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1 | Men on this sub are genuinely so interesting... | Yeah... That's it tbh I just find men on this sub so interesting. You try to help them and they really don't want ur help since ur a dude and not a women...(also some/most of them just wanna get laid)
Edit* BTW I'm a dude so stop dm-ing me thinking I'm a girl and also I'd still be willing to help you if you have any problems. (can't believe some of yall thought I was a girl😀) | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | part3 | lonely |
3 | 19f loser lonely person | Dying. I want to be touched so badly, I've never been close with a person irl, at all. I want to be loved and wanted. I just want a connection with someone, talking to people is hard. Google how to meet people without actually trying to meet people | ['Lack of romantic relationships', 'Lack of physical touch'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships', 'Lack of physical touch'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships', 'Lack of physical touch'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships','Lack of physical touch'] | 4 | evaluation | lonely |
4 | I wish I can die and start over | I'm a 28 male. I regret almost every single moment of my life. I never had friends. I never had a job. I failed out of college. I have achieved nothing. The traumatizing memories of my childhood keep haunting me every day.
I often dream of dying and getting reincarnated with things I never had. Like being born to parents who wouldn't abuse me. Being born in a 1st world country with all the quality of life that comes with it. Being born an attractive girl so people would approach me and be more friendly towards me. Being taught in a good school where bullies are punished for their bullying.
But I suppose that even if I were to be reincarnated with better luck, what then? Why would I want to live to work, eat, sleep, and repeat? What's the point in living? I feel like someone like me can only feel solace in death. | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Other'] | 5 | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Other'] | 5 | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Other'] | 5 | ['Lack of family contact','Lack of friends','Other'] | 5 | evaluation | lonely |
6 | i just can’t imagine myself ending up with someone | i can’t even envision what a good match for me would be like. when i swipe on these apps, i can’t imagine any of these guys actually dating and liking me as a person. i’ve been single for almost a year and a half and i’m honestly starting to accept that i may not find someone. i feel like dating as an autistic girl just feels extremely impossible. there’s a disconnect between guys on here who say they’d date me and men i actually encounter irl. it’s like, guys like this don’t exist in real life. and maybe what im seeking also just doesn’t exist in general
i’m not seeking advice. i’m honestly not even seeking dms. i just want to wallow. | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.33 | exploration | lonely |
7 | There is something off about me. | People say I'm cute/attractive and yet I am struggling to find someone and my loneliness tells me there is something off about me. (M40) | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | part3 | lonely |
8 | Bots | Just wanted to rant that my word theres so many bots on here. Makes me not want to interact with most posts. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | part3 | lonely |
10 | No social life | I’m 20. I’ve never been to a party. Every time I ask people to hang out I always get I’ll let you know when I’m free and then nothing, or something will be planned and then cancelled last minute. I’m really trying. I feel like the only person in the world who has never been to a party or anything like that and I feel like such a fucking loser. I don’t know what to do. I have one friend but she just moved four hours away and is pregnant. I’m seeing someone but he lives 3 hours away and is yet to get his license. I feel like I am losing myself and I don’t know what to do. | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 4 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support'] | 3.33 | evaluation | lonely |
11 | Acceptance Of Loneliness | I think getting womens attention is more than just being attractive i look at it as good allowing it. Look at elliot rodger we cant say he was unattractive but he got no attention.
I also think i fall in the same group i think im decently attractive but no woman has ever given me any attention, i may be delusional and actually be ugly but im confident im not.
So ive just come to the conclusion that being wanted is something beyond our control yes being fit will get you more attention, but what im trying to say is that if your ugly but god turned on this switch you will atill get attention.
But for people like me and Elliot Rodger we will never get it no matter what i do Im trying to accept this fate its hard but i will accept this and die alone. | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.25 | part3 | lonely |
12 | I feel like all I'm good for is money. | Recently I've noticed a trend where any woman I talk to always ends up wanting money from me in some way or another. It all started with my ex girlfriend. I was with her for a year and a half. She would always say that she was behind on school or something and just look at me. If I told her to work more hours she would call me an asshole. Needless to say we're not together anymore. She was real, but now I feel like I can't even have a conversation without it somehow turning into well I just need some cash! I have more to offer than just money. They can work for their own shit don't ever give money and believe you are helping. You are being used. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.5 | part3 | lonely |
17 | Anyone wanna be depressed together | We can talk about anything I just need to stay out of my head. I’m 21 guy. If you don’t know what to talk about I can complain about my life in college. Leave a comment or DM if interested thanks | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | part3 | lonely |
18 | Idk what's happening | I'm not able to recieve any message, neither someone's actually receiving my messages here on reddit. Is this seriously an issue or a bug or something, or no one's actually responding!!!??!!??? 😭 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | exploration | lonely |
20 | I just turned 18 | I didn't think I'd make it this far and this thought upsets me a lot. Idk how to feel. nyway, no friends to celebrate it with. Maybe next year will be better | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3.75 | part3 | lonely |
21 | 25f looking for online friends my age or older | hii my name is alissa, i’m an infp, bisexual and a libra. i’m a pc gamer with 2 cats and am recently single. i’m friendly and laugh at everything but can seem a bit closed off when i don’t mean to bc of anxiety. ideally you are an extrovert and let me listen to you yap🧍🏻♀️ | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | evaluation | lonely |
22 | why does no one like me actually | i can just feel it anytime i’m talking to someone i can tell it’s just a nice friendly act especially when they want something. I’m excluded from everything and feel like i’m just forgotten about and ik i am forgotten about, i’m the place holder friend. like everyone just says i’m just there and people act like genuinely surprised if i show some emotion i get treated like a zoo animal anytime i try to be how people say i should fucking be but if i’m just myself i’m weird cus i don’t talk and have a straight fucking look how does that work like seriously some people can’t just comprehend some people are different. that’s how everyone in my life ever has been towards me like even my family i recently saw extended it felt like a pity party so i just avoided them | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends'] | 4 | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends'] | 4 | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends'] | 4 | ['Lack of family contact','Lack of friends'] | 4.25 | part3 | lonely |
25 | Merely existing | I’m not living. Everyday is the same and I hate it when it’s otherwise. I wake up at a certain time everyday. I spend hours by my desk coding, watching and writing. Then the realization i have been sat on my desk for hours attains me. I get up. Perhaps I will draw but most times I get afraid I might burden myself with the thought of failure if I don’t draw well. It’s all circular. Maybe I’ll pick up a book. I either don’t pick one up after months or obsessively read through one. I’ll go on a walk if I really need time to think. Then I’ll get into bed at 9. I feel guilty if I get into bed too early but I get in at 9 because the one thing I look forward to is sleep all throughout the day. However I don’t go to sleep until midnight. I spend the entire 3 hours thinking, wishing I was someone else in another life. In addition to that I have my headphones in all day. I can’t sustain myself unless I’m listening to music.
My parents want a life for me in which I myself don’t desire. They claim to love me but they don’t even know me nor understand me. If I had to courage to seek out the life I wanted they would no longer ‘love me’. I failed to live out the life of a teenager. I lost all of my school friends because I got so disintegrated. | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 4.25 | part3 | lonely |
26 | Need help please | I'm struggling and I just want someone to talk to in the short term. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.75 | part3 | lonely |
27 | I went to a gym by myself, and I had a good time | I didn't go to find a woman right off the bat. I went there by myself to work out and to feel good. I walked and ran on a treadmill for over 30 minutes, I walked on a stairmill for 15 minutes, and I did arm exercises for 10 minutes.
I feel it isn't much, but it's been a long time since I went to a gym, and I feel good going and working out myself. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.25 | part3 | lonely |
28 | M30 looking for some new friends to talk the day away | This is a sentiment shared by people on this sub and others, but it’s so hard to make friend as you get older.
I have a few from work, but they are really surface level. Like even a talk outside of work time is usually a little weird.
I have some old friends from college and high school (really like two lol), and they are those kind where you don’t talk often, but when you see each other you remember why you were friends all that time ago.
What I’m really looking for is a friend for the day to day who I can talk to about anything and everything.
If that’s you, please feel free to reach out! Happy to talk :) | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | evaluation | lonely |
29 | it’s not true that women have an easier time getting sex | Yes it’s true that average women statistically get aproached more in dating apps and parties, in comparison to average men.
However you look at the statistics most heterosexual men when they have sex get an orgasm out of it, while that is the minority of heterosexual women. Most of the time when a man and a woman have sex it will be only focused on the sexual pleasure of the man. Why would women want to have sex if they don’t get to get off?
Statistics show that lesbians are the group that orgasms the most by far so clearly the disparity in sexual pleasure isn’t biological. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | evaluation | lonely |
32 | To anyone who needs someone to talk to | If you ever need to vent or talk to someone else who has been through trauma, please message me anytime. Even if you just want a friend to talk to I am here for you.
My name is Chloe and I’m 33 ❤️ | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | exploration | lonely |
33 | It's Summer break and I don't have many people to talk to outside of school | So l'm f 16 and if you wanna chat some of my interest are I like anime and horror movies, working out (kinda), swimming and running, pokemon (games) hanging out at the park, I love answering questions | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.5 | part3 | lonely |
34 | Anyone up to chat? | Im bored, I wanna talk to people, message me PLEASE, thank you and have a great day :)! | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.33 | evaluation | lonely |
36 | 26F | Hoping to meet some cool virtual friends - I’ve been pretty lonely in life lately. | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2.33 | evaluation | lonely |
39 | Early 30sF looking for a friend | Lonely and looking for someone to talk to. Please be an adult | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3.5 | part3 | lonely |
40 | How to deal with this emotion of loneliness | I grew up with no parents my mother died when I was 7 and my father was not a good role model as I grew older after the feeling of sense of strong inequality is kicking in few months ago my grand father died he was like a father to me we became closed in 2019 and to me when he died I felt angry why is it happening so fast. My only therapy for this is running training working out but after doing those things.the feeling of loneliness comes back I wanna change stop comparing myself to other people and being jealous I wanna become strong and kind | ['Lack of family contact'] | 4 | ['Lack of family contact'] | 4 | ['Lack of family contact'] | 4 | ['Lack of family contact'] | 3.5 | part3 | lonely |
42 | 21F feeling really lonely and could use a friend | I feel alone and like I have no one :( | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support'] | 4.25 | part3 | lonely |
43 | 51M [Relationship] todays my birthday! | Another year has come and gone.
I'm just the average older guy that works too much lol. Honestly it masks the pain of loneliness.
I'm the protective type of guy. I miss having someone that is clingy. I'm looking for someone for voice calls because I like that more than texting. I have two cats that I adore.
I enjoy being outdoors especially 4 wheeling.
No age limit Honestly because I really don't want to spend my birthday alone especially since I have to work.
Don't know what more to write but feel free to ask me anything | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 4 | part3 | lonely |
46 | 22M - Just woke up, looking for a chill Voice Chat | I'm not really a big fan of texting, I'm only looking for voice chat. I don't mind age and gender, but around my age would be better.
Also I only use discord for calls. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.25 | part3 | lonely |
49 | Dating in high school | I feel like maybe i could just be blowing things out of proportion but it's whatever. I'm about to enter my senior year of high school and it's so hard being the friend getting left out because i don't have a boyfriend. it's always the classic "you're so pretty though!" or the "everyone has their person you just have to wait" but i don't want to wait
since i was little i had always dreamed of having a promposal or at least a boyfriend and now it seems neither will happen and i just feel shattered. its hard being the only one going to events and prom without a partner and it just hurts really bad and i don't know what to do | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.25 | part3 | lonely |
50 | Even the so called meek are arrogant sociopaths | Fuck this, hard reset now,, nothing to do for your loneliness except take what u can before it all burns down. | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
60 | Whenever i post my pic on rateme subs, I get downvoted or roasted, even though I'm seeking genuine advice | Why is Reddit like this? I wish I was more attractive. I've already lost 20kg (Gained over 60kg due to meds, which even for my height is a lot) but it feels futile and meaningless anyways.. Is it time to give up on finding love..? I hate every fiber of my being and i feel like crying every morning, I can't stand to look in the mirror esp. bc I'm hideous. | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.25 | part3 | lonely |
61 | Everyone's too busy to talk to me | I have a handful of friends I get along with well and I thought we had a pretty good connection. But it seems like not only do they not check on me much, it seems like when I reach out, no one's got time to chat. I guess it's something to talk to my therapist about.
(Yes, I'm trying to remember that people have lives to manage, including me, and that it's unlikely that I'm the cause. But, I wish I had a friendship with someone who could be bothered to maintain it on their end. Maybe I need new friends.) | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 2 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 2.67 | evaluation | lonely |
62 | I'm lonely and could use some advice on meeting new people | Hey all, I've 22/m been really romantically lonely recently and I'm not sure how to put myself out there and meet new people. While it would be easy to go out to a bar or club but that's not really my type of thing and dating apps are not worth imo. I guess my question really is, where else could do you recommend I could go to possibly meet new people? Maybe share how you met your partner? Anything helps and I'm willing to listen to any advice. Thank you all.
P.s. sorry if there's any formatting issues, I am on mobile. | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2.75 | part3 | lonely |
64 | 41m could ya know use an ear | So much going on and only the Silence of my thoughts. I'm dealing with the emotions of terminal illness. Across country move. Feeling emotions about not wanting to be in this position and yet having immense compassion and love for all beings and the only thing that I hear is a Silence of the Void because there's no one here. The people I could reach out to are all either asleep or doing things with their weekends. I don't regret the path I'm on I just wish it wasn't so lonely. My microphone stopped working for Discord a few days ago otherwise I probably be there looking for someone just to talk to maybe if I make their day better I won't feel so stuck. Have you ever just wanted someone to help so you could pour love into someone so that as you're pouring love into them your pain at least takes a back seat for a while or maybe I'm just going crazy maybe it's just the pressure of it all who knows | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 4 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3.33 | exploration | lonely |
65 | Anyone trying to get better | Anyone actually trying to improve their circumstances, but are met with extreme depression/resistance. im sick of having no friends, no life. nothing. | ['Lack of friends', 'Other'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Other'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Other'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends','Other'] | 4.25 | part3 | lonely |
68 | Would you tell people that you were going to die or let them find out? | 32m, thinking about ending in 4 years, I’m going to try and improve myself but I don’t see that effecting my chances at finding someone.
I’m kinda neurotic which I think scare people away, and I’m mixed race so I think people aren’t interested, the women that I relate to just think I’m some tan dude.
Anyways, thought I’d end it at 36, I was thinking I’d tell people so they know that I might do something. I mean they won’t know I did it, my plan is to go on an overseas trip and never return. I’m not sure if the stress of knowing now is worse than finding out. | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 5 | ['Not lonely'] | 4 | ['Not lonely'] | 4 | exploration | lonely |
71 | why is it so hard to be enough | I (19f) have found myself in a depressive state that’s been oncoming for about 6 months now and i feel like the biggest trigger is dating. Why is it so fucking hard to date, guys in the dating scene are so insistent of unrealistic standards. Like no i cannot have big boobs and no stomach. No i cannot look this way and still uphold this perfect look you are seeking. I am human. I feel like i can have genuine conversations but people are only after sex or non committed intimacy and it hurts. Why don’t i deserve love and loyalty when im so willing to give it. it’s just lonely and depressing. It hurts watching people around me date when i can’t get the attention of anyone. i do also understand it isn’t just men being a problem i see so many girls too doing this non committed relationship thing. I just hate that no one can withhold a genuine connection it’s so lonely and exhausting | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.5 | part3 | lonely |
72 | Today is my birthday, and nobody cares 😔 | Today is my 19th birthday, and the only people who show interest is my immediate family that I live with. Which I know I should be grateful for. But I would really appreciate some validation and birthday wishes from Reddit strangers as pathetic and sad as it sounds. It really fills the hole in my heart 🥹
Also happy birthday to whoever has the same birthday as me, lol.
[edit] thank you all!! | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 3.5 | part3 | lonely |
73 | 22M ,looking for long-term friends | Passed my exams 14 days ago,so considering I don't need to study anymore I have a lot of free time. I'm up to make some long-term online friendship. My hobbies right now are limited,it's just listening to music and scrolling reddit. If you are similar,dm me,we will get along really well! | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
74 | The treatment that many women here get when they post their "I'm lonely" posts is crazy compared to us | I know you guys have seen this, "18F lonely want to talk" 1 hour ago, 5 comments
"25M lonely want to talk" 3 days ago, 1 comment (the bot)
Why? Not to mention all the bots | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
75 | Lonely Book | I made this last year, it's a legitimate link. It's to a PDF in my Google Drive. Let me know what you think. I can't really say much because everything has been said but I'm going through the same things each and everyone of you are.
[https://drive.google.com/file/d/1vOxn1MbCw-\_mHz9PPPWjbqUbNwX0JxNY/view?usp=sharing](https://drive.google.com/file/d/1vOxn1MbCw-_mHz9PPPWjbqUbNwX0JxNY/view?usp=sharing)
File name: Lonely Book -Main.pdf
I can 100% confirm it's not malware or a dodgy link or anything like that. I don't know how else to share this book I made. | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | part3 | lonely |
77 | i’m so tired of daydreaming but i can’t stop | i just want real love and real friends, i’m sick of daydreaming, i’m so tired. | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | evaluation | lonely |
78 | 23/m/canada it’s my birthday🥳 | it’s about to be my birthday but i dont really have anyone to celebrate it with, so why not find an internet stranger/ potential friend to celebrate with‼️ every year it feels less and less, especially since i’ve been going thru a lil bit of a rough patch. i wish i had some drinks but that’s for tomorrow. come say hi n cheer me up | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 2 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 2.33 | evaluation | lonely |
79 | Im tired of being put into the fuck zone and i wish someone would put me in the friend zone | Im tired of feeling like a disposable sex object that everyone just pumps and dumps.
Edit: I would rather be a virgin and get married and have sex in marriage than be dehumanized
Edit2: its not all about sex , its about vibes and an emotional connection | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.33 | evaluation | lonely |
80 | Looking for someone to talk with | So it's Saturday afternoon here yeah it's weekend and I got nothing to do and no friends to hangout with I am in a new unknown city just feeling lonely and a bit sad for being away from my loved ones but can't do much about it as of now so here I am looking for genuine online friends to talk with just send me a DM if you are available for a chat and let's see how far it goes or whether we would be able to help eachothers feel less lonely or not. | ['Lack of friends'] | 1 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2 | evaluation | lonely |
81 | SWF 45 Anyone up to chat. DM me | Hello. I had a really harsh night of crying and depression. I was wondering if anyone out there suffers from depression and what treatment they use.
Anyone willing to DM welcome no dick pics, pls. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | evaluation | lonely |
82 | I care for you. I am here, I am listening. Tell me, I'll listen. I love you💕 | Sometimes, I just imagine being there for a love interest when they are going through something... I wanted to say this to them. But since I am single, I am saying it here | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.33 | evaluation | lonely |
83 | How tf do you insert yourself into a online community or group? | Legit question. Like I’ve tried joining discords for about a year and I can’t think of anyway that’s not a cringe AA meeting type message to throw in gen chat. People don’t like cold dms. How do you meet people online to play game with or how do you meet people through games like vr chat. It all feel awkward and forced, it feels like people need to be forced together and find common ground that way (work, school, etc) online it’s too free and independent so it’s people who only know each other talk to each other. Like “okay hey guys I’m here now let’s talk” is weird and cringe I don’t know how people do it I just know people do but it’s so foreign to my brain.
| ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.5 | part3 | lonely |
84 | Empty, lonely saturday night | I used to like being alone but I don't like it anymore. Its so hard to connect with anyone. Unbelievable that so many people have friends and relationships naturally, somehow I ended up in the life of somebody who is an abnormal alone introvert.
I talked to one girl on a dating app then she told me she was tired with life and was unsure about seeing me at this stage but said she thinks she is happy to keep chatting. I don't know if she is being honest or that is just a polite way of saying she found somebody else but she either wants me as a backup or didn't want to just ghost me, I think if I was really worth it nothing would be in the way, I don't even think she is really interested in chatting/being friends. I wish I could just be someone's first choice.
I think I'll order a pizza and watch some movies. I hope you are all coping this weekend. | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of romantic relationships','Lack of community or social support'] | 3.75 | part3 | lonely |
86 | Friendship | I’m finding myself with little to no friends. I really need a support group/friend right now | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support'] | 3.5 | part3 | lonely |
87 | Create new server for lonely people for confession and find new peoples | Hey, I created a new server for all lonely and stressed people all around the globe.
If you finding a place where you can confess something, anything and everything there it's a perfect place for you to find a a great people who listen you and help you in everything.. Also find new people and creat new bond, friendship here, drop ASL to match a perfect half of yours. Join fast! We are waiting for you!
https://discord.com/invite/6uxw2Hdu | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | part3 | lonely |
88 | I'm 18f and don't have any friends | It probably is because I grew up in a super religious family that didn't allow me to go to parties and go out at nights during my early teen years. I feel so lonely | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3.75 | part3 | lonely |
89 | Nobody rly there for me I feel like | got in a car wreck (I’m not at fault) and idk it wasn’t super serious as I have no life threatening injuries, just a broken bone and some gnarly gashes, but nobody has really has seemed to care. I don’t necessarily want people to know, a few people do though. Im hobbling around because my foot is sprained and my hand is broken, nobody around me is really helping me, I live with family. I sit in my room all day with my leg up and my only two friends are calling me to vent about their life. They know what happened. Nobody has even checked on me, or tried to come see me n idk, I guess I shouldn’t care but it’s also kind of hard cause had I not been wearing my seatbelt this all would’ve been different. But nobody really caring makes me feel like I just don’t really matter. If i wasn’t wearing my seatbelt it wouldn’t have mattered anyway | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 2 | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of family contact', 'Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 4 | ['Lack of family contact','Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | evaluation | lonely |
91 | Crawling out of Isolation 43/f | For me being alone isn't always lonely. There are things that I like about being alone. I don't get yelled at or judged. I can stay up and watch a movie or read an entire book. I can go to the beach or skip a meal or two.
50% of the time I have my two kids, but the rest of the time is filled with silence. After three years of this silence, I feel that I am ready to go out and be social. Except that I I don't have the courage to go it alone, out there.
Are there baby steps to getting back into the world (without the use of social media and not interested in going to bars) | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
95 | I don’t even know | Hi everyone. I’ve always felt misunderstood my whole life by everyone, even including my family. Sometimes I get rlly paranoid that smth bad will happen to me and other times I can’t even eat due to how much I’m stressed. I’ve been on Lexapro for about 5 months now and it has helped me but I feel my old destructive symptoms coming back slowly and it’s scaring me. I think I should probably up my dose before I do smth crazy. I’ve been meeting rlly good ppl lately that have helped me out of my delusional mindset and now I just see the world as it is now: complete shit. Nobody around me sees what I see. They’re either republicans, democrats, straight up just haters, fake, bullies, or ppl who just need help. I know I’m not crazy. Im well aware of it. The things ppl have done to this world is just now being thrown onto my generation and it can be a lot sometimes. I sympathize to anyone who feels the same way bc holy shit it’s hard. It’s a shitty world right now. I literally feel like a robot bc of how bad this world is. Please anyone just tell me I’m not crazy it’s getting hard again. | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
96 | I hate being alone with my thoughts and memories. | Almost every moment of a day I'm not doing something, my mind is plagued with intrusive thoughts, uncontrollable curiosity, and bitter memories.
It makes me feel angry, sad, scared, and hopeless. I don't even know the last time I was able to sleep without seeing it all in my sleep. | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 2.666667 | part3 | lonely |
98 | 18m - post-graduation loneliness | I graduated a couple months ago. It usually is supposed to be a moment of happiness, and it was, until my name was called. When everyone else around me had their names called, the auditorium filled with cheers. Then my name was called, and it was startling just how silent it felt. I realized then that I had no one.
I never had very many friends as a kid. I had a few close ones, but most moved away and we lost contact with one another before I even reached high school. Unfortunately, I realized that my only remaining friend wasn't a great person, so I stopped talking with him. The entirety of my senior year was just me. No friends at all.
It was the loneliest time for me. Never had I felt like I just didn't belong. Now that I've graduated, I realize that I have no one to talk to. No one to hang out with. No one to experience life with.
Sometimes I blame it on my birthday, Valentine's Day. I've always felt that I never managed to have a real relationship, romantic or platonic. Other times I blame myself for not being the one to make friends. I've always struggled with conversations.
Guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm afraid of staying alone forever. I know I'm still pretty young, but I can't shake the feeling. It hurts more than any physical pain I've ever felt. | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 4 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support'] | 3.33 | evaluation | lonely |
99 | I’m too sensitive to be around other people, I think | Other people hurt, I hurt especially easily. I can’t handle the pain, the anxiety, the guilt and shame of a friendship or relationship. I’m so pessimistic and sensitive that in 9/10 of my social interactions, even with people I care about, I feel worse after talking. When I don’t interact with people though, the loneliness hurts. It all hurts | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 3.666667 | part3 | lonely |
100 | T | Im new this community but i do come seeking a little advice, mainly about emotional control i don't feel comfortable sharing about the specific details but I've been really out of it for a week now. im there physically but not mentally like im spectating Someone that's not me...(sorry about above not the best grammar) | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.333333 | part3 | lonely |
102 | Anyone wanna chat | We can talk about anything. Also looking for people to voice chat with on discord after we've talked for a bit. I like animals, the beach and I just got a switch if anyone wants to talk about animal crossing lowkey obsessed lol. Also I'm depressed so if you are too and wanna talk about that I'm down to listen too. | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | part3 | lonely |
103 | Man I'm giving up. | Every girl i have talked to told me I have great personality but rejected me when I asked them out.
when I ask them they'll always say that they are not ready for a relationship and want to be alone but after a while you'll see them with a tall handsome guy.
Being ugly sucks seeing all the good looking people happy all around, loved while you sit there alone with your own thoughts. | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 4 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.33 | exploration | lonely |
107 | I don’t even know who I am anymore. | I’ve become somebody I never thought I would ever be in my life.
I play stupid and constantly hide my feelings just to keep somebody around who claims to love me but shows absolutely no interest or affection towards me. I swallow my feelings every single day just to avoid an argument, or being lied to further.
I pretend I don’t know that they’re still madly in love with and heavily hung up on an ex. I get next to nothing out of this and yet I still fear losing this person, even though I know they wouldn’t so much as blink an eye if I left.
It’s the difference between me noticing a change in their behaviour and immediately asking what’s wrong, and them saying “you’re being dry I’ll ttyl.”
The difference between me overlooking and even falling in love with their flaws, and them pointing mine out in an effort to hurt me.
The difference between my tenderness in response to their rage.
My patience in response to their anger.
Sticking around in hopes that one day they’ll wake up and realize what’s in front of them, even though I know that won’t happen.
I do it to myself. I know it’s my own fault.
I hope one day I wake up and realize I don’t care anymore. Feel something other than this sick sad feeling in my chest over someone who could give a fuck. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
109 | Making food. | Hi..I am Lana.
Making food alone and bored.
The food is mid. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | exploration | lonely |
110 | I hope that one day I meet good and like-minded people. | Is that day coming when I meet good and like-minded people?! | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
114 | I feel so lonely and alone | I wish I didn't have anxiety or a low self-esteem but I do. But even if I was confident and didn't have anxiety, I don't think my situation would change. It feels like people just don't like me at all and if they do, then only superficially. I just want to have at least one friend I can spend time and talk with. It sucks when you just know no one really cares and you have no one to turn to. | ['Lack of friends'] | 4 | ['Lack of friends'] | 4 | ['Lack of friends'] | 4 | ['Lack of friends'] | 4.333333 | part3 | lonely |
115 | POV your only friend leaves you to have a hot girl summer 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 | Idk what to say except fuck my life im 22 and all i do is go to work, go to the gym and stay home. I failed uni so im pretty much a dropout atp and everyone is disappointed in me but idc lol.
Everyone at my job is older than me with kids and all, the only guy around my age I find interesting is interested in my so called friend so yeah whateverrrrr
She doesn’t even talk to me now that she moved to her city because uni is over 😂😂 yayyy | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.666667 | part3 | lonely |
116 | anyone else who are indifferent now | anyone else who doesn't care anymore. I am so needy for care and empathy and love before to the point now I have lost it already. now I am empty but I don't care anymore. I don't feel anything, and I don't look forward into depedency at any point in my life already. it sounds cold stone as hell but it is, I am finally free from this repressed feelings, and I am done | ['Not lonely'] | 4 | ['Not lonely'] | 4 | ['Not lonely'] | 4 | ['Not lonely'] | 3.666667 | part3 | lonely |
117 | I need help making friends | I never been good talking to people it’s hard to make eye contact I get to nervous talking in public and on top on that I’m shy . | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.33 | evaluation | lonely |
118 | I’m really lonely and no one cares | It’s my first time to have a post so apologize first if I do anything wrong.
I feel lonely, low confident and anxious everyday. I had quit my job two months ago so there’s no one talk with me as usual. Most of the time I stay home only.
It always feels like I’m not belong to this world. No one wanna listen or care about me.
Even though I text to my favorite person, he still say he’s not available.
I hate myself for being so emo and like to cry everyday. I’m 33 and still don’t know what I have or what I want.
I just need someone ask me if I’m good today.
| ['Lack of community or social support'] | 5 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 5 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 5 | ['Lack of community or social support'] | 4.333333 | part3 | lonely |
119 | music | can you plz recommand me a anti-despress playlist of music i really need that. thank you. | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
120 | Somehow | Idk how I did it but managed to get out of bed get dressed even tried to put some makeup on to wake myself up & I went to the gym for first time in a while
It felt scary at first due to my social anxiety but I somehow pushed through that and then I went to do a bit of grocery shopping and now I’m home and very exhausted but I did it | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.333333 | part3 | lonely |
122 | Affection desperation | Hi all- I hope you are all okay!
Right here's my problem and I've been trying to find solutions for months now and everything I've tried has not helped.
For about 3 months, I've become incredibly desperate for affection. I do not express it openly but I feel it to the point I vividly imagine it and it's gotten to a point where all I do all day is play things in my mind. As soon as I get in bed, I hug myself and imagine it's another girl holding me etc etc
Over the years, I've learnt to accept the fact I will never be loved no matter what I do, I'm okay with it now. I've learnt to accept I will always be lonely no matter how hard I try to connect and help others, I'm okay with that too now.
How can I learn to accept the fact I will never be given affection from anyone? What can I do?
I want to desperately let it go and just focus on work. I've tired enough, I've failed enough it's time for me to move on and just do good as much as I can; and right now this desperation is not allowing it.
Thanks for reading. Again I hope you are all okay
Thanks in advance for help. | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships','Lack of physical touch'] | 3 | part3 | lonely |
123 | Day 15 | Another boring day, I'm starting to lose intrest in Playing game and also the series too, any new series recommendation please. OMG I still have like 1-2 months left for my college to start and idk what I should do till then. Btw nothing happened today
Open for dms, lonely guy here | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Other'] | 2.666667 | part3 | lonely |
124 | I wish I could find someone who I could relate to in more than 1 thing | I'd say I'm probably in a better situation than most of the people on this sub because I have friends and people to chat with. But I always feel like I'm hiding most of myself. Every friend or group is for a specific part of me. Maybe it's the one game we play, or the coworker to just talk about work stuff.
Is it an unrealistic expectation to find someone who has more than 1 thing in common with me?
I've put myself out there and even got responses but quickly find out that we have very little in common, I think I attract the wrong people for me most of the time to be honest. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.666667 | part3 | lonely |
125 | How lonely are yall really? | I made 2 posts here saying i will talk to everyone who is not a pervert and one got over 1000 views the other 300 and still only 4 people texted me and 2 of them where weirdos so why are yall here really and how hard do you try to be not lonely??? | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | part3 | lonely |
128 | I’ll never feel pretty enough | I’m 18F and have been bullied my entire life for being fat and ugly and I’ve tried losing weight and I have been losing weight but no matter how hard I try I’m never good enough for myself. I want to be pretty like all the other girls and I want to feel good about myself. I try and I try but I never feel pretty. I’ve always wished I was someone else. And the body I want is un achievable because no matter how much weight I lose I’ll never have that petite body shape I want. I’ve gotten comments on how tragic it is because I would be pretty if I lost weight but I’m trying so hard. I just want to feel pretty and be pretty and I want people to be attracted to me. I can’t help but pass by a mirror and see an ugly disgusting pig and just want to cry. I’ve always wanted to take a scissors and just cut all the fat off my body. Maybe then people will take me seriously. I’m trying so hard but I’m so hard on myself. I want people to see me and think I’m beautiful. It’s becoming hard to accept that I’ll just never have the body I want and I’ll never be pretty like other girls. | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | ['Not lonely'] | 3 | part3 | lonely |
129 | What am I supposed to do if I can’t be with the girl I like | Do I just accept and suffer how do I move on when I don’t want to | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
130 | Why must we argue which gender has it worse? | The Male and Female gender both have down sides that are different from each other, we all go through issues because we're human, and some of the issues ares specifically because were male or female. There are some up-sides to being male and some up-sides to being female, but we shouldn't be arguing about who has it worse. I see people on here arguing constantly, saying "Men only see women as sex toys!!!" or "Women are only trying to manipulate us!!!". It's ridiculous in my opinion, don't mistake my words, these are serious issues but they only come from specific people, that, frome one look, you can probably tell there bad people. We shouldn't be fighting each other, and we definitely shouldn't be saying "We don't need Women" or "We don't need Men". Because that's entirely wrong, we need each other to survive, Male's and Female's are Yen And Yang, two sides of the same coin. Most people here are just lonely, just like me and you, and most of us have good intention, we're simply people who need each other. So why on earth are people constantly framing hate posts on here saying things like "Look in the mirror, maybe the reason you can't get a girlfriend is because your a masochist!", it does absolutely nothing besides stir the pot, if we want to confront the problems like certain women saying "Male's are masochists" or certain Men saying "Women are entitled creatures" we must approach it all from a calm angle to understand, and solve the issue to the best degree we can, even if it can't be solved. We all must understand, that in the end, we're all human, no matter what. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.333333 | part3 | lonely |
131 | Contracting lesbianism | Before 2020 I was straight( 18 years).
Wanted to get in a relationship.
Get married and have kids.
I was very sure I was STRAIGHT and wanted a relationship.
But now something has changed
I don't feel attracted to men at all.
Post 2020.
redpill opened my eyes..
[Idk if it's because seeing males pull down women who do good in life and not wanting women to not be successful and do better.
Like telling other males they can do whatever they want while destroying women's role models.
Because women having role models being encouraged and motivated to be successful in life is proportional to feeling bad about being a male..]
But I feel zero attraction to males.
Zero? I don't even know why I like the male gender?
Is that they are different? no.
I don't know? My attraction to towards males went to 0.
I see myself getting very intrigued and intersted in dating women.
All I keep thinking spending my life with a girl and having a good relationship and getting married to a girl.
Buts its fucking weird because before this I was 100 percent sure that I was straight and a hopeless romantic and this sudden lesbianstic change in me where I like girls over men so much to the point I feel zero attraction to males is crazy.
How has my sexuality changed? Is it possible?
I don't want to be in a relationship with a man ever..
[ I have also never been in a relationship or had any hetero sex]. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | evaluation | lonely |
132 | worst b day ever | i was waiting for this day
only one came
everyone else cant come because of their gfs
why..... | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Other'] | 2.666667 | part3 | lonely |
135 | Here if you need somebody! | 39M - Hey I know how hard weekend nights can be. If you need a friend or just looking to vent, you can message me. You’re not alone! | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | part3 | lonely |
137 | 18 desperate call for help and people to talk to | Please dm me! I have a ton of hobbies and I love chatting
I have barely any friends or anyone to talk to
I’m lost and stuck on my own 24/7 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 2 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 5 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support'] | 3.33 | evaluation | lonely |
138 | Feelings before another weekend | We have another weekend just starting to come up, as I feel the inner peace having finally accepted my life as a single guy. The longing for that someone special is there, and will never die. Such is my fate. Weekends have always come respectfully and they will in the future too. Hopefully, there is some hope, maybe there is some Twist in the tale. The realities are grim and optimism is a difficult position. Past experiences have left a bitter taste in the mouth but it still longs to eat this pie from the experience cake of life. Hope, it was easier. | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.333333 | part3 | lonely |
145 | What is it like to be loved | I want to know bc I've never been loved in my life | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.666667 | part3 | lonely |
147 | Grief | The worst part about death is that it doesn't get easier no matter how much time goes by. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
148 | 18 M (almost) | Hii , im 18 M , I am ugly on top of that im 5'7 🙂 (if it matters ) , im looking for a online girlfriend , i never had a girlfriend, and ig im just Sad because of it ...
I don't want to see your face , dont want to share socials , just someone I can talk over here on reddit , about life in general and we can just talk everyday , check on each other , talk about our problems , help each other if we want emotional support , we can play online games , talk about different professions ...
Thank For Reading ..
HOPE YOU GUYS HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY ...
| ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2.666667 | part3 | lonely |
149 | M21 | I don’t know .. i guess i am done being alone ..
Now i need a gf with whom i can talk to .. tell her how my day been ..
like i done .. just done | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 2 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3.333333 | part3 | lonely |
151 | i want to start to live and not just exist | im going into my senior year with not many friends and even less friends who want to hang out with me because of falling outs and just distance. i see all my friends hanging out with each other w/o me. i see the rest of the people on my dance team and dance studio hanging out yet never wanting to talk to me. im starting to realize that im falling behind and i dont want my senior year to be like this. i wanna start to live instead of just existing and being a spectator in my own life but im so lonely and have been for so long and i fear itll be this way in college. i know theres not much i can do now with only one year left of hs but i guess i just want someone to tell me that ill be okay. | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of community or social support'] | 4 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of community or social support'] | 3.33 | evaluation | lonely |
152 | name | can i say he's my crush? his real name is drew starkey lol he's 31 im losing my mind. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | part3 | lonely |
153 | I'm about to lose it.. no matter where I go or what I do I'll always be single.. idk if I'm unattractive or something but every meet up event I go to or open mic night, etc I can't make friends at all I'm very lonley as a 29 year old guy who has never had an irl girlfriend 😭💔💔.. I really need a f | Why is dating in 2024 so impossible.. espically in Washington state where it is anti social.. I bet if you go look on my profile you'd see I'm ugly and I'm probably never finding a girlfriend.. I have no worth and never will.. I'm so done 😭💔.. (meant friend reddit glitched and removed it 🥹.. I need a friend😭💔) | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends', 'Lack of romantic relationships'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends','Lack of romantic relationships'] | 4 | part3 | lonely |
154 | Does anyone here actually match with anyone on the dating apps you use? | I am curious. I never match. When I do, it was some random person who Is not attractive because I tend to swipe everyone in the hopes someone liked me ( not a good method) and it's kinda pathetic at this point this being one of the better dating apps that people use. It's very curious as to what's wrong You would think after a month, or months You would maybe match with someone who's remotely attractive at some point. But no, never works that way. It's like a cruel joke after a certain point. Anyone have the same experience?? | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2 | part3 | lonely |
155 | Anyone want to chat about their hobbies? I'll go first | I collect figurines, manga and older videogames/consoles and do martial arts.
I've got no one else to talk to right now and I kind of just want to hear about people's interests | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 2.666667 | part3 | lonely |
156 | 25M- lawyer looking for someone new to talk | Heyyy 🐼
Ugh it’s been a really exhausting week. Thankfully it’s Friday! I think it’s better me to take a break and talk to someone new.
Lemme tell you a bit about myself… I am a 25 years old newly graduated lawyer. I like to watch sports a lot, especially soccer/football and basketball. I try to play football with friends at least once a week. I also like to play video games, watch series and movies even though I don’t much time. I like comedy and action but I am open for your recommendations. I mainly listen to rock. My favorite bands are: Avenged Sevenfold, Three Days Grace, Shinedown, Metallica, Halestorm…
Well I don’t know what else to tell you. Feel free to ask if you wanna know more about me.
I hope we can be friends 🤗
| ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.333333 | part3 | lonely |
158 | I'm never going to have a stable partner | 35 yrs old. Fit, work a good job, ride motorcycles, adorable dog. I can get dates but women dont like me once they get to know me. I think its because of my aspergers. I've mostly just given up and I really dont want to be here anymore. I just want out, I hate being alone. Everyone says to keep my chin up but after years of being rejected I've realized that I'm just unlovable and I really dont want to live anymore. IDK what to do. | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 5 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 5 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 5 | ['Lack of romantic relationships'] | 4.333333 | part3 | lonely |
160 | I need a better social life | I would like to have some friends if anyones interested plz dm me :P | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 2.333333 | part3 | lonely |
161 | M. Lookin for a deep and meaningful conversation. | Reachin out to just listen to someone's troubles and have a conversation about it. I don't really mind how complex it is, I'm still willing to listen. If u have anything that u want to share but u can't talk about it with anyone for whatever reason, this is ur chance.
(note: i will slap the truth in ur face if u ask for my opinion so do whatever u like with that info. ) | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1.333333 | part3 | lonely |
162 | I stopped reaching out… | 33F here and throughout my life I have always been the one that has to reach out to friends to initiate contact. Even friends that I thought were like family. A few years ago I decided to stop because it just started making me feel bad to always be the one over and over again. Now I have no friends. Literally no one. I didn’t expect to lose everyone. I thought people would reach out eventually. I stopped using Facebook for mental health reasons, so it’s not like we interact on social media either. I am so lonely and want someone to talk to, but now it just feels weird to initiate contact with anyone after all this time. I scroll through my contact list and there’s not one person I feel like I can really talk to. I’m always thinking about people and used to always check in, even to just say hey thinking of you, etc. It makes me really sad and I feel like a horrible person that no one cares enough to even check in with me at all. I never thought I was a bad person before, I go out of my way to do nice things for people and be kind, but apparently it’s not enough. I don’t know how to make new friends at my age, plus I feel like if I met someone new, they would probably think I’m weird because I have no other friends. I spend a lot of my time watching movies and tv shows, but I think it makes me even lonelier watching perfect friendships on tv. It’s really hard to exist in a world where everyone seems to have someone and I’m just here completely alone. | ['Lack of friends'] | 5 | ['Lack of friends'] | 5 | ['Lack of friends'] | 5 | ['Lack of friends'] | 4.333333 | part3 | lonely |
163 | Question please | As a male I have a question, it's a nsfw question and I'm uncomfortable to talk about it in a post. Please DM me or suggest me a sub where I can find people who are comfortable answering me without judgement. | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | evaluation | lonely |
165 | 23M Gay guy looking for long-term chat | Hello there! How you doing? I'm here looking for long term chat. I'm 23 M (GAY) IF you okay with that. Maybe we could be friends? I have insomnia and its midnight in my country right now. So maybe you could help me to feel less lonely with chatting!
See you there, thank you! <3 | ['Lack of friends'] | 3 | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Other'] | 2 | ['Other'] | 2.33 | exploration | lonely |
166 | Talk to me | I am up to talk with everyone about everything expect creepy pervert people lmao but yeah if you need someone to listen to your problems or are bored or what ever else text me we can talk no matter how old you are or what gender you are or what country you are from | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | ['Not lonely'] | 1 | part3 | lonely |
Reddit Loneliness: Causes and intensity
Dataset Description
Dataset Summary
The Loneliness- cause and intensity dataset is an English-language compilation of posts focused on loneliness among individuals and the different types of loneliness they experience. . The primary objective of this dataset is to aid various NLP models in predicting loneliness and its causes from text, which may be useful in the fields of mental health, NLP contextual understanding, and emotional classification The data was gathered from two subreddits: r/lonely and r/offmychest
Supported tasks
text-classification
: This dataset can be used to train a text classification model that categorizes posts into multiple labels of loneliness, including "Not Lonely." The model should consider the context of the post and its title, allowing for overlapping labels to capture different aspects of loneliness..Natural Language Inference
: The model should determine how lonely an individual feels based on their post and title, rating the intensity on a scale from 1 to 5. The model needs to accurately evaluate the emotional tone of the content to provide this rating.Emotion Detection
: The dataset is ideal for training models that detect emotional intensity, specifically measuring loneliness on a scale of 1 to 5
Languages
The text in the dataset is in English
Data instances
Each data point includes a title, a post, a label indicating the causes of loneliness described in the post (first task), and a separate label rating the intensity of loneliness on a scale from 1 to 5.
Data Fields
example_id
: Index of the example, ranged between 1 and 509title
: The post's titlepost
: The post's textannotator{i}_t1_label
: Label assigned by annotator i for the relevant categories of loneliness (first task).annotator{i}_t2_label
: Label assigned by annotator i indicating the intensity of loneliness on a scale from 1 to 5 (second task).t1_label
: The final label for the first task, determined by the most frequently chosen labels among annotators.t2_label
: The final label for the second task, calculated as the average of the annotators' ratings for this task.batch
: The annotation batch this datapoint belong to. One of "exploration", "evaluation" and "part 3"metadata
: The Subreddit which the post was taken from."
Data Splits
The data is split into training, validation, and test sets. The samples are picked at random, with the test set consisting of 153 samples, the validation set consisting of 45 samples, and the training set consisting of 300 samples.
Train | validation | Test | |
---|---|---|---|
exploration | 61 | 3 | 27 |
evaluation | 66 | 8 | 35 |
part 3 | 173 | 34 | 61 |
Dataset Creation
Source Data
Initial Data Collection and Preprocessing
The data was collected using the Reddit API, initially extracting 550 posts. After filtering out irrelevant content, such as posts with community guidelines, non-English language, and other non-pertinent material, 520 posts remained. The dataset was then split into 70% from "r/lonely" and 30% from "r/offmychest," resulting in a final set of 498 posts. Posts were limited to 300 words, excluding titles, to maintain annotators’ focus and uphold the overall quality of the dataset.
Who are the source language producers?
The source language producers are users of the r/lonely and r/r/offmychest. No further demographic information was available.
Annotations
There were two annotation tasks: Task 1 - Classifying Causes of Loneliness: This task involves classifying posts into multiple categories reflecting the causes of loneliness:
Lack of family contact Lack of friends Lack of romantic relationships Lack of community or social support Lack of physical touch Other Not lonely
Task 2 - Rating Intensity of Loneliness: This task requires rating the intensity of loneliness on a scale from 1 to 5, based on the annotators’ personal assessment, where 1 represents 'not lonely' and 5 represents 'extremely lonely.'
The complete annotation guidelines can be found in guidelines.pdf
Annotation process
- Exploration Batch: Initial annotations were completed by the dataset creators to define categories and develop guidelines (99 posts).
- Evaluation Batch: Further annotations were carried out by the creators following the drafted guidelines (101 posts).
- Part 3 Batch: This batch was assigned to external annotators to refine the guidelines and annotate the remaining posts (298 posts).
The annotation process was carried out by two groups. The first group (owners) consisted of three female annotators who worked on the initial exploration and evaluation. The second group (external annotators) included three males who contributed during the final annotation phase.
The annotators
The annotation process was carried out by two groups. The first group, known as the owners, comprised three females who were responsible for the initial exploration and evaluation stages. The second group, referred to as the external annotators, included three males who contributed during the final stages of the annotation process. All annotators were aged between 21 and 30 and were students at the Data Science and Decisions faculty at the Technion.
Personal and Sensitive Information
The posts and comments do not contain any personal information and are submitted anonymously. No identifiers regarding the authors were obtained.
Considerations for Using the Data
Social Impact of Dataset
The dataset could help improve NLP models aimed at understanding loneliness, a growing mental health concern. By identifying different types of loneliness, this data may support the development of tools that assist mental health professionals or offer resources to those feeling isolated.
Potential Biases
Bias is an inherent challenge in any dataset derived from human-generated content, particularly when sourced from platforms like Reddit, where the user demographic may not fully represent the broader population. The Loneliness : cause and intensity dataset could potentially reflect biases linked to factors such as gender, cultural norms, age, and socio-economic status, which are not explicitly captured in the data but could shape the experiences and expressions of loneliness. These underlying biases may influence the nature of the posts and comments, potentially skewing the content toward certain perspectives more common within specific online communities.
Additionally, the subreddit communities used to collect the data may have their own subcultural biases. Posts from these communities might reflect dominant viewpoints that marginalize other, less-represented perspectives, particularly when discussing topics as subjective as loneliness. For instance, the causes of loneliness discussed in these posts might reflect only certain aspects of human experience, while leaving out or underrepresenting others.
The annotation process, despite following standardized guidelines, may also introduce bias due to the personal interpretations of the annotators, shaped by their backgrounds and experiences. Even with careful adherence to the guidelines, subjective elements, such as interpreting the intensity of loneliness, can vary between annotators.
To address these concerns, users of this dataset should consider implement bias detection and mitigation techniques when training and evaluating models. Moreover, models developed using this dataset should be tested across diverse user groups to ensure inclusivity and fairness in the resulting predictions or applications. This approach will help to reduce the impact of biases and improve the reliability of models trained on this dataset for broader real-world applications.
Other Known Limitations
Limited Dataset Size: With 498 posts, the dataset is relatively small, which may limit the robustness of models trained on it. The smaller sample size can result in overfitting or reduced generalizability to new data.
Imbalance in Loneliness Categories: Some types of loneliness, such as "Lack of Family Contact" and "Physical Touch," appear much less frequently than others. This imbalance may lead to models being biased towards more common categories like "Lack of Friends," potentially reducing performance in detecting less frequent types of loneliness.
Lack of User Demographics: The dataset does not include demographic information about the users who posted. Without this context, it's difficult to assess how factors like age, gender, or cultural background may influence expressions of loneliness or how well models generalize across different populations.
Short Post Length: The dataset includes posts that are generally short (up to 300 words), which may limit the depth of information available for analysis. While concise, these posts may not capture the full complexity of the emotional experiences or factors contributing to loneliness.
Creators and Contributors
Dataset Creators
The dataset was created by Yael Katsman, Hilly Segal, and Yarden Kamienney as part of a project for the NLP Research course at the Data Science & Decisions Faculty at the Technion.
Acknowledgments
We extend our gratitude to Amit Frechter, Michael Fishman, and Yonatan Sabag for their valuable work as external annotators. Additionally, we are thankful to Roi Reichart and Nitay Calderon for their guidance and mentorship throughout the dataset's development process.
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