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Cheesybox
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_2g58xp
No matter what role I play (I main support though) I'm constantly outclassed in lane. As a bruiser I never do as much damage or have the durability of other bruisers. As mages I never have the burst of other mages. As a support, I can't poke the way other Sonas do, or tank the way other Leonas do, or do both the way other Threshs do. The most recent example was my last game. Enemy Leona was diving at level 3/4 and with her W she maybe took 250-300 damage from our 3 tower shots, which was about a quarter of her health but she had bonus AD and bonus MS, so at most armor yellows and blues (when she had W up she had ~120 armor). All she had was a Targon's. Even when I run armor reds+yellows, MR blues, and HP quints and 0/30/0 masteries I can't tank like that, and she wasn't running maxed out defense (again, bonus AD and MS). Or when I play Sona, I've tried everything. Balanced mage builds, full AP builds, max defense, and every single time I never do the amount of damage with Q nor take the extra 3 or 4 hits that opposing Sonas can take. If I run max AP, I can take MAYBE 4 autos from a carry, but then I'll play against Sonas that come to lane with 60 something AP at level 1 and poke the shit out of us yet don't get melted the way I do when all-in'd the way I do when I play full AP Sona. This has happened for as long as I can remember. After years of playing (started playing right at the end of season 1), hours and pages of math later, I still don't understand why I never have the defensive or offensive capabilities of other players. As an aside, I want to ask something else. The
version is that in season 3 after about 1000 games I got into gold. Got to my gold 4 promo about 4 or 5 days later and then went on an absolutely massive losing spree (like 15-20 games in a row) and my MMR was that over a silver 5. 3 months later I hit plat 5, got into my promo series for plat 4 and once again, massive losing spree (I counted that time, 33 losses in a row). People have often told me that you can't climb that high off luck, but I don't know how else to explain 2 20+ game losing streaks the instant I get into gold/plat 4 promos. So I guess my question is how to make sense of all that. Was I carried to platinum? Was I some kind of statistical anomaly that lost that many games in a row? I wasn't planning on this being such a massive wall, but as someone who doesn't want to give up on the idea of going pro with this game yet, I feel like I need help making sense of all this because I sure as hell can't on my own. I hope this doesn't come across as whiney, but I'm absolutely clueless as to how to improve my game. Thanks for comments in advance
frugalfran
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2wzyon
My mother is living with me, my husband, and our infant daughter for an undetermined amount of time. She has been here 5 weeks. She has taken zero showers. My mother is a narcissistic emotionally manipulative woman. There is a reason she had nowhere to go but here when she found herself displaced by fire - she has burned all of her other bridges, friends and family alike. I couldn't live with myself if by refusing her a roof she would become homeless, so she is living here until she can find a job (which is a whole other ball of dysfunction and I fully expect that day to never come). So, all the other related issues aside. I have to keep the peace as best as possible. My mother is sensitive and explosive when it comes to criticism, real or perceived. Why it has not dawned on her that she needs a shower, I dont know. She did make reference to a shower a few weeks ago but said that since our sink backed up when she brushed her teeth, she didnt want to risk the shower/tub. So we draino-ed it. My husband even thoroughly scrubbed the master bathroom and told her she could use that one. But there has been no further action on her part. So (
how do you tell a woman who should know better that she smells bad and needs to shower?? Without hurting her feelings and blowing up a tense situation??
srgmoss
tifu
t5_2to41
t3_2x0het
So just to get this out of the way. I am on an iPhone so the grammer may be atrocious. Also this happened during the winter of 2014. So I am a cashier at a large grocery store chain and pretty much everyday is the same. Wake up, go to school, go to work, and sleep. This day however was much different...it was a snow day which ment sleeping in for me. Great. I told my mom that I was going to go into work early and pick up some extra hours, (hoping to save up for a motorcycle). I get there and it is busy as all hell, which doesn't help once you reach the 7 hour mark. ...and now the f-up... This elderly women comes through my line with three FULL carts of groceries. She had to have two other people help her push them. Now after about 2/3 of the way through the order she starts telling me what I am doing wrong. I can put up with this while putting up a smile until she decided to cross the line...she says 'f-this move'. I am now scared as she comes over to my register and starts scanning them her self...she is mumbling how I can't do anything right. Keep in mind that I have done this for awhile now and everyone else seems to think I'm ok-ish at cashiering. Finally I just sit back and wait for her to finish. I'm just talking to my bagger because I was not about to step in her way when she was on the rampage. It was fairly obvious that she knew what she was doing except for the produce. She always put in the wrong code and I would offer to help her only to be rejected with a frown. I lean over to my bagger and say under my voice with a slight comedic laugh, 'what an idiot'. Wrong choice. She immediately stopped, I don't even know how she heard me with her aged ears, and walked straight into my managers office. Well...crap. I am forced to move everyone from my lane and go directly to the office to talk about my mistakes and apologize sincerely. I can safely say I won't be repeating this again. So
calling a "valuable customer" an idiot
MyaAlisha6
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2x1bvj
My boyfriend [M29] and I [F24] have been together almost 4 years. We have a daughter together, she is almost 2, and I have a 5 year old daughter from a previous relationship. About a month ago some of our friends got engaged at they're baby reveal party and he made a comment about how he can't believe they're already getting engaged (after 2 years) I replied with "i think that's what two people do when they love eachother and decide to have children together" (hint hint). Anyway it ended up in an argument and how he's not sure if he wants to marry me and that I don't really bring anything to the table..... I don't cook, clean, etc. (Mind you, I work 3 days a week and go to school full time, and a full time mom) but I do clean and when I cook (I'm not very good) he hardly eats it or complains. Besides the point. He says he loves me but I don't feel it and I feel like he just keeps me around because he is comfortable. He is a very detached person but the feeling of thinking someone doesn't love you. It hurts so bad. That feeling of being alone and unwanted when your right next to that person is worse than actually being alone. **
boyfriend says he loves me. It doesn't feel genuine or sincere. Not sure he what's to marry me after 4 years. Don't know what to do.
InsaneZee
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_2x1hbb
We probably overthought on this one. Our initial goal was to let you change strategic course in the early game without incurring a setback, but most were just using it to switch to the "best" lategame smite before picking up their enchant. Well then. >COST TO CHANGE BETWEEN TIER 2 JUNGLE ITEMS 0 gold ⇒ 255 gold For those who don't know (most know, but I'll state it anyways) changing the Tier 2 jungle items (Stalkers, Poachers, Skimishers, and Rangers) from one to another was free. Now they're changing the cost from 0 to 255. This is similar to sidegrading the boot enchantments, however I think that this is valid, since usually people buy enchantments later in the game and have enough spare gold anyways to make a switch. And honestly, nobody really switches their boot enchants because they're using the one the chose for a reason. Anyways, the new jungle is hard. Before, the Tier 2 items were 350g, and is now 450g. What allowed people to sustain so well in the jungle with weaker junglers (Wukong, eve, at least early-game) was being able to switch the Tier 2 items for free. Farming camps? Switch to Ranger's Trailblazer for the stun + "splash damage smite." Think that top lane needs a bit help? Switch to Stalker's or Skirmisher's and land a kill or get a massive push in the lane. When you're done, recall and get your original item. Early game, it's pretty useful to be able to switch items. Riot says their "initial goal was to let you change strategic course in the early game without incurring a setback" and then their next sentence contradicted what they said: "most were just using it to switch to the "best" lategame smite before picking up their enchant." I don't understand, rito, isn't that what you were expecting? Also, about the price that Riot did end up settling on... the fact that it's over 250g is pretty harsh. Early-game (which is usually the time where junglers switch their blades) 255g is a lot. It could mean escaping an enemy with a sliver of HP since you used a potion, or landing a kill since you had just enough money to upgrade your boots for that increase in MS. If Riot is absolutely forced to make it non-zero, make it at least cheaper. 255 is a bit too much, but, say, 100g is an amount that reduces Shaco's crazy sidegrading and is also enough to keep the aspect of sidegrading present. **
it shouldn't get the boot-enchantment treatment - there is reason for the cost on boot sidegrading it's sort of making jungle a bit harder than it already is after the large jungle update believe it or not, it actually increases strategy within the jungle if riot needs to change the price, lower it by a good 100g.** Sorry for the wall of text - I might actually add to this later, but for now, thanks for reading.
Susamak
tifu
t5_2to41
t3_2x3brw
So like most fuck ups this didn't happen exactly today.This was about 6 months ago. Note that this was not a teacher at school but at a tuition centre(In India, a tuition helps you to prepare for other entrance exams and shit).So coming to how it happened, it was just another day and this was a physics teacher.The class was pretty boring, so we decided to annoy the teacher(I know I know even I'm smh but she was a very realxed teacher so we thought she'd be cool with it).So me and a couple of friends proceed to make a cooing noise.She noticed it but turned back towards the board.Then we decided to up the ante by making the wild wild west sound .I had to write a fake apology letter, bring my parents and stuff. So
made a spaghetti western sound in class, teacher thought I was catcalling, had to go through shit.
shonkster
sex
t5_2qh3p
t3_2x3dk9
Need some help from the females here. Back ground: Partner (f25) of 5 years and wife of 1year is yet to have an orgasm. She never really picked up masturbating, so most to all of her sexual discovery has been through sex. After trying for a bit to get her there, we have realized that making the orgasm the goal might be the thing inhibiting it. So now the aim is to make the next time just feel a little better, go a bit further, or do something a bit different them the last. We have nailed down alot of what feels good, what she doesn't like, and so on. Questions: often when going down on her or playing with her before piv, after a while she will say "I want you now" meaning she wants piv. From this point foreplay stops (she won't let me keep going) what might this sudden change be indicating? -during piv, I will try to play with her clit also, but she stops me and says " I can't handle it, it's to much". What is this feeling? I as a male have never experienced a feeling that would make me say that. Can anyone explain? the "too much" thing often returns when she gets super worked up in foreplay. I would love to know what this feeling is, so I know what do do with it. I used to suspect is was an orgasm on the edge, not so sure now, because over time I have gone a long way further (judging by her physical reactions) before the "too much" thing comes up. Apologies for long post. Don't know how to
this one. Female sex translators... Help?
[deleted]
tifu
t5_2to41
t3_2x4dmv
Ok this happened literally 2 hours ago. I'm writing this whie im at... Well you know. To get some background, im a 19 y/o boy & i work on holidays until march when the classes at my uni start. I dont get paid too much, its a boring job & i work every single day of the week. The thing is, i texted my boss 2 days ago. Can i take a day off this wednesday? Him: in 2 days I'll ask coworkers name Ok sure i said, THINKING that in 2 days i could ask for a day off.... BUT apperently he meant in 2 days from MONDAY so that means WEDNESDAY. SO i come to work & 10 mins later comes my coworker. What are you doing here he said? (I panic) Oh nothing, I JUST CAME HERE SO I CAN GET F CKED OVER MAYBE??! (Said that to myself ofc).. So there we are, talking about who's fault is it. So he says, do you wanna stay or leave? .... Thats where i fucked up. (Now listen here, i dont think racionally while on stress or i get too much pressure) CLEARLY im far from st pid because i stayed. YES I DID. My reasoning? Oh well if i take a day off i better get some sleep, i'd wake up at 11 am & then go on with my day. Today i woke up at 7:30 am to get here, i thought i've already wasted all these hours, so why not stay? Whats the point of going back home now? Id have to take the bus and id be home at 11 am... I wouldnt be able to get some sleep So i did fucking stay. Now i talk to my boss about it, how we misunderstood each other yada yada, & i ask for a day off 2morror.... And he says, oh well.. Tomorror i cant really cover for you.... FUCK DID YOU SAY??? Now see, here's the thing. My parents are on vacation. They come back tomorror, & i wanted to have my house all by myself. I wanted to watch movies in my parents bed the whole day, and maybe buy some ice cream WHO KNOWS! Sooo... At the minute he said i couldnt take a day off tomorror.. My whole world crumbled. Now im gonna take a day off on friday... With my annoying parents at home. Fuxk this. (Im writing this on my phone so forgive me for any spelling mistake, english is also not my 1st language so dont judge) Now i dislike myself even more for having stayed. Have a good day. EDIT: TIFU well another fuck up, i fucked up the title, this is my first post tho so i didn't know how to submit well 2 EDIT:
ended up looking like a fool, wasted my coworker's time & didnt get my day off
Paco_Negro
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_27n56f
My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now, and most of this time we have known about the move. She decided that she wants to stay here and continue college (living in a dorm) in a familiar place rather than move somewhere without having any friends and having to deal with her crazy mother. I'm fine with the idea of her staying in our state, but she is constantly telling me she is throwing away her family for me and that she's always second guessing if I'm really worth all the hassle. Her family is Pakistani and have never met me, nor do they want to. They already don't like the idea of her dating me, especially when they know all about the legal trouble I've gotten myself into and even my drug habits. Many times over, I have advised her that it probably would be best for her to move with them because of the fact that I'm still trying to get my own priorities straight and won't be dependable for her in the instance that something were to happen. Yes, I do deeply care for her, but I have character defects that I need to learn to take care of. Lately, though, seems as though she has been planning out our future together, talking about having children and even what our wedding may look like. The whole idea is appealing to me, but what she wants of me makes me believe I am just not the guy for her. She wants me to learn her native language, be able to securely have an income that would allow her to take care of the children and go on vacations. She even wants me to quit smoking pot, which I have recently done due to probation. The
is, I just feel like I would let her down if she decided to "give up" her family and stay here with me. I don't want her to end up like me, a loser. She has more potential and a better chance than I ever have. I can't see myself taking her on fancy trips every month like her father does for her now. I don't think I'll ever be the prince charming she has put together in her head.
chezia
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_27ns3t
So to be brief back in march my live in girlfriend who I had a relationship with since 4 years admitted she liked a person and cheated on me. She left me and tried to come back after 2 weeks because she missed me ( probably also she was in a mess because she couldn't find an apartment and she missed my stability, the new person was not all that great ) I initially gave in but we took a month apart to think about stuff and during that period of time I met a girl who is special. I talked to my ex about not wanting to try it again with her without specifying and tried to move on. My ex insisted to give us another shot even when she found out about this new girl. I obviously still deeply care about her but in the back of my head when I think about trying it again I just think it would be a big mistake. More info : we were in a great partnership except she is a very controlling and jealous and possessive person. In the last period the sex was also not that great because of stress and work. But we still had chemistry when we had time for us. We know each other in and out. The cheating was a sudden thing I didn't expect it to happen. At first when she told me about her liking this girl we tried to work on in but one night they had a drink together with friends and when she came home I just knew something was different. We had a fight and she told me She would sleep at a friends but went at hers. She confessed having sex after 2 days. She still texted me that she was torn but I closed all contact because I felt used. When she came back I was doing better but I obviously had strong feelings towards her. **
after 4 year long relationship got cheated on dumped now she wants back. Now sometimes I just think about it and miss her. Was it a good call or should I have given her the second chance ? What do you guys say?
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_27o1t3
Been together with my SO for a little over four years. Multiple break-ups, multiple physical altercations, the worst insults you can possible imagine swapped back and forth until we both are mentally exhausted. Her parents hate me, mostly because she called them up during a fight we had, told them I hit her, and that she was scared shitless. Even though i never hit her, and never would, seeing as my mom got beat the shit out of in front of my eyes when I was a kid. I would never bring myself to punch a woman. But like Chris Rock, I would handle her like a can of paint when she got too rough. Rough, being physically attacking me, stabbing me with objects, throwing sharp objects at me, etc., etc. When we do visit her parents, I believe they get the impression that I am a nice guy, in spite of everything that has happened. At one visit, her mom told me, just before we left "good luck!"' As if she knew something was up. And she tells me pretty much every other week how much of a bitch I am, often publicly. This hurts a lot seeing as how I took care of her for two years while she was living in our apt where i paid most of the bills, while she dealt with her depression. Not to mention everything else a decent man does. The worst part is, it's been like that since the beginning. After about a year, things went downhill. A lot of arguing and everything else shit that comes woth a bad relationship. After three and a half years, she cheated on me, kissing anorher dude when she was out drinking. I had to dig it out of her, of course, no honorable confession. Nothing else happened, at least that's what she told me. Deep down, I didn't believe it. I broke it off, and we had a break for about three months. During this time I met a new girl. After three months, my SO called me like crazy, and when I didn't answer her calls, texts, or emails, she eventually called my mother, and "begged" for a reunion. I got back together with her, and even though I was planning to, I didn't work up the courage to dismiss my rebound, and so now she calls me about twice a month for relief, where I am actually willing to oblige. I have become the person I hated my SO for being, and it makes me feel like total shit. This has been going on for about four months now. Now I feel really bad, and I'm wondering what the hell I am doing. I really love my SO, and I know she loves me too, but the thought of her not being honest with me is killing me inside. In a weird way, I'd rather be the douche that cheats on his SO, than to be the one who gets cheated on (insecurity issues much?). Even though I know how ridiculously stupid this sounds while I'm writing this. I know the healthy solution is calling it quits, but I just can't. I love her too much, even with all the negativity that comes along with this relationship. I know this sounds like a recipe for an ill-lived life, but the truth is, I feel worse when she's not around. I've had multiple parners throughout my life, and even though I loved them all as well, this runs deeper. My SO is the prettiest girl you ever saw. Like supermodel gorgeous, I know a lot of people would kill to be with a girl like that, We always get a lot of attention where ever she goes, and that's not really helping with my trust-issues. Whatever, looks mean nothing, right? Thing is, when it is good, it is really good. Not just sex, but everything. So good that we're both willing to keep up with this bullshit. What I wanna know though, are there are any older couples, veterans of the game, that can tell me If they ever recovered after something like that, and if so, how? **
gf is a total bitch, and so am I, but I'd still take a bullet for her. Leave her or dump her? Sorry for any typos. I got drunk.
Exasive
summonerschool
t5_2t9x3
t3_27rv56
Good Morning Summoners… My preferred roles are Top Mid & Jungle. My main champions are Ziggs, Ahri, Udyr, Lee Sin and I dabble in a few other champions but don’t know them solidly. Recently I’ve been promoted into Gold III (I’m very very pleased with this placement but would like to place low Plats by the end of the season) as I’ve come into this league I’m seeing a lot more Plat players in SoloQ. This doesn’t affect any of morale as to some people it may, but in a good 90% of my games I feel like I’m not playing my best at all. I lose my lane early by wanting to make 1v1 plays, sometimes they work out and I can snowball the lane into an easy win. However if I lose I’m not sure how to comeback, I can keep up in CS normally hitting about 60-75 by 10 minutes, which isn’t bad but not great either (I am working on making this better) my real faults is that I don’t know what to do with an advantage or at a disadvantage, I’m the person who stays in lane unnecessarily long and I think this is my downfall. Sometimes I can play games perfectly but that’s in Normals when I queue alone, I’m not sure how to transition that into ranked. I’m just looking for advice which relates to late game rotations, when to roam when I have the advantage top and how I can assist my team by either generating a ton of pressure top or by roaming. I know MID roaming to bottom and top is very useful but when I do this, I get chunked down mid tower and I’m not always sure that my roams was useful. Also I don’t want to blame my friends, but I play with a lot of Low Ranked people, which Is what I enjoy the most, but I do want to reach that plat in SoloQ for my own benefit I guess haha. Has playing with Bronze or unranked friends in normal lowered your ability to make plays or progress through the game? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Edit: formatting so it wasn't a big wall of
text.
[deleted]
politics
t5_2cneq
t3_emnbf
Let me preface this rant with this little bit: Manning would prefer solitary over regular military prison housing. The kid is a spy and I guarantee the hardasses he'd be next to in the brig would rip his limbs off. Solitary is the best thing going for him. Also, it's not torture. Shut your face. The kid is absolutely known to be the one to uproot sensitive information from computers and file cabinets. I'm pretty sure he even just about bragged about it. I understand torture not being acceptable (Solitary isn't torture, by the way), but what blows my fucking mind is all you internet superheros saying Manning is being held wrongfully because he hasn't been convicted yet. Let me point out one thing: HE LEAKED CLASSIFIED INFORMATION. I don't know how else to put it. Yes, we could bring Libby into this conversation, but Manning doesn't have the fucking president backing him, does he? Reddit loves to choose sides. I chose sides with Assange because it's reasonable. The guy's a fucking hero for spitting in the face of the dragon. Manning though? He leaked documents. Now he's going to be subjected to harsh punishment as prescribed by the UCMJ (Uniformed Code of Military Justice). The kid technically committed espionage. He's technically a spy. Most spies get tossed in jail for life (Protip: People aren't nice to their enemies), and a lot are executed. UCMJ Article 106a: The
on that is: Spies get FUCKED UP when they're caught. The kid is a spy. His punishments are just and reasonable. If they were pulling his fingernails out, then yeah. That would be torture. But right now? It's solitary. I know people who'd rather fucking be in solitary than with the general population of insane military criminals. EDIT: Downvotes for railing against the current trend on /r/politics? Say it ain't so! Fucking hyporcrites. EDITEDIT: Read up. >Bradley Manning is the most notorious provider of documents to Julian Assange. He confessed via online chat to a fellow hacker, Adrian Lamo, that he provided the “Collateral Murder” video to WikiLeaks, is considered a “person of interest” in the Afghan war log leaks, and stands accused of illegally accessing SIPRNET to collect 150,000 diplomatic cables that have since been published by WikiLeaks. Assange refuses to confirm that he received the cables from Manning, but has offered to contribute $50,000 to Manning’s legal defense. The Army has arrested Manning and charged him under the Espionage Act. EDITEDITEDIT: Everyone seems to think that just because you haven't been sentenced, you can't go to jail. Nice try, people. That's not how law works.
are_aye_tee_aye
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_emzsi
Hi RA. My girlfriend of over a year and i are on the verge of breaking up, but she's made it clear its my decision as she's committed to staying. I recently moved a few hours away from where we used to go to uni together (she's still there), and have this urge to spend my weekends with friends in other close cities, rather than going back every weekend to be with her. I always feel i'm missing out on being in my early twenties, because the way I view our potential is that all we have is long-term potential...like marriage, where maybe i'd rather have a few flings or 3-4 month "relationships" where i wouldnt mind if they ended. I have hobbies I like to pursue and she's very supportive of them, but i feel like she has none or that her hobby is always...me. I feel like its getting to the point where I have few actual friends I keep up with well except her and that a little scary, as I'm fairly outgoing and she less so. In short, she and our relationship exemplify what stability would mean for me. I just feel guilty that i'm giving up something that, when I think rationally about how I feel love for her (i do, honestly), how well we get along, how she goes out of her way to make me happy and would do anything to keep us together, and how I dont want to see her hurt over me - could have a lot of potential if i stuck it out. Thing is, I've always loved living the single or hobbyists life, but I feel like that's an immature desire i should veer away from...it's gotten me into trouble in the past, and I know that the person I want to be ideally in 5-10 years is someone more stable, and less flighty. I've always felt immature, and I do want to "grow the fuck up" some, but will forcing myself not to live life in ten different directions really fix that, or do i just need to experience what i want to experience and let maturity come in time? I think if i had to make a split second decision, I'd say i want to end it. So this RA is less about asking whether or not i should break things off, but more that i'd like to know other redditors' opinions. Is there value in being single and social? or even just straight up alone, and just throwing yourself into hobbies? Or does me picking friends and hobbies over her just signify me succumbing to being selfish, immature, and living life only for myself - like if i go that route i'll never mature the way I'd like to? Thanks in advance. I would
but i feel like it's not all that common or necessary on this subreddit, people seem to be nice about reading everything for context. edit: oh my god how did i screw up the title. update: thank you all for your insightful advice. it wasnt easy, especially for her - but when is it ever? she fought it for a long time and i felt horrible, selfish, like it was just because i hadnt tried hard enough, but eventually came around to say that though she's devastated to lose us, she knows she should respect the decision. It hurts me knowing i hurt someone that didnt really do anything wrong but fall in love. and i dont blame her for it not working out for me, or even for resisting it in the end - she's not some psycho chick, just was emotional. while it's scary thinking i've given up someone as great as she has been, i still believe it was the right decision for me at this point in my life, and i feel a responsibility now to her and to myself to make sure i grow while i'm outside of a relationship. if i dont, then, cue an AD "I've made a huge mistake" moment :/
gettingtiredofitall
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_erljs
i just need to vent to someone about this but my girlfriend has made this one of the most irritating christmases ever. it started this morning. we fell asleep videochatting last night so we were still on video chat this morning. when my parents woke me up to open presents it woke her up. i went downstairs and when i came back up i get these angry messages about how i left her and i didn't bother to explain what was happening and now she can't sleep. i also received like 5 missed calls asking where i was. i apologized and told her that she knew what was happening this morning since i told her my parents would be waking me up in the morning. she ends this with this really bitter response asking "why is it so easy for her to leave me" and something of that nature. i tell her i'm sorry and that's its christmas and that i'm excited for today and i don't want to fight. later on in the day i finish my christmas party and were talking online again. and i tell her that i love her because i do and i tell her that frequently. and she doesn't react. so i type it out and she doesn't react again. so i wait. finally when she does read it, she kinda just shrugs as if its nothing. and finally at the end of the night i finish cleaning up my house and she texts me asking if i can talk again. and i say yes, but then i don't get a response back. i call her and she doesn't even say a word. so i assume she fell asleep. so i text her goodnight. she calls me back and i tell her that we should just go to sleep. when she talks they're in mumbles and she can barely form sentences because she is sleepy. so i tell her we'll just talk later and to go to sleep. she then throws a fit and hangs up the phone. i call her back and she doesn't pick up RA, honestly i'm just sick of it. her behavior is getting annoying and its driving me crazy. today was christmas and i honestly felt like she ruined it. i'm at the end of my rope. its like she doesn't even try. she never apologizes and when she knows its her fault she guilts me into apologizing somehow. i love her but i'm starting not to like her anymore thank you for reading if you made it this far. if not
my girlfriends attitude ruined christmas for me.
weclock
gaming
t5_2qh03
t3_eso71
In this post . I also know that with this current console era that Microsoft, Sony, and Nintendo, all seem to agree that the traditional retirement point is going to be well passed for their consoles. Does this make any sense or am I just babbling? ^ ^ edit:
is the current console generation going to be looked back upon like the SNES generation of consoles?
FerretSaur
sex
t5_2qh3p
t3_esxp4
Back when I was really insecure about the size thing, a good friend of mine consoled me and she said that size didn't matter to most girls and that as long as the guy did his best, it's all fun sex. My cock is only 4 inches long and 1.5 inches thick (when fully erect! >_<) so that really hurt my confidence about sex, and girls in general, for a while. After she told me, I felt a lot better about myself and I guess a lot more confident too. I mean, it was pretty tough to feel confident when you're at the age where people are always comparing penis size to masculinity and overall ability to attract and satisfy a lady. I guess this was wrong of me to do, but I happened to listen in to a conversation she had with a friend of hers, and they were sorta talking about how large penises made them feel so good or something like that. I started to feel a little insecure again(my fault, duh), and then of course I made the mistake of going to the internet to look for other opinions and stuff. I read a website somewhere that said that many girls were just lying when they told that to guys just so they don't hurt their feelings or something, even though size really matters to them. I would feel bad about that because I'd feel like a girl who says she doesn't mind the fact that I don't have a big cock is just...lying to me...and I guess she's lying to herself too, which I don't understand. If she doesn't really like what I have, then she should really be honest, right? I mean, if a girl really liked me as I am personally, but not sexually, would that be a reason she would be lying? I feel like she shouldn't blind-sight herself just to make me happy! >_< I'd feel so bad because even though I'd be happy, she wouldn't be. I'd honestly be willing to do whatever it takes to make her happy if I really liked her. I guess this makes me seem pretty stupid, impractical, and naive, because I'm hoping for a perfect scenario where everyone would be willing do whatever to be happy because we really like each other. :S I'm just...I don't know... I'm still a virgin and I've never really had a girlfriend (or even been on a date) I guess so maybe that's why I have such a weird view of sex and relationships. (I just turned 18 recently, by the freakin' way) I know my cock isn't well endowed, but I think my imagination is. I'm confident in doing the best with what I have, even if it's not the best that anyone could have. Also, I wouldn't mind at all if a girl was suddenly un-attracted to me completely as soon as she'd take my pants off. If that happens, it just means we both deserve someone better! Hehe :P So, to ask a question, when you tell a guy 'size doesn't matter', do you feel like you're just lying or are you honest to the core about that? I just
d this didn't I? :S
LazyKnight
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_etxae
Me 24, virgin, never been kissed etc. Her 20 Damn, this sucks. So I've been friends with the girl living next to my appartment for about year. After getting to know her I fell for her. It took me about two months or so to ask her on a date. She said no (actually she just had some lame excuses, being busy and so on...). I continued visiting her, because we got along great and always had really fun conversations. In the next 3 to 4 months we met occasionally and I fell for her. All this time it was always me who initiated contact. As soon I couldn't hold my feelings in any longer (and after trying to invite her to a few more dates), I told her I wanted to be more than friends. She declined and apologized, telling me that she just broke up with her ex a few months before and she wasn't ready for something new. I was pretty dissapointed at that point. But after a few weeks of consideration I decided it would be a shame to just throw away everything we had and accepted her offer to be friends. Since then we hung out like before and it was great every single time. By now she even makes an effort to initiate some meetings. I can say she is by far the most fun girl I ever met. We just click, can talk about everything and understand each other completely. We have the same kind of humour, like the same kind of music and so on. I thought I would get over the rejection and we could just be friends. But as of lately my feelings came creeping up again (not that they ever completely went away). I can't stop thinking about her. At times I feel like she is my long lost sister at other times I want more form her. By now I am completely confused and not really shure what I want. Now I made the plan of asking her on a date one last time. If she declines I will tell her, that a friendship is not enough for me and that we should stop seeing each other. This sucks so bad. I don't want to lose one of my best friends but this has been going on a little more than a year and I just want some kind of closure. Do you guys think my plan is a good idea? I am kind of confused and need some help here. Just telling me I've beend friendzoned won't cut it :-/ No
sorry guys UPDATE: Well, she came over to my room yesterday and I told her that it's over. It sucked for both of us but I'm shure I did the right thing. After that I went to a bar with some friends. Woke up about an hour ago and I'm still drunk... Feelings suck.
KadenTau
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_eu1yk
24 year old male here,RA. I lurk here often (read: half the links that reach my frontpage) because for the past year I've been heartbroken about my own personal "her". The one that got away. The one that guts you every time you think about it. I've droned on and on about this to most who will listen, and have been reluctant to post anything here because it's just exhausting. This whole ordeal still haunts me every now and again, and I'm plenty tired of it. I'm still short on closure, and she hasn't talked to me in about six months. This might sound a little sad, but both of my more serious relationships have been LDRs. The first really hurt me. I knew her for a long time (still talk, kinda) and she was going through a rough time back when we were 20/18ish I think it was. Drugs, sex, the whole wild party girl thing gone wrong. She ended up being taken advantage of (to put it lightly, nonconsent after consent). She really fucked me up bad in the head. I was hurt for the longest time when the second came along, we'll call her Anaa, short for her WoW character's name (care to guess how we met? =P). She was the most wonderful thing to happen to me ever. Skipping all the odd details, we were close friends for a while, and then became "official" right as I moved back to my hometown to get my derailed life on track (the girl previous to her really tore me up inside, I was pretty bloody broken for a long while). I had everything back in order: new girl, school, back in my hometown where all my friends lived. This is where it went wrong. See...I don't think I ever dealt with number one. The specter of that betrayal seemed to eventually rear it's ugly face every chance it got, and I ended up hurting her feelings a good few times, without really meaning to. See...when on here, the internets, and at long distance I can't really be who I believe I really am. I couldn't just bury it by looking at her face (I had plenty of pictures, that wasn't enough) and forgetting everything that bugged me. In truth she really didn't do anything wrong. I was jealous a good few times, and even a little paranoid every now and again. I was always afraid that she'd end up hurting me just the same. The whole LDR situation had left a bad taste in my mouth. I had, at one point, sworn off ever doing it again. She was, however, a very persuasive flirt. God I miss her RA. I fucked up bad, I think. I've gone through every emotion I can think off. Missing her, hating her for just ending it out of the blue. She always told me she was happy, and that things were fine despite my stupid little idiosyncrasies...which I swear I was trying so hard to overcome. When she told me in January of this year (2010), that it was over...I came apart. Panicked, cried like a bitch, I think there was some begging. It hurt so much. Over the next few months I tried talking with her about it, and in retrospect I never approached it with full empathy. I was fishing for a why...a logical reason as to what had happened. Had I gone to far? Was I not ready? Was she not ready? Both? The thought that she let me go for someone else has flickered through my head a few times, because when I think back on it, she seemed to get on with this random guy awful quick. What do I do, RA? I'm lost...and every time I think I've sealed it away it just comes back. I know what I miss. I miss love. I miss the idea of her. I've never even touched her, or seen her in anything other than still framed pictures. I don't know where I'd ever find someone like her again. She lives somewhere in the Texas northern BFE. Cute, shy, the face of a goddess, mature (for the most part, though I've no room to talk I'm sure). It just seems like I lucked out and hit a bullseye the size of a sugar ant, and I blew it. I hate this. I feel like the only one who can tell me what I need to hear is her. Something is/was just off about the whole thing. I want closure. Hell I'm obsessed with it. I don't want to be. I want this out of my head. I want to grow up past this, but I don't know how the hell to let go. It's torn me up inside to the point where I've had a small existential crisis and severe depression, and when I think about that I can't help but scoff at myself. Sorry for the length. I'd
but I don't know how to summarize that =P.
ssdsp
gaming
t5_2qh03
t3_euw4j
READ THIS: If you are interested in helping with the development in any way please join us on IRC Gamesurge server channel: #akarra figured r/gaming would be the right place to post this, but if this sort of thing isn't allowed then I apologize and the mods may delete it. Myself and a few other team members are working on a gaming project for a 2d fantasy RPG game and we're looking for anyone who has the time and drive to dedicate that would like to join us. Some technical know-how is preferred but nothing extensive (unless you're applying for a coding position). You will be provided with tools to use, so if you're the guy who makes the monsters, you'll have a user-friendly monster editor application to use. I'm not going to reveal the name just yet but we will update r/gaming with our progress and you guys can be our closed beta testers if you embrace this game (which we hope you do). Some background on the game: It is an old school 2D mmorpg, in the medieval fantasy genre. It focuses on team-driven game play and exploration, rather than flashy graphics. Some features currently implemented: (more will be added once we get a coder [things like items, monsters, maps, quests, spells, etc can be added without any coding knowledge]) * Combat, PVP, experience, levels, attribute points, abilities, skills, banks etc * Chat-friendly GUI * Landscapes and dungeons * Over 1600+ items including weapons, armors, jewelry, potions, scrolls, etc. * Talents, Skills, and Spells * Monsters of all kinds * Character Classes * NPCs * 100+ Quests * Sound Effects * Line of Sight * Day and night * Fellowships * Guilds * Mounts Here are some screenshots so people get a feel of the game: I hope you look past the basic graphics and believe me when I say if you enjoy a good RPG then you will love this, and this time it's YOUR ideas that will get implemented. We are looking for: * coders (C++, VB, DirectPlay, DirectInput, etc) * item developers (make stuff like awesome kickass shiny swords and assassin's daggers with negative light radius that causes a shadow around you) * monster developers (make bunnies, dragons, ghosts) * mappers (the world is very large so we need multiple creative) * writers (we have a few writers already for the storyline but we'll need questwriters as well as it relates to the storyline) * artists (concept art, graphic artists for items, monsters, etc - most tiles are 32x32) * admins/GMs/mods (for ingame as well as the forums as the game community grows) * project heads (you'll be in charge of multiple people, developers will interact primarily via IRC) If you are interested in any of these positions please PM me on here with relevant background information and why you think you'd be good for the job. This will be a volunteer driven effort so if you've got the time and motivation to make something like this happen don't hesitate to inquire! I probably missed stuff in this
post so please ask questions in the comments. Thanks! EDIT 1: The most important thing we're looking for is players! If this looks like something you'd give a chance let us know in the comments! The game is largely centered around team play and guild wars, raiding dungeons, guild houses, etc so the more players there are the more fun everyone has! EDIT 2: Thanks for all the interest, I've got a flood of PMs! If you're interested please join us on IRC. Gamesurge server, channel #akarra Thanks!
GamingforCash
gaming
t5_2qh03
t3_exi40
For instance: I'm 22 years old, a student, and employed. I'm fortunate to be all three, but work is meh and school is school. People always say(and perhaps too much) that you should do what you love. Find a passion and pursue it. Gaming is my passion. I love everything about it. The industry, people, communities, developers, and not to mention the games themselves. The list is endless and would result in a wall of text. Long story short(
to me, gaming has come from what your parents used to yell at you for playing too much, to a major cultural force, and I want in. Suggestions?
hindsightnonexistent
tifu
t5_2to41
t3_3dydqj
My boyfriend and I are planning to visit Europe next year, mainly to attend a soccer tournament. To get tickets, you are supposed to submit an application and will only be granted the purchase if you are chosen during the random draw. They do not tell you when exactly the draw will be, just a "by this date the draw will be completed" So it could be anytime before that date. They sent an e-mail advising applicants to assure there are enough funds because if the charge is declined, they will not try again and will move on to the next applicant. I decided I should be the one to purchase them because he is purchasing airline tickets which are what? triple the amount of the tournament tickets? So, we submitted our application for two different matches. I never took notice of what the total for each match was. The only number engraved in my brain was the total for both matches (it was $399) We have been waiting for about a month and a half with our fingers crossed. This morning, my sleep was interrupted by an automated text message from my bank saying "Did you spend $201.80 at a sports club on 7-20-2015..." and since I was half asleep AND hate most sport related things (soccer included except for liverpool and messi), I thought "hell no i did not" and replied "NO". I didn't think at all it would be a charge for the tournament because it was supposed to be $399. I did not think they would only approve one match. I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE $399. So yea, out of thousands of people who applied we were chosen but the charge was denied because half asleep me can't tolerate the thought of sports. Fully awake me is angry/sad. I might have cried a little bit. I wonder, did me replying "no" decline the charge? or was it already declined and my bank was just verifying if it was fraud? Anyway, we hope to go to Europe even if we don't attend a game. There is a possibility we may still be chosen for the second match (I don't know. Just hoping.) But I still feel shitty. He is a wonderful boyfriend and I understand soccer fans are extremely passionate and I wanted to share that experience with him. So from now on I will watch all soccer matches with him even if it's MEXICO vs COSTA RICA and the match runs to 120 minutes and ends in a bullshit penalty score. EDIT:
half asleep me denied an international charge to my debit card which turned out to be a charge for tickets to a soccer tournament i was desperately waiting for
TheDeaFlog
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3dykid
So a bit of backstory. In high school I was friends with a girl named Sarah (fake name for reasons) as we were both in drama club/the musical etc... We used to hang out quite often. I'd go to her house 2-3 times a week and we'd do homework, hang out whatever. She had a boyfriend through most of school and I was very respectful of that so I was never attracted to her. Her little sister (Katie) would be there obviously and hang out with us as well and I developed a sort of fondness for her, kind of a little crush I guess. Now during this time, I actually started dating Sarah's best friend so that was that with my little crush, it went away and I went to college. So fast forward to present day. I'm browsing around on tinder, killing some time and she (Kate) pops up (I swiped right duh) and it brought up those memories from years ago. Her and I always got along well and we had a lot of fun together when we were younger though I know time changes people in many ways and she could be a totally different person now. Anyway on to the important part I guess. Do I hope that she pops up in my tinder matches or directly contact her through facebook etc..(I think she gave me her number a few years ago as we had randomly bumped into each other at a bar) So
is this. A girl I knew from high school popped up on my tinder. I was always kind of interested in her so do I just wait for her to potentially match with me there or do I contact her through more direct means to maybe put out a feeler and see if we still get along and share interests like we used to? And if so, what's the procedure? This kind of stuff has always been nerve wracking for me, to the point of inducing panic attacks (fear and anxiety over rejection) so do I risk it or just sit back and hope she swipes right on me?
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3dyuqm
Not really sure how I'm supposed to transition into my situation so I guess I'll just get right to it. I've vaguely known my now current boyfriend since our freshmen year of college. Very little words were exchanged between us and we didn't hang in the same crowd until sophomore year. In rolls sophomore year and we start to hang with the same crowd. I started to think he was cute and thought I would go for it if he wanted to. One drunken night we hooked up and I thought that maybe I liked him although I'd known I didn't want to be in a serious relationship. We continued hooking up to the point where it was known we were hooking up and people began to assume we were a couple. I freaked out and he and I had a long chat about how we liked each other but by no means was I okay with being exclusive boyfriend and girlfriend and if he only wanted to be exclusive, that that was fine, but I couldn't and that we needed to stop hooking up to save ourselves from future heartache. Although he maintained he wanted to be exclusive, he hesitantly agreed to be open with me because he didn't want to lose me altogether. We continued being open but pretty much only hooked up with each other. It also became more serious when I began to sleepover and I love you's were exchanged. He asked me again to be exclusive to which I refused. I again offered him the out of us to stop hooking up and to just be friends with no hard feelings but he still did not want to lose me romantically and agreed again that we could see other people. Six months after our first hook up, I blacked out and hooked up with another person (the only other person besides him). He found out and freaked out. Crying, throwing up (which he lied about I later came to find out), holing up in bed. We had a huge screaming match that he agreed to this to which he said he "couldn't believe I would actually act on it" and "why would I say I loved him then?!" (I think I did, that wasn't a lie, I'm trying to sort out if I'm poly). We eventually stopped talking and I was a mess. I felt disgusting and like a cheating slut and couldn't stop crying. Not because of the break up, but because I felt so ashamed of myself. I apologized endlessly but he would not have it. Eventually I gave up. A few weeks later he texted me but now my replies were angry. He knew of our deal. I was very explicit. And it was not my fault he was unable to handle the reality of it. I refused to say I was a cheater anymore and refused to feel like a slut. Now all of a sudden he wants me back. We got back together (mainly because I still battle with the guilt) and because he loves me. Now I feel out of love with him and like our relationship is completely different while he is still very much in love with me after he forgave me. We're on and off again constantly and I just don't know what to do. I feel trapped because I don't want to hurt him again but I never wanted this to begin with. Now we're exclusively BF and gf, because I felt like I had to be. I don't know what to do. This whole thing turned into a mess. **
hook up agrees to be open with me, I hook up with someone else, he freaks out.
AcadieduTracadie
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_3e0f33
So there's this girl see, who I had a crush on back in middle school, but I was too much of a fraidy Felix to tell her, so I did the "friend" thing for a while, never expecting anything to come of it. She was cute, I looked like Harry Potter if he got depressed and let himself go. Why bother? By 16, I realized I needed to move on (especially because she didn't seem terribly attracted to me), but I really enjoyed our friendship. Telling no one of these feelings, I decided to suffocate my boner, to put him out of his misery (Think of the Chief smothering Jack Nicholson with the pillow in "Cuckoo's Nest"). We both had a series of long-term relationships with other people over the next decade or so (her and I, not me and my boner), but remained close. I wasn't scheming to win her over by being a "nice guy", I was just being a friend. Nothing has REALLY happened to change that, but she has been lonely on the road with her job and sends me a lot of messages like: I miss you, please don't die before I do etc. That's not surprising. But yesterday she sent me a very emotionally effusive message essentially saying "Whenever I'm alone, I try to imagine who I'd like to be with me for the moment, and I almost always pick you." She also said: "I just assume we'll always have each other". And then she brought up a specific moment that she wanted me for right now. I'm sort of the opposite of Forrest Gump: "I'm a smart man, but I DON'T know what love is" (Also I suck at ping pong). Feelings aren't my thing. But her message was so arrestingly personal/intimate/sincere, that my romance boner has risen from the dead like a zombie, and keeps moaning "breaaasts". Now, despite that message, I'm still fairly sure that I'm a eunuch in her eyes, but DAMN! It's really hard to have a girl you used to crush on say that to you, and keep those old feelings buried. That's what I meant in the title by "blue balls of the heart". What should I do reddit? Now, a lot of you will probably say: TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL EVEN THOUGH SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU AND IT'S WAY TOO LATE! But here's an extra wrinkle--she convinced me to move in with her in the fall, and the lease is signed. And she'll be like the only person I know in this new city. So if things go bad, I'm stuck with the awkwardness for a year. To say nothing of damaging a good friendship. Anyway! I realize this is
but when it comes to matters of the heart, ruthless editing is difficult.
903124
nfl
t5_2qmg3
t3_3e1vfa
After NFL combine every year there will be some fans arguing how players can perform in 100m sprint race. Also, fans will also argue what is the real 40-yard dash record ran by Bo Jackson when there is electronic timers. Therefore, I do some researches on how the time split of 100 meter sprint athletes can be related to a short distance run. I am using the result of 100 meter Man 2009 Berlin Championship Sprint where Usain Bolt broke his world record 9.58s here (data can be retrieved [here]( Normally a 100m sprint athlete reach his top speed at around 50m, consider the acceleration of athlete is changing it is hard to compute a very accurate result. Fortunately the 20m time split of athlete is highly linear ([Graph of some athlete's 20m split and their R^2 value are often 0.999 or higher]( It is due to elite athlete reach their 90% speed near 20m and the acceleration and deceleration is small compare with their speed (Speed of medal winner can be found [here]( As the graph plotted above the slower athlete tends to have a more gentle slope and smaller y-intercept in their 20m split graph. Therefore, by comparing the slope and intercept we can find how their time for short distance change with their 100m time. By using all available time in 2009 Berlin Championship relationship of their slope and intercept is plotted as below. [Slope]( [Y-intecept]( However, the error will accumulate when the athlete is slower. [Error in 100m time]( To tackle the problem I use estimated 100m time to normalize the estimated time to actual 100m time in order to make it more accurate. [This is the excel file which consist all the data and graphs.]( It has a calculation tools to calculate 40-yard dash time out of 100m time. Be careful that the data will be extremely inaccurate after 13s 100m [so it cannot use for calculate a 19+ 100 meter time like me and sadly slower than at least half of the girls in my high school :( ] A quick convert or
of the calculation 100m time Estimated 40-yard dash 9.79 4.2 10.27 4.3 10.64 4.4 10.95 4.5 11.21 4.6 11.45 4.7 11.73 4.8 Finally it is some comparison of NFL player time and estimated time (Note that NFL combine and 100m sprint is running on two types of floor and 100m sprint time is their best time, so small variation is expected). As players compete much more times for their personal best, feel free to add ~0.05s for more probable calculation. NFL player 100m time 40-yards dash Estimated time Difference Chris Johnson 10.38 4.24 4.327511 -0.08751 DeMarcus Van Dyke 10.61 4.25 4.390455 -0.14045 Dri Archer 10.49 4.26 4.35658 -0.09658 Jerome Mathis 10.49 4.26 4.35658 -0.09658 Jacoby Ford 10.32 4.26 4.312426 -0.05243 Jeff Demps 10.01 4.26 4.242679 0.017321 J. J. Nelson 10.49 4.28 4.35658 -0.07658 Brian Witherspoon 10.22 4.29 4.288456 0.001544 Darrius Heyward-Bey 10.3 4.3 4.307516 -0.00752 Josh Robinson 10.77 4.33 4.439304 -0.1093 Tye Hill 10.27 4.34 4.30026 0.03974 Michael Huff 10.13 4.34 4.268097 0.071903 Travis Benjamin 10.4 4.36 4.332659 0.027341 Devery Henderson 10.4 4.36 4.332659 0.027341 Roy Williams 10.3 4.36 4.307516 0.052484 Brandon Banks 10.42 4.37 4.337867 0.032133 C. J. Spiller 10.29 4.37 4.305083 0.064917 Reggie Bush 10.42 4.38 4.337867 0.042133 Jamaal Charles 10.23 4.38 4.290788 0.089212 Andre Johnson 10.59 4.4 4.384648 0.015352 Joe McKnight 10.59 4.4 4.384648 0.015352 Lamar Miller 10.56 4.4 4.37606 0.02394 T. J. Graham 10.21 4.41 4.286138 0.123862 Devin Hester 10.42 4.41 4.337867 0.072133 Cordarrelle Patterson 10.54 4.42 4.370415 0.049585 Denard Robinson 10.44 4.43 4.343137 0.086863 Average 10.39577 4.340769 4.333608 0.007162 Edit: If someone still reading the post I mistaken 40-yard be 36m instead of 36.576m. Now corrected and surprisingly the average of error become very small.
CanadaPhresh
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3e400a
Background details: My boyfriend and myself have known each other for around 10 years and have been a couple for a year. I have to say everything is usually fine; we get along great and are quite compatible I think. The arguments have been a bit more recurring recently though. He lives with his parents, I with friends. We make about the same financially (around $1500 a month) He is Christian and his family are very religious. He says he's very big on no-sex-before-marriage and marriage is very important to him. I myself grew up in a family of this nature but with more relaxed grounds on a number of things. He wants us to be in a chaste relationship (to which I agreed to despite not really wanting it myself, but it was important to him). Doing it: The problem starts when he makes advances on me usually after a few weeks of stating he wants to be abstinent. I of course initially protest but what I truly want is to be close to him in that way. So we end up breaking the arrangement much to my annoyance. It annoys me every time he cant keep his word especially when he makes it seem extremely important to himself and I'm doing everything I can to help him (seriously I'm scared to kiss him in case it provokes a reaction in him). He struggles with porn addiction and has tried to cut that out of his life numerous times. I understand what he's going through as I myself view porn (usually daily). I want nothing more than to have what is perceived as a normal-esque relationship (I guess). I think it would be a better situation for us to move in together (as he's needing to think about moving out of his parents soon anyway in his opinion) and for us to stop pretending. I'm sick of pretending to be perfect in other peoples eyes. I know we're good responsible people. I'm feeling low in mood whenever I realize that this isn't the sort of relationship setup that makes me feel happy. I've expressed to him that I feel lonely and that he's controlling everything (from what we do to how we feel) It needs to be more give and take. We've been really close for years despite our relationship only having been a year so it just feels natural I guess that I want to move on in life instead of watching life go past. Finances: He's terrible with money. Like I said we make the same amount per month and I have more expenses in terms of rent, gas, food, electric etc. It's not a competition, but we want to do things with our lives and save for bigger things (he agrees with this and wants the same). Where do his finances go? Mainly eating out all the time. I've paid for both our meals so many times over the last few months as he's always got no money. It's a massive issue as we'd love to go a holiday and visit friends in other places but we can't. We spoke about saving at the beginning of this year and agreed it was do-able and to put by around $50 a month if not more but its not happened on his end. I want to give him a massive wake-up call but he uses the excuse he's not in the right place to hear negative words from me as he gets it from himself and his family. Sorry for the ramble reddit, I'm just really exhausted and really hoping for a solution as we go round in circles all the time. "
need advice on how to approach bf about low mood and constant cycle of not sticking to 'what matters to him' ]."
Jimmy_The_Midget
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_1x9jps
We have been going out for 6 months and i really loved her, and she said she really loved me... we were fighting a for a bit, so i suggested we break up for a week, and get back together to stop the fighting, she agreed even tho we weren't going out we still sent texts to each other saying cute things, (we may as well have been going out still) but then out of no where, she wont get back together with me, she is ignoring me and she still says she loves me but she is getting to "the party age" and doesn't want to worry about anyone..... i just don't know what to do anymore.... (
she says she loves me, but she wont get back together with me.
throwaway96583
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_1xdiz1
I have not physically cheated on my husband, but I am definitely cheating emotionally. I am 100% in love with my boss. I think about him all the time and imagine Being with him. I get butterflies when I see him. I don't really know what I'm asking, I just want advice. *
married but in love with my boss
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_1xg2q0
My boss started a new business venture back in August (when she hired me on full time), and everything is going really well. She hired me on to essentially manage the entire business- she handles all of the high-level things, and I do everything else . Literally everything. It's overall good, but my boss has become so reliant on me to do everything that sometimes I feel like I'm parenting a child. She calls me up for every little thing- when she could easily just check it or do it herself. She sometimes calls me up to write emails for her... which would be fine except she then precedes to dictate what the email should say... in essence, making me type what she says, word for word, wasting both of our time when she could have simply written the email herself. She will call me up to ask me if so-and-so has been added to her calendar, interrupting the work I've been doing so I can go check- when she can VERY EASILY search her calendar herself (on her computer, tablet, OR phone). She'll call me up to ask me when the last email communication with a client was... even though ALL OF OUR emails live within our project management/CRM system. I end up doing basic searches she could easily do herself. She's not lazy, because she does do a lot of work, but she just relies so heavily on me that sometimes my entire day is spent doing bullshit, when I actually have major tasks to complete, and I end up working late into the night to make up for time lost. Frequently, the time it takes her to explain to me the context and what she wants for a certain task takes LONGER than her just doing it herself... how can I get her to realize this? **
my boss fills my already busy schedule with bullshit she could easily do her self, but she doesn't seem to realize it. How do I gently tell her?
bored-core
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_1xi32p
she is being insane and i have no idea what to do she gets in fights with me for no reason and then calms down and is all happy smiley and then yells at me again and it isnt just yellng she comes and trys to grab me and things that i am doing people of reddit what do i do in this situaton (i dont like being angry but its really hard when there is someone constantly in your face)
insane mom has moodswings affects her kid
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_1xi4go
My girlfriend is currently busy with mid terms and told me she won't be able to spend valentines day or our anniversary with me (our anniversary is on the 17th). I told her okay her studies are more important. Today i found on facebook she's going to go out to talk with a friend for coffee. I confronted her about it by text the time she spend for coffee could of simply been spent for our anniversary, 20-30 mins for a meal together. She simply ignored my text, which i think she doesn't like the fact that i bitched about her being busy. It's not the first time, everytime she gets mad or i say something she doesn't like, she'll simply ignore me. I'm not sure if i should wait until after exams or just simply break up with her now. **
girlfriend of 2 years busy with mid terms, turns out on facebook she says to a friend she has time for a talk and coffee, which i find that time could of been spent on our anniversary.
Daroay
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_40lnch
My ex is gorgeous. Looks east european but is latina (just like me). She has a childish attitude and. I loved her because we shared same background and she loved my jokes. I messed up in the relationship badlly and she dumped me. After a few months we were fixing things to get back together. On xmas holydays i had to go back home. She stayed in california by her own for a month. We talked on the phone each day. She told me she liked me, wanted things to work, etc. Then one day she got mad at me because it took me long to reply her messages, so she blocked my phone number. I told her, ok if you want it over its over. She told me... Ok!!! but still we were talking and really it was not over. 3 days after that message she sleeps with a guy she met 2 days before. The guy is separated from his wife. Still she didnt care the guy is still married and had sex with him. She called me the next day telling me what happened with that guy and asking me to forgive her. I told her she is a whore and that everybody will know what kind of whore she is. She told me never to contact her again. Now she is dating this separated (not yet divorced guy). He looks handsome (i found him on fb) good job and all. He was married for a year and a half then separated. Tell me something so I feel better about all this mess. Friends tell me I dodged a bullet with this girl. Like, what kind of girl puts herself into this kind of situation? Forgot to mention... She had a crazy attitude when i met her. Then she went ro therapy and improved a lot. I screwed because i was imparient about her behavior and we fought a lot. But she was really getting better, so maybe the new guy wont face same issues. Anyhow I messed up too because i went second base with a girl during one of our small breaks. So maybe that is why she revanged sleeping with this guy (eventhough i begged and cried for forgiveness for doing that) ;
my ex is dating a separated man that she met when we were fixing things to get back together. Tell me something that helps me raise my ego. The feeling of being changed is ugly.
Giftrudeyesno
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_4kx23h
We've been together for 3+ years and my fourth birthday with him is coming up. He's terrible with dates and just started remembering my birthday this year. Every time my birthday came around these past three years my husband didn't get me anything, and on the day itself he went to buy me something at the mall or the gas station. I have never gotten jewelry from a guy and I'd like a necklace with a lock. Would it be rude or forced to just send him a link and say 'hey this is what I want?' **
husband gets me shitty gifts. Can I literally tell him what I want?
redrider123463
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_4vpx9m
So I've been with my girlfriend coming up on 6 months. And we've had our ups and downs, but overall we've been pretty happy with each other. Recently she's started saying that I'm not romantic enough anymore. She says that I don't open my truck door for her anymore, which I NEVER did. Not even on the first date. That I don't walk her out to her car when she leaves, which I've done like 4 times overall, And that I don't come to visit her ever. We live like 40 minutes away, which isn't bad at all for me, I don't mind driving. She recently moved back to her dads house and I still haven't met him, even though I've offered too. And she says I never come over. Even when I have offered to, she just denies the fact that I ever said it. I really do enjoy being with her but it feels like she's just assuming she gets the short end of the stick. I just never say anything. I happen to like cars a lot and she always acts like it bugs her a lot. She says I'll leave her and go find a girl who likes cars, but I've never wanted her to, it doesn't bother me that she doesn't like cars at all and I've told her but she doesn't believe me. I just don't know what to do. I've never been in this position before as this is my first relationship. Any advice at all? **
girlfriend says I gave up trying after I got her, which isn't true, doesn't care about my opinion on anything
Yueng83
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_24l7jh
I'm 30 years old and have decided I have lived a mundane life. A few years ago I my first serious relationship end. I enjoyed being alone (I mean no dates, no sex - nada). I finally realized I am tired of it and ready to go on - but not for a serious relationship. I have started hooking up with the old GF. I have already told her I am just looking for a good time and not a relationship so if she want's to end it OK. I have friends that are trying to introduce me to some women which just recently I have finally agreed to. I have made it clear I am not looking for anything serious - just a good time. Now, basically I feel like I am doing something wrong - like I should only be exclusive to one girl even though I do not want something serious. But I think these thoughts are ridiculous. So, the
of it all is, should I feel like I am being unfair to women if I go out/sleep with them but I am open up front that I am not looking for anything serious and just a fun time?
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_24nceu
Weird situation, so friend of mine needed a ride to the store cuz his car broke down, no problem. I had to get gas first, at the gas station there was a guy who had parked in such a way that my pump couldnt reach the fuel opening, so i had to get back in the car to wait for him to be done so i could move my car forward to fuel it. As i went back in the car, my friend asked why i was getting in, so i said "cuz this dickhead made it impossible for me to pump my gas." Yes this was rude and yes i was stupid enough to say it loud enough for the guy to hear, though not on purpose. It was just a mistake.. The guy must have heard me though cuZ he kept staring at me threateningly until he left. As we were waiting, I was saying to my friend oh damn he wont stop staring at me. Whatever, i pump gas we leave. After we left, i was thinking out loud, saying yeah i guess i shouldnt have said that so loud, but that guy WAS being rude. And in response he was saying basically that i was a bitch, i was smart but arrogant, and that he thinks i deserve to be slapped for what i said, or rather that he felt like slapping me for what i said. Hes a big guy too, much bigger than me. I got mad, telling him i dont appreciate being threatened in my own car when im doing my friend a favor. He said fine then take me home, in fact drop me off here ill walk. I said that was stupid, drove him home, then he slammed the door and left. My question is what to do? I know i was out of line to speak loudly enough for the guy to hear, but i feel like my friend was out of line too. We werent in any danger, the guy was just an old white man who was offended by what i said. We live in a nice area, its not like he would have had any weapon or anything. Should i apologize to my friend though? Hes my bfs old roommate from before my bf moved away (ldr) so im scared he will drag my name through the mud with all our friends, maybe i deserve it though. But he also has been making me mad lately, joking about raping me (yea) and idk just having irritating views about men, women and life. **
got in argument with a friend, am i a total bitch? Should i apologize or just move on? Sorry for title typos, im on my phone.
aqualily6
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_24njct
My other half has been offered a 2 yr contract in America, but I am tied to my job and don't really want to move to America (Aussie kinda person) and don't know what to do. We have been planning house deposits and living together for entire relationship. **
bf of two years might be going to America for two years whilst I don't have flexibility to move
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_24nkz3
So I met this girl online, got to talking, and met up soon after. We had some great dates, we both seemed to really like each other. Then one week she cancels on me (which is fine, shit happens, no biggy) and since then we've still been talking but when I ask her out I get a "I don't know yet, I'll get back to you!" or something of that nature. And of course, I never hear a suggestion for another day to see each other. Now, when we first went out she told me her schedule was very busy. I'm okay with that. I can work with that as long as the person is willing to make an effort to see me when they can. She definitely made time for me for the first month or so but I've been patiently waiting to see what happens just incase I really was wrong about why I've been getting the cold shoulder, but I'm pretty much over it now. I've had the fade, I've had the radio silence, but I've never dealt with continued communication while essentially being led on. It's really strange. Part of me thinks "Oh, she's just busy... don't worry so much." But then the other, smarter, part of me knows that if someone wants to spend time with you, they will make time for you. Also, I know her schedule opened up a lot as of last week. This is the first girl I've had good feelings about in a long time (up until recently), which is why it's bothering me so much. Which is also why I really want to ask "What the hell?" in the most... respectable way I guess you could say? I know asking this has a 99% chance of going south really fast but I really kind of want to hear the other side of the story, if she even offers it up. I haven't decided what I'll do yet. So basically, the
of this is: Have you ever asked someone what's up with the sudden change in behavior/avoidance/cold shoulder/etc.? Did it make you feel better or did it just do more harm than good? I mostly wanted to vent, but any input is good input. Thanks.
travishoardmusic
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_24r16g
As I'm moving stuff into a new living situation she texts me, "Are you happy?" and we then proceeded to breakup via text. Worst fucking decision ever, btw. I think an in-person breakup would have been better. So I'm kind of sad about it. I'm pretty sure a no-contact thing would be best once we exchange stuff, but I just wanted to ask if that is wise. I texted her tonight that I missed her and I wish we would have seen each other in person and talked about it... she read everything but didn't respond, so I'm sure she's done. I can imagine her smoking a cigarette and saying "Oh my G-d Travis is blowing up my phone" to her roommate. This is so stupid. I've been in relationships before and by comparison the way this one ended is heavenly. No swearing, no anger... but I am still bummed out. I knew it wasn't going to be last much longer. I think we hung out (banged) for 3 months and dated for 5... there were moments where I didn't feel that physically attracted to her but I was soooo into her face and personality and humor. I knew it wouldn't last and had been thinking about breaking up but I still wasn't ready. I'm not friends with any of my exes. Is the best way to reach serenity a no-contact type of thing? Trade our shit, say goodbye and don't look back? ---
is no-contact the best way to get over the sadness of the relationship loss?
obstacletwo
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_24r7lt
A while ago my roommate broke up with her boyfriend. I supported her through this because she had never really been on her own before (prev relationship had lasted 7+ years). Since this was her first time single since she was 15, she of course started going on a lot of dates. She started seeing a lot of guys, one of them being M. M had been a friend of hers for a few years, and they began to talk and ended up sleeping together. She began to talk about them dating, but M said that their sleeping together had been a mistake and that he could not give her a relationship. She said she cried when he told her this because of the rejection, but soon after she went on more dates and slept with other people. Eventually she got back together with her ex. Fast forward to now, and she has been back with her ex for a few months. They seem to be doing great. A few weeks ago, I met M for the first time when he came by to return some books to my roommate. She was rushing around fixing her makeup to see him. I went to let him in and he gave me the books and started to go on his way, but then hesitated and introduced himself. Out of boredom, I added him on Facebook. He and I began chatting here and there, nothing flirty. Then a few days later, we hung out. We immediately clicked and I got along really well with his friends. I slept over at his house because I'd drank a little (nothing happened). As the days went on I began talking to him more, but I noticed it bothered my roommate. I decided to be honest with her and talk it out. I told her that I'd been hanging out with M and that I thought I really liked him, but that I knew they'd had a thing in the past and did not want to hurt her feelings by sneaking around or shoving things in her face, so I wanted her honest input on things and her blessing to go ahead and give things a shot. She replied telling me that I should do whatever makes me happy, but that if I went for it, I needed to move out and that she could not be my friend. She told me that knowing I even talked to M was killing her. She said to move out "that is, if you still decide to date him." After telling her that I would not choose a guy over a friendship any day and that I would just content myself to be M's friend, she did not respond. A few hours later when I said that I hoped we were still cool, she told me that she thought I should move out because she felt upset with the situation. Is this fair? I think I was a considerate friend to come to her before I did anything, and not only that, but to decide not to see someone I like so much if it meant losing my friend. Is she manipulating me? And am I wrong for allowing her to tell me I cant see someone? She's someone in a serious relationship. It seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. [B]
b] Roommate (who is in a relationship) is mad at me for liking someone she once slept with and wants me to move out.
throwawaycheater4991
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3dkr6p
Hi all, good night. I know I'm gonna get shit for this but I just really need to get this out and maybe get some sympathy/advice. I know I'm an asshole/dickbag/monster/scum, whatever you think about calling me, I've called myself. I cheated on my wife , there is this girl in the building where I work, very cute, who always flirted, I never really took that on, ignored it, then on Monday, my coworkers and I went drinking and she was there, we ended up getting a bit too drunk and she and I had sex in a dive bar bathroom, classy I know, it was fast and intense and as soon as I was finished I felt like a piece of shit. By the time she and I went into the bathroom, it was only her, my buddy Chris and I, Chris couldn't care less, he has a bunch of stuff to deal with so he didn't bother. I took her back to her apartment which was nearby, she gave me a blowjob, I showered, left and came home around 10, My wife was already asleep as were my kids (6F) (7M). I cried myself to sleep on the couch that night, when I woke up I had a blanket on me and my wife had made me coffee and cracked a joke about drinking on a Monday, I felt like shit. We have a wonderful marriage and relationship, lots of physical intimacy, this woman is the perfect mother and wife, she is loving and tender and kind, she always knows when something is wrong and will kiss my cheek or my nose and tell me it'll be okay and we usually talk. She did that yesterday and I couldn't even speak to her about it. Tuesday night I fell asleep on the couch before she woke me up and asked me to come to bed. We had sex then fell asleep. Since Monday, it's as though my house feels discolored, gloomy, I feel like I've dirtied it. I confided in Chris and he said not to tell her, it was a dick thing to do but it was my decision, suck it up, live with it and spend the next how many decades being the best husband and father I could be. I just don't know, I feel so broken right now yet part of me wants to keep it a secret and just try and be the best husband/father I can be for the rest of my life. Do I tell her or keep it secret? *
hooked up with a coworker on Monday, felt like shit since, torn up as to whether I should tell my wife or just bury it and never do so again
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3dlhy3
My best friend and her boyfriend have been dating about two years. Last week they took a break in their relationship for about two weeks. In those two weeks, he had intercourse with another woman. My best friend, stayed faithful during this and worked on their relationship. He lied about the other woman until he was pressured into telling the truth. In the end, she ended up forgiving him after claiming she mentally and verbally abused him to the point where he felt like he was going to self harm about how guilty he was. However, last year, this same boyfriend kissed a mutual friend of me and my best friend. She states that she loves him more than he loves her. I feel like she is way better than this relationship and it just is something that comforts her, and that she's going to get hurt. What should I tell her? I feel like she won't listen anyways because this guy is her absolute first everything and she still blinded by love. Am I wrong to have any say? I'm just really worried about my best friend. Sorry for shitty formatting or whatever. **
friends boyfriend banged another girl while they took another break. Should I tell her to get out of this relationship?
Isles9121
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3dna6s
Went on a date with this girl, things went well. I text her a day after the date and she doesn't respond to me asking if she wants to go out again. A week goes by and I send a bout 3 more easy "how's It goin texts" already catching the hint. I texted her last night a little pissed off wanting to her at least answer me. She says she's sorry, she's been busy and didn't know "you'd be so upset that I didn't respond to a few of your texts" I've been busy too, and I can see her all over social media posting stuff, but I can't get a simple response? How should I respond to that? *
condensed as much as possible.
LPFlea
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_3dnl6i
What are T1 and T2 runes, really? In every online game, you have things that are considered a "waste" of currency. These are things are useful to help you be stronger, but they aren't as efficient. It would be better if you saved your currency for the better thing. The idea behind T1 and T2 runes The new player will earn some IP during their leveling up process. After a while they will either want to - a) Spend IP on a champion. or b) Spend IP on runes because they want to be stronger in game. By the time a new player is lvl 20 they will have spent at least some IP on the practically worthless T1 and T2 runes. Now they spend RP for champions, and earn IP for the final T3 runes. T1 and T2 runes can't go away because they promote other RP-purchases as well. Experience boosts and IP boosts. As a new player, you might get impatient if you notice that T3 runes are the only viable rune choice. You would want to hit lvl 20 asap to use them, not buy any T1 and T2 runes, and save up your IP for T3 runes. This promotes the purchase of experience boosts (and IP boosts to some extent). Now another type of new player, is one that doesn't notice or doesn't care that T3 runes are the only viable rune option. These players will probably get to level 20, see the new option of runes, and realize that they need to get some of them because it's an upgrade. There is no way that a player who has purchased T1 and T2 runes, would have enough IP to buy the T3 runes when they hit level 20. Realizing this, they would want to get T3 runes as quickly as possible, in order to get stronger. This promotes the purchase of IP boosts --
a). Removing T1 and T2 runes could have an effect on RP purchases like IP and EXP boosts. b). New players need them to feel stronger. c). New players need a place to waste some IP so they buy RP.
KunrinG
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_3dnll5
Hey guys, Reign274 here. I left last season at plat, and then I started playing again this season. Sadly, my computer kept crashing whenever I tried to play league so I lost a lot of games for people (to anyone who was in those games, I apologize). It tanked me down to silver 4 simply because 4v5s...yeah. Not excusable, I just really wanted to play league and kept hoping that it wouldn't crash. I took my computer into a shop and got it all fixed up. Now I can play league again! So I started playing in Silver ranked games. And as a low-plat player, I can tell you the #1 problem with silver players. The problem is they don't know how to respond to enemy harass. I've often found myself going into a game and tossing out a skillshot as a creep on my side is about to die, and they just walk right into it to get the creep. 1 cs isn't worth 150~ damage, and if I can land a boomerang blade and an auto but lose a creep, you bet I will do it every time. A quick
is learn how to dodge skillshots. People who are below diamond have a hard time landing them and I may not be good at landing skillshots, but when you walk into them, it feels like I'm winning the lane for free.
4A18B156
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_3dq76o
Hi all, There's some common 'wisdom' around certain champions like "don't feed X champion/X champion snowballs", "X gets pooped on in lane but will end up carrying", "it's bad/not that bad if the support takes a kill", "the problem with ADC is ...", etc. I was wondering if it's possible to quantify such statements, using statistics! So I pulled match data from over 500,000 platinum and above NA games (it took over 4 days just for this part, mostly due to Riot API throttling limit) and did some analysis. Of course we could get the usual data like pick %, win rate, etc. but other sites already do it and with a much larger sample size. Instead I want to drill down into very specific details. The first thing I looked at was for each champion, when there is a difference of X gold between them and their lane opponent at the 10 minute mark, what is their percent chance of winning? I calculated for each common champ/role what I call the "carry coefficient", which is how well they scale with a gold advantage^1. (For the mathematically inclined, this is each champ's coefficient of the probit model, controlling for the rest of the team's gold differential at 10 min -- if you're not math inclined, bigger numbers = scales better). For instance, someone like Vladimir has a very high carry coefficient, since a fed Vlad is hell to play against. On the other hand, Janna is a very strong support but has a low carry coefficient, because like most other supports she doesn't scale well with gold. The fifteen champions with the highest Carry coefficients are: Champion Role Carry Coefficient Yorick TOP 5.89 Swain MID/TOP 5.63 Ryze TOP 5.35 Ahri MID/TOP 5.27 Diana MID/TOP 5.09 Vladimir TOP 5.15 Veigar MID 5.09 Nidalee TOP 5.06 Kayle MID 5.06 Fiora TOP 5.02 Rengar TOP 5.00 Leblanc MID 4.98 Orianna MID 4.96 Xerath MID 4.95 Irelia TOP 4.94 You may have noticed this list is exclusively top and mid champs. That is because the solo laners by far scale the best with gold. Actually, if we do the same analysis but group by role instead of individual champions, we get: Role Carry Coefficient TOP 4.56 JUNGLE 3.97 MID 4.58 ADC 3.80 SUPPORT 2.37 By the way, the carry coefficient for the average champion is 4.06. It was expected that support has the lowest carry coefficient, but poor ADC and Jungle. The highest scaling junglers are: Champion Carry Coefficient Rengar 4.77 Diana 4.62 Master Yi 4.60 Nocturne 4.45 Nidalee 4.42 The highest scaling ADCs are: Champion Carry Coefficient Kog'Maw 4.35 Kalista 4.14 Vayne 4.14 Miss Fortune 4.09 Tristana 4.01 The 25 supports in the game have the lowest carry coefficients in the game (the highest ones are Taric and Annie though). The next champions with the lowest carry coefficients are: Champion Role Carry Coefficient Ekko JUNGLE 3.27 Elise JUNGLE 3.29 Quinn ADC 3.33 Varus ADC 3.34 Ashe ADC 3.45 Urgot ADC 3.50 Fiddlesticks JUNGLE 3.59 Lee Sin JUNGLE 3.59 The
is junglers, don't gank for your ADCs, those dicks won't be able to carry anyways. The next thing I wanted to look at was which champions are perfectly happy with going even in lane, and which champions need to win lane to be competitive (aka the lane bullies). For instance, a Vayne is perfectly happy just keeping up in farm because of her weak early game, but a Caitlyn needs to win lane since she will fall off later. This value I called the intercept value (simply because it is the intercept value of the probit model) -- a champ with a positive intercept value is happy to go even in lane against the average opponent. They have a greater than 50% winning percentage when they are even in lane after 10 minutes. A champion with a negative intercept value is the opposite -- if they are merely even after 10 minutes, they have a sub-50% winning percentage. The champions with the highest intercept values are: Champion Role Intercept Value Warwick JUNGLE 2.35 Nunu JUNGLE 1.85 Malzahar MID 1.65 Kayle JUNGLE 1.63 Kog'Maw MID 1.38 Talon MID 1.37 Malphite TOP 1.30 Sion JUNGLE 1.30 Janna SUPPORT 1.28 Galio MID 1.25 Swain MID 1.24 The champions with the lowest intercept values are: Champion Role Intercept Value Tahm Kench SUPPORT -2.79 Elise JUNGLE -1.99 Kassadin MID -1.90 Leblanc MID -1.70 Shyvana TOP -1.64 Lucian ADC -1.63 Lee Sin TOP -1.49 Volibear TOP -1.47 Dr. Mundo TOP -1.44 Zed MID -1.44 Renekton TOP -1.44 My guess is that top lane has so many super-scaling champions that if you're playing one of the non-super-scaling ones, you really have to supress your lane opponent to have a winning shot. By the way, to go back to the earlier example, Vayne has a intercept value of 0.88, while Caitlyn has a value of -0.73. I have a lot more data, but this post is getting pretty long and it's late here -- I'll post the rest of my analysis and the raw data next time. ^1 There's a bit of a causation assumption here -- more gold helps you win games, but players earn more gold because they're more skillful, and more skillful players would win more games even if they're not ahead on gold. I can't really think of a good way to control for that though, so we'll sweep it under the rug for now...
TheSwagonborn
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_2zjihs
hmm.. hai... I play on EUNE, I started playing about 6 months ago, I'm currently unranked as I only play normals... Last couple of days I was duoing with a friend I met on the game, she's lvl 24, mains support and even though I do aswel, I AD for her, because heck I play for fun. Through the last couple of days, I met tones of great people. Even when we lost I had some of the best games of my life just because people was so damn nice, when I carried I got tones of compliments and when I failed to carry everyone was still smiling. Last game, matchmaking decided to have a good laugh and matched us with 2 plat players and a diamond player against a team of plat-diamonds. I accepted the challenge, I knew I had to play safe in lane and just farm under tower. I did just that, and by the time laning phase was over I was about 30-40 farm down. I'm not the best under tower farmer and tbh if the enemy Ashe wasn't bad at free farming I was probably going to be almost 100 down. In chat everything was rather quiet, not too much joking around but not much flaming either, the only written thing was by my as I said "gj" to our toplane Diana for first blooding Malph. No one answered, but it's cool, didn't expect high elo players to be friendly to 2 unranked ones. The game went on and we slowly got really far behind. Every single lane got farmed by our Vi/TF/Diana and I only got leftovers, so it's kinda obvoius how far behind I was, but it's cool, let the pros carry me... They didn't. And when the final teamfights arrived, they started flaming me. I did my best honestly, I'm not wildturtle nor am I deft, but as a Jinx with 2 damage items against a team of almost full builds, I tried as hard as I could to dish out the dps, when I failed to get any kills, the flaming began. "this Jinx is terrible", "You might not understand what you're doing wrong because you're unranked" and some of the similar, and when I asked for advice, they said "just keep aaing". I told them that I was oom and the close ranged aas aren't safe against a nunu, a malph and a braum, all of which have slows that get outranged but my rockets, but not by my normal aas, but no one cared and the flaming continued. The game ended, we lost, and the post game chat was diana and vi making fun of me, and leaving as I tried to stand up for myself... I know no one gives a shit and no one will upvote such a long, pointless QQ post, but ffs, I only have one question : why are the higher elo players such flamers? can't you be nice to the "less gifted"? I know it's not all of the plats-diamonds who are like that, but please... have some mercy... some people get offended easily, and tbh I'm one of them =/ so yeah... that'd be my qq... feel free to "
or just skipping it... had to get it off my chest as I'm upset... Excuse my terrible English and have a nice day :^)
Croatia21021
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_2zncdk
Hi this is my first post on reddit, my boyfriend now husband (we married in Oklahoma) have been together for 5 years. The past 2 have been spent long distance. Back story: from the beginning he would tell fibs", but as it progressed it became apparent that more lies and half truths came out. Each time he impassioned that he loved me and wrote me and said some of the most romantic I'm sorry. Lord Byron wouldn't have done better. I came to find out that this was his first gay relationship and prior had been with many women. I recently found out he had sex with his best friend 7 years ago and they had a child but she was engaged and claimed the child was the others: he seemed devastated just telling me the story. I started questioning more and more on his sexuality, I know people can be bisexual but it seemed he had a much larger affinity for one gender then the other. I married him January 27 of this year, he lives near his family in an extremely evangelical household. I am finishing my phd 400 miles away. It is at least 18-20 months before I see him again. Today he broke down when he asked to log into my iCloud account to view movies. It merged with my contacts and apparently text messages and history was put on my phone and mine on his: I've never been unfaithful to him. I see that he has been having graphic communications with women while we have been married, incessantly looking at pornography, and most egregious jerking off to co workers at the engineering firm. I don't know what to do, it's hard to give up I feel like I've spent my life with him and I gave up so much like a career because he promised to pay for it while I finish school. We are extremely or so I thought codependent. I approached him about this and he seemed to give lies even when I truthfully begged him for honesty. He said he doesn't want this because he wants to work on himself because he needs autonomy and independence. I am confused because we just not only had the legal right to get married but why did we if he has felt this way? It's not going to be easy if the answer is let go and move on. I know I have low self esteem but I also hear other men say I'm very attractive and whatever that makes me uncomfortable. I just wish I could accept he is either going to be dishonest, or worse he just married me for sex and perhaps has had sexual intercourse and prefers women. The child aspect we haven't even fully discussed because he likes to talk only about "good things" on the phone. Sorry for such a long and seemingly contradictory mindset. I just would appreciate any advice. Thanks Sorry in advance its my first post,
what do I do?
wowalt
wow
t5_2qio8
t3_k9ehq
posting as a random alt account because most of my friends are redditors, and we know each other.) I've been playing wow off and on for a few years now (going all the way back Kara), but have taken a few major breaks. This entire time I have been with the same group of raiders, and the same group of friends. The past few months, however, I have noticed that these people moved away from wow, some hate it now, some at odd hours, others just disappearing..... slowly, until you notice that everyone that matters in your guild has been offline for a month or so. Even better still, I recently got a new job, that limits my (serious) playtime to my free weekends.(There goes any chance at serious progression...) And,the worse part about it all being....I just renewed a 2 month subscription card.../facepalm Trade chat on my server is dead. I see no guild spam, no PUG raids to join....hell, very little useful stuff on the AH too. I'v tried doing re-rolls, and I spent a little time in <reddit> yet I usually just get left in the dust with regards to leveling, and wheres the fun in playing wow solo? This post might be a bit confusing, hell, I don't even know if this kinda thing is allowed in this subreddit, but just posting it because I think other people might be in the same situation I am in. Point is, I'm a bit torn on what to do. I still find this game fun as hell....just not as a single-player RPG with the devils that inhabit LFG. Am I just full of nostalgia for the raid game of SSC and Ulduar? Do I quit the game entirely and (gasp) try to find something totally new to do? I'm not asking for a guild invite, nore for the name of a server to roll on (though both would be nice :) ) Just wondering if anyone in r/wow was ever in the same situation, and what they did about it? (
my WoW world exploded, and I feel like I have no goal in the game I'm in now, help?) (PS: Please Don't spelling-nazi me, its not the best)
ramz1
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_kd5g1
M/F, early 20's, together for a year. Hey guys! Love the community. Here's the deal. I've praised myself for being a person who will be attentive to her boyfriend's needs, sometimes even predicting them: affectionate texts, preparing food for him to bring to work, basing our dates on something I know he'll like, etc. Although I knew I was definitely working harder on the relationship than he was, I convinced myself that when in love, you shouldn't build your behavior towards the other person on expectations of a return. So I didn't, and was fairly content for a bit. However, I would express once in a while that I would appreciate him making more of an effort to try to see me (we see each other about 1-2 times a week, and I am often the initiator). I never yelled at him, and always did my best to express my needs in a non-accusatory manner. As months went by, I became more and more involved in the relationship and got into a "caring" dynamic where I was absolutely obnubilated by his well-being and happiness. I can't say it was reciprocal. Starting about 1 or 2 months ago, I was just so distressed by his seemingly detached attitude that I would regularly get panic attacks and nervous breakdowns. I would become obsessed with the fact that he didn't seem to care, really, while I was trying so hard. We are absolutely awful at communicating and I know that's a huge problem in our relationship, but when having those meltdowns I would reach out to him to try to explain that I was feeling unimportant and unhappy, and that I didn't feel myself anymore. He didn't understand, saying he was "happy," that he "thought everything was fine," and "maybe nothing was like [he] thought it was." This kind of response only made me more nervous and unwilling to share my fears. I broke down crying a couple of times in front of him because I was an emotional wreck at that point, and I'm not sure he ever really took me seriously. I would try to distance myself from him for a few excruciating days, constantly re-thinking our relationship, and he would eventually say the one thing I needed to hear. Then the cycle would start up again. I thought I was seeing progress this week, but after a somewhat awful "date" I had to stop and think about us again. I realized that I was becoming more and more invisible when around him, not even bothering to voice my needs, concerns or opinions anymore. My self-confidence and self-respect were non-existent. I was very ashamed of what I had become (though only when around him, I'm "normal" the rest of the time). Because of my attitude, I believe he himself got used to being the center of attention and it being all about him (that was especially obvious during sex). By talking with a friend, I realized that I have become something I loathe : a doormat. I was so obsessed with pleasing him and making him happy that I lost all respect for myself. I have decided to take things in my own hand and am planning on cutting communication for a couple of days. I believe I wasn't able to resist before because I was unaware of the person I had become. Now that I see things clearly, I know I'll be strong and hold my grounds. I'm feeling confident and won't let this happen anymore. I do love the guy but if I see that he is unwilling to fix this situation and meet me halfway, I'll cut my losses. I guess the point of this post/
is: Boyfriend has become complacent and is taking me for granted after I've become a complete doormat and people pleaser around him. How do I change my attitude and make him understand I want him to meet me halfway? I'd appreciate constructive advice instead of the usual DTMFBA. Thanks! Edit : Wow, I've posted this less than an hour ago and have already received a ton of amazingly inspiring and supportive responses. I never stop being amazed at you people. Thank you. Edit2 : Wow. Again, thank you so much for all of your responses. I just wanted to clarify for some that although I am fed up with the situation, I am aware that my batshit insane-ness and the way I changed the relationship is what brought us there in the first place. He is a great guy and eventually I believe the reason I posted this was mostly to get perspective on my attitude and how to bring back some balance to our couple (although it will require his help as well).
shinmoo
gaming
t5_2qh03
t3_ke7zw
Went through a long period of poverty and higher priorities, but I'm finally back in it. Here were my favorite games from back when I was "hardcore": Lucasarts adventure games (every last one of them; I've played the Telltale revivals of Sam & Max and Monkey Island on a friend's PS3) The Longest Journey (looking into the sequel) Deus Ex (I know Human Revolution is out, already on top of it) System Shock 2 Max Payne The Longest Journey (looking into the sequel) Giants: Citizen Kabuto Black & White American McGee's Alice (heard the sequel was kinda crap, though) Diablo I/II Baldur's Gate I/II Planescape: Torment Icewind Dale I/II There's an awful lot I'm just not remembering, and some (like Half Life) I'm not mentioning just because they're obvious/not especially representative of my taste. So far all I've gotten is the TLJ sequel and League of Legends to play with some friends. The
here is, I love: adventure games top-down RPGs narrative-driven shooters; the more it blurs the line between FPS and RPG the better I approach gaming as a medium for interactive storytelling, so a strong narrative is top priority. I love a game with a sense of humor . Personality and style can make up for an awful lot of problems in my book, as with Alice. What should I have been playing for the last five years or so? EDIT I should mention I was given an Xbox 360 about six months ago and have more or less caught up on all of its major releases. So if there's a 360 port, I've probably played it.
Trobot087
Fitness
t5_2qhx4
t3_kgg2q
Hey fittit, I've been working out at home in my apartment since my financial situation isn't the most stable at the moment and I want to save on the gym membership. Just simple, classic stuff--pushups, assorted crunches and situps, squats with a backpack full of old textbooks, etc. and it's been great. Only thing is, I got one of those over-the-door pull-up bars, and I've found that apparently the doorframes in my apartment are, shall we say, of inferior quality:
the pull-up bar is threatening to destroy my doorframe and I don't want to have to pay for a new one. Unfortunately, that leaves me without any sort of workout that will seriously target my back. Is there anything you guys can recommend?
[deleted]
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_kljgz
I am a very skinny guy (BMI maybe 18 tops), pretty aggressive/dominate personality so I like to not be the smaller weaker person thus I like skinny women. I also like big boobs as many men do. This all lead to a major fetish for big fake boobs. There are several issues with this. One is the common assertion by everyone in public that men don't really like fake boobs, clearly money tells a different story in the pornography industry there is hardly a girl who doesn't have them, and men select what is produced with money. So there is this social pressure from other men and women that is is wrong to like fake boobs. Second, there is a medical issue. It is dangerous to the women's heath. For me this is a real ethical issue. I would therefore never push very hard to have her get fake boobs, I would never forgive myself if I felt I was responsible for a medical problem/suffering of someone I cared about (or even someone I didn't care about). However, I still like fake boobs, just knowing they are fake is a turn on. The trouble on the whole with sexual matters is that I find them impossible to bring up early on in a relationship without alienating the person. So I guess the question is two fold: how to bring up sexual compatibility very early in a relationship without being offensive, and specifically how to find women who like things like fake boobs without them either having horrible self esteem issues or being involved in sex industry, or risky sexual behaviors. Edit: I forgot how intolerant reddit is how easily you skip to the end
and all... Sorry I bothered, anyone who thinks I have a fucked up view of women is totally missing my complete respect for the women's health and the ethical issue I point out my fetish posses. In sum you haven't bothered to even try to understand...
Cantthrowawaygay
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_4gs07w
My parents are "mildly" homophobic. They think being gay is a choice, gay couples shouldn't have kids, and gay marriage should be abolished. But they don't believe in killing all gay people or support hate crimes. I met Will ten years ago, and we were childhood best friends. We live in a pretty homophobic Christian town. One day, he confessed that he was gay to me after we watched a show with Neil Patrick Harris. Will brought up that he was gay and I said how I had no problem with it. I of course accepted will and he told me he had a crush on me about a month later, and asked me out. I've walkways has a crush on him (he's so amazing I can't) so I said yes and pretty much came out to him at the same time. Wills parents know that he's gay and just don't care. They don't outwardly support it or condemn it, but they still treat him the same. His mom has walked in on us in... Compromising situations before so they know about us and once again don't really care. They've never been anything but sweet to me though. I never told my parents because I knew they wouldn't like it. I thought if will and I were still together when I was an adult and not living in their home I would tell them. They found out because Will was texting me when I wasn't there, so the previews shower on my lock screen. They were very lovely and sappy. My dad confronted me and forced me to unlock my phone. The texts were damning. He just shook his head at me and left to go talk to my mom. I'm an only child. This happend on Sunday and nether of them have spoken to me since. I'll speak to them but they just won't reply. They aren't neglecting me though. I'm not being kicked out and nothing has been taken away from me. I'm mostly just confused, and hurt. I miss my parents and want to talk to them again. **
slightly homophobic parents found about about my homosexual relationship. They've been ignoring me since Sunday and I feel very lonely and hurt. Do I need to break up with my boyfriend? How do I get them to talk to me again? Will they ever talk to me again? Does anyone know why they're treating me like this? Any help would be much appreciated as I feel very desperate
Dracoknight256
wow
t5_2qio8
t3_4n1f6b
So recently i decided to make my own account and play( played up to cata on account shared with cousin, but he stopped playing) Because of that I had to level fresh from 1 to 100 with no xp boosts. Levelling was pretty dull but not as bad as people make it out to be. Lvl 100 content on the other hand... To start things out let me say: I currently have all achievements required for dreanor flying apart from few missions and tanaan rep. Upon hitting 100 I was expecting to see something new to do and go to tanaan. Well, guess what? There was table daily and garrison my very own castle quest. No content to do whatsoever. When I hit 100 I had ~800 resources. I collected all possible resouces that I had left(not that much because I was collecting them so I could run garrison missions) and am at 1800 now. It took me 3 days doing it halfassed because I knew I wouldn't hit 2k anyway. Now I have to wait 2 more days, 1 if I get resouces mission. To summarise: during first 5 days after hitting 100 all I can do is 1 daily and I’m finished. Dungeons and gearing experience; when i first hit 100 I did a normal dng, got ilvl 580 item drop. I thought ok, cool, let me go kill nagrand rares for better gear. I did timewalking got all 675 items possible. Swimmed to tanaan to get some more items from rares, then went straight to hfc raiding. So to summarise (
starts here) garrison gating new 100s from content if you use it before 100. 5 days doing 1 daily and logging off. my proposed solution: lower lv3 town hall cost to 1k dungeons: skipping wod completely to go straight to hfc after ~6 hours of gameplay. Propsed solution: lower ilvl requirement for heroics(620-630 from 640), atm you skip them in favor of hfc because of 10 ilvl difference 2 Edits for clarity: I lack resources because I used garrison before hitting 100, if you don't spend any resources, yes you can easily do this, but as a new player how are you supposed to know that? and yes, I have dreanorTreasures and got all resource caches. Workaround for me was swimming to tanaan and collecting remaining resources there.
tkabiri
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_52e3hy
My girl was with me for 7-8 years and I thought she would be the one I would stay with and have a family with. I was inlove with her very much, thought she was beautiful and smart (she is) and she made me feel better and full of motivation. Our relationships had really high ups and really low downs since the beginning but we had a very very strong connection all through that time. our first real break up was 3 years ago, and followed by a year of comeback and half a year of seperation, then again a comeback of around half a year and now a seperation again for around 8 months now. Our break ups usually were initiated by her, and so are the come backs. It was usually associated with shame: along the years she had accused me of cheating, acting violently and all on all not taking care of her (She once reported me to the police for hitting her and then cancelled the accusation; and this is not the only crazy thing she did). our fights, which were long and really hard never stopped, but after them was a period of alot of "love". She has a very unique charcter, she is very liked by everyone who meets her and makes friends easily. I have alot alot of good memories from her, but it evens out with crazy period of times of me sleeping on the couch, of she making a real mess out of nothing and hurting me with stuff i do or stuff i love. she had issues with my family, my friends, she was not easy with anything. I loved her very much, and i still do to some extent. After years and years of this, the last come back I decided this is now or it's not going to be never. her reactions to me quickly became erratic and again "crazy", I suspected that she has some psychological condition like BPD or the sort, but I couldn't really say (of course saying this to her, which I did when I was angry at her behavior, was not a smart move) I've left the house the last time while she was shouting and never came back. recently, when her new (40M) boyfriend was abroad she called me and i relented to meet, and we had a this fantastic 2 nights out on the town, having sex, going to the beach at night and all this. she asked me if i wanted children with her (she had in the past aborted 3 pregencies - usually connected to our breakups). She told me that she doesn't love her new boyfriend and that she loves me. after her bf cameback, we didn't speak - for a week now. said we gonna speak and go somewhere in a month. I consider telling her that I don't want to establish a connection again. Our meeting up did not do good to me. I felt as passive and not able to control my faith as it was when i was with her. Felt that her behavior is now very romantic but that because I know for certain how she's gonna be like in just a short time if we'll be again together it got me scared, afraid about my future, and even physicallly to not feel good. I didn't find yet a new love, but i try and I enjoy the struggle. I don't have any bad issues with women that i know of, and i take my time to heal with the break up cause i figure it's going to take time anyway so at least i should have fun. I do have worries that I'll never meet someone that I'll love like her, but I try to put them in the back of my mind. So question is: I love her, she's done alot of harm to me, I suspect she even enjoy this up&down, maybe she's better now but i really can't know. should I go back to her? {
on and off relationship, now off, now 31, she is possibly BPD or the sort, think if something have changed and should go back or for the first time let go for good}
glassale
gaming
t5_2qh03
t3_l1xnj
I mainly game on the PC and 360.. any sort of RTS, FPS, RPG games are great. I cant stand sports/racing games. didnt like mafia II, la noire, and finalfantasy died after FF:X for me -
i saw the resistance 3 trailer and figured it was time to look into purchasing a Ps3. Top game recommendations?
Tallon
wow
t5_2qio8
t3_ct9zp
I have a level 60 ret paladin I haven't played since launch. I'd like to level it as an alt, but it's obviously nothing like it used to be. Could someone with some experience give me the
on the rotation and a levelling spec?
nottherealme27
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_cyum2
Hiya reddit! I know this place is usually for already existing relationships and their issues, but I was hoping to get a different flavor of advice from you guys. Mainly cause on my real account (this is a throwaway) I've posted here before, and think you are a good bunch to ask this question to as opposed to some of the other subreddits. Just got out of a long relationship, which you guys helped with (thanks), have started a new job, and am generally getting on in life. Last Tuesday, on a late night alone in the office, the lights go off as they're programmed to at 11 PM. I walk towards the light switches, which are around a couple of corners. Suddenly I see a black shape move in the darkness ahead. I freeze for a moment, petrified, but this ain't no horror story - it's a young lady in a black shawl switching the lights on. She kinda starts when she sees me as well, but I smile and introduce myself and we make a couple of minutes of polite chit-chat. She works for another team, deadlines, yadda yadda. Then we depart for our desks. The next morning, she emails the whole office some reports on the work she is doing, and I reply with a general hey-how-are-you-I'm-the-guy-from-last-night kinda email. She replies, and for the last four days we've been emailing each other most of the day. Nothing flirty, just get-to-know-more-about-you kinda emails. Two days ago we were leaving the office at the same time, and as we step out of the lobby we realised it was raining. She remembered seeing an unused umbrella in the office, so we went back up and got it and she offered to share it on the walk to the tube stop. I held the umbrella and we chatted all the way for about ten minutes. This is about the point when I realise she is quite cute. So my question is, what now? This girl is cute, I'd like to get to know more about her without landing in the friend-zone. What is the next appropriate step? I've already asked her if she wanted to grab a cup of coffee, but she said she'd just been to get one. So what are some slick moves to get to know her better, and what are the pitfalls I must actively avoid? Sorry for the wall of text - not gonna
cause I'd prefer it if people read whats written and stop shortening every damn thing.
radioslave
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_d1rpd
This might get a little long winded, but bear with me if you can. I met this girl back in Grade 9, around the time that women were actually starting to appease my interests. We were friends for about a year before we started dating, this being both of our first true loves, we dated for a year and a half from grade 11.5 to just after grade 12. She was a year younger than me, and being in a serious relationship was new to both of us, we were each others 'firsts' sexually in every way, which definitely contributed to deep seeded emotional attachment. She was the centre of the group of high school friends we all hung around, and when we went clubbing[underage], she was the only girl for the most part. All my friends and her were best friends until the very end. In the september after her graduation I was scheduled to head off to New York for school and that would inevitably mean we couldn't be together anymore. I decided it was probably best to break up a month before I left so we'd have time to get over each other, not really sure what my thinking was there, but it happened. After I looked back on the relationship I realized I was a completely passive aggressive, selfish tool that really didnt deserve her in any way, shape or form. But I digress. I was oddly fine for the first month, I felt nothing sad nor happy about the break up, and that surprised me a bit, but after a I had my way few rebound chicks, and after screening most of her calls[we had tried not to talk for a month], it hit me like a sack of bricks. All at once emotions began flooding back, all merely weeks before I was scheduled to leave for school, how convenient. I went into a panic realizing that I had given up the best thing that had ever happened to me, and convinced that It would be the best thing that would ever happen to me. I tried my best to get her back, romantic gestures and dates that I had scheduled went well for about a week, then I got the three words no one that's loved ever wants to hear, "There's someone else...". I had a good inclination of who it was, and sure enough I was right. She said that I could take her on one more date, which I agreed to, but her mind was made up. Her new boyfriend and her dated for longer than we did, a year longer in fact, but the whole time we still maintained a decent connection. Her new boyfriend was literally the exact opposite of what we had in every conceivable way. He was heavy into death metal and marijuana, lived with his parents in a part of town that most people frowned upon, and dressed like he was going to a stevie nix show, whereas we were always more conservative, restaurants, night life in the centre of the down town core, popular among the middle to upper class crowd for our age. I don't mean to buff up my side of the story, but that's just how it was. About a week after they broke up we started talking again, about a month later I took her on a date to an upscale restaurant and the night ended, to my surprise, with sweet mother sex. I didn't expect this at all. I realized the next day that I was probably a rebound, but I still couldn't shake it from myself. I hadn't stopped thinking about her for the two and a half years we were broken up, literally. I'd tried every trick in the book to get over her, and in the end, I just love her too much to let her go. It's one of my many faults, and i've learned to live with it. I took her on a few more dates after that, and it didn't end well, I decided it would be a good idea to ask "If we still had a chance", and that spiralled into heated argument and inevitable downfall of...whatever it was we had. After about a month I called her back up to see if i could take her out again, and she agreed, and I set up a date that would be unmatched by all others. It started with a massage and led into a walk along the beach and eventually dinner and a hidden restaurant that few in the town know about. She dropped the fact that her and her ex boyfriend were "seeing" each other again. After that date I felt nothing towards her, no love, no sympathy or regret. Just, nothing. I went on with my life as per usual, and eventually trained myself to hate everything about her when I thought of her. This seemed to work, then I had a conversation with her and that was all unravelled. I ended up becoming good friends with her best friend, because she now went to school near where i lived, she was only going there for the summer, and we only actually hung out a handful of times, but this angered her to an insane degree, she lashed out stating that I was trying to steal her friends, and that she thought it was creepy that me and her were friends [but we had been friends before we started dating back in grade 11]. This ended with someone starting a rumour that I said that me and her friend had hooked up on numerous occasions, which isn't in any capacity true. So this leaves me in this position, no matter what she says, or does I still love her more than most of my family. She's now fine with me, but I really don't know if she'll ever give me a serious chance. I abandoned most hope of truly getting over, and i'm frankly an emotional wreck. Do I pursue her until it ends in blazing gunfire reminiscent of that of the Matrix? Or do I honestly attempt another girl. I'm pretty realistic for the most part, and I can't actually see myself loving someone as much as I love her. There's not much of a way I can
this, so if you read this far, thanks.
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relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_37wwm8
Hello! I have a difficult problem with my boyfriend. Yes, I've browsed the Web, cause there are plenty of commitment threads, but I haven't found the one quite like mine. First, I'll present you with some background to understand better. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly half a year. I jumped from one almost 2-year long-distance relationship, in which I wasn't very happy, to this one, which makes me extremely happy most of the time. We are very different: he wants to live in the country and have a dog, he values travels more than education, I'd rather live in city with my cat and education is my higher priority. These differences induce arguments from time to time. Although he isn't very emotional (and I am - like hell, which he doesn't fully accept or/and understand), we always manage to talk things through. We are both quite difficult personalities. He's a free spirit, I have an abandonment schema (pretty contrary, but I'd like to treat my condition). Apart from that, there are things that we share, we love spending time together, always have something to talk about, we are perfectly amazing in bed, do many things for each other. It is his first serious relationship, 4-5 in general. But... He told me yesterday about something that he held up inside for..a couple of months (a great part of our relationship), namely - he thinks he isn't ready for a relationship! Yet, he tells me he loves me, I am his dreamgirl, he wants me in his life forever, he desires to move in with me, I am in his plans for the nearest future, he's even able to envision us together married with kids in some more distant future. Wtf? I do not get this guy. He says that he had always been alone and created his dreams (mainly traveling) when he was alone, so it is hard for him to adjust to thinking about both of us. I told him I don't want to be an obstacle in his dreams. I'm not gonna ban him from his travels. I don't need to be with him all the time, if he wants to leave for a longer period of time (like a couple of months), he surely can. But I'd like to be a part of at least a part of his dreams. Then he replied that.. I'm not an obstacle! Wtf again.. He also confessed he wishes he hadn't met me now, but in 10 years later instead, so that his dreams are already realized. Now, he wants us to be back to normal and claims to feel much better after getting all this of his chest. I have no idea what to do. I love him, but I'm not sure whether I am able to be with someone who can leave any moment, cause he's not ready. Is is a waste of time or should we try being together anyways and attempt to overcome his issues (that's what he wants)? I'm afraid that insecurity, instability and lack of trust will be a killer for this relationship. I don't know how to act even if I stay with him - commit and invest or make myself stop loving him. It's especially hard, because we're both starting a very stressful and difficult exam session in 2 weeks , for which we must study hard (at least I will). It's not like we're getting married (I'm not this type of girl for that matter), but I am rather pro serious relationships and would like to get this done properly. My mom says she would leave (however, she's much different that me). What is your advice? I'd be extremely thankful for your help. Ania, 20 years old woman PS should you misunderstand something, let me know - I'm actually not a native speaker, so I might have made some gross error. Also, I am new to Reddit, so the rules overwhelmed me - sorry for doing something wrong (like the lack of
did not get it)
lexoreno
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_37xv6c
I'm in a pretty new relationship (1 month)with a girl I really like and to be honest guys I'm jealous. I'm not the type of telling her what to do and so on because I'm not a control guy. I'm just jealous because she goes to clubs sometimes and I'm just sitting home because I have a lots of exams right now and I need to study a lot. I just feel weird when she parties and she is having a lot of fun and I just have to stay and study. Recently, I tought it would be good to ask for an advice and I told a good friend how I feel. It is ok if I told my friend about all of this? Probably I'm a little paranoid that she will eventually find out I told him that I'm jealous and how she goes to parties. I told her at the beggining that if something is bothering us we should talk about it. Now I just don't want to tell her "you know, I'm jealous bcuz u go clubbin and so on" -> this will make her feel weird + she won't really like it + she would belive that I'm that kind of control guy + things won't move smooth anymore between us. Awesome redditors, please help me into this situation by answering me at those questions. 1. How should I avoid jealousy? At the beggining of a relationship it is normal to be jealous? Probably untill we create a strong trust bound? 2. It is ok to ask a close friend about some problems in a relatonship? I'm a little paranoid that she will find out how I share my toughts. [
jealous of my gf because she goes to clubs and I told my friend about how jealous I am and how this bothers me. Now I'm a little paranoid that she will eventually find out that I told my friend about this and things will break.]
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AskWomen
t5_2rxrw
t3_286ius
Hi Ladies, This question should be insightful for understanding locker room gender differences. In just about every male locker room I've been in, the oldest members seem to be the most casual naked people present. Tey're walking around, chatting, and being normal. But, they go about their normal routine...fully naked & casually. (I have to say...I'm not offended or judging from here) There's always a few of the Elder Pack that fully encompass the privacy of male company to perform their normal routine in the nude. There is naked facial hair shaving guy, nude newspaper reading guy, guy in tightey whites arguing with both of them, and the friend that goes about his business like normal (showers, towels off, engages in normal post-workout chit-chat, and leaves). In almost 15 years of gym & locker room usage, this is the general culture I have experienced in at least 10 different locales. (Let me say, in college...when I was stressed out taking Organic Chemistry, it was awkward see my professor as the spread eagle newspaper reading guy) So, my
summary is: Do women's locker rooms have similar personality/character tropes?
SC2Sycophant
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_28ak75
Hi, I am SycophantHD and recently, I decided I needed to do something about my weight. I am a male, 5'7" 189 lbs. at 15 years old, turning 16 July, 9th. I'm really looking forward to seeing my progress through video and hopefully having some friends that I meet along the way to enjoy watching my journey as I gain elo as I lose weight. My current plan is to run 2 times a day, each at a mile long. Once in the morning and once in the evening between games to get my mind off of any tilt I've been on. I am also changing my diet from drinking 2, 40 oz. sodas a day to drinking no soda at all. I want to make weekly/bi-weekly videos that is kind of like a T.V. show that has pretty much a montage of plays I make during that week or just some of my work outs that I do. I can pretty much show you my whole city, I can run around to the different places and such. I am currently a Silver 5 ADC main. I am studying everything about ADC currently working on my farming and positioning. But yeah, any feed back/ideas would be great! I don't care if 4000 people watch it or just 4. I just want to see what ideas the community can come up with. I plan on losing 35 lbs by the end of the summer. Edit: by the way if anyone wants to add me on League [NA] : MushIsGosu (yes I am a fan boy ;D) Edit 2: I want to make this as clear as possible and after some feedback from a friend I thought I would clarify this in a kind of
pretty much what it would be is a weekly montage of the best plays/funniest plays etc. in League with the addition of some of my progress in gaining elo and losing weight.
callowlilthrowaway
dating_advice
t5_2s4kl
t3_28eltc
Throwaway account for reasons. The reasons are that I'm about to make a fool of myself. I'll try and make this post a slim one. Basically the story goes, I met her through a movie that we both adored and we became good friends quickly. (Also, don't laugh at me. But she lives in Colombia. I've never seen her in person, but we had been phone calling and video calling for months.) Time went on, and we both sort of knew that we had feelings for each other? There was never a direct "I love you let's date" sort of moment. We just sort of coasted into loving each other. I'll skip all the mushy shit and go right ahead to the end. Somehow, I ended up making myself believe I was no longer in love with her, even though the feelings I had were still there. Before, I've had relationships that... I thought I was in love with someone, and it turned out it was infatuation and I ended up breaking their heart. I thought the same was going on here. And, basically, I dumped her. Hard. And cut her off. And never talked to her again. For months. I was riddled with guilt and general feelings of why the fuck, but eventually, I thought about her less and less. But then I saw through someone else's page that she was going through a very hard time recently. I needed to say something. I knew this shit was going to be awkward, but it didn't feel right to me to see someone I had had such a strong connection with suffering and... not do anything. So I sent her a message of support, and I expected her to lash out at me in hatred, and... she did not do that. She thanked me for my message, told me it meant a lot to her, and said she hoped I was doing well. I ended up replying again to say "you're welcome," and a sort of small conversation started. We're talking again in a friendly sort of way. (EDIT: been going on for about two weeks or so?) I'm not sure she trusts me. But all those feelings I had for her in the past rushed back up to the surface the moment she responded to me. And basically the
is that I don't know what to do. ***ALSO SHE MAY BE INTERESTED IN SOMEBODY ELSE*** I know I'm young, okay? I know this is a dumb post, I know that this could very well be some bullshit teenage hormones at work. ... I'd just like really the only advice at my disposal. Not like I can ask my parents. My brain is a mess. (pls don't tell me my lesbianism is a phase)
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Fitness
t5_2qhx4
t3_28fvpa
This is my first post, and I'm looking for some help tackling probably my biggest hurdle in getting "in-shape." Basically, I can't distance run for the life of me. The furthest I've ever run with no break is 2 miles (treadmill), at a clip of about 7.5-8 minutes/mile. Over the past 18 months or so, I've kind of turned my life around when it comes to fitness. I've started eating much healthier, eating less, and working out regularly. I did the first half of Insanity, then got to the point where I was doing weight training essentially every day. I feel a lot better for the most part, as I went from my heaviest at over 250 to about 200-210. But for some reason, my endurance during distance running has not improved at all. This is confusing, because at the end of my Insanity stint, I would get through a workout no problem with minimal rest. That's tough! So why does it seem that my endurance increased so dramatically in that realm but had no effect whatsoever on my distance running capabilities? I'm looking to drop another 15-20 lbs ASAP, and I know the two biggest ways to do that are (1) eat less and (2) cardio. I'm tackling #1 by using the MyFitnessPal app and limiting myself to 1700 calories/day. I would like to tackle #2 primarily through running — I can do it whenever, regardless of whether the gym is open, and I can run with my mom while I'm home for the summer which is appealing. So my question and/or
is: HOW DO I IMPROVE MY DISTANCE RUNNING ENDURANCE? A few additional thoughts: • I've always had a sort of phobia when it comes to distance running. Growing up as kind of a chubby kid, whenever I would play sports and was required to run distances I would pretty much lag behind the group and embarrass myself. Could this all be a mental block? Am I holding myself back with childhood phobias? • My best friend since middle school was a football player and played lacrosse with me. He's always been in good shape but never especially toned or muscular. When he tried Insanity with me, he almost puked (understandably). But recently, after months of essentially no physical activity during our freshman year of college, the dude told me he ran 4 miles no problem. How is this possible? I can do Insanity no problem but couldn't imagine lacing up and throwing down 4 miles on a track. Explanation? • GO CARDS. Thanks guys. Any and all suggestions welcome.
Solanstusx
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_28g38e
CAUTION: a very long but entertaining tale. Enjoy :) Let's start when I started playing tonight. Over the last weeks I've had a huge, depressing losing streak that I've just now started to turn around. I went from Bronze I to Bronze IV over the course of a few months and, coming into tonight, was really discouraged about ranked and League in general. I decided to play some soloq because none of my friends were on just because. My first game was pretty boring, I ended up playing Ezreal and doing pretty well. I hadn't really been paying attention to my LP because I had stopped caring too much, but I had qualified for a promo series to get back into B3. First game of my series. In champ select, I was banning and this dude, third pick, was spamming JAX TOP JAX TOP JAX TOP...so, since we were purple side, I banned Jax. I calmly told him that it was a safe decision since we probably wouldn't get him if I didn't ban him. Mr. Third Pick raged at me a bit after that and declared he was going to feed/troll and proceeded to pick Karthus after both solo laners had already been picked by myself and Mr. Second Pick (Nid and Kat respectively). We asked our last two (jungle and ADC) to pick comfort picks they could carry with, which ended up being Vi and Corki. I was panicking a little bit, but trying to be confident because Nid in my top 3 champs to carry with. Then...right before champ select ended, our Kat and the troll Karthus switched champs... I didn't know what to think: I admittedly prepared myself for a 3v5, and sure enough I was forced bot with Corki (I abhor Nid antisupport as much as anyone) with Karthus mid and Kat top versus a Teemo. I tried to ignore the other lanes as much as possible and focus on laning (which is a bad habit but helps me keep from tilting so meh) when I see that first blood went to Kat killing Teemo. I realize that there's some hope here, so I congratulate Kat and tell her something along the lines of "wreck that Teemo!". As lane phase progresses, Kat continues to stomp lane and I continue to offer words of encouragement. Soon, the whole team was cheering this Kat (who was supposed to be trolling) on. At first she would reply with "f*** you, you banned my jax", but that soon quieted. Kat carried us that game and we ended up winning what I had resigned as a defeat. It only took a couple minutes' contemplation to determine that I wanted a game 2. I queued up again and was met with warm greetings and no fighting in champ select. My confidence was sky-high. Then someone dodged and we had 4/5 of the same team left; the newcomer was a mid laner who acted very haphazard in champ select and didn't seem confident in his Malz pick. The game started and I (Udyr jungle) had a great start, invading Vi's red at level 2 for the counterjungle and First Blood. Malzahar, whom I had my fingers crossed would win lane, seemed to be alright, too. After grouping up midgame, however, Malz seemed to have a penchant for wandering off on his own, giving their top Rengar and mid Yasuo a few free kills and generally not contributing. We were all angry with im and I'll admit I got onto him once or twice, but I reminded myself to bite my tongue after our Quinn told our Vlad to stop flaming and let Malz play the game. At about 35 minutes, the game was super close. I was picking up my blue buff and starting to head mid, where my team was grouped and shoving, when I noticed Rengar splitpushing top. He was pretty fed so I decided it was worth my life to stop him (there was a sliver of hope that I could kill him but it was risky). I died in a close duel with him, but I noticed afterward that the rest of my team had picked up the mid inhibitor. I gave my team mad props and was surprised when Quinn said, "It was all Malz, he made plays." The purple team couldn't really come back from that and we won about 10 minutes later, getting me promoted to Bronze 3. Moral: Flame is lame, guys. I never thought I would be typing those words...I've been a flamer since I started playing this game. I'm 100% certain that if I had flamed Kat and Malz we would have lost both games and I wouldn't have been promoted. > So
wow, that turned out to be long)- I had two people in both my promo matches whom I assumed to be troll/horribad but both ended up carrying. Act diplomatically, it works.
evilsider
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_2ino76
So, my general opinion on Soraka is that the rework exceeded my personal expectations, BUT, she is not yet viable and I will tell you why (from my own point of view). On paper her new kit looks good: high sustain at moderate costs (HP per heal) and the possibility to gain that HP back based on personal skill (hitting Qs) along with a zone/cc ability. The problem, and reason why she currently isn't viable though, is that her Q's animation speed is way too slow. I play in low-mid diamond and any half-decent botlane dodges my Qs, say 80% of the times, which is too punishing in poke lanes (the current meta), since generally you would like to pair Soraka with lategame hypercarries like Vayne or Kog'Maw who need a decent sustain in the early stages of the game. Another (smaller) minus is that the players hide behind their creepwaves, and you can often find yourself screwing your ADC's last hits in the attempt to land Q on your enemies. General conclusion+
the idea of providing Soraka with the ability to zone/control the lane (based on personal skill) by landing skillshots is not really happening due to the animation speed of her Q while in the same time her ability to sustain is also punished by that same fact. Anybody agrees/disagrees or has his own observations to share?
YeomanWhite
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_2iq35e
So Cutthroat doesn't really make sense on a slow, as Riot's mentioned in the last two patch notes. Any ideas to rename it? I personally was thinking [Hamstring]( or something along those lines, but I want to know what the community thinks. Edit: So I just saw the
patch notes someone kindly pointed out to me. And I'm glad to know I'm not as original as I think.
mrpichu112
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_2iqwu8
I know that I have no real justification or any proof to back up my opinions. I've been playing this game since Season One, and have always watch the esports community that LoL has grow exponentially. I'm still flabbergasted that I can say esports and not get completely ridiculed for mentioning it. We are starting to see people accepting video games as a legitimate career, and not just some excuse people use for reasons crimes occurring, (Looking at you GTA >.>) Besides all of that, we wouldn't be here today if it wasn't for the players and the reporters, managers, coaches, etc. who took that risk well knowing that they could of wasted days, month, or even years of potential work, just for it to all blow up in their face. When I started playing this game, was when I made the giant leap where I stopped playing console games (which I pretty much played my entire life at that point.) and gazed into the world of PC gaming. Sadly I cant say I've made much insight past league since I tend to not like FPS or RTS genres games, but I do hope that some people understand why these shows, really make esports a reality in some way. I first want to talk about the topic that is State of the League. I know that I'm pretty much beating a dead horse talking about it, but in my opinion, the first LoL show that did something right. When esports was growing, we could watch streams and watch VODs of these intense games, where one team will prevail over the other. The only thing that we could never see, were the people behind the teams. People back then were more reluctant to go to big events, meeting these players that you idol. The only thing that I never understood from this was, why idolize them? Best answer is because, "They're good, and we watch them and learn from them." But to idolize someone, in some aspect worship them, putting them on a pedestal and praising them for being the person they are. But we don't know these people, we just watch them play. We watch a game, or a set, then we have our intense games. Then after it's over, we leave, or if you are actually at the event, meet them. But not everyone has the luxury to go out to these big events and meet their idols, there needs to be a way where we can interact with them, without actually paying hundreds of dollars, just to meet someone. This is where State of the League comes into play. We have a young, straight out of college journalist, trying to make it in the world of this untapped potential that is esports. Travis Gafford, I have so much to say about him, but that's a whole other beast. One day, he sees a post about a upcoming pro league player who is dire need of help. I in no way interpret what he did as, "This is my golden ticket into esports." Travis is a nice guy, and it was just coincidence that he needed a roommate that could help him pay rent, (which don't quote me on this, but it seemed like he still had to pay the rent by himself for quite sometime after his roommate moved in.) So he took this supposed player in, and helped him get back on his feet. But since his roommate was an upcoming pro player, he did have tie in with other pros, by just playing solo queue. So, to introduce a new show, where he talks with pros about the big news that are occurring in the scene, he would have his roommate join him. As the show progressed, it seemed like the show started from a super informative talk about all the occurring changes in the scene, to the opinions on the matters from the pros. This would be shown through their opinions, reactions, discussions, and rebuttals, which people enjoyed. For the first time in esports history for league, we are seeing the side the most people didn't know about, the players themselves. Back then, there were people who could of literally name every member on that team that I would name, but would know absolutely nothing about the players themselves. This show was an outlet for these pros, where they can put the mouse and keyboards down, and talk with one another about the game, or life in general. This right here is the segway on why IN MY HONEST OPINION SotL wouldn't be the same show that we all grew to love. Back then, before esports grew into this monster that it is today, these players, didnt just play the game. Most of these players had other obligations, whatever it be school, work, or etc. These people who sacrificed having time to themselves, spent it playing games. Trying to beat the odds, creating a career out of something not many people who call a legitimate career. And this is where I believe the show peaked at. Where a group of different pros, would take a few hours of their already busy, hectic schedule, to talk/interact with the fans about controversial topics and whatnot. This was the right step in the direction that esports needed. The reason why I dont believe that SotL wouldn't be as good as it was back then, is because the scene has already made that big leap, where people can make a career in playing video games. I know that people still make risk in trying to achieve it, but it doesn't seem as impossible as it was back then a few years ago. People who do make a career in this are already lucky enough that they can have their dreams come true, in such little time. It's not common, that in such little years, gaming has stepped up. From just entertainment, to actual career and job opportunities. The only thing is that now we have the careers, we need the resources to make this a reality. This is where gaming houses come into play, before anyone thought of it, a rag tag of 6 guys (I think before Dyrus was added to TSM), thought to creating a gaming house. This was a big risk, dropping essentially everything, to move into a house with people who you have only talked online with or meet once or twice, and live with them. These players put their faith into each other's hand and hoped that they could vastly improve. Back then moving into a gaming house seemed risky, what happens if they fail? There wasn't an answer back then, but now esports has somewhat formed this safety nets for these players. Where if they fail, they can go back to their old lives, with less regret then never playing in the first place. Gaming houses are now a necessity and putting all of your time into playing is expected from you. It's not just a hobby anymore, it's like any other job. If you don't play to the expectations that are required, you're essentially dropped. With this in mind, most people have to focus their time to being the best, making sure that they have a job, and are safe from losing it. With this in mind, it seems like everyone is following this monotonous pattern. Make a team, play in Challenger scene, get into LCS, stay in LCS. So most people to achieve this, stop what they are doing, and put their efforts into being the best, which requires moving in together, forming a gaming house. Back then people would question the legitimacy of a gaming house, but now it's a necessity to becoming the best team, and maintaining you're job. The next thing that I want to tackle is Summoner's Insight. Boy did this show boil up some big drama in the esports scene. From the aggressive comments of Thoorin, to the deep insight that is Montecristo. These two make a duo that no one has ever seen in League. These two bring something that we didnt have in a long time, people who have real insight into the background that is esports itself. They research the scene, looking into every single thing that happens, whether it be roster changes, rankings in events, and so on. As someone who watched quite a few episodes of the show, (regardless of not liking one of them...Thoorin >.>), it was quite interesting getting some history of these players that they would bring. These players would pretty much
their lives for us, and give insight to what esports really is. Which I enjoy, but the part that always gets me, is the shit talking. I know that it seems pretty aggressive to say that its shit talking, but without sugar coating it, it really is shit talking. Some of the things that I heard from these two (mostly Thoorin) is astounding. When Thoorin makes some crude joke, or accusation, its just starting up drama. Even though I dont blame them for everything that is drama, they are just like oil that lights up the flame. Don't get me wrong, there are actually insightful things they mention in the show, but people come to watch for the drama, the accusations, and the bad talking of others. It's like Jersey Shore, people watch these shows not just to glamorize them, wishing they can be just like them, but the drama. People seek drama, fighting among one another, since its what makes esports grow. When there is drama, their will be attention, which drives in the curious people that are fans, into the mix. I honestly think what Thoorin says is completely unproffestional sometimes, which has no justification, but he knows his goddamn shit and is always ready for a fight. Lastly we have the new shoe First Blood. There first episode just recently appeared, with your host Richard Lewis. This man is pretty much the god among gods of esports journalism. The content that he creates is what inspires others to follow in this career. Him and his cohosts, Brokenshard, former LCS player, now currently coaching. And Nintendudex, former LCS player, long time pro player that has been in the scene then most of the players to this day. Everyone who has been part of reddit know these names very well, whether is be the "This player sucks." to the "He's not actually a good guy, hes toxic." These players have had pitchfork held against their backs many times, so they are known for being somewhat infamous people in the league scene. Just like Summoner's Insight and SotL, the show talks about the current events that have transpired recently, whether it be roster changes and whatnot. The twist is that these people have actual experiences with the behind the scenes of esports. They have seen the monster that esports is, they see what's behind the mask, whichever it was pretty or not. As most shows, they give their opinions on the matter, where its still insightful, but always has some drama (not as much as SI though), and talk about league. The difference here is that they are entertaining in the fact in someways, poke at each other, without the aggressive comments like SI. They can still make their points on the matter, without saying something insensitive or out of line. This is somewhat a balance between SI and SotL (leaning more on the SI side though), and honestly I enjoyed it. I cant really make a strong opinion yet, since it's still in its infant stage, where they're still forming it. We as viewers have to wait and see what they do with this. That's pretty much it on the matter, I know its a long read and not many people (or anyone in that matter) will see this. But I do hope this somewhat changes your opinions on shows like these. Without them, esports wouldn't be where it is now. Thanks for reading P.S. Thanks for putting up with all the grammatical/punctuation errors. I really don't want to go through the whole thing to fix a few mistakes~
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relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2irkrh
So I have an unresolved conflict that has been hanging over my brother and I for the past few years and I'd really like to find a way for us to get past it. I'm really hoping you guys can help shed some perspective on it. I'm going to try to give an objective telling of what happened before I go into my side and what I understand of my brother's side. Sorry if this is kind of disjointed, full of phone errors, and, obviously, skewed a bit towards myself The Events: My brother (Jack, 26 at the time), his girlfriend (Lisa, 21f) and I (22m) were all hanging out and drinking at their apartment in Summer of 2010. Their roommate/Lisa's sister (Allison, 24f) came home also innebriated, hung out, and played board games with us. This was only the second time that I'd met her. She and I flirted quite a bit and ended up making out/spooning on the couch together after Jack and Lisa went to bed. The next day my Jack texted me, asking how it was but also saying that it probably wasn't a good idea to try and date her, as she had apparently just broken up with her long term boyfriend, though he said they were constantly in a kind of limbo. I said OK, and went on with my day. A couple days later, Allison started messaging me on Facebook. A while into the conversation, she clarified her relationship as being over. A couple days later, we set up a date in a park. We dated for a short month and a half, with Allison and I hanging out with Jack and Lisa fairly regularly. He'd become more and more distant, less talkative around me, and would make comments about Allison that I felt had passive aggressive undertones. When it was just him and I, he would tell me about all of his beefs with Allison. During this time, I talked to some friends and family, and all the advice I got was to break up with Allison to save my relationship with my brother, which I ended up doing as Jack and I started getting more argumentative with each other. Allison and I been hanging out at a bar and she was trying to guilt trip me into going home with her, rather than continue hanging out with friends who I'd not seen in a long time (the friend meetup had been planned for weeks, as well). I elected to continue hanging out with the friends. Allison took this, I'm guessing, as my way of breaking up with her, evidenced by the string of angry freak out text messages. It wasn't meant to be, and before she left we'd even made plans to hang out the next day. However, this was enough of an excuse for me to actually end things with her. Since then, Jack has poked fun at me (thinking that the act of dating Allison was dumb of me), both to my face as well as to the rest of the family. He has since married Lisa, so we still see Allison every once in a while. Every time we do, Allison and I are fine, but Jack will make comments to me like "Are you going to be able to restrain yourself this time, grogtron?" Or, my favorite, "Yeah, she's dating some new idiot. Poor guy, huh grogtron?" Jack's perspective: Allison was a trouble roommate to Jack and Lisa. The term "crazy" was used often, and he hinted once that she might be schizophrenic. I think Jack legitimately does not like her. He moved in with Lisa only after a couple months of dating, after he'd moved out of town to help take care of our sick dad then moving back without a place to live. Allison was high maintenance, did not like messes, and was a sleep eater (as in she would sleep walk at night and eat all their leftovers/bread/stuff). She was a source of stress for Jack and he was worried that any drama that happened between Allison and I would carry over to his home life. He also told me that he was trying to do the big brother thing and protect me from Allison hurting me. He uses her freaking out on me when it ended as an indicator that I "got out just in time." My perspective: It had been a really rough year for both Jack and I, as our dad died of cancer in the Fall of 2009. At the time that this all happened, I felt really isolated and alone. I was living with my best friend at the time, but he had no idea how to talk to me after my dad died, so he mostly stayed in his room playing WOW. My brother was in the honeymoon phase with Lisa, so we weren't hanging out as much as we used to, and when we did, he was texting with her constantly. I was relying on phone calls with an ex-girlfriend that I'd broken up with about a year before for emotional support. Allison had been really supportive about Dad for the brief time we were together, and it made me feel better to have someone to spend time with. I was also excited about the opportunity to be able to hang out with my brother more, them being roommates and all. I knew she and I weren't going to be a long term thing so I wasn't mad that we didn't last forever.Outside of the drama, I liked her, though, and don't feel guilty or regretful about seeing her. I suppose I'm mad that I feel like my brother turned it into an unspoken ultimatum. It's especially frustrating that he tries to make fun of me for it. It feels like I gave something up specifically for him and now he's rubbing it in my face. It may also be important to mention that there's been friction between Lisa and I, both before and after these events. She's usually fine, but she used to be an asshole when she drank. This is much better now, but she would be too handsy--Hugs, touching my face/head, being way too far into my personal space bubble--with me for my comfort, occasionally made offhand joke comments about her, Jack, and I in a threesome, once hit Jack in the face with a TV remote out of anger, and one time scratched the shit out of my arm during casual conversation and called me a pussy when it started to bleed. Her and Jack almost broke up the night of that last one. Since then, she's been a lot better and we get along well, but I still try to avoid drinking with her. What's happening now: We don't really talk about Allison much, but when we do, it devolves to an angry argument fairly quickly. As I said, he's married to Lisa now, so Allison is still around every once in a while. I've talked to him about not making fun of me for it (which he misinterpreted as an admission of guilt), so he stopped doing it directly to me but has apparently been continuing with other siblings (I found out when our drunk older sister tried making fun of me for it last Christmas while I was giving her a ride home, basically parroting Jack). He and I are both very stubborn, prideful, and, honestly, probably a little too full of ourselves. Neither of us are great at heart-to-hearts. I know that we were both in the wrong on this and that there's no easy answer. The events are all done and finished and all that's left over is lingering resentment. I love my brother and I want to clear the air, especially as they're going to have a kid very soon. How can we move forward from here? Here's the
of events: In the Summer of 2010, my brother was living with his girlfriend and her sister, whom he did (does) not like. I began dating said sister for a couple months before breaking up. Tension between my brother and I ensued and currently remains unresolved.
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relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2irp5u
I'm feeling really awkward right now. "April" was living with our dad until August, when she had her "last straw" moment with our stepmother. She asked if she could stay with me (by me, I mean me, my SO, my 7 year old, and our infant) for a couple weeks until she found an apartment. She's my best friend, who usually visits us a couple days a week, so I said of course and that she could stay as long as she needed to. My SO agreed, and even suggested that if she needed something more long term, we could relocate the baby's stuff into our bedroom, and April could pay rent and live there. It's been mostly pretty fun having her here. She has a busy schedule of school and work, but we hang out after she gets off. She brings home beer and so we have a few and stay up late. It interferes somewhat with my SO and I going to bed together, but it's not a huge problem. I'm a stay at home mom on a weird baby schedule anyway. She is generally pretty helpful around the house, also. She buys things here and there like toilet paper, dog food, laundry detergent, etc. She helps tidy up and holds the baby while I shower, all that good stuff. However, I am broke. My SO has had a weird job situation over the last couple of months. Bills are getting paid right before the cutoff date, that kind of thing. Our utilities have gone up since she moved in. She eats dinner with us when she's around, and she's pretty much welcome to whatever is around to eat, though a lot of times she feeds herself. She's still sleeping on the couch and hasn't really looked at apartments in a while. When I've mentioned to family members that she's living here, they've asked if she's paying rent and seem shocked that we're struggling the way we are and she isn't. So my question is, should she be paying something? What's fair to ask her to pay? Our rent and utilities come to around 1200/month. She's also thinking about getting on my phone plan. I don't worry about that. She's good for the money. She's not the typical broke student. She has savings and a good job. She could move out tomorrow if she found a place, but she's very frugal in a lot of ways. How do I ask her without her thinking I'm being greedy or trying to get rid of her? I don't want to hurt our relationship, but it kinda bothers me giving someone a basically free place to live when I can barely pay my bills. **
best friend/sister crashing on my couch for two months so far. Should she be paying rent and how do I ask her if so?
Rykku
Fitness
t5_2qhx4
t3_2isfw3
Hi-ho guys, new in town. So, first day at the Gym was 2 days ago. Yesterday I was doing pretty fine. . . but today when I woke up I can barely keep myself straight. Basically I did a lot of abs works and didn't stretch enough so now I'm in pain. I'm supposed to go to the gym again in 1hs but imma skip it until tomorrow because of this. Anyway,
my abs hurt how do I stop my pain? :c
Throwdisaway24
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2ittx4
I got pregnant last October. Sex life was fine then. I became pregnant, and suddenly it seems as though he lost all interest in me? Fast forward a year, I delivered the baby in July, and my body is different though I lost all postpartum weight. I have some stretch marks. I don't know if this is further turning him off. Note, I do NOT have a confidence problem. I feel hotter than ever (lol). I try to initiate intimacy. He rebuffs EACH time. Doesn't even kiss or hug me, ever. I asked today if he was still attracted to me and he refused to answer the question. I chalked it up to a "no" and he became angry that I assumed as much. What should I assume? How should I react to this? I am someone who craves intimacy in my relationships, so this hurts. **
before the baby, sex life with boyfriend was fine. During pregnancy and after, all intimacy screeched to a halt. Asked if he was still attracted to me, and he refused to answer.
LDREDSgirl
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3v8fud
40+ female in LDR with 40+ male I've been in an LDR for a year now it became physical 6 months ago. I was led to believe all physical contact with his ex had stopped before we met in real life. Found out today that every time they see each other they still hug. This bothers me. She has forbidden him from having anyone at "her" house, mixed signals have been a big issue with her and now I find out he's hugging her everytime they see each other. Including school functions for their child. To me this is implying that they are still in a relationship or their is potential for them to reconnect. She refuses to out their separation. He says it's just a friendly hug. No bid deal. I'm a hugger, no different then a handshake. It bothers me tremendously that he still feels the need to have that physical contact with her. Am I wrong to be angry? Is there a need to hug your ex everytime you see each other. I need the opinions of others as I'm pretty much being told it's not going to stop. **
hugging the ex everytime you see them ok or not cool
Soarburn
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_3vccyk
I've noticed illaoi has a really strong early game I was thinking about the tenacels really and the Q. I was thinking if Illaoi's tentacles were on a longer cooldown because laning against her your main counter to her is to take town her tentacles but its kind of annoying; You counter her by taking them down but then she engages and the trade is stupid. Its basically the only way yo kill her is by the jungle ganking or you picking someone with a silence. But even then her tentacles give her % health so any trade you do she gains health back. Anyway
increase CD on spawning rate of tentacles.
bink1time
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_3gyyoj
Hey guys I decided to use data analytics to see who would win the semifinal games. I made a blog post about it here: The
version is: Fnatic is 99% favored. Origen is 67% favored. Liquid is 72% favored. Tip is 67% favored(I pick CLG to win though).
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relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3gz249
Well the story goes like this her and her boyfriend have been on and off because of his shitty screw ups and I hate the way he treats her but she won't leave him because they have history and she cares about him too much. She knows I'm the better guy and I'd treat her better because she tells me all the time I just can't stand to see a loser with the girl I want and it makes me angry because he talks to other girls all the time(he even tried to talk to one of my exes while he was with her-.-). I know you guys probably don't get these type of questions often and I know it's wrong to wanna break someone up but I can't stand to see her with this "thug" type of dude going nowhere in life hurting the girl I'd treat her the way she deserves to be treated. Thanks for your help guys! **
asshole type of thug breaking girl I like a lots heart... Trying to find ways to make her mine can anyone help me?
imlikeabird_iwanna_t
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_3h0go4
For context, I have a couple brothers who are considerably older than me and seldom talk to either of my parents. When I was very young, my father's brother and father both died shortly apart, and many relatives have told me that he became very bitter and emotionally withdrawn after that; the phrase most often used is that "he's changed," and I think we all know what that means. When I was younger, he would coach my little league teams. Nobody in my family is particularly athletic and I would struggle, so he would become physically abusive after many games and practices depending on how much I'd embarrassed him. It was similar throughout school when I became depressed and started getting bad grades, having trouble making friends, not much atypical for the situation -- I just didn't really understand at the time. While generally likable and sociable, I'm very withdrawn and tend to spend a lot of time alone working through depression and anxiety. Even though he may be the culprit in many cases, those problems I'll have to deal with separately -- right now I just want to love my dad. To clarify, he doesn't understand the impact of his words, violence, or tantrums. He'll say something remarkably insulting or do something mean, we'll get in a fight, and then a minute later, he'll try to mingle with me about sports, politics, or just ask me if I'm thinking about dinner, as if nothing had happened. I want him to know how much he's capable of hurting me, as well as how much he's crippled me over the years. I am a much weaker, more fragile person than I should be largely because of him. The letter I've written might be
but I can edit this post to include it (maybe not since this is a throwaway?) or post it in the comments if reading through it would be helpful. While I could certainly use help editing, I really just want to know what sort of language I should use to express my feelings and what key points are usually good to touch on or avoid in this sort of situation. I don't want to be inflammatory or unnecessarily aggressive; I'm not mad at him, I'm depressed. He barely drinks, doesn't smoke cigarettes, doesn't have any drug history, only has smoked weed occasionally for most of his life. He has anger issues related to diabetes, and also has slowed down mentally as he's gotten older, but those more recent factors have only served to amplify longstanding problems.
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nfl
t5_2qmg3
t3_3h1raq
I'm a big Fantasy guy. I don't really like teams in particular (from SF, dislike the niners) and the only players I like really are the ones that happen to do well for me in Fantasy. I'm legitimately looking for a team to more or less hold onto as a main team I'm willing to root for (and, mayhaps, buy some regalia). Maybe this is incredibly shallow and I'm not a real fan. Well, if that's your opinion its hard to argue. Rather, I'm looking for a passionate
format promotion of your team. Get it? Got it? Hit me. (p.s. hi Matt and Drew) EDIT: NO. I'm not making the basis of what team I like on reddit posts. I'm just curious to see the character of the fanbase for teams in general. I DO have my own general feelings towards certain teams...this is more than anything a chance for you to argue for your team.
Justanotherone673
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_3h25cg
My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship in a while and she's great. She been nothing but great support for me. Recently I've felt that deep down I don't feel like I can grow with her being there to support me. I feel like I need to go to hell and back so that I can truly grow. Is this a reasonable reason to break up? Is there such a thing as a 6 month hiatus and just wishing for the best? I feel as though it's one of those right girl at the wrong time type of things. How do you make a decision when you've invested so much time? I don't feel like I'm going to become all I can be while with her but I feel as though it's my fault and not hers. Any input would be great **
when do you know to leave a healthy relationship based on individual "incompleteness"
Working
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_9bl90
I basically said it all in the title. I'm an 18 year old guy about to head to college, and I've never been in an actual relationships before (I'm not counting elementary school "romances" :P). I don't plan on seeking out a girlfriend on day 1, but when it does happen I want to do it right. I've heard many girls aren't crazy about guys they have to train, break in, etc. I browse /r/love, /r/sex, and /r/relationship_advice fairly regularly just to try and pick up knowledge. So.... any knowledge you guys can throw my way would be very much appreciated. EDIT: I'm a virgin, I figure that might be relevant. It sucks, but it looks like it ain't gonna change before college. Any advice on that topic would also be very much appreciated. I suppose the
of all this is: I'm willing to put in the work, I just need to know where to put it.
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relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_240vxx
Just want your opinion on the difference between loving a SO and being 'in love' with a SO. My bf and I have been together for nearly 6 months now and things are going really well. We have yet to say the ILY's. I am waiting until i am very very sure that i am in love to say it, as this will be the first time i'll say it to a SO ever. (Its my first real relationship) I know i love him as a person for sure. But am i IN LOVE with him- I can't tell. -We get on amazingly well -Haven't had sex yet- which may be the intimacy we need to move on to that 'in love' phase? Am i overthinking all of this? I do get moments where i just want to say I love you but usually repress it. -
is there a difference between loving a SO and being in love with them?
notyetdriveable
dating_advice
t5_2s4kl
t3_241nqp
This is a doozy so take a seat. So here's the main thing, I'm a 22m and she's a 22f, she started working at my job a few months ago and we did talk a few times, just "Hi" or "How have you been". She waves/smiles to me and that's a good thing to me since I'm not exactly Hugh Hefner when it comes to social interactions. She ended up taking a promotion a few months later and I added her on Facebook to keep in touch since we have different schedules. We do see each other from time to time but it's mostly just greetings and such, I do ask how her day is going and she replies in a rather short response, which I understand since her new job keeps her on her feet a lot. The other day I messaged her over Facebook that I saw a favorite movie of hers (She has a thing for Disney movies) since she's pretty much always posting stuff about it. I asked her about a different movie and she did recommend I see that. Here's my dilemma right now, do you guys think she just wants to keep it strictly platonic? She does seem ok with talking to me but her messages over Facebook are pretty much short, like she seems uninterested in talking. She does go to grad school so I'm guessing that could have something to do with it. I do plan on asking her to hang out but the only problem is that I don't have my license right now which pretty much hinders that quite a bit. Should I just keep talking to her in public more? I don't think Facebook is a good way to converse since I think I'm more conversational in person. Her Facebook doesn't mention anywhere about her being in a relationship status so I'm unsure of where she is relationship-wise, I'm not even sure if I should bring it up lol. For the
s: Met a girl, she doesn't seem too open in conversations so I'm wondering if I should just give up or not. It's been racking my brain for a while now. It doesn't help that I have no idea if she's single or not.
slymaniac
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_247e3i
Hello everyone, My professional life involves crunching numbers and statistics to figure out solutions to problems which people don't have the time to figure out themselves. I have been analysing LoL since the start of Season 4, when I realised the current meta has maybe 20-30 viable champion picks in the professional and even amateur scene. I would like to share my opinion on what I believe is the best and quickest solution to fixing this. Goal: 80+ viable champions Solution Summary: Items and bounties - Escapes You don't need to be overly observant to realise the summoner spell Flash is taken on everyone in every situation. This spell is dominant because the fact is mobility is a huge advantage in basically any game, not just LoL. Squishy champions with escapes like Lucian, Khazix, Ahri, Le Blanc, Lulu, Ziggs and many more are highly contested due to this. Strong champions with no mobility are useless, because you are a sitting duck hoping to get the jump on someone by strolling up to them. Solution: Items need to be made for AD and AP champions which have a dash or movespeed as an Active (60-90 second CD) If you gave squishy champions such as Viktor, Xerath, Malzahar, MF, Mordekaiser etc. a dash, they would be much more useful in games. All these champions have a HUGE amount of damage, but since they have no mobility to assist them in dishing out this damage, they are chucked to the bottom of the pile while mobile champs are picked up in their place. This will not make current mobile champs useless, as they will be able to build an extra dash. The point here being, having 0 mobility will make you utterly useless, however if you give every champion the ability to dash, it will make the current champions which have a dash ability not as far ahead of the others. There is currently ghost blade which helps, but cannot be built on every champion, which limits its usefulness. - Penetration There are so many hybrid damage champions, but little penetration items to choose from. Champions such as Poppy, Akali, Skarner, Udyr and some others I can't think of right now, are very rarely played due to items forcing them to building one or the other, or trying to build both and then going tanky. Solution: Items need to be created with both Magic Pen and Armour Pen. Items such as Rage Blade could easily have this added on (and made a bit more expensive) or even forgotten items which no one builds can be reworked into being useful for a larger pool of champions. - Bounties Everyone has realised that games are becoming more about PVE and less about PVP due to snowball nerfs and bounty nerfs. Hell, we even see professional games last 50 minutes with less than 10 total kills. A lot of champions are being picked up mainly due to their wave clear and ability to easily farm minions, as this is more cost effective than getting kills. Solution: If the bounty was to change to maybe 400 per kill instead of 300 (death penalty still stays as a percentage) then champions with higher kill potential will be picked up again, instead of PVE based champions. I haven't done much math on bounties and cost effectiveness vs PVE yet, but this is something that's on my list, as whenever there is a low death count and very high CS count, this can be the only logical reason. Conclusion: There is no way I will believe someone saying there are only ~25 viable champions and the rest need buffs or reworks; this is ignorant and naive. All champions are strong, they just don't have the tools provided to make full use of their kits, and this is mainly due to the item choices available and wave clear potential. Thanks for reading :) P.S If you disagree with anything I've said, please say so in a polite and courteous manner and I will explain my thought process for your concern. I have not listed every single thought I have put into this for
purposes, but will happily answer any questions or problems you have with my findings.
mingo83
politics
t5_2cneq
t3_1osmzb
I feel that the frothing disdain for President Obama stems from much more than his political philosophy, and that his politics are not deserving of the unprecedented amount of hatred and vitriol he's had to endure since he decided to run. I wrote a long letter to the person who made this contention, but I'm afraid I'm going to receive a "
back from him.
flavoredselterwater
TwoXChromosomes
t5_2r2jt
t3_1ovcar
Here'goes. I (23) met a gentleman of sorts (28) through my friend. He lives 45 minutes from me, which isn't really a problem because I enjoy driving. Texting every day, some hangs.. he's smart and nice and funny and handsome, and I suppose I'm crushing. Then he drops some information on me; He's a recovering heroin addict. Gone to rehab, NA & AA meetings every night. I'm not exactly scared by it, I've known people who dealt with that and didn't get out of it. I'm naive, but not exactly a stranger to the issue. Then the bomb drops.. guy is going to jail for getting a second DUI, which he went in Wednesday (10/16). In for a month total, but is on work release sometime this week. Still not scared, but definitely at odds with this. I know its bad, but I'm not sure HOW bad? I'm trying to come to terms with it. What he got into doesn't make him a bad person, and he didn't hurt anyone (that I know of). It certainly would put a damper on things if I didn't pull away and it did progress to something, him not having a license and the distance, and I suppose I understand that there is a certain level of.. responsibility/support? being a SO of a recovering addict. And to wrap this up, I finally opened up to my best friend about it, and her answer
d is "I understand where you are coming from, but it was his SECOND DUI. How many other times will there be? And if something does happen, can he provide for you/ will you have to pay for things most of the time? I think you can do better". So now I'm throwing this all out there, looking for some sister's, mother's, daughter's, any ladies (or any one's) advice and thoughts. whew.
taladla
wow
t5_2qio8
t3_1owr90
Primarily my plan is to grind out a set in bgs, then see if i can get me some yolo arenas/rbgs. I'm enjoying LFR as a walk down memory lane but i don't see myself doing much raiding beyond that. My question pertains, basically, to what i should bother enchanting with dancing steel, as a melee class with not a whole lot of money saved up. Right now I have welfare timeless isle epics and 4 set tyrannical, two 502 weapons from ToT LFR, and i assume they're not worth putting dancing steel on, but this is where i get confused. As of today i have access to SoO LFR and 496 PvP weapons. I know I'll run SoO for fun at least a few times, and I don't really get the full ramification of there being massive amounts of the pvp stat on the weapons, re: having a high level weapon with none vs a lower weapon with a few thousand. Then there are the grievous weapons, which i probably won't get for a couple weeks because i'm honestly not that invested in finding a viable group to cap my catchup conquest points that won't utterly tank my completely fresh mmr. so,
should i buy tryrannical weapons and put dancing steel on them, or would SoO weapons also be viable placeholders until grievous weapons? other advice? P.S. at the end of wrath i remember thinking to myself, 'this is truly the pinnacle of welfare.' TIL not a psychic. did they implement this at the end of cataclysm or is timeless isle the first time?
SketchyLogic
Games
t5_2qhwp
t3_2bb91a
I'm a casual fighting game player. I watched a fair amount of the fighting game tournament Evo 2014 a couple of weeks ago, and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I've never played a MOBA. I understand the general concepts (hero units, bases, leveling up etc.), but I've never personally touched a game of LoL or Dota. Despite this, I decided to watch some of the International tournament that's currently reaching its climax, because I know that it's an important event in the world of videogames. Between the enormous prize pool, the ESPN coverage, and the huge community, it's clear that this Dota tournament is a big fucking deal - much more so than the whole of Evo by any reasonable measure. Consider that the best King of Fighters player in the world won around 3 thousand dollars at Evo - barely enough to cover his flight and hotel - where as the winning team at the International is set to win 5 million dollars. So I tuned in to the [newbie stream]( on Friday evening. The commentators were good. They explained concepts in a clear and beginner-friendly way without being condescending. When the character picks started, they did an admirable job of explaining the moves and match-ups in the short time they had. Then the game started, and everything went to shit. I watched the characters spread across the map and move about with an incomprehensible strategy. The commentators tried to keep their discussions understandable, but the game on-screen may as well have been some bizarre, alien form of [cricket]( for all I could gather from it. The crowd and commentators roared with excitement at feats of skill that whooshed right over my head. It was a strange contrast to Evo, where the on-screen gameplay was so simple that even your grandparents could understand it without explanation. Sure, there are layers of metagame that someone who hasn't played the games would miss, but you don't need to know about framerate data or rapid cancels to grasp what's going on in the [Blazblue finals]( Are you familiar with the concept of two people fighting until one falls down? Then you have enough knowledge to enjoy a well-played fighting game. I suppose what I'm getting at (and the
is this: how is it that the Dota 2 International has become a multi-million dollar, internationally-recognized sports event, despite the game's complexity, where as the more immediately-accessible and much older fighting game scene has remained a niche hobby?
LutzExpertTera
nfl
t5_2qmg3
t3_2bba6o
Recently, I've been applying to job listings at ESPN and NFL. I have a steady job, but figured why not? I already knew how essentially cold calling with a resume is crazy difficult, so I decided to supplement my resume with original research I had done for fun on this sub. Anything that can make you stand out to an employer is a good thing. I know it's not directly football related, but thought I would share this idea with the rest of /r/nfl. I see so many great posts with original research, write-ups, and conclusions that we all do for fun. So why not try to get paid for doing something we all love? Look at all of the amazing content on the 32 teams/32 days, why will/won't your team win the Super Bowl, teams off season review, /r/NFL top 100, etc. All this content is crazy impressive, and is pretty much done just for fun. I dug up a few of the old research projects I had done and posted to /r/nfl: [the analysis I did on 1,000 yard rushers]( or [the analysis I did on Patriots drafting in the 2nd and 3rd rounds]( or even just straight data like [team's leading receivers in receptions as total individual percentage of team completions]( or [Patriots TE analysis]( I copied them into word, re-wrote the first 2 to read more like case studies. I took some of the jokes and reddit-speak out, and made it a little more professional sounding. Honestly the most annoying part was changing the format from reddit to word. Now I have 6 or 7 different attachments I submit with my resume as a sort-of portfolio. Definitely doesn't hurt my chances of getting a call back. The
is that the research we do for this subreddit doesn't have to be just for fun. It's a tangible skill that can translate into the working world. Not to mention that doing this for fun really shows your passion and commitment. Don't just forget about the great content you post after a month, but keep it and let it help you in your job hunt. Who doesn't want to get paid to talk and research football? Hey, maybe it can also inspire people to come up with new content for the sub so it's a win/win!
SubnormalMeat
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_2bgul5
So, I got lucky and got into a game of draft pick with someone named Astralfoxy, and the following conversation ensued: -: bans? Subn0rmalMeat: braum, yas, lucian? Subn0rmalMeat: morg? Subn0rmalMeat: ** lucian, man --: It's the same guy, so all is well in the world --: and braum --: can't forget braum Subn0rmalMeat: is that astralfoxy? --: He makes me want to slap babies -: anyone want fp? Subn0rmalMeat: like, the one who made wintermint? astralfoxy: mmm, hello ~ :] --: Don't lie --: it was me --: he's stealing credit astralfoxy: :< -: LOL --: I AM THE REAL MASTERMIND Subn0rmalMeat: top? --: I even named it after gum, but she says she didn't know it was gum but that's all a lie --: everyone knows gum Subn0rmalMeat: wait, doesn't she work for riot? astralfoxy: WTF ! Subn0rmalMeat: so she'd have like Subn0rmalMeat: riot astralfoxy ---: LOL astralfoxy: wintermint never existed in australia!! --: You don't have to have riot in your name --: if you work for riot --: not a requirement astralfoxy: i just want to be me ;~; Subn0rmalMeat: fair enough --: Don't lie, everyone knows gum! Subn0rmalMeat: who's the new champion? Subn0rmalMeat: :P astralfoxy: oof astralfoxy: i played in that earlier today! --: It's a top laner --: we know this much astralfoxy: the champion spotlight for that :D Subn0rmalMeat: O.o Subn0rmalMeat: wait Subn0rmalMeat: really? Subn0rmalMeat: daaaaaamn Subn0rmalMeat: getting killed by phreak, eh? Subn0rmalMeat: do you guys have to like Subn0rmalMeat: purposely play worse astralfoxy: phreak didnt play ;; Subn0rmalMeat: so he can get clips? Subn0rmalMeat: ._. astralfoxy: he doesn't play in these anymore Subn0rmalMeat: :( --: I miss the phreak spotlights -: he's too good -: now with the puns astralfoxy: he talks in them, but he doesn't play :( -: to be playing in those games --: "Here's the new mid laner, but I like to take him jungle" --: "With trinity force" During the game, I didn't ask any questions, but after the game I got the chance to ask a couple. [Here]( is conversation after, and a small pic of the earlier conversation I snagged before the game started. [Here]( is someone asking her what her ign was, and she confirms that it is indeed "astralfoxy". Blacked out other names n' stuff. INTERSTING FACTS/
astralfoxy played in champion spotlight for new champ He/she is not a fox, and the number of toes he/she has is unknown Apparently cute, and foxy seemed unsure about gender Possibly coming out next month Thoughts?
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2bgzue
So I've been dating this girl for three months. We have always gotten along well and had fun times together. We started off doing a few sexual things, and a lot of asking out. I should add that she has a sleeping disorder where she gets tired often, for long times. It's been quite a hard thing to deal with. But lately, she denies a large amount of my attempts to hang out because she's too tired, or because she feels like being alone. Not only that, but when we are together, she makes no attempt at making me feel wanted. Now the only time she kisses me is when I leave. And even I have to initiate that. Anything I can do, any advice, it's appreciated. And believe me, I make a large effort to make her feel loved. **
girlfriend makes no attempt to make me feel wanted physically anymore, despite my efforts.
throwawaymessages
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2bhzpp
So first off, I get insecure sometimes because of my past. An ex cheated on me a bunch of times and it was humiliating. It left my confidence shattered more because of embarrassment I guess. I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year and she's absolutely gorgeous. Once in a while I get flare ups of jealousy and insecurity and I can't stop. It was better until recently when I went away for a trip. I was gone for six weeks (in a place with awful internet and no service) so I didn't get to speak to her as much as I would've liked to, but it was an amazing opportunity. I had an urge to check her phone (I know.) and I noticed there were a lot of texts to one of her co-workers whom I've met. He's a nice guy but he has a girlfriend of two years and he's one of the ugliest guys I've ever seen. I guess they just vent to each other about work but it bothered me that they texted so often. I read through their conversation (I know.) and didn't find anything too concerning. I noticed they drank together one night but it was with his family moving him in. I confronted her about it and she apologized, claiming she thought she mentioned it. I also noticed that their conversation began a few days after I left and there was nothing before that. She has texts up to a year old in her phone from others, and I know that she has texted him between last October and this June when I left, but they're missing. I thought they were just cleaned for space or there was a limit to texts in iPhone conversations but there isn't. I'm really concerned right now. I know I have an issue with my insecurity, but I can't decide if my insecurity creates the problem, or it's a real concern. Help me out? Edit:
looked through my SO's phone, and saw she texted a co-worker a lot while I was away. She has year old text messages in her phone, yet their conversation "begins" in the start of June, when I know she texted him before that. I think the messages were deleted. Edit 2: It's hard to confront her about it because while she knows I have issues with insecurity and says she will support me, she instantly becomes offended that I don't trust her.
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2bi3is
To start off I am not going to leave my gf over this I just want advice on how to make changes. We have been dating/living together for a year now and we are starting long distance because shes transferring schools to save money. We have a wonderful relationship, and I look forward to spending my life with her. The only issue is the sex. She told me she used to have sex 20 times a week with her ex, but I'm lucky to have sex twice a month. This makes me feel like.shit I want to have it more often but she says the reason the difference is that I'm.bigger and it hurts her(which is true ive had to stop a few times). Before anyone suggests that I dont do anything for her in.bed, I make sure that she is satisfied before me every time. I also try to.initiate all the time(daily basis) and she'll let me get to the point where she orgasms and then I'm left to choke the chicken. Sorry if this seems like a rant and.useless because now we are going long distance and wont see eachother more than once a month but I dont know who to talk to because talking to her about.it doesn't seem to change anything. Maybe it is just a rant that I need to.get off my chest. (
how do I get my gf to have sex with me more often when her excuse is that it.hurts but she was able.to do 3 times a day with ex her reasoning was that.he was smaller.
Tawayrow
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_2bj3j2
I know that it is absolutely wrong and inappropriate to go through someone's private messages but when you leave it logged on someone's computer and have had a weird gut feeling one will be curious. So my SO left a message open to an ex co worker. He is one that I had a bad feeling about for sometime but she assured he was a friend and in a relationship (with further investigation he wasn't). Well in the message he was informing her that he would be coming to visit his family in the area and that they should hangout. She said ya but in the next message she sent him a picture of herself in her bikini saying to make sure to bring his swim suit. Now I was livid and pretty pissed. You're in a relationship with someone and you do that? So I confronted her about it, told her that I snooped but was glad that I did. Her excuse was that she didn't see it as being sexual but funny. Apparently her ex coworkers poked fun at her for being white and for never bringing her swimsuit to work for later. Also she said everyone was sending her messages that the new coworker is more attractive than her blah blah blah. She also said that she thinks she was unconsciously seeking validation that she was attractive. I always made sure to tell her how beautiful, hot, pretty, etc. she was. I mean she sent the same picture to me and I went off on how hot she was and what not. Am I wrong for being pissed and ending it. I mean isn't this emotional cheating that could have led to more. What guy in their right mind gets a private message of a girl in a bikini saying bring your swimsuit and finds that as a joke? I wasn't born last night. **
seriously just looking for some perspective and advice. Is there anyway that I'm in the wrong. Appreciate any input.
[deleted]
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_1dp2rr
I had been dating someone for a year and a half. Lets call him Ryan. We were happy, although I was worried about his age(19) because I have a daughter and didn't know if he would step up to growing up with me. Anyway, time passes and he moves in with my best friend lets call her Alli(21). Alli had always had a pass of fucking her friends over for guys and Ryan and I began to fight. ALOT. I reached out to friends and tried talking to my family about the situation. I didn't get much good advice except for one very good friend. We'll call him Samael(26). Back story on Samael and Alli. They had talked about dating but she slept with alot of guys during their "talking" phase. Samael hasn't had a girlfriend in 6 years and had been with very few women. He gave me genuine feedback and I began to develope feelings for him. Nothing ever happened besides innocent internet flirting. Alli, one day while I'm at work, gets into my facebook and see's everything. Screenshots it to Ryan and you can only imagine how the rest of the day went. Ryan and Alli didn't talk to me for a couple days. I became suspicious. Finally, Ryan and I talk and I apologize and explained my worries about him living with Alli and he moves back home and she is out of the picture. I didn't want them talking because my gut told me there was something going on. Time passed. We fought a lot over it. Lets move forward 4 months. I'm sitting at home. Ryan is at his friends for the day. I get a text from my daughter's father, Jim(22). He pours out to me telling me him(Jim) and Alli had gotten drunk and had sex and that she told him Ryan and her also slept together. I was in shock. He sent me screenshots of her saying it happened over text. I finally knew what my gut was telling me this whole time was true. Alli admit it happened, Ryan admit it happened. I got no sympathy and they showed little to no remorse. But I stayed with Ryan anyway. Don't ask me why. OH HERE'S A CATCH ALSO. Alli has hpv. Ryan knew it. didn't tell me. now I have it. Anways. Time passes. I become sickened by everything that happened. And Samael and I start talking again. We have a connection like I've never had with anyone. It is like a silent understanding. Again, I talk to him about Ryan and I. Our issues. Everything is fine. I decide I want to start talking about moving in with Ryan and asked him if he wanted to start planning. He said he wasn't ready and said he didn't see himself doing any of that with me. So I broke up with him. Time passes and I become very close to Samael. You could say we're "talking". We are great together. I've never felt like I fit with someone so much. The problem is, Ryan lives literally right next door to me. He is close to my daughter and I will see him sometimes outside and I will take my daughter over to let his parents see her. One day, my daughter and I are outside playing. and she see's Ryan outside. Runs up to him and wouldn't let me take her from him. So he asks if he can take her to mcdonalds and to the park. I wasn't sure what to say. It hurt to say no because I knew my daughter didn't deserve to lose someone just being mommy doesn't want to be with him anymore. it had nothing to do with her. so i said yes but decided i would go with to put myself at ease. everything goes fine but my guilt rises and i feel like i should tell samael. but i don't. i am such a coward. after we get back i give her a bath and tuck her into bed. Ryan tells me he wants to talk and it's important and so I go to his house and begin talking to him. he says he wants to work things out and move in together. i didn't agree and explained I needed time alone. and we wind up having sex. that night was one of the worst nights. i was overwhelmed with guilt and remorse. i knew i had to tell Samael and we had plans to go stay the night together at a friends, away from everyone. I had planned on telling him that night in the car. Until the next day. Ryan called me asking me how I got to work (Samael took me) and I tried lying about it so I didn't have to face telling him about another guy in my life. And finally, I just told him. Everything. I had been sexually involved with Samael. I really liked him. everything. and he goes brezerk. (This is all going on while i'm at work(starbucks). yesterday) He comes up to work during happy hour. stares at me the whole time. gets up and tells me to have a good day before messaging Samael. Telling him we had been dating and we had been hooking up this whole time. That he is warning Samael about me. That I'm heartless and a liar. Ryan is harrassing me and Samael both. And I try calling Samael. I get nothing. He will not speak to me. Doesn't respond to texts. Definitely doesn't answer calls. He hasn't been with a lot of girls so you can imagine how horrible this is for him to hear. That night (last night), I get Ryan's things together and set them infront of his front door, go back inside and text him saying his stuff is out there. Well that threw him off and he comes banging on my window telling me to come outside and give him an explanation. I can't. what is wrong with me. I just can't find an explanation. Still can't. His parents eventually had to come get him from outside for being too loud. It breaks my heart seeing him act like that because I know he's just so hurt. But all I can think about is Samael. I try calling, nothing. Again, nothing. Next day (today), He finally texts me. Telling me he'll talk to me tonight after i get off work. So I guess what I'm asking you, Reddit. Is what could I possibly say to make this better? Besides the truth, obviously. What do I say? Please help. bold
my ex told the guy I really care about we have been together and I have 8 hours to confess that I mistakenly slept with him and couldn't have made a bigger mistake.
sweet_nuggets
relationships
t5_2qjvn
t3_1dqbuv
So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 and a half years, we started hanging out in high school where she had a boyfriend of 3 years, nothing romantic, just hanging out as friends. She then broke up with her boyfriend for their own reasons. I thought nothing of it, since Me and her were just friends. About 2-3 months later I started falling in love with this girl, and I guess she did too, since we had a very good relationship for about 2 years before our first big fight where we almost broke up. We started long distance because of college, we see each other every 2-3 weeks for the weekends. Since last week we stopped talking as often as we do. She said it was because I wasn't paying attention to her, only after I was done with my studies. During the period that we were not talking, I see that she friended her ex, this shocked me as my girlfriend and I always talk about everything, so trust is not an issue. But when she did this, I felt she betrayed that trust. I confronted her about it, and she told me "everybody is over it". I accepted him because if I didn't he would think I still felt something for him. Alright, I said and decided to let it go but told her I was losing my trust towards her, she said she would do something to make up for it. Since then, we've talked 1-2 times a day by text. I've called her twice and and left a voicemail once where I ask to call me back the next day, she doesn't, just text. This was all last week. Fast forward to yesterday, she goes out with friends, and after studying I see Facebook and see my newsfeed where she liked one of her ex's pictures.. Call me crazy, but I did not expect her to do this after she told me she would try to help our trust issues. My emotions are driving me crazy, I'm mad, I'm sad, I don't know what to do, so i need some advice as to what to do. [
my girlfriend and I are becoming more distant, while I believe my girlfriend is reconnecting with her bf.
irishrose7777
relationship_advice
t5_2r0cn
t3_1duppo
I've noticed my best friend, has been acting differently lately. When she's around her boyfriend, she usually gets quiet and looks down. She's told me he gets jealous when she talks to anyone else, even me. However, she did kind of cheat on him (through text, not physically) so that could be why he's been getting jealous. I've asked her, and she says everything's fine. I haven't seen him hurt her or say anything to her, he's pretty polite to her, usually, but he's very self conscious and I've noticed since she's been with him she's been less confident and hasn't been eating a lot (her parents know this). I'm biased against him, though, because he and I don't get along. I also have very little experience in relationships at all, and don't know what to look for. So, basically,
my friend's been acting weird, I don't know whether my prejudice against him is affecting my judgement. I have know idea how to go about this sensitive subject.
SkaTSee
leagueoflegends
t5_2rfxx
t3_1dvabt
Quite some time ago, there was a post on here, and I cannot remember if it was the whole aim of the post or not, but somebody had shared a method for quickly reconnecting to a game from your desktop, without going through the launcher or the login screen. I remember it being somewhere in the Riot Games directory, just a simple (i'd imagine executable file) that you can double click and it will launch straight into the game you were in. I had it for quite some time, maybe a little less than a year, and I recently reinstalled the game hoping it would fix my frequent crashing (it didn't, fail client is still fail) and now my shortcut doesn't work because I had changed the directory that it was at before, and I can't even view where the shortcut was linked to previously because it doesn't exist anymore (probably a really bad fragmented run on sentence, please forgive me). So yeah,
anybody know where the quick reconnect file in the directory is?