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SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/m] My girlfriend [20/f] has become very distant and weird
POST: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little bit over 1 year. We recently had a breakup because I was distant and she thought I was cheating on her (which I wasn't). Before the breakup, she wanted to spend as much time with me as she could, but recently she has been very distant. We used to go to eachothers places overnight almost daily, but nowadays she does not want to come over to my place or want me to go over to hers (We both live on our own). She also used to talk to me all the time on facebook, but now she pretty much only replies to what I talk, and does not try to keep the conversation going. She has became pretty slow at replying, but when I'm with her, she replies instantly to her other friends who text her.
I'm really lost at this situation, because I feel like she does not want to be with me anymore. I know that she's taking SSRI medications at the moment for anxiety. But she was taking them before we broke up for couple weeks. Her explanation for this situation is that she wants to spend some time alone, because she is working so much and never has time to be alone. This bothers me because she used to want to be with me all the time she could, and now she does not even try to schedule time for me. | 1 year affair, went to breakup and now she wants to be with me, but she's becoming very distant and weird. | i was very distant from her. We joked about having a breakup later, but lately she has disappears because of me. | i was very distant from her. We joked about having a breakup later, but lately she has disappears because of me. | 1 year affair, went to breakup and now she wants to be with me, but she's becoming very distant and weird. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: M18 with crush on F18 and wanting to ask her to movie but keep chickening out?
POST: Okay, So I'm a senior in highschool, and so I'll apologize now if this is not the best sub to post this in and I will willingly move it if needed.
That being said, let me give some backstory: I've had an off and on crush on this girl for almost three years. I've gotten to the point I've wanted to ask her out two years ago, and I tried by asking her first if she had a boyfriend, to which she responded yes, and then I just got nervous/disappointed and just went "oh, okay." and walked away without another word. I haven't spoken to her much since thanks to me being nervous and still awkward about that whole incident.
However, now, she's single and I really want to take a shot and ask her to a movie, however, every time I see her in the hall, I chicken out and just keep walking by. I can't even get the conversation started. How do I overcome this fear and is she even going to really hold the whole awkward moment against me? And what's even the best way to ask a girl out like that? I've had girlfriends before, but I've managed to either just date people I've already known, or they ask me. | I wanna know how to discuss with a girl I've had an crush on for 3 years, but I keep chickening out constantly. | on amazon, it will ask you some questions about your crush: "is that real? " How do you really overcome a crush and are you able to answer her whole question? for a moment, being me and asking her to meet up bloody manages to help me deal with loneliness. | on amazon, it will ask you some questions about your crush: "is that real? " How do you really overcome a crush and are you able to answer her whole question? for a moment, being me and asking her to meet up bloody manages to help me deal with loneliness. | I wanna know how to discuss with a girl I've had an crush on for 3 years, but I keep chickening out constantly. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [26F] boyfriend [27M] of 2.5 years doesn't have sex with me but masterbates everyday.
POST: My boyfriend and I used to have sex every day, multiple times a day. It was literally the best sex I've ever had and he told me he felt the same way. Of course after a while it didn't happen as often but often enough that I was always pretty satisfied.
We've been living together for a year and were still sleeping together a few times a week but it became monotonous and boring. It was literally always from behind and only lasted a few minutes. Its now gotten to a point where we are only sleeping together about once every two weeks, always first thing when we wake up, always from behind.
I thought maybe he just wasn't feeling very sexual (we recently moved into a new house and finances are pretty tight) so I never spoke to him about it. However, he told me a couple of weeks ago he masterbates every day. I told him the fact he prefers jerking off by himself rather than actually sleep with me is really starting to affect my self esteem and he assured me he thinks I'm beautiful and sexy and there's nothing wrong with masterbasting. I started feeling so low about myself I even posted on AmIUgly recently!
Just today I told him I had to run to the store to pick up something really quick and I was only gone for about 15 minutes. I walked into our bedroom when I got home and there was a "dirty" shirt on the floor. I asked about it and he told me he masterbated as soon as I left. I just walked out of the room and am now sitting outside posting this.
I know I should talk to him about it again but after nothing really changed the first time I tried I'm hesitant to bring it up a second time. Everything else in our relationship is amazing and wonderful and he's my best friend but this is really starting to make me feel insecure and bad about myself. I don't even like changing in front of him anymore. | I asked him about our sex every day, he helped me out and I started to panic. I have Hypersexual feelings but his masterbates people every day. I'm starting to worry about the future. | but things have changed. As soon as I come back to our room the shirt is gone. my boyfriend's decreased which makes him feel horrible about himself. he once told me it's okay but always from behind you can tell this is normal. | but things have changed. As soon as I come back to our room the shirt is gone. my boyfriend's decreased which makes him feel horrible about himself. he once told me it's okay but always from behind you can tell this is normal. | I asked him about our sex every day, he helped me out and I started to panic. I have Hypersexual feelings but his masterbates people every day. I'm starting to worry about the future. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Lost.. Am i really ready for a child..
POST: Ive seen so many of these lately.. i hate to add my own.. but here goes..
I never subscribed to the notion that we have a soul mate out there.. And I still don't.. 8 months ago i meet a great girl.. 3 months ago we started going out.. 1 week ago we found out she was pregnant.. now before the usual conclusions are jumped too.. we were using protection (obviously not enough) condom slipped (or broke depending on when the actual time was) and we purchased the MAP (Morning After Pill) the next day.. We are both in our early 30s and she already has a Child from a previous relationship (She has sole custody and father has never been in child's life) hes now 7.. Shes not sure what she wants to do.. but we know we want to stay together.. Ive worked hard over the last 4 years to achieve a lot.. (house being built.. Car I've always wanted.. Bike I've always wanted.. ) I know in a why I'm being selfish.. but i don't think i want this child at this time.. (yes i would like to have one with her in the future) With this house being finished it would be tight to support her, her son and our new child.. and shes not sure she can come back from aborting this potential child. I'm not looking for whats wrong or whats right as its different for everyone.. i just want to hear from others.. Point of view perhaps... | Lost because my sexual partner acquired MAP months ago.. Need advice on whats out there and if i have a second family to support.. | aww... when will a relationship last.. or me?.. thats what gets in my head... or maybe, then what will i do with my buddies..? for the rest of us just worried...... we are out in the world babysitting and starting a family...or are we going to be out in nature for the rest of us? "why am i exhausted and ill be here?" "ah " thank-you"! sad... but i | aww... when will a relationship last.. or me?.. thats what gets in my head... or maybe, then what will i do with my buddies..? for the rest of us just worried...... we are out in the world babysitting and starting a family...or are we going to be out in nature for the rest of us? "why am i exhausted and ill be here?" "ah " thank-you"! sad... but i | Lost because my sexual partner acquired MAP months ago.. Need advice on whats out there and if i have a second family to support.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My Ex-Husband Wants Me Back After I Have Found Another Man; Is He Genuine or No?
POST: My Ex-Husband, whom is also a redditor as is my new boyfriend hence the new and anon-account, has been alluding to wanting to come back to our home.
Back story; We have three children together, I own the house and he moved out after moving in with his GF in a messed up poly-experiment gone wrong. He told me that he was moving out via a phone call on his lunch break. He just stopped coming home except for the weekends when used the house to see the children until he got his own house.
I am now un-employed and living on FS and CS (woo being a housewife and having your husband leave!) New boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and he moved in about a month ago. He is successful and now off of FS, yay!
Ex-husband sends random IM about a month ago lamenting about how if he came back he'd have to leave his GF. I said yeah that would be a requirement and some other snarky comments about how he'd have to be a real man and husband not a weekend father. I was obviously mad and we aren't exactly best friends any more even though we were together for 10 years and were prior to him leaving out of the blue.
Then he asked me last week when I dropped off the kiddos he invited me in for dinner in front of the kids. I politely declined but that was awkward.
Then I got a message from a friend, used to be mutual, and one of his co-workers saying he has been asking about me and wants to know if he should move back in with his family.
I am so conflicted. I feel like I should and I am saying no for the right reasons but I don't know if it is the right decision. | moved out of my house and has become a sis. He's a major redditor and I'm not sure if it's the right decision. | I did this a month ago and believe he was mad. So what?! acids soaking up an old friendship, not a single second. his ex wants to live in the house. | I did this a month ago and believe he was mad. So what?! acids soaking up an old friendship, not a single second. his ex wants to live in the house. | moved out of my house and has become a sis. He's a major redditor and I'm not sure if it's the right decision. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [22m] continue to date her [21] long distance?
POST: I've been dating my girlfriend for over three years now. I love her because she's amazing. She's Indonesian, but speaks perfect English. She's beautiful, she has a very bright personality, she has a bachelor's degree in chemical engineering, she cooks me dinner, she loves me to death and we have great sex.
Long term (marriage) looks like a green light. She's smart with money, she's financially secure, she loves kids (she wants to be a housewife). My family likes her, I've never met her family.
But come this fall she's going to be working her first job in Ohio and I'm going to attend graduate school in Minnesota to get my PhD in Physics (for the next ~5.7 years). I will be unimaginably busy (if I want to pass) so I won't be able to talk to her every night. We will be much less involved in each other's daily lives.
On top of this I've only ever dated 2 women in my life; I've been single only for ~2 months of the last 6.5 years! I feel like I'm ready to be single and this would be a natural time to split but I wonder if I'll never meet a girl like her again.
It's very hard for me to make this decision. Any thoughts? | Hyper relationship? Stuff I should figure out soon. Short term for me: My girlfriend is retiring and I'm busy. Should I continue date her or or prolonged? | /*iata* HAD TO DISTURB the affair -I love it! My boyfriend is worth $500, but i have no idea what the wisdom is! I'm the least established lover - I'm in the middle of this 16 year relationship. | /*iata* HAD TO DISTURB the affair -I love it! My boyfriend is worth $500, but i have no idea what the wisdom is! I'm the least established lover - I'm in the middle of this 16 year relationship. | Hyper relationship? Stuff I should figure out soon. Short term for me: My girlfriend is retiring and I'm busy. Should I continue date her or or prolonged? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Ex-boyfriend [26/M] went full blown confessional on me [24/F] this weekend.
POST: Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen? | TL;DR: Boyfriend has gone full blown confessional on me about 2 weeks ago. I miss him and miss him. Should I pretend it never happened? | "I madly feel bad for him and it's clear he's running away": r/relationship_advice "26/M" plot the end of their relationship. days down one of us started drinking and he said 'If he could't take it, would he keep it?" | "I madly feel bad for him and it's clear he's running away": r/relationship_advice "26/M" plot the end of their relationship. days down one of us started drinking and he said 'If he could't take it, would he keep it?" | TL;DR: Boyfriend has gone full blown confessional on me about 2 weeks ago. I miss him and miss him. Should I pretend it never happened? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Are some people just incapable of love?
POST: My SO (21) and I (20) have been together for over a year and 6 months. The one thing that really interests me is how difficult he finds it to say I love you, to anyone really. He was bullied a lot as a kid and conditioned himself to stop feeling so the bullies couldn't hurt him.
'Love' hasn't been an issue between us at all because I accept that it's hard for him to say it and when I say it myself, I don't expect him to say it in return.
A year ago he did tell me he loved me and I was shocked but after a while he stopped saying it. I was worried that he stopped having feelings for me, so last night I asked him if he did love me because I've been confused about what his feelings are towards me. He shrugged and told me that he doesn't know what love is and doesn't know if he's feeling it. I then asked why he said it to me earlier in our relationship and he said that he thought that I wanted him to say it. I told him he was crazy for thinking that and that I didn't care if he couldn't say it. But he says he feels guilty that he can't say it because then he feels like everything is one sided (which it isn't).
I thought about us today and realised that although he can't say it, he's shown it. During some off our worst fights (in cases where most guys would up and leave) he couldn't bare to leave me (even though he thought about it) and he was there for me when I was at my worst (he's always tolerant) he'll always want cuddles, be happy to drive me when I need him to (he hates driving), buy me flowers, pay for dinners, cook for me, the list goes on. A word to me doesn't matter because he treats me well. I'm not saying we are perfect, we're probably worse than must when we get into huge fights but will always stick around for the other.
Does anyone have a similar relationship? I don't know what I can do to make him realise saying I love you or thinking you can't feel love towards someone isn't an issue for me? | he doesn't know what love is but I challenge him to say it and he doesnt know why. I'm not sure what to do to make him realise that he can't say it. | three times in a stress-free week, we're on the same page over our love life. a year ago he did tell me he loved me and I was shocked. after a while he stopped saying it and feels guilty about not saying it. he had been bullied a lot but by now he never felt sorry for me. | three times in a stress-free week, we're on the same page over our love life. a year ago he did tell me he loved me and I was shocked. after a while he stopped saying it and feels guilty about not saying it. he had been bullied a lot but by now he never felt sorry for me. | he doesn't know what love is but I challenge him to say it and he doesnt know why. I'm not sure what to do to make him realise that he can't say it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: I feel weird that there are 0 FB pics in which my ex [24f]and I [27m] are both tagged. Am I wrong?
POST: We dated for about 2.5 years, and the break-up, (about 5 months ago) was both mutual and heartbreaking. Neither of us have been active on Facebook since we started dating, but I decided to log-on tonight and looked at some of my pictures and hers (not my intention, but it happened).
As I was going through our respective pictures I noticed that not one time were we both tagged in the same photo, despite the fact that we both appear in at least 12 pictures (there are more pictures of us, but apparently they haven't been uploaded).
I've accepted (still don't like it) that ending the relationship was the right choice for us then and that staying apart is still the right decision, but it feels strange that there are no Facebook tags of the both of us.
Am I wrong in feeling like this? | TL;DR: I look at some of my two pictures and seen that no one of us appears in one of them. It's happened and I still don't like it. Am I wrong to feel like this? | many thought we had broken up because each had 18 photos of ourselves shared on facebook in which we were both tagged. that's ish, but we decided to log on tonight and look at some of our respective pictures and see if I'm wrong about that? So we are now back together, talking about our christmas in November - and considering a stop to our relationship. | many thought we had broken up because each had 18 photos of ourselves shared on facebook in which we were both tagged. that's ish, but we decided to log on tonight and look at some of our respective pictures and see if I'm wrong about that? So we are now back together, talking about our christmas in November - and considering a stop to our relationship. | TL;DR: I look at some of my two pictures and seen that no one of us appears in one of them. It's happened and I still don't like it. Am I wrong to feel like this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is it normal that we haven't had a fight? I'm [19/f] and he's [23/m]
POST: Hi guys. I'm currently in an LDR with a really amazing guy. It's pretty fresh, although we've known each other for over a year. We started dating at the beginning of this year, so we've been together 4-5 months give or take. I realize it's fresh and all, and maybe I just need to give it time, but we haven't had a single argument, fight, or disagreement. I mean, it's not that I *want* one, it's just that I find it odd.
Is it normal? I know everyone says arguing in relationships is completely normal, some people say it's abnormal to *not* fight, but we just haven't. We're both pretty mature and rational, we're both kinda loners and don't do much besides working and talking to each other, and we have quite a lot in common, so I guess there really isn't any reason for us *to* fight but I just feel like it's kinda weird. | TL;DR: I haven't had one argument, fight, or disagreement between us. It's weird. | the two of us are both pretty mature and rational, we don't do much. we've been together 4-5 months give or take, so we've all had a fight. there isn't a single argument, fight, disagreement, etc., but we've just had coaxing. | the two of us are both pretty mature and rational, we don't do much. we've been together 4-5 months give or take, so we've all had a fight. there isn't a single argument, fight, disagreement, etc., but we've just had coaxing. | TL;DR: I haven't had one argument, fight, or disagreement between us. It's weird. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[16 M] just found out my best friend[16 M]of 3 three years is in love with me and i don't know what to do.
POST: So i just found out that my best friend wants to be romantically involved with me.
The big problem is that we are both dudes and i'm straight so i don't want to be in a relationship with him but has been my best bro for years and he really helped me through some tough times.
We had a talk about it and it turns out that he is, according to him, head over heels in love with me and he has assured me that he isn't confused or going through a phase and that his feelings are genuine.
I told him that i was no longer comfortable being his best friend and he responded by telling me how he still wanted to hang out with me even through i didn't want to because he didn't want to lose me. However after that he told me something that worried me; apparently when we first met he hated me as he felt i was stealing his best friend (who is now my best friend) and he has had those types of feelings for all his previous best friends. It worries me because he appears to be very possessive towards his best friends and he wants to keep them all to himself.
he has also done a number of creepy things like asking a female friend of ours to let him sleep in her bed with her and cuddle. He has also joked about raping me a lot over the few years we were best friends and i always thought he playing up to the fact that everyone at our school called us gay or maybe he liked making uncomfortable jokes like that.
Throughout most of our friendship he has wanted to sleep with me and this is a dude that i have shared bedrooms with and now i'm scared that he may have done something creepy while i was asleep. I can't trust him anymore.
This entire altercation has also split our very close group of friends apart and i need some unbiased opinions on what actions to take as i'm now having to try and convince my friends that i'm not homophobic or a liar. The worse part is that out of the five people in our friendship circle only one person doesn't know about it. | so i don't want it to be. He sees that i'm having great feelings about him and i'm worried that he may have done something creepy to my best buddies. I need some unbiased opinions on what steps to take as i can't trust him anymore. | dean obeidallah's best friend, 16 M, is in love with her after being raped a lot by her parents over two years. when we first met he hated me and he can't stand the fact that i'm gay. he's had several creepy things done, such as asking a female friend to let him sleep with her in the hot tub and cuddle with her. as a result he has become very possessive towards his best friends | dean obeidallah's best friend, 16 M, is in love with her after being raped a lot by her parents over two years. when we first met he hated me and he can't stand the fact that i'm gay. he's had several creepy things done, such as asking a female friend to let him sleep with her in the hot tub and cuddle with her. as a result he has become very possessive towards his best friends | so i don't want it to be. He sees that i'm having great feelings about him and i'm worried that he may have done something creepy to my best buddies. I need some unbiased opinions on what steps to take as i can't trust him anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey reddit, tell me your stories of being unfairly disciplined. I'll start:
POST: I used to go camping with my family every summer in S. Ontario in a small campground where most people knew each other, year after year. As the people of my age group grew older we began camping on our own, in separate parts of the campground from our parents (this would typically be from 19 years old and onward). So naturally, as any people of that age do, we drank (legal age in Canada is 19) and smoked weed and held awesome parties way on the other side of the campground to avoid annoying the other campers. Now my last year of camping at this lake we had a nice party one night lots of people some familiar faces, some new. The next day the administrator of the campground informs my site mates and I that we are banned from the campground for 5 years for giving alcohol to minors. What really happened is irresponsible parents lost track of where their kids were, and also track of where their booze were (the 15 and 16 year olds, who were not invited, obviously stole their parents alcohol). I know I didn't give any alcohol to any of the young people, and I'm sure my friends wouldn't have (we worked our asses off at near minimum wage that summer just to save up enough to go camping, we had no extra drinks.) We appealed the decision, but in a closed door meeting, the board of directors upheld the decision. sigh, it was a good time while it lasted. | Me and boys always had fun, us drinking weed, attending parties around other campers, father banned parents for 5 years and kids were hit with intense discipline. | reddit user roland moore was banned from a campground in 2010 for giving alcohol to minors. moore said he was fined $6,500, and made a decision to discharge himself. moore: if someone broke his policy against parents, they would back off. | reddit user roland moore was banned from a campground in 2010 for giving alcohol to minors. moore said he was fined $6,500, and made a decision to discharge himself. moore: if someone broke his policy against parents, they would back off. | Me and boys always had fun, us drinking weed, attending parties around other campers, father banned parents for 5 years and kids were hit with intense discipline. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forgetting to shut my bathroom door overnight.
POST: I moved into this house about a month ago, renting a room and a bathroom. Landlord is my age, didn't know him before I moved in. His dog. 8 month old lab. Pain in the ass. Tears apart everything, I've lost five pairs of flip flops already since I moved in thanks to this shoe shredding dick head.
I forgot to shut my bathroom door last night. I'm an extremely clean person but for the past two days I have forgotten to empty the trash in my bathroom because we've been out doing shit and not home.
Mother nature is here for this girl. I woke up at 4am this morning to the little idiot barking at his dog house outside, for whatever reason he's deathly afraid of it but it's too hilarious to burn the damn thing. So I got up to let him out, and what do ya know. Every piece of trash that was in my midget garbage in my bathroom was shredded all over the floor. Everywhere.
Remember how I said mother nature had arrived with her monthly? Yup. Garbage all over my bathroom and the SHARED living room. That includes a few stupid plastic tampon insert things. THAT HE CHEWED UP. NO USED TAMPONS.. just the plastic inserts.
Good news: I clean them before I throw them in the garbage because ew if not. But still.. Bad news: I had to search every inch of that house before roommate landlord bro woke up for work. Prayed to the Heavens above that the little prick didn't bring any into his room. Or his bed. | And I were guilty of this one. I discovered the trash wasn't burned up in the living room or the bathroom door. Very bad news: forgot to shut my bathroom door past 4am. Squished trash all over the floor. | in 2 days, every piece of trash in my bathroom has been shredded all over the floor, everywhere. but instead of being wiped off, mother nature was with her monthlyly. I woke up at 4am this morning to a little idiot barking at his dog house outside using his tampon inserts. | in 2 days, every piece of trash in my bathroom has been shredded all over the floor, everywhere. but instead of being wiped off, mother nature was with her monthlyly. I woke up at 4am this morning to a little idiot barking at his dog house outside using his tampon inserts. | And I were guilty of this one. I discovered the trash wasn't burned up in the living room or the bathroom door. Very bad news: forgot to shut my bathroom door past 4am. Squished trash all over the floor. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M24] have been dating F[20] over summer and don't want to continue seeing her romantically. She is very attached to me. How can I let her down easy?
POST: I've been seeing a girl over the summer. Shes really sweet but has been giving hints she wants to make our relationship official. I've given it some thought and I decided I don't want to take it to that level with her. Like I said, she is really nice, but we're in different places in life and I just have a gut feeling that I don't want to take it any further. She has gotten really attached to me though and I know this is going to crush her. She also lost one of her parents recently which makes the whole situation worse. I've been in a shitty place too so we've been really helping each other emotionally. So some part of me really doesn't want to do this since I'll be more emotionally isolated, as well as her. I would love to keep things casual, but I don't think that would be healthy for her since I'm afraid she would say yes with the hope I would change my mind.
How can I let her down easy, or as much as possible given the situation? Is it possible for us to still be there for each other after the dust settles? | I really don't want to continue seeing a girl over summer. She's really attached to me. Can I let her down easy? | we started dating about a year ago, and've been sleeping really well for the past couple of months. we're dating again over the summer and I don't want to take this situation further. she's really nice but has been very attached to me and is hard on herself. I'll keep things casual, but would delete them all later if they came over on the same day. | we started dating about a year ago, and've been sleeping really well for the past couple of months. we're dating again over the summer and I don't want to take this situation further. she's really nice but has been very attached to me and is hard on herself. I'll keep things casual, but would delete them all later if they came over on the same day. | I really don't want to continue seeing a girl over summer. She's really attached to me. Can I let her down easy? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16M] am quickly beginning to lose my patience with my Mother [45F] and Sister [20F]
POST: First post, sorry for any fuck ups. Ok, I'm a 16 year old kid and I live with my mother and my sister and for the last 3-4 months I've began to enjoy my home life less and less.
Don't get me wrong, there's by no means any abuse or anything like that but my family are constantly talking (to me and behind my back) about how much I'm a failure, and I'm not going to achieve anything in life.
For example I've wanted to get into a trade (thinking sparky) for about 6 months now, about a month ago she got my report card in the mail (less than good) and absolutely freaked out, stormed into my room at 7 in the morning and told me she was pulling me out of school because I was "too fucking dumb" to go anymore, and also told me that I was to much of a lazy prick to get a trade so I'd have to go work a retail job for the rest of my life (No).
But then, when I began calling some companies about starting an apprenticeship she told me there was no way in hell I was dropping out and I was staying until year 12.
It's gotten to the point where I don't enjoy talking to them, I recently started dating a girl (first girlfriend) and my sister and mother laughed, told me that I was going to realise sex is nothing like porn and that she would leave me.
And so much other shit that would take me hours to write, I love my family, but I don't think I like them and I'm worried that I'm going to say something very stupid very soon. | how I'm becoming a failure, my mother, and sister constantly tell me I'm a failure and I'm not going to get much more than that. Am I losing my patience? | three months ago my mother turned to social media, apparently pornographic sex behaviour had terminated me. the "mother" on the streets full of my screams was also suspicious and asked me if my sex was legal. after being around myself for the last month I'm slowly losing my patience with my mother and sister. | three months ago my mother turned to social media, apparently pornographic sex behaviour had terminated me. the "mother" on the streets full of my screams was also suspicious and asked me if my sex was legal. after being around myself for the last month I'm slowly losing my patience with my mother and sister. | how I'm becoming a failure, my mother, and sister constantly tell me I'm a failure and I'm not going to get much more than that. Am I losing my patience? |
SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: Got an associate's in psychology. Transferring to 4 year. Want to go into school psychology. Worried about choosing a college and finances.
POST: Ok, so I currently have a 3.5 and a recent grad from CC and I'm not sure if it matters which 4 year school I get a bachelor's from or if I go to the school from which I will get a bachelor's, if that will make it easier to get into the masters or Ph.D. / Ed.S. or what have you at that same school. (Probably, I assumed.) My CC and the local 4 year are pretty buddy-buddy and have credit transfer deals and generally help its local students out. But while they have a general psychology bachelor's program, they only have master's and PhDs in counseling. Also, I hear that you can go directly from a bachelor's into a doctorate program, if you have the GPA, undergrad research or enough experience, and good GRE scores. (I like this idea because I'm a relatively poor student and rely heavily on financial aid and small loans.) I'm also wondering about internships and the stipends that come with some of them? Is that just for doctorate programs? I would prefer to baby step it from a masters to a doctorate, I don't want to do anything I'm not 100% ready for. (Sorry if I sound ignorant, I'm the first in my family to get this far.) A friend of mine in agriculture biotechnology is currently attending grad school for her masters mostly because of her internship / job at the school so she can live cheaply off campus. | not sure if a 4 year school is for this or no school. Looking to go into school psychology. Other worries are about public donation. Learn to live reasonably. | 4 year gets my associates in psychology from CC but runs a psychology master's program, PhD and doctorate programs from there. I would attend a 2-4 year school, but some knew college was just for small-time students. she also has a job at 4 year related to her paid internships. | 4 year gets my associates in psychology from CC but runs a psychology master's program, PhD and doctorate programs from there. I would attend a 2-4 year school, but some knew college was just for small-time students. she also has a job at 4 year related to her paid internships. | not sure if a 4 year school is for this or no school. Looking to go into school psychology. Other worries are about public donation. Learn to live reasonably. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[23M] with my girlfriend [23F] 7 years, girlfriend has put on a lot of weight
POST: Over the past few months, my girlfriend has become quite overweight and it's affecting our relationship.
I love her more than anything in the world, but it's affecting our sex life, our social life, and so on and so forth.
She's aware she's put on weight and has altered her diet, but I know that to see results she needs to exercise. When she's not working (she only works 3 days a week), she lives a sedentary lifestyle. She doesn't go out, she just sits on the sofa.
I've tried to encourage her to run, cycle, and go for walks, but she won't do it.
I used to be overweight, but lost all that weight by exercising daily and eating better, so I know it works...
What can I say or do? We've been together seven years and this is the most stressed I've felt in the relationship. | Enough said. Friends constantly lose weight. So what can I do and say? There's some weight issues, but it's affecting our relationship. | earnest share from mother wishing her well by not putting herself on pill. weight has contributed to increasingly unhealthy lifestyles. social life not happy with how my son is feeling, says mother of six. | earnest share from mother wishing her well by not putting herself on pill. weight has contributed to increasingly unhealthy lifestyles. social life not happy with how my son is feeling, says mother of six. | Enough said. Friends constantly lose weight. So what can I do and say? There's some weight issues, but it's affecting our relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by not inspecting the contents of the McDonalds cup
POST: It was a normal night, I'd just gone to bed and was about to take my glasses off. I set them on the nightstand, but it was wet and sticky. I remembered that we went to McDonalds previously and had left a cup with some coke left in it. It was leaking. It was just pop so I drank it as fast as I could and put my glasses back on the night stand after wiping it up. It tasted slightly weird as I was drinking it, but I was drinking really fast so I didn't fully notice, but when I pulled my lips off the straw, the most intense taste of windex filled up my mouth and I started gagging. I went into my girlfriends room which was right beside it, she was sleeping but I thought drinking windex or whatever cleaning chemicals she put in there was cause enough to wake her, and asked her if she put anything into the McDonalds cup. She said "no", surprisingly. I said "That's weird, because it tastes like chemicals" to which she probably fell back asleep and didn't respond. I went back to bed and thought about what it could be and fell asleep shortly after, not coming to any real conclusions. I wake up this morning and am about ready to go to work when girlfriend walks in my section of the basement. She lays down beside me and we start talking. She started by saying she's been up since early and that she had some time to think about stuff and that she remembers me asking about the McDonalds cup. Apparently she was so tired when I woke her up that she gives those asleep responses that people give when they're not fully awake and seem to be responding without being conscious when she said "No". She said she put two Lysol Wipes in the McDonalds cup. Gross. But the problem is that I remember her talking about having to clean up some cat shit from the basement where we sleep. | I gave up drinking the McDonalds cup because I was crazy about seeing it, I mentioned it, but bucked her why. Still not sure if I was awake as I did before. | I wake up and am about ready to go to work when the alarm goes off. she says that the ball was in her pocket, so said leaving things outside. kylie and kelly have every right to say see if their drinking is breaking up a drinking group. the problem is that the drink smells like cat shit... anyway, I'm going to call the cleaning company if she finds any problem. | I wake up and am about ready to go to work when the alarm goes off. she says that the ball was in her pocket, so said leaving things outside. kylie and kelly have every right to say see if their drinking is breaking up a drinking group. the problem is that the drink smells like cat shit... anyway, I'm going to call the cleaning company if she finds any problem. | I gave up drinking the McDonalds cup because I was crazy about seeing it, I mentioned it, but bucked her why. Still not sure if I was awake as I did before. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18/M] really like my friend [19/F] and I'm worried I blew my chances with her. Do you guys think this ship has sailed?
POST: I've been friends with this girl for a while but we became really close about a month ago, and have been hanging out all the time. Twice we went back to her house after going out and I could tell she was making moves but for whatever reason I was being stupid and didn't do anything but cuddle all night pretty much. In the past I could always tell she was pushing towards being physical and was always really enthusiastic to talk to me or hang out and I was always receptive but I guess I didn't do enough to turn things into a relationship. Tonight we went to the beach and I was planning on kissing her but her body language and demeanor told me I shouldn't, whereas when i think back to previous times I know if I had kissed her she would have been down and she would have furthered things. Now I'm not sure, I really like this girl and I know she really liked me, I'm just worried her interest is gone. Maybe I'm just over thinking everything but it definitely feels like the vibes have changed and they're a lot less flirty. Do you guys have any tips on what I can do to make my intentions clear? She's a lot more experienced than i am so I think that's why I'd been so coy and non-opportunity seizing in the past. I really want a relationship with this girl and I know she felt the same, I just don't know how to make my intentions clear especially when we've never really vocalized feelings for each other romantically but it was very clear just from the way she acted, so that I think it'd be really strange to bring it up out of the blue. | I really like this girl and even I know she really liked me. They're less flirty now than they were before. How can I explain to the girl I'm talking to what she wanted to do? | some things have changed and that wouldn't happen- I never became playful with her. I didn't tell her anything in the past but a lot less flirty. says: 'I really want a relationship with this girl...'. Also, described as being year old on the street.. but that was really funny as well.. | some things have changed and that wouldn't happen- I never became playful with her. I didn't tell her anything in the past but a lot less flirty. says: 'I really want a relationship with this girl...'. Also, described as being year old on the street.. but that was really funny as well.. | I really like this girl and even I know she really liked me. They're less flirty now than they were before. How can I explain to the girl I'm talking to what she wanted to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [Update] Need some insight on a predicament. I [25/F] have been dating [28/M] for a little under 3 months. Found out he has a FWB [40/F] for 1.5 years. He said he doesn't see the FWB ever moving past just that because of different wants out of life ie kids etc.
POST: Original Post [Here](
I talked to him the day after posting the original article and without being absurd or obnoxious calmly and directly stated my discomfort and dislike of him not figuring out his situation with his FWB. He restated his want to do it and that it has been on his mind to put it to rest but didn't know how to say it. I told him if you are gonna do it don't leave the FWB with grey area or confusion. if you want to end it end it. We also both restated that we see the two of us working out long term but he understood that I wouldn't be able to stay with him if the FWB wasn't put to rest soon. I told him I didn't mind if they stayed friends, honestly. Just drop the WB part of FWB. After finishing the conversation we continued on with our evening. When I left we said our goodbyes and I said with a nice but no bullshit tone "Figure it out with her, please."
A week went by we were both extremely busy. I saw him Monday night, and he told me he called it off with her completely and utterly and that it was over between them. He thanked me for saying something to him, because although he had wanted to call it off sooner, he said he just needed a swift kick to finally do it.
I am glad I told him directly my feelings on the matter and then gave him time to take care of it. And even happier that he didn't dawdle, but moved forward and settled the matter. Now we can move forward as a couple.
Thank you for your feedback from the first post! | unexpectedly. Found out someone with FWB for 1.5 years and I never talked to him that day. He called it off with WB, and thanked me for that. Now, we can move forward as a couple. thanks for your feedback. this is great to hear how it ends up going forward. | you Added we spoke and we said goodbyes and then had another week to go and reconnect. I am happy that my husband didn't hawdle but moving forward and settled the matter. And even happier that he finally called it off between them. Thanks for your feedback from the first post! | you Added we spoke and we said goodbyes and then had another week to go and reconnect. I am happy that my husband didn't hawdle but moving forward and settled the matter. And even happier that he finally called it off between them. Thanks for your feedback from the first post! | unexpectedly. Found out someone with FWB for 1.5 years and I never talked to him that day. He called it off with WB, and thanked me for that. Now, we can move forward as a couple. thanks for your feedback. this is great to hear how it ends up going forward. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: SO is not trustworthy and still wants to "hang out" with an ex lover, but has big double standards. What do I do?
POST: Some background: I'm 20, she is 21. She cheated on her ex (of three years) with me. I was unawares at the time because she said they were through. Fast forward to when she actually broke up with him. She went through a long period before we had begun dating, and during this time it was sketchy at best. We were not dating but had been involved and were considering dating soon. A week before I asked her to be my girlfriend (4 months of being together unofficially) she meets up with a random mutual friend and gets drunk and fucks him. She says she didnt know they would when they were drunk, but thats rediculous because I talked to him and he said they planned to have sex for a long time. (This isn't a huge problem because we werent dating but still concerns me). Did she do this to get it out of the way because she knew she would soon be "committed?" She is completely anal about me not talking or even looking in the general direction of a girl whom she thinks I like, however, she can hang out, alone, til 4 in the morning, while we're dating, with a guy she has fucked before. My real question is, am I encroaching on relationship boundaries by asking her to stop hanging out with him? Or is she being rediculous by having this double standard since she has a bad track record with cheating (obviously)? Can I trust her? | TL;DR: her ex loves me but has good double standards and she whines about us dating. I ask her to stop hanging out with an ex boyfriend, but she has strict double standards for me. Do I trust her? | lz: when i asked her to be my girlfriend, she cheated on her ex (of three years) with me. Fast forward to when she actually broke up with him. he broke up with her and she said she would never be responsible for his behavior anytime soon. lz: she cheated also a few times. when she broke up with him, she said they would be involved again. lz: another friend does this. but to stop has double standards to all before her SAMH | lz: when i asked her to be my girlfriend, she cheated on her ex (of three years) with me. Fast forward to when she actually broke up with him. he broke up with her and she said she would never be responsible for his behavior anytime soon. lz: she cheated also a few times. when she broke up with him, she said they would be involved again. lz: another friend does this. but to stop has double standards to all before her SAMH | TL;DR: her ex loves me but has good double standards and she whines about us dating. I ask her to stop hanging out with an ex boyfriend, but she has strict double standards for me. Do I trust her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Tifu by trying to scare my friend
POST: This FU actually happened today (surprise surprise). So in my class there's this one girl who I'm really good friends with (let's call her Sandra). Now Sandra is absolutely terrified of spiders. Like I mean absolutely terrified beyond belief. So smartass me thought it would be a great idea to show her a picture of my pet tarantula (he is really cute I swear). What I didn't have really in mind is how she'd react to it... She smacked the phone with all her might like some Bruce Lee style stuff as I stood there in terror watching my phone slowly float through the air and land face first on the concrete floor. My heart broke in half as I heard the glass shatter and get thrown about. RIP Oneplue one 7.6.2014-8.4.2015 you shall never be forgotten. | TL;DR: Caught my friend under a bat with a giant spider as I had to stand there and shake the glass like a shattering eyeball to melt a nerve. | GUY: The Robot Taunt So then and THE EPIC DEPARTMENT: irrevocably.. Be inspired". | GUY: The Robot Taunt So then and THE EPIC DEPARTMENT: irrevocably.. Be inspired". | TL;DR: Caught my friend under a bat with a giant spider as I had to stand there and shake the glass like a shattering eyeball to melt a nerve. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] of almost 3 years, suggested taking a break?
POST: A large group of our friends are going to this weekend camping festival and due to the size of it and how we are all arriving on different days it is unlikely that I am sharing a tent with my girlfriend.
She recently suggested that we "took a break" for the festival. At first I was shocked and didn't know if it was because she didn't want to spend time with me, had stopped liking me and even wanting to go out getting with other boys.
I obviously said no and asked why she wanted that and she just said she trusted me however didn't trust my friends and thinks they would egg me on to get with other girls and fool around a bit.
I'm really confused about the whole situation, she says she was "testing me" to see if I would want to take a break however that feels like she doesn't trust me. Also I feel like maybe she doesn't like me as much as I thought seeing as she suggested we break up so I can fool around..
I'm really confused about this whole situation and just want some outsiders' opinions to sort of guide me through it. | TL;DR: feels like accept fish and eventually allows me to fool around. A lot of friends and I are all at a camping festival and I want to know why so? | amy gardner: "she suggested camping break" to me and other friends.. LOL!! "a whole bunch of girls putting it off!!! " / / Questions" / / / POST: nice site, very nice scenario, really confused about it / just wants some outsider's' opinions of whatever i will be doing.. jP: let's leave it there... / / / / paragraph$5K (beck & call) / | amy gardner: "she suggested camping break" to me and other friends.. LOL!! "a whole bunch of girls putting it off!!! " / / Questions" / / / POST: nice site, very nice scenario, really confused about it / just wants some outsider's' opinions of whatever i will be doing.. jP: let's leave it there... / / / / paragraph$5K (beck & call) / | TL;DR: feels like accept fish and eventually allows me to fool around. A lot of friends and I are all at a camping festival and I want to know why so? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 26F needs help dealing with her Heroin addict 47m father
POST: ***Let me start off by saying I am a horrible speller and bad at grammar do to learning disables.
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I**(26f)** need help dealing with my **(46)** homeless Heroin addict **father**. I really have no help at all with my other family members my**(26)** twin sister is a meth addict who is now 7 months clean. My**(23)** little sister is a meth, heroin, whore in a gang. My mother OD on Meth and died 8 years ago. I spent my whole life in special ed classes. Due to my family drug problems I was able to over come a lot of limits the doctors placed me on.
But my father is a homeless heroin addict. I set up interviews for rehabs and shelters I cannot do all the paperwork for him due to my disables and his age. I fear meeting my father alone due to that fact he is around my little sister a lot. She is in a gang. All this keeps me up at night I want to help my father but I do not know how. I want to be safe. I know bring my father into my**(27)** boyfriend and mine house will put us in danger and end our relationship. I do not want this whoever all this keeps me awake at night.
My twin sister who is clean will not deal or help me deal with this she is to far into her own recovery to care or want to care. I do not know what to do anymore. It is clear my family is no longer anything due to drugs. I have smoked pot a few times I do not like it, I have nothing to due with drugs. I have so much in my life to deal with and his is not helping. Please give me good ideas who to deal with this. | need help dealing with homeless Heroin addict father who is a drug addicted, whore in a gang, I do not know how to deal with this due to my disabilities and his age. What should I do now? | I was placed on medical detox and the drug treatment I over thins self. They don't facilitate that. But I have no help trying to care and end my relationship with my father. The Lord has called on me to be neat. I love and be thankful. I am sad my family is going bad and hinder my recovery.. My mom is a meth addict who died 8 years ago. She is now 10 months clean. She has a gang. He is very strong. Am very upset of this. | I was placed on medical detox and the drug treatment I over thins self. They don't facilitate that. But I have no help trying to care and end my relationship with my father. The Lord has called on me to be neat. I love and be thankful. I am sad my family is going bad and hinder my recovery.. My mom is a meth addict who died 8 years ago. She is now 10 months clean. She has a gang. He is very strong. Am very upset of this. | need help dealing with homeless Heroin addict father who is a drug addicted, whore in a gang, I do not know how to deal with this due to my disabilities and his age. What should I do now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23/F] haven't heard from the guy [26/M] I've been seeing for the past 2.5 months in a few days...feeling confused
POST: I've been seeing this guy I met at a local bar for around 2.5 months now. Things have been good-we have not put a label on anything, but we've been seeing each other once or twice a week (he travels for work and I just started a new job, so we're both pretty busy) and have had a great time. He has-based on general enthusiasm while being around me and physical affection-given me the impression that he is into me and I am happy to take it slow as far as labels and such go. This weekend, he cancelled a date we had planned and after I said I wasn't free later that weekend because I had a work meeting to prepare for, he stopped texting me back. We do usually talk a bit via text every day and he often initiates these conversations, but it's been radio silence for 3 days now, after he didn't text me back over the weekend.
Last year, I got out of a 4 year relationship, so I am pretty new to the dating game and feeling a bit confused. I don't know if I am overthinking this because I like the guy or if something is up and I should consider asking him about it. Any insight or advice would greatly be appreciated, Reddit! | have been really enjoying each other and talk often, have not heard from him in a few days. Feeling confused by it. | i've been seeing this guy for 2.5 months. we've been seeing once or twice a week and have had a great time. he hasn't texted me back over the weekend. | i've been seeing this guy for 2.5 months. we've been seeing once or twice a week and have had a great time. he hasn't texted me back over the weekend. | have been really enjoying each other and talk often, have not heard from him in a few days. Feeling confused by it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24M] ex-girlfreind [28F] of 1 year (NC that entire year, dated for 2 years) randomly texted me the other day.
POST: We've been broken up and absolutely no contact for a year when suddenly she texts me out of the blue that:
" This guy at the fair I am at looks so much like you that it is crazy. The only difference is that he has a goatee. I am really glad you decided against growing it while we were together. This is why I told you it wouldn't look good on you."
Then she attached a photo of the guy. He looks vaguely like me and the photo shows her posing with him at the fair.
I texted her back immediately with " LOL. I am good at with not having grown it. You had a valid point." I attached a picture of me and then I asked her how she was with a simple " How are you doing? I hope you are well. It has been forever. "
And she never responded. We both have iphones and I got a read receipt but she never responded back.
We had a pretty emotional break up after she miscarried. I blamed her getting pregnant on purpose in the heat of the moment but later apologized. She attributed the miscarriage to the stress I caused her by throwing accusations at her but she later apologized for blaming me.
It was a pretty mutual split and we both asked for quiet time to get over it.
I'd like to know how she is but I don't want to push her to responding and it is so weird to hear from her after a year.
How do I proceed? Can I ask her to catch up? | I wrote her copy and dated her 2nd year so I wouldn't tell her. She never talked to me again. how to get her back? | staved off from marriage when she randomly texted me this week saying " This guy's head looks like you that it is crazy. The only difference is that he has a goatee." LOOKING ANGEL: "You had a valid point, lol. So I told you not having grown it. You had a valid point." And she never responded. I attached a picture of me and then I asked her how she was with a simple " how are you doing? I hope you are well. It | staved off from marriage when she randomly texted me this week saying " This guy's head looks like you that it is crazy. The only difference is that he has a goatee." LOOKING ANGEL: "You had a valid point, lol. So I told you not having grown it. You had a valid point." And she never responded. I attached a picture of me and then I asked her how she was with a simple " how are you doing? I hope you are well. It | I wrote her copy and dated her 2nd year so I wouldn't tell her. She never talked to me again. how to get her back? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What would you DO with the money you won if you hit the lottery?
POST: I would begin by getting a proper wingsuit and parachute. I would then drive a four wheeler to the highest peak I could find and drive straight off of the cliff (making sure it will not hit anything below beforehand), then spreading my arms and taking flight.
After my first flight I would then purchase a turbo charged Hayabusa street bike and take it to the desert and feel what it is like to drive 180 mph.
Next I would purchase a massive yacht and begin to tour the world, stopping at places along the way and going backpacking to meet new people and see places and cultures, staying in hostiles and visiting pubs along the way.
Once I have accomplished several of these goals I would finally have the funds to dedicate all of my time and energy to my music. Music is a part of me, I sing and play many instruments.
After making music and recording albums for several years I would likely become a humanitarian worker and spend the rest of my life teaching people how to build ovens and provide their children with proper food / how to get clean water / helping out the needy of the world. | I would start by getting a wingsuit and parachute, then buy a hyperdrive and have fun, I would travel the world and meet new cultures, tourists, thrift stores, and food banks. | "if you hit the lottery, you don't need it!" I would first obtain a proper wingsuit and parachute, then take off in a four wheeler to the highest elevation I could find, and then spread my arms and take flight. i would then purchase a quad and take it to the american desert and feel what it's like to drive 180 mph. i would eventually acquire a guitar and work on my projects. | "if you hit the lottery, you don't need it!" I would first obtain a proper wingsuit and parachute, then take off in a four wheeler to the highest elevation I could find, and then spread my arms and take flight. i would then purchase a quad and take it to the american desert and feel what it's like to drive 180 mph. i would eventually acquire a guitar and work on my projects. | I would start by getting a wingsuit and parachute, then buy a hyperdrive and have fun, I would travel the world and meet new cultures, tourists, thrift stores, and food banks. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Boyfriend (M23) and I (F23) broke up today.We are meeting this weekend for one last talk to "clear the air". Should I tell him I cheated on him, or let the relationship go in peace?
POST: If you are going to tell me what a horrible person I am don't because I already know.
Length of Relationship-- 5.5+ years
Anyways...I have been in a relationship with my now ex-boyfriend my entire time in college. I have graduated and am currently employed. We broke up today (he broke up with me but I felt the same way). We have had a very toxic relationship for a while. We both have had emotional abuse from both ends. We should have ended it a while ago.
He wants to get together this weekend and have one last talk. Over the summer we were apart and we didn't speak for weeks. I was in a very bad place in my life and I hung out with an old ex. We didn't have sex but we did make out and things got a bit touchy-feely.
My question is..Do I tell him this weekend when we get together for one last talk? He is planning on admitting me a few things to me, ( I don't think it is cheating) in order to clear the air. Or do I let things be and not burden him with this? | TL;DR: Boyfriend and I broke up today. We are meeting this weekend for one last talk to clear the air. Should I tell him I cheated on him or let the relationship go in peace? Do I let things move while we clear the air and not burden him with this? | greece and diana comeback--they broke up today. some saying we are a better couple and still needed to come out of it a little more. greece Let's talk to him about it. | greece and diana comeback--they broke up today. some saying we are a better couple and still needed to come out of it a little more. greece Let's talk to him about it. | TL;DR: Boyfriend and I broke up today. We are meeting this weekend for one last talk to clear the air. Should I tell him I cheated on him or let the relationship go in peace? Do I let things move while we clear the air and not burden him with this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend, but I feel utterly lost, and am unsure what I should do.
POST: I'm a 17 year old male, and she's 16. We've been dating for 4 months, and recently I've been torn on whether or not I should end the relationship. I love her, but I don't think we've ever been able to really connect. On reflection, we don't have a whole lot in common; I don't think I've ever been able to have a meaningful conversation about anything during the whole 4 months we've been dating. To add to this, she's always busy with baby-sitting, and even uses that as an excuse to neither text, call, or instant message me.
When she doesn't have to baby-sit, all she wants to do is sit at home and watch television and play video games; I haven't been able to get her to come over since May. While we're on the subject, I've only been able to spend time with her maybe half a dozen times in the past 40 or so days. I did manage to hang out with her at her house today, and quite honestly, I felt good being with her at the time, but nothing has changed. Well, nothing has changed for the better anyway. While I was there, I could not help but feel distant and a little unhappy with the relationship, and left on an emotional low-note.
I feel bad; I don't want to hurt her. I do love her; she's really sweet, and I can tell she's into the relationship, despite her lazy disregard for communication. However, I feel awfully unhappy, and I don't know what to do. I think I only got into a relationship with her because she was available, and we were both horribly lonely (I've never had a significant other before; she's never done well with her past relationships). I really don't know what I'm doing, and I'm not close to my family, and I have no close friends to talk about this with (especially since most of my friends know and like my girlfriend). Everyone I talk to thinks we're perfect for each other, and I feel stressed out and alone in the world. Reddit, I could really use some advice; I have nowhere else to turn, and no one else to talk to. | I feel utterly unhappy; I dont know what to do. I'm crazy about something; I truly don't know if I should but I don't know what to do. | rachel 71: I've always respected my girlfriend despite her gossip. she says it's because she is low on energy whether she wants to be with me or not. 62: I feel lonely, miserable; nowhere else to go, and no one to offer help. 90: she thinks you're hungry for truth, and puts her best foot forward for co-dependence. reddit will help; it's understandable! | rachel 71: I've always respected my girlfriend despite her gossip. she says it's because she is low on energy whether she wants to be with me or not. 62: I feel lonely, miserable; nowhere else to go, and no one to offer help. 90: she thinks you're hungry for truth, and puts her best foot forward for co-dependence. reddit will help; it's understandable! | I feel utterly unhappy; I dont know what to do. I'm crazy about something; I truly don't know if I should but I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking a shower, thinking I was alone.
POST: So this happened about 20 min ago. I had gotten done with my quiet night of gaming and decided to take a shower before bed. As I was brining my dinner plate downstairs I noted my roommate was out and about.
A little info: If I know my roommate is home, I will take my clothes into the shower with me and come out with at least pants on, out of courtesy for another person. If he is not home, I may or may not have boxers on, depending on how I feel.
Anyway, after drying off I open the door, and there are two girls standing outside his room, which happens to be directly adjacent to the bathroom. I was definitely not wearing pants, or boxers. Aside from the brief awkwardness, I shrugged it off and walked to my room, down the hall a bit.
I don't tend to get uncomfortable, as being in the military really prevents you from being shy. Can't speak for them though, they seemed shocked for sure. | TTL;DR: TIFU by taking a shower, thinking I was alone. Not maliced. Was wearing pants or boxers, thought I was alone around the guy I was staying with. Ms. Man was shocked. What to Do????? | gk is a military veteran who gains allies in other parts of the world by walking to him when he returns. when it rains, he thinks he is alone and tries to take clothes and/or boxers on out of courtesy. he's not home, so either of red or blue are better options for me. r/tifu was sort of spoken to by my roommate, though she left dressed in boxers. | gk is a military veteran who gains allies in other parts of the world by walking to him when he returns. when it rains, he thinks he is alone and tries to take clothes and/or boxers on out of courtesy. he's not home, so either of red or blue are better options for me. r/tifu was sort of spoken to by my roommate, though she left dressed in boxers. | TTL;DR: TIFU by taking a shower, thinking I was alone. Not maliced. Was wearing pants or boxers, thought I was alone around the guy I was staying with. Ms. Man was shocked. What to Do????? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by terrifying a freshie for weeks
POST: So, this is about 4 years ago. I was a sophomore in highschool.
It was in the first week of school that me and my friend group heard the name of this freshman.. He had an awesome name. Idk how i can make something comparable.. We'll call him Barry Powers. It wad like that, a superhero type name. So anyway, we heard the name Barry Powers during freshman roll call and we were like "damn! What a sick name!" And made it our ultimate mission to find this guy.
And so we searched.
It took weeks.
Whenever we met other freshmen, we asked, "do you know Barry Powers?" And other questions like "what does he look like?", "where did you last see him?", and "where can we find him?". We really wanted to find this kid and congratulate him on his name.
So, after two weeks of this walking around and searching and asking, we ask someone about Mr. Powers and their answer is "oh, he's right there." we get freakin hyped and beeline to the dude, who looks at us with fear in his eyes. Thinking back on it, we had the poor kid, who was eating lunch on his own, in a corner surround by 4 of us. I asked, "hey man. You Barry Powers?"
"y-yeah.." He managed to respond.
"oh, well, you have a sweet name!" I said.
"ok.." Mumbled Powers. Now, the next moment was like the end of an always sunny episode; my friends and I looked around and each other and decided, "oh cool we did it, moving on now."
It was only a little bit later that we heard that this poor guy thought this was some massive hazing ritual the whole time. And since we had asked so many people, most of the freshman class thought here was some crazy hazing where we chose one random dude, hunted him down, and did something to him. Oops! | We search for names, and meet a former freshman in elementary school without any luck. He lashes up, and we get scary. | "bright and sweet," screamed the american college scholarship. who knew. And then his friend started asking questions, just to be sure. frickin' great guy, i hate this.. and just wanted to keep the locals from murdering him. I'm bawling.. I keep wanting to be like uh-oh... you know, in a downtown movie featuring the high school gossip bit in the 1980s... uh oops 5 | "bright and sweet," screamed the american college scholarship. who knew. And then his friend started asking questions, just to be sure. frickin' great guy, i hate this.. and just wanted to keep the locals from murdering him. I'm bawling.. I keep wanting to be like uh-oh... you know, in a downtown movie featuring the high school gossip bit in the 1980s... uh oops 5 | We search for names, and meet a former freshman in elementary school without any luck. He lashes up, and we get scary. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What will my [24M] relation be to my mother's [50F] soon to be child be [0 M or F].
POST: It sounds simple enough but it really isn't. I'll try to be brief. My uncle's girlfriend is going to be having a baby soon, and they aren't sure if it's his or not. Either way they can't afford to having another kid, so they asked my mother if she'd adopt him/her. She and her husband (my step dad not biological father) agreed. Which is great and we're all incredibly happy if it all works out!
Now my question is what exactly will my relation to this kid be? If my uncle is the dad that makes him/her my biological cousin. If not then biologically I'm not related to this kid at all. So then the kid will be adopted by my mother and step dad, making the kid either my half brother or sister, but also my cousin maybe...?
But either way he or she will be my adopted half brother or sister but also my cousin? But adopted and potentially biological? And isn't half brother or sister sharing one biological parent?
I'm fairly confused. I'm just interested in know what exactly this kid's relation to me will be. Plus I have a fascination with complicated family ties. | TL;DR: My uncle's girlfriend is having a baby soon, and she agrees to have a kid. | natural beings --- yes, I know he (she) is the child of my uncle's girlfriend. if my uncle is the dad that makes you half brother or sister but also my cousin. so who will be my biological cousin then? or is my seven-year-old brother or sister with one biological parent already? oh! it's totally freaking amazing! only the people who are related to them know this, for 3 days. | natural beings --- yes, I know he (she) is the child of my uncle's girlfriend. if my uncle is the dad that makes you half brother or sister but also my cousin. so who will be my biological cousin then? or is my seven-year-old brother or sister with one biological parent already? oh! it's totally freaking amazing! only the people who are related to them know this, for 3 days. | TL;DR: My uncle's girlfriend is having a baby soon, and she agrees to have a kid. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [35f] ex [34m] is physically abusing his girlfriend [30somethingF]. Should I talk to her?
POST: My ex and I were together for six years, which culminated with him holding a gun to my head threatening to murder me while he was under the influence of a drug (MXE). He has a lot of mental health problems and the drug abuse certainly does not help.
Since the end of our relationship three+ years ago, he's been in a relationship with one woman and told me that he had gotten clean, which I've since learned is a lie. We have very little contact. Last weekend a mutual friend was with the ex and his gf and he was intoxicated and choked his gf in front of other people. The gf said it's happened a number of times. The next morning when everyone was sober, the gf tried to brush it off and act like everything was fine. She lives with him with her two young children. He still has guns. I'm absolutely terrified for her.
On one hand, it isn't any of my business. My life changed substantially for the better after getting out of the relationship with my ex and I don't want to involve myself in any drama. I dropped him and everyone associated with him (other than this one mutual friend) back then because of how messed up I was after the gun incident. On the other, I feel like I should tell her about what happened to me so that she knows exactly who she's dealing with (although she may already know). His behavior is clearly escalating, he has guns, and he's still abusing this drug. My current boyfriend, whose opinion I value immensely, says that I should leave it be, but he is obviously biased.
I can't look at this situation objectively. What, if anything, should I do? | I have very little contact with her. He's physically abusing his girlfriend. Sober, he's still abusing this drug. Should I talk with her? I'm absolutely terrified. | soron ali, member of the "spitzer team", revealed his shocking behavior. contacts with the ex are inexistent and she is hundreds of miles away. ali: "had this conversation with 33m? just assumed she was there for me" ali: "yes, we can talk to her" | soron ali, member of the "spitzer team", revealed his shocking behavior. contacts with the ex are inexistent and she is hundreds of miles away. ali: "had this conversation with 33m? just assumed she was there for me" ali: "yes, we can talk to her" | I have very little contact with her. He's physically abusing his girlfriend. Sober, he's still abusing this drug. Should I talk with her? I'm absolutely terrified. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 F]and a new friend [20 M] : He likes me but I definitely don't like him? How do I set boundaries nicely?
POST: I have a guy friend who I made recently and he asks to hang out a lot and whenever we go grab a bite he offers to pay. I always say no but sometimes he is very persistent. He also tries to hug me a lot and texts me rather often. I've just recently met him at work so I find his behaviour a bit odd because even though we're friends, I'm still getting to know him and I don't feel close enough to him to be so touchy feely. Also, I think he may be interested in me, which if he is, I don't want to lead him on but I also don't want him to think I don't appreciate his friendship. I do enjoy hanging out with him but just as a friend.
How do I know if he likes me or is just being friendly? How do I set boundaries without being rude? He is fun to hangout with but I'm not a sentimental person and I don't like being touched. I am also not attracted to him at all.
Thanks in advance! | TL;DR: Guy friend is very persistent and wants to hang out but I don't want him to think I'm a sexist. how do I set boundaries nicely without be touching? | I'm finding his behaviour odd because even though we're friends he waddles around. I can't contact him, so I'm curious. I've found my friendship a bit strange. | I'm finding his behaviour odd because even though we're friends he waddles around. I can't contact him, so I'm curious. I've found my friendship a bit strange. | TL;DR: Guy friend is very persistent and wants to hang out but I don't want him to think I'm a sexist. how do I set boundaries nicely without be touching? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[18M] I think I want to end a serious relationship, need advice. Her[16MF]
POST: I have been dating this girl on, and off, for over 5 years, some may say it's probably not serious, but it is. But my ex [18F] has recently re-kindled a strong passion I had for her for a while, about 6 months. I want to give it another shot, but I don't know how to cut the ties with the relationship I am in. I really love my current girlfriend, but I want to give my ex another shot, and I have no idea what to do. My current girlfriend is very attached to me, and I don't want to lose her, so I need real advice. | TL;DR: Want serious relationship ended, need advice re-kindling ex. Want to end relationship, need advice recut the ties and give my ex another shot. | you can't find a serious partner, has recently rekindled a passion for her. I need to run with my ex, need advice. She [16F] POST: I have been dating her subject, for over 5 years. but she's re-kindled a strong passion I had for her for about 6 months. My current girlfriend is very attached to me, so I don't want to lose her, so I need real advice. Her[16MF] POST: I have been dating | you can't find a serious partner, has recently rekindled a passion for her. I need to run with my ex, need advice. She [16F] POST: I have been dating her subject, for over 5 years. but she's re-kindled a strong passion I had for her for about 6 months. My current girlfriend is very attached to me, so I don't want to lose her, so I need real advice. Her[16MF] POST: I have been dating | TL;DR: Want serious relationship ended, need advice re-kindling ex. Want to end relationship, need advice recut the ties and give my ex another shot. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, when have your personal religious beliefs, or lack thereof, been most insulted or oppressed?
POST: When I was about 13 or 14, I had a neighbor, a nice, polite, elderly man who was VERY religious. He kept asking us, every single week, if we wanted to go to church with him, and me and my mom always politely declined. I'm an Atheist, and my mom is Jewish, for the record.
So, during one holiday, I can't remember which it was, probably Easter or Christmas, he asks us to go to church with him, and when we once again politely decline, he insists that it was important that we go because it was a holy day. It was then that my mom explained that she was Jewish, which he was somewhat taken aback by, but quickly accepted. However, the moment I said "I don't believe in god.", he was very clearly offended.
From that day forward, every single day, he would knock on our door and remind me that I was going to hell and that the only way that god would ever forgive me is if I accepted him as the lord. He didn't care whether I was Christian or Jewish or whatever, as long as I believed that god was the creator of all and that I submitted my soul to him. He would always end our conversation with a typical "Would you like to go to church with me this Sunday?" and when I inevitably replied "no thanks", he would reply with "Then you're going to hell."
We tried to ignore it, since we didn't want to start any problems, but it became so persistent, we eventually told him to stop coming by and harassing us, and that we were entitled to believe in whatever we wanted as long as our beliefs weren't hurting anyone else. He refused to accept that, saying that belief in god is the only path to heaven and that if you don't believe in him, then you will suffer in the fires of hell for eternity after you die. After that, we never spoke to him again. | my mom is Jew, and I asked permission to go to church with him on gifts, which he replied with outright rejection. When have you been most disturbed or oppressed by some devil like man? | like hundreds of thousands of others, bluebird represents religious formation. bluebird advocates trade-off between religious, secular and secular; orthodoxy is more resistant to change. bluebird is also opposed to violence. it will feature in upcoming episodes. | like hundreds of thousands of others, bluebird represents religious formation. bluebird advocates trade-off between religious, secular and secular; orthodoxy is more resistant to change. bluebird is also opposed to violence. it will feature in upcoming episodes. | my mom is Jew, and I asked permission to go to church with him on gifts, which he replied with outright rejection. When have you been most disturbed or oppressed by some devil like man? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 9 months, hurt and I don't know what to do.
POST: Sorry for the long post. I'm really hurting right now and could use some advice or wise words.
To give a brief background, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months. He's a physician in an intense fellowship program and generally very stressed/tired/busy, I'm currently in school, and stay pretty busy with an internship and working. We spend almost everyday together, support each other, have a lot of fun and both refer to the other as our best friend (that we enjoy touching inappropriately.)
For the first couple months we were very happy together. The issues didn't start until I brought up the dreaded question, "So what are we?". Then began a bit of a struggle. I always wanted more from the relationship and was greeted by hesitancy, by 3 months I asked for exclusivity and he eventually agreed but only because I was going to leave if he didn't (I wanted something serious.) by 6-7 months I said I love you, he didn't say it back. This is totally fine, painful, but fine. I said I'd be patient with him until he is ready. He still hasn't said it back, but now at 9 months he said that he feels like he is falling in love, but isn't in love yet. This progress has given me hope, but not being on the same page has made me feel a bit insecure about our relationship.
He has mentioned that he doesn't want to fall in love unless he knows that we will have a serious future together, so he doesn't get hurt like he did in his 2 prior relationships. :(
We have been fighting a lot recently because: I still haven't met his family (they live 5 minutes from him), he doesn't want to share our relationship on Facebook (not the biggest deal!), he isn't in love with me, we don't really talk about the future, and the quality of time spent together isn't the best due to the nature of his work and how stressed and tired he is all of the time. After expressing my concerns about these things, he said he doesn't want to lose me and will try to open up to me. The fighting is really getting to us both. | I want out in love about him but still want to have a serious future but he still doesn't. What to do? TL;DR: Recently stopped arguing about anything for the last 5 years. What to do? | 2012 post about communications with boyfriend of 9 months. work with doctor, recent soccer win in cebu, posting while sitting at a friend's house. drawing comparisons is a quick one, painless photo shot over a parked car. | 2012 post about communications with boyfriend of 9 months. work with doctor, recent soccer win in cebu, posting while sitting at a friend's house. drawing comparisons is a quick one, painless photo shot over a parked car. | I want out in love about him but still want to have a serious future but he still doesn't. What to do? TL;DR: Recently stopped arguing about anything for the last 5 years. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] with my SO [19 F] of 6 months, went out came back with hickey in neck. How to bring up
POST: This happened a couple of weeks ago. She went out on a night out with friends, a mixture of guys and girls.
We went on holiday together the day after. In the evening of that first day, she brings up that she got a hickey the night before from one of the guys. She tells me that this guy, while drunk, came up behind her and bit her neck, leaving the mark. She was completely open about this, and didn't try to hide any of the details as far as I can tell. At the time, this seemed plausible and I didn't think anything more of it.
However, having had time to think about this, I am aware that it would take some time to give someone a hickey. As far as I am aware, it could not just happen from a guy biting her neck randomly.
I was just wondering if you could give me some advice of the best way to bring this up with her in a non-accusatory way, as I do trust her completely, just need some questions answering I guess. | TTL;DR: SO comes back to me with hickey in neck. I have re-assessed it wat can happen from another guy biting her neck randomly. | after way back into intimacy, she references the one time she got a hickey on a foreigner. It seems plausible, and she just talked about it a little. | after way back into intimacy, she references the one time she got a hickey on a foreigner. It seems plausible, and she just talked about it a little. | TTL;DR: SO comes back to me with hickey in neck. I have re-assessed it wat can happen from another guy biting her neck randomly. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIP my friend by grounding him
POST: The Background:
You read it right, I didn't get him grounded, I actually grounded him. This particular friend has really strict parents, especially when it comes to grades, and they only allow him to have a B in one class, with everything else being A's, or they ground him.
Events Leading to the Prank:
Now, I don't usually pull any pranks, but he knocked a full, heavy water bottle onto my shoeless foot (by accident). I demanded an apology, and when he refused, I vowed to prank this hooligan.
The Setup:
I got another friend to get his phone (he has a really shit slide phone, but that has nothing to do with anything) and give it to me. Then, like a government hacker, I set to work trying to figure out how the fuck that not-smartphone worked. I managed to switch his mother's contact to my name (now you see where this is going) but he got the phone back before I could put my number under his mom's name! This was all going on at the beginning of class, and when class started I didn't know how I would finish the prank. But the April Fool must have smiled upon me, because lo and behold, a fire drill saved the day! Turns out that some other kids had taken his phone since he had gotten it back from me, so I told them I was pranking him, and they gave me the phone to finish my work. I finally finished and the phone was returned to him.
The Execution:
You can probably guess what happened next. As his mom (more like his dictator) I texted him and said that his grade in chemistry had gone down to a B due to a test which he thought he did badly on, and that he could forget about doing anything over spring break. I had him going for a good while, until he got a text from me (actually his mom) telling him he had to pay for his broken retainer and that she would be picking him up soon. I guess he pieced it together then, and when he cursed me out over text, I knew it was over because he would never curse at his supreme leader. Prank successful, imo | my friend got a phone back, I pranked him by sharing it with our friendship, and I finally ended on the phone and he got it back from his mom. Let's agree.: I grounded this friend, and he got the phone back from me. From there, I pranked this man, realized he has very poor grades and they ground him in class! | be honest, this isn't a prank, but there's fun to be had by an audience. the spirit of "coworker what does he do?"...but that's just me... well...the mother isn't a bad playmate. but my daughter, who is different / blushes at me, says: 'i can't believe child doesn't have a gun!' | be honest, this isn't a prank, but there's fun to be had by an audience. the spirit of "coworker what does he do?"...but that's just me... well...the mother isn't a bad playmate. but my daughter, who is different / blushes at me, says: 'i can't believe child doesn't have a gun!' | my friend got a phone back, I pranked him by sharing it with our friendship, and I finally ended on the phone and he got it back from his mom. Let's agree.: I grounded this friend, and he got the phone back from me. From there, I pranked this man, realized he has very poor grades and they ground him in class! |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Need to verify if a housing law in Portland, OR is correct or has been turned into a "law" when it's really a guideline.
POST: So I'm on Facebook asking if there's a place to rent in the Portland, OR housing classifieds. We have a few kids, enough that people think that you cannot put more than 2 kids per room for, say, a two bedroom house. There seems to be a section in the housing code that they should follow the "2+1" rule for renting. However, when reading the code, this seems to be even more of a guideline than a rule, and is even mentioned as such by the mayor in a PDF I found dated a few years ago.
With housing so tight and people failing to find housing for one reason or another (and I plan to move my family up in a couple of months. I work in Portland right now), it would be nice to be able to come at this problem to show landlords that this isn't a law but a guideline, and should be treated as such. | TL;DR: I'm wondering if I should follow legislation for additional kids involved in renting, or to be able to check if it's a guideline. | the '2+1' rule seems to be a guideline to tenants. someone is suggesting that they follow it in the housing code for two bedrooms. however, people use it to zero in on all further situations. | the '2+1' rule seems to be a guideline to tenants. someone is suggesting that they follow it in the housing code for two bedrooms. however, people use it to zero in on all further situations. | TL;DR: I'm wondering if I should follow legislation for additional kids involved in renting, or to be able to check if it's a guideline. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My longtime cat is now a nightmare, she has peed on everything and my family has left it to me to take care of this problem. How should I go about this?
POST: I rescued this cat off the street seven years ago and begged my parents to save her. Which is why I'm responsible for my cat and will have to decide what to do about her excessive peeing problem. The thing is, she's an outdoor-indoor cat so she has never before peed in our house until recently. She has always done her business somewhere down the street from us.
Yesterday she peed in my sister's purse, in her bed, and on a bunch of her clothes. She jumped on the kitchen counter and peed on my nephew's baby bottles. She peed on all the towels my parents use and in their shower. She peed in all of our showers. ***That's not the worst part!*** My sister didn't realize the cat peed on her shirts (it had dried by then) and wore one of them to work. And my mother didn't know the cat peed on the towel she had used to dry herself after taking a shower - that was until she saw the kitchen and figured out the strange smell of her towel was, in fact, pee. Everyone in the house wants that cat put down.
I would be the one to have to put her down and I don't want to do it. My cat is mean, she is annoying, and has ruined every couch and dining room chair we have had. Yet I don't want to put her down because in the past two months I've had four of my dogs pass away (from old age) and another one is on the way.
I set up a cat litter box for now but what else can I do? Should I have her checked by the vet? (it's about $160..and $400 if they run blood tests) I've never had to euthanize a pet before but it seems so..wrong I guess to do it because of a peeing situation. | She has peed on every electronic thing in our house and my siblings and I have to decide what to do. How can I reduce how fast I can stop her from peeing so it doesn't cost me extra. | my furry family has left it to me to handle the problem. shirts. shirts. boardmats. Baby bottles. About 9 drawers. Shirts. Dinners. Last night. Over the past week she has peed on everything. She peed on the kitchen counter. Churchill switched off her laptop and jumped on the kitchen counter. She peed on everything. Unbelievably disgusting..and annoying. And isn't the right cat for me because my dog will probably | my furry family has left it to me to handle the problem. shirts. shirts. boardmats. Baby bottles. About 9 drawers. Shirts. Dinners. Last night. Over the past week she has peed on everything. She peed on the kitchen counter. Churchill switched off her laptop and jumped on the kitchen counter. She peed on everything. Unbelievably disgusting..and annoying. And isn't the right cat for me because my dog will probably | She has peed on every electronic thing in our house and my siblings and I have to decide what to do. How can I reduce how fast I can stop her from peeing so it doesn't cost me extra. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23F] with my boyfriend [27M] 1year, told me he is curious to see me with someone else during argument
POST: This is my first relationship and he has past exes before. Everytime we have a big argument, he tells me that he's curious to see me with someone else just to see who is being reasonable or unreasonable.
Is there an explanation for him to say that to me?
Or is it okay for him to say that to me?
Should I just brush it off?
I love him so much and its only been a year together and this statement comes up often when we have a big fight usually from something that I bring up initially.
The arguement ends up being big because of misunderstandings and little details like tone of voice and attitudes while we're trying to solve the problem.
He says that he cares about me but would you say that to someone you care about?
I feel so hurt when he says that to me. I would never want to see him with someone else, or even think about him seeing someone else. | TL;DR: boyfriend of a year is fascinated to see me with someone else a lot during argument. wonders what could be to go about catching it? What can he do? | bob greene: alwaystimes in bad or ugly arguments, he accompanies me to see him with someone else. greene: is there an explanation that this behavior is his? he just wants to see me with someone else just to see what might be reasonable or unreasonable. me that he cares, but would you say that to someone you care about? greene: or is it okay for him to say that to me or should i brush it off? | bob greene: alwaystimes in bad or ugly arguments, he accompanies me to see him with someone else. greene: is there an explanation that this behavior is his? he just wants to see me with someone else just to see what might be reasonable or unreasonable. me that he cares, but would you say that to someone you care about? greene: or is it okay for him to say that to me or should i brush it off? | TL;DR: boyfriend of a year is fascinated to see me with someone else a lot during argument. wonders what could be to go about catching it? What can he do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[21M] and my ex[21F] of 6 months recently broke up and I can't get over her
POST: So my ex gf and I dated for about 6 months. We hit things off really well and found we have incredibly similar tastes, hobbies, interests, etc, but failed to be compatible personality-wise. It was my first relationship so I had a good deal to learn and I wasn't exactly the fastest learner.
Anyways, we jumped into the relationship very quickly, after maybe a month of talking, and had sex very soon. The beginning was nothing like I had anticipated and we had a ton of road bumps along the way but were always able to patch things up. Things eventually got much better after a big fight and we were together all the time and loved each other's company. Towards the end of the relationship I felt her pulling away. I consider myself the jealous type and I think that's for a couple of reasons: I have always been put down for my looks and developed a generally lower self-esteem, and also because she was insanely hot. From the moment she caught my eye till today, she has always been the most beautiful girl I have seen, and I always made sure she knew that. So my jealousy of whenever she'd talk to other guys was definitely something that was always present.
Basically now it's all over and we're not even near each other distance-wise. I find myself missing her more every day and we still talk like friends but I just don't think I'll ever get over her... What do I do? | split and now our romance is online. How do I get over it? | for two weeks. We were really good friends in fact! A fight soon ravaged our relationship and we were completely honest. i began to feel jealous about her and wasn't happy with what I was seeing. i dated her for 6 months before she finally quit over a major struggle. since then, she has become one of my favorite girls. | for two weeks. We were really good friends in fact! A fight soon ravaged our relationship and we were completely honest. i began to feel jealous about her and wasn't happy with what I was seeing. i dated her for 6 months before she finally quit over a major struggle. since then, she has become one of my favorite girls. | split and now our romance is online. How do I get over it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I've [18 F] been cheating with my friend [18 M] on my long distance boyfriend [18 M] and now I may be pregnant
POST: Been dating my long distance boyfriend (lives in England and I'm from America) for just over a year, I'm in university now (In England but were still at opposite ends of the country) and became best friends with my roommate and now there are benefits with that friendship as well as I may be pregnant with his child (as of the 13th last Saturday).
Planning on breaking up with my boyfriend (not because of the pregnancy thing) I just don't feel the same that I used to with my boyfriend and its way to difficult and expensive to keep this long distance thing going. We also have different plans for the future and I'd been thinking about breaking up with him even before the thing with my roommate even started.
I honestly would have broken up with him already but we planned ahead and had bought train tickets to spend Christmas with him and his family 3 weeks in advance, I'm leaving in two days. It's too late to back out now and I can't refund the tickets.
But I'm more worried about being pregnant, it just terrifies me because, if I am, my mom will probably want me to quit school and come back home and that's the last thing I'd want. Also abortion is out of the question, not because I'm against it or anything, I highly agree with it, I just personally could never do it. And I'm highly considering adoption but which country would I have the baby in because I still would want to be apart of the child's life. The last thing I would want is for the child to think its mother never wanted it. I'm just really scared and need any advice. Thanks guys. | relationship has deteriorated rapidly and I'm worried I may become pregnant. Fearful of breaking up with my boyfriend for the second year and still within the honeymoon phase. | xuchang: who is the most scared of these moves? neither of us have gone through the pain of this untraumatic relationship. xuchang: meaning splitting up may be hard, but so is the pregnancy thing. | xuchang: who is the most scared of these moves? neither of us have gone through the pain of this untraumatic relationship. xuchang: meaning splitting up may be hard, but so is the pregnancy thing. | relationship has deteriorated rapidly and I'm worried I may become pregnant. Fearful of breaking up with my boyfriend for the second year and still within the honeymoon phase. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[26F] with my husband [38M] of six years, yells more and more everyday. How can I make it stop???
POST: My husband turned down an offer and hasn't received another one in two weeks. He has applied at 100+ places and is stressed. He has begun to yell.
My husband grew up in a family where the dad yelled his wife and siblings into submission. I do not want my husband to become his dad. Within the last few weeks though he has. Today he even tried to yell me out so I'd succumb to his desires. He also has been turning things around and blaming me for everything.
I want my calm loving husband back. Instead I have a man who yells. How can i solve this? | TL;DR: Wonderful Husband, started yelling daily. How can I get him to stop? How can I prevent him from yell? I want my husband back. | SHUT, LoveHelp and Rules he has not declined another offer for two weeks. Today he even tried to yell me out so I'd succumb to his desires. Today he has been turning things around and blaming me for everything. “my husband had nine problems...exactly 60/29/2015′s keeps on yelling and while i don't want my husband to stay positive he seems to be getting way worse. I worry and feel responsible. | SHUT, LoveHelp and Rules he has not declined another offer for two weeks. Today he even tried to yell me out so I'd succumb to his desires. Today he has been turning things around and blaming me for everything. “my husband had nine problems...exactly 60/29/2015′s keeps on yelling and while i don't want my husband to stay positive he seems to be getting way worse. I worry and feel responsible. | TL;DR: Wonderful Husband, started yelling daily. How can I get him to stop? How can I prevent him from yell? I want my husband back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I think I may have a sleeping disorder, reddit please help me find an answer.
POST: Whenever I do activities that don't involve much focus, I get extremely tired and have an almost uncontrollable urge to close my eyes and fall asleep. This happens when in church, in class and even when driving (only in low activity areas like driving between towns).
I love going to church and listening to sermons but am unable to stay awake. I love to drive but again fall asleep. My classes are understandable because most of them are boring but I still have an almost uncontrollable urge to fall asleep. I am only tired when I do these things and as soon as I stop and do something that involves more focus or brain activity I am wide awake and couldn't fall asleep if I wanted too.
I am a 21 year old white male, who sleeps for 8 hours every night. I have a sleep number bed that is only a couple months old. This has been happening since I was around 17. Is their anything that I can do? An actual diagnosis for this? | TL;DR: Is there anything I can do to stop falling asleep or improve the focus of my brain? attempts to leave the home. this could be due to insomnia and an emotional reaction. what I can do? | princess afirma: "like me, I wait, pour out my hands, see an exhalator, listen to music, it's difficult to sleep, I just want to fall asleep!" "When my mind is off focus I have screaming urges to close my eyes, sit up and sleep. I can't finish the class or read down the train... or heard myself, calm down... or, if not controlled by acupuncture. in the morning" I will wait 5 minutes at night before I wake up so I can think of | princess afirma: "like me, I wait, pour out my hands, see an exhalator, listen to music, it's difficult to sleep, I just want to fall asleep!" "When my mind is off focus I have screaming urges to close my eyes, sit up and sleep. I can't finish the class or read down the train... or heard myself, calm down... or, if not controlled by acupuncture. in the morning" I will wait 5 minutes at night before I wake up so I can think of | TL;DR: Is there anything I can do to stop falling asleep or improve the focus of my brain? attempts to leave the home. this could be due to insomnia and an emotional reaction. what I can do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Burned out - How can I keep myself motivated?
POST: So, I started this semester with what I thought was just a normal class load, but it turned out to be several times worse than any of the previous semesters by far. As a result, I've worked my tail off for the first 2/3 of the semester, staying up super late every night as a result (on the order of 3-4 am every morning). There was exactly one day off this semester, during which I, you guessed it, worked some more.
Now, with three weeks to go, I'm burned out to the point where it's all I can do to even focus in my classes and get my work done. I know I need to get things done earlier/faster, but I am forced to use [Leechblock] to forcibly prevent myself from just wasting time online.
And yet, I still find ways to get around doing my work until it's very late at night. How can I motivate myself to get out of these doldrums and finish these next three weeks strong? | TL;DR: Was a super bully this semester, but graduating. Delayed after a stressful semester, burnt out altogether. How can I motivate myself/keep myself motivated to get out of this doldrums and finish these challenging weeks? | I've worked on lots of homework. There was also time off this semester.. stressful AND burnt out - How can I keep myself motivated? My colleagues emphasize that sleep is almost enough - But I need to! | I've worked on lots of homework. There was also time off this semester.. stressful AND burnt out - How can I keep myself motivated? My colleagues emphasize that sleep is almost enough - But I need to! | TL;DR: Was a super bully this semester, but graduating. Delayed after a stressful semester, burnt out altogether. How can I motivate myself/keep myself motivated to get out of this doldrums and finish these challenging weeks? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My long-distance girlfriend's [21/F] parents are too strict and she doesn't do anything about it. Is it okay to tell her to rebel against them ?
POST: Hi,
So we've been together for 3 years now and we live in different countries. We've known each other since we were 5 in elementary school, then we lost track of each other when my family and I left my native country. It is important to mention that our mothers were very close friends. So, we got back in touch 5 years ago when she was very good friends with my best friend over there. 3 years ago when I went to my native country to visit friends and family, I met her and we saw each other twice. Ever since that time, I flew to my native country twice to surprise her but she never saw me because her parents are too strict and they don't let her leave the house. I know this to be true for 100%. The problem is she never stands up to her parents, she always listens to them and never defies them when they refuse that she goes out with friends.
Now, she came with her family to my present country, and she still can't go out 5 minutes to see me...when she asked her parents, her mother was okay with the idea but her father refused. She then stormed out and locked herself in the room. Her father came a few hours later to apologize and offered that he takes her shopping... and that was it, she was no longer mad at him. I miss her so very much and I know I won't be able to go to my home country for at least 4 years, and I don't know if I'll be able to handle not seeing her for so long. They are leaving my present country in a few days and I want to see her for at least a few minutes. I want to tell her to not listen to her parents but I feel that it is wrong to tell someone to rebel in my own interest. Any help please ? I really don't know how to handle this. | girlfriend's parents are too strict and she doesn't do anything about it. I don't know if I'll be able to handle it. Anyone know how to try to shut up and not see her for a while. | i have had meetings with my short-distance girlfriend for last 3 years...she never saw me, did they come to blow her friendship off? she isn't doing anything about it, and do 'not listen to her parents' i just want to tell her to not be a savior and not buy her groceries. video footage shows her storming out in a prison and hiding in the kitchen. | i have had meetings with my short-distance girlfriend for last 3 years...she never saw me, did they come to blow her friendship off? she isn't doing anything about it, and do 'not listen to her parents' i just want to tell her to not be a savior and not buy her groceries. video footage shows her storming out in a prison and hiding in the kitchen. | girlfriend's parents are too strict and she doesn't do anything about it. I don't know if I'll be able to handle it. Anyone know how to try to shut up and not see her for a while. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some services that aren't offered that you wish were?
POST: I have kind of a unique dilemma that a service, in my opinion, a lot of people would use, would solve. I wish I could buy subscriptions to specific television channels and stream them on my smart television via an application or stream on a computer or mobile device. This is why...I live on Indiana University's property. They have the most shit standard definition cable ever and it blows. It only has very basic channels. When I asked if I was allowed a cable box, I was told that in the rules and regulations that it clearly states that anything of the sort would be considered a violation of the other tenants' rights to health and safety. Consequently I have to buy each episode of The Walking Dead on Amazon Instant when it becomes available the next day and will have to soon for Game of Thrones. Some say we should pirate them. That would work if their internet security system wasn't so thorough. It tells me when my Java is out of date...I'm pretty sure they could catch me stealing and do something irritating to us school-wise. | I am confused by the way this is done. Need help with it. | WAYNE learns how many uses the internet have. he also gave us a russian-language video uploader. u.s. authorities have the most stupid standard definition cable ever. the u.s. has options for Amazon and now webstream. | WAYNE learns how many uses the internet have. he also gave us a russian-language video uploader. u.s. authorities have the most stupid standard definition cable ever. the u.s. has options for Amazon and now webstream. | I am confused by the way this is done. Need help with it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need advice on cheating.
POST: Alright some back information, I'm 18 female I've been in a few really great relationships with some really great girls! I'm currently in one (it's been 2 months) and I have to say I couldn't be happier. My girlfriend is the greatest thing I could ever ask for and more than I'd ever expect from a person. I'm not unhappy at all, not bored at all (of the sex either.. that's just.. amazing), I have no issues really with the relationship and how it is!
That being said.. why do I think about cheating? I know I have a really *really* high sex drive, but hers is rather high as well. It works out great, and I can't complain at all about what/how she does.
I just have always, in every relationship, felt an urge to cheat. Not to end my relationship, but because *I know* that it's bad. That's why I want to do it? I'm just looking for opinions here, maybe someone else faces the same thoughts? I have dreams that I can control and I'll dream of my girlfriend all the time but some nights I'll cheat in my dreams. There's just this feeling that hits me where it's like.. "yeah.. I'd do that. It's bad.. but I want to."
As a side note maybe, it's always been part of my "fantasies" to do bad things. (sex with a teacher..coach..married woman..someone else cheating with me) Maybe I'm just attracted to the bad things?
I never would though! I love my girlfriend and I'd never want to hurt her. I'm just curious as to what it means/any advice or thoughts on it. Any questions as well I can answer! Thanks for reading this jumbled train of thoughts! | TL;DR: I hope I'm making a good impression, but I want to cheat. I'm %23, yes I want that. And ask for advice/eclair offers. | briska married one year later and they are both dormancy and secretive! the perfect match for me :) ;) will you have to check your marriage packet and put it up on facebook? i would gladly send feedback. | briska married one year later and they are both dormancy and secretive! the perfect match for me :) ;) will you have to check your marriage packet and put it up on facebook? i would gladly send feedback. | TL;DR: I hope I'm making a good impression, but I want to cheat. I'm %23, yes I want that. And ask for advice/eclair offers. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Would cutting contact be a good idea or should I stay friends with (F) co-worker. Stuck in a weird situation and not sure what to do.
POST: I'm a 27 year old male and work at a store with a 19 year old female. Over the past few months, she's been very flirty to me specifically but I did not express any interest in her at first due to the age gap. She would find ways to team up with me on projects and we would be together every day at work until all the co-workers just assumed there was something going on between us but neither of us addressed it.
I am starting to like her but don't know what to do. She texts me a lot and we chat on skype, mostly just joking around and flirty shit. I'm pretty sure she has a thing for me from the hints she's dropped but I'm also pretty sure she has a boyfriend but whenever I try to bring it up she changes the subject or vaguely says he's a friend.
A few days ago I saw her randomly with a guy holding hands. She didn't see me and later she texted me asking something and I replied and asked what the did that day. She said something along the lines of "just hung out with a friend shopping". Now I'm stuck in a weird situation where I'm not sure what's happening. I'm still having reservations about the age gap so this might be a good thing. Should I not pursue anything? Cut contact? (difficult...we work together and everyone there sorta knows what's happening so they usually team us up anyway) Stay just friends? She doesn't seem to be the type of person who would cheat but then again...I've only known her 4 or 5 months and have been serious friends 2 or 3 months so I wouldn't say I know her TOO well. Sorry for the rambling post. sorta drunk... | , I like her but don't know if it would be my right to follow her or be just friends. Still having reservations about the age gap. Should I cut contact or stay friends? TL;DR: Is this a good idea or should I stay friends | dude, wondering what to do.. tries to decide if cutting contact would be a good thing. i never knew her before...having only known her 4 or 5 months and have been serious friends 2 or 3 months so that doesn't seem to be her stage. etapi has been cropping up and some notreal tabloid research hints.. she is flirty at first, but it's now beginning to trend in favor of a boyfriend (roughly) a guy. | dude, wondering what to do.. tries to decide if cutting contact would be a good thing. i never knew her before...having only known her 4 or 5 months and have been serious friends 2 or 3 months so that doesn't seem to be her stage. etapi has been cropping up and some notreal tabloid research hints.. she is flirty at first, but it's now beginning to trend in favor of a boyfriend (roughly) a guy. | , I like her but don't know if it would be my right to follow her or be just friends. Still having reservations about the age gap. Should I cut contact or stay friends? TL;DR: Is this a good idea or should I stay friends |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (20M) hypocrisy over a girl I've been casually sleeping with is eating me up inside
POST: Two months ago I met a European girl in a club. We slept together that night, and since then we've been in touch fairly often, and even done things like going to the beach together and a football match (she's a fan, don't worry I didn't drag her there). However we always made it clear that this is not some sort of relationship. She recently got out of an abusive one with a man she was going to marry and I know she needs some time to be free; I'll be leaving here back to Britain in a month or so too so I can't really date anyone per se...
However every time I see her post a photo with another guy on Instagram, it eats me up inside. It makes me feel horrible. This is despite the fact that since I last saw her two weeks ago, I've had sex with someone else I'm planning to meet up with.
At this point I would like to appreciate that it is me at fault here, but how can I overcome this? | Tip: Young and happy I've been sleeping with considerably, but I'm over her posts though, and that makes me feeling completely unhealthy. What can I do to help her? | I'm worrying because in this post I see that this girl posts a photo with another guy, it eats me up inside. she will soon find and share it with some friends and family and even for the first time. | I'm worrying because in this post I see that this girl posts a photo with another guy, it eats me up inside. she will soon find and share it with some friends and family and even for the first time. | Tip: Young and happy I've been sleeping with considerably, but I'm over her posts though, and that makes me feeling completely unhealthy. What can I do to help her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So my boss bet me I couldn't get access to his wireless router without his help...I know I can do it, but I need a little help.
POST: Details:
Its a Linksys WRT54GS.
What I have learned is that the password is the default 'admin'.
They have a mac address filter but this only filters internet access.
They have a WPA which is just a string of letters and numbers that i dont know...i would need to steal this once i log in.
What im worried about is if they have an ip filter, how do i get it to talk to me so i can log into it. like i said the password is 'admin' so i just need to get to a login prompt and im good. the only way i know how to do this is by the standard ip address of 192.168.1.1 (which is the one they use).
Does anybody have any advice? I need to win this bet, because I know his network is vulnerable. | What are the configuration settings for my wireless router? What do i do to know? | i tried to drag the password on my router by setting it to 'admin' I need to get the wifi to let the computer talk to me as i cannot change it's default ip address. the password is 'admin' and the company uses a setting ip address 192.168.1.1. i guess i won't know where's this info, but i was well under this wind. this is a virtual router, I just have to remember the password | i tried to drag the password on my router by setting it to 'admin' I need to get the wifi to let the computer talk to me as i cannot change it's default ip address. the password is 'admin' and the company uses a setting ip address 192.168.1.1. i guess i won't know where's this info, but i was well under this wind. this is a virtual router, I just have to remember the password | What are the configuration settings for my wireless router? What do i do to know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: me (23f) lying to my boyfriend (27) about smoking
POST: So, I've been a smoker since I was 14 years old, I realize at this point how horrible it is for my health and after many failed attempts to quit I seem to be having an extremely hard time. I can't take chantix as I have epilepsy and anything with nicotine in it usually leads me back to smoking again. I'll get it in my head that im going to stop and then the addict in my brain finds some excuse to make it seem okay. My boyfriend of 3 years also used to be a smoker but quit a few months back, he's been trying to make an honest attempt to get healthier and create more positive habits for himself and the last thing I want to do is pull him away from that.
He's caught me lying a few times the past couple weeks. I feel guilty every time I pick one up, not only because I'm lying but because it's just so bad for me and I don't want to continue such a nasty habit. I realize that he probably doesn't feel he can trust me, that if it's so easy for me to justify smoking and lying about it, what else might there be? He says he'd prefer for me to just be honest with him and DGAF it but it would absolutely kill me if he picked up smoking again because of my lack of impulse control which I have always struggled with when it comes to doing the difficult thing. I'm afraid of failing and I know that's exactly what im doing by not trying.
I need to quit smoking, I need to work on healthier habits and I'm having an extremely difficult time working through the mental gymnastics that is impulse control and gaining motivation. Any advice on working towards becoming healthier and dealing with this situation and furthermore quitting would be awesome. | they were addicted to it, I'm lying about smoking and I need to quit. | this would be my first chronic quit as a smoker. i'm trying to rationalize my habit and quit but won't quit. a friend had me stop smoking 15 times recently. | this would be my first chronic quit as a smoker. i'm trying to rationalize my habit and quit but won't quit. a friend had me stop smoking 15 times recently. | they were addicted to it, I'm lying about smoking and I need to quit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Husband [29/m] was cold and distant last night. I'm [29/f] still upset despite him apologizing this morning. Should I bring it up and probably cause a fight? Or drop it and move on?
POST: I'll keep this short. We had a great weekend away for the long weekend. As soon as we get home he is miserable. I ask for help unpacking and doing laundry, and he huffs and puffs about it. He went from being super affectionate during our trip away to not even looking at me. I ask him what wrong and he says "just leave me alone".
I don't get it at all. I end up going to bed alone early because he isn't making room on the couch for me and is watching a TV show he knows I hate.
This morning he apologizes for being a jerk, but I am still hurt and I don't understand why his mood changed so drastically. | TL;DR: Husband was cold and distant last night and I'm still upset because he apologized this morning. Should I bring it up and probably cause a fight? Or drop it and move on? | jerk'd up on the couch — watch "tv show he knows i hate" guy offended by his attitude while going away for the weekend. husband's mood woes are still pleading with me to drop it. "you're lucky to have him; he was just so charming" | jerk'd up on the couch — watch "tv show he knows i hate" guy offended by his attitude while going away for the weekend. husband's mood woes are still pleading with me to drop it. "you're lucky to have him; he was just so charming" | TL;DR: Husband was cold and distant last night and I'm still upset because he apologized this morning. Should I bring it up and probably cause a fight? Or drop it and move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27M] was told by her [30F] that she doesn't know if she 'likes me' or 'likes me as a friend'
POST: I met a woman a few weeks ago and we've been on three dates. In my eyes, all three went pretty well and I was getting good vibes from her. She was a bit delayed when responding to texts, but I tried not to think about that too much.
Fast forward to yesterday's third date. We meet at a bar and have a few drinks. Everything is going well and we decide to part ways. I ask her something like "so hey, would you like to get together sometime next week?" She looks at me and says "look, I like you, but I can't tell if I just like you as a friend or if I actually like you. I'll text you."
I basically said if she's not feelin it, she's not feeling it. I told her that I did enjoy her company and I wanted to see her again. She thanked me. Now I understand I probably got let down the easy way, which is fine, but normally I'd just move on to the next relationship and not look back... But there's something about her that I like I don't want to give up on so easily.
If I don't hear back from her within a few days, is it acceptable for me to text her something like "look, I know you're unsure about your feelings but I just want to make it clear that I like you and I want to see you again. I'm not looking for a friendship."? Or should I wait it out and only text her back once she's texts me (if that actually happens)?
I know this is a lame post, but I've never been in a situation like this before :-/ | I met a girl, she'll reply to my texts. I'm sorry. I was told she doesn't know if she liked me, or if she does like me as a friend. She told me her I want to see her again. She thanked me. | a woman calls me 'boss' about my feelings - or one that she doesn't care about. Bing is thinking dabbling in friendship - and then she doesn't care anymore about it. "me as a friend" =0) I replied with a few "+1" words a couple of days later. | a woman calls me 'boss' about my feelings - or one that she doesn't care about. Bing is thinking dabbling in friendship - and then she doesn't care anymore about it. "me as a friend" =0) I replied with a few "+1" words a couple of days later. | I met a girl, she'll reply to my texts. I'm sorry. I was told she doesn't know if she liked me, or if she does like me as a friend. She told me her I want to see her again. She thanked me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my BF [20M] of a year, and he keeps Facebook creeping other girls
POST: So a few days ago I stumbled upon his Facebook search history. I scrolled down to see the list, and there are about 3 girls (friends) that keeps coming up. Every month there'd be a few times where it says "___ searched for CuteGirlA " . but one girl got more searches than the other ones...
I then confronted him. He lied about it at first until i showed him the proof. and he said that he has a "creeping addiction"? and that he feels bad every time he does it but can't stop himself.. But he said its merely for entertainment and not lust..is there such thing?
He apologized many times, and said he really does love me. and he would do anything to earn back my trust, and he even deleted Facebook for me. but I feel very betrayed and I don't know what to do that'll make me feel better.. can i trust him again? | TL;DR: My BF keeps Facebook creeping other girls, and I don't know how to trust him who doesnt really like me.. | i bought a concealable body wrap to protect myself from sex violence. he's a private person committed to its protections under an individual's strict privacy laws. social systems are the fiercest, the most banished and the easiest way for people to build trust. dont get me wrong, he hasn't given me an explanation. | i bought a concealable body wrap to protect myself from sex violence. he's a private person committed to its protections under an individual's strict privacy laws. social systems are the fiercest, the most banished and the easiest way for people to build trust. dont get me wrong, he hasn't given me an explanation. | TL;DR: My BF keeps Facebook creeping other girls, and I don't know how to trust him who doesnt really like me.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Sex Issues in an Otherwise Great Relationship
POST: My boyfriend and I (both 27) have been living together and dating for about two years (we started out as friends who lived together with another roommate.) I am a girl. Just need some advice, thanks. :)
The problem is that he has always had a much lower sex drive than I do. We have sex maybe 3 or 5 times a month, and when we do it is usually satisfying for both of us. But he usually just says he is too tired or that he wants to get up early so he has to sleep instead of sex, or some other barely-believable excuse. I basically just have to wait for him to initiate sex. He claims to be very attracted to me and I am extremely attracted to him.
I still feel a lot of pressure to initiate sex and seduce him, even though when I do it rarely works which usually ends up with me being all excited for no reason. There is a constant conflict in my mind about whether or not to attempt any seduction and risk the rejection.
This whole situation is slowly eroding my self-esteem and I feel like I am acting like a different person more and more. I have talked to him about it but he takes it very personally (understandably) and I basically have to accept him how he is or break up.
Is this a bad reason to break up? Could this be caused by his alcoholism? Has anyone found any effective ways to deal with such a situation? Masturbation is not nearly as satisfying, emotionally or physically, as sex with my SO. | TL;DR: I am a girl. When I begin sex, I feel pressure from him which makes me feel like a different person. | . TITLE: Sex Issues in an Otherwise Great Relationship? POST: It appears that my 29 year old boyfriend has a lower sex drive than i do. It is nice but he is usually reserved for evening sex. I think he is a drunken, loyal martin, but also a'masturbator' but he can still victimize me when, when, and how he acts it is getting worse. | . TITLE: Sex Issues in an Otherwise Great Relationship? POST: It appears that my 29 year old boyfriend has a lower sex drive than i do. It is nice but he is usually reserved for evening sex. I think he is a drunken, loyal martin, but also a'masturbator' but he can still victimize me when, when, and how he acts it is getting worse. | TL;DR: I am a girl. When I begin sex, I feel pressure from him which makes me feel like a different person. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [UPDATE 2] My[23] LD bf[23] is distant and hurtful.
POST: [Original Post](
[Update #1](
I know its been a while but I gave things time to settle down, and I think now is the appropriate time to update for hopefully the final time.
First of all I'd like to thank everyone that's commented. I really appreciate it, you have no idea.
So, we talked. Eventually he answered my texts and told me that he was sorry, he didn't mean to make me worry so much. He was basically having trouble with the distance and his life situation but decided that, in the end, it wasn't a big deal and he wanted to save what we had.
Shortly after, he called me on Skype (wow, he never does that. Hallelujah, amirite) and we talked a lot of things over. About how hurt I was, about how stressed he was, and that he'd gotten a new job that was working out really well. It would make it affordable to move in together once he got back on his feet in a few months, and the move date would be less than a year from now.
I asked him if all of our plans were back on, and he said yes. Since then it has been like nothing ever happened. He texts me daily, shows me the drawings he's working on, talks to me about his life goals (one of which is opening his own store). The only time he forgets to text me is if he's at a gaming tournament or otherwise out late. He'll still text me at some point the next day.
I'll admit I'm not entirely sure how to feel about all this. Seems really bizarre (in a wonderful kind of way) to just move past it all so quickly. But, hell, he's even sending me one of the shirts he's worn just to try and make me feel better. He's sent me pictures of apartments for my opinion on where we'll live. He's included me in discussions with his family on yearly vacation spots, asking me where I would want to go if I could go anywhere, because he'd definitely want me with them.
So... Yay? I'm pretty happy. Just thought I'd update, see if anyone wanted to comment. | I move to see him someday. Things are going really well, and I really want to chat with him. | Count me in and I have my heart set on my bf. he has radically changed me over the last several months. this 6months is the first time he will still text me after midnight. it's not even a factor as he decided he wanted to save what we had. | Count me in and I have my heart set on my bf. he has radically changed me over the last several months. this 6months is the first time he will still text me after midnight. it's not even a factor as he decided he wanted to save what we had. | I move to see him someday. Things are going really well, and I really want to chat with him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with [20 F], she apparently wants to meet me but I have no idea what to do.
POST: So I'm a student at a university and I've seen a girl around a few times from a distance who I thought was absolutely gorgeous. Since she is in a sorority and me a fraternity, I know a lot of her friends and when I asked them about her they were quick to tell me she's the perfect girl personality wise for me. So, one of our mutual friends who is really close to this girl told her about me and told me she wanted to meet me, gave me her number, and said it would be okay to text her so I did. We had a decent conversation going and it abruptly stopped. It was late, she probably fell asleep. So I followed the double texting rule and waited three days to try to reach out again. After I got the conversation going I asked her if she would like to meet me for coffee and she said she wouldn't be able to that week because of how busy she was with a weeklong philanthropy event. Even though she kept the conversation going for a while (that abruptly stopped again) I took it as a rejection and decided I wouldn't press it again. After that, I told another mutual friend who sits next to her in class and she said she actually was really busy with this philanthropy event and not to take it personal and that she'd talk to her about relationships without mentioning my name. So they talked and this girl told her a guy had been mean to her and she wanted to focus on school.
This was about three weeks ago, and her close friend said she'd give it one more try. I want to. This girl apparently is super sweet and has a great personality and I really want to get a chance to meet her but I don't know what to do and I'm scared of coming on too strong and creeping her out. What's your take? | tried sending a confirmation text but, accidentally put the old one off again. Girl within weeks tried to meet me again, then it abruptly stopped again. She wanted to touch base again but I'm scared of coming on too strong and creeping her out. | tia siskani turned down the offer over her name because she felt like somebody was too shy. nathan feinberg asks how he explain his/her own falling in love but is so oblivious to the inner turmoil he/she faces while alone. nnn: thanks to my friend, who agreed to come back to say hello. winter: every person at this station should feel protected and ready to be apart of a larger group at school. | tia siskani turned down the offer over her name because she felt like somebody was too shy. nathan feinberg asks how he explain his/her own falling in love but is so oblivious to the inner turmoil he/she faces while alone. nnn: thanks to my friend, who agreed to come back to say hello. winter: every person at this station should feel protected and ready to be apart of a larger group at school. | tried sending a confirmation text but, accidentally put the old one off again. Girl within weeks tried to meet me again, then it abruptly stopped again. She wanted to touch base again but I'm scared of coming on too strong and creeping her out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] am breaking up with my SO [23M] of 2 years this afternoon and I keep losing my nerve, need some encouragement
POST: So we have been dating for two years now and all the fire in our relationship is just gone. I don't think I am attracted to him anymore and I would like to start dating other people. Yesterday we had a huge break down because we haven't been having sex lately and he was justifiably upset about it. He basically made me feel bad for not wanting to sleep with him so we did and it was the worst thing ever. I have never felt so gross before, but I hated every second of it and afterwards I just wanted to cry because I could see how exactly opposite he felt about it.
I do not know how to handle this. I think he sees us with a future ahead of us and I just don't. But I keep losing my nerve, and I am terrified of what the future will be like without him. Just because I don't see him in a romantic sense doesn't mean I don't care for him anymore and he is such a huge part of my life that many, many things will change when we break up, such as our group of friends and our living situation. He is my friend but I know there is no way we can be friends after this because I will probably forget all the reasons why we need to break up and we will get back together again.
He moved to my town to be closer to me about 8 months ago and he really doesn't have anyone here for him besides me. I am afraid to leave him alone. I am terrified to be alone. He is the only person I have ever slept with and he is my best friend. I don't know where to go to do it and I don't know what to say and I don't know how I will get through the next couple of days. | TL;DR: After the breakup for 2.5 years, I feel like I don't want to be involved anymore. I am afraid to leave him alone because he is without people. How can I get through the next two days? | yesterday our relationship turned horrible. I hated every second of it, but desperately wanted to cry. I think he loves us and surely fixed everything for me before it happened. I feel cheap, but regardless of how we all did our lives and what we currently, we just lost one another. he is the only person I have ever slept with and he is my best friend. I will be in the rush all waking up to find my best friend and for one more time... I miss him enough to look forward to him coming | yesterday our relationship turned horrible. I hated every second of it, but desperately wanted to cry. I think he loves us and surely fixed everything for me before it happened. I feel cheap, but regardless of how we all did our lives and what we currently, we just lost one another. he is the only person I have ever slept with and he is my best friend. I will be in the rush all waking up to find my best friend and for one more time... I miss him enough to look forward to him coming | TL;DR: After the breakup for 2.5 years, I feel like I don't want to be involved anymore. I am afraid to leave him alone because he is without people. How can I get through the next two days? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So Reddit.. I just found out that this guy I really liked asked a girl out, what are some ways to cope? Any songs to cheer me up?
POST: [I'm 17 so please bear with the teenage drama/immature hormone infused decisions]
To begin with, I liked 'James' ever since the beginning of my junior year, we have always been good friends but I just started to like him (because of hormones? I don't know? Seriously... he is like the sweetest guy ever). I thought everything was going fine and dandy since he asked me to prom. Keep in mind that my stupid introvert self refuses to tell him my true feelings, so I think he was confused on whether I had feelings for him or not.
A few days after prom he texts my friend asking her if I would say yes if he asked me out; she then shows me the text, replies yes, and at this point I'm exuding happiness. Then..... a few days following the texts, at a typical underaged binge-drinking occasion he gets wasted and gets blowed by a whore; he is now incredibly ashamed and tries to keep this chapter of his life away from me, but of course I find out when my friend sends me pictures of it. By this point he texts my friends that he has no chance with me. I am, at this point confused too...
Fast forward a few months, we have just been hanging out as friends but I still have feelings for him, which I cannot subdue.
I just got a call from a girl him and I just met at the fireworks that he has just asked her out. I don't know what to do/feel... I am completely confused... I am too new to this whole romance/love thing
Any help Reddit from your experiences? | I got an instant brownie, and since then he has been asking me out. I have feelings for his girl and I hit jackpot. What are some ways to break the ice???? | dan: I thought everything was going perfectly, but then my introvert self just tried to say yes. he verred to let me down but i was overwhelmed over it properly. thanks his wife, who is great! | dan: I thought everything was going perfectly, but then my introvert self just tried to say yes. he verred to let me down but i was overwhelmed over it properly. thanks his wife, who is great! | I got an instant brownie, and since then he has been asking me out. I have feelings for his girl and I hit jackpot. What are some ways to break the ice???? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27M] am angry at her [27F] for lying, don't know if overreacting
POST: So the other night she wen't out with one of her gf's, the next morning she decided to tell me she stayed at her girl friend's because when they realized the time it was too late at night and she lived nearby.
That same afternoon we are talking again and she tells me a different story, she tells me she left her friend to attend a late class she's been taking, then she came back with her and some other bunch of male friends then they all decided to stay in one of these male friends house.
This bothered me quite a lot, i don't know if i'm overreacting, you have to know i have trust issues, and this kind of things just makes it worse. When i asked her why she changed the story she just said she didn't want to bore me with details.
It is worth to tell you i have seen hear lie the shit out of her family and friends before, usually because she tells them she is going to be someplace or doing something and she actually is with me.
You think i'm overreacting? Because i'm hurt, i don't feel i can have a relationship with someone i can't trust and that i can't tell how many times have lied to me. | I really wonder how she's working on this situation because of her lying me or not, don't think i'm overreacting. | reality star steele brown met her ex-girlfriend when she was out with her gf. right before her future as an alcoholic, tell her she made a friendship while they slept in a house she was staying in. even though she told me she was angry about it, i didn't tell her why. now, i feel a bother in her chapter 9 interview because i don't know if she's overreacting. | reality star steele brown met her ex-girlfriend when she was out with her gf. right before her future as an alcoholic, tell her she made a friendship while they slept in a house she was staying in. even though she told me she was angry about it, i didn't tell her why. now, i feel a bother in her chapter 9 interview because i don't know if she's overreacting. | I really wonder how she's working on this situation because of her lying me or not, don't think i'm overreacting. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[41F] hate my husband's [43M] foot fetish, but I've been playing along for years. Can I back out of it now?
POST: So my husband has a very particular foot fetish. He likes injured feet/dirty feet. If I step on something or go barefoot on pavement or for long periods of time, it's a huge turn-on for him.
We've been together for 20 years, and I used to kind of get off on it, too. But most times I just kind of feel like a non-descript body attached to a pair of feet. I hate that the fetish is a requirement for him to be turned on -- that's the basic definition of a fetish, right? When he goes to rub my feet or stares at them, I feel more turned off than anything.
This is such a part of his sexuality that I'm terrified of being honest with him about it. But it's so uncomfortable for me that I'd rather not have sex at all. | TL;DR: husband has a fetish for injured feet and obviously looks at them. I've been playing along for years about it. Can I back out of it 10 years from now? | gwyneth paltrow talks with an old-time girlfriend about her husband's foot fetish. she said the obsession is a physical setback for her husband, an "almost release of gambling" she says she was the father of four and won't be able to have sex anymore. | gwyneth paltrow talks with an old-time girlfriend about her husband's foot fetish. she said the obsession is a physical setback for her husband, an "almost release of gambling" she says she was the father of four and won't be able to have sex anymore. | TL;DR: husband has a fetish for injured feet and obviously looks at them. I've been playing along for years about it. Can I back out of it 10 years from now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 F] with my Dad [43 M], he bought a gun but I feel like he is not being safe with it.
POST: There were a few break-ins into cars and stuff in our neighborhood. My Dad decided that he wanted to buy a gun to protect the family in case of emergency. So he went out and bought a handgun. As far as I can tell, it's registered and legal. But the gun is making me very nervous and from what I looked up he isn't treating it like he should.
1. He doesn't know how to shoot and doesn't want to learn – he says in case of emergency that his aim will be automatic and "the adrenaline will get him through it".
2. He keeps it fully loaded all the time. I am the oldest in our house, my brother is 12 and my sister is 14, I'm worried they could just pick it up and accidentally shoot.
3. He doesn't have a case for it and keeps it wherever he wants. He likes to keep in clean and loaded in case of emergency or whatever and leaves it lying on his nightstand, coffee tables, etc.
Am I wrong to feel like this is unsafe? I tried to talk to him about it and he twisted it into me being an anti gun person and accused me of being brainwashed by Obama. He doesn't want to shoulder the extra expense of buying a case or a safe for it either, and he is very absentminded about where he leaves stuff anyway. I just want him to take proper safety precautions. Our Mom isn't in the picture so I have to figure this out. What do I do? How do I make him understand my feelings? Am I being overdramatic? | My dad bought a gun but I feel like he is not being safe with it also. How do I make him understand my feelings? | $7,000. he was fond of me and he bought me a handgun. he is apparently not being safe with it. keep up clean and loaded in case of emergency. What do I tell him? I think an actual facebook post handles this connection? Why? What do I feel? | $7,000. he was fond of me and he bought me a handgun. he is apparently not being safe with it. keep up clean and loaded in case of emergency. What do I tell him? I think an actual facebook post handles this connection? Why? What do I feel? | My dad bought a gun but I feel like he is not being safe with it also. How do I make him understand my feelings? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] miss my friend [19F, would be 23F] and want to know where she is buried.
POST: Hi, pretty much just what the title says. I had a friend in high school who took her life at 19 four years ago; without going into detail I miss her a lot and just want to visit her before I move across the country in a year.
I looked up to her so much and her mental fortitude and perseverance gave me the strength to push myself through some of the hardest times in my life. She was my hero, but she never even knew.
I only went to her wake, as the funeral service was family-only-- so I do not know anything about the funeral itself.
I tried calling the foreman of cemeteries in the town that she passed away in, but he said he had no record of someone with her name being buried there. Should I try other towns nearby? Or is it possible this means she was cremated?
I only met her family once or twice, and would feel inappropriate asking. Although they do have Facebook, so if I needed to reach out to them for any information it would be possible--just unsure how to go about doing so. Any advice would be extremely appreciated.
Just want to see my friend again. | TTL;DR: Miss my old friend fashioned way, but give up on her. Looking for everything I can think of to contact her family. | the funerals in her hometown are family only, so I do not know where she is buried. i had no idea that she was cremated or buried here. I only went to her wake, as the funeral service was family-only-- so I do not know anything about the funeral itself. | the funerals in her hometown are family only, so I do not know where she is buried. i had no idea that she was cremated or buried here. I only went to her wake, as the funeral service was family-only-- so I do not know anything about the funeral itself. | TTL;DR: Miss my old friend fashioned way, but give up on her. Looking for everything I can think of to contact her family. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 19 [M] talking to a female who was previously interested in me?
POST: There was a girl who was interested in me at first, she found all of my jokes funny and we clicked in an almost brother/sister sense. She always texted me and seemed interested. I felt like she wanted me to ask her out on a date or something but I felt it was too early to go out of my comfort zone.
Over the weekend she didn't reply to any of my texts unless it was absolutely necessary like homework, wtf? I see her she's in class that week and she's sitting with some other guy flirting it up! This didn't bother me all that much because I wouldn't mind being friends but she cut me off altogether, what gives? | TL;DR: No one replied to any of my texts but I really liked her and I like her very much. I want to be friends but she cut me off altogether, see her sitting with a guy, what about the guy? | LISTING: There was a lady who was interested in me at first, who liked my jokes funny. I was surprised she replied to no of my texts unless it was absolutely necessary like homework, wtf? HE’S VERY proud of me for meeting her, she said she was guessing they're buddhists, he only hangs with me on the day she goes to school. | LISTING: There was a lady who was interested in me at first, who liked my jokes funny. I was surprised she replied to no of my texts unless it was absolutely necessary like homework, wtf? HE’S VERY proud of me for meeting her, she said she was guessing they're buddhists, he only hangs with me on the day she goes to school. | TL;DR: No one replied to any of my texts but I really liked her and I like her very much. I want to be friends but she cut me off altogether, see her sitting with a guy, what about the guy? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] and my girlfriend [16 F] are going to sleep together for the first time. I'm anxious.
POST: I'm a very anxious person in general, sometimes to an obsessive degree.
We've been together for over two years without having sex. At first she was too young (14) and now she wants a time when she is free of stress so she can be relaxed and not have to worry about anything else. The.. event itself will take place in about a month, after she finishes her exams. We've considered it now and then through the time we've been together but always decides to wait.
Now it isn't being put off any longer. And, while it has been a TORTUROUS wait for me (worth it, to be with someone like her), it suddenly seems... rather sudden and immediate.
God knows I want to, and I definitely don't want to wait any longer, but at the same time I don't know how I'm going to be fully ready by the time it happens.
I understand on an intellectual level that it is not that big a deal. Just sex, right? But emotionally it seems like a great deal more than that.
And I know that it is for her. We're very open in discussing these matters. To her this is a really big deal; her virginity is something she can only ever give to one person and she wants it to be meaningful. It's sharing a more intimate part of herself than she ever has before.
I understand and even agree with her. But that kind of adds pressure to the situation. I don't want to screw up and make her first time something she doesn't want to remember. And I don't know if worrying about it will just make it more likely to happen.
I'm not even sure what I'm asking here. As much a chance to just talk about it as possible,I guess; my only confidante aside from my girlfriend is asexual, and as such she can't give much input here. But do I really have anything to worry about? Just how badly CAN I screw this up? And is there anything I definitely, definitely shouldn't do? | now it seems like it's coming at a ridiculous time, I am curious. What do I have to worry about? | never having sex after her exams. I understand and even agree with her on an intellectual level that it is not that big a deal. just sex. in fact, it's a long time coming, including for me... about a month from now and then... she's on sex, and now wishes her life back. | never having sex after her exams. I understand and even agree with her on an intellectual level that it is not that big a deal. just sex. in fact, it's a long time coming, including for me... about a month from now and then... she's on sex, and now wishes her life back. | now it seems like it's coming at a ridiculous time, I am curious. What do I have to worry about? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: BF (30/M) made fun of me (27/F) during oral sex and now I feel ashamed
POST: This will be a quick one (I hope) so bear with me.
Recently, I discussed with my boyfriend that I felt we weren't having enough sex anymore. We have been together for 2.5 years and the past few times we have hung out, we have not had sex or he rebuffed my advances. He chalked it up to low energy and stress a few things which I understood, but it just felt very off. Not only could I not recall when we were having sex but when we did it wasn't good at all. At first he didn't agree with my sentiment about less sex, and in fact decided to point out my own shortcomings (regarding domestic tasks) but he took the initiative to initiate and it's been great. In fact, we've been having some of the best sessions we've ever had, and I feel that he used techniques he's never used before (sorry if it's TMI). I thought we were happy.
The next morning, we were joking around and it came to the point where I jokingly mentioned that he was trying to turn me into a housewife and he mentioned I was trying to turn him into a sex slave. That threw me off, but I let it go because I assumed he was joking. However, the very next day we were recalling the previous night's session and how much he enjoyed it. I casually brought up the sex slave comment. He then goes on to show the apparently grotesque face I made multiple times and how I was basically forcing his head.
It seemed like it was in the vein of joking but I felt humiliated. I feel sex is such a vulnerable state and his comments made me feel that he wasn't really into it and having a laugh at my expense, perhaps even resentful that he had to. When I brought up that what he said was rude, he noted that he was just kidding and didn't mean anything by it. But isn't there a truth in joking? It makes me feel like I can't voice my concerns and now I feel insecure about doing those acts. Am I just being over sensitive? | I was talking about not having enough sex anymore and I feel like I was being exploited at times. He jokingly made fun of me during oral sex and now I am ashamed of it! | new: although we have reviewed assisted dating tips, there is some truth in joking.: sex is vulnerable and is so vulnerable due to my condition where I can't pay attention. he jokes about self-monitoring, child abduction, and my occasional argument with him. after sex, I have tried to fill my bash with new information. | new: although we have reviewed assisted dating tips, there is some truth in joking.: sex is vulnerable and is so vulnerable due to my condition where I can't pay attention. he jokes about self-monitoring, child abduction, and my occasional argument with him. after sex, I have tried to fill my bash with new information. | I was talking about not having enough sex anymore and I feel like I was being exploited at times. He jokingly made fun of me during oral sex and now I am ashamed of it! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I (23/M) be more comfortable with my girlfriend (19/F) seeing other guys
POST: I'm using a throwaway because my girl will go on reddit sometimes. Title pretty much says it all.
We've been together for about a year and a half. The first year was great, we lived close to each other and spent most of our time together. Then she had to move with her parents ten hours away from everything she's ever known. So we've spent the last six months long distance. She started school and everything was going well for the most part. We've had our issues here and there but we've mostly worked through them. Things have still been pretty good despite our random arguments. I would say we're both a little over protective of one another, probably even more so now that we're about 500 miles apart. And here's where I need advice. She recently started talking with one of the guys in her class and they want to get together and work on a take-home test with each other. Because of my past, I've had some trust issues and this situation seems all too familiar with me. Previous ex went and "studied" which really was just her studying the guys dick. So because of this, I'm feeling uncomfortable with my girlfriend going and studying with this new guy she met.
I understand deep down that my fears are irrational and its not fair to her to compare her to my ex. I want to be okay and be care-free about who my girlfriend hangs out with and stuff but I'm just uncomfortable with it all. It's really consumed my thoughts for the past few days since she told me about what she was going to do. I feel that if she was going to study with a girl, I'd be perfectly fine with it, but since its a guy, I feel uncomfortable. I would never tell her to not go and study with him because I don't want to be that guy and that would probably only push her away. So how do I overcome these thoughts about what could happen? How do you be comfortable with this? I feel that these are probably my insecurities talking, so what do you do to become more secure? | G close to each other for six months, and with schedule from her past ex. I'm uncomfortable with friends, because I'm afraid of comparing her to mom. Informal and productive overthinking what to do now. | charlie: there are definitely issues in this situation but our feelings seem random. to avoid this altogether, my girlfriend instituted a "friendship center" for her. she says the college isn't still the best resources for her. | G close to each other for six months, and with schedule from her past ex. I'm uncomfortable with friends, because I'm afraid of comparing her to mom. Informal and productive overthinking what to do now. | charlie: there are definitely issues in this situation but our feelings seem random. to avoid this altogether, my girlfriend instituted a "friendship center" for her. she says the college isn't still the best resources for her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15M] am having trouble talking to my [15F] crush.
POST: I am in my last year of school before sixth form and last year my crush and I were talking quite a lot in class. It was fun, however we only sat together in one class. Now this year I don't sit next to her in any of my classes.
You may just say why don't just talk to her outside of class, but that's why I'm having trouble. At break and lunch I only see her when she's with about 3-5 of her friends and no less, because I don't know them its hard for me to go and talk to just her when shes with them.
I'd say i'm liked in school, but not popular. People think i'm a nice guy, but as I said not popular. However my crush is popular and she's always around people. They always talk to her and never really leave her alone (not in a bad way). Therefore I can't really talk to her unless she sits next to me in class or I see her on her own (which would only be a few minutes). I do go to a thing outside of school where there is a lot less people and not as many of them talk to her, but the ones that do talk constantly.
I think she thinks I'm a nice guy, but doesn't know me well enough to want to talk to me outside of class.
So what should I do here? I don't want to let go just yet. Help is appreciated. Thanks. | TL;DR: Not popular in school but my crush is. She likes me, but the boys don't think I'm a nice guy. I feed her a lot, but she doesnt even talk to her at lunch. | i am not popular but liked in school. after class my crush started talking positive way. then this year we only got to sit together in one class. of these i don't see her but her friends. only get together on break and lunch. i can't go into school and give her these 2 and 3 minute break with them. | i am not popular but liked in school. after class my crush started talking positive way. then this year we only got to sit together in one class. of these i don't see her but her friends. only get together on break and lunch. i can't go into school and give her these 2 and 3 minute break with them. | TL;DR: Not popular in school but my crush is. She likes me, but the boys don't think I'm a nice guy. I feed her a lot, but she doesnt even talk to her at lunch. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my Ex GF (1 1/2 years) now Roommate [22 F] 3 weeks broken up, refuses to pay new rent amount.
POST: We were splitting all costs of living (food/bills/rent/ins) on an percentage of income base. I weighted it in her favor because she liked to go out and have fun with her friends more which I didn't mind as long as she was happy.
Turns out she wasn't all that happy and broke up with me. But rent is $1300/mo and rent/insurance/bills is about $1750/mo total between us. Also the lease is ridiculous and wants the equivalent of 4 months rent in fees to break it. So I laid out the ground rules and said it's now 50-50 for that amount we still share. The difference between then and now is $200 more a month for her. She says she can't pay it for the next two months because of a $500 deductible for an auto-claim she filed a few months back, which is factual.
However, I called bullshit on her inability to pay her new share. She has horrible spending problems, so I budgeted her monthly income and showed her after all her costs of living (sans the deductible) she had about $600/mo to blow on whatever she wanted for the month. I informed her that most people, when confronted with unexpected bills, take it out of savings and then recuperate the loss over time. She didn't like that because she only has $1200 in savings and that's for her family trip to the Keys in July.
I'm a part owner of her bank account and therefore have access to her checking and savings straight from my own account. I'm thinking of pulling the $100 ($200 split over her two pay periods) and letting her figure it out on her own. I'm not going to play this bullshit where she wants a break on paying rent for now, because I know she'll never get around to paying it because she already owes me $700 from when I dug her out of credit card debt when we got together 2 years ago. | 3 weeks apart, refuses to pay new rent amount because of the $500 deductible for an auto claim. Discussing Default of creating share between us. Discussing options to have child with divorced ex. | new rent starts in 2011 at $1300/mo-: food, bills, insurance/rent, bills--$1750 deductible markedly up. rent is up 400/mo, insurance budget is 50-50 and she'll have $200 a month. a few weeks later we split again -- 2,600 a month plus rent/llows and $500 deductible. all of those expenses come in a bundle on one paycheck, including eventually paying it off later. | new rent starts in 2011 at $1300/mo-: food, bills, insurance/rent, bills--$1750 deductible markedly up. rent is up 400/mo, insurance budget is 50-50 and she'll have $200 a month. a few weeks later we split again -- 2,600 a month plus rent/llows and $500 deductible. all of those expenses come in a bundle on one paycheck, including eventually paying it off later. | 3 weeks apart, refuses to pay new rent amount because of the $500 deductible for an auto claim. Discussing Default of creating share between us. Discussing options to have child with divorced ex. |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Thinking about therapy, implications for employment? Specifically: Peace Corps.
POST: I've been thinking about seeking some type of therapy (most likely CBT) for awhile now to help me deal with some social anxiety and negative thinking issues for some time. I've never done this sort of thing before and while I think I'm doing pretty well in bettering myself on my own, I'd like to make more progress and get an outside opinion on some things.
My concern is that if I seek therapy, and use my insurance to help pay for it, that this information could somehow be used against me when looking for employment. I just submitted an application to the Peace Corps and as part of that application it asked if I had ever seen a psychologist and if so, the date I saw them last. I answered no, which is true, but if I now go see a therapist and don't tell them, then I'm likely breaking rules that if they found out, could lead to my termination (and I guess possibly fines/jail).
Is there any way for them to find this out if I don't tell them? I really feel that it's a personal issue that doesn't concern them and I don't want it to influence my chances. Thanks! | TL;DR: I'm considering counselling and have no idea how I might be used to help with issues. The victim may be punished in the process of applying for employment and/or a fine/jail. Any way for them to know? | i've been thinking about seeking some type of therapy for awhile now. if not, can it be used against me when looking for employment? Specifically: Peace Corps. | i've been thinking about seeking some type of therapy for awhile now. if not, can it be used against me when looking for employment? Specifically: Peace Corps. | TL;DR: I'm considering counselling and have no idea how I might be used to help with issues. The victim may be punished in the process of applying for employment and/or a fine/jail. Any way for them to know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: What's the best plan of attack for making up the 4 years I wasn't able to make money? (Age:19/Location:US/SC)
POST: Like with all of my threads, if there is any info you would like to know, just feel free to comment, I love answering questions.
Basic info:Live in South Carolina, out in the country, and make 8 dollars an hour doing clean-up work.
This might just be me overthinking things, and possibly making it sound worse than it is, but do you guys have any advice for someone who wasn't able to save any cash/work until he was 19?
i'm trying to put as much away as I can, taking as many side jobs/yards as I can handle, but I feel like it might not be enough. I do plan on doing some self investing (i.e. college) but not sure if I should start looking to do some actual investing (for example, mutual funds and the like)
In any case, I don't have any small/medium purchases, and some people and friends suggested a money market account for the time being, since i don't plan on doing anything too crazy.
I know a lot of people will say, Look at the sidebar! And you would be right, but I just like asking around for more personalized advice.
For anyone who'se curious, the reason I wasn't able to work/save money involves a parent who I no talk to, and their annoying tendency to raid my bank account for stuff she didn't need. Which is why I just gave up, and decided to focus all of my spare time into schoolwork.
Now that this is over, I currently make 8 or so dollars an hour, have about 350-360 USD in the bank, and not sure what to do with it. I've taken on extra hours, and hopefully plan on getting the max part time hours allowed. | TITLE: Lost the ability to work until 19? Are you ready to cut back on time/money savings so we can meet life's work needs? | Congrats! About 4 years passed since I couldn't save money; research suggested stock pick-up limited by margin. lolisacin... we all have weapons! | Congrats! About 4 years passed since I couldn't save money; research suggested stock pick-up limited by margin. lolisacin... we all have weapons! | TITLE: Lost the ability to work until 19? Are you ready to cut back on time/money savings so we can meet life's work needs? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it moving too fast for me [19m] to kiss this girl [19f] when I first see her on the second date?
POST: Okay, like I said I am overthinking things. Normally I do not even think, I just act, but this is the first girl I ACTUALLY like. We had our first date, and I did not kiss her goodbye. I wanted it to be more of a surprise, and not expected. She has visited me every day at work since then, and I have kissed her goodnight.
Our second date is today, and I want to be more prominent with my flirtiness. The first date was getting to know her, and ever since then she was at my work. I want to kiss her immediately when I see her, and since I have kissed her goodnight the past 5 days, I dont really see anything wrong with it.
I just do not want to move this too fast, and I am worried that doing that will. | . I am overthinking what I want to do. Will it move too fast kiss her just when we first see her on the second date, and am wholly into it. | great post of prince hump day! « Twitter » We got to know her and I'll chat with her about it online here. nineteen I have, and am just like the first lady, and am overthinking things. I want to kiss her immediately when I see her on the second date. | great post of prince hump day! « Twitter » We got to know her and I'll chat with her about it online here. nineteen I have, and am just like the first lady, and am overthinking things. I want to kiss her immediately when I see her on the second date. | . I am overthinking what I want to do. Will it move too fast kiss her just when we first see her on the second date, and am wholly into it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (23m) having a hard time moving on from my 3 year relationship, been broken up with her (24f) for 2 months.
POST: I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I had been dating my ex for 3 years. We had a very good relationship but in the end it came down to a difference in religion. I am agnostic she is Christian.
When she broke up with me she said that even though she wanted to marry me and have kids with me that we couldn't because of our different beliefs. But she also said she is still completely on love with me.
Since then we have had some contact still, I've done some begging and trying to convince her to change her mind but that obviously doesn't work. I went NC for about 17 days until I asked her to meet me for a drink.
We went out and had a lot of fun, basically pretended we were still dating. Holding hands, kissing, we ended up having sex and she said that she is still in love with me but we need to be apart for awhile. She kept saying we have a chance at being together again. Just now now.
Then I went NC again for another 14 days until this weekend when I broke it again. The conversation was pretty much the same, that she is still in love with me but is enjoying being alone, and reconnecting with her old friends. And that she needs more time.
I'm doing everything I can to let go and move on but it's so difficult to do when I know that we are both in love with each other. I'm trying to give her the space she is asking for but my mind is so overcome with emotion that I can't go too long without contacting her.
I guess I just don't know what to do. Do I need to completely move on and forget about her? I obviously want to be with her still so I don't know how what to do when she tells me all of these things about us being together again after we "find ourselves" | Miguel has been in touch with me since we broke up. I tried to contact her, but sadly she keep saying we can't one day be with me. I'm having a hard time moving on from my 3 year relationship, broken up with ex for 2 months, needspace/help are you going to give her the space she is asking for. | Jeremy harne: I'm 23m and broken up with my ex (24f) for 2 months. she was the only girl I married since we broke up our first time dating last year. harne: and our relationship has gotten really complicated, but still is just great. harne: find your own kind of love and though weaknesses in your relationship might be a barrier to getting through. | Jeremy harne: I'm 23m and broken up with my ex (24f) for 2 months. she was the only girl I married since we broke up our first time dating last year. harne: and our relationship has gotten really complicated, but still is just great. harne: find your own kind of love and though weaknesses in your relationship might be a barrier to getting through. | Miguel has been in touch with me since we broke up. I tried to contact her, but sadly she keep saying we can't one day be with me. I'm having a hard time moving on from my 3 year relationship, broken up with ex for 2 months, needspace/help are you going to give her the space she is asking for. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU and got shit on while trying to get laid.
POST: I was on Grindr, looking for some fun (I know, but still). This really hot guy messaged me and told me that he was alone on his birthday (that day). I said I'd come to join him and watch TV or whatever. When I noticed that none of the pictures had his legs in them, I didn't think too much of it. I walk into his dorm complex, knock on his door, and he answers. He had huge leg braces on, was using a cane, and was talking kind of funny. I didn't think too much of it - I have a friend who is disabled and still efficiently sexually active. We lay down on the futon, talk a little bit, watch some South Park, and things get really heated. Clothes are flying everywhere and things are going swimmingly. I lift his legs above my head and rest them on my shoulders, lean in, and kiss his lips. (I had to clarify.) Suddenly, I hear this "foop" kinda sound and feel something warm on my legs.
I look down.
It's shit.
A lot of shit.
Not just like a little slimy thing, but like a fucking volcano erupted out of his ass and onto my thighs and dick.
I shrieked and flipped out. I jumped off of the futon, sending shit in every direction possible, although none got on my clothing. Luckily, the room had a personal bathroom. I ran in and locked the door. I gathered up as much toilet paper as humanly possible and tried to wipe as much of it off as I could. I hopped in the shower, scrubbed the goddamn shit out of my legs and genital area, and left promptly.
He texted me later that night to apologize, telling me that this isn't the first time something similar had happened.
I would have loved a forewarning. | I tried to get laid with this really nasty guy, but I fell out. He's very talented at what I do. Googling one idea, see the weird thing happen. [...]). Get shit on while trying to get laid. | one of these guys, a proper disabled man, told me about getting shit on while using a cane. I turned around when everything started to get hot and woke up hot and his legs were covered with all kinds of shit. | one of these guys, a proper disabled man, told me about getting shit on while using a cane. I turned around when everything started to get hot and woke up hot and his legs were covered with all kinds of shit. | I tried to get laid with this really nasty guy, but I fell out. He's very talented at what I do. Googling one idea, see the weird thing happen. [...]). Get shit on while trying to get laid. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Loseit, I am about to embark (pics). What tips do you have for me?
POST: Loseit, I have for you a success story gone awry.
In my sophomore year of high school, I finally realized I was fat. It had never occurred to me before until I saw myself in a video. I was 180 pounds. I was shocked by how obese I was. I decided to do something about it. I wasn't really sure how to go about it, but started watching what I ate, walking more, took a dance class or two, but didn't get really serious about it until just after high school. a
It was the year after high school I became something of a gym rat. I got addicted to bike riding and would hit the gym every day without fail, just because of how good it felt. I lost a lot of inches (not much weight, what with building so much muscle from dance, running and biking, but I did go from a size 12-14 to a size 10.
I was steadily making my way down to a size 8 and very happy with my progress and how great I felt.
[Cue the "gone awry" part.]
I moved to New York for volunteer work and (long story short) had a nightmarish experience. I gained so much weight that I am now the heaviest I have ever been in my life.
I am at a size 14 and hate everything about that. I am shaking off some PTSD from my experience and I believe in order to be healthy again mentally, I need to lose all the weight I brought back with me.
Help me, Loseit! None of my clothes fit! What tips do you have for a beginner in her early twenties who went from this confident girl:
To this new frightened and unhealthy version: | 15 inches) I finally decided to lose some weight and was hurt by my experience. I'm a size 14. What tips do you have for a beginner who felt afraid of a big change? | loss isn't easy because we are all different. but the paradox of unfitness is long! I started with a diet club in 2016 and went from a size 12-14 to a size 10. I am in a tight fit, but when I began flowers and traveling outside, I fell in love, was very happy and a soccer fan. | 15 inches) I finally decided to lose some weight and was hurt by my experience. I'm a size 14. What tips do you have for a beginner who felt afraid of a big change? | loss isn't easy because we are all different. but the paradox of unfitness is long! I started with a diet club in 2016 and went from a size 12-14 to a size 10. I am in a tight fit, but when I began flowers and traveling outside, I fell in love, was very happy and a soccer fan. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[23M] GF's[24F] visa to live in the UK expires later this year. Looking for some new perspectives on our situation.
POST: My girlfriend is Malaysian and has been studying in the UK for the past 3 years. We have been in a relationship for 2 ½ years now.
Her visa to stay here is coming to an end later this year, then she will be forced to return to Malaysia despite opting to stay here if she had the choice. We have gone down the job route, to the point that she was offered the job here, but the employer failed to get a license to issue Visas on very petty grounds.
I (and others) have suggested getting married. It is something we've discussed before, and we are both happy to do it except that she refuses to get married before she goes back as she feels like she will just be doing it so she can get a visa, rather than because she will actually be married. She's happy for me to propose in 6 months, but not before she returns. The problem for me is that the delay will mean we are not going to be close to one another for at least a year, perhaps longer, other than for short visits (we both will be working full time).
Right now, I am positive and optimistic about our situation as I think that we can make it work, but two people living in entirely different cultures on opposite sides of the world might mean that we change a lot.
Can anyone offer any advice on how to make this work, or just a new perspective on the situation? | TL;DR: My girlfriend's visa to live in the UK expires later this year. She refuses to marry for the first time in 6 months despite having been offered the job to stay here previously. Any advice on how to make this work or just a new perspective on our situation | currently living in Malaysia. my visa to stay in the UK will expire later this year the visa due those who are not Malaysian this year, not before...... tasks and reality?? If so, is anyone has any recommendations? | currently living in Malaysia. my visa to stay in the UK will expire later this year the visa due those who are not Malaysian this year, not before...... tasks and reality?? If so, is anyone has any recommendations? | TL;DR: My girlfriend's visa to live in the UK expires later this year. She refuses to marry for the first time in 6 months despite having been offered the job to stay here previously. Any advice on how to make this work or just a new perspective on our situation |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is my (23F) coworker (40M) flirting with me? We've worked together for 8 months.
POST: One of my coworkers is so handsome. We chat and banter a fair bit but there are some things he does which make it seem like he's flirting with me (which I would be totally ok with), but Im not sure. Just to be clear, in no way am I looking to 'get with' this guy because of the obvious age difference. I'm just curious whether he's flirting with me or if I'm reading too much into it.
First off, half the time he calls me by name, the other half he calls me things like 'love', 'sweetie', 'babe' etc. On a few occasions, there has been a group of people talking, and he'll look at me with a smile and wink at me. Also, he throws in statements every now and then about my appearance - for example, once I asked him for help with something and he said "I've got it, all you have to do is sit there and look beautiful" (aw!)
There are only 2 other girls at my work (both very close to me in age) but I've never really seen him interact with them, so I don't know if he's just like that with everyone. | TL;DR: coworker is so handsome, but is flirting with me. Is I getting a better look from him? Is he just like that with everybody? | I am an 8f workaholic and I do care very little about this guy. I'm just curious whether he's flirting with me or if I'm reading too much into it. 2 years before locking up "breakup zone", the 2girls were all 18 and I've lived 30 years without him, so 2f, am flirting but is he just chatting with me like always? then he calls the girls by name, the other half takes them things like'sweetie | I am an 8f workaholic and I do care very little about this guy. I'm just curious whether he's flirting with me or if I'm reading too much into it. 2 years before locking up "breakup zone", the 2girls were all 18 and I've lived 30 years without him, so 2f, am flirting but is he just chatting with me like always? then he calls the girls by name, the other half takes them things like'sweetie | TL;DR: coworker is so handsome, but is flirting with me. Is I getting a better look from him? Is he just like that with everybody? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by eating spicy chips
POST: This happened about twenty minutes ago. Let me start off by saying that I am a male in high school and enjoy self pleasure. So I am watching Doctor Who and the urge comes to me. I was eating takis at the time. For those of you who don't know, takis are a really delicious tortilla chip with a LOT of chile and lime seasoning. So I go at it not realizing what was on my hand for about 30 seconds. Pain kicked in and I had no idea what to do so I took my water bottle (luckily right next to me) and apply water onto my boys. Pain gradually subsided however still stings a bit. | Fetal pain. I gave takis to my boys. This went through my mouth completely for about 20 seconds. I knew I was over the strange feeling. | : Okay, so it was some useless exercise. SUBREDIT: r/tifu at school I was eating chile chip while watching Doctor Who. The withdrawal came 30 seconds without realizing what was on my hands. The pain started and I attempt to cure it. | : Okay, so it was some useless exercise. SUBREDIT: r/tifu at school I was eating chile chip while watching Doctor Who. The withdrawal came 30 seconds without realizing what was on my hands. The pain started and I attempt to cure it. | Fetal pain. I gave takis to my boys. This went through my mouth completely for about 20 seconds. I knew I was over the strange feeling. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I think I have hemorrhoids and I'm only 23...HELP
POST: So I was hooking up with this girl the other night and in the morning I noticed my corn-hole felt alittle funny, but I didn't think much of it at the time. Later that day I hopped in the shower and, following a pro-tip I learned from Reddit, used my old loofah to scrub out any extra ...residue that might have gotten caught up in my butt fro. At the exact instant the loofah came in contact with my hole, I nearly passed out from the pain. It felt as if someone had sodomized me with an industrial cheese grader. My vision started to blur and I had to brace myself against the side of the shower so I wouldn't fall down. After about 5 minutes of recovering in this position, I finally regained enough courage to examine myself. I positioned a finger to where I thought my butt hole would be and discovered a shockingly large swollen abscess that was painful to touch and very tender.
So now I'm left wondering, is this a hemorrhoid or some crazy STD? How did I get it in the first place, how do I not get it in the future and how do I make it go away? Is this normal for 23 year old guys? Thanks in advance Reddit.
Note: It's been three days now and my butt hole still hurts. I haven't dared to touch it again, but I don't think the abscess has gotten any smaller. Sitting down is slightly uncomfortable, but not especially painful.
Additional Note: I was pretty drunk when I hooked up with said girl, but to the best of my knowledge, she didn't touch or interfere with my poop spout. | adopted the old loofah, I felt from hitting my butt hole. Loofah came into contact with screeched poop, Mmmmm. Wondering if this is normal or just a check with my doctor. | True story: "I think I have hemorrhoids and I'm only 23..." "Do you think my butt hole is hemorrhotic?" | True story: "I think I have hemorrhoids and I'm only 23..." "Do you think my butt hole is hemorrhotic?" | adopted the old loofah, I felt from hitting my butt hole. Loofah came into contact with screeched poop, Mmmmm. Wondering if this is normal or just a check with my doctor. |
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