him, I've never loved anyone like I do him. He's a kind guy, and he's very protective of me. What do you suggest I do to try and help this relationship out?

TL;DR: Boyfriend turned away from me for a year and a half, I'm lonely, I'm worried about him being'spacey' or being in a bad mood. What do I do?

TL;DR: Boyfriend has turned off plans for a year and a half, I'm lonely and I'm scared to leave him. What do I do? If he's in a bad mood or I'm being'spacey' I don't know what to do.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: How do I build credit while avidly living within my means? POST: Currently, I only have one source that will add to my credit score which would be my student loans. I live within my means as best I can, I drive a beater ('93 honda) that I paid cash for, I dont buy many games(League of legends + <$15 steam sale games), I dont have a large wardrobe, my only 'luxury' item is my gaming computer which I put together myself for less than 1k, I go out to eat maybe once a week with a group of friends. I dont have a credit card, strictly debit card. I'm really just wondering how I can build a credit rating for when I want to buy a house when I already have financial responsibility and save before buying something and knowing what I can/cant afford.

TL;DR: I live within my means, I dont have a large wardrobe, I do not have a credit card, I dont have a credit card, how do I build credit while living within my means? TL;DR: I have no credit card, how do I build credit while living within my means?

TL;DR: I live within my means, I don't have a credit card, I don't have a credit card, I dont have a credit card, I dont have a credit card, I want to build credit while living within my means.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [21M] with my girlfriend [21F] - LDR for 3.5 years, we've never fought before POST: Hello /r/relationships! I'm afraid I don't have anything dramatic to entertain you with, just some minor nagging questions I'm looking for some advice on. Some background: I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 3.5 years. We started dating right before we both left for university about 7 hours apart. Although long distance hasn't been much fun, we do our best to see each other as much as we can during the summer and winter breaks. The relationship is great, minus the distance -- I feel like I love her more and more every day, I've never felt so connected to someone else in my life. Someday down the road, I think I'd like to ask her to marry me. Here's the thing: it almost seems *too* perfect sometimes, you know? We have never had a fight, not even a small one, and I can't help but worry about it sometimes. It's probably silly, but I don't know if we're just really good at preempting conflict or if we just naturally always get along or if it's a "calm before the storm" situation or what. Hopefully, we'll be able to move in together in about a year, and I just wonder if suddenly everything will be different. I mean, it will be, obviously, but what if we're not as good at living together as we are at living apart? So basically, I'd just like to hear from others who've been in peaceful relationships and/or long-term LDRs and how those turned out when the distance dropped to zero.

I'm in a great relationship with my girlfriend and I'm really happy with it. I'm not sure if we're really good at avoiding conflict. What if we're not as good at living together as we are at living apart?

TTL;DR: LDR for 3.5 years, never had a fight before. How do we get along and avoid conflict? How do we deal with it? What do we do? What do we do? What are our tips?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [19 M] and this girl [20 F] are into each other and about to date , but I suspect she's been lying to me about sex. POST: I've been talking with this girl for a few weeks now (I'll call her Sarah) at school and we've already established that we like each other, we've hung out a couple of times and we've kissed before, but something's been bothering me. She claims that she hasn't had sex since last year and she has told me that she doesn't talk to any of her exes, but two of my friends have told me on separate occasions that she talks about how she regularly has sex with her ex. I confronted her about this, and she adamantly denied, saying that she doesn't talk with her exes and that she definitely hasn't had sex with anyone in over a year. She went the whole nine yards with "you should trust me over other people" and all that. I chose to believe her and was happy for a week or two, until one of my friends told me that Sarah told her that she straight up lied to my face about the sex issue. I confronted her once again about it and she again denied everything and said that I need to trust her over listening to other people and was pretty upset about it all. She is asking me how she can prove that she hasn't had sex. Now I know my two friends who told me she said these things have no reason to lie to me, but I also feel that she doesn't (or shouldn't at least) have a reason to lie to me. We've been pretty open about our sex life before. I'm torn between who I should listen to, because there's no way to actually prove if she's been having sex or not. Talking with any of her exes is out of the question. I desperately want to believe her but it seems fishy that two separate people would give me the same story on her. If she has been having sex with her exes while admitting her feelings for me, then that's obviously not someone I want to be involved in a relationship with. Now she is asking me how she can prove she is telling the truth, and I have no answer for her.

I can't believe her. I want to believe her but I'm confused. She's asking me how she can prove she's been having sex. I have no answer. I'm confused. I need to trust her over listening to other people.

she told me that she hasn't had sex since last year and I believe her, but I'm upset. I want to believe her but I don't know how to prove she is telling the truth. I don't know if she is lying to me or not.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [28 M] with my fiance [27F] of a year, I feel like my school obligations are affecting our relationship. POST: I'm studying engineering, on my second year of a four or five year degree. Engineering is not an easy major and on top of that I'm also working as a lab tech, a tutor, and participating in a NASA competition/scholarship. As you can guess, I'm a busy guy and even when I come home for the day, I typically have work to do until 6-8pm. I do my best however to make sure that my Friday evenings and all day Saturday are free for me and my fiance to spend time together. Even when I'm working in the evenings it's not like we're very far apart, we have an open concept apartment and I'm typically just ten feet away at the kitchen table doing my thing while she watches TV in the living room. We're even going camping next weekend because I wanted to spend more time with her. Even then, she *constantly* pesters with questions about my progress. Every ten or fifteen minutes she'll ask me where I'm at and how much farther I have to go. It breaks my concentration and I feel guilty when I take a break and don't want to sit with her and watch netflix, I just want to play a little CS:GO or maybe take the dog for a walk. Today, after the fifth time of her asking me what problem I was on in my programming homework I kinda snapped and told her, in a raised but not yelling voice, "I have a shit ton of homework, I always have a shit ton of homework, and you asking me how much more I have to do doesn't get it done any faster!" I know that wasn't the right thing to do but I'm just tired of her questioning, it makes me feel like I'm lazy or not working hard enough for her, and I already have enough pressure to perform from myself and school. I know I need to make some changes but I'm not sure what those changes should be.

I feel like I'm lazy or not working hard enough for my fiance and she keeps asking me how much more I have to do and I feel like I'm not doing my best. What do I do? I'm tired of her questioning and it's making me feel like I'm not working hard enough for her.

I'm a busy guy and I feel like I'm not doing my best to get my work done. I'm tired of her questioning, I'm not sure how to fix it. What should I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How do I tell my boyfriend that his friends are a bad influence on him? POST: Background: I'm 21(F) and he's 25. He moved in with his old college room mates about a year ago, and they're a terrible influence on him. Before he moved in there, he used to go to the gym regularly, eat well, and go to church. Since he's moved in with them, he's gained about 30 lbs. To be fair, I've gained weight as well since we started dating, but it's mostly because I started at a University with a meal plan, and later on I could only afford cheap, less-healthy food. I've been trying to work with him constantly for both of us to go to the gym more, eat better, and go to church together. He ends up going out to eat way more than he should (his friends all have good paying jobs and don't really care about their health, while he's still looking for a job in his field of study), and is just generally negatively affected by the environment. I like the person he is when we're alone a lot better than him around his guy friends. It seems like he just makes a lot of poor choices around this group. I don't know how to go about telling him this...I know guys can be sensitive when it comes to their friends, though he already knows I don't like his friends. They give me a hard time a lot and tend to make me feel like crap- they've actually reduced me to tears a few times. On that note- they're about 70/30 as far as being jerks goes. Maybe 1/3 of the time they're actually decent to me, but I mostly end up feeling belittled and uncomfortable- it's a lot like High School. I've talked to him about this multiple times, and he says that A) I need to stand up for myself, and B) I need to let him know when I get upset, because he genuinely doesn't know what's making me upset, or what they say that sets me off. So, suggestions for how to bring this up with him?

TL;DR: boyfriend's friends are terrible influence on him. I've tried to work with him to get him to eat better and eat well, but I'm still disappointed. How do I tell him this?

I'm trying to work with him to make us more healthy, but he's just making poor choices around his friends. I'm not sure how to tell him. Is it really necessary to tell him? How do I tell him this?

SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by having my friend change one word in a document POST: So since it's hack your school network week I figured I'd make my first post this. This happened last year and there is a little backstory . My school has a gaming club and they download computer games (illegally) and put them on a folder in the commons folder on our schools network. So any ways me and my friend would always go to his moms room (she is a computer teacher and has a bunch of computers and let's us on our phones and shit). We on occasion would play games from the gaming club folder until one day all the games were deleted because they were pirated but they left a note saying why they were deleted. Here is the FU.anybody is able to edit the document so I tell my friend "hey you should change one word."(badass right). He agreed to do it and changed. 2 days later the gaming club lady is at his moms room pissed off. When he changed the word it apparently said he created the document. Anyways she had our IT guys inspect every computer to see what actually happens and then proceeds to tell us "this is what happens to my gaming club when kids decide to hack the school server". needless my friends mom was really pissed when we told her what actually happens

TL;DR: friend and I would change one word in a document. gaming club lady is pissed off when we tell her what actually happens to my gaming club when kids hack the school server. TL;DR: friend changed one word in document and it was deleted.

TL;DR: My friend had me change one word in a document. This was an FU. I tell my friend hey you should change one word in a document. TL;DR: My school has a gaming club and they download computer games and put them on a folder in the commons folder on our schools network.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: Am I being a bad person? POST: Trying to keep this short, also apologies for spelling as this is all off my poor Nokia phone! Basically, I (18) met a girl on okcupid (22) . I have been on 4 dates with this girl and we got on great from the start and by the second date were acting as if we were a couple almost, the hand holding, kissing, cuddling etc. The problem is I have recently realised as much as i do like this girl the chemistry isn't there for me. Im not how i have been in previous relationships where at the beginning i cant stop thinking about them, or i skip a beat when her name appears on my phone ect. Now, i can tell this girl likes me alot and she has said so herself, and i worry that by continuing to see her (even though i do enjoy it and want to continue) , i may be misleading or leading her on as she may continue to like me more whereas i dont see my feelings increasing for her and i feel maybe i am simply continuing to see her as i don't have a lot of friends due to moving house alot, and i like having somebody to spend my weekends with. So is it wrong or if were both having fun should i let it continue?

TL;DR: I have been in a good relationship with a girl and i am not sure if i am being a bad person or if i am leading her on. TL;DR: I have been on 4 dates with a girl and i like her alot.

TL;DR: Met a girl on okcupid. We got on great from the beginning, i like her but i dont know if i am being a bad person or am i leading her on?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Reddit, urgently need your help. POST: Okay so my friend got her phone stolen, Iphone 4s, to be specific. that shit is obviously expensive as fuck so you can imagine her anger right now. We've got an idea as to who it is who stole it. You know, those gangster-wannabes-who-nobody-in-the-school-has-respect-for type? Yeah so, this isn't the first time they've stolen a phone, and they plan on selling it, like the other phones they've stolen. So these guys are two years older than us, but we've got a friend -let's name her Laura- whose boyfriend is in that group. She keeps feeding my friend all this bullshit that her boyfriend fed her about supposedly not ever having it. Also stuff about how they "picked it up but then put it back down because it was too heaty" But as another of my friends passed by -let's call this one Caroline- they told her to tell Laura that they don't have it anymore. She left her phone on the bench in the gym for *less* 5 minutes before realizing that she didn't have it, and when coming back, it wasn't there. There's no way that they picked it up, put it back down and some other people came and stole it in those few minutes. There were plenty of people in her P.E. class scattered in that whole area and there must have been *someone* who saw them take it. So I really shortened the story because I've forgotten a lot of the details, but that's the main idea. She keeps trying to call it but it always seems to be turned off so she can't use that tracking app either. It's also possible that they've already sold it, but we're hoping they haven't. She's gone to the vice-principle but he says he can't do anything unless she has evidence, but clearly she can't prove much. So I'm asking you how to handle this situation?

TL;DR: My friend got her phone stolen, some of our friends got it stolen, and I'm not sure how to handle this. How do you handle this situation? Is it a good idea to tell someone?

I'm a gangster and have a friend who got her phone stolen, they're not going to sell it. I'm not sure how to handle it. Need help. Need your help. TL;DR: My friend got her phone stolen. They're not going to sell it. How can she handle it?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: 24F: 26M boyfriend wants to reconnect with the girl he was seeing when we started dating? POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. When we started dating he was seeing multiple people. He ended it with them about a month and a half into our relationship. I never knew he had been seeing other girls until months later. It has been a source of pain for me in the relationship (our first kiss or date don't feel special knowing he was sleeping with someone else the night before) One in particular, he has built a bit more with. They dated about a month. When he ended it with her she was very hurt, which suggests that there are unresolved feelings on her side. They did not know each other prior to dating, and have not spoken since. We are moving overseas in a month. My boyfriend has decided to go for drinks with this girl to say goodbye. He has expressed a desire to tell her what he is up to because she would feel proud. He also said that although he has no romantic or sexual feelings, he still feels emotions for her. I am very uncomfortable with this. I dont understand why it is important to say goodbye to a closed chapter that he hasn't spoken to in over a year. I am uncomfortable with the fact that his train of thought was how proud she would be of him. I suggested either emailing/phoning her, or me being introduced to her before they go out, but he turned down both of this options, saying he wouldn't want to put her in the awkward position of meeting the girl he left her for (even though she never knew he left for another girl). Shouldn't my own uncomfortable position be taken into account? Any input would be greatly appreciated. The fact that we are moving makes any red flags even more important so that I don't make a mistake.

boyfriend wants to reconnect with the girl he was seeing when we started dating. I am uncomfortable with the fact that he is not fond of her. I suggest either emailing/phoning her, or I being introduced to her before they go out.

TL;DR: boyfriend wants to reconnect with the girl he was seeing when we started dating. I am uncomfortable with the fact that he is not a romantic or sexual person. Should I take this into consideration? Should I be uncomfortable?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [26m] have been with my fiance[24f] for a couple years now and I need some serious help! POST: So my fiance is donating her eggs and is really fertile from all the hormone shots and me being a guy get really horny still. So she said it was fine if I look at porn and take caren of my own business. Porn does not do much for me and seemed out a different method and landed on tinder to just flip through the pictures and send a few messages but never planned on meeting up with the girls just the few messages and be done with it. I guess its a self conscious kinda thing and it makes me feel good being seen as attractive to someone. She found out and got mad and wanted time alone to think about things. She goes out and doesn't return till 1:30am and stays up on her phone for a little before going to sleep. Me being the nosey idiot looks at her phone and sees she saw another guy. What do I do?!? I love her more than anything is the world and dont want to lose her.

TL;DR: Been with fiance for a couple of years and she is pregnant. She is a guy and I want to be more like her. Is it worth it to just take care of myself? Help!

TL;DR: I have been with my fiance for a couple years now and I need some serious help! I have been dating her for a couple years and I love her more than anything in the world and dont want to lose her.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Drama with my BF's roommates POST: My boyfriend lives with four other guys, one of whom he shares a room, Max. A few days ago, we got into a heated argument that almost resulted in us breaking up. We didn't because most of the issues we have are because of Max, a 22 year old stoner who spends the majority of his day playing video games. Max does not have a job, go to class, and lives off of his parents money, most of which goes to weed and eating out. Because of Max's influence, my boyfriend has started gaming and smoking more. At Max's request, I've stopped coming over as much and doing certain things that bother him, such as coming in from the backdoor, knocking on the window to have someone unlock the door, bringing over extra changes of clothes, etc. All of these requests are reasonable enough but they have brought stress onto my relationship nonetheless. Other than that, we get along OK. While my boyfriend and I were fighting, I called Max "a useless piece of shit." It was unnecessary and I certainly regret it, but it was honest. However, though we were outside, one of my boyfriend's other roommates overheard when he came to smoke a cigarette and told Max what I said. My boyfriend isn't asking me to apologize to Max, but obviously that's what he would like me to do. So here's my issue: I don't mind apologizing to Max but I feel like the informant roommate shouldn't have said anything to Max in the first place. My words weren't meant for other people and the other roommate knows that Max and I get along for the most part. Do I have a right to be angry at the other roommate?

I apologized to Max for calling him "a useless piece of shit" while fighting. I'm not sure if I should apologize or apologize to Max. Do I have a right to be angry at the other roommate?

TL;DR: I called my boyfriend's roommate "a useless piece of shit" while fighting with my boyfriend. The informant roommate told Max what I said. Is it okay to be angry? What do I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice TITLE: Babysitter negligence.. Criminal? POST: I have two small children, ages 2.5 years (Liam) and 7 months (Emma). I have a big problem. There was a death in my family and I had to travel several hundred miles because of this with very little notice. Long story short, I ended up leaving my kids with my trusted sitter (we'll call her "Mary") for the ~48 hours I had to be away. I felt like that was best for them under the circumstances, but it turns out I was very wrong. Shortly after I had picked up my children, I come to find out that Mary had apparently managed to enjoy a date night while my kids were in her care. The only thing I know for a fact is that she left my kids for at least an hour (probably longer). I don't know where she left them. I don't know with whom she left them. I also have no evidence against her, other than the word of a friend and a Facebook post. Additionally, Liam was extremely hungry and thirsty, and they were both incredibly exhausted. I am not exaggerating when I say that I am very concerned that they had not eaten or slept even remotely enough since I dropped them off. Obviously, I feel like this is totally unacceptable, if not criminal!! I don't know what to do and I am very upset! I need advice. Is there really nothing that I can do from a legal standpoint? Also, if I spread the word about her negligence, could that hurt me down the road? Defamation or something? I feel strongly that I cannot just let this go! Please note that Mary has watched my kids at least a dozen times, and I've been completely satisfied with their care up until now. Needless to say, I will never consider leaving my kids with her again. I am located in North Carolina, United States. Sorry for the novel. If there is a more appropriate sub for this, please let me know if I'm in the wrong place. Thank you guys in advance.

I have no evidence against my trusted sitter. Is this criminal? Is this really unacceptable? What to do? Also, if I spread the word about her negligence, could that hurt me down the road? Thank you.

I had to leave my kids with my trusted sitter. I am very upset, and I want to know what to do. Is it criminal? If so, how do I stop? What can I do? What can I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [18/f] boyfriend [24/m] is a magician. He did the "kiss trick" on another girl. POST: I have been with my boyfriend for almost a full year now. We are so incredibly close and have spent nearly every single day together. I have never been so close with someone, even past people I was in love with. Anyway, he has a pretty cool job - he is self employed, and does magic for weddings and restaurants and corporate events - classy, adult close up magic. None of that bunny in the hat stuff. He is young and very very cute, tall, and gets a lot of girls giggling and winking at him, which I understood when entering the relationship was part of the deal. He used to do this trick, which he once did on me when we first met, called the kiss trick. Where he pretty much puts a card in his mouth and another card in a girls mouth, they kiss, and then the cards are switched. He's asked, and I've told him, this is not okay with me. He can flirt for tips all he wants but kissing crosses the line. He has plenty of other tricks. Hundred of them. He agreed. However, a week ago he was doing a wedding and ended up going a kiss trick on a bridesmaid who asked him to, who had seen the trick done by another magician before. He told me and was honest but I can't help feel betrayed and upset. We agreed on this from the start :/ I love him and have no desire to leave him but want to handle this in a way that shows how serious I am. Please help.

TL;DR: My boyfriend is a magician and does a trick on a girl. I love him and want to deal with this in a way that shows how serious I am. I love him and I don't want to leave him.

TL;DR: My boyfriend is a magician. He did the kiss trick on another girl. I love him and don't want to leave him. I want to handle this in a way that shows how serious I am. Please help.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: how do I get this girl's number POST: So last friday, when i got off work, a girl stopped her car near me and offered me a ride. It turned out that she lived near my place and often saw me waiting for buses. I was kinda surprised and didnt get a chance to ask for her number on the way home (the ride was about 15mins), but we did have an enjoyable conversation. When she was dropping me off, she told me that she's moving to somewhere else and this was prbly the last time she d give me a ride(also the first time :S). After that I rlly regret not getting her number...I spent 2 hours on facebook trying to search her profile (I at least got to know her name obviously...), but it doesnt seem like she has one. BUT this morning, I saw her getting off the car near my workplace, it turned out that she just works across the street! What a coincidence! But as I was already 20mins late for work, I was in such a hurry, didnt get a chacne to ask her num. Now, at work, I ve been thinking for whole day what I should do to approach her. Should I wait for her after work and start a convo? Or should I leave a message that has my number on it and have "text me :)" written on it? This could be big for me. She is a white girl and I'm azn, and u guys can prbly already tell english isnt even my first language.

got her number, didnt get a chance to ask for her number, i guess I should try to get her number at work. How do I get her number? TL;DR: I'm azn and I don't know what to do.

didnt get a chance to ask for her number. I ended up getting a ride home. I did get a chance to ask her number and I didnt get a chance. What should I do? How do I approach her?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [22M] am talking to a girl [22F] long distance. Need advice on if I should move forward with this. POST: Hi, this girl and I, let's call her Jen, know each other from mutual friends. She's coming up on her last year of undergrad, and I recently started my first year of graduate school. We go to different schools in the same state, but the schools are roughly on opposite ends of the state. We talk pretty much every night, and we have a lot of things in common. There really isn't much else to say, as this is pretty straightforward, but I was wondering if other people have been in my position and have any ideas on whether or not I should move forward and act on this situation?

TL;DR: I'm talking to a girl [22F] long distance. Need advice on if I should move forward with this. Need advice on if other people have been in my position and have any ideas on whether or not I should move forward with this.

TL;DR: I'm talking to a girl long distance. Need advice on if I should move forward with this. Want advice on whether or not I should move forward. TL;DR: I [22M] am talking to a girl [22F]. Need advice on if I should move forward with this.

SUBREDDIT: r/travel TITLE: So we booked our flights to Ireland... and now we're panicking... help? POST: Well story goes like this. Partner and I have been to Dublin several times to see friends and have a few parties, and were always told how theres some fantastic sights to see in Ireland if we ever managed to get across for a break (Blarney castle, Galway, Giants Causeway, etc). So when it came around to looking at holidays for this summer, we figured we'd give it a shot, do our own thing instead of a tour, and booked ourselves some flights... ...but we've come to a bit of a block. Pretty much all the car hire companies specify that we need to have had a licence for 8 years, and be over 25 if we want to hire a car. I'm 26, but only have a couple of years, and she's 23, but has 7 years. So unless we're willing to start selling some organs, we cant hire a car. That leaves the public transport. But from what we can see, while the major towns are connected, to get to a lot of the best bits, you need a bit more freedom, which buses and coaches don't seem to offer. Well if we'd known this was going to be such a problem, we could have brought our car over. Problem solved. But the wonderful setup at Ryanair means that if we want to cancel our tickets, we're looking at about a £160 bill!! (They charge £40 per person, per single trip)

partner is 25 but has a licence for 8 years, and I'm 25. Now we cant hire a car. We cant. Help? We're worried. We booked our flights to Ireland and now we're panicking.

partner is 25 but has only a few years. So we booked our flights to Ireland, and now we're panicking. Help? TL;DR: We booked flights to Ireland, and now we're panicking... help?

SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice TITLE: [32/M] Hi... need help with an engagement idea. POST: I love my girlfriend been with her for 4 years and the time has finally come. Unfortunately I suck at planning and to be honest I see this as more of a bigger moment for her than for me so I'm not entirely too picky about how I do this. All I know is originally I wanted her friends to be around when i do this and selfishly I want to do it at the beach. The 2 things i love in this world, my girlfriend and the ocean. I'd love to have her friends there when i do it as well, but i called around to a few restaurants and to be honest I wouldn't be able to afford the expenses for a large party. Can you help me figure out how to do this? How can I get her to the beach without being obvious? Any ideas on how I can have her group of friends be there even though I can't afford dinner reservations at any restaurants on the beach? I was hoping her friends could record it. I don't mind it being just her and I, but how what would be a reason we go to the beach since she rarely goes? At least if we were meeting her friends up for dinner that would be easier to sell. Either way the go date is 8/8 so hopefully ill come up with something instead of dropping on one knee in her living room in our pj's lol. Thank you in advance. =]

TL;DR: I want to have my girlfriends friends at the beach, but I can't afford dinner reservations at any restaurants. How do i get her friends to be there without being obvious? How can i get her to the beach without being obvious?

TL;DR: Looking for ideas on how to get my girlfriend to the beach without being obvious. I'm a single mom and want to be with her for the first time in 4 years. Need help with an engagement idea.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: What are some services that aren't offered that you wish were? POST: I have kind of a unique dilemma that a service, in my opinion, a lot of people would use, would solve. I wish I could buy subscriptions to specific television channels and stream them on my smart television via an application or stream on a computer or mobile device. This is why...I live on Indiana University's property. They have the most shit standard definition cable ever and it blows. It only has very basic channels. When I asked if I was allowed a cable box, I was told that in the rules and regulations that it clearly states that anything of the sort would be considered a violation of the other tenants' rights to health and safety. Consequently I have to buy each episode of The Walking Dead on Amazon Instant when it becomes available the next day and will have to soon for Game of Thrones. Some say we should pirate them. That would work if their internet security system wasn't so thorough. It tells me when my Java is out of date...I'm pretty sure they could catch me stealing and do something irritating to us school-wise.

TL;DR: I live on Indiana University's property. I wish I could buy subscriptions to certain television channels and stream them on my smart television. What are some services that aren't offered that you wish were?

TL;DR: I wish I could buy subscriptions to certain television channels and stream them on my smart TV via an application or mobile device. What are some services that aren't offered that you wish were? What are some services that you wish were.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [15M] with my Friend [15F] 9 months , she wants the D? POST: This girl and I have been friends since September (The beginning of the school year). And like many friendships it gets stronger within the first 2 months of knowing each other she friend zones me. I go along with it at the time i really wasn't into her. towards the beginning of the school year she kinds gave me her number in a friendly way. About 3 months later she brother zones me. now at that time i was into her, throughout our friendship i always hinted that i wanted to be more than friends. let me explain her to you. she is pretty popular she was a freshman and she went to prom with a senior and she has always been in a relationship with someone.she has a lot of guy friends and she always showed more interest in them than me. she was liked when i walked her to class but when she saw another guy friend she would hug them and stuff like that. at the time she never showed an interest in me.on the other hand i have never been in a relationship before i have never liked a girl so much i wanted to date her until now. there was other girls throughout the year that plainly told me they liked me a lot but i felt like they weren't worth my time. now back to the story she always considered me as a friend the whole school year. but a few days before school was over. she showed an interest in me, she started saying she would miss me a lot and she just started hugging me every chance she got. me liking her i went along with it. she says she wants to hang out this summer and i want to also but thing thing is i don't know how. where im stuck at is if she wants to hang out like friends or start dating because of previous behavior im confused.

I was into her, but 3 months later she brother zones me. I really like her, she is pretty popular. I like her, but i don't know how to get her to hang out like friends. TL;DR: I am not sure if she wants to hang out like friends or start dating because of previous behavior.

TL;DR: Girl who has been a friend since September. She started hugging me every chance she got. I really liked her, now she wants the D? she wants to hang out like friends or start dating because of previous behavior.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: I'm (25/F) starting to date a guy (27) and I don't want to make the same mistakes POST: Here's the story: We met 6 years ago at his ex's house, who I was staying with because she's my dear friend. For all that time we liked each other but never did anything about it 'cause it'll feel weird. Last friday, my friend (his ex) was hosting a party and she invited us. She kept saying all night how cute he thinks I am, how he always talked fondly about me and what not. At the end of the night, she made us kiss and so we did. After that our whole relationship changed and my enormous crush on him was out in the open having a blast. We kissed 'til the morning light. He's sweet, sensitive, smart, funny and I spend the best time with him. The thing is that I broke up a 2 year relationship with a guy 5 months ago because of the distance and loss of interest. When I say lost of interest I mean I lost all interest because he was 28 with no job and no degree and no nothing, I wanted to get married, have a family and lots of things but he didn't moved his ass out of the computer; I even helped him get up his chair and he fought me for it. Now I'm scared the same thing will happen with this guy 'cause he has a crappy-3-days-a-week job and also no degree. I've never been so crazy about anyone in my life, not even the guy I spent 2 years of my life with. I don't know what to think. Can somebody help me clear my mind?

I started dating a guy, lost all interest and lost interest because he's 28 with no degree, I'm scared the same thing will happen with this guy. Help?.. TL;DR: I'm starting to date a guy and I don't want to make the same mistakes.

TL;DR: I broke up a 2 year relationship with a guy because of the distance and loss of interest. I'm afraid the same thing will happen with this guy. Can someone help me? Is there a way to help me?

SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by asking a girl out with a note POST: First post, so please, only kind insults. The horrible fruit of this fuck-up was reaped today, but sown last week. I work for a university, and developed a small crush on a girl (medical student) in another building who works in a friend's department. I began swinging by for "coffee" (i.e. sheepishly making woo and spending precious few seconds with crush) pretty regularly. Ostensibly, I was there to see my friend, while I actually was plotting to get a few seconds alone with this girl so that I could ask her to, erm, spend more seconds alone. She's pretty quiet, and though I'm not, we both tend to get drowned out in conversation by her boss, my friend, and another person in the department who seems to be constantly incensed by something or another. So one day, after a frustrating encounter in which we (crush and I) both sat silently while other people in the room took turns shouting about the outrage du jour, I decided to write her a note. I was pretty cute about it. Wrote it on a piece of paper from the legal pad I had at my desk, put it in an official departmental envelope, then slipped that into a big interdepartmental envelope to be delivered. Bureaucracy at its finest. It showed up today. Her boss decided it'd be fun to have her read it aloud. I was very gentlemanly and upright with this note, but it still managed to piss just about everyone off. My crush was mortified, her boss went on a tirade about how staff members (me) shouldn't date medical students (her), and my friend had to basically play my attorney/PR rep for the rest of the day trying to mitigate the catastrophe. The boss, in a move I can either describe as overly maternal or overly 19th century, forbade her from dating me. Also, her boss is one of my references on an important application I put in with another department. So, ya know, that's pretty neat too, I guess.

I was cute about it. She was not in the room to get coffee with me. My crush was mad, and my friend had to play my attorney/PR rep. TL;DR: I asked a girl out with a note. She's pretty quiet and my boss is one of my references.

TL;DR: Wrote a note to a girl who works in another building, and it got me pissed off. What do you do? What do you do? Do you do it?? What do you do?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: My best friend is blackmailing me, please help POST: Background: I'm female and in college, with no prior relationship experience. So this fall I transferred to a school ~100 miles from my hometown. My best friend, we'll call her J, is stuck in a dead-end job and borderline abusive living situation, and was very resentful of me leaving. (I'd tried several times to get her out of there and into community college, but she never had the drive to do so.) She only started speaking to me again in November. A few weeks ago I started dating a guy I met through a different friend, and while it's far from serious, it's been going very well. Naturally I wanted to share this exciting new development with J, even if she's not really the girl-talk type. At first I got some good-natured ribbing about it, but then she turned hostile, saying I was desperate and turning into our mutual friend who cannot function without a boy in her life. (I dared express mild annoyance at having to wait over winter break to pick up where he and I had left off.) In the past she has stalked and harassed both a celebrity and a guy we went to high school with, and she's already found my guy on facebook and has openly threatened to smother my relationship in its metaphorical cradle if I don't perform for her amusement like a trained monkey. I've asked her both nicely and not-so-nicely to leave him out of this, but she always counters with "You know I'll do it." I'm not entirely sure the friendship is worth saving at this point. How do I get her to stop or just cut her from my life with as little danger to myself as possible?

I told her to leave, but she turned hostile and threatened to smother my relationship. I've been threatening to smother the relationship, but I'm not sure if she's worth it. Is it worth it?

I'm not sure how to get her to stop. she's been blackmailing me. I'm not sure how to get her to stop. I'm in college, but my best friend is blackmailing me.

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: A business is using my residential road for their customer parking, wat do? POST: Forgive me if this is in the wrong reddit. A very nice steak restaurant is located down the road from me (not on the same street), and recently they added enough new tables that they have severe overflow onto my neighboring residential street. My street is narrow, hilly, and there's hardly room for the people who live here to park, much less this restaurant's customers. They have a dinner rush, so when I get home at 5:30 there's no place to park because my street is filled with huge, poorly parked, yuppie SUV's. I have called the police for advice twice and an officer never called me back. Not sure how to go about this, because the restaurant is a mainstay of my city and its owners and clientele are very well connected. Is there anything I can LEGALLY (or gray-area legally) do to stop this?

TL;DR: a business is using my residential road for their customer parking, what do I do? Is there anything I can do to stop this? What do I do? What do I do? How do I stop this?

TL;DR: A business is using my residential road for their customer parking, what do I do? TL;DR: A business is using my residential street for their customer parking, what do I do? TL;DR: A restaurant is using my residential street for their customer parking, what do I do?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Best friend's wife is taking advantage of him, ruining his life, and I'm afraid to get involved. Help. POST: My closest friend has been married for a year and a half now to a woman who completely walks all over him and doesn't bring a single good thing to the table. She has gotten worse and worse over the last year, and currently makes him do all the household work (cleaning, cooking, fixing things, snow removal, dishes, laundry, etc). I just found out last night that she is now quitting her job with no prospects for a new one. He works full time, somewhat manual labor, in a high stress position. The job she left was at a bookstore, and she quit because it was too hard and she "didn't like it". She also has a new (gas guzzling) car that they make payments on, while he drives an old beater because they cannot afford anything more. She is constantly telling him he can't buy things like a certain grocery item he wants because it's "too expensive", while she goes and buys designer clothing at the mall often. The worst part is that she is a massive "feminist" (read: hypocrite) and feels as if she is entitled to an easy life and should be taken care of. She also treats him like shit on a daily basis and is not afraid to order him around and berate him, even right in front of me. The final straws for me have been his recent need to start taking anti-depression meds, and her deciding to quit her job. He is absolutely blind to how bad the situation is (or possibly in denial), and anytime I mention something about it, he gets very defensive and sticks up for everything she does. We spend a ton of time together and have been friends for 15 years, but I'm afraid he will completely close off to me if I sit him down and tell him everything I see and explain how badly he is being treated. I really do not want to lose his friendship, as it means the world to me, but I feel so horrible letting her treat him like this without trying to change the situation. Reddit, what do you think I should do?

TL;DR: Best friend's wife is taking advantage of him, ruining his life, and I'm afraid to get involved. What do you think I should do? What do you think I should do? What do you think?

Help! TL;DR: Best friend's wife is taking advantage of him, ruining his life, and I'm afraid to get involved. Help! How do I do this?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: One of my best friends [17F] may love me [17M]. POST: Not sure how to start, so I'll just tell it as it occurs to me. This girl is truly one of my best friends, and I love her in that respect immensely. We are very open with each other and are aware that physically, we find one another attractive. On friday night, as we were both fairly drunk (don't chastise for the age, in our country legal drinking from 16) she turned to me and seemed like she was trying to say something else, but in the end just said "whatever, I dont care, I dont care, can we just hook up" and so we did. This night, however, was a bit of an odd one, as we were with a few other friends, and several were making out already. So I went for it, and hooked up with another friend afterwards as well. A probably relevant detail is that at a party a few weeks ago we also made out, but accepted it as being nothing. That was fine, and it seemed that there was no problem, however I later saw the girl looking at me oddly and we hooked up again, with her initiating. also when we all crashed at another friends house, she came to sleep next to me. The major complications arise in the fact that a few months ago I broke up with a long term gf who is one of this girl's closest friends. Furthermore, recently (for about 2 months) I have had a bit of a thing with another girl, but nothing serious. On friday she also mentioned that and it seemed she was sad about it, though I assumed it was just because she was sad about something else (unrelated, I wont go into it). I then asked another friend who was there that night, who is very close with both of us if the girl loved me, and she said "of course, its obvious" but she may have been meaning friend-love. So I am not looking for anything with this girl, and she knows that nothing can happen, but what do I do? acknowledge that she has romantic feelings and I dont? Or am I just misinterpreting everything (entirely possible)?

I hooked up with a girl I love who is one of my best friends, and I think she may love me. What do I do? acknowledge that she has romantic feelings and I dont? or am I just misinterpreting everything?

TL;DR: Girl I love may love me, but I don't think it is romantic. What do I do? acknowledge that she has romantic feelings, and I dont? What do I do? or am I just misinterpreting everything (entirely possible)?

SUBREDDIT: r/cats TITLE: I need help with a kitty diet! Please! POST: Ok, so this is mostly directed towards my female cat, but I'm sure this could benefit my male as well. My female cat (Lodi) is a large lady; you can see how large she is in my post history. I used to free feed my babies because I grew up with outdoor cats and free feeding them never posed any heavy weight issues. Lodi, did infact used to be an outdoor mew. And since becoming an indoor mew, she has become obese. I do not want my male (Freud) to become obese as well. I feed them dry food twice a day;half a cup scoop. I'm not sure if this is "too much", but even with that, in the morning they meow loudly and chase me about the apartment as if they haven't eaten in days, so I feed them their breakfast. Then upon returning home they meow loudly and chase me about the house once more until it's dinner time, behaving like they haven't been fed in days. It makes me feel terrible. And if there's any concern in the food I give them, they get blue buffalo. So, is there anything I'm doing wrong? I want my cats to lose weight because I'm about to shave Lodi, she's so fat she cannot groom herself properly causing dingleberries and matting. I feel so terrible she's uncomfortable. But no matter what I've done she won't cut the weight and I certainly do not want to starve her! Please help!

they chase me about the house until dinner time. They get blue buffalo and eat meows. I want my cats to lose weight. Please help! TL;DR: I feed my cats dry food twice a day. They meow loudly and chase me about the house.

I feed my cats dry food twice a day. I want my male cat to lose weight. I don't want to starve her. I want them to lose weight because I'm about to shave her. Help!

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: [Serious] How can I tell my mother politely, that she is dealing with our dog in an inappropriate way? POST: My mother watched Cesar Millan a lot before we got our dog, and she acted like she knew everything there was to know about training and raising a dog. Its been about 2 years with our dog, and he has a problem with barking at the door when people go to open it (doesn't seem like that much of a problem to me). My mother's reaction is to yell at him, or if he does it sequentially, she will strike him in the thigh/rear end. Whenever I step in and try and take control of the situation, she will get mad, and try and tell me how to handle this kind of thing, because she thinks she is a dog expert. (This upsets me because it feels like I am being talked down to) The last strand was crossed today, when I was in the basement watching tv, I heard my dog bark at the door, and then my mother get up and yell at him. He ran into our sun room, which is above the basement, and I could hear her hit him, and his paws skid on the floor. I went up to check on him (he was fine, no damage, happy little guy when he's with me) and my mother yelled at me to put him back in the room where he is to stay "for a long long time" because he tried to bite her when she was "disciplining" him. Her solution to my dogs problem is completely inappropriate, and no way to treat a dog. I believe in positive reinforcement, and I am getting very frustrated listening to her complain about my dog, and her inappropriate ways of dealing with his barking. So if anyone knows a way I can tell her what she is doing is wrong, or if there is a way I can try and get my dog to stop barking at the door, please let me know.

I'm getting very frustrated with my mother's reaction to my dog's barking. She is ignoring me because she thinks she is an expert. How can I tell her she is dealing with our dog in an inappropriate way?

I tried to take control of the situation, but my mother yelled at him and yelled at him. She yelled at me, and yelled at him, and then hit him in the thigh/rear end. How can I tell her she is wrong?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 9 months, hurt and I don't know what to do. POST: Sorry for the long post. I'm really hurting right now and could use some advice or wise words. To give a brief background, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months. He's a physician in an intense fellowship program and generally very stressed/tired/busy, I'm currently in school, and stay pretty busy with an internship and working. We spend almost everyday together, support each other, have a lot of fun and both refer to the other as our best friend (that we enjoy touching inappropriately.) For the first couple months we were very happy together. The issues didn't start until I brought up the dreaded question, "So what are we?". Then began a bit of a struggle. I always wanted more from the relationship and was greeted by hesitancy, by 3 months I asked for exclusivity and he eventually agreed but only because I was going to leave if he didn't (I wanted something serious.) by 6-7 months I said I love you, he didn't say it back. This is totally fine, painful, but fine. I said I'd be patient with him until he is ready. He still hasn't said it back, but now at 9 months he said that he feels like he is falling in love, but isn't in love yet. This progress has given me hope, but not being on the same page has made me feel a bit insecure about our relationship. He has mentioned that he doesn't want to fall in love unless he knows that we will have a serious future together, so he doesn't get hurt like he did in his 2 prior relationships. :( We have been fighting a lot recently because: I still haven't met his family (they live 5 minutes from him), he doesn't want to share our relationship on Facebook (not the biggest deal!), he isn't in love with me, we don't really talk about the future, and the quality of time spent together isn't the best due to the nature of his work and how stressed and tired he is all of the time. After expressing my concerns about these things, he said he doesn't want to lose me and will try to open up to me. The fighting is really getting to us both.

TL;DR: Boyfriend is in love, I'm in school, he's busy, we have been fighting a lot lately. I don't know what to do. What do I do? TL;DR: I'm hurt and I don't know what to do.

I'm 23 and my boyfriend is 30. We have been fighting for 9 months and I don't know what to do. I'm hurting and I don't know what to do. Is there a way to stop fighting?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Need advise - relationship going stale? POST: Me: 21 M, Her: 21 F, Relationship: 6 Months Hey all, just wanted a bit of advise as I'm really not sure what's up really. Lately things have been feeling like they've been going a bit stale. I'll keep this short and sweet. For about a month we didn't see each other much. First she was sick, then I was sick, then I was bombarded with the last couple of stressful weeks of university trying to get all my work in on time. This was when things started to feel off, naturally, as we went from seeing each other at least every other day to seeing each other once a week if we were lucky. Now that we're getting to see each other more (it's been about 2 weeks of this now) it's been feeling stale, mainly when we're together at my house watching a movie or the usual activities of derping around the house doing stuff. When we're out with friends or out doing something together everything is amazing and feels great, it's just when we're sitting together in my house. Maybe I'm just sick of sitting around my house after the amounts of uni work I had to do while sitting stressing out for weeks? Anyways, I don't want to break up with her because I know that I still love her. Yeah, 6 months may seem to soon to be saying the "L" word to some people (by the way it's mutual and we've both said it), but I don't ever expect people to understand my own relationships when they're not the one involved in them. So yeah, I was just wondering if anyone here has any advise or insight as to what is going on. Am I just in a rut? Am I being an idiot? She's an amazing girl and I've never been happier in a relationship.

need advise - relationship going stale? What's going on? I'm really not sure what's going on. Am I just in a rut? Am I being an idiot? What's going on?

I don't want to break up with her because I still love her, but I'm not sure what's going on. Need advise - relationship going stale? How do I know what is going on? How do I fix it?

SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Does anyone know how to find a personal e-mail for a producer? POST: I am at the end of the road. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about ending my life and how I would do it. I was scheduled to be enrolled in a mental/behavioral outpatient program starting Monday. Then I got fired from my job. I'm getting dropped from my insurance. I had to cancel my registration. My dogs are the only thing keeping me here. I could find them a home. A beautiful life on a farm chasing rabbits and digging holes. Laying in the sun and rolling in deer poop. That makes me think about my life long dream. I want to open a shelter. A shelter for people and animals where they can go to live out their final days, or until they find something better, or until they can get on their feet enough to make it on their own. I want to call it The Farm. From lost without a cause to the terminally ill, I want to provide a place where people and animals can find themselves in the harmony and beauty of a relationship with each other. I lost my job Friday and found out today that I no longer have insurance. Against my better judgement and the wishes of the doctors I did see, I decided to get drunk. In a moment of what might have been delusion, I had an idea that if I could somehow find a way to contact a producer or someone like Marjorie Kaplan (the GM of Animal Planet) that they might find this idea as beautiful as I do. I think many people would want to see the story of animals or people coming together when their world is against them to live in a place that they can finally call home. I thought maybe if they agreed with me, they would fund the start up of my Farm, air a few seasons then I could continue the work of giving people and animals something to hope for. Maybe I'm delusional. You tell me. I can't afford healthcare. I looked for several hours and could not find a way to contact such a producer personally. Could you help me?

I have a dream of opening a shelter for people and animals. I am not. I am delusional. I want to be a producer. I want to help people and animals. I want to help animals and people to find happiness and happiness.

I think about my dream of opening a shelter for people and animals. I think about my dream of opening a shelter for people and animals. I think maybe I'm delusional. Could you help me? Can you help me?

SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by running into my garage door POST: This story actually happened a good few years ago. When I was younger my friends Shelby and Chris were over at my house. We were playing around, and acting a fool like normal barely teenage kids would do. Well at some point I go in the garage, and their standing outside at the garage door. We're laughing and making faces through the windows of the door when I decide to jokingly charge at it making a weird face and some strange silent hill level movements. Basically I stop too late, and end up hitting the garage door and the glass pane breaks with them outside. I get cut up a bit on my arms from the glass, and Shelby originally standing merrily outside is on the ground with a chunk of her skin cut off by a chunk of glass that shot out.

TL;DR: I run into my garage door, and a glass pane breaks. I hit the door, and they get cut off by a chunk of glass that shot out. TL;DR: I'm just a little old and I'm not sure how to go about it.

TL;DR: I ran into my garage door and they're laughing and making faces through the windows of the door. I get cut off by the glass, and Shelby is on the ground with a chunk of her skin cut off by the glass.

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [24M] SO [24F] of 3 months is taking me on an emotional rollercoaster ride and I'm lost at what to do. [Dating] POST: Background: Met on okcupid, clicked like clockwork, all the big life/relationship issues (worldview, politics, money management, living situation, future dreams/wants, schooling, pets, hobbies) are all *perfectly* compatible. We get along fantastically, and have great sex. Like she has been brought to tears and laid comatose from intense orgasms on multiple occasions by myself (said it's only happened once before), and I have had the best sex of my life with her. She's wicked smart, pretty, and down to earth. Problem: I am way into her. I have strong feelings and can really see this heading somewhere. We have been seeing each other for about 3 months. We are exclusive but she is uncomfortable making things "official" or being "boyfriend and girlfriend". her enthusiasm for us is like a rollercoaster. One day she will tell me we should take things slow and that she is unsure about us, and the next day she will say something along the lines of "don't let what I said dissuade you, I like you a lot!". we see each other about 3 times a week, and talk every day. ........................... It's all terribly confusing and this makes me feel very strange. I have no clue what to think and it's fucking with my head. I've talked to her about it and she says that she is just not good at expressing her feelings. I told her explicitly I want a relationship. She says she does too but wants to wait, and then the flip-flopping begins where she can't articulate exactly what she is feeling/thinking. I don't want to be lead on further and get hurt, but at the same time I don't want to abandon this potentially awesome partner. wtf is going through her mind, what should I do/think about this? we have opened up to eachother quite a bit, am I really "rushing" into things after being together for 3 months and wanting some kind of commitment?

I have strong feelings about my SO, but she isn't great at expressing her feelings. I am very into her. I'm confused. What should I do/think? Is this going to get worse? What should I do/think?

I'm going through a rollercoaster and I'm lost at what to do. I am way into my SO, and I want a relationship but she is not good at expressing her feelings. What should I do/think?

SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [18M] with my girlfriend [17 F] 6 months, Girlfriend wants to break up if I go to another college but there's still a year left POST: So I'm going to college in about a year while leaving my girlfriend behind. I have two options right now which is to stay in my state and go to an okayish college or go somewhere else to a better college. She doesn't really want to do a long distance relationship and neither do I. The problem comes up in what I chose. I already know I want to go out of state to the better college but I haven't broken this news to my girlfriend yet. She believes that I'll stay in state and stay with her through college. Now I love her a lot and I care about her a lot but I know I need to value my education more right now. However when we've talked about me going to college she's made it clear that if I decide to go to the far away college she rather just have us break up now so she won't get her self more attached/in love with me. Now I've made my decision already but I'm not ready to lose her and I don't want to lose her when I still have almost a year before I leave. I know I need to tell her soon that I'm leaving and I don't want to drag this out and make this hurt her more but at the same time I know telling her will make her want to break up. My dream situation is to tell her now and get her to understand and want to stay with me for the year before I leave and have an amazing year with each other. I just don't know if that can happen. We love each other a lot both and she tells me that I'm the only guy who has ever made her this happy and stuff and we both deeply care about each other. I know we'll probably both meet a lot more people in our life and we won't end up getting married or anything unrealistic but I just want to have at least my remaining year left with her. Any Advice? Thanks!

I'm going to college and I'm going to leave her behind. She wants to break up if I go to college but there's still a year left. What should I do? Help plz! TL;DR: Girlfriend wants to break up if I go to another college but I have a year left.

I'm going to college and I'm going to leave my girlfriend behind. I want to stay with her through college but I'm going to leave. I want to have a year left with her and I don't want to lose her.