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[ { "content": "I moved to the other side of the world to my parents a year ago and they are visiting next week. I love them a lot but they can be a little hard work sometimes and I only have a 1 bed apartment. Advice would be useful so I don't go crazy.\n\nMy sofa only sleeps one so it looks like I'll be sleeping in the living room for the two weeks. I'll still need to go to work most days. The kitchen bedroom and bathroom are all off the living room, and the front door opens into the living room. My stuff is of course in the bedroom, so I'll need to dress in there.\n\nNow, my dad has insomnia and will get up randomly in the night. But there isn't anywhere for him to go, apart from my bedroom the apartment is open plan. Even if he got up and went out (nowhere to go nearby) he would still wake me up. Also my parents will have jet lag too. Anyone going to the bathroom or getting a glass of water will disturb me. In the past, my visitors would have the sofa since they would be visiting solo.\n\nSo I guess my questions are: what is the best way to deal with having to share such a small space without killing each other? And what about dealing with jet lagged guests that have nowhere else to go?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " how to deal with sharing small space with jet lagged parents while maintaining happy relationship", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I moved to the other side of the world to my parents a year ago and they are visiting next week. I love them a lot but they can be a little hard work sometimes and I only have a 1 bed apartment. Advice would be useful so I don't go crazy.\n\nMy sofa only sleeps one so it looks like I'll be sleeping in the living room for the two weeks. I'll still need to go to work most days. The kitchen bedroom and bathroom are all off the living room, and the front door opens into the living room. My stuff is of course in the bedroom, so I'll need to dress in there.\n\nNow, my dad has insomnia and will get up randomly in the night. But there isn't anywhere for him to go, apart from my bedroom the apartment is open plan. Even if he got up and went out (nowhere to go nearby) he would still wake me up. Also my parents will have jet lag too. Anyone going to the bathroom or getting a glass of water will disturb me. In the past, my visitors would have the sofa since they would be visiting solo.\n\nSo I guess my questions are: what is the best way to deal with having to share such a small space without killing each other? And what about dealing with jet lagged guests that have nowhere else to go?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " 2 week stay at 1 bed apartment. Parents are visiting next week. Advice?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I moved to the other side of the world to my parents a year ago and they are visiting next week. I love them a lot but they can be a little hard work sometimes and I only have a 1 bed apartment. Advice would be useful so I don't go crazy.\n\nMy sofa only sleeps one so it looks like I'll be sleeping in the living room for the two weeks. I'll still need to go to work most days. The kitchen bedroom and bathroom are all off the living room, and the front door opens into the living room. My stuff is of course in the bedroom, so I'll need to dress in there.\n\nNow, my dad has insomnia and will get up randomly in the night. But there isn't anywhere for him to go, apart from my bedroom the apartment is open plan. Even if he got up and went out (nowhere to go nearby) he would still wake me up. Also my parents will have jet lag too. Anyone going to the bathroom or getting a glass of water will disturb me. In the past, my visitors would have the sofa since they would be visiting solo.\n\nSo I guess my questions are: what is the best way to deal with having to share such a small space without killing each other? And what about dealing with jet lagged guests that have nowhere else to go?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Parents are visiting me for 2 weeks. What is the best way to deal with having to share such a small space without killing each other? And what about getting jet lagged guests that have nowhere else to go?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I moved to the other side of the world to my parents a year ago and they are visiting next week. I love them a lot but they can be a little hard work sometimes and I only have a 1 bed apartment. Advice would be useful so I don't go crazy.\n\nMy sofa only sleeps one so it looks like I'll be sleeping in the living room for the two weeks. I'll still need to go to work most days. The kitchen bedroom and bathroom are all off the living room, and the front door opens into the living room. My stuff is of course in the bedroom, so I'll need to dress in there.\n\nNow, my dad has insomnia and will get up randomly in the night. But there isn't anywhere for him to go, apart from my bedroom the apartment is open plan. Even if he got up and went out (nowhere to go nearby) he would still wake me up. Also my parents will have jet lag too. Anyone going to the bathroom or getting a glass of water will disturb me. In the past, my visitors would have the sofa since they would be visiting solo.\n\nSo I guess my questions are: what is the best way to deal with having to share such a small space without killing each other? And what about dealing with jet lagged guests that have nowhere else to go?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Parents are staying for 2 weeks, need advice on small spaces.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I work long hours and got home around 10:30 pm. Told my fiancé I was too tired to have sex. She got angry and started crying ignoring my attempts to calm her. I'm sleeping in the bathroom. Again.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Fiance got mad when I didn't have sex and then started crying.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I work long hours and got home around 10:30 pm. Told my fiancé I was too tired to have sex. She got angry and started crying ignoring my attempts to calm her. I'm sleeping in the bathroom. Again.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Got tired and slept on the bathroom floor with my fiancé. GF is now crying because I didn't have sex.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Fiance got mad when I didn't have sex and then started crying.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I work in the field I love and my fiancé is angry about me not being able to make it to work. I told her I was tired and told her to wait until I got home. She became hostile and started crying. I went into the bathroom to sleep and she got angry. Help.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Got tired and slept on the bathroom floor with my fiancé. GF is now crying because I didn't have sex.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I work as a pipeliner in New Mexico. I wake up at 4:30 work until 5-7 every day today was my 7th consecutive work day and after work I had to immediately drive to Pecos texas (2 hours) away and back.\n\nWhen I got home I told my fiancé how tired I was and took a shower. When I got out we got into bed and she tried to 'pursuade' me into having sex. I told her I was too tired tonight and I couldnt.\n\nImmediately she grew hostile and then started crying. I tried to calm her down to no availe and opted out by going into the restroom to sleep. I am literally to tired to deal with this. It's 11:30 and I have a little more than 4 hours to sleep. This isn't the first time this has happened.\n\nSorry for the bad format. I don't post much to reddit and I'm on mobile. I just need advice.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I work in the field I love and my fiancé is angry about me not being able to make it to work. I told her I was tired and told her to wait until I got home. She became hostile and started crying. I went into the bathroom to sleep and she got angry. Help.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I've been courting my girlfriend's parents, and they are controlling my lifestyle and have asked me to do things for them, even though their interests are similar to my own. Is that a good idea to do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My dad's mom is controlling her daughter and I feel like it'd be better if I went out with her alone. How can I find out?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My girlfriend's parents have been trying to control my life and I don't want to be stuck like my brother in laws.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My dad's mom is controlling her daughter and I feel like it'd be better if I went out with her alone. How can I find out?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My brother divorced his wife because of her controlling parents. How can I see early warnings of this in my current relationship?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I've been courting my girlfriend's parents, and they are controlling my lifestyle and have asked me to do things for them, even though their interests are similar to my own. Is that a good idea to do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My brother divorced his wife because of her controlling parents. How can I see early warnings of this in my current relationship?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Alright so I've been dating this girl for two weeks, although I've been courting her for at least a month and a half. I know she's younger than me. (consent age in Florida, yadayada, we're in highschool don't freak out) She's really cool and we have a lot of interests in common, and her parents really like me. \n\nSo anyway, today my dad and I had a short conversation about her parents. Come to find out he was worried about her parents liking me, because he'd had a similar situation with my older brother and his first wife. \n\nMy brother's girlfriend's parents always wanted to drive the two of them around and be with them, just like my girlfriend's parents do.\nFor example, my girlfriend had a band competition she needed to go to. I drove to her house and her parents took me to it. They're always inviting me to do things with them through her just like my brother's in laws did. As a guy with no income at the moment (football season, can't get a job) this seemed great to me to save gas and because her parents are legitimately nice people.\n\nThe problem with my brother came when they got married, and her parents still wanted to drive them around and tried to control their lives and tell him what to do. \n\nThis really scared me. I am just exactly the kind of subservient \"nice guy\" that a controlling parent would want for their daughter. I don't want to be stuck in that sort of trap somewhere down the line even if it is a lesser trap just in our current relationship, but I also don't want to alienate her parents if it turns out they are just legitimately nice people. I have not spoken on these feelings with anyone yet.\n\nHow can I find out if her parents want to manipulate me? I've only been out with her once alone, in all the month and a half I've been courting her. Would declining their invitations and instead going out with her alone help to show my independence from them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My girlfriend's parents have been trying to control my life and I don't want to be stuck like my brother in laws.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Parents threaten to stop supporting me if I don't follow their rules. How do I protect myself without hurting their feelings?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My parents are being tightfisted and I don't know how to deal with it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My parents (55M, 54F) are not supportive and threaten to not support me in college if I don't follow their rules. I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My parents are being tightfisted and I don't know how to deal with it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My helicopter parents threaten to withdraw financial support if I do not follow their strict rules.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Parents threaten to stop supporting me if I don't follow their rules. How do I protect myself without hurting their feelings?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My helicopter parents threaten to withdraw financial support if I do not follow their strict rules.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I don't know what to do here. They are helicopter parents so their definition of disrespectful is really tight. I have a full time job and am working until this August. I recently bought my own car without the support of others as well. \n\nI'm sure you are thinking something like \"that's not so long, just follow their rules and bear with it until you leave\" but sometimes the smallest thing I do turns into threatening to not support me financially. For example, if I get slightly agitated when I have to repeat the same information to them numerous times, it is disrespectful. Whereas in the reverse situation, their agitation is justified. When I bring that up, they state that since they are the parents, respect only has to go one way and that they do not have to respect me. \n\nI'm really frustrated with walking their tightrope and worrying about how I will pay for college without their support. Please give me any ounce of advice you have. \n\nEdit :my main concern here is how to keep them from seeing normal actions and emotions (sadness, mild irritation) as disrespect. They get upset when I show any negative emotions that have to do with them.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My parents (55M, 54F) are not supportive and threaten to not support me in college if I don't follow their rules. I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " FSiL got engaged, and I can't help feeling resentful that she'll be getting married before me. Any advice?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My fiancé (23F) is ignoring our engagement. My future sister-in-law (24F) is planning a wedding before us even though we were engaged first.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My long-term fiancé (23F) just got engaged, and I'm getting resentful of her (24F) engagement.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Fiancé's sister-in-law (FSiL) has a ring made for him by the groom of her fiancé (F) and I was expecting it for months, but it's been months and nothing's happened.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " FSiL got engaged, and I can't help feeling resentful that she'll be getting married before me. Any advice?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Fiancé's sister-in-law (FSiL) has a ring made for him by the groom of her fiancé (F) and I was expecting it for months, but it's been months and nothing's happened.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My fiancé (23F) is ignoring our engagement. My future sister-in-law (24F) is planning a wedding before us even though we were engaged first.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "My fiancé and I got engaged back in January. We already planned on a long engagement, as I'm studying my Masters and we wanted to save up so we could afford a nice wedding. Unfortunately, though, it's been months now and he's very reluctant to plan anything so far, even though the venue we briefly discussed requires us to book 18 months in advance and we haven't even set a date.\n\nThe day after we announced our engagement, his family and I were out shopping. My future sister-in-law (FSiL) made a beeline for the jewellery shop, and within half an hour had a ring picked out that her boyfriend made a note of. Engagements are contagious, you guys.\n\nSo I've been expecting it for months now, and yesterday he popped the question. When she sent a message to my fiancé and I announcing it, she made a joke that we've got some competition, as they'll be getting married before us even though we were engaged first.\n\nShe was just kidding around, but it left a pocket of resentment in me that I can't shake. I've become envious of her engagement.\n\nBefore anyone starts telling me off, I already know that I'm not being nice. I'm not vocalising my feelings to anyone, and I have congratulated them and shown them nothing but goodwill. She's always been really nice to me (except for one argument over me keeping my maiden name), and before my fiancé and I were engaged she was calling me her sister.\n\nI tried putting aside my resentment and I decided that if she started talking weddings, I'd share in the discussion instead of stewing over it. For instance, swapping ideas for colours and flowers, rather than being rude and ignoring her/changing the subject.\n\nBut I can't put a stopper on my feelings. Is this insecurity? Or something else? Is it because my fiancé doesn't seem to be interested in the wedding? Or am I just being a bitch?\n\nAnyone got any ideas how to make this pass smoothly?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My long-term fiancé (23F) just got engaged, and I'm getting resentful of her (24F) engagement.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mum broke her arm, started being a complete bitch to me because of how the hospital is messing her about, almost punched her when she got in my face and started shouting and pointing. Want to leave home for a few days, no where to go, sleep etc.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mother wants to throw a fit about not having a medical seat and I'm going to go anywhere and everywhere to save the planet, or I can hang out with her for hours and do nothing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mum broke her arm, my dad is dead, mum is a bitch, what can I do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mother wants to throw a fit about not having a medical seat and I'm going to go anywhere and everywhere to save the planet, or I can hang out with her for hours and do nothing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mum broke her arm, started being a complete bitch to me because of how the hospital is messing her about, almost punched her when she got in my face and started shouting and pointing. Want to leave home for a few days, no where to go, sleep etc.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mum has broken arm, threatens to take away all technology from room, and wants to watch her programme. What do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mum has broken arm, threatens to take away all technology from room, and wants to watch her programme. What do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So here are the basics, I'm 16, living with my mum and younger sister, my dad is dead and I only have 1 relative in my town who is my mums mum.\n\nSo, on holiday about a month ago now, my mum broke her arm. She complained on the plane about not having a medical seat, I just ignored her because it was beginning to piss me off. A few days ago, she decided to be a bitch. She shouted upstairs to me and asked if I'd go round the shop to get her 1 bag of crisps... I said no, she has a broken arm, not broken legs. She then said \"You can do everything for yourself then\", which I have been doing pretty much. She's been in a constant bad mood because the hospital are fucking her about with the fracture clinic, which in turn has affected me because she's constantly targeting me and letting her frustration out on me by shouting etc. Today, I got home from college and started watching TV, I'd been watching it for about 2 hours then she comes in and tells me to go upstairs and watch TV because *she* wanted to watch a programme she recorded. I never watch the TV downstairs because of either her or my sister watching it. So, she told me she was watching her programme, so I started calling her out telling her that she'd throw a fit if I came and did that, so I said I was turning the internet off, which I did when I got upstairs. Now she's threatened to take literally all the technology out my room because she's in a bad mood. I was literally on the verge of punching her.\n\nSo here's the thing I need advice for: I got a free bus pass today, meaning I can travel anywhere in my local region for free, I'm tempted to just get on my push-bike and go anywhere and everywhere, ignore her calls or texts and all that, or I can go to the town my college is located in and just wander about for hours on end. I really don't want to come back home till I want to, but I have nowhere I can go, sleep or anything.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mum broke her arm, my dad is dead, mum is a bitch, what can I do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I want to make a good impression during my time in South Africa, what things should I do or avoid to prevent being hated as an ignorant foreigner?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What are some examples of behaviors that would really taint my image in a South African context?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Any South African Redditors or experienced travellers? Looking for advice on how to make a good impression when I study abroad in South Africa.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What are some negative things that South African people consider to be bad/weird/annoying/annoying?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What are some negative things that South African people consider to be bad/weird/annoying/annoying?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What are some examples of behaviors that would really taint my image in a South African context?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Any South African Redditors or experienced travellers? Looking for advice on how to make a good impression when I study abroad in South Africa.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I'll be studying abroad in Port Elizabeth, South Africa from July to November. I'm very excited for it, but I'm also really nervous. I'm most nervous about unknowingly doing something or acting in a way that makes people dislike me or think I am rude/annoying/stupid etc.\n\nSo my question for reddit is this: what are some actions, styles, behaviors that would cause South African people to view me negatively? Especially things that a visitor might not realize. I know this a broad question...here are two examples. In some European countries people wearing white shoes, or Nike or athletic apparel are considered low class/poor. In Japan you should hand and receive a business card with both hands, not just one. I love wearing white shoes and sometimes wear Nike so I wouldn't think to view it as low class. I usually take a business card with one hand cause it's easier. If I went to these places, such behaviors would have negative outcomes.\nSo yeah, I want to be a respectful traveler/visitor, but every culture has different assumptions and interpretations of good behavior. If there is anybody from South Africa that could share some of those assumptions with me I'd be very grateful!", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I want to make a good impression during my time in South Africa, what things should I do or avoid to prevent being hated as an ignorant foreigner?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " How do I politely ask for advice on what to do if I don't like the engagement ring that my bf sent me?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Is it disrespectful for a girl to tell her bf she doesn't like her engagement ring without a problem?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My question is just the title: what would you do if you didn't like your engagement ring? (If you're a guy, what would you want a girl to do and what would hurt your feelings the least?)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What is the respectful thing for a girl to do if she does not like her engagement ring?\n\nEDIT:\n\nI should add that I would like to get married, but I still want to try to find a good match. I would like to meet someone who is also interested in me and have the same taste as me.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " How do I politely ask for advice on what to do if I don't like the engagement ring that my bf sent me?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My question is just the title: what would you do if you didn't like your engagement ring? (If you're a guy, what would you want a girl to do and what would hurt your feelings the least?)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Is it disrespectful for a girl to tell her bf she doesn't like her engagement ring without a problem?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I (31f) have very specific taste and a ring that I have loved for years that is cheap and not diamond. My friend sent my bf (33m)of 4 years pictures of it over a year ago to be sure he knew exactly what I wanted when he was ready.\n\nI think he's about ready now and I'm a little worried. He keeps acting surprised and a little hurt if I mention I don't like diamond jewelry. He has great taste in jewelry for guys and casual stuff but I don't care for the engagement rings he's pointed out and have said so.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What is the respectful thing for a girl to do if she does not like her engagement ring?\n\nEDIT:\n\nI should add that I would like to get married, but I still want to try to find a good match. I would like to meet someone who is also interested in me and have the same taste as me.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I am in love with a boyfriend and I don't know what to do about it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " [I am not ready to be in a relationship with someone who is not me.](", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I 23f am falling in love with someone 31m, but our religious differences are conflicting my feelings for him!! What can I do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I am in love with a boyfriend and I don't know what to do about it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I 23f am falling in love with someone 31m, but our religious differences are conflicting my feelings for him!! What can I do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I am falling in love with someone, but my relationship is not very strong. Should I slow down the relationship, or don't do it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I am falling in love with someone, but my relationship is not very strong. Should I slow down the relationship, or don't do it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I started casually dating my lover for the last few months. We used to have a serious relationship but broke up. I didn't want to be with him again, because I didn't feel like I am ready to be in a relationship. I also didn't want to become serious with him again, because of the past. I didn't want to start something only to have it end.\n\nAnother reason that I didn't want to get serious with him is because we have some major differences. I am a religious girl of a certain faith, and he is from an entirely different faith. Sometimes he does things that are considered sins in my religion. This is a problem for me. I don't want to love someone if he does things that I don't agree with or can not do with him. I feel like I may end up engaging in the same behaviors just because I am with him. \n\nI don't know what to do about this. I know you can not force someone to change, especially when it comes to something like religion. But my religion is very important to me, and I can't compromise on it.\n\nThat is why I am so unsure about pursuing a deeper relationship with him. In my mind once you become serious with someone, then there is no going back. That is why I want to be very careful about the person I am dating. \n\nAnd on one hand, he is very caring, considerate of me. He also tries to make me smile, and make me feel good. I do the same for him. I like him as a person, I think he would be a good partner. \n\nHowever, his lifestyle is an issue for me. I don't like some of the thing that he does. He drink a lot of alcohol. Also, he went to a festival where everything they ate there is not allowed in my religion. I have brought this up to him, and he said he will try to be better. But I am not sure what he will do. \n\nMy question is what should I do? Should I follow my heart, and be with someone I am falling in love with? Or should I slow the relationship down and become less serious about him?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " [I am not ready to be in a relationship with someone who is not me.](", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Me (21F) SO (22M) looking for advice on how to stop feeling like I'm not loved and I might have depersonalization disorder (depression, anxiety, etc).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " relationship issues being worked on, mental issues being figured out, need boyfriends support more than ever but I want to sleep around. Open relationship is not a possibility.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " relationship issues being worked on, mental issues being figured out, need boyfriends support more than ever but I want to sleep around. Open relationship is not a possibility.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I have depersonalization disorder and want to know how to stop this.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Me (21F) SO (22M) looking for advice on how to stop feeling like I'm not loved and I might have depersonalization disorder (depression, anxiety, etc).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Having issues with depression, anger, and anxiety and I am unsure if I have depersonalization disorder. Don't know how to fix it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I have depersonalization disorder and want to know how to stop this.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've had a lot of issues lately with him not putting our relationship before things like video games and me needing some more attention because I've been going through some personal issues and felt alone and not supported. We're currently working on these issues and making our communication better. \n\nSo I believe I might have depersonalization disorder (have not been diagnosed by a professional but currently working towards that) most of the symptoms fit. I've know there was something 'wrong' with me for a long time, it's always bothered me, so much so that I had a large breakdown with my boyfriend because no way the way I am is normal. I have a really hard time with emotions and I feel like they are considerably duller than they should be except things like anger, depression, and anxiety. It's very hard for me to feel loved and is a constant issue in our relationship. Recently my boyfriend has been as supportive as one can be when they don't understand what's going on. \n\nWith all of this shit going on I feel like my eyes have been staying a bit... I always wonder what it would be like if I made a move with the guy that really liked me right before boyfriend and I got together, or the buff guy in line behind me... It just keeps going. Guys that I see or briefly talk to... Old friends from a class I took but probably won't see again... I keep wanting to flirt with people or experiment with my bisexuality... I want it to stop. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend is just my best friend again but with sex added. I don't want to feel that way. I want to stay with him, I love him I really do. \n\nHow can I stop this? *Can* I stop this? Should I tell him? I refuse to break up before I see no hope. I will not cheat, I wouldn't even put myself in a situation where it's possible.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Having issues with depression, anger, and anxiety and I am unsure if I have depersonalization disorder. Don't know how to fix it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I feel a lack of motivation for hobbies and tiredness that's been going on a while, but I don't feel sad per say. Could it still be depression?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm feeling depressed, what do? How do I get back to the point where I care about my hobbies again?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm feeling depressed, what do? How do I get back to the point where I care about my hobbies again?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm depressed, could I be depressed again?\n\nI'd appreciate any advice.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm depressed, but I don't know why.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm depressed, could I be depressed again?\n\nI'd appreciate any advice.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I feel a lack of motivation for hobbies and tiredness that's been going on a while, but I don't feel sad per say. Could it still be depression?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "It all started over a year ago when I gave dorm life a try. It was the lowest point of college for me so far (old and dilapidated building, roommate problems, rude and loud people there, couldn't sleep at night). I slept a lot, even when I wasn't tired, and my motivation to do schoolwork just wasn't there. I lost interest in reading, something I loved to do.\n\nEventually, I ran away and went back home, but it didn't get better. I don't feel sad, exactly. I just have very little motivation to do any of my hobbies. Reading has become a chore, and that scares me. I also haven't been able to write, either. I'm still sleeping a lot, with one or two hour-long naps during the day. I don't have many friends (guys think I'm just one of the guys, girls think I'm a weirdo), but it's become strenuous to keep up with the ones I do have. I still do a few things I enjoy, but all of my creative hobbies have fallen through.\n\nMy attitude toward depression isn't very good, as I grew up being taught that having depression is wrong. I've got this \"fight back, I don't need a therapist, I'm just being stupid and weak\" attitude about my feelings. I've been diagnosed with depression before (8 years old and later at 14; I'm 20 now).", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm depressed, but I don't know why.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Screwed up academically and financially, moved home with $16k student debt, trying to fund returning to school.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I have a great life, where do I go from here?**\n\nThanks in advance.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Moving to BC, looking for advice on how to get started, and how to pay off my debt (and save my ass).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I have a great life, where do I go from here?**\n\nThanks in advance.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Moving to BC, looking for advice on how to get started, and how to pay off my debt (and save my ass).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Moving to BC to be with Mom and Subway walking distance. Looking for advice on future.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Screwed up academically and financially, moved home with $16k student debt, trying to fund returning to school.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hello reddit community. I'm a long-time reader, but first-time poster. I have some ideas on how to proceed, but a second opinion/ tough love/ proof-read would be appreciated.\n\nThe sitch:\n- Moved across the country (northern BC to Ottawa, ON) for a B. Software Eng. program. Made it two years in and dropped out due to drug problem (weed) and home sickness.\n- Mom paid to bring me home and I am living with her in Vancouver suburb. Moving in with my sister up north on July 16th for a month until I find my own place.\n- $16 k student loans, unsure if I can apply for further funding due to 'unsuccessful semesters' (~$250/mo taken from account to pay back).\n- Personal debt of ~$6k to Mom which isn't necessary to pay by her opinion, but I wouldn't feel right just forgetting it.\n- $100 to my name, sorta, an no sellable assets.\n- Eight years retail experience selling mostly cell phones.\n\nThe plan:\n- Search for a full-time job up north, likely at a pulp-mill.\n- Return to school at a local university part-time and get a Comp Sci/Physics joint major (not a dual major/ hoping for credit transfer).\n- Get a real job and return to reddit to learn 'responsible adult personal finance.'\n\nData:\n- Avg rent up north is ~$600/mo plus utils.\n- Min wage is $10.50/hr, with few commissioned job opportunities.\n- Mill jobs pay ~$17/hr plus bene's (so I've heard).\n- More to come.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Moving to BC to be with Mom and Subway walking distance. Looking for advice on future.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Lost 85 lbs in just over a year, stomach is flabby and squishy with some quality stretch marks. Started lifting heavy weight, should I up my calories and slow the weight loss?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm losing weight but I am still not feeling great and I want to not have to see those stretch marks, is that a good idea?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Started losing weight and noticed my stomach is flabby and squishy. Should I slow down my weight loss?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Lost 85 lbs in just over a year, stomach is flabby and squishy with some quality stretch marks. Started lifting heavy weight, should I up my calories and slow the weight loss?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What is the best way to slow down the weight loss process and still look better aesthetically?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm losing weight but I am still not feeling great and I want to not have to see those stretch marks, is that a good idea?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Started losing weight and noticed my stomach is flabby and squishy. Should I slow down my weight loss?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hey all, so over the past year or so I have been actively losing weight by changing my diet. I'm a 5'9 male that started at 275 lbs and was cutting and counting calories, losing weight at a solid pace. I have switched up my calorie intake a few times throughout, giving myself a lot of calories in the beginning to start slow but eventually was cutting very hard. I was eating around 1200-1300 calories a day and exercising a few times a week. That went on for a couple months but I realized that while I was losing the weight I wasn't feeling that great and that maybe I was doing more harm than good and decided I needed to eat more. I have been sitting at around 1500 calories a day for the past couple months with exercise around 4 times a week (mostly cardio) and its been solid. I am down to around 187 lbs and am in some of the best shape I have been in years. Also a lot of people have been giving me compliments and its been nice. That being said, I still want to lose another 15 or so pounds but have started to notice my stomach is really flabby and squishy and have noticeable stretch marks. I have started to weight lift heavy and want to get my last weight lost but also look better aesthetically and not just on the scale. was wondering if I should maybe slow my weight loss to a pound a week so I can keep some of the muscle I have and possibly help out with the skin on my stomach. Was curious if anybody had any similar feelings after losing a lot of weight. Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " What is the best way to slow down the weight loss process and still look better aesthetically?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I've never really been single before, should I try it even though he is a great guy to me?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm pretty sure I'm not single, but I'm still in love with my boyfriend. Should we spend some time apart to see if we can fix our relationship?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm pretty sure I'm not single, but I'm still in love with my boyfriend. Should we spend some time apart to see if we can fix our relationship?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm not ready for a relationship, but I can't help but wonder if we should break up.\n\nEDIT: I'm not judging him, just wondering if it's the right thing to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I've never really been single before, should I try it even though he is a great guy to me?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Can't seem to get over my boyfriend, but he wants to spend time apart. I'm not sure if we should make it work or break up.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Can't seem to get over my boyfriend, but he wants to spend time apart. I'm not sure if we should make it work or break up.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "We've been together since we were 14. He goes to college while I work in another town (so we are long-distance) and although he makes a lot of effort to make things right, it's just not working. \n\nSince last year, I've been feeling less interested. I've never had the chance to be single, and part of me is interested in trying it. I know most people say that the single life sucks, so maybe I'm just glorifying it. But I made friends who are single and they seem to accept themselves a lot more than I can accept myself...they look to their futures, while I usually just look to my guy.\n\nI can't help but wonder if we should spend some time apart. This is really upsetting to both of us, but instead of getting angry he lets me know it's my decision and he wants me to be happy. I don't want to break up and ruin everything, but I do worry about my commitment issues.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm not ready for a relationship, but I can't help but wonder if we should break up.\n\nEDIT: I'm not judging him, just wondering if it's the right thing to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I paid for the flowers, but they were not my idea. How can I tip the vendor?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area, but don't want to post cash.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " the florist for my wedding was phenomenal, but doesn't want money for boutonnieres that were accidentally made. Suggestions for sending a tip?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I paid for the flowers, but they were not my idea. How can I tip the vendor?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " the florist for my wedding was phenomenal, but doesn't want money for boutonnieres that were accidentally made. Suggestions for sending a tip?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Wife didn't know what for. He beat me to the venue. I am looking for a florist in the greater San Francisco area to tip.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area, but don't want to post cash.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Hi Wedditors! I just got married on Saturday. :) I worked with the most amazing florist. The wedding was in Carmel, CA. However, I was in school the last four years and had to plan nearly everything from Scotland. My husband lived 5 hours south of the florist and didn't know enough about flowers to communicate my ideas to her. She and I played email tag for 4 months before we could finally meet up, which was 4 weeks before the wedding. I never sent her a deposit before this date, she didn't know any of my ideas, colours, etc. She kept the date open for me and when we discussed everything to get a quote she said she had no minimums. I was a bit stressed out trying to sort flowers out so soon to the wedding, but she has the most amazing personality and calmed me down within seconds. We took a few things off the invoice that weren't very expensive, but we had decided not to do them. I know I did not pay for them, but she had still made the boutonnieres. I called her in confusion (I didn't know what they were or what for) since she beat me to the venue by a full hour and was already at the reception. I said I would double check the invoice and send her a check, but she only said, \"Don't worry about it. Merry Christmas.\" The bouquets and centrepieces were gorgeous. Even without the extra items we didn't pay for I still want to send her a tip, but I doubt she'll cash a check and I don't want to post cash. Any suggestions? Does anyone need a florist recommendation for the greater San Francisco area or know someone who needs a recommendation??", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Wife didn't know what for. He beat me to the venue. I am looking for a florist in the greater San Francisco area to tip.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Group of friends doing the same thing for 10 years: going out at night, same places, doing the same every time. Getting bored, we have become just \"bar friends\". What other activities can we do (day or night) to get out of this stupid routine?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Lack of activities of the same group of friends.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " group of friends have been together for 10 years, became bored and switching to a routine, can't figure out what to do about it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Lack of activities of the same group of friends.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Group of friends doing the same thing for 10 years: going out at night, same places, doing the same every time. Getting bored, we have become just \"bar friends\". What other activities can we do (day or night) to get out of this stupid routine?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " We are the same as old friends but with us being more inactive and doing nothing more. What can we do to make this group of us \"go on\" without talking about it so much?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " group of friends have been together for 10 years, became bored and switching to a routine, can't figure out what to do about it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "For 10 years or so, we do nothing more than every friday and saturday night go out to the same exact bars, having the same routines, conversations, see the same faces, etc.\n\nWhile some of us are good with this and can't even conceive (or afford) anything different, others (and me) are very tired of doing the same over and over. One of us even labeled us as \"bar friends\", because besides going out at night, we do nothing more. Even new year's eve or birthday parties look the same as the other days, only the bars we go change sometimes. Their definition of fun as been reduced to stay up late (it works like a competition sometimes), drink a lot (like if you need to drink to have fun...), and smoke (so basically the two big addictions: drink and smoking).\n\nThese group of people work during the day, regular jobs (two of them also work in the weekends sometimes), and then they \"have fun\" at night this way. I am using quotes here because even the way we have fun nowadays doesn't feel the same for everyone, it sounds more artificial. However, no one wants to publicly accept that these days are getting old.\n\nI am aware that this may be that time when people make new friends and leave the old ones. However that feels quite cold and I would prefer other approach.\n\nWhat can I do to help migrate this group of ~10 people out of this routine? What new activities can we do together and almost everyone can afford? I am thinking of even trying to hangout during the day instead of at night only, but with these people it is quite challenging because they are not used to.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " We are the same as old friends but with us being more inactive and doing nothing more. What can we do to make this group of us \"go on\" without talking about it so much?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm infatuated with other girl. I have no interest in her romantically. I love my gf but I find some attraction in other girls.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I feel infatuated with the new girl at work, I want to get rid of it, but I don't want to be infatuated with her.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " me and my long distance gf are too busy to talk often. It's sad and I miss her. This new girl at work infatuates me. We are both in relationships and I have no interest of anything more than friends but I'm still infatuated in this weird way. Wanna get rid of this infatuation", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I feel infatuated with the new girl at work, I want to get rid of it, but I don't want to be infatuated with her.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " me and my long distance gf are too busy to talk often. It's sad and I miss her. This new girl at work infatuates me. We are both in relationships and I have no interest of anything more than friends but I'm still infatuated in this weird way. Wanna get rid of this infatuation", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm jealous of other girls at work because I feel like I'm not as interested in my gf as I should be and want to dump her.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm infatuated with other girl. I have no interest in her romantically. I love my gf but I find some attraction in other girls.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I've been dating my gf long distance for 2 years 8 months 23 days. I love my baby girl. We don't care about each other's flaws, deal with each other's bullshit, have identical sex drives, and are equally silly and lazy. Lately we've both been working too much for it to even feel like we are in a relationship. I'm lucky to get a text each day. Everytime I masturbate without her (even though I don't watch porn) I feel regret. Regret she's not there, and things. Anyways we love each other, but currently things are not the best. I miss her, but we still both love eac other a lot. \n\nThe new busgirl at my summer job infatuated me. I help her out even when it's not my job and I could go home. She's going to the college in going to so we have something to talk about. She's a busgirl and I work in the kitchen so we don't talk much like she does with the busboy. She has a bf and I have a gf so nothing would happen, or couldn't happen. I have no desire in dating her. I have an interet in being like a mentor for her going to my college. I also would like to be friends with her but idk if we will cuz we rarely see each other. Anyways so I have no interest in her romantically, I love my gf. But everytime I see this girl, with her big heart eyes and smooth blonde hair my heart beats a little faster. I don't think sexually about her at all, that's just not okay, but I do light up everytime she walks by me. I'd describe it as infatuation. Maybe that's the wrong term since infatuation might be sexual? I know nothing will further blossom out this admiration, but that doesn't mean I should let it continue until we both go away. I just don't want to be infatuated with her . Idk if you can help me or not or this was all pointless.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I'm jealous of other girls at work because I feel like I'm not as interested in my gf as I should be and want to dump her.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Girl and I fell in love while boyfriend in Japan. Love the guy, fell in love with girl. Manly tears were shed when I gave her back to boy because didn't want to betray boy.**", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Ex and I broke up. I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Girl and I fell in love while boyfriend in Japan. Love the guy, fell in love with girl. Manly tears were shed when I gave her back to boy because didn't want to betray boy.**", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I cheated on my ex-friend with her, she's back to him and I'm still in love with him, I'm practically in tears.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I fell for a girl who left me for her boyfriend who still lives there. I'm still in love with her but I can't do anything about it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Ex and I broke up. I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I fell for a girl who left me for her boyfriend who still lives there. I'm still in love with her but I can't do anything about it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Duration of entire relationship: 2 years. \n\nI ended up in a weird and almost fucked up relationship. Basically this girl and I were friends and her boyfriend left to Japan for a semester as a study abroad deal for his photography. What's interesting is that he gave her free reign to hook up with me, and so we did. It got to the point that I realized that I was probably hooked, and it looks like she was too. The boyfriend and her have been having nasty arguments and fights even before Japan. They were fighting in almost every conversation they had, I took nobodies side. I didn't even try to make them break apart, I think it's because I adore the guy as well. He's an awesome kid. It was too late though because I was in love with this girl. That's probably an understatement. I adore everything, from her grumpiness and her quick temper to the way she can also be the most loving person in the world with the biggest heart I've ever seen.\n\nNevertheless, I still did nothing about their relationship. I let them handle it. On the contrary I even gave advice to patch things up between them because I was in a similar situation. Instead she fell in love with me too. I am positive she did.\nSo it all comes down to: He's back from Japan and I just gave her back to him, without a fight. I figured he's her real boyfriend and I would be a traitor to take her away from him. I can't backstab such a good friend. So I went home. I collapsed and just wept and wept for hours. I just couldn't stop. I still can't stop. I don't want to talk with either of them because I know I will not be logical or coherent. I'm positive if I saw them together I would break down and just bawl my eyes out on the spot.\n\nWhat do I do? Nothing is consoling me, my hobbies, my goals, dreams, everything just seems insignificant. I need closure, but what I'm looking for is hope that I can still somehow be with her while keeping my friendship with the guy.\nWhat do I do? (Sorry about the sob story)", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I cheated on my ex-friend with her, she's back to him and I'm still in love with him, I'm practically in tears.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Need advice on how to break up with a gf who's been battling depression/suicidal ideations and bulimia.\n\nThank you!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mandatory summary/question!\n\n[18/m](I want to break up with my gf, but I'm worried that she'll go back to her former violent, abusive ways.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Need advice on how to break up with a gf who's been battling depression/suicidal ideations and bulimia.\n\nThank you!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I need advice on how to break up with my gf of 1 year and 2 months, after she's recovered from her own mental health issues.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I want to break up with my girlfriend without making her suicidal.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I need advice on how to break up with my gf of 1 year and 2 months, after she's recovered from her own mental health issues.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I want to break up with my girlfriend without making her suicidal.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "So I've been seeing this girl for a while, she's pretty nice, not bad looking, and a decent person. However, lately things have began to seem different, and I'm looking to break things off with her. But there's a big problem.\n\nShe's recovering from a very destructive lifestyle. She was molested at a young age and has been cutting herself for a few years now. I've gotten her to stop, and she has just recently began to recover from bulimia after attending some recovery program. She's also been in and out of the hospital over the last few months from malnourishment, and has attempted suicide a few times too. Note that this is NOT why I want to break up with her, I've stood by her side this whole time, and if I can, I'd do the same with her after we stopped seeing each other.\n\nMy problem is that I'm worried that if I was to break up with her, that she'd go right back into her former mindset. She's starting to love life, and I'm not too sure how I can do this without crushing her and sending her back down that awful path.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Mandatory summary/question!\n\n[18/m](I want to break up with my gf, but I'm worried that she'll go back to her former violent, abusive ways.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf went to another girl's house while i was sleeping and their msgs are pretty flirty, but she says nothing happened and he has said he has no interest in her but doesn't have a good track record. What should I do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf goes out of state, leaves google voice open, doesn't tell me about it, seems like she's interested in me.\n\nEDIT: formatting", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf went to another girl's house while i was sleeping and their msgs are pretty flirty, but she says nothing happened and he has said he has no interest in her but doesn't have a good track record. What should I do?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf went to another girl's apt while I was asleep and was talking to her all night, and is now at work. I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf went to another girl's apartment while I was asleep and I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf goes out of state, leaves google voice open, doesn't tell me about it, seems like she's interested in me.\n\nEDIT: formatting", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf went to another girl's apt while I was asleep and was talking to her all night, and is now at work. I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I found out my bf went over to another girl's apartment who lives in our complex late at night while I was asleep. She's someone neither of us have known for long, and he left his google voice open on our comp cos he doesn't have a phone. The msgs weren't completely bad, they were pretty flirty like him saying \"whatre you doing sexy\" and her saying, \"just wishing you were at the store with me\" and she asked him to come over to her place and help her when she got back. I was asleep. \n\nThey'd been msging for awhile. Last night he said he \"really wanted her to come over\" to hang with him and his friend after I was asleep, but she didn't answer. I asked her about it myself today and she swears nothing happened, but it doesn't look good and he doesn't have the best track record. I've asked him about her after I first met her, and he insisted he had no interest, but turns out he's been texting her this whole time. \n\nHe's at work now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to break up with him. I love him and we've been together 5 yrs, and moved across the country from our families so neither of us even has anywhere else to go. But now I also won't be able to sleep or go to work without worrying. :( What do you think?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " bf went to another girl's apartment while I was asleep and I don't know what to do.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I feel switching fields and not being afraid to start at an entry-level position needs specified in my cover letter because I'm not getting responses to jobs that match my skills. What should I write? Do you have a similar experience?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Quit my job due to burn-out / no opportunities. Do I need to focus on what I'm doing now / what I can do now / what I'm very good at now / what I've done in the past / what I have the potential to do in the future?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I feel switching fields and not being afraid to start at an entry-level position needs specified in my cover letter because I'm not getting responses to jobs that match my skills. What should I write? Do you have a similar experience?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I quit my job and want to apply to other companies. I've been applying for admin/cust service/department support positions but they're still posted in the same job category as my current (albeit unadvertised) job. What should I do?**", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Quit my job due to burn-out / no opportunities. Do I need to focus on what I'm doing now / what I can do now / what I'm very good at now / what I've done in the past / what I have the potential to do in the future?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Get a new job, need cover letter.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " I quit my job and want to apply to other companies. I've been applying for admin/cust service/department support positions but they're still posted in the same job category as my current (albeit unadvertised) job. What should I do?**", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I recently quit my job after 7 years due to burn-out / no opportunities without having anything lined up. I was a manager in Hospitality and never *ever* want to work in another hotel again so I've been applying to other companies as customer service / administrative / department support because I'm trying to get my foot in the door. A lot of my managerial experience doesn't translate to the open managerial positions I'm seeing so I'm not applying for those. \n\nI'm a really hard worker and I'm dedicated, I have no problem starting as entry-level and putting the time in with a company but whatever I'm doing is not being conveyed properly. In my last (and only) interview the person brought up how I'm \"switching fields\" and while yes, that's true, going from admin/cust service/department support in Hospitality to admin/cust service/department support in X Field doesn't really seem to be a stretch unless they were just nitpicking. I never heard back from them and the job is still posted to this day. \n\nAny thoughts on what I can do to improve my cover letter?", "role": "user" }, { "content": " Get a new job, need cover letter.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom constantly asks me to cover my body when I'm around the men/boys in my family, how can I make her understand that this is getting out of hand?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom repeats the same phrases about me every single day for the past 9 years, every single time I get under her skin. How do I talk to her about it?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always makes me cover up when around guys, and I'm so tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Ever since I hit puberty (when I was about nine), my mom has always incessantly reminded me to be modest, especially whenever my brothers or dad are around (they got divorced a few years ago, now I have a step dad). The thing is, I'm not \"immodest\". I don't walk around half naked, and I am never dressed as what seem people would refer to as slutty. Since I was nine years old, she has requested that I change into clothes in the bathroom after showering (instead of walking to my room in a towel), that I wear a bra (even if I'm wearing a big t shirt), and that I wear shorts that do not show too much. I'm so tired of it. When I was a kid and starting to physically mature, she told me that my brothers could have \"impure thoughts\" about me so I should be \"modest to protect them\". \n\nI'm currently living with my mom and her husband this summer, but I return back to college in the fall. Almost every day she asks me to put more clothes on, wear longer shorts, etc. It might be important to note that she's religious, but not *that* religious. I've always had boyfriends and she's never been too strict on anything, besides this. I'm tired of her referencing to my body as if it's something \"unholy\" that should be covered from my fucking FAMILY. I'm relatively attractive (?), but even so, that doesn't mean that my brothers think about me in a sexual manner? I don't know. I had a terrible self esteem growing up, and I think it's seriously messed up the way I view myself and others. \n\nSo how do I talk to her about this? Every time I bring it up she doesn't understand and we end up having an argument.", "role": "user" }, { "content": " My mom always asks me to put on \"modest\" clothes and I'm tired of it.", "role": "assistant" } ]