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group RCTs Cross - Over Randomized Clinical Trials related to TMD. One of those had three groups: (1) a well - adjusted soft stabilization This is an excellent design to use when the appliance, (2) TMD self - management instruc- effects from an evaluation or treatment can tions, and (3) a no- t reatment control group. be completely eliminated, because it uses the Subjects provided the soft stabilization subjects as their own controls. This design appliance obtained signifi cant TMD symptom generally contains one intervention or control, improvement, subjects provided the TMD a β washout β phase lasting several days to a self - management obtained nonsignifi cant week to ensure the effects are completely TMD symptom improvement, and subjects in eliminated, followed by another intervention the no - treatment control group had a slight or control. This design may contain more increase in their TMD symptoms.5 8 than two interventions or control phases with Prior to performing the second parallel - washout periods between each. group RCTs, I had observed that some This design has been used to evaluate patients obtain signifi cant TMD symptom which chewing or clenching activities may improvement from posture training alone, and promote TMD symptoms,6 0 whether taking I had heard about a TMD clinic that primar- estrogen increases an individual β s susceptibility ily treated its TMD patients through posture for developing TMD symptoms,6 1 whether training. There had been several studies that taking a sleep medication is benefi cial for compared the posture of TMD patients with TMD symptoms, 62 and whether wearing 342 P A R T V I F U N D A M E N T A L S O F C L I N I C A L S T U D I E S various appliances is benefi cial for relieving I would like to learn more about, and pub- TMD symptoms.6 3 lishers have been very receptive to publishing One cross - over study I often cite, support- these clinical reviews. I believe it is important ing the need to carefully adjust soft stabiliza- to organize and present the synthesized tion appliances, is one in which symptom - free material in the most easily comprehendible bruxing subjects were provided a well - adjusted manner possible, and photographs or illustra- hard acrylic stabilization appliance and a soft tions are often needed to help explain the stabilization appliance that was not adjusted concepts presented. If you have not previously in excursive jaw positions. The subjects were had your work published in a scientifi c randomly assigned as to which appliance each journal, I recommend you begin with this received fi rst, both groups had a 1 - week type of literature review or a case report. washout period in which they did not use any appliance, and then each subject received the FOCAL POINT other appliance. When the ten subjects wore If you have not previously had your work the hard acrylic appliance, eight had a signifi - published in a scientifi c journal, I recommend cant reduction of muscle activity, but when you begin with a literature review or case report. they wore the soft appliance, only one had a signifi cant reduction of muscle activity and Meta - analyses fi ve had a signifi cant increase in muscle activity. 63 These are reviews of prior studies that statisti- cally pool the data from two or more compa- Other Types of Publications You May Want rable clinical trials. It became popular in the to Consider medical literature around the 1980s, and now hundreds of meta- a nalyses are published in The following are not clinical trials, but they the medical literature each year. They gener- synthesize previously published information ally combine data to estimate the effectiveness to provide additional information to the of a particular intervention.6 6 profession. In order to improve the quality of meta - analyses, a group of clinical epidemiologists, Literature Reviews clinicians, statisticians, editors, and researchers met to identify items they thought should be A literature review can be over a specifi c included in a meta- a nalysis. They developed a subject that is not well understood by many QUOROM (Quality of Reporting of Meta - dentists. Early in my dental career, I did not analysis) statement, which consists of a feel comfortable with my understanding of checklist and a fl ow diagram. This statement incomplete tooth fractures, so I performed a can be found through the web site h ttp:// literature review to better learn how to www.consort-statement.org and is provided in prevent, diagnose, and treat them. After Turpin 58 and Moher et al.6 7 synthesizing the information, I wrote a If you are planning to perform a meta - manuscript to help other dentists better analysis, I recommend you follow the comprehend this information. 64 QUOROM statement and work with a I performed similar literature reviews on statistician experienced with meta - analyses. the NTI and the soft stabilization appli- An example of a meta- a nalysis in the TMD ances. 55,65 I enjoy performing these reviews, literature is one that included the data from because they expand my knowledge in an area 31 studies to evaluate whether a history of P A R T V I F U N D A M E N T A L S O F C L I N I C A L S T U D I E S 343 orthodontic treatment is associated with reviews is that some authors allow their an increased TMD prevalence. The results personal biases to sway their discussions and did not indicate that traditional orthodontic conclusions. treatment increased the prevalence of If you plan to write a systematic review, TMD.6 8 Baccaglini et al.8 1 and Rinchuse et al.7 4 provide recommendations for conducting a Systematic Reviews systematic review, and the Overview Quality Assessment Questionnaire (OQAQ) provides Systematic reviews were developed in the validated criteria for various aspects of 1990s to provide a systematic approach to research review articles. The OQAQ is handling the large quantities of information provided in Oxman et al., 82 and many authors accumulating in the medical literature. The recommend these aspects be present in quality of systematic reviews greatly varies, high - quality research reviews.8 2 β 84 their methodology quality continues to improve, and they are often considered the highest level of research evidence. The CONSIDERATIONS IN ASSESSING CLINICAL Cochrane Collaboration is a well- k nown TRIALS organization that manages systematic reviews and an excellent location for viewing There are more than a hundred grading scales them. 69 β 73 used to assess a studyβ s quality and the A systematic review is extremely time importance of its results.1 2 The following is consuming to perform. It entails a compre- not meant to provide another rating system hensive search of relevant studies, uses rigor- but just to provide a list of general thoughts ous methods for appraisal, collection, and that may be pondered when reading the synthesis of data, and should provide more report of a clinical study. reliable and accurate conclusions. They often include a meta- a nalysis of homogeneous data Hypothesis: Was the study β s hypothesis from comparable studies.7 1,72 appropriate for our current state of knowledge on this subject? FOCAL POINT Ethics: Were the provided interventions Systematic reviews are extremely time consum- (or nonintervention) ethically appropriate ing to perform. to perform on humans? Generalizable: To what patient population Systematic reviews are also being performed are the results generalizable? Are these the for subjects related to TMD. There are patients you treat? systematic reviews on TMD prevalence Randomization: Were the subjects random- associations with orthodontic therapy, 74 ized to the various groups? Does the orthognathic surgery, 75 generalized joint randomization procedure appear hypermobility, 74 and occlusal characteris- appropriate? tics. 74,76 There are also systematic reviews Mask: Were the subjects masked as to which evaluating effi cacy of TMD therapies from group they were assigned? Were the study β s EMG biofeedback,7 4 stabilization appli- staff members also masked as to the groups ances, 77,78 and occlusal adjustments,7 4,79 in subjects were assigned? addition to other occlusal therapies. 77,80 One Control group: Was a control group one of the criticism I fi nd from reading systematic groups? If so, what type of control group 344 P A R T V I F U N D A M E N T A L S O F C L I N I C A L S T U D I E S was used? Did all groups have a similar When the motivation for performing a amount of staff - patient interaction? clinical trial is to advance the state of our Outcome measures: Were the measures valid knowledge, each of the various clinical studies and reliable? Were they the standard being generally benefi ts the profession and society. used for this type of study? Occasionally the motivation is for political or Follow - up: Were the subjects followed for a economic gain, and every fi eld of medicine long enough period of time? Did a suffi - has suffered from improperly motivated cient number of subjects return (85% is a investigators.3 rough estimate of what should be the lower I believe the best TMD research generally limit; see explanation in β N onrandomized comes from university - based TMD programs, Clinical Trial β above)? Was there anything because they have a large pool of TMD unique about the subjects who dropped out patients, enabling them to easily conduct or did not return for follow- u p that needs randomized clinical trials. Their faculties are to be accounted for? also generally experienced in conducting Results: Were the statistically signifi cant clinical trials and can help less experienced fi ndings also clinically signifi cant? researchers as problems or questions arise. Conclusions: Are the conclusions supported Access to a good infrastructure (e.g., an IRB, by the study β s fi ndings? experienced statistician, dental/medical library) is extremely helpful for conducting these When you read a study, be cautious about studies. Any practitioner with a good pool of the conclusions the author draws from the TMD patients could use the resources from a collected data, for some authors may be university or another institution and perform overly enthusiastic about the importance of excellent clinical trials, as I did in the Air Force. their fi ndings. An example of this comes from Private practitioners interested in participat- a joke I read many years ago. This hypotheti- ing in clinical research may want to join a cal case series attempted to determine an practise - based research network in their region. association between what individuals chose I hope this section provided you with some from a buffet and an individual β s weight. direction as to how you can seek answers for The study identifi ed that 64% of the obese your burning questions and thoughts to individuals chose cottage cheese, while only consider when reading reports of clinical 3% of the normal - weight individuals chose trials. Once you eventually obtain the answer cottage cheese. Using this data, the authors to one of your questions, it then takes a great concluded that cottage cheese must be a deal of time and motivation to write the major contributor for American β s obesity manuscript and have it published. I wish you problem! the best in advancing our clinical knowledge in your area of interest, and I am thankful for CONCLUSIONS this opportunity to contribute to your success. The knowledge practitioners use to evaluate, diagnose, and treat patients comes from a REFERENCES range of personal clinical experiences and from evidence disclosed by carefully controlled 1. Pierson DJ . The top 10 reasons why manuscripts clinical trials. Therefore case reports, literature are not accepted for publication . Respir Care 2004 ; 49 ( 10 ): 1246 β 1252 . reviews, clinical trials, and systematic reviews 2. Rau JL . Searching the literature and selecting the right can each advance our current knowledge. references . Respir Care 2004 ; 49 ( 10 ): 1242 β 1245 . P A R T V I F U N D A M E N T A L S O F C L I N I C A L S T U |
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TMD Self - Management Therapies 5. Occlusal Appliance Care Instructions 6. Closure Muscle - Stretching Exercise 7. Posture Improvement Exercises 8. Laboratory Occlusal Appliance Instructions 9. Example of Dental Record Entries 10. Examples of Physical Therapy Consultations 11. Examples of Psychology Consultations 12. Working with Insurance Companies 13. Sources for Additional TMD Information FILES ON ACCOMPANYING CD Appendices 1. Referral Criteria for Hygienists.doc 2. Initial Patient Questionnaire.doc 3. TMJ Disc Displacements.doc 4. TMD Self - Management Therapies.doc 5. Occlusal Appliance Care Instructions.doc 6. Closure Muscle - Stretching Exercise.doc 7. Posture Improvement Exercises.doc 8. Laboratory Occlusal Appliance Instructions.doc 9. Example of Dental Record Entries.doc 349 350 A P P E N D I C E S 10. Examples of Physical Therapy Consultations.doc 11. Examples of Psychology Consultations.doc 12. Working with Insurance Companies.doc 13. Sources for Additional TMD Information.doc Appendices in Spanish Initial Patient Questionnaire in Spanish.doc TMD Self - management Therapies in Spanish.doc Occlusal Appliance Care Instructions in Spanish.doc Closure Muscle - stretching Exercise in Spanish.doc TMD Course Presentations Part I.ppt Part II.ppt Part III.ppt Part IV.ppt Part V.ppt TMD Course Manual TMD Manual.doc Appendix 1 Referral Criteria for Hygienists Consider referring patient for TMD evaluation when patient has: Pain in area of masticatory muscles or TMJs Muscle stiffness within masticatory system TMJ catching or locking New or developing: Posterior open bite Anterior open bite Shift in mandibular midline Frequent headaches Limited mandibular range of motion Less than 40 mm opening, including overlap Less than 7 mm right or left lateral Less than 6 mm protrusive Consider referring patient for stabilization appliance when patient has: Excessive tooth wear Mobile teeth History of fracturing teeth Nighttime grinding that bothers bed partner 351 Appendix 2 Initial Patient Questionnaire Name: ________________________________________ Date: ________________________ 1. On the diagram below, please shade the areas of your pain: Right Left 2. When did your pain/problem begin? _____________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ 3. What seemed to cause it to start? ________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ 4. What makes it feel worse? ____________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ 353 354 A P P E N D I C E S 5. What makes it feel better? ____________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ 6. What treatments have you received? ____________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________ 7. When is your pain the worst? When fi rst wake up ___ Later in the day ___ No daily pattern ___ Other ___ 8. What does the pain keep you from doing? ________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 9. Is your pain (check as many as apply): Ache ___ Pressure ___ Dull ___ Sharp ___ Throbbing ___ Burning ___ Other ___ 10. Does your pain: Wake you up at night? Yes ___ No ___ Increase when you lie down? Yes ___ No ___ Increase when you bend forward? Yes ___ No ___ Increase when you drink hot or cold beverages? Yes ___ No___ 11. Please circle the number below to indicate your present pain level. (No pain) 0 - 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6 - 7 - 8 - 9 - 10 (The worst pain imaginable) 12. Please circle your average pain level during the past 6 months. (No pain) 0 - 1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6 - 7 - 8 - 9 - 10 (The worst pain imaginable) 13. Is your pain always present? Yes ___ No ___ How often do you have it? _______________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 14. Please describe any other symptoms that you associate with your problem. ______________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 15. Have you had: Head or neck surgery? Yes ___ No ___ Whiplash or trauma to your head or neck? Yes ___ No ___ Shingles on your head or neck? Yes ___ No ___ A P P E N D I C E S 355 16. Do you have: A fever? Yes ___ No ___ Nasal congestion or stuffi ness? Yes ___ No ___ Movement diffi culties of your facial muscles, eyes, mouth, or tongue? Yes ___ No ___ Numbness or tingling? Yes ___ No ___ Problems with your teeth? Yes ___ No ___ Swelling over your jaw joint or in your mouth or throat? Yes ___ No ___ A certain spot that triggers your pain? Yes ___ No ___ Recurrent swelling or tenderness of joints other than in your jaw joint? Yes ___ No ___ Morning stiffness in your body, other than with your jaw? Yes ___ No ___ Muscle tenderness in your body (other than in your head or neck) for more than 50% of the time? Yes ___ No ___ 17. Is your problem worse: When swallowing or turning your head? Yes ___ No ___ After reading or straining your eyes? Yes ___ No ___ 18. Do your jaw joints make noise? Yes ___ No ___ If yes, which: Right ___ Left ___ 19. Have you ever been unable to open your mouth wide? Yes ___ No ___ If yes, please explain: __________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 20. Have you ever been unable to close your mouth? Yes ___ No ___ If yes, please explain: _________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 21. Do you sleep well at night? Yes ___ No ___ Please explain: _________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 22. How often are you tense, aggravated, or frustrated during a usual day? Always ___ Half the time ___ Seldom ___ Never ___ 23. How often do you feel depressed during a usual day? Always ___ Half the time ___ Seldom ___ Never ___ 24. Do you have thoughts of hurting yourself or committing suicide? Yes ___ No ___ 25. Do you play a musical instrument and/or sing more than 5 hours in a typical week? Yes ___ No ___ 356 A P P E N D I C E S 26. What percent of the day are your teeth touching? ____% 27. Are you aware of clenching or grinding your teeth: When sleeping? ___ While driving? ___ When using a computer? ___ Other times? ___ Not aware? ___ 28. Are you aware of oral habits such as: Chewing your cheeks? ___ Chewing objects? ___ Biting your nails or cuticles? ___ Tapping your teeth together? ___ Thrusting your jaw? ___ Other habits? ___ Not aware? ___ 29. What treatment do you think is needed for your problem? __________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 30. Is there anything else you think we should know about your problem? _________________ _________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________ 31. If your age is 50 or older, please circle the correct response: Does your pain occur only when you eat? Yes ___ No ___ Are you pain free when you open wide? Yes ___ No ___ Do you have unexplainable scalp tenderness? Yes ___ No ___ Are you experiencing unexplainable or unintentional weight loss? Yes ___ No ___ Do you have signifi cant morning stiffness lasting more than a half |
hour? Yes ___ No ___ Do you have visual symptoms or a visual loss? Yes ___ No ___ To the best of my knowledge the above information is correct and I give permission for a written report to be sent to my referring and treating doctors and dentists. Signature___________________________ Date___________________________ (Readers choosing to use this questionnaire agree to indemnify and hold the publisher and author harmless for all losses, liabilities, damages [including indirect, special, or consequential], and expenses [including attorneys β fees].) Appendix 3 TMJ Disc Displacements 357 Appendix 4 TMD Self - Management Therapies Your dentist determined you have a temporomandibular disorder that is often referred to as TMD. The β T β in TMD stands for the temple, β M β for the mandible or jaw, and β D β for a disorder within this complex. This disorder is usually due to an overuse of this system. We use this system for many activities (talking, eating, yawning, laughing) and, when we are not engaged in these, we need to allow our jaw muscles and joints to relax. Many people have developed habits that do not permit their muscles or joints to relax for a suffi cient amount of time. The following will help instruct you on how to reduce the TMD pain you are having: 1. Massage your painful muscles, as you fi nd this benefi cial. Use your index, middle, and ring fi ngers in a rolling motion over your skin with a pressure slightly greater than what is needed to produce your pain. a. When massaging the masseter muscle (jaw muscle), some patients prefer to simulta- neously place their thumb inside their mouths and apply a counterforce with it. This works best if the right hand is used to massage the left masseter muscle and the left hand is used to massage the right masseter muscle. b. Some patients fi nd it benefi cial to locate and knead the most painful portion of the muscle for approximately 1 minute. Be careful not to hurt yourself by too aggres- sively massaging your muscles. 2. Apply heat, ice, or a combination of heat and ice to the painful areas. Determine and use whichever provides you with the greatest amount of relief; most patients prefer heat. a. Use heat for 20 minutes two or four times each day. Some patients prefer to use moist heat, whereas others fi nd dry heat just as effective and less of a hassle. Moist heat can be obtained by wetting a thin washcloth with very warm water. The washcloth can then be kept warm by wrapping it around a hot water bottle or placing it against a heating pad separated by a piece of plastic wrap. b. Use the combination of heat and ice two to four times each day. Apply heat to the painful area for approximately 5 minutes (less if it aggravates your pain). Then apply an ice cube wrapped in a thin washcloth. c. Apply ice wrapped in a thin washcloth until you fi rst feel some numbness and then remove it (this usually takes about 10 minutes). 359 360 A P P E N D I C E S 3. Eat soft foods like casseroles, canned fruits, soups, eggs, and yogurt. Do not chew gum or eat hard foods (e.g., raw carrots) or chewy foods (e.g., caramels, steak, and bagels). Cut other foods into small pieces, evenly divide the food on both sides of your mouth, and chew on both sides. 4. Avoid caffeine because it stimulates your muscles to contract and hold tension. Caffeine or caffeine - like drugs are found in coffee, tea, most sodas, and chocolate. Decaffeinated coffee also has some caffeine, whereas Sanka has none. 5. Your teeth should never touch except lightly when you swallow. Closely monitor yourself for a clenching or grinding habit. People often clench their teeth when they are irritated, drive a car, use a computer, or concentrate. Learn to keep your jaw muscles relaxed, teeth separated, and tongue resting lightly on the roof of your mouth just behind your upper front teeth. 6. Observe for and avoid additional habits that put unnecessary strain on your jaw muscles and joints. Some habits include, but are not limited to, resting your teeth together; tapping your teeth together; resting your jaw on your hand; biting your cheeks, lips, fi ngernails, cuticles, or any other objects you may put in your mouth; pushing your tongue against your teeth; and holding your jaw in an uncomfortable or tense position. 7. Posture appears to play a role in TMD symptoms. Try to maintain good head, neck, and shoulder posture. You may fi nd that a small pillow or rolled towel supporting your lower back may be helpful. Ensure you maintain good posture when using a computer and avoid poor postural habits such as cradling the telephone against your shoulder. 8. Your sleep posture is also important. Avoid positions that strain your neck or jaw, such as stomach sleeping. If you sleep on your side, keep your neck and jaw aligned. 9. Set aside time once or twice a day to relax and drain the tension from your jaw and neck. Patients often benefi t from simple relaxation techniques such as sitting in a quiet room while listening to soothing music, taking a warm shower or bath, and slow deep breathing. Once you have learned to relax and drain the tension from your jaw and neck, continually monitor these. Whenever tension is observed, release it. 10. Restrain from opening your mouth wide, such as yawning, yelling, or prolonged dental procedures. 11. Use anti - infl ammatory and pain- reducing medications, such as Aleve, ibuprofen, Tylenol, and aspirin, to reduce joint and muscle pain. Avoid those with caffeine, e.g., Anacin, Excedrin, or Vanquish. There is no cure for TMD, and you may need to follow these instructions for the rest of your life. Your dentist may suggest other therapies in addition to these instructions. No single therapy has been shown to be totally effective for TMD, and a percentage of patients receiving therapies report no symptom improvement (i.e., 10β 2 0% of patients receiving occlusal appli- ances report no improvement). Based on your symptoms and identifi ed contributing factors, an individualized treatment approach will be recommended that may be revised as your symptom response is observed. Appendix 5 Occlusal Appliance Care Instructions Your appliance is designed to protect and stabilize your jaw muscles and joints. It should help you feel more comfortable and allow healing to occur. It is adjusted to hit evenly on your back teeth. As your muscles relax and your TMJ infl ammation resolves, it is common for your bite on the appliance to change so that your back teeth no longer hit evenly. Your appliance will need to be periodically adjusted for these changes. To maximize the benefi ts derived from your appliance, follow these recommendations: 1. Do not bite on your appliance. The appliance is a reminder to help you learn to keep your teeth apart and jaw muscles and tongue relaxed. Constantly monitor your jaw position and tension, and remember to keep your tongue up and teeth off of the appliance. 2. It is normal for the appliance to feel tight when you fi rst put it in. If your appliance hurts your teeth or gums, leave it out and come back to have it adjusted. Occasionally the appli- ance may cause a temporary increase in jaw tension or joint noises, especially when you are fi rst getting used to wearing it. 3. Never wear your appliance when you eat. 4. Clean the inside and outside of your appliance at least daily with your toothbrush and toothpaste. It can be soaked with baking soda or a denture- c leaner solution to help clean it. 5. When you are not wearing your appliance: a. Be careful where you place it, because it is very fragile. b. Do not let it lie around, because dogs and cats enjoy chewing on such items. c. Do not leave it in a warm place (e.g., inside your car on a warm day), because it may warp. d. If your appliance will be out of your mouth for more than 8 hours, store it in a moist environment. You can place it with a few drops of water in a ziplock bag or marga- rine tub. 6. Some patients fi nd their appliance causes them to salivate, whereas others fi nd it causes them to have a dry mouth. This is generally only a temporary situation. 7. When you take your appliance out, your jaw may take a few seconds to adjust back to the way your teeth normally fi t together. 361 362 A P P E N D I C E S 8. ALWAYS BRING YOUR APPLIANCE TO ALL DENTAL APPOINTMENTS. In the beginning, it will need to be adjusted for the changes that occur with your muscles and TMJs. Any dental work (restorations, sealants, etc.) may cause it not to fi t and/or occlude properly, and it should be checked for changes. Appendix 6 Closure Muscle - Stretching Exercise People unconsciously stretch many of their muscles throughout the day. Patients who have jaw muscle stiffness or pain often fi nd a signifi cant improvement in their symptoms with this jaw - stretching exercise. Your dentist believes your symptoms will improve if you perform this simple jaw - stretching exercise six times a day, between 30 and 60 seconds each time, at the opening and duration you determine best for you. It is best to warm your jaw muscles before you stretch by opening and closing them slowly about ten times. You may also warm your muscles by applying heat to them (allow time for the heat to penetrate into your muscles). While stretching, you need to concentrate on relaxing your lips, facial muscles, and jaw. Do not bite on your fi ngers while stretching; they are only to give you a guide for the width you are stretching. To determine what opening and duration are best for you, the fi rst time you stretch, bend your index fi nger and place the middle knuckle between your upper and lower front teeth (see fi rst fi gure). Hold this position for 30 seconds. If this does not aggravate your symptoms, the second time you stretch, increase the time to 45 seconds. If this does not aggravate your symptoms, the next time increase it to 60 seconds. If this does not aggravate your symptoms, increase your opening width to two fi ngertips (see second fi gure) and cut your time back to 30 seconds. Continue increasing your time and opening in this manner, but do not go beyond three fi ngertips. Find the largest opening and duration that does not cause even the slightest discomfort or aggravation of your symptoms and use this each time you stretch. If you experi- ence any discomfort or aggravation, decrease your opening or time. 363 364 A P P E N D I C E S As your symptoms improve or if you have a fl are - up, you will need to increase or decrease this opening and time. Be very careful not to cause yourself any aggravation with this exercise, because this may hurt your progress. Patients report this exercise does not provide immediate symptom improvement, but takes about 1 β 2 weeks before benefi ts are noticed. Similarly, stopping does not cause immediate loss of these benefi ts, but also tends to take 1 β 2 weeks to be noticed. With the normal symptom fl uctuation most TMD patients experience, it is often diffi cult for them to relate their symptom improvement or aggravation to the starting or stopping of this exercise. Appendix 7 Posture Improvement Exercises INSTRUCTIONS Chin tucks Tuck your chin back over the notch above your sternum, so that your ear is in line with the tip of your shoulder. Chest stretch Stand in a doorway or at the corner of a room. Lean forward, with your hands on the wall, until you feel signifi cant stretch across the front of your chest. Do this exercise as requested in both positions. Wall stretch Stand with your back against the wall and your arms |
positioned as shown in the drawing. Straighten your upper back and fl atten your lower back against the wall. Press your head back with your chin down and in, and pull your elbows back against the wall. Do this exercise as requested in both positions. On - your - back neck stretch Lie on your back with your hands clasped behind your head. As you exhale, slowly bring your elbows together touching in front of your face. As you inhale, slowly draw the elbows apart until they touch the fl oor. Face - down arm lifts Lie on your stomach as shown in the drawings (position 1 has the elbows at shoulder level and bent at 90 Β° , whereas position 2 has elbows at ear level). Lift your arms, head, and chest off the fl oor and repeat until you can only move 50% through the range or to fatigue. Do this in both positions. If these exercises cause any discomfort or aggravate your pain, discontinue them until you can discuss this with your provider. Stretching should be done in a slow, gradual, easy, and painless manner. Move to the point of mild tension and hold. Do not bounce! 365 366 A P P E N D I C E S EXERCISES Chin Tucks Perform: 10 times on the hour Hold: 5 seconds Chest Stretch Perform: 3 times a day, 2 repetitions Hold: 15 seconds Wall Stretch Perform: 3 times a day, 2 repetitions Hold: 15 seconds A P P E N D I C E S 367 On - Your - Back Neck Stretch Perform: before you retire, 10 repetitions Face - Down Arm Lifts Perform: once a day, 5 days/week Appendix 8 Laboratory Occlusal Appliance Instructions MAXILLARY OR MANDIBULAR IMPAK STABILIZATION APPLIANCE Please: 1. Debubble the cast(s) and block out (1) deep grooves on and between the teeth, and (2) all undercuts, with the exception of no blockout in the buccal embrasures of the posterior teeth. After mounting casts, adjust the incisal pin so the applianceβ s minimum occlusal thickness is 3 mm. 2. Extend the fl anges so that (1) the facial extent is carried 2 mm below the interproximal contact for the anterior and posterior teeth, and (2) the lingual portion extends __ mm (5 mm for maxillary and 10 mm for mandibular) from the gingival margin, keeping it short of the vestibule and tori. 3. Fabricate the occlusal surface so the surface is fl at without cuspal indentations, the nonsup- porting posterior cusps are not in contact, the protrusive and canine guidances provide minimal posterior disocclusion (1/2β 1 m m), and the occlusal line angles are rounded. Please make the facial fl ange so it is 1 mm thick and fl ows with the contours of the teeth and make the lingual fl ange so it is only 1 mm thick. Thank you. MAXILLARY OR MANDIBULAR 0.15- I NCH SOFT THERMOPLASTIC APPLIANCE OR DUAL LAMINATE THERMOPLASTIC APPLIANCE Please debubble cast(s) and do not block out undercuts. Extend the fl anges so that (1) the facial extent is carried to the gingival margin, and (2) the lingual portion extends __ mm (5 mm for maxillary and 10 mm for mandibular) from the gingival margin, keeping it short of the vesti- bule and tori. For the dual laminate thermoplastic appliance, once the dual laminate material is on the articulator, adjust the incisal pin so the closest opposing tooth is 1 mm from the occlusal 369 370 A P P E N D I C E S surface, enabling the thickness of the added acrylic to be 1 m m or more. Please add acrylic to the occlusal surface so the occlusal surface is fl at without cuspal indentations, the non- supporting posterior cusps are not in contact, the protrusive and canine guidances provide minimal posterior disocclusion (1/2β 1 m m), and the occlusal line angles are rounded. Thank you. MAXILLARY OR MANDIBULAR 2- MM HARD THERMOPLASTIC APPLIANCE OR ACRYLIC STABILIZATION APPLIANCE Please: 1. Debubble the cast(s) and block out (1) deep grooves on and between the teeth, and (2) all undercuts, with the exception of no blockout in the buccal embrasures of the posterior teeth. 2. Extend the acrylic so that (1) the buccal extent is carried 1/2 mm below the height of contour for the posterior teeth, (2) the labial extent is carried only 1β 1 1/2 m m beyond the incisal edge of the anterior teeth, and (3) the lingual portion extends __ mm (5 m m for maxillary and 10 mm for mandibular) from the gingival margin, keeping it short of the vestibule and tori. 3. For the acrylic stabilization appliance, adjust the incisal pin so the appliance β s minimum occlusal thickness is 3 m m. Fabricate the occlusal surface so the surface is fl at without cuspal indentations, the nonsupporting posterior cusps are not in contact, the protrusive and canine guidances provide minimal posterior disocclusion (1/2β 1 m m), and the occlusal line angles are rounded. Please make the facial acrylic so it is 1 mm thick and fl ows with the contours of the teeth, and make the lingual fl ange so it is only 1 mm thick. Thank you. Appendix 9 Example of Dental Record Entries INITIAL EXAM S: Comprehensive TMD evaluation; CC: constant Rt preauricular dull/pressure pain, 4/10 upon awaking and 1/10 later in the day. Approximately once a week, she also awakes with 2/10 Rt temporal pain lasting approximately 2 hours. The pain began approximately 3 months ago after an increase in stress at work. The β I nitial Patient Questionnaireβ responses were reviewed with Pt. O: Soft tissue and teeth were WNL. Palpation of selected masticatory and cervical structures revealed tenderness of her Rt and Lt masseter and Rt temporalis muscles, and Rt TMJ. The Rt masseter and Rt temporalis muscle palpations reproduced her pain complaints. A reciprocal click was present in her Rt TMJ. ROM: 38 m m opening, 6/6/5 (right lateral, left lateral, and protrusive). A: Clinical TMD Dx: Myofascial pain, Rt TMJ infl ammation, and Rt TMJ disc displacement with reduction. Nocturnal and daytime parafunctional habits (Pt relates her teeth are touching 30% of the day), tension, and caffeine consumption appear to be her major perpetuating contributing factors. P: Explained to Pt the mechanics of her Rt TMJ reciprocal click. Written and oral TMD self - management instructions given; Pt agreed to decrease her caffeine consumption to 1 cup of coffee a day. Max and man alginate imp and interocclusal record made for fab of a max acr stabilization appliance that Pt to wear at night. Pt reappt in 2 weeks for insertion of occlusal appliance. INSERTION APPOINTMENT Re: Myofascial pain, Rt TMJ infl ammation, and Rt TMJ disc displacement with reduction. Pt reports slt improvement, which she attributes to implementing the TMD self - management instructions. Her Rt preauricular pain upon awaking is now 3/10, and she has only intermit- tent 1/10 daytime symptoms; she continues to have weekly 2/10 Rt temporal pain. Ins max acr 371 372 A P P E N D I C E S stabilization appliance for Pt to wear at night. Written and oral appliance care instr given. Pt reappt in 3 weeks for follow - up. FOLLOW - UP Re: Myofascial pain, Rt TMJ infl ammation, and Rt TMJ disc displacement with reduction. Pt reports signifi cant symptom improvement and has only 1/10 preauricular morning pain approximately once a week. Adj stabilization appliance and Pt reappt in 2 months for follow - up or to RTC sooner if improvement does not continue. FOLLOW - UP Re: Myofascial pain, Rt TMJ infl ammation, and Rt TMJ disc displacement with reduction. Pt reports as long as she wears her appliance at night she has no TMD discomfort. ROM: 48 mm opening, palpation of selected masticatory structures revealed minimal tenderness, and recipro- cal click is still present in Rt TMJ. Adj stabilization appliance and Pt to wear appliance nightly. Pt to RTC annually for follow - up or sooner if symptoms return, appliance needs adj, or another problem develops. Appendix 10 Examples of Physical Therapy Consultations Dentists commonly refer TMD patients to physical therapists to improve TMD pain, TMJ function, range of motion, daytime or sleeping postures, and/or neck symptoms. In addition to improving a patient β s symptoms, a goal in physical therapy is to teach the patient to maintain this improvement, which is typically done through home exercise the patient is taught. Physical therapy performed in conjunction with occlusal appliance therapy may attain better improve- ment in TMD symptoms than occlusal appliance therapy alone. Two examples are presented below: the fi rst is a patient whose TMD symptoms are limited to the masticatory system, and the second is a patient who has concomitant neck pain and the physical therapist is requested to treat just the cervical myofascial pain. These referrals can be made on a prescription pad or offi ce stationery. If you commonly refer to a certain therapist, I recommend you ask the physical therapist for a referral pad, because it generally just requires fi lling in blanks and has a map to the facility for the patient. Many third - party payers require the requested frequency and duration of treatment be documented; two to three times a week for a month is a reasonable request, and generally third - party payers will allow practitioners to request β as therapist recommends. β Inform the physical therapist of any precautions he or she should be aware of (e.g., previous surgery, tumor, screws, or wires in the region) and medical disorders that could complicate therapy (e.g., angioedema). It is my preference to fax the physical therapist my initial evaluation fi ndings, so the thera- pist benefi ts from my referred pain observations, thoughts about the patient β s contributing factors, and my planned therapies. If the patient does not improve as anticipated, I telephone the therapist so we can discuss our perceptions for how we can escalate therapy. CC: Constant 6/10 Rt preauricular pain. Dx: Rt TMJ infl ammation, myofascial pain, and Rt TMJ disc displacement with reduction. Please evaluate and treat. Pt also relates she intermittently sleeps on her stomach and is unable to change this sleep position. Would you please help Pt break this habit? Thank you. Precautions: None. Pt was given an occlusal appliance and TMD self - management instructions. 373 374 A P P E N D I C E S CC: Constant 5/10 bilateral preauricular and masseter pain, and constant 5/10 neck pain. Dx: Masticatory and cervical myofascial pain. Please evaluate and treat Pt β s cervical disorder. Palpation of her cervical muscles reproduced her masticatory pain. It is believed that the local component of her masticatory symptoms can be adequately relieved through TMD therapy, but patient needs treatment of her neck pain to relieve the cervical component. Precautions: None. Pt was given TMD self - management instructions and will be given an occlusal appliance at her next appointment. Clinical experience suggests referring TMD patients to physical therapy for any of the following: 1. The patient has neck pain. TMD patients with neck pain do not respond to TMD therapy as well as those without neck pain. Some TMD symptoms primarily come from the neck, and physical therapy in conjunction with home exercises can provide long- t erm benefi t for neck pain. 2. The patient has cervicogenic headaches, which are headaches that originate in the neck, and clinically it appears TMD patients tend to hold more tension in their masticatory muscles when they have a headache. Therefore, TMD patients with cervicogenic headaches who have their neck treated should have fewer headaches and may also obtain substantial TMD symptom improvement. 3. The patient has moderate to severe forward head posture. These patients have been shown to be more likely to derive signifi cant TMD symptom improvement from posture exercises in combination with TMD self - management instructions. 4. The patient β s TMD symptoms increase with abnormal postural activities. Instructing these patients in body mechanics (teaching patients how to perform tasks without straining the body) should help them maintain good posture, thereby improving their TMD symptoms. 5. The patient desires help in changing poor sleep posture. Stomach sleeping perpetuates TMD and |
neck symptoms and, if a patient cannot stop sleeping on his or her stomach, physical therapists are trained to help patients change their sleep position. 6. The patient did not derive adequate TMD symptom relief from other therapies. Physical therapists are trained to treat musculoskeletal disorders throughout the body and can apply their skills to the masticatory system. 7. The patient is to have TMJ surgery. It has been shown that patients who receive physical therapy following TMJ surgery have better results. It is appropriate for these patients to be given a physical therapy referral prior to surgery in order that they may learn about and possibly start the postsurgical exercises, receive preauthorization approval from their insur- ance company, and schedule the recommended postsurgical appointments. Appendix 11 Examples of Psychology Consultations It is well recognized that daytime parafunctional habits, tension, stress, anxiety, anger, depres- sion, catastrophizing (thinking the worst of situations), pain- r elated beliefs, not coping well with β life β s stuff, β etc., negatively impact patients β TMD symptoms and their ability to improve with conservative TMD therapy. Cognitive - behavioral interventions are adjunctive TMD therapies that attempt to help patients reduce their daytime parafunctional habits and psycho- social contributing factors. Patients with signifi cant persistent daytime habits and/or psychosocial contributors often need additional help from a practitioner trained in cognitive- b ehavioral interventions. These interventions primarily encompass habit reversal, relaxation, hypnosis, biofeedback, stress management, and cognitive therapy (focuses on changing patientsβ distorted thoughts). It has been observed that some psychologists desire to perform psychological testing prior to the cognitive - behavioral intervention to identify which therapies may be most benefi cial for the patient. Other psychologists may provide a standard brief cognitive- b ehavioral intervention and may test only those patients who do not suffi ciently improve. Referring patients to a psychologist can be as easy as giving patients the psychologist β s name and asking them to make an appointment. At the initial visit, the patient would tell the psychologist the problem, and the psychologist would assess the patientβ s condition. It is my preference to fax the psychologist a note (as the examples below) to help him or her to better understand my concerns. As with the physical therapist, if the patient does not improve as anticipated, I telephone the psychologist so we can discuss our perceptions for how we can escalate therapy. Occasionally the physical therapist, psychologist, and I will confer about a complicated patient who is not improving as we anticipated. In the fi rst example, the psychologist will probably primarily use habit - reversal therapy and, in the second example, primarily use stress management therapy: Mrs. Jones has long - standing 6/10 daytime TMD symptoms that are primarily due to overload- ing her masticatory system from daytime oral habits. She has unsuccessfully attempted to break these habits on her own, and she is aware she touches her teeth together approximately 90% of the day and unconsciously squeezes them together when she becomes busy, frustrated, or deep in thought. Mrs. Jones would like your assistance to help her break her daytime oral 375 376 A P P E N D I C E S parafunctional habits. She has an occlusal appliance that she wears for her nocturnal oral parafunctional habits. Thank you. Miss Smith complains of 6/10 bilateral jaw pain, which was diagnosed as myofascial pain. Her primary contributing factor appears to be work - related stress. Her pain started 4 months ago, right after she started a new job that she fi nds very busy, hectic, and stressful. She would like to learn stress management and coping skills to better deal with her work situation. Would you please evaluate and treat as you feel is most appropriate? Thank you. Appendix 12 Working with Insurance Companies States that have laws that mandate medical insurance companies cover certain aspects of TMD therapy are Arkansas, California, Florida, Georgia, Illinois, Kentucky, Minnesota, Mississippi, Nebraska, Nevada, New Mexico, North Carolina, North Dakota, Texas, Vermont, Virginia, Washington, West Virginia, and Wisconsin. Small private insurance companies may be exempt from the law and may avoid covering these state - mandated procedures. The Patient Advocacy Group listed in β Sources For Additional TMD Information β (appen- dix 13 ) should be able to provide you with a copy of the portion of your state law that covers TMD mandated procedures. Additionally the American Academy of Orofacial Pain (also listed in appendix 1 3) has an Access to Care Committee that should be able to provide you with answers to many of your insurance questions. Electronic fi ling and proper coding tend to speed payment reimbursement and decrease the number of β m isplacedβ claim forms. Coding manuals and software are offered by one of the businesses listed in appendix 1 3. Medical TMD Diagnosis Codes ICD - 9 TMJ Disorders 524.60 Temporomandibular joint disorders, unspecifi ed 524.61 TMJ adhesion and ankylosis (bony or fi brous) 524.62 TMJ arthralgia (TMJ infl ammation, as used in this book) 524.63 Articular disc disorder (with or without reduction) 524.69 Other specifi ed temporomandibular joint disorders 830.1 TMJ dislocation 848.1 TMJ sprain or strain Muscular Disorders 728.85 Spasm of muscle (myospasm) 729.1 Myalgia and myositis (also use for myofascial pain) 377 378 A P P E N D I C E S Dental and medical TMD procedure codes CDT CPT Initial Visit D0150 Comprehensive oral evaluation (for normal TMD evaluation) D0160 Detailed and extensive oral evaluation (for complex TMD evaluation) D9310 Consultation D9920 Behavioral management, by report (for each 15 - minute increment) Treatment D7880 21110 Occlusal orthotic device, by report D9920 Behavioral management, by report (for each 15 - minute increment) Follow - Up D9920 Behavioral management, by report (for each 15 - minute increment) D9430 Offi ce visit for observation (no other services provided) Other Codes D0330 70355 Panoramic fi lm D0321 70328 Radiological examination, TMJ, open and closed mouth, unilateral D0321 70330 Radiological examination, TMJ, open and closed mouth, bilateral D0321 76101 Radiological examination, TMJ tomogram, unilateral D0321 76102 Radiological examination, TMJ tomogram, bilateral D0460 Pulp vitality tests D9110 Palliative (emergency) treatment of pain D9210 Local anesthesia not in conjunction with operative or surgical procedure D9610 Therapeutic drug injection, by report D9940 Occlusal guard, by report (for bruxism, if for TMD use D7880) D9942 Occlusal guard repair or chairside reline CPT Codes for Offi ce Visit and Consultation 99201 to 99205 New patient offi ce visit 99211 to 99215 Established patient offi ce visit 99241 to 99245 Offi ce consultation (for new or established patient) Sources: CDT: Current Dental Terminology 2009 β 2010. Chicago: American Dental Association, 2008. CPT: Current Procedural Terminology 2008. Chicago: American Medical Association, 2007. ICD - 9: International Classifi cation of Diseases ICD - 9 - CM 2008. Chicago: American Medical Association, 2007. Appendix 13 Sources for Additional TMD Information PATIENT BROCHURES Among the many pamphlets about TMD available from various sources, the following pam- phlets are preferred: 1. TMJ Disorders, brochure OP - 23. This is my favorite brochure and it is sponsored by the National Institute of Dental Research. It states that orthodontics, crowns, bridges, and occlusal adjustments have not been proven to be effectiveβ a nd may make the problem worse. The brochure is free (including shipping and handling) and can be viewed and ordered from the National Oral Health Information Clearinghouse online (up to 50 copies) at www.nidcr.nih.gov/OrderPublications/ or via telephone (301 - 402 - 7364). 2. TMD (TMD Patient Brochure) is another good brochure and written by American Academy of Orofacial Pain (AAOP) members. It can be viewed and ordered on their web site ( www.aaop.org/ and select β Publications β ) or via telephone (856 - 423 - 3629). PATIENT ADVOCACY GROUP The TMJ and Orofacial Pain Society of America is a nonprofi t organization that provides help with patient issues, publishes quarterly newsletters, and should be able to provide you with the mandated law insurance information for your state. Visit their web site (w ww.tmjsociety.org) or telephone them (916 - 444 - 1985). TMD PRACTICE MANAGEMENT BUSINESSES 1. TMData Resources offers practice development consultations and a full line of services exclusively for TMD and snoring practices. They write and distribute TMD - related and snoring - related educational materials for doctor education, patient education, and physician referrals. They support TMJ patients with information and a national list of doctors who 379 380 A P P E N D I C E S treat TMD. You can view their products and services ( www.tmdataresources.com ) or telephone them (800 - 533 - 5121). 2. Nierman Practice Management offers manuals and software for diagnostic and procedural codes, narrative reports, and other correspondence for collecting medical and dental insurance benefi ts for treatment of TMD. They also offer services for orthodontics, implants, general and esthetic dentistry, and sleep disorders. You can view their products and services ( www.rosenierman.com ) or telephone them (800 - 879 - 6468). PRACTITIONERS WITH TMD EXPERTISE AND FELLOWSHIP PROGRAMS I believe practitioners with the greatest clinical TMD expertise will be a Diplomate of the American Board of Orofacial Pain (ABOP). The names and locations of these individuals are listed on the ABOP web site (w ww.abop.net/ and select β D iplomate Directoryβ ) . A TMD or orofacial pain fellowship program would be another location one could fi nd practitioners with clinical TMD expertise. These programs are listed at w ww.aaop.org/ and select β E ducationβ followed by β Programs. β PROFESSIONAL TMD ORGANIZATIONS There are two primary TMD professional organizations. They provide educational meetings, offer staff training at their meetings, worked with the American Dental Association to make TMD a recognized specialty, have diplomate certifi cation boards, and each publishes one of the two journals listed below and provides other benefi cial activities: 1. American Academy of Orofacial Pain (AAOP). Their web site can be viewed at www.aaop. org. The AAOP Central Offi ce telephone number is 856 - 423 - 3629. 2. American Academy of Craniofacial Pain (AACFP). Their web site can be viewed at www. aacfp.org . The AACP Central Offi ce telephone number is 800 - 322 - 8651. TMD TEXTBOOKS The two outstanding TMD books are: 1. Okeson JP. Management of Temporomandibular Disorders and Occlusion, 6th ed. St. Louis: CV Mosby, 2008. Telephone 800 - 621 - 0387. 2. American Academy of Orofacial Pain. de Leeuw R (ed). Orofacial Pain: Guidelines for Assessment, Diagnosis and Management, 4th ed. Chicago: Quintessence, 2008. Telephone 800 - 621 - 0387. TMD STUDIES TMD studies can be found in most dental and medical journals. The fi rst two names below are journals that are dedicated primarily to TMD, and the third is a 16- p age publication, printed 6 times a year, entailing recent TMD articles and their summaries: A P P E N D I C E S 381 1. Journal of Orofacial Pain. Quintessence. Telephone 800 - 621 - 0387. 2. Cranio: The Journal of Craniomandibular Practice. Chroma. Telephone 800 - 624 - 4141. 3. TMJ Update. Anadem. Telephone 800 - 633 - 0055. Glossary The words listed in the glossary are in bold biofeedback, stress management, and cognitive print throughout the text. therapy (focuses on changing patientsβ dis- torted thoughts). They are adjunctive TMD Anterior positioning occlusal appliance therapies that attempt to help patients reduce holds the mandible in an anterior location, their daytime parafunctional habits and typically where the condyle is reduced onto psychosocial contributing factors. the disc (as depicted in Figure 1 3.1) . It is primarily used for patients who have a disc Contributing factors are the elements that displacement with reduction, and this position directly or indirectly contribute to the TMD holds the condyle in the reduced position so symptoms, impacting both muscle and the disc - condyle mechanical disturbances are TMJ pain. They can be subcategorized into temporarily eliminated and any forces loading predisposing, initiating, and perpetuating the condyle are transmitted through the discβ s contributing factors. The perpetuating intermediate zone rather than the retrodiscal contributing factors are a TMD patientβ s tissue. contributing factors that perpetuate the disorder (not allowing it to resolve), e.g., Centric relation (CR) is the maxillomandibu- nighttime parafunctional habits, gum lar relationship in which the condyles are chewing, daytime clenching, stress, and |
seated in their most anterior - superior location poor posture. against the discβ s intermediate zone (the thinnest avascular portion of the disc) and the Direct trauma is a physical blow to the posterior slopes of the articular eminences. masticatory system (macrotrauma), thus This is a very reproducible position and differing from indirect trauma or appears to be the most musculoskeletally microtrauma. stable position for the mandible. External cues are external stimuli that TMD Cervical pain is moderately prevalent among patients use to remind themselves to check TMD patients and may not only directly for oral habits or masticatory muscle tension. affect the masticatory system and its ability Examples of external cues are an unusually to respond to therapy, but may also cause placed yellow Post- i t note that will alert referred pain to the masticatory structures, the patient, or a timer that rings every 5 which can add to a patientβ s TMD symptoms minutes. Over time, they tend to blend into or be the sole cause for the symptoms. the background and need to be changed. Some patients prefer to work fi rst with Cognitive behavioral interventions primarily external cues and progress later to internal encompass habit reversal, relaxation, hypnosis, cues. 383 384 G L O S S A R Y Fibromyalgia is characterized by widespread teeth, in which they are maximally intercus- muscle pain, multiple tender points over the pating (occluding). body, poor sleep, stiffness, and generalized fatigue. It is moderately prevalent among Microtrauma is chronic irritation to the TMD patients, can add to the patientβ s TMD masticatory structures, usually from chronic symptoms, and can decrease a patientβ s ability parafunctional habits. It generally predisposes to respond to TMD therapy. or causes individuals to develop TMD, and makes it more diffi cult to resolve the mani- Indirect trauma is a nonimpact jolt to the fested symptoms. jaw analogous to cervical whiplash, which can result in TMD symptoms from damage to the Neutral position is an unrestrained condylar muscle or TMJ. position that approaches CR but does not encroach upon infl amed retrodiscal tissue nor Initiating contributing factor is the event fi rmly seat the condyles. that caused the TMD symptoms, e.g., trauma to the jaw or the placement of a crown. Parafunctional habits are unproductive movement habits; in relation to TMD, these Internal cues are bodily features that TMD would be oral habits, e.g., lip biting, cheek patients use to alert themselves when they biting, grinding teeth, clenching teeth, and are performing oral habits or have excessive pursing lips. masticatory muscle tension. The patient becomes very attuned to observing the chosen Perpetuating contributing factors are the internal cue, so when it occurs, the patient elements that directly or indirectly aggravate notices it despite other mental activity. The the masticatory system and prevent the TMD most common internal cues that TMD symptoms from resolving, e.g., nighttime patients use are the teeth touching the oppos- parafunctional habits, gum chewing, daytime ing teeth or an occlusal appliance, their pain clenching, stress, and poor posture. intensity, and muscle tension. Clinically, patients appear to have the best long - term Predisposing contributing factors are the success with breaking daytime oral habits if elements that make an individual more they have learned to use internal cues to susceptible to developing TMD, e.g., fi nger- maintain their desired behaviors or postures. nail biting, clenching, and biting on objects. Some patients prefer to work fi rst with external Individuals who are very predisposed to cues and progress later to internal cues. developing TMD may be those who develop TMD from a slight occlusal change, e.g., from Lateral pterygoid myospasm is a condition the placement of a pit and fi ssure sealant. in which the inferior lateral pterygoid muscle is in constant involuntary contraction at a Primary diagnosis is the diagnosis for the partially shortened position. This is a disorder most responsible for a patientβ s chief common cause for patients reporting an complaint. This diagnosis can be of TMD inability to put the ipsilateral posterior teeth origin (e.g., myofascial pain, TMJ infl amma- together without excruciating pain. tion, or acute TMJ disc displacement without reduction) or from a different source (e.g., Maximum intercuspation (MI) is a maxillary pulpal pathosis, sinusitis, or cervicogenic to mandibular relation determined by the headache). G L O S S A R Y 385 Reduced position is where the condyle may not relate improvement from any articulates with the disc β s intermediate zone therapy. (center portion of the disc). This term is generally used when discussing a disc displace- Stabilization appliances have a fl at surface ment with reduction; with the teeth in occluding with the opposing dentition, which maximum intercuspation, the condyle articu- provides a gnathologically stable occlusal lates with the discβ s retrodiscal tissue and as environment. It allows patients to move freely the condyle translates anteriorly, it moves from maximum intercuspation and is most below the posterior band and onto the disc β s commonly used for those with tooth attrition intermediate zone (reduced position). This or TMD symptoms. sequence is depicted in the bottom left section of the β TMJ Disc Displacements β diagram Stress management is a cognitive approach to (appendix 3 ) and the reduced position is deal with the stresses, irritations, or frustra- depicted in Figure 10.4 . tions that patients encounter. Some studies suggest the average TMD patient does not Referred pain is pain perceived at a location cope as well with stress as do non - TMD different than its source. This is similar to patients. TMD patients tend to tighten their how a patient suffering from a heart attack masticatory muscles in these situations, and may perceive pain only in the left arm, stress management teaches coping skills to whereas the source is the heart. Masticatory help them better manage these situations and muscles, TMJs, tooth pulps, and cervical their thoughts about them. muscles and cervical spine commonly cause referred pain to each other. The true source Symptom patterns include the period of the must be identifi ed and treatment directed day in which the symptoms occur or are most toward the source, not the site where the pain intense (e.g., worse upon awakening) and the is felt. location pattern (e.g., begins in the neck and then moves to the jaw). Secondary diagnosis is another TMD diagnosis that contributes to the primary Tertiary diagnosis is another TMD diagnosis diagnosis. Typically, the primary diagnosis that contributes to the primary diagnosis. will be of TMD origin (e.g., myofascial pain) Typically, the primary diagnosis will be of and the secondary and tertiary diagnoses will TMD origin (e.g., myofascial pain), and the be other TMD diagnoses (e.g., TMJ infl am- secondary and tertiary diagnoses will be other mation and TMJ disc displacement with TMD diagnoses (e.g., TMJ infl ammation and reduction) that contribute to a patient β s chief TMJ disc displacement with reduction) that complaint. They are ordered by the degree contribute to a patientβ s chief complaint. they contribute to the patientβ s chief They are ordered by the degree they contrib- complaint. ute to the patientβ s chief complaint. Secondary gain is a situation in which a TMJ click or pop is a very prevalent noise patient is rewarded for having TMD; e.g., among TMD patients and non- T MD a patient receives disability payments or is patients, is most commonly related to a excused from undesirable chores or work. patient having a disc displacement with Clinically, I do not commonly observe this reduction, and by itself does not suggest the situation, but, if it is present, the patient need for a patient to receive TMD therapy. 386 G L O S S A R Y TMJ crepitus is a grating or crackling noise TMJ dislocation (also known as subluxation) similar to the sound that is created when one occurs when the condyle catches or locks in walks over gravel. It is often subdivided into front of the articular eminence, causing a coarse and fi ne crepitus. Coarse crepitus is patient diffi culty or inability of retruding the most commonly related to a patient having a condyle. This generally occurs at a jaw chronic disc displacement without reduction, opening of 45 mm or wider. whereas fi ne crepitus does not appear to be highly related to any single articular diagnosis. Index A Analgesic cream, 253, 259β260 Acrylic appliances, 148β150, 174β180, 200β201 Analgesics, 93, 101, 252β254, 259 Acupuncture, 232β233, 286 Analogies for TMD Acute malocclusion, 101β103, 107β108, 142β145, arm pain, 20, 220 319β320 fi nger holding, 20 Acute pain, 74, 79β80, 89β129, 152, 252, 253, periodontal disease, 86 255β257, 321β323 wrist pain, 4β5 Acute pulpalgia, 10β12, 27, 33, 55β57, 97, 292, Anaprox. See Naproxen sodium. See also Naproxen 300β302, 334, 335 Anatomy of TMJ, 14β15, 71β76 Acute TMD conditions, 74, 79β80, 89β129, 152, Anesthetic test, 34, 56β57, 79, 300β302 252, 253, 255β257, 321β323 Ankylosis, 16, 64, 377 Acute TMJ disc displacement without reduction, bony, 77, 274β276 15β16, 74β75, 113β123, 253, 274β276, fi brous, 77, 274β276 313β318 Anterior digastric muscle case scenarios of, 313β318 pain of, 80, 115, 316 characteristics of, 74β75, 113β115 palpation of, 47, 48 clinical features of, 15β16, 74β75, 113β115, referred pain from, 46β48 313β318 Anterior midline shift, 28, 54β55, 68, 351 illustration of, 114, 357 Anterior open bite, 12, 28, 54β55, 68, 77, 351 intermittent occurrence, 115β117, 139, 145, Anterior positioning appliance, 119β120, 122, 181, 313β314, 335 132, 197β203, 315, 383 manipulation of, 117β118, 314β316, 335 adjustment of, 200β201 stretching retrodiscal tissue, 120β122, 316β318 care for, 361β362 temporary appliance for, 117β120 chairside fabrication of, 119β120 TMJ loading, 115, 121 description of, 119β120, 132 treatment of, 117β123, 253, 274β276, 313β318 design of, 200β201 Additional palpations table, 47 interocclusal record for, 199β200 Adherence of TMJ, 123 management of, 122, 132, 198β200, 201β203 Adhesions within TMJ, 92, 275β276 mandibular position for, 132, 197β200 Adjunctive therapies, 227, 240 mechanisms of, 132, 197β199 Adjustments of appliances, 136β138, 155β174, temporary appliance, 119β120, 315 189 Antidepressants external, 161β167, 201 selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), internal, 156β158 252, 259 Advil. See Ibuprofen tricyclic, 89, 251, 252, 258β259, 288, 291, 322 Advocacy group for patients, 379 amitriptyline, 258, 291, 322 Alloplastic disc implants, 7, 9, 68, 277, 290 daytime pain treated using, 258β259, 291 Amitriptyline, 258, 310, 322 description of, 258 387 388 I N D E X Antidepressants (continued) Books for practitioners, 380 desipramine, 258β259, 291 Breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, 116, 219β nocturnal bruxism treated using, 258, 288 233, 240β245, 286β287, 290β291, 308 nortriptyline, 258, 291 external cues, 220β221, 244β245, 291, 383 Anti-infl ammatory medications internal cues, 221β222, 245, 291, 294, 384 corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 Brochures for patients, 379 nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications Bruxism. See Parafunctional habits (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, 253β256, Burning pain, 11, 26β27 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, 317, 320, 322 C Anxiety, 85, 89 Caffeine consumption, 212β215, 284, 294, 360 Appliances. See Occlusal appliances Candidiasis under appliance, 189 Arcoxia. See Etoricoxib Capsaicin, 253, 259β260 Arm pain analogy, 20, 220 Capsulitis. See TMJ, infl ammation of Arteritis, 21, 32 Cardinal TMD signs and symptoms, xv Arthralgia. See TMJ infl ammation Care for appliances, 361β2 Arthritides. See Arthritis Caries and restorations Arthritis altering TMD therapy, 55β56, 98 osteoarthritis, 12, 63, 64, 68, 76β77, 255, imaging for, 67 260β261 Carisoprodol, 256 rheumatoid, 76, 85, 286 Carotid artery Arthrocentesis, 273β275 palpation of, 39β42 Arthrography, 66 signifi cance of, 39β41 Arthroscopy, 273β276 Carotidynia, 39β41 Articular diagnostic categories, 72β78 Case-control study, 336β337 Articular eminence Case report, 333β334 dislocation (subluxation), 14, 16, 30, 76, 91, Case series study, 334β335 127β129, 386 CBCT (cone beam computed tomography), 65 stabilization appliance for, 128 Celebrex. See Celecoxib Articular surface remodeling, 63, 64, 68, 77, 201 Celecoxib, 255, 261 Astron appliance material, 150, 155 Centrally mediated myalgia, 81 Athletic mouthpiece, 136, 137, 148, 152, 186, Centric relation, 136, 138β141, 266, 273, 383 188 Cervical muscles Autonomic changes, 12, 29 palpation of, 43β50, 304 Awakening symptoms, 9, 17β18, 27, 84, 189, referred pain from, 43β50, 53, 304 247, 256β258, 286β291, 306 Cervical pain, 383 medications for, 257β259, 288, 291 awakes patients, 18, 27 occlusal appliance for, 136β137, 202, 284 case scenarios, 304, 323β324 headache contribution, 13, 33, 286 B palpation for, 43β50, 304 Baclofen, 257 prevalence of, 13, 92, 228 Biofeedback, 227, 239, 240β248, |
287β288, referred pain from, 43β50, 53, 304 290β291, 293, 308, 322β323 signifi cance of, 13β14, 27, 34, 42β43, 53, 284, Bite registration, see Interocclusal record 290, 292, 299, 311 anterior positioning appliance, 199β200, 315 treatment of, 50β51, 53β54, 228, 230β232, stabilization appliances, 138β141, 325β326 234, 259, 284β286, 305 Blinded (masked) subjects, 338 Cervicogenic headache, 3, 13β14, 33, 42, Bloodshot eyes, 12 230β231, 286, 305, 374 Bone remodeling, 63, 64, 68, 77, 201 Character of pains. See Quality of pain I N D E X 389 Chief complaint, 71 TMJ noise, 14β15, 37β38, 67, 73β76, 114, Chiropractics, 227, 234, 286 115, 131, 139, 192, 197, 199, 311β315, Chlorzoxazone, 256 336, 357, 385, 386 Chondroitin, 261 Clinical trial Chronic headaches patients table, 13 design, 333β342 Chronic pain, xvii, 89, 252β253, 256, 258, generalizable, 329β330, 343 288β289 hypothesis, 331, 343 Chronic TMD conditions, xvii, 15, 25, 89, outcome measures, 331, 344 252β253, 256, 258, 288β289 population, 329β330, 343 Chronic TMJ disc displacement without question, 331, 343 reduction, 15, 37, 75β76 registration, 331 Clearance for orthodontic therapy, 271 Closed lock. See Acute TMJ disc displacement Clenching teeth, 15, 18, 20, 31, 38, 83, 85, 86, without reduction 289, 291 Closing mouth disorders, 16β17, 30, 75, 76, 97, Clenching teeth test, 60 107, 127. See also TMJ, dislocation; Lateral Clicking of TMJ, 15, 37, 73β74, 76, 114, 115, pterygoid muscle, myospasm of 139, 192, 197, 199, 311β315, 385 Closure muscle-stretching exercise, 80, 99, 216, Clinical examination, 33β61 284, 308β310, 363β364 additional evaluations, 60β61 Cognitive behavioral intervention, 19, 85, 92β93, intraoral examination, 54β59 205, 227, 239β248, 309β311, 314, 318, palpation, 33β34, 38β54, 58β59, 96 323β326, 375β376, 383 structures Cold anterior digastric muscle, 47, 48 testing of teeth, 34, 56, 301 carotid artery, 39β42 thermotherapy, 93, 211 cervical muscles, 39β40, 43β50 Compliance with therapy, 206β207, 210, 211, coronoid process, 47, 52 215, 219, 246, 287, 292, 293 initial palpations, 39β44 Computed tomography (CT), 64β65 lateral pterygoid area, 45, 47, 51, cone beam computed tomography (CBCT), 65 96 Concomitant symptoms with TMD, xvii, 7β21, masseter muscle, 39β41, 96 27β33, 42β43, 54β56, 60, 205β206, 384, medial pterygoid muscle, 45, 47, 290, 292, 299, 311, 336 51β52 Condylar fracture of, 64, 67, 289, 334 posterior digastric muscle, 47β49 Condylar remodeling, 63, 64, 68, 77, 201 splenius capitis muscle, 39β40, 42β43 Condyle-disc complex, 14β16, 72β73, 76, 78, sternocleidomastoid muscle, 47β49 127, 197, 198, 200, 201, 273, 275, 289, stylomandibular ligament, 47, 52β53 315, 357 temporalis muscle, 39β40, 46β48, 96 reduced position, 15β16, 73, 197β199, 315, thyroid, 39β42 385 TMJ, 39β41, 96 Cone beam computed tomography (CBCT), 65 trapezius muscle, 39β44 Conservative TMD therapies. See Therapies tables Consolidated Standards of Reporting of Trials additional palpations, 47 (CONSORT), 333, 341 cursory TMD evaluation palpation for CONSORT, 333, 341 dental patients, 96 Contributing factors, xvii, 3, 9, 11, 17β21, 25β26, events related to TMD onset, 84 28β31, 33β34, 41β42, 54, 56β58, 60β61, headaches recommendations, 13 83β87, 206, 283β285, 289β295, 299β300, initial recommended palpation, 40 377, 383 recommended initial palpation, 40 cervical pain. See Cervical pain range of motion, 34β37, 300 initiating, 83β84, 92, 96β97, 324, 384 390 I N D E X Contributing factors (continued) therapies for muscle tension, 15, 18β19, 85β86, 115β117, biofeedback, 227, 239, 240β248, 287β288, 209, 214β216, 219β223, 228, 239β248, 290β291, 293, 308, 322β323 287β291 breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, 116, case scenarios with, 308, 309β310, 314, 315, 209, 219β233, 240β245, 286β287, 317, 322 290β291, 308 perpetuating, 4, 83β86, 89, 92β93, 206, 252, cognitive behavioral intervention, 19, 85, 274β275, 283, 285, 288, 290, 293, 92β93, 205, 227, 239β248, 309β311, 299β300, 306, 308, 313, 314, 384 314, 318, 323β326, 375β376, 383 predisposing, 83β84, 91, 96β98, 100, 103, 324, habit breaking appliance, 147, 166, 180β184, 384 223 psychosocial contributors, 17β19, 85, 87, hypnotherapy, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 92β93, 240β244, 285, 292β293, 308, occlusal appliance for, 147, 166, 180β184, 315 223 depression, 19, 30, 85, 89, 92β93, 239β240, relaxation, 215, 239, 241β248, 287β288 283, 290, 293, 309β310 stress management, 241β242, 246β248, 288, frustrations, 18β20, 30, 85β86, 220, 242, 385 248 tricyclic antidepressants for, 258β259, 291 management, 19, 205, 209, 220β223, Deep pain, 55, 97, 102 239β248, 285β288, 291β293, 309β310 Dental care, TMD secondary to, 95β105, stress, 4, 15, 18β19, 26, 30, 84β86, 89, 98, 318β319, 323β325 211, 214, 220, 239β248, 283 etiology, 95β104 sleep poorly, 14, 17β18, 27, 85, 93, 206, inability to close into MI, 100β102. See also 212β213, 258, 290, 292, 299, 309β311 TMJ, dislocation; Lateral pterygoid muscle, widespread pain, xvii, 14, 18, 20, 60, 206, 290, myospasm of 292, 299, 311 medial pterygoid muscle pain, 80β81, 95, 97, Control groups, 337β340 98β100, 308β309 Coronoid process obstructive sleep apnea appliances, 104β105 palpation of, 47, 52 occlusal interference sequelae, 102β104, referred pain from, 46 323β325 Corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 predisposed patients, 96, 98, 100 Costen, James, xvii pretreatment palpations, 96 Counter-irritant creams, 259 prevention, 95, 100β105 COX2 inhibitors, 254β255 Dental caries and restorations Crepitus, 15, 37, 76, 139, 386 altering TMD therapy, 55β56, 98 Cross-sectional study, 334, 336 imaging for, 67 CT (Computed tomography), 64β65 Dental etiology contribution to TMD, 10β12, Cursory TMD evaluation palpation for dental 54β57, 91β92, 292, 300β302 patients table, 96 Dental implants, 165 Cyclobenzaprine, 256, 257 Dental patientsβ cursory TMD evaluation Cyclooxygenase-2 inhibitors. See COX2 inhibitors palpation table, 96 Dental record entry example, 371β372 D Depression, 19, 30, 85, 89, 92β93, 239β240, 283, Daytime habit breaking appliance, 147, 166, 290, 293, 309β310 180β184, 223 Description of pain, 9, 12, 300β325 Daytime parafunctional habits, 9, 18, 20, 85β87, Designs for clinical studies, 333β342 115β116, 239β241, 286β287, 308, 384 Desipramine, 258β259, 291 symptoms from, 9, 85β87, 115β116, 239β241, Diagnoses, 71β82 286β287, 308 primary, 3, 71, 300β326, 384 I N D E X 391 quaternary, 3, 71, 314 Dizziness, xv, 335 secondary, 3, 71, 300β306, 312β323, 325β326, Doppler, use of, 37 385 Drop out subjects, 340, 344 tertiary, 3, 71, 312β323, 385 Dry socket, 318β319 Diagnostic categories for TMD, 72β82 Dual laminate thermoplastic appliances, 150β151, masticatory muscle disorders, 78β82 153, 171, 184β186 TMJ articular diagnostic categories, 72β78 Duration of pain, 12 Diagnostic tests anesthetic, 34, 56β57, 79, 300β302 E clenching teeth, 60 Eagleβs syndrome, 29 cold, 34, 56, 301 Ear pain, xv, 45, 53, 335 stretching, 15β16, 35, 101, 108β109, 309, 316, Ear symptoms, xv, 45, 53, 152, 334, 335 318 Eclipse appliance material, 149β150 Diagram of disc displacements, 14β15, 357 Effi cacy of TMD therapy, xvii, 143β145, Diazepam, 56, 81, 93, 99, 101, 122, 256β257 205β206, 215, 240β241, 245β246, case scenarios with, 309, 315, 318β319, 321, 265β267, 283β292 322 by general dentists, xvii, 206 Diclofenac sodium gel, 260 Effi cacy theories for stabilization appliance, Diet restrictions, 212, 360 136β137 Digastric muscles Elavil. See amitriptyline anterior Electrical stimulation, 230 pain of, 80, 115, 316 Epidemiology of TMD, xvβxvi, 294β295, 337 palpation of, 47, 48 Equilibration of teeth, 57, 267β270, 288β289, referred pain from, 46β48 339 posterior Ernest syndrome, 52β53 pain of, 80, 115, 257, 316, 322 Etoricoxib, 255 palpation of, 47β49 Evaluation, initial. See Initial evaluation referred pain from, 46, 49 Examples Disc-condyle complex, 14β16, 72β73, 76, 78, dental record entry, 371β372 127, 197, 198, 200, 201, 273, 275, 289, insurance company coding, 377β378 315, 357 laboratory appliance instructions, 369β370 reduced position, 15β16, 73, 197β199, 315, physical therapy consult, 373β374 385 psychology consult, 375β376 Disc derangement disorders. See TMJ, disc stabilization appliances, 385 displacements or specifi c diagnosis dual laminate thermoplastic, 184β186 Disc displacements. See TMJ, disc displacements hard thermoplastic, 148β150, 180β184 or specifi c diagnosis Impak, 150β151, 155 Disc displacement with reduction of TMJ, 14β15, maxillary acrylic, 177β180 30, 37β38, 73β74, 197β198 pressure cured mandibular acrylic, 174β179 case scenario of, 311β314, 321β322 soft thermoplastic, 149β150, 188β189 characteristics of, 37β38, 73β74 Exercises clinical features of, 14β15, 30, 37β38, 73β74 closure muscle-stretching, 80, 99, 216, 284, illustration of, 14β15, 73, 357 308β310, 363β364 treatment of, 37β38, 131, 311β312 lateral pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 101, Dislocation (subluxation), 14, 16, 30, 76, 91, 108β110, 217β218, 319β320 127β129, 386 medial pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 80, 99, 309 stabilization appliance for, 128 posture, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 365β367, 341 Displacement of disc. See TMJ, disc displacements retrodiscal tissue stretch, 120β122, 316β318 Distraction of TMJ, 109, 116β118, 217β218, 315 tongue depressors to forcibly stretch, 99 392 I N D E X External adjustments of appliances daytime, 9, 18, 20, 85β87, 115β116, anterior positioning appliance, 200β201 239β241, 286β287, 308 stabilization appliance, 161β167 symptoms from, 9, 85β87, 115β116, dental implants for, 165 239β241, 286β287, 291, 308 External cues, 220β221, 244β245, 291, 383 therapies for, 291β292 External reline of appliances, 167β171 biofeedback, 227, 239, 240β248, Extraction of tooth, 97, 318β319 287β288, 290β291, 293, 308, Eye 322β323 bloodshot, 12 breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, pain in or around, 8, 43, 45, 323β325 116, 209, 219β233, 240β245, 286β287, 290β291, 308 F cognitive behavioral intervention, 19, Facebow, 141 85, 92β93, 205, 227, 239β248, Face red, 12 309β311, 314, 318, 323β326, Face swollen or puffy, 12, 29, 67β68, 276 375β376, 383 Fibromyalgia, 3, 14, 29, 60, 85, 293, 310β311, hypnotherapy, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 334, 384 medications for, 257β259, 291 Fight-or-fl ight mechanism, 245 occlusal appliance for, 147, 166, Finger holding analogy, 20 180β184, 223 Flexeril. See Cyclobenzaprine relaxation, 215, 239, 241β248, 287β288 Follow-up, 19, 34β35, 68, 89, 141, 340, 344 stress management, 241β242, 246β248, Forcibly stretching with tongue depressors, 99 288, 385 Forehead pain in, 8, 42β44, 304β305 nocturnal, 9, 84, 305β306, 312β313 Fracture of condyle, 64, 67, 289, 334 symptoms from, 9, 84, 291 Frequency of pain, 12 therapies for, 291β292, 305β306, 312β313 Frustrations, 18β20, 30, 85β86, 220, 242, 248 medications for, 257β259, 288, 291 Full coverage appliances, 136, 142β143, 154 occlusal appliance for, 136β137, 202, Fungal growth under appliance, 189 284 reversal, 209, 214, 219β222, 240β242, 286β287 G external cues, 220β221, 244β245, 291, 383 Gender differences, xvi, 274, 377 internal cues, 221β222, 245, 291, 294, 384 General dentistβs effi cacy, xvii, 206 tooth pain caused by, 57β59 Giant cell arteritis, 21, 32 Hard thermoplastic stabilization appliance, Glucosamine, 251, 254, 261 148β150, 180β184 Growth disorders, 68, 78, 82, 123, 272, 274 Headache cervicogenic, 3, 13β14, 33, 42, 230β231, 286, H 305, 374 Habit migraine, 1, 10, 13, 27, 145, 228, 290, 305, daytime habit breaking appliance, 147, 166, 324, 338 180β184, 223 sinus, 3, 11, 27β28, 33β34, 57, 60, 292, muscle tension, 15, 18β19, 85β86, 115β117, 305β306 209, 214β216, 219β223, 228, 239β248, tension-type, 13, 338 287β291 treatment recommendation table, 13 case scenarios with, 308, 309β310, 314, 315, Head posture 317, 322 exercises for, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 365β367, parafunctional, 4, 20, 31, 63, 89, 115β116, 341 228, 286β287, 290β291, 384 importance of, 218β219, 284β285, 341 clenching teeth, 15, 18, 20, 31, 38, 83, 85, Heat thermotherapy, 8, 93, 99, 211, 216β218, 86, 289, 291 230, 284, 292, 339, 359, 363 I N D E X 393 History of TMD, xviβxvii 141, 190, 214, 216, 218, 228, 253β257, 261, History-taking 273β274, 289, 312β313 initial evaluation, 3β6, 7β21, 25β32 Information for patients, 357β367, 379 secondary to trauma, 28, 67, 75, 91β94, 115 Initial evaluation imaging, 67, 92 clinical examination, 33β61 treatment of, 93β94, 253 additional evaluations, 60β61 Hyaluronic acid. See Sodium hyaluronate intraoral examination, 54β59 Hybrid appliance material, 150, 155 palpation, 33β34, 38β54, 58β59, 96 Hygienists referral criteria, 351 additional palpations table, 47 Hyperplasia of condyle, 78 cursory TMD evaluation palpation for Hypnosis, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 dental patients table, 96 Hypnotherapy, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 initial recommended TMD palpations Hypoplasia of condyle, 78 table, 40 Hypothesis for clinical trials, 331, 343 more intense TMD palpations, 44β45, 50β52, 58 I recommended initial palpation table, 40 Ibuprofen, 81, 93, 98, 99, 104, 254β255, 306, range of motion, 34β37, 300 308β309, 318, 325 TMJ noise, 14β15, 37β38, 67, 73β76, 114, Icy Hot, 259 115, 131, 139, 192, 197, 199, 311β315, Illustration of disc displacements, 14β15, 357 336, 357, 385, 386 Imaging contributing factors, xvii, 3, 9, 11, 17β21, arthrography, 66 25β26, 28β31, 33β34, 41β42, 54, 56β58, computed tomography (CT), 64β65 60β61, 83β87, 206, 283β285, 289β295, cone beam computed tomography (CBCT), 65 299β300, 377, 383 magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), 15, 63, cervical pain, 13β14, 27, 34, 42β43, 53, 65β66, 74, 192, 273, 336 383 osseous changes of TMJ, 63β64, 77 initiating, 83β84, 92, 96β97, 324, 384 panoramic radiograph, 64β65, 67β69, 92, 110, muscle tension, 15, 18β19, 85β86, 115β117, 293, 343 209, 214β216, 219β223, 228, 239β248, plain radiographs, 63β64 287β291 recommendations, 66β69 case scenarios with, 308, 309β310, 314, tomography (axially |
corrected tomography), 64 315, 317, 322 trauma related, 67, 92 perpetuating, 3β4, 83β86, 89, 92β93, 206, ultrasound, 66 252, 274β275, 283, 285, 288, 290, 293, Impak appliance material, 150β151, 155 299β300, 306, 308, 313, 314, 384 Implants predisposing 83β84, 91, 96β98, 100, 103, dental, 165 324, 384 disc replacement, 7, 9, 68, 277, 290 psychosocial contributors, 17β19, 85, 87, TMJ replacement, 276β277 92β93, 240β244, 285, 292β293, 308, Impressions with restricted opening, 122 315 Inability to close into maximum intercuspation, depression, 19, 30, 85, 89, 92β93, 16β17, 30, 75, 76, 97, 107, 127. See also 239β240, 283, 290, 293, 309β310 TMJ, dislocation; Lateral pterygoid muscle, frustrations, 18β20, 30, 85β86, 220, 242, myospasm of 248 Indirect trauma, 91, 384 management, 19, 205, 209, 220β223, Infection, effect on muscle, 79, 99β100 239β248, 285β288, 291β293, Infl ammation of periodontal ligament, 57β58, 189 309β310 Infl ammation of TMJ, 41, 55, 63, 68, 75β77, 98, stress, 4, 15, 18β19, 26, 30, 84β86, 89, 101, 103, 108β111, 114β115, 121β122, 139, 98, 211, 214, 220, 239β248, 283 394 I N D E X Initial evaluation (continued) stabilization appliances, 138β141, 325β326 sleep poorly, 14, 17β18, 27, 93, 206, 258, Interview, initial patient, 7β21, 25β32, 241 290, 292, 299, 309β311 Intraoral examination, 54β59 widespread pain, xvii, 14, 18, 20, 60, 206, Iontophoresis, 230 290, 292, 299, 311 IRB, 330, 334β335 diagnostic tests Irreversible pulpalgia, 10β11, 27, 33, 55β57, 97, anesthetic, 34, 56β57, 79, 300β302 292, 300β302, 334, 335 clenching teeth, 60 Ivocap appliance material, 150, 155 cold, 34, 56, 301 stretching, 15β16, 35, 101, 108β109, 309, J 316, 318 Jaw relationships imaging, 63β69, 92 anterior positioning appliance, 199β200, 315 secondary to trauma, 67, 92 stabilization appliance, 138β141, 325β326 patient interview, 3β6, 7β21, 25β32, 241 centric relation, 136, 138β141, 266, 273, 383 review of the Initial Patient Questionnaire, 25β32 neutral position, 139β141, 197, 276, 384 TMD diagnostic categories, 72β82 Journals for TMD, 380β381 masticatory muscle disorders, 78β82 TMJ articular disorders, 72β78 K Initial patient questionnaire, 7β21, 25β32, Ketoprofen in Transfersome gel, 261 353β356 Initial recommended palpation table, 40 L Initial TMD palpations, 39β44 Laboratory appliance instructions, 369β370 Initiating contributing factor, 83β84, 92, 96β97, Lateral pterygoid muscle 324, 384 myospasm of, 17, 30, 51, 75, 80β81, 100β102, Injections 107β111, 113β114, 217β218, 266, periodontal ligamentary injection, 34, 56β57, 319β320, 384 300β302 clinical features of, 17, 30, 75, 100β102, trigger-point, 34, 79, 229, 285 107β110, 113β114, 217β218, 319β320 Insomnia, 14, 17β18, 27, 85, 93, 206, 212β213, illustration of, 14, 108β109 258, 290, 292, 299, 309β311 palpation of area, 45, 47, 51, 96 Institutional Review Board (IRB), 330, 334β335 referred pain from, 46 Insurance company coding, 377β378 stretching of, 101, 108β110, 217β218, 319β320 Integrating conservative TMD therapies, 290β292 Lidocaine transdermal patch, 260β261 Integrating multidisciplinary therapies, 283β295 Lidoderm. See Lidocaine transdermal patch Intensity of pain, 12 Ligamentary injection, 34, 56β57, 300β302 Interferences, occlusal, 57, 83, 102β104, 265β273, Lioresal. See Baclofen 288β289, 337, 339 Literature review, 329, 342 Intermediate softness appliance materials, 135, Loading TMJ, 63, 71β73, 77, 209, 214, 253, 274, 148β151, 155, 184β186 276, 322 Intermittent acute disc displacement without centric relation, 141 reduction, 115β117, 139, 145, 181, disc adherence, 123 313β314, 335 disc displacement without reduction, 115, 121 case scenarios of, 313β314 noise effect, 73 therapies for, 115β117, 121 occlusal appliance, effect on, 128, 132, 137, Internal appliance adjustments, 156β158 139, 145, 197β198, 276 Internal cues, 221β222, 245, 291, 294, 384 osteoarthritis effect, 77 Internal reline of appliances, 158β161 pseudodisc formation, 71β73 Interocclusal record TMD symptom effect, 63, 77, 209, 214, 274, anterior positioning appliance, 199β200, 315 322 I N D E X 395 Local myalgia, 81β82 recommended initial palpation table, 40 Long-term management, 288, 289, 294β295 Maxillary acrylic stabilization appliances, 177β180 Maxillary appliances, 145β147, 154β155, 177β180 M Maximum intercuspation (MI), 384 Macrotrauma, 28, 67, 75, 91β94, 115, 253 inability to close into, 16β17, 30, 75, 76, 97, imaging, 67, 92 107, 127. See also TMJ, dislocation; Lateral treatment of, 93β94, 253 pterygoid muscle, myospasm of Magnesium, 262 Measurements of opening, 33β37, 299β326 Magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), 15, 63, Medial pterygoid muscle 65β66, 74, 192, 273, 336 myositis of, 79β80, 97, 99β100 Magnetic therapy, 234β235, 286 myospasm of, 80β81, 95, 97, 98β100, 308β309 Malocclusion, 28, 54β55, 68, 80, 83, 101β103, pain secondary to dental care, 98β100 107β108, 142β145, 152, 188, 319β320, 351 palpation of, 45, 47, 51β52 Management for referred pain from, 46 anterior positioning appliance, 122, 132, stretching of, 80, 99, 309 198β200, 201β203 Medications. See also the specifi c medication stabilization appliances, 189β193 analgesic cream, 259β260 Management, long-term, 288, 289, 294β295 analgesics, 93, 101, 252β254, 259 Mandibular appliances, 145β147, 154β155, antidepressants 174β179, 180β189 selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), Mandibular positions for 252, 259 anterior positioning appliance, 199β200, 315 tricyclic, 89, 251, 252, 258β259, 288, 291, stabilization appliance, 138β141, 325β326 322 centric relation, 136, 138β141, 266, 273, 383 anti-infl ammatory medications, 89, 93, 98, 101, neutral position, 139β141, 197, 276, 384 122, 253β256, 260, 261, 306, 308β309, Maps of palpation locations that can generate 315, 317, 320, 322 referred pain to the labeled anatomical areas, corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 45, 335, 385 counter-irritant creams, 259 Maps of palpation pain distributing generated by COX2 inhibitors, 254β255 labeled areas, 46, 335, 385 muscle relaxants Masked subjects, 338, 343 central acting, 56, 81, 93, 98, 99, 101, 122, Massage therapy, xvi, 116β117, 205, 210, 256β257, 309, 315, 318β319, 321, 322 227β228, 285, 359 peripheral acting, 257 Masseter muscle nocturnal parafunctional habits for, 257β259, palpation of, 39β41, 96 288, 291, 384 referred pain from, 46, 58 nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications stretching of, 80, 99, 216, 284, 306, 311, 324, (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, 253β256, 326, 363β364 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, 317, 320, Masticatory muscle disorders, 78β82 322 Masticatory muscle tension, 15, 18β19, 85β86, NSAIDs. See Nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory 115β117, 209, 214β216, 219β223, 228, medications 239β248, 287β291 nutritional supplements, 251, 254, 261β262 case scenarios with, 308, 309β310, 314, 315, over-the-counter medications, 254, 259β261, 317, 322 360 Masticatory structure palpations, 33β34, 38β54, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), 58β59, 96 252, 259 additional palpations table, 47 steroidal anti-infl ammatory medications, 93, cursory TMD evaluation palpation for dental 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 patients table, 96 topical, 259β261 396 I N D E X Medications (continued) lateral pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 101, tricyclic antidepressants, 89, 251, 252, 258β259, 108β110, 217β218, 319β320 288, 291, 322 medial pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 80, 99, Medline, 329 309 Medrol Dosepak, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 tongue depressors to forcibly stretch, 99 Meloxicam, 255 lateral pterygoid muscle MENS (microcurrent electrical nerve stimulation), myospasm of, 17, 30, 51, 75, 80β81, 230 100β102, 107β111, 113β114, 217β218, Meta-analyses, 342β343 266, 319β320, 384 Methocarbamol, 256 clinical features of, 17, 30, 75, 100β102, Microcurrent electrical nerve stimulation (MENS), 107β110, 113β114, 217β218, 230 319β320 Microtrauma, 91, 384. See Parafunctional habits illustration of, 14, 108β109 Midline shift, 28, 54β55, 68, 351 palpation of area, 45, 47, 51, 96 Migraine headache, 1, 10, 13, 27, 145, 228, 290, referred pain from, 46 305, 324, 338 stretching of, 101, 108β110, 217β218, Mobic. See Meloxicam 319β320 More intense TMD palpations, 44β45, 50β52, 58 massage, xvi, 116β117, 205, 210, 227β228, Motivating patients, 210, 215, 219, 222, 239, 285, 359 242, 244β245, 293 masseter muscle Motrin. See Ibuprofen palpation of, 39β41, 96 Mouth closing disorders, 16β17, 30, 75, 76, 97, referred pain from, 46, 58 107, 127. See also TMJ, dislocation; Lateral stretching of, 80, 99, 216, 284, 306, 311, pterygoid muscle, myospasm of 324, 326, 363β364 Mouth opening medial pterygoid muscle measurement, 33β37, 299β326 myositis of, 79β80, 97, 99β100 restriction, 15β16, 34β37, 75, 77β78, 80β81, myospasm of, 80β81, 95, 97, 98β100, 98β100, 107β108, 113β114, 122, 131, 308β309 284, 308β309, 313β319 pain secondary to dental care, 98β100 MRI (Magnetic Resonance Imaging), 15, 63, palpation of, 45, 47, 51β52 65β66, 74, 192, 273, 336 referred pain from, 46 Multidisciplinary therapies. See Therapies stretching of, 80, 99, 309 Multifactorial disorder of TMD, xviβxvii, overuse, 14, 20, 102, 211, 228, 251 205β207, 265β268, 283 palpation of, 33β34, 38β54, 58β59, 96 Muscle additional palpations table, 47 anterior digastric muscle cursory TMD evaluation palpation for dental pain of, 80, 115, 316 patients table, 96 palpation of, 47, 48 recommended initial palpation table, 40 referred pain from, 46β48 posterior digastric muscle cervical muscles pain of, 80, 115, 257, 316, 322 palpation of, 43β50, 304 palpation of, 47β49 referred pain from, 43β50, 53, 304 referred pain from, 46, 49 diagnostic categories, 78β82 relaxants digastric muscles, see anterior or posterior central acting, 56, 81, 93, 98, 99, 101, 122, digastric muscle 256β257, 309, 315, 318β319, 321, 322 disorders, 78β82 peripheral acting, 257 exercises restricted opening from, 15β16, 78β81, 98β100, closure muscle-stretching, 80, 99, 216, 284, 107β108, 308β309 308β310, 363β364 splenius capitis muscle I N D E X 397 palpation of, 39β40, 42β43 N referral from, 42β43, 46, 49, 53 Naprosyn. See Naproxen sternocleidomastoid muscle Naproxen, 93, 98, 101, 103, 122, 253β256, 315, palpation of, 47β49 317, 320, 322 referred pain from, 46, 49 Nasopharyngeal carcinoma, 54 stretching for Neck pain. See Cervical pain closure muscles, 80, 99, 216, 284, 308β310, Neoplastic growth, 68, 78, 82, 123, 272, 274 363β364 Neurogenic infl ammation, 81 lateral pterygoid myospasm, 101, 108β110, Neuropathic pain, 11, 27, 258 217β218, 319β320 Neutral position, 139β141, 197, 276, 384 medial pterygoid myospasm, 80, 99, 309 Nighttime. See Nocturnal temporalis muscle Nociceptive Trigeminal Inhibition appliance palpation of, 39β40, 46β48, 96 (NTI), 135, 143β145, 339 referred pain from, 46 Nocturnal bruxism. See Nocturnal parafunctional stretching of, 80, 99, 324 habits tender nodules. See Muscle, trigger points Nocturnal parafunctional habits, 9, 84, 305β306, tension in, 15, 18β19, 85β86, 115β117, 209, 312β313, 384 214β216, 219β223, 228, 239β248, symptoms from, 9, 84, 291 287β291 therapies for, 291β292, 305β306, 312β313 case scenarios with, 308, 309β310, 314, 315, medications for, 257β259, 288, 291 317, 322 occlusal appliance for, 136β137, 202, trapezius muscle 284 palpation of, 39β44 Noise, TMJ, 14β15, 37β38, 67, 73β76, 114, 115, referred pain from, 42β43, 46, 49 131, 139, 192, 197, 199, 311β315, 336, 357, trigger point, 34, 38β39, 79, 210β212, 385, 386 228β229, 285 Nonotologic otalgia, xv, 45, 53, 335 compression, 210β211, 229, 285 Nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications injections, 34, 79, 229, 285 (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, 253β256, Musical instrument playing, 20, 31 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, 317, 320, Myalgia 322 Centrally mediated, 81 Non-TMD disorders, 3β6, 9β14, 21, 33, 60β61, Local, 81β82 76, 191, 292β293, 300β305. See also Myofascial pain, 336 Carotidynia, Cervical pain, Concomitant Myofi brotic contracture, 81, 99, 201 symptoms, Eagleβs syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Myositis, 79β80, 97, 99β100 Giant cell arteritis, Odontogenic pain, Myospasm Rheumatoid arthritis, and Widespread pain lateral pterygoid muscle, 17, 30, 51, 75, 80β81, Norpramin. See Desipramine 100β102, 107β111, 113β114, 217β218, Nortriptyline, 17, 56, 258β259, 291 266, 319β320, 384 NSAIDs. See Nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory clinical features of, 17, 30, 75, 100β102, medications 107β110, 113β114, 217β218, NTI, 135, 143β145, 339 319β320 Nuprin. See Ibuprofen illustration of, 14, 108β109 Nutritional supplements, 251, 254, 261β262 stretching of, 101, 108β110, 217β218, 319β320 O medial pterygoid muscle, 80β81, 95, 97, Obstructive sleep apnea appliances, 104β105 98β100, 308β309 Occipital pain in, 38 stretching of, 80, 99, 309 Occlusal adjustment, 57, 267β270, 288β289, 339, Myostatic contracture, 81 379 398 I N D E X Occlusal appliances, 131β133, 135β193, 197β203 full coverage of, 136, 142β143, 154 anterior positioning, 119β120, 122, 132, hard acrylic, 148β150, 148β150 197β203, 315, 383 hard thermoplastic, 148β150, 180β184 adjustment of, 200β201 hybrid, 150, 155 care for, 361β362 Impak, 150β151, 155 chairside fabrication of, 119β120 implant (dental), 165 description of, 119β120, 132 impressions with restricted opening for, 122 design of, 200β201 intermediate softness appliance materials, interocclusal record for, 199β200, 315 135, 148β151, 155, 184β186 management of, 122, 132, 198β200, internal adjustments for, 156β158 201β203 internal reline of, 158β161 mandibular position for, 132, 197β200 interocclusal record for, 138β141, 325β326 mechanisms of, 132, 197β199 Ivocap, 150, 155 temporary appliance, 119β120, 315 management for, 189β193 athletic mouthpiece, 136, 137, 148, 152, 186, mandibular, 145β147, 154β155, 174β179, 188 180β189 care for, 361β362 mandibular positions for, 138β141, 325β326 habit breaking, 147, 166, 180β184, 223 maxillary, 145β147, 154β155, 177β180 laboratory instructions for, 369β370 maxillary acrylic, 177β180 obstructive sleep apnea, 104β105 mechanisms of, 136β137 stabilization appliances, 131β133, 135β193, 385 neutral position, 139β141, 197, 276, 384 acrylic, 148β150, 174β180 occlusal stability, 132, 136β137, 265β266 adjustment of, 174β180 opposing appliances, 188β189 external adjustments for, 161β167 partial coverage of, 142β144 dental implants for, 165 pressure cured mandibular acrylic, 174β179 |
external reline of, 167β171 reline of internal adjustments for, 156β158 external, 167β171 internal reline of, 158β161 internal, 158β161 repair of, 171β174 repair of, 171β174 Astron, 150, 155 restorations and caries, 55β56, 98 centric relation, 136, 138β141, 266, 273, 383 restricted opening with, 122, 131 dental implants with, 165 retention of, 153β154 description of, 132, 136 soft thermoplastic, 149β150, 155, 341, 342 dual laminate thermoplastic, 150β151, 153, theories of effi cacy, 136β137 171, 184β186 thickness of, 153β154 Eclipse, 149β150 TMJ dislocation for, 128 effi cacy of, 131β132, 136β137, 144, TMJ loading effect from, 128, 132, 137, 139, 240β241, 245, 284 145, 276 effi cacy theories, 136β137 two opposing appliances, 188β189 examples of, 174β189 Occlusal changes, 54β55, 83, 105, 135, 136, 137, dual laminate thermoplastic, 184β186 142, 145, 152, 188 hard thermoplastic, 148β150, 180β184 Occlusal equilibration, 57, 267β270, 288β289, Impak, 150β151, 155 339 maxillary acrylic, 177β180 Occlusal interference sequelae, 102β104 pressure cured mandibular acrylic, Occlusal interferences, 57, 83, 102β104, 265β273, 174β179 288β289, 337, 339 soft thermoplastic, 149β150, 188β189 Occlusal orthotics. See Occlusal appliances external adjustments for, 161β167 Occlusal stability, 146β147, 155, 205, 265β272, external reline of, 161β167 283, 288β289. See also Occlusion I N D E X 399 Occlusion, 102β104, 132, 265β268, 323. See also deep, 55, 97, 102 Occlusal stability description of, 9, 12, 300β325 Occlusion on appliances duration of, 12 anterior positioning, 200β201 ear in, xv, 45, 53, 335 stabilization appliances, 161β167 eye in or around, 8, 43, 45, 323β325 Odontalgia forehead in, 8, 42β44, 304β305 caused by parafunctional habits, 57β59 frequency of, 12 contributing to TMD symptoms, 10β11, 27, headache 33, 55β57, 97, 292, 300β302, 334, 335 cervicogenic, 3, 13β14, 33, 42, 230β231, Open bite 286, 305, 374 anterior, 12, 28, 54β55, 68, 77, 351 migraine, 1, 10, 13, 27, 145, 228, 290, 305, posterior, 28, 54β55, 68, 80, 142, 202, 276, 351 324, 338 Open lock. See TMJ, dislocation sinus, 3, 11, 27β28, 33β34, 57, 60, 292, Opening 305β306 measurements, 33β37, 299β326 tension-type, 13, 338 restriction, 15β16, 34β37, 75, 77β78, 80β81, intensity of, 12 98β100, 107β108, 113β114, 122, 131, muscle-overuse, 14, 20, 102, 211, 228, 251 284, 308β309, 313β319 neck in. See Cervical pain Opposing appliances, 188β189 occipital in, 45 OQAQ, 343 post-auricular in, 45 Oral habits. See Habit, parafunctional quality of, 9, 11, 14, 26β27, 310 Organizations for TMD, 380 referred, 8β14, 18, 33β34, 38β60, 96β97, Orthodontic clearance for TMD, 271 301β302, 304, 335, 385 Orthodontic therapy, xvi, 84, 95, 128, 142, 162, sinus, 3, 11, 27β28, 33β34, 57, 60, 292, 201, 265, 267, 270β272, 337, 342β343, 379 305β306 Orthognathic surgery, 190, 267, 283, 325, tooth 270β272, 336 caused by parafunctional habits, 57β59 Orthopedic stability. See Occlusal stability contributing to TMD symptoms, 10β11, 27, Orthotics. See Occlusal appliances 33, 55β57, 97, 292, 300β302, 334, 335 Osseous changes within TMJ, 63β64, 77 vertex in, 45 Osteitis, 318β319 widespread, xvii, 14, 18, 20, 60, 206, 290, 292, Osteoarthritis, 12, 63, 64, 68, 76β77, 255, 299, 311 260β261 Palpation, 33β34, 38β54, 58β59, 96 Otologic symptoms, xv, 45, 53, 152, 334, 335 additional, 47 Outcome measures for study, 331, 344 cursory for dental patients, 96 Over-the-counter medications, 254, 259β261, 360 initial recommended, 40 Overuse of muscles, 14, 20, 102, 211, 228, 251 more intense, 44β45, 50β52, 58 Overview Quality Assessment Questionnaire, 343 structures anterior digastric muscle, 47, 48 P carotid artery, 39β42 Pain cervical muscles, 39β40, 43β50 acute, 74, 79β80, 89β129, 152, 252, 253, coronoid process, 47, 52 255β257, 321β323 lateral pterygoid area, 45, 47, 51, 96 cervical pain. See Cervical pain masseter muscle, 39β41, 96 character of. See Pain, quality medial pterygoid muscle, 45, 47, 51β52 chronic, xvii, 89, 252β253, 256, 258, 288β289 posterior digastric muscle, 47β49 concomitant symptoms with, xvii, 7β21, 27β33, splenius capitis muscle, 39β40, 42β43 42β43, 54β56, 60, 205β206, 384, 290, sternocleidomastoid muscle, 47β49 292, 299, 311, 336 stylomandibular ligament, 47, 52β53 400 I N D E X Palpation (continued) reversal, 209, 214, 219β222, 240β242, 286β287 temporalis muscle, 39β40, 46β48, 96 external cues, 220β221, 244β245, 291, 383 thyroid, 39β42 internal cues, 221β222, 245, 291, 294, 384 TMJ, 39β41, 96 tooth pain caused by, 57β59 trapezius muscle, 39β44 Partial coverage appliances, 142β144 tables Patch, lidocaine transdermal, 260β261 additional palpations, 47 Patient cursory TMD evaluation palpation for dental advocacy group, 379 patients, 96 brochures, 379 recommended initial palpation, 40 compliance, 206β207, 210, 211, 215, 219, 246, Pamelor. See Nortriptyline 287, 292, 293 Panoramic radiograph, 64β65, 67β69, 92, 110, interview, 7β21, 25β32, 241 293, 343 questionnaire, 25β32, 353β356 Parafl ex. See Chlorzoxazone Periodontal disease, 55, 57, 67, 86, 136, 146, 189 Parafunctional habits, 4, 20, 31, 63, 89, 115β116, analogy for TMD, 86 228, 286β287, 290β291, 384 Periodontal ligament infl ammation, 57β58, 189 clenching teeth, 15, 18, 20, 31, 38, 83, 85, 86, Periodontal ligamentary injection, 34, 56β57, 289, 291 300β302 daytime, 9, 18, 20, 85β87, 115β116, 239β241, Perpetuating contributing factors, 4, 83β86, 89, 286β287, 308 92β93, 206, 252, 274β275, 283, 285, 288, symptoms from, 9, 85β87, 115β116, 290, 293, 299β300, 306, 308, 313, 314, 384 239β241, 286β287, 308 Pharmacologic management, 251β262 therapies for, 291β292 acute symptoms, 252, 253, 255β257, 321β323 biofeedback, 227, 239, 240β248, 287β288, analgesic cream, 259β260 290β291, 293, 308, 322β323 analgesics, 93, 101, 252β254, 259 breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, 116, antidepressants 209, 219β233, 240β245, 286β7, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), 290β291, 308 252, 259 cognitive behavioral intervention, 19, 85, tricyclic, 89, 251, 252, 258β259, 288, 291, 322 92β93, 205, 227, 239β248, 309β311, anti-infl ammatory medications 314, 318, 323β326, 375β376, 383 corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 hypnotherapy, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications medications for, 257β259, 291 (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, occlusal appliance for, 147, 166, 180β184, 253β256, 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, 223 317, 320, 322 relaxation, 215, 239, 241β248, 287β288 chronic symptoms, 252β253, 256, 258 stress management, 241β242, 246β248, corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 288, 385 counter-irritant creams, 259 masticatory muscle tension, 15, 18β19, 85β86, COX2 inhibitors, 254β255 115β117, 209, 214β216, 219β223, 228, muscle relaxants 239β248, 287β291 central acting, 56, 81, 93, 98, 99, 101, 122, case scenarios with, 308, 309β310, 314, 315, 256β257, 309, 315, 318β319, 321, 322 317, 322 peripheral acting, 257 nocturnal, 9, 84, 305β306, 312β313 nocturnal parafunctional habits for, 257β259, symptoms from, 9, 84, 291 288, 291, 384 therapies for, 291β292, 305β306, 312β313 nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications medications for, 257β259, 288, 291 (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, 253β256, occlusal appliance for, 136β137, 202, 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, 317, 320, 284 322 I N D E X 401 NSAIDs. See Nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory Predisposing contributing factors, 83β84, 91, medications 96β98, 100, 103, 324, 384 nutritional supplements, 251, 254, 261β262 Pressure cured mandibular acrylic stabilization over-the-counter medications, 254, 259β261, appliances, 174β179 360 Prevalence of TMD, xvβxvi, 337 selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), Preventing aggravation from dental treatment, 95, 252, 259 100β105 topical medications, 259β261 Primary diagnosis, 3, 71, 300β326, 384 tricyclic antidepressants, 89, 251, 252, 258β259, Primary TMD signs and symptoms, xv, xvii, xx, 9, 288, 291, 322 89, 351 Phonophoresis, 230 Professional TMD organizations, 380 Physical medicine, 227β235 Progressively increasing anterior open bite, 12, 28, Physical therapy referral, 54, 227, 229β232, 257, 54β55, 68, 77, 351 278, 285β286, 290, 292, 293 Prospective study, 334, 337β342 case scenarios, 305, 307, 310, 314, 323, Prosthesis of TMJ, 7, 9, 68, 276β277, 290 325 Prosthodontic therapy, xvi, 141, 201, 205, 267, examples of, 373β374 272β273, 379, 283 recommendations for, 230β231 Pseudodisc of TMJ, 71β73 scope of care within, 14, 33, 54 Psychiatrist referral to, 19, 252, 283, 290, 293, select therapist, 323 310 write how to, 231β232 Psychologist referral to, xvi, 18β19, 87, 92, 116, Physician referrals from, 8, 53 205, 209, 223, 239, 241β246, 283, 286β288, Plain radiographs, 63β64 290β291 Polyarthritides, 76 case scenarios, 308, 309β311, 323 Poor sleep, 14, 17β18, 27, 85, 93, 206, 212β213, examples of, 375β376 258, 290, 292, 299, 309β311 recommendations for, 223, 241β244 Population for study, 343 selecting therapist, 243 Positioning appliance. See Anterior positioning Psychosocial contributors, 17β19, 85, 87, 92β93, appliance 240β244, 285, 292β293, 308, 315 Post-auricular pain in, 45 depression, 19, 30, 85, 89, 92β93, 239β240, Post-dental care for TMD, 95β105, 318β319, 283, 290, 293, 309β310 323β325 frustrations, 18β20, 30, 85β86, 220, 242, 248 Posterior digastric muscle management, 19, 205, 209, 220β223, 239β248, pain of, 80, 115, 257, 316, 322 285β288, 291β293, 309β310 palpation of, 47β49 stress, 4, 15, 18β19, 26, 30, 84β86, 89, 98, referred pain from, 46, 49 211, 214, 220, 239β248, 283 Posterior open bite, 28, 54β55, 68, 80, 142, 202, PTSD (Posttraumatic stress disorder), 17β18, 30, 276, 351 189, 293, 299 Post-trauma TMD, 28, 67, 75, 91β94, 115 Publications for TMD, 380β381 imaging, 67, 92 PubMed, 329 treatment of, 93β94, 253 Puffy or swollen region, 12, 29, 67β68, 276 Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), 17β18, 30, Pulpalgia 189, 293, 299 caused by parafunctional habits, 57β59 Posture contributing to TMD symptoms, 10β11, 27, exercises for, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 341, 33, 55β57, 97, 292, 300β302, 334, 335 365β367 importance of, 218β219, 284β285, 341 Q Practice-based research, 332 Quality of pain, 9, 11, 14, 26β27, 310 Practice management businesses, 379β380 Quality of reporting of metaanalysis, 342 402 I N D E X Quaternary diagnosis, 3, 71, 314 recommendations for, 223, 241β244 Questionnaire, initial patient, 25β32, 353β356 selecting therapist, 243 QUOROM, 342 receiving, 8, 53 TMJ surgery, 273β277. See also TMJ, surgery R recommendations, 273β275 Radiographic imaging Referred pain, 8β14, 18, 33β34, 38β60, 96β97, arthrography, 66 301β302, 304, 335, 385 computed tomography (CT), 64β65 Refractory TMD to initial therapy, 292β294 cone beam computed tomography (CBCT), Registration, bite 65 anterior positioning appliance, 199β200 magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), 15, 63, stabilization appliances, 138β141 65β66, 74, 192, 273, 336 Relaxation, 215, 239, 241β248, 287β288 osseous changes of TMJ, 63β64, 77 Reline of appliances panoramic, 64β65, 67β69, 92, 110, 293, 343 external, 167β171 plain, 63β64 internal, 158β161 recommendations, 66β69 Remineralization of TMJ. See Osseous changes tomography (axially corrected tomography), 64 within TMJ trauma related, 67, 92 Remodeling of condyle, 63, 64, 68, 77, 201 ultrasound, 66 Repair of appliances, 171β174 Randomized Controlled Trial (RCT), 333, Resilient appliance materials, 149β150, 155, 341, 340β42 342 cross-over form, 341β342 Restorations parallel-group form, 340β341 altering appliance therapy for, 55β56, 98 Range of motion, 34β37, 300 preventing TMD during, 95, 97β98 Recommendations for chronic headaches patients TMD secondary to, 95β105, 318β319, table, 13 323β325 Recommended initial palpation table, 40 etiology, 95β105 Recommended additional palpations table, 47 inability to close into MI, 100β102. See also Record entry example, 371β372 TMJ, dislocation; Lateral pterygoid Reddening of face, 12 muscle, myospasm of medial pterygoid Reduced disc-condyle position, 15β16, 73, muscle pain 197β199, 315, 385 medial pterygoid muscle pain, 80β81, 95, 97, Referral criteria for hygienists and staff, 351 98β100, 308β309 Referrals obstructive sleep apnea appliances, 104β105 chiropractics to, 227, 234, 286 occlusal interference sequelae, 102β104 physical therapy to, 54, 227, 229β232, 257, predisposed patients, 96, 98, 100 278, 285β286, 290, 292, 293 pretreatment palpations, 96 case scenarios, 305, 307, 310, 314, 323, 325 prevention, 95, 97β98 examples of, 373β374 Restricted mouth opening, 15β16, 34β37, 75, recommendations for, 230β231 77β78, 80β81, 98β100, 107β108, 113β114, scope of care within, 14, 33, 54 122, 131, 284, 308β309, 313β319 selecting therapist, 323 Retention of appliances, 153β154 writing how to, 231β232 Retrodiscal tissue psychiatrist to, 19, 252, 283, 290, 293, 310 pseudodisc, 71β73 psychologist to, xvi, 18β19, 87, 92, 116, 205, stretching exercise, 120β122, 316β318 209, 223, 239, 241β246, 283, 286β288, Retrospective study, 334, 336, 337, 340 290β291 Rheumatoid arthritis, 76, 85, 286 case scenarios, 308, 309β311, 323 Robaxin. See Methocarbamol examples of, 375β376 Rofecoxib, 254 I N D E X 403 S Signifi cance of results Scope of care, 14, 33, 54 clinical, 335β336 Secondary diagnosis, 3, 71, 300β306, 312β323, statistical, 335β336 325β326, 385 Signs of TMD, primary, xv, xvii, xx, 9, 89, 351 Secondary gain, 7, 9, 85, 385 Silastic disc replacement implants, 7, 9, 68, 277, Secondary to dental care, 95β105, 318β319, 290 323β325 Singing, 20, 31 etiology, 95β105 Sinus congestion or pain, 3, 11, 27β28, 33β34, inability to close into MI, 100β102. See also 57, 60, 292, 305β306 TMJ, dislocation; Lateral pterygoid muscle, Sleep apnea appliances, 104β105 myospasm of Sleep quality, 14, 17β18, 27, 85, 93, 206, medial pterygoid muscle pain, 80β81, 95, 97, 212β213, 258, 290, 292, 299, 309β311 98β100, 308β309 Sodium hyaluronate, 275 obstructive sleep apnea appliances, 104β105 Soft palate uniform movement, 54 occlusal interference sequelae, 102β104 |
Soft thermoplastic stabilization appliances, predisposed patients, 96, 98, 100 149β150, 155, 341, 342 pretreatment palpations, 96 Soma. See Carisoprodol prevention, 95, 97β98 SORT, 331 Secondary to trauma, 28, 67, 75, 91β94, 115 Splenius capitis muscle imaging, 67, 92 palpation of, 39β40, 42β43 treatment of, 93β94, 253 referral from, 42β43, 46, 49, 53 Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), 252, Splints. See Occlusal appliances 259 SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor), 252, Self-management therapy, 209β223, 284, 259 359β360, 363β364 Stability, occlusal, 146β147, 155, 205, 265β272, breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, 116, 209, 283, 288β289. See also Occlusion 219β233, 240β245, 286β287, 290β291, Stabilization appliances, 385 308 acrylic, 148β150, 174β180 external cues, 220β221, 244β245, 291, 383 adjustment of, 155β171 internal cues, 221β222, 245, 291, 294, 384 external adjustments for, 161β167 caffeine consumption, 212β215, 284, 294, 360 dental implants, 165 closure muscle-stretching exercise, 80, 99, 216, external reline of, 167β171 284, 308β310, 363β364 internal adjustments for, 156β158 diet restrictions, 212, 360 internal reline of, 158β161 heat thermotherapy, 8, 93, 99, 211, 216β218, repair of, 171β174 230, 284, 292, 339, 359, 363 Astron, 150, 155 instructions, 210β216, 284, 359β360, 363β364 athletic mouthpiece, 136, 137, 148, 152, 186, lateral pterygoid myospasm-stretching exercise, 188 108β110, 217β218, 319β320 care for, 361β362 muscle massage, xvi, 116β117, 205, 210, caries and restorations, 55β56, 98 227β228, 285, 359 centric relation, 136, 138β141, 266, 273, 383 over-the-counter medications, 254, 259β261, dental implants with, 165 360 description of, 132, 136 posture exercises, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 341, dual laminate thermoplastic, 150β151, 153, 365β367 171, 184β186 thermotherapy, 8, 93, 99, 211, 216β218, 230, Eclipse, 149β150 284, 292, 339, 359, 363 effi cacy of, 131β132, 136β137, 144, 240β241, trigger-point compression, 210β211, 229, 285 245, 284 Sex differences. See Gender differences effi cacy theories, 136β137 404 I N D E X Stabilization appliances (continued) TMJ loading effect from, 128, 132, 137, 139, examples of, 174β189 145, 276 dual laminate thermoplastic, 184β186 two opposing appliances, 188β189 hard thermoplastic, 148β150, 180β184 Staff referral criteria, 351 Impak, 150β151, 155 Sternocleidomastoid muscle maxillary acrylic, 177β180 palpation of, 47β49 pressure cured mandibular acrylic, referred pain from, 46, 49 174β179 Steroidal anti-infl ammatory medications, 93, 122, soft thermoplastic, 149β150, 188β189 315, 317, 320, 322 external adjustments for, 161β167 Stethoscope, use of, 37 dental implants with, 165 Strength-of-Recommendation Taxonomy (SORT), external reline of, 167β171 331 full coverage of, 136, 142β143, 154 Stress, 4, 15, 18β19, 26, 30, 84β86, 89, 98, 211, habit breaking, 147, 166, 180β184, 223 214, 220, 239β248, 283 hard acrylic, 148β150, 174β180 Stress management, 241β242, 246β248, 288, 385 hard thermoplastic, 180β184 Stretching exercises hybrid, 150, 155 closure muscle-stretching, 80, 99, 216, 284, Impak, 150β151, 155 308β310, 363β364 implant (dental), 165 lateral pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 108β110, impressions with restricted opening for, 122 217β218, 319β320 intermediate softness appliance materials, 135, medial pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 80, 99, 309 148β151, 155, 184β186 posture for, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 341, internal adjustments for, 156β158 365β367 internal reline of, 158β161 retrodiscal tissue, 120β122, 316β318 interocclusal record for, 138β141, 325β326 tongue depressors to forcibly stretch, 96 laboratory instructions for, 369β370 Stretching test, 15β16, 35, 101, 108β109, 309, management for, 189β193 316, 318 mandibular, 145β147, 154β155, 174β179, Study 180β189 design, 333β342 mandibular positions for, 138β141, 325β326 generalizable, 329β330, 343 maxillary, 145β147, 154β155, 177β180 hypothesis, 331, 343 maxillary acrylic, 177β180 outcome measures, 331, 344 mechanisms of, 136β137 population, 329β330, 343 neutral position, 139β141, 197, 276, 384 question, 331, 343 occlusal stability, 132, 136β137, 265β266 registration, 331 opposing appliances, 188β189 Stylomandibular ligament, 47, 52β53 partial coverage of, 142β144 Subjects pressure cured mandibular acrylic, 174β179 blinded, 338, 343 reline of drop out, 340, 344 external, 167β171 follow-up, 340, 344 internal, 158β161 masked, 338, 343 repair of, 171β174 Subluxation (dislocation), 14, 16, 30, 76, 91, restorations and caries, 55β56, 98 127β129, 386 restricted opening with, 122, 131 stabilization appliance for, 128 retention of, 153β154 Suicide, 19β20, 31 soft thermoplastic, 149β150, 155, 341, 342 Summaries of TMD therapies, 283β292 theories of effi cacy, 136β137 Supplements, nutritional, 251, 254, 261β262 thickness of, 153β154 Surgery of TMJ, 7, 9, 68, 273β277, 290, 315 TMJ dislocation for, 128 alloplastic disc implants, 7, 9, 68, 277, 290 I N D E X 405 arthrocentesis, 273β275 recommendations for chronic headaches arthroscopy, 273β276 patients, 13 case scenarios, 315 recommended initial palpation, 40 disc replacement implants, 7, 9, 68, 277, 290 referral criteria for hygienists, 351 joint replacement implants, 276β277 Team approach, 205β206, 283, 290 modifi ed condylotomy, 276 Tefl on-Proplast disc implants, 7, 9, 68, 277, 290 open joint surgery, 275β277 Temporal arteritis, 21, 32 referral recommendations, 273β275 Temporalis muscle Swollen or puffy region, 12, 29, 67β68, 276 palpation of, 39β44 Symptoms of TMD referred pain from, 46 acute, 74, 79β80, 89β129, 152, 252, 253, stretching of, 80, 99, 324 255β257, 321β323 Temporomandibular disorder. See TMD awakening, 9, 17β18, 27, 84, 189, 247, Temporomandibular joint. See TMJ 256β258, 286β291, 306 Tender nodules. See Trigger points cardinal, xv Tension, 15, 18β19, 85β86, 115β117, 214β216, chronic, xvii, 15, 25, 89, 252β253, 256, 258, 219β223, 239β248, 287β291, 309β310 288β289 Tension-type headache, 13, 338 concomitant symptoms with, xvii, 7β21, 27β33, Tertiary diagnosis, 3, 71, 312β323, 385 42β43, 54β56, 60, 205β206, 384, 290, Tests 292, 299, 311, 336 anesthetic, 34, 56β57, 79, 300β302 correlations, xv, 9, 85 clenching teeth, 60 daytime, 9, 85β87, 115β116, 239β241, cold, 34, 56, 301 286β287, 308 stretching, 15β16, 35, 101, 108β109, 309, 316, duration, 12 318 frequency, 12 Textbooks on TMD, 380 intensity, 12 Therapies muscle-overuse, 14, 20, 102, 211, 228, 251 acupuncture, 232β233, 286 nighttime, 9, 84, 291 adjunctive therapies, 227β248, 290β292 patterns, xv, 4, 9, 85, 385 altering due to dental caries, 55β56, 98 primary, xv, xvii, xx, 9, 89, 351 analgesic cream, 259β260 quality, 9, 11, 14, 26β27, 310 analgesics, 93, 101, 252β254, 259 tooth contributing to, 10β11, 27, 33, 55β57, anterior positioning appliance, 119β120, 122, 97, 292, 300β302, 334, 335 132, 197β203, 315, 383 Syndromes antidepressants Eagleβs, 29 selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), Ernest, 52β53 252, 259 Synovitis. See TMJ, infl ammation of tricyclic, 89, 251, 252, 258β259, 288, 291, Systematic reviews, 343 322 Systemic contributors to TMD, 3, 14, 29, 60, 85, daytime pain treated using, 258β259, 291 293, 310β311, 336 description of, 258 nocturnal bruxism treated using, 258, 288 T anti-infl ammatory medications Tables corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 additional palpations, 47 nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications cursory TMD evaluation palpation for dental (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, patients, 96 253β256, 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, events related to TMD onset, 84 317, 320, 322 headaches recommendations, 13 athletic mouthpiece, 136, 137, 148, 152, 186, initial recommended palpation, 40 188 406 I N D E X Therapies (continued) cognitive behavioral intervention, 19, 85, awakening symptoms, 9, 17β18, 27, 84, 189, 92β93, 205, 227, 239β248, 309β311, 247, 256β258, 286β291, 306 314, 318, 323β326, 375β376, 383 medications for, 257β259, 288, 291 habit breaking appliance, 147, 166, 180β184, occlusal appliance for, 136β137, 202, 284 223 biofeedback, 227, 239, 240β248, 287β288, hypnotherapy, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 290β291, 293, 308, 322β323 occlusal appliance for, 147, 166, 180β184, breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, 116, 209, 223 219β233, 240β245, 286β287, 290β291, relaxation, 215, 239, 241β248, 287β288 308 stress management, 241β242, 246β248, 288, external cues, 220β221, 244β245, 291, 383 385 internal cues, 221β222, 245, 291, 294, tricyclic antidepressants for, 258β259, 291 384 diet restrictions, 212, 360 caffeine consumption, 212β215, 284, 294, effi cacy of, xvii, 143β145, 205β206, 215, 360 240β241, 245β246, 265β267, 283β292 cervical pain, 383 by general dentists, xvii, 206 awakes patients, 18, 27 electrical stimulation, 230 case scenarios, 304, 233β234 exercises headache contribution, 13, 33, 286 closure muscle-stretching, 80, 99, 216, 284, palpation for, 43β50, 304 308β310, 363β364 prevalence of, 13, 92, 228 lateral pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 101, referred pain from, 43β50, 53, 304 109β110, 217β218, 319β320 scope of care within, 14, 33, 54 medial pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 80, 99, signifi cance of, 13β14, 27, 34, 42β43, 53, 309 384, 290, 292, 299, 311 posture, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 341, treatment of, 50β51, 53β54, 228, 230β232, 365β367 234, 259, 284β286, 305 retrodiscal tissue stretch, 120β122, 316β318 cervicogenic headache, 3, 13β14, 33, 42, 50β51, tongue depressors to forcibly stretch, 96 53β54, 228, 230β232, 234, 259, 284β286, habit reversal, 209, 214, 219β222, 240β242, 305, 374 286β287 chiropractics, 227, 234, 286 external cues, 220β221, 244β245, 291, 383 closure muscle-stretching exercise, 80, 99, 216, internal cues, 221β222, 245, 291, 294, 384 284, 308β310, 363β364 heat thermotherapy, 8, 93, 99, 211, 216β218, cognitive behavioral intervention, 19, 85, 230, 284, 292, 339, 359, 363 92β93, 205, 227, 239β248, 309β311, 314, hyaluronic acid. See Sodium hyaluronate 318, 323β326, 375β376, 383 hypnosis, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 cold thermotherapy, 93, 211 hypnotherapy, 245β246, 287, 305, 375 compliance with therapy, 206β207, 210, 211, integrating multidisciplinary TMD therapies, 215, 219, 246, 287, 292, 293 290β292 corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 lateral pterygoid myospasm-stretching exercise, counter-irritant creams, 259 101, 109β110, 217β218, 319β320 COX2 inhibitors, 254β255 long-term management, 288, 289, 294β295 daytime symptoms, 9, 85β87, 115β116, magnetic therapy, 234β235, 286 239β241, 286β287, 308 massage therapy, xvi, 116β117, 205, 210, biofeedback, 227, 239, 240β248, 287β288, 227β228, 285, 359 290β291, 293, 308, 322β323 MENS (microcurrent electrical nerve breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, 116, stimulation), 230 209, 219β233, 240β245, 286β287, motivating patient, 210, 215, 219, 222, 239, 290β291, 308 242, 244β245, 293 I N D E X 407 muscle massage, xvi, 116β117, 205, 210, corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, 322 227β228, 285, 359 COX2 inhibitors, 254β255 muscle relaxants muscle relaxants central acting, 56, 81, 93, 98, 99, 101, 122, central acting, 56, 81, 93, 98, 99, 101, 256β257, 309, 315, 318β319, 321, 322 122, 256β257, 309, 315, 318β319, peripheral acting, 257 321, 322 muscle-stretching for peripheral acting, 257 closure muscles, 80, 99, 216, 284, 308β310, nocturnal parafunctional habits for, 257β259, 363β364 288, 291, 384 lateral pterygoid myospasm, 101, 109β110, nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications 217β218, 319β320 (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, medial pterygoid myospasm, 80, 99, 309 253β256, 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications 317, 320, 322 (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, 253β256, nutritional supplements, 251, 254, 261β262 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 315, 317, 320, over-the-counter medications, 254, 259β261, 322 360 NSAIDs. See Nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), medications 252, 259 occlusal adjustment, 57, 267β270, 288β289, sodium hyaluronate, 275 339, 379 topical medications, 259β261 occlusal equilibration, 57, 267β270, 288β289, tricyclic antidepressants, 89, 251, 252, 339, 379 258β259, 288, 291, 322 occlusal stability, 132, 136β137, 265β266 phonophoresis, 230 orthodontic therapy, xvi, 84, 95, 128, 142, 162, physical medicine, 227β235 201, 265, 267, 270β272, 337, 342β343, physical therapy referral, 54, 227, 229β232, 379 257, 278, 285β286, 290, 292, 293 orthognathic surgery, 190, 267, 283, 325, case scenarios, 305, 307, 310, 314, 323, 325 270β272, 336 examples of, 373β374 orthopedic stability See Occlusal stability recommendations for, 230β231 over-the-counter medications, 254, 259β261, scope of care within, 14, 33, 54 360 selecting therapist, 323 pharmacological management, 251β262 writing how to, 231β232 acute symptoms for, 252, 253, 255β257, physician referrals, 8, 53 321β323 post-dental treatment, 95β105, 318β319, analgesic cream, 259β260 323β325 analgesics, 93, 101, 252β254, 259 post-traumatic, 28, 67, 75, 91β94, 115 antidepressants imaging, 67, 92 selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor treatment of, 93β94, 253 (SSRI), 252, 259 posture exercises, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 341, tricyclic, 89, 251, 252, 258β259, 288, 291, 365β367 322 prosthodontic therapy, xvi, 141, 201, 205, 267, anti-infl ammatory medications 272β273, 379, 283 corticosteroids, 93, 122, 315, 317, 320, psychiatrist referral, 19, 252, 283, 290, 293, 322 310 nonsteroidal anti-infl ammatory medications psychologist referral, xvi, 18β19, 87, 92, 116, (NSAIDs), 89, 93, 98, 101, 122, 205, 209, 223, 239, 241β246, 283, 253β256, 260, 261, 306, 308β309, 286β288, 290β291 315, 317, 320, 322 case scenarios, 308, 309β311, 323 chronic symptoms for, 252β253, 256, 258 examples of, 375β376 408 I N D E X Therapies (continued) stretching exercises recommendations for, 223, 241β244 closure muscle-stretching, 80, 99, 216, 284, selecting therapist, 243 308β310, 363β364 refractory to initial therapy, 292β294 lateral pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 101, relaxation, 215, 239, 241β248, 287β288 109β110, 217β218, 319β320 scope of care within, 14, 33, 54 medial pterygoid myospasm-stretch, 80, 99, secondary to trauma, 28, 67, 75, 91β94, 115 309 imaging, 67, 92 posture for, 218β219, 284β285, 305, 341, treatment of, 93β94, 253 365β367 selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), retrodiscal tissue, 120β122, 316β318 252, 259 tongue depressors to forcibly stretch, 96 self-management therapy, 209β223, 284, summaries of therapies, 283β292 359β360, 363β364 surgery. See TMJ surgery breaking daytime habits, 18, 84β85, 116, tension-type headache, 13, 338 |
Positive Relationships Sue Roffey Editor Positive Relationships Evidence Based Practice across the World Editor Sue Roffey School of Education University of Western Sydney Sydney, Australia Department of Clinical, Educational and Health Psychology University College London, UK sue@sueroffey.com ISBN 978-94-007-2146-3 e-ISBN 978-94-007-2147-0 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0 Springer Dordrecht Heidelberg London New York Library of Congress Control Number: 2011938235 Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 No part of this work may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, microfi lming, recording or otherwise, without written permission from the Publisher, with the exception of any material supplied specifi cally for the purpose of being entered and executed on a computer system, for exclusive use by the purchaser of the work. Printed on acid-free paper Springer is part of Springer Science+Business Media (www.springer.com) For Dz β of course. Foreword The past decade has seen a seismic shift within psychology and allied sciences towards an increasing emphasis on what makes life go well. Positive Psychology has played a central role in rebalancing the previous obsession with problems, pathology and dysfunction. The happiness and wellbeing of individuals has been at the core of this new science, and we have learned much about the value of positive emotions, the characteristics of happy people, and ways to promote individual hap- piness and wellbeing. However, the foundation of what makes lives go well is not the individual, but the quality of our relationships β the development of trust, the giving and receiving of love and support, and the myriad ways in which relation- ships can be life enhancing. In this seminal book, Sue Roffey and a team of international experts move beyond a focus on the individual, putting relationships at the heart of life going well. In doing so, this book follows a fi ne tradition which goes back to Darwin, who recog- nised that the extraordinary complexity of human behaviour, including thinking, language, the diversity and subtlety of emotions, and our ability to envisage the future, are all derived from our evolution as social animals, and are manifestations of our social brain. Neuroscience has shown that the human brain has evolved the capacity to sense what other people are thinking and feeling. It is βmirrorβ cells in the human brain that are activated when we feel empathy or compassion allowing us to share another persons joy or pain. Other brain regions have become specialised to allow us to βmind readβ or understand what other people are thinking, hoping and planning. Social relationships have not only shaped human evolution, but they play a profoundly important role in human development. From the moment of birth (and even in utero), children enter a world of relationships to which they respond and through which they learn to navigate. Research has shown that the quality of these early relationships can have lifelong effects on mental health, cognitive capability, lifestyle behaviours and, of course, later relationships. But formative as these early years are, research has also shown that they are not deterministic, and later social infl uences can alter these trajectories for better or for worse. The rich variety and depth of the research presented in the 17 chapters of this book explores both what is known about the development of positive relationships, vii viii Foreword and the wide range of approaches which have been employed to enhance the quality of relationships. Recognising the fundamental importance of the type and quality of our early relationships, many chapters are devoted to relationships with family. Effective parenting and positive parent-child interactions are dynamic processes requiring constant adaptation as the child develops through infancy and the primary years to adolescence and young adulthood. The dynamics of this process and the skills required for positive relationships at each stage are clearly described in this volume. The brilliant body of research by John Gottman on couples and the quali- ties associated with positive couple relationships is described, and this volume also considers what happens for children when a coupleβs relationship breaks down beyond repair. We learn about the importance of listening to childrenβs voices and maximising their wellbeing in the context of family breakdown, and ways in which this can be achieved. The seminal role of the child-teacher relationship and the qual- ity of relationships with peers, particularly the nature of friendship are addressed in depth. An understanding is provided both of what makes for positive relationships in this context and a critical evaluation of approaches employed to improve such relationships. Strong evidence is presented for the importance of a whole school approach to relationship quality and its impact on learning and wellbeing. A good deal of attention is given to inter-personal relationships in the workplace where a growing body of evidence shows that positive relationships can improve productivity and fi nancial success. However, positive relationships at work are of value in their own right quite apart from benefi ts to the βbottom lineβ. Positive rela- tionships at work can in turn feed into more positive relationships with family, friends and community members. Much has been written about the importance of leadership in the workplace, and it is now recognised that the ability to foster posi- tive relationships is at the heart of good leadership. Inspiration and innovation are not enough β true leaders also need emotional and social intelligence to engage workers in co-creating their vision. Mentorship is widely regarded as a valuable function in the workplace, although there can be wide variations in style and quality. The role of professional consultants is also at heart a relational matter, and we need a better understanding of the factors which make consultations more effective. These and numerous other facets of positive relationships in the workplace are engagingly and insightfully explored in this volume. The book goes beyond inter-personal relationships to investigate positive com- munity relationships, which is an area of positive psychology much in need of further development. Schools, workplaces and other organisations are analysed at the level of communities, and innovative approaches to enhancing positive community relationships are presented. A particular strength of the book is the cultural aware- ness that it brings to all the topics covered, including a variety of approaches to building positive community relationships where there are major differences in ethnicity, culture or beliefs. Building harmonious and peaceful relationships in families, institutions and communities is eloquently addressed in a number of chapters, including the idea of healthy confl ict and the power of restorative justice to strengthen understanding, relationships and wellbeing. Foreword ix As the bookβs editor, Sue Roffey has created a fi rst rate, comprehensive account of the wealth of relationships which impinge on our daily lives, characterising their positive attributes across a wide range of life stages and contexts, and providing valuable information about how to make relationships more positive. I have learned a great deal from this informative volume on evidence-based practice and the enhancement of positive relationships. I believe it will have a lasting impact on the fi eld of positive psychology, and encourage further research, theorising and applica- tion, which goes beyond the individual to the multitude of ways we can be positively connected with others. Professor Felicia A. Huppert Director of the Well-being Institute University of Cambridge Acknowledgments I would like to thank the following individuals for their involvement in the comple- tion of this volume. Esther Otten of Springer whose initiative, positive energy and strong support not only made the project possible in the fi rst place but helped bring it to fruition. All of the authors who probably wondered what they had let themselves in for when working on their nth draft. I am immensely grateful for their efforts, patience and responsiveness in shaping the fi nal version.. Geoffrey Abbott, Angelika Anderson, Ed Baines, Gawaian Bodkin-Andrews, Joshua Brown, Bill Bumberry, Tim Corcoran, Helena Cornelius, Joanna Finkelstein, Michael Flood, Bill Hansberry, Betty Holmes, Belinda Hopkins, Suzy Green, Bridget Grenville-Cleave, Tamera Linseisen, Jan Long, Emma Marshall, Christina Michaelson, Wendy Moran, Yin Paradies, Gail Parfi tt, Jennifer Smith, Scott Smith, Alison Soutter, Greta Sykes, Marilyn Tew, Marg Thorsbourne, Julie-Anne Tooth, Judith Trowell, Dianne Vella-Brodrick, Arlene Vetere, Patsy Wagner, Roz Walker and Di Yerbury all gave their time generously to read and comment on the develop- ing chapters. Without the efforts of those whose work is cited here, psychology would not have raised its game in discovering what makes a real difference in promoting the quality of peopleβs lives and relationships. Thanks to you all. My partner David checked references, formatted all the chapters and kept me sane when we had major computer glitches β and was often able to fi x them. He is my friend (sometimes critical friend!), husband, supporter, comforter, challenger, technical advisor and the major source of my wellbeing, I could not have done this without him. xi Contents 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World ...................................................................... 1 Sue Roffey 2 Wellbeing and Resilience in Young People and the Role of Positive Relationships ......................................................................... 17 Toni Noble and Helen McGrath 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships as an Antidote to Violence ...................................................................... 35 Robyn Hromek and Angela Walsh 4 Learning About Relationships ............................................................... 55 Gretchen Brion-Meisels and Stephanie M. Jones 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship Satisfaction and Happiness ................ 73 Vagdevi Meunier and Wayne Baker 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships ..................................................... 91 Kimberly OβBrien and Jane Mosco 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change in Family Relationships ............................................................ 109 Emilia Dowling and Diana Elliott 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance ........................................ 127 Karen Majors 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools ....................................... 145 Sue Roffey 10 Positive Relationships at Work .............................................................. 163 Sue Langley xiii xiv Contents 11 Positive Professional Relationships ....................................................... 181 Elizabeth Gillies 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential ...................... 197 Ann M. Brewer 13 Spirited Leadership: Growing Leaders for the Future ....................... 215 Hilary B. Armstrong 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ ............................................................... 227 Florence E. McCarthy and Margaret H. Vickers 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent Beliefs and Cultures ...................................................... 245 Zalman Kastel 16 Conflict and Confrontation .................................................................... 261 Lois Edmund 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships ...................................... 277 Peta Blood Index ................................................................................................................. 293 Chapter 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World Sue Roffey 1.1 A Foundation for Wellbeing The human race has developed technology almost beyond comprehension. We can perform what a century ago would have been in the realms of magic and fantasy. The Internet, air travel and the genome project are just a few examples of the way knowledge and its application has expanded to change our lives β especially for those in the privileged, βdevelopedβ world. And yet we have progressed much less in matters of wisdom and living well. Confl icts continue to rage across the globe, family breakdown is rife, parenting skills often lacking, antisocial behaviour, intolerance and addictions are all increas- ingly a concern. Many individuals and communities are βlanguishingβ rather than βfl ourishingβ (Keyes and Haidt 2 003 ) . There is a disconnect between people that is partly framed by economics and the dominance of the individual. The world is increasingly focused on βthe bottom lineβ, which is not about intrinsic value and meaning in our lives but about extrinsic mone- tary worth. We are living in times when the quality of relationships often matters less than our bank balance, profi t margins and having the latest and best of everything. The media β and often politicians β regularly feed us a diet of how not to get on well with people: fostering fear, revenge and contempt rather than understanding and compassion. We are encouraged to laugh at the downfall of others and immediately feel better about ourselves by comparison. Politicians are sometimes congratulated for how βcleverlyβ they put others down and do not make the connection between this S. Roffey (*) School of Education , University of Western Sydney , Sydney , Australia Department of Clinical, Educational and Health Psychology, University College , London , UK e-mail: sue@sueroffey.com S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 1 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_1, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 2 S. Roffey behaviour and the level of bullying in our schools. Our |
competitive world encourages us to believe that being more successful, rich, famous, beautiful or popular than those around us will bring us happiness. Positive psychology research is increasingly providing evidence that authentic and sustainable wellbeing lies elsewhere β confi rming what many of us know already. Human beings are social animals. We need each other. At the deepest level, we want to feel that we belong, that we are connected with others, and most of us seek relation- ships that nurture our mind, body and spirit. Reis and Gable ( 2003 ) consider that rela- tionships may be the most important source of life satisfaction and wellbeing. From the fundamental importance of early attachment in infancy, through learning to make friends as children and belonging to teenage groups, onto romantic, sexual relationships and becoming parents and workers, relationships are threaded through every stage of life and are intrinsic to many things we do. We therefore need to know how to connect well in all the different relationships in our lives, at home, at work, at school and at play. 1.2 The Project This volume on positive relationships is, to say the least, an ambitious project β some might say a foolhardy one. How can a handful of authors, however knowledgeable, encapsulate one of the most central and dynamic issues of all time β how we relate to each other in the diverse roles of our lives? Surely this has been done to death? Well, yes and no. There are certainly plenty of books β and journals β on parenting, con- fl ict, work relationships, couple relationships and just about every other chapter here, but not, to my knowledge, on relationships as a theme across multiple dimensions and written primarily from a positive perspective: what we know about what is effec- tive, builds the best between people, has a strengths and solution focus and aims not just to explore problems but enhance both individual and community wellbeing. When I was asked to edit this book, I thought it was a great opportunity to dissemi- nate important knowledge, but underestimated the extent of the endeavour I was tak- ing on. It has been a demanding but also a fascinating and stimulating task. Every chapter has been doubly peer reviewed and re-crafted, often several times, to refl ect current knowledge across the world. Undoubtedly signifi cant evidence will have been omitted, and some researchers do not get the credit they deserve. Steve Duck springs to mind. His book Friends for Life (1 983 ) inspired me when I fi rst started being inter- ested in these issues and his work since has been prolifi c. If this volume stimulates you to explore further, perhaps start with the (4th) revised edition of Human Relationships (Duck 2 007 ) . Further chapters around specifi c relational themes could have been included here but in the end decisions have to be made on what to include and what to leave out. What I have chosen are relationships and aspects of relationships that most people experience in a personal capacity. There is a strong focus throughout the book on children and young people; education around relational issues is implicit or explicit in many of the chapters. Perhaps an emphasis on the next generation is more hopeful and optimistic. If we can support a 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World 3 better understanding of positive relationships, and the values and skills to develop these, with those who will become the citizens, workers, parents and leaders of the future, then maybe our world will become a safer and more civilised place to be. The authors are a mix of practitioners and academics β some both β from Europe, Australasia, North America and Asia. The depth and breadth of knowledge gained by working in the fi eld is often not given suffi cient acknowledgement or credence, so we have deliberately encapsulated not only evidence-based practice but also practice-based evidence to explore what is healthy, sustaining and has the best out- comes. This evidence is both quantitative and qualitative β measuring what is effec- tive and understanding the meaning and processes of how things work. All authors were responsive to numerous editorial demands and dedicated to the task in hand. I am grateful to them for their patience and hard work, especially as many were also occupied with their own projects and on-going work commitments. Without exception, in the yearlong process of putting this volume together, they personifi ed the qualities of positive relationships. 1.3 Positive Psychology The science of positive psychology has transformed the direction of thinking. Rather than investigate problems in human functioning, researchers have focused on ways to achieve maximum wellbeing and βauthentic happinessβ. This has led to some surprising fi ndings, but also confi rmed some of the basic wisdoms for living life well, many of which are encapsulated in these chapters. The three pillars of authentic happiness, fi rst identifi ed by Seligman (2 002 ) and widely extended by others, are: β’ The pleasant life β positive feelings and experiences β’ The engaged life β being absorbed by something you fi nd deeply interesting β’ The meaningful life β what is over and above the self β relationships, service to others and spirituality Although the fi rst is of great importance, it does not lead to sustainable wellbeing on its own. It is based in what is known as hedonic wellbeing: feelings of pleasure. These are gained in such experiences as a wedding, passing a test, having a new car or enjoying a meal with friends β all wonderful but temporary. Fredrickson (2 009 ) has studied the value and benefi t of positive feelings in optimising aspects of wellbeing, such as creativ- ity and problem solving, but acknowledges that we also need to have sad or otherwise negative feelings from time to time to experience life fully. Meaning and engagement are based in βeudaimonicβ wellbeing, which comprises an approach towards life and a way of being that is deeper and more sustainable (Ryan and Deci 2001 ) . Seligmanβs most recent model for wellbeing goes by the acronym of PERMA: Positive emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning and Accomplishment/ achievement (Seligman 2 011 ). Relationships may therefore have a higher profi le in positive psychology in the future. 4 S. Roffey Critics of positive psychology sometimes say that it focuses too strongly on subjective wellbeing and risks people being blamed (or blaming themselves) for their situations β the tyranny of the positive (Held 2008 ) . There is a related concern, particularly amongst community psychologists, that the discourse of wellbeing will undermine social efforts to improve the plight of the disadvantaged. As several authors demonstrate, positive psychology is linked more with social justice than might at fi rst be apparent. There is also at least one alternative theory for this lack of empathy in society: Belief in a Just World (Lerner 1980 ) is the theory or mindset that says everyone gets what they deserve. For instance, if you work hard at school you will be successful and get a good job β if you are lazy you wonβt. There is of course a reality to this state- ment β but it is far from the whole story. It is not surprising that young people get depressed or disengaged when they try their best but donβt do as well as expected, or fi nd they can never succeed in comparison to others, or that events outside school curtail their concentration or motivation. It also means that people who have terrible things happen to them β such as being a refugee, homeless or in a tsunami β are not seen as being in the wrong place at the wrong time but somehow responsible for their plight. The Belief in a Just World is the basis of the American dream β that everyone can make it β and faulty because it does not take account of chance events, including where and to whom you were born. Yes, we can do things personally to change our lives for the better, both in actions and attitudes; yes, other people are often involved in our life events for better or worse, but things also happen by accident or as a result of interactive dynamics β there isnβt always someone to blame. Positive psychology helps people understand not only what they can do to make a difference for their individual wellbeing but also that this is also intricately con- nected to our relationships with others. Taking that on board in various ways not only enhances our own happiness but also the wellbeing of the communities and societies in which we live. One simple example is that science has shown that per- forming acts of kindness has several outcomes that benefi t the giver as well as the recipient (Lyubermirsky 2007 ) . Increasingly researchers are fi nding that individual authentic wellbeing cannot be separated from what is best for all of us. The Prilleltenskys ( 2006 ) have made strong connections between individual, organisa- tional and community wellbeing; Gardner and his colleagues (2 001 ) consider the elements of what can be considered β Good Work β, maintaining ethical relational values alongside a focus on excellence; Huppert (2 005 ) is concerned with provision for whole populations in respect of positive mental health. 1.4 Politics, Power and Equality Money does increase our wellbeing, especially if we are short of it, but above a certain (surprisingly) low level, it does not make much sustainable difference. Whilst some people with many material advantages do not fl ourish, others who live in relatively disadvantaged circumstances perceive themselves as having high levels 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World 5 of wellbeing (Huppert and So 2 009 ) . Even the boost to happiness that lottery winners experience decreases after a few months to their basic βset pointβ for happiness (Brickman et al. 1 978 ) . Sonja Lyubirmirsky ( 2007 ) refers to this as βhedonic adapta- tionβ, and it occurs in both positive and negative directions. What does matter in regards to money, however, exists in our relationship with others β if someone in a similar situation to us is getting a lot more than we are, we feel the inequality and it is this that affects our wellbeing. There appears to be an acceptance of bonuses for bosses, but when that becomes disproportionate β from several times as much as the average pay in an organisation to hundreds of times more β then anger and resent- ment surface. Fairness is a fundamental need for a healthy relationship β and a healthy society. Wilkinson and Pickett (2 010 ) summarise research around the world that demonstrates this in many areas, including physical and mental health, crimi- nality, violence and our βsocial inheritanceβ β how we connect with others. The more equal the society, the more able we are to share, support and collaborate. This book has not gone into depth on issues of power in relationships although this is often addressed by implication. It is apparent throughout that you cannot have a healthy relationship if you are only self-serving. It is imperative to consider the needs and perspectives of others as well as yourself. Where one person, community, company or nation tries to dominate a relationship for their own ends, not only does it impair the wellbeing of the weaker and infringe their basic human rights but it does not bring authentic wellbeing to the stronger either. For me, the personal is political. If you hold the values of fairness, empathy and respect for others and believe that ethical behaviour matters, you will not only attempt to live by these principles in your own life but also aim to create a world in which they are fostered and will seek their representation in all aspects of govern- ment. The hard-line economists tell us that this not what really matters β the evidence in this book says otherwise. 1.5 Human (and Animal!) Nature There are those who say that it is human nature to be acquisitive, aggressive and competitive, and it would be foolish to deny that these are powerful determinants of human behaviour. Our thoughts, |
attitudes and actions are, however, also socially constructed and even emotions are determined by how issues are discussed and cultural norms developed. We all learn what to do and how to be by listening to these βdominant discoursesβ, watching and copying others. This is true of the youngster who feels angry that someone has said something negative about his family in school and therefore βduty boundβ to punch the person who said it β to political rallies where people are led to feel that certain races are so unacceptable that their humanity can be dismissed and whole communities brutalised. Indigenous Australians were not fully classifi ed as citizens of their own country and not counted in the census until the 1960s when cultural norms changed suffi ciently to give them the vote. 6 S. Roffey A recent study of baboons also shows that aggressive behaviours in primates are not inevitable (Sapolski and Share 2 004 ) . During the mid 1980s, half of all males in a baboon troupe died of TB. The disease was transmitted through raiding human gar- bage, so it was the aggressive (alpha) males who ate more of the contaminated food and died β leaving a cohort of atypically unaggressive male survivors. A unique and more harmonious culture developed with more social grooming, affi liation with females, a relaxed dominance hierarchy and less stress among low ranking males. Sexual behav- iours remained the same. A decade later, these behavioural patterns persisted, with young males joining the troop adopting the less aggressive behaviours. Healthy relationships, and positive emotions within these, are essential for survival. Although the basic emotions of fear and anger in the face of threat get maximum attention, we also have other basic emotions of affection, interest and empathy that enable us to collaborate and support each other in times of need. Children are born egocentric for their own survival β they need to grow into being cooperative for the survival of the species (Roffey 2 006 ) . Crocker and her colleagues (2 005 ) talk about the need to shift the paradigm in inter-group processes from an βego-systemβ motivation concerned with personal rights, self preservation and indi- vidual gain to one which explores what is supportive for everyone and is focused on the βeco-systemβ. Egocentric emotions dominate our society. Threats are no longer just about physical survival but about preserving a positive sense of self that can be undermined in countless ways. Threats can be real but also conjured up, imagined or exaggerated. They all lead to behaviours that are about getting the better of others in order to protect the self. Eco-centric emotions β those that foster collaboration and understanding β are equally important, and their active development across all levels in society would perhaps be a sign of maturity. 1.6 The Content 1.6.1 Section One: The Power of Positive Relationships and How We Learn These There are fi ve sections to the book. The fi rst explores two major reasons why positive relationships are so signifi cant for both individual and community wellbeing, and then goes on to detail how relationships are learnt. In Chap. 2 , Toni Noble and Helen McGrath summarise the wealth of research that highlights the centrality of healthy connection with others for resilience and dealing with adversity. I know from my own work that vulnerable children, who are dealing with diffi cult situations and often presenting with challenging behaviour, can have their futures βrescuedβ by sensitive and caring teachers who make them feel worthwhile, focus on their strengths and foster a sense of belonging in the classroom. Violence is endemic in many societies and communities β particularly where inequality thrives. Aggressive and coercive behaviour in interpersonal relationships 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World 7 is not, however, inevitable, despite TV soap dramas that often suggest that it is! It is possible for individuals to modify their responses in situations and become more aware of the benefi ts of cooperation, negotiation and mutual respect. As Wolfe et al. ( 1999 ) found, empowering people to develop healthy relationships provides an alternative to violence. Robyn Hromek and Angela Walsh are practi- tioners who have been involved in two different aspects of improving relation- ships to prevent violence. Their case studies in Chap. 3 provide vivid illustrations of what can be achieved. Robyn recounts her experiences in a school where efforts were made to reduce bullying and other aggressive student behaviour by βplanting the peace virusβ. Angela writes about the Love Bites project that helps young people think through issues of gender relationships to reduce sexual and family violence. Chapter 4 in this section details what is required from infancy onwards in learn- ing what is involved in a healthy and sustaining relationship and what helps some- one grow to choose pro-social behaviours. Gretchen Brion-Meisels and Stephanie Jones outline the βstage-salientβ tasks required at different ages for children to become confi dent and empathic in their interactions with others. The authors also summarise innovative programmes in schools in the US and in Colombia that are helping young people to learn and develop positive relationships. 1.6.2 Section Two: Close Relationships The second section deals with our most intimate relationships. In Chap. 5 , Vagdevi Meunier and Wayne Baker refer, amongst others, to John Gottmanβs seminal work on couple relationships and the factors that contribute to a happy marriage or roman- tic/sexual partnership. The ways in which individuals deal with differences amongst them appears to be crucial in whether or not relationships fl ourish. Kimberley OβBrien, a child and family psychologist, and Jane Mosco, an educa- tional psychologist, work extensively with children, young people, their parents and carers. In their chapter on parentβchild relationships, these authors explore different parenting βstylesβ and their outcomes for children. Baumrindβs authoritative style (1 989 ) (also referred to as facilitative by later commentators) enables children to grow up to be independent, self-controlled, persistent and caring. The authors give examples of how this style might be incorporated into different life stages for these positive outcomes. Breakdown in family relationships is now sadly commonplace in most of the Western world. Separation and divorce, however, do not stop people being parents. In Chap. 7 , Emilia Dowling and Di Elliott, who work in mediation and family ther- apy, summarise what supports children in these situations of loss and change and what adults need to take into account. The rights of the child are paramount. Friendship is important to most of us. We often experience positive feelings in interactions with friends that boost our resilience, confi dence and a positive sense of self. Our friends may also provide the stable, positive alliance that families do not 8 S. Roffey always manage. Friendship is therefore critical for our psychological health. In Chap. 8 , Karen Majors outlines the functions of friendship and the ways in which positive reciprocal relationships with peers enhance wellbeing. She emphasises the importance of children learning the skills that enable them to establish a threshold for friendship. 1.6.3 Section Three: Relationships at School and at Work The third section moves away from the most intimate but includes important relationships that sustain wellbeing in different areas of life. Relationships in school are having an increasingly high profi le, not only for wellbeing but also for an effec- tive learning environment (Hattie 2009 ) . Relationships in one part of the school system impact on others, so schools are either building a healthy environment with high levels of social capital and relational quality or maintaining one that is full of anxiety and of benefi t only to those who can be βsuccessfulβ in tightly defi ned ways. I outline the ecology of positive relationships in schools in Chap. 9 . The advent of positive organisational psychology is an exciting development with an increasing evidence base of what makes a difference. Sue Langley works with organisations across the world to bring higher levels of emotional intelligence into the workplace. In Chap. 10 , she explores what promotes a cooperative, effective and fl ourishing working environment. She also identifi es the strengths and qualities of relationships that increase motivation, commitment and build social capital in an organisation. This not only enables people to achieve fulfi lment in their work but also leads to more creative and effective outputs. Chapter 11 is also about relationships at work but from a different perspective. Elizabeth Gillies writes about positive professional relationships and what is required in a relationship between client and a provider of services in order to gain the best outcome. This can be for artisans such as builders through to therapeutic services. This chapter explores solution-focused and strengths-based approaches for effective engagement with others along with a consultation model for interaction. Ann Brewer, in Chap. 12 , writes about how a mentoring relationship can nurture potential by contributing to life learning, enhancing perspectives of thinking and values as well as improving outcomes for both individuals and organisations. She explores the bi-directional infl uence within mentoring relationships and what is needed to ensure they work well. She also identifi es different ways of conducting a mentoring relationship. The fi nal chapter in this section, Chap. 13 , addresses leadership and what posi- tive psychology offers for a new paradigm. Hilary Armstrong makes the point that leadership skills often focus on measureable technical knowledge rather than the relationship skills that make the most difference. She refers to a specifi c study on organisational coaching to illustrate the importance and effectiveness of social intelligence in leadership. 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World 9 1.6.4 Section Four: Relationships in the Wider World This section goes beyond the interpersonal to the wider community. I fi rst experienced a small shift in community relationships at a street party in London. The little terraced houses were 100 years old that year, and my neighbours and I thought this was worth a celebration. In the 40 or so houses in the street were representatives from Ireland, Scotland, Poland, Cyprus, the Caribbean, India and England. The 6 months of meetings to discuss and plan what we would do on midsummerβs day led to greater connection and understanding between people. Even families who were not much involved in the planning βcame to the partyβ on the day and joined in with decorating the street, dressing up, cooking and dancing. The street was closed to traffi c and everyone brought out tables and chairs onto the pavement and shared food. The sun obligingly shone! From that time onwards we knew who our neigh- bours were, could greet them with a smile and sometimes stop for a chat on the way to the shops. The more we knew about each other, the less we could prejudge on the basis of stereotypes and assumptions. Barriers came down as we shared a common goal, and the benefi ts lasted long afterwards. In Chap. 14 , Margaret Vickers and Florence McCarthy have written about the complexities of community relationships in rural Australia. They present a case study that illustrates how positive community relations can be created, overcoming complex real and symbolic boundaries. As in the example above, this also occurred through the development of joint activities bringing disparate groups together. In this case, these included school staff and students, university students, community organisa- tions, a non-government organisation and indigenous elders with the common goal of promoting the teaching and learning of indigenous languages. The authors con- clude that community wellbeing can only grow out of reconstructed relationships replacing marginalisation and discrimination with respect and inclusion. Zalman Kastel is also concerned with promoting positive interactions between people of different cultures, although his focus is specifi cally the difference in reli- gious beliefs. He initiated the organisation now known as Together for Humanity where adults of different faiths (Jewish, Muslim and Christian) work with young people in schools and communities around Australia to enhance interfaith under- standing and tolerance. As Chap. 15 illustrates this is a far from straightforward task, but there is evidence that concerted, sensitive and thoughtful efforts do make a difference to how people perceive each other. 1.6.5 Section Five: Responding Positively to Challenges in Relationships In my experience, many people are skilled at establishing |
and maintaining positive relationships but get lost when dealing with direct challenges or situations that create tension. They put their head in the sand and pretend it isnβt happening, duck 10 S. Roffey out of confrontation and agree with everything for a quiet life or explode with frustration and anger. This fi nal section is therefore as important as all those that have gone before in exploring how we use a positive approach in potentially negative situations. Lois Edmund, in Chap. 16 , explores how healthy confl ict can strengthen a rela- tionship and ways in which to mitigate negative outcomes of confl ict. She makes the link between the science of positive psychology and the study of confl ict resolution. Finally, Chap. 17 looks at how relationships might be repaired after they have been damaged. Peta Blood gives an account of the practice and value of restorative approaches to reconnect individuals and communities and importantly to encour- age offenders to take authentic responsibility for their behaviour. These approaches are increasingly being seen to have value in various spheres from the justice system to schools. Not only are they more likely to rebuild healthy communities but also reduce the potential for further harm. 1.7 Threads and Connections Between Chapters One of the challenges of putting together a book on a single theme is to make each chapter discrete and offer some specifi c and unique insights. The authors have, by and large, achieved this. Inevitably, however, there are commonalities that run through many chapters. This also has benefi ts in showing how certain principles and ways of thinking are relevant to many different interpersonal situations and circumstances. As well as positive psychology, several authors refer to other theoretical approaches that they have found useful and congruent. Purists may be dismissive, but many applied psychologists are eclectic in their thinking and employ what they fi nd helpful. The following themes are mentioned throughout the book, although not in every chapter. 1.7.1 Ecological (Systems) Theory There is rarely linear causation in matters of human behaviour. Outcomes at any one time are the result of bi-directional, circular and accumulative causation. This assertion by Urie Bronfenbrenner (1 979 ) on ecological systems theory is refl ected in many chapters. This theory, originally on child development, says that we all live in nested systems, and there is bi-directional infl uence between them. The most infl uential is the micro system, comprising the day-to-day experiences with those in our immediate circle. For young children, this is the interaction with their families and carers. What happens here, however, is affected by other systems, from the resources provided by the local neighbourhood to the expectations in workplaces and schools to socio-political dimensions of the 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World 11 whole culture and the dominant values expressed there. Bronfenbrenner later added the chronosystem β an acknowledgement that ecologies do not remain static but change over time. 1.7.2 Social Constructionist Theory This theory emphasises the importance of meaning and how individuals and groups have different βrealitiesβ based in how people around them β including in the media β talk about things β often referred to as βdominant discoursesβ. Several chapters touch on how language matters in the creation of the world we live in, our priorities, perspectives and behaviour. It is useful to refl ect on how these discourses come about in society and in whose interest they might be. Sir Ken Robinson ( 2010 ) has some interesting things to say about this in relation to education and creativity. 1.7.3 Connection and Resilience Although Chap. 2 deals with this directly, the importance of feeling you belong somewhere and that at least one signifi cant person believes that you are worthwhile is referred to several times in other chapters. Emily Werner and her colleagues began their longitudinal study in 1955 in Hawaii with babies born in circumstances of multiple disadvantages which put them at risk of negative outcomes. They followed up the life trajectory of nearly 700 children into adolescence and adulthood and found that certain factors made the difference to their ability to overcome adversity. Of these, one of the most powerful is positive connection with others (Werner and Smith 2001 ) . This begins, but doesnβt end, with attachment; the early experiences in infancy where parent/carer responsiveness and emotional nurturing have such a powerful impact on how we feel about ourselves and our place in the world and therefore our future relationships (Bowlby 1 969 ). There is also evidence that the quality of attachment affects the development of the brain (Gerhardt 2004 ) . 1.7.4 Emotional and Social Intelligence/Literacy and Learning Although still open to academic debate, emotional intelligence (intrapersonal knowledge and skills) and social intelligence (interpersonal skills) have become widely recognised as the symbiotic abilities that underpin both positive function- ing and healthy social interactions (Ciarrochi and Scott 2 006 ; Schutte et al. 2 001 ; Goleman 2 006 ) . First given prominence by Howard Gardner in his early work on multiple intelligences (1 983) and later widely publicised by Daniel Goleman ( 1995, 2006 ) with extended research by Peter Salovey, John Mayer ( 1990 ) and 12 S. Roffey others, emotional and social intelligence has become part of the twenty-fi rst century zeitgeist. Many authors refer to the need for children to learn to become socially and emotionally literate β to be able to understand and manage their feelings, construct positive interactions with others and cope well with adversity. The work of CASEL (The Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning) in the US and Antidote in the UK have resulted in both countries putting SEL high on the educa- tional agenda. Other countries are following this lead. Skills include emotional rec- ognition, regulation and expression, empathy and concern for others, positive communication, responsible decision-making and goal setting. Social skills alone, however, can be self-serving and manipulative. To ensure that relationships develop in healthy and reciprocal ways, they need to be embedded in relational values and be learnt in congruent contexts (Roffey 2 010 ) . The relational value mentioned most often here is respect. This is not the respect that comes from deference to authority, but from being willing to listen to someone else even if you donβt agree with them (Roffey 2 005 ) . It means treating someone as worthy, not putting them down or mak- ing them feel inferior. Pro-social behaviour puts this into practice by acts of inclu- sion, kindness, interest, generosity and acceptance. For all but the most hardened individuals, this meets a basic psychological need for feeling valued and connected. 1.7.5 A Strengths and Solution Focus Traditional psychology addresses problems and defi cits. Positive psychology has moved away from this focus into exploring what is going well and how to get more of it. This includes personal qualities, the strengths of organisations and the posi- tives within any situation. Positive relationships are more likely if people seek to identify not only their own strengths and use these to reach goals but also do the same with others. Self- concepts and the resulting behaviours are infl uenced by how signifi cant others describe individuals. A child who is told she is helpful will begin to see herself that way; a young man who is told he is lazy will have nothing to live up to. Many authors refer to a strengths approach. Although there are many versions of these, the VIA inventory (Values in Action) devised by Chris Peterson and Martin Seligman (2 004 ) identifi es 24 specifi c strengths classifi ed under the six virtues of wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, temperance and transcendence. Rather than deconstruct a problem into its component parts, asking questions such as βwhat went wrong?β, a solution focus explores what people want and the extent to which they are already there (Greene and Grant 2006 ) . This is not only optimistic and future-focused but also ensures that energies are utilised in construc- tive action rather than negative rumination. There are strengths to celebrate in the fi eld of positive relationships and these are that we look to build on. There are couples in supportive, loving partnerships, and when these work well, they may meet the needs of both parties possibly better than 1 Introduction to Positive Relationships: Evidence-Based Practice Across the World 13 ever before. I look around at some of my friendsβ long-lasting marriages and see equality, companionship and mutual support. Many families are aware of good parenting practices, and children grow to be strong, independent and caring of others. Although it still exists, racism is less acceptable in society than it once was, and workplaces in the civilised world are no longer workhouses where employees live in fear of the unrestrained power of the bosses. There is much to be learnt from these developments, to hold on to and to evolve. 1.7.6 Social Capital Physical capital comprises hardware resources such as buildings and equipment and human capital comprises knowledge and skills. Social capital here refers to the quality of relationships within an organisation or community and the social cohe- sion they promote. Although basically a term originating in sociology, social capital is increasingly recognised by psychologists working in organisational and group settings and can be found here in several chapters. Although there is still debate over the precise defi nition, the concept continues to gain ground as a useful way of describing and analysing the relational quality of organisations and communities. High levels of social capital are developed by positive everyday interactions between people. These are marked by mutual trust, reciprocity and shared respon- sibility towards meeting agreed goals that put the common good over self-interest. Toxic environments, marked by cliques, negative communications and interactions, where power is wielded for the benefi t of a few, have low social capital. For most people, they are uncomfortable places to work, live or learn. Where there is good- will towards others in the norm, life becomes not only more pleasant but also more productive. Helliwell and Putnam ( 2004 ) have found from large samples of data from several countries that social capital, as measured by the strength of family, neighbourhood, religious and community ties, supports both physical health and subjective wellbeing. 1.8 Summary This book is not presented as a panacea but as a search for the possible. Positive relationships are what people really do seem to want in their lives β at home, at work and in their communities. Nearly everyone wants to feel valued, connected and s upported. A baby learning to smile at only 6 weeks shows just how deeply e mbedded this need for social connection is in our biology as well as across cultures. Despite the complexities of establishing and maintaining positive relationships, this book demonstrates what might be involved across different contexts in doing just that. Most of this isnβt rocket science β at one level we have always known it β now we have the evidence to prove it. Perhaps we need to refl ect on whether or not, individually 14 S. Roffey and collectively, we will take note of this evidence and put it into practice β choose what works. Like going on a diet to lose weight, good intentions do not always trans- late into sustained action. 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Contact: sue@sueroffey.com Chapter 2 Wellbeing and Resilience in Young People and the Role of Positive Relationships Toni Noble and Helen McGrath 2.1 Introduction Over the last 10 years, there has been a gradual shift in both research and commu- nity and school practices away from the concept of youth welfare, with its focus on supporting young people in distress, and towards the concept of youth wellbeing and resilience. This trend towards wellbeing and resilience is consistent with a posi- tive psychology approach (Seligman 2011 ) and more recently the positive psychol- ogy/positive education approach (Noble and McGrath 2008 ). Positive psychology focuses primarily on the empirical study of human wellbeing, strengths and resil- ience to negative life events and the conditions that allow individuals, groups and organisations to fl ourish. 2.2 What Is Wellbeing? Wellbeing is an overarching term that encapsulates an individualβs quality of life, happiness, satisfaction with life and experience of good mental and physical health. A comprehensive and systematic review by Noble et al. ( 2008 ) of the research literature on βwellbeingβ was undertaken to identify the common features in defi ni- tions of wellbeing. The most common components identifi ed included: positive T. Noble (*) School of Educational Leadership , Australian Catholic University , Sydney , Australia e-mail: toni.noble@acu.edu.au H. McGrath Faculty of Education , Deakin University , Melbourne , Australia RMIT University , Melbourne , Australia e-mail: helenmc@deakin.edu.au S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 17 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_2, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 18 T. Noble and H. McGrath affect (an emotional component), resilience (a coping component), perceived satisfaction with relationships and other dimensions of oneβs life (a cognitive component) and effective functioning and/or the maximising of oneβs potential (a performance component). Sustainable psychological wellbeing has been described as the perception that oneβs life is going well (Huppert and So 2009 ) . These authors equate wellbeing with the concept of βfl ourishingβ, which is a combination of feeling good and functioning effectively. Researchers such as Diener and Seligman (2 004 ) and Layard ( 2005 ) have argued that peopleβs subjective perceptions of satisfaction with their lives are a better indicator of wellbeing than the more traditional indicators such as their level of physical health, their wealth, their quality of housing and the level of safety in their community. Stanley (2 003 ) has noted that Australiaβs economic prosperity and technological progress have not delivered a better life for a signifi cant proportion of its population of children, young people and their families and that this seemingly paradoxical pattern has also been observed in many other similarly developed nations. Huppert and So ( 2 009) point out that some people in very favourable objec- tive circumstances do not fl ourish, whilst others who live in relatively harsh circum- stances have high levels of wellbeing. People who have a high level of psychological wellbeing (i.e. satisfaction with the quality of their life experiences) are likely to learn more effectively and work more productively and have lower levels of absenteeism at school and in the work- place; they also tend to have more satisfying and successful relationships with oth- ers, make a greater contribution to their community and have fewer health problems (Diener et al. 2 009 ; Huppert 2009 ) . Whilst most educators and psychologists support the importance of βstudent wellbeingβ (i.e. children and young peopleβs wellbeing at school) for their academic achievement and socialβemotional adjustment, there is very little consensus on what student wellbeing actually is (Fraillon 2 004 ) . Only three defi nitions were identifi ed in the literature search mentioned above (Noble et al. 2 008 ) : Engels et al. ( 2004 ) defi ne student wellbeing as a positive emotional state resulting from a harmony between the sum of specifi c context factors and the personal needs and expectations towards the school; De Fraine et al. (2 005 :297) more simply defi ne it as the degree to which a student feels good in the school environment; Fraillon (2 004 :24) defi nes wellbeing in terms of the degree to which a student is functioning effectively in the school community. A clearer, more specifi c and robust defi nition of student wellbeing could serve to more effectively guide educational policy and school practices to enhance the well- being and resilience of young people. In a scoping study by Noble et al. (2 008 ) , a modifi ed Delphi methodology was used to seek clarifi cation and agreement on the characteristics of a draft defi nition of student wellbeing. The draft was developed from a synthesis of the common components of previous defi nitions of student well- being and of general wellbeing applied to a school context. The fi rst stage of the Delphi process involved contacting 30 worldwide experts in the area of general wellbeing and/or student wellbeing β researchers, theorists and/or writers around the world who had made substantial and relatively recent published contributions to 2 Wellbeing and Resilience in Young People and the Role of Positive Relationships 19 the fi eld of βwellbeingβ β and inviting them to participate in the process. Twenty-six of the invited experts participated, representing a range of countries including Australia, Denmark, the UK, Italy, New Zealand, Portugal and the USA. In stage 1, they were asked to indicate their level of agreement (in an online survey) with the draft defi nition as well as each component in the defi nition and to make addi- tional comments and suggestions. The expertsβ responses were collated, and the key fi ndings were summarised and returned to them in stage 2 for further comments and to seek consensus. There was a very signifi cant (but not total) a greement amongst the experts on each component and on the wording in the fi nal defi nition, which was: Optimal student wellbeing is a sustainable emotional state characterised by (predominantly) positive mood, attitude and relationships at school, resilience, self-optimisation and a high level of satisfaction with learning experiences. Optimal student wellbeing is the desirable level of wellbeing for all students. A sustainable state is a relatively consistent mental or emotional condition that is pervasive and maintained over time despite minor variations triggered by life events. Predominantly positive mood, attitude and relationships at school implies mainly positive feelings and an optimistic approach to school, plus high-quality and prosocial relationships with peers and teachers at school that engender social satis- faction and support. Self-optimisation is a realistic awareness of (and predominantly positive judge- ment about) oneβs own strengths and a willingness to strive to build and use them in meaningful ways. Satisfaction with learning experiences at school describes a studentβs satisfaction with the nature, quality and relevance of their learning experiences at school. The constructs of wellbeing and resilience are closely linked. Most defi nitions of wellbeing incorporate some reference, either explicit or implied, to the capacity of the individual to be resilient. Developing a capacity for resilience can enhance men- tal health and wellbeing (Raphael 2000 |
) . Both constructs represent a shift in per- spective from a defi cit model of young people βat riskβ to a model that focuses on the personal strengths and environmental factors that help young people withstand high levels of βriskβ and, in many cases, fl ourish. Many researchers and advocates (e.g. Battistich 2 001 ; Cefai 2 004 ; Levine 2003 ; Martin 2 002 ; Stanley 2 003 ) have argued for a stronger emphasis on preventative action, or, as Knight ( 2007 ) has described it, the broadening of the construct of resilience, as an effective way of protecting and promoting the wellbeing of all children. 2.3 What Is Resilience? The construct of resilience emerged from the work of researchers who undertook longitudinal developmental studies of βat-riskβ children. For example, Werner and Smith ( 1992 ) followed a cohort of nearly 700 boys and girls from birth until 20 T. Noble and H. McGrath they were 40-year-old adults. These children lived in a community in Kauai (Hawaii) where there were high levels of poverty, unemployment and parents with alcoholism and mental illnesses. Vaillant ( 2 003 ) followed two very large cohorts of adolescent males for 50 years, including one cohort who had grown up in neighbourhoods that were characterised by crime and poverty. These research studies found that, despite encountering these life stressors as they grew up, a signifi cant number of young people (30β50%) not only survived but even thrived and fl ourished (Silva and Stanton 1 996 ; Werner and Smith 2 001 ) . Further support for the construct of resilience comes from studies of children and young people who have socially and psychologically recovered from natural disasters such as hurricanes or man-made disasters such as wars. The International Resilience Research Project collected ongoing data on 1,225 children (aged 3β11 years) and their families who had experienced natural or man-made disas- ters across 27 sites in 22 countries between 1993 and 1997. The results (Grotberg 2001 ) showed that one-third of the children developed resilience, that socioeco- nomic status had very little impact on whether or not a child responded resiliently and that girls used more interpersonal skills in dealing with the adversities that affected them whereas boys used more pragmatic problem solving skills. Ratrin Hestyanti (2 006 ) studied fi fty young people (aged 11β15 years) who survived the Tsunami in Aceh, Indonesia in 2004. Six of them were identifi ed as resilient. Among the personal skills that these six resilient young people demonstrated were: willingness to talk to other people about their experiences, a sense of humour, strong motivation to recover from the trauma, behaviour that refl ected kindness to others and self-effi cacy. They also benefi ted from external factors such as: emotional support from others, opportunities to participate in familiar religious and cultural ceremonies and a chance to play in and enjoy natural recre- ational resources such as a nearby river. There are many different defi nitions of resilience but all refer to the capacity of the individual to demonstrate the personal strengths needed to cope with some kind of challenge, hardship or adversity. Benard ( 2004 ) suggests resilience is a set of qualities or protective mechanisms that give rise to successful adaptation despite high risk factors during the course of development. The International Resilience Project provides a broader defi nition that focuses on the universal capacity that enables a person, group or community to prevent, minimise or overcome the damag- ing effects of adversity (Grotberg 1 997 :7). Grotberg (1 993 ) has described a resilient child as one who bounces back, persists and functions effectively under great odds and tends to become a competent adult. McGrath and Noble (2 003, 2011 ) defi ne resilience as the capacity to cope and bounce back after encountering negative events, diffi cult situations or adversity and to return to almost the same level of emotional wellbeing. Resilience in young people is also linked to long-term occupational and life success, as well as the prevention of substance abuse, violence and suicide ( Fuller 2001 ). Children and young people can also apply the attitudes and skills of βbouncing backβ to everyday challenges, e.g. not giving up on a diffi cult task, adapt- ing to a step-family situation, resolving a fallout with a friend, coping with not 2 Wellbeing and Resilience in Young People and the Role of Positive Relationships 21 getting into a team or moving to a new house or school. Being resilient also involves seeking new experiences and opportunities and taking risks. Risk taking is likely to mean some setbacks and rejections, but it also creates more opportunities for suc- cesses and greater self-confi dence. Protective factors are those personal and environmental factors that lead to resil- ience, buffer the negative impact of hardship and trauma and minimise the likelihood of psychological diffi culties in the face of adverse risk factors (Werner 1996 ) . 2.4 Protective Personal Factors That Contribute to Resilience and Wellbeing The following skills, attitudes and behaviours have been identifi ed as contributing to higher levels of coping and resilient behaviour. Social skills: Social skills that enhance cooperation and underpin positive relation- ships appear to be especially important for resilience and wellbeing (Bornstein et al. 2003 ; Cove et al. 2005 ; National Crime Prevention 1 999 ; Zins et al. 2004 ) . Behaviour that refl ects empathy and prosocial values such as kindness, fairness and altruism : Resilient students and those with optimal levels of wellbeing are more likely to demonstrate prosocial behaviour and empathy for others (Gilman 2001 ; Vandiver 2001 ; Werner and Smith 1992 ) . Emotional regulation: Managing oneβs emotions requires skills for regulating strong feelings such as anxiety, fear and anger (Masten 2 004 ) . Optimistic thinking: In their review of the construct of optimism, MacLeod and Moore ( 2000 ) concluded that an optimistic way of interpreting and adjusting to negative life events is an essential component of coping. Students with high levels of resilience and hence wellbeing are more likely to use more optimistic thinking (Ben-Zur 2 003 ; Seligman et al. 1995 ) . There are four components to optimism: 1. Positivity: fi nding the positives in negative situations, however small 2. Mastery: feeling some sense of competence and control over oneβs life 3. Having a disposition or tendency to expect things to work out, to be forward looking and proactive and to have the confi dence to persevere when faced with adversity 4. Having an optimistic explanatory style which involves believing that bad situa- tions are temporary, acknowledging that bad situations are usually not all your fault, and believing that bad situations are specifi c and donβt affect everything else or necessarily fl ow over into all aspects of your life (Gillham and Reivich 2 004 ; Seligman 1 992 ; Seligman et al. 1995 ) Optimistic thinking also includes believing that failures and setbacks will happen but that things will get better and you can try again (Benard 1997 ) . Helpful thinking skills: Helpful thinking is both rational (i.e. refl ects how things really are rather than how they should be or how an individual would like them to 22 T. Noble and H. McGrath be) and helps an individual to feel more emotionally in control and more able to solve problems (Werner and Smith 1992 ; Ellis 1 997 ) . It is also based on the assump- tion that negative emotions, although powerful, can be managed. Helpful and ratio- nal thinking derives from the original Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) model, based on the understanding that how you think affects how you feel, which in turn infl uences how you behave. In particular, rational thinking is drawn from Rational Emotive Therapy (RET), developed from the original CBT model by Albert Ellis (Ellis 1997 ; Ellis and Dryden 1987 ) . Adaptive distancing: This involves a range of behaviours such as: detaching from negative infl uences; withdrawing from family members who are enmeshed in antisocial or dysfunctional behaviour (Werner and Smith 1 992 ) ; and emotionally distancing oneself from distressing and unalterable situations rather than immersing oneself in the situation and thinking about the negative situation. A sense of humour: Individuals are less likely to succumb to feelings of depression and helplessness if they are able to fi nd something funny, even if small, in an adverse situation (Benard 2 004 ) . Lefcourt (2 001 ) has argued that humour enables individu- als to live in what are often unbearable circumstances. Humour is also a form of optimism that helps to keep things in perspective. Goal-setting skills: These are underpinned by a drive to change and recover and succeed. They include: willingness to delay short-term gratifi cation in order to achieve longer-term outcomes (Masten and ObradoviΔ 2 008 ; Vaillant 2 003 ; Werner and Smith 1992 ) ; time management, organisational and planning skills; and preparedness to work hard towards a goal (Werner and Smith 1 992 ) . Other behaviours such as showing initiative, problem solving skills and being resource- ful are also related to successful goal setting and hence resilience (Werner 1 993 ) . A sense of autonomy, self-effi cacy and an awareness of oneβs strengths: Personal competence is linked to knowing oneβs strengths and limitations and using this self knowledge to be able to set realistic and meaningful goals. Goals are seen to be more meaningful if a person is using their strengths in the service of others (Masten 2004 ; Vaillant 2 003 ) . A sense of meaning and purpose: This may be gained through different kinds of endeavour such as working towards academic achievement or participating in com- munity service. Cove et al. ( 2005 ) found that resilient children and young people in their study had many positive experiences with activities that involved care and responsibility, such as minding younger siblings, mentoring younger children and camp counselling. Spiritual connectedness: Religious beliefs and practices may mobilise emotional self-regulation β e.g. through prayer or meditation β or social support β e.g. through rituals, ceremonies and a set of guidelines for living (Haglund et al. 2 007 ; Masten and ObradoviΔ 2008 ) . 2 Wellbeing and Resilience in Young People and the Role of Positive Relationships 23 2.5 Protective External Factors That Contribute to Resilience and Wellbeing The external factor that appears to make the largest contribution to children and young peopleβs wellbeing and resilience is their experience of positive relation- ships. In a review of research studies, Luthar (2 006 ) has concluded that resil- ience for children and young people is fundamentally built on the foundation of relationships. 2.5.1 ParentβChild Relationships Children and young people who have positive relationships with their parents are more likely to be resilient and have optimal levels of wellbeing than are those without close parental ties. Positive parentβchild relationships are characterised by warmth, emotional support and an authoritative parenting style (demanding, warm and encouraging of childrenβs independent striving) as opposed to authoritarian (controlling and detached) or permissive (warm but non-demanding) parenting styles (Baumrind 1 989 ) . Two specifi c dimensions of positive parentβchild relation- ships have been linked to childrenβs academic achievement and competence in the classroom (Grolnick and Ryan 1989 ) : p arental involvement (a high level of aware- ness of their childβs whereabouts and time spent with and enjoyment of their child) and autonomy support (inclusion of the child in family decision making and deci- sions using reasoning as part of managing their child). Processes in positive parentβchild relationships that contribute to resilience include validation and affi rmation, availability, listening and emotional support and support for independent behaviour and self-effi cacy. However, many families living with poverty, unemployment, high levels of stress, substance abuse or mental health diffi culties can fi nd it diffi cult to provide a supportive relationship-based environ- ment for their children (Muir et al. 2009 ) . 2.5.2 Relationships with a Caring Adult Children who have a signifi cant emotional bond with an adult, in addition to or instead of a parent, tend to face their challenges more productively and are more likely to experience success (Garmezy 1992 ; White-Hood 1 993 ) . |
This caring adult may be a family member (e.g. an older sibling, cousin, a grandparent or aunt) or a teacher or an adult involved in the childβs sporting club or recreational club. Werner and Smith (1 992 ) noted that resilient young people were more likely to seek support through a relationship with a non-parental adult. Most often, these relationships were with teachers, ministers of religion or neighbours. Having a positive relationship with an 24 T. Noble and H. McGrath adult mentor at school has also been shown to have a positive impact on school success and resilience (e.g. DuBois et al. 2002 ; Liang et al. 2 002 ; Vance et al. 1998 ) . Some of the processes in these relationships that contribute to resilience are vali- dation and affi rmation, the provision of emotional, material and educational support and the modelling of different types of problem solving. 2.5.3 Peer Relationships One of the strongest themes in research (e.g. Zins et al. 2 004 ) is the signifi cant contribution of positive peer relationships to young peopleβs wellbeing and resil- ience. A studentβs level of social competence and their friendship networks are also predictive of their academic achievement (Asher and Paquette 2 003 ; Ladd and Troop-Gordon 2003 ) . Having at least one mutual friendship in childhood is related to lower levels of loneliness, anxiety and being bullied (Ladd et al. 1 996 ) . Feeling accepted by peers and having positive peer interactions can enhance the confi dence of vulnerable students and make it more likely that they will behave in ways that further encourage positive interactions with others. Criss et al. ( 2002 ) have demonstrated that peer acceptance and peer friendships can moderate aggres- sive and acting-out behaviour in young children with family backgrounds character- ised by family adversity. Research suggests that having high-quality friendships, or at least one best friend, can also help prevent children and young people from being bullied (Bollmer et al. 2 005 ; Fox and Boulton 2 006 ) . The number of friendships that a child has is not as important as the quality of those friendships. Werner and Smith ( 1992 ) identifi ed that resilient young peo- ple, although not necessarily popular, tended to develop a small number of friendships with people who stuck with them, sometimes from primary school to middle age. High-quality friendships are characterised by this kind of loyalty and support as well as a willingness to stand up for their friend (Bollmer et al. 2 005 ) . Poor-quality friendships feature negative qualities such as confl ict or betrayal and have been linked with emotional diffi culties (Greco and Morris 2005) . In some cases, bullying can occur within low-quality friendships (Mishima 2003 ; Mishna et al. 2008 ) . It is helpful to teach children and young people skills for making and keeping friends and also skills for monitoring the quality of oneβs friendships. Friendships at school can provide a buffer for students when they are bullied or having diffi culties. Adolescent girls in particular are more likely to seek peer sup- port than family support when they are experiencing diffi culties (Fischmann and Cotterell 2000 ) . Friendships provide students with intimacy, a sense of belonging, security, validation and affi rmation and social and practical support. They also offer opportunities for students to practise and refi ne their social skills and discuss moral dilemmas. This assists students in the development of empathy and socio-moral reasoning (Schonert-Reichl 1993 ; Thoma and Ladewig 1 993 ) . 2 Wellbeing and Resilience in Young People and the Role of Positive Relationships 25 2.5.4 Positive TeacherβStudent Relationships Positive teacherβstudent relationships play an important role in the development of studentsβ resilience and wellbeing (Brazelton and Greenspan 2000 ; Nadel and Muir 2 005 ; Raskauskas et al. 2010; Weare 2000 ) . Resnick et al. ( 1997 ) , for example, found that young people who reported having a close and positive relationship with teachers were less likely to use drugs and alcohol, attempt suicide or self-harm, behave in violent ways or engage in sexual behaviour at an early age. Close, warm and affectionate teacherβstudent relationships are also associated with childrenβs social competence at both preschool level (Howes and Ritchie 1 999 ) and primary school level (Pianta et al. 2 008 ) . The quality of the teacherβstudent relationship has also been shown to be one of the most signifi cant factors infl uencing student-learning outcomes (Cornelius-White 2 007 ; Hattie 2009 ; Rowe 2001 ) . Many studies have found that children with close, positive teacherβstudent relationships achieve more highly, have more positive a ttitudes towards school, are more engaged in the learning that occurs in the classroom and are less likely to repeat a grade (Hamre and Pianta 2001 ) . Many researchers and educators have argued that relationships with students cannot just be left to chance and that it is a teacherβs professional responsibility to ensure that they establish a positive relationship with each student (Krause et al. 2 006 ; Marzano et al. 2003 ) . Both teachers and students believe that foster- ing positive relationships with students is a core aspect of what effective teach- ers do (Good and Brophy 2 000 ; Larrivee 2005 ) . When evaluating whether or not their teacher is a βgood teacherβ, students tend to focus most on the interper- sonal quality of their relationship with them (Rowe 2 004 ; Slade and Trent 2 000 ; Werner 2002 ) . Meta-analytical research undertaken by Marzano ( 2003 ) strongly suggests that positive teacherβstudent relationships are also the foundation of effective classroom management. He found that, on average, teachers who had high-quality relationships with their students had 31% fewer discipline and related problems in a given year than did teachers who did not have this type of relationship with their students. As with peer relationships, the quality of a teacherβstudent relationship is also important. High-quality relationships are characterised by involvement, emotional safety, understanding, warmth, closeness, trust, respect, care and support (Brazelton and Greenspan 2000 ; Good and Brophy 2 000 ; Krause et al. 2006 ; Larrivee 2 005 ) . Pianta and Nimetz ( 1991 ) note that a high-quality teacherβstudent relationship in early childhood and lower primary settings is one that is βsecureβ rather than βdependentβ. A secure relationship is characterised by trust, a sense of safety and ease in seeking help if needed. A dependent relationship is more likely to be characterised by constant seeking of help or reassurance and diffi culties with separation. Secure relationships are more likely to develop when teachers show sensitivity towards and have frequent positive inter- actions with students (Howes and Hamilton 1 992 ; Kontos et al. 1995 ) . Teachers who have positive relationships with their students are more likely to behave towards them in the following ways: 26 T. Noble and H. McGrath β’ They acknowledge them, greet them by name and with a smile and notice when they are absent (Benard 1 997 ; Stipek 2 006 ) . β’ They respond to misbehaviour with explanations rather than with punishment or coercion (Bergin and Bergin 2009 ; Stipek 2006 ) . β’ They take a personal interest in them as individuals and get to know them (Marzano et al. 2 003 ; Stipek 2 006 ) ; they also endeavour to know and understand them as individuals with a life outside school (Slade and Trent 2000 ) . β’ They are available and approachable (Pianta 1999 ; Weissberg et al. 1 991 ) . β’ They are fair and respectful (Stipek 2006 ) . Keddie and Churchill (2 004 ) found that, when asked what they liked about the good relationships they had with cer- tain teachers, adolescent boys most frequently referred to the fair and respectful way in which their teachers treated them. β’ They have fun with their students and let students get to know them through some degree of self-disclosure and being βrealβ with them (Davis 2 003 ) . In this way, common interests and experiences can be identifi ed. β’ They support their students in the development of autonomy, e.g. by offering choice and opportunities for students to be involved in decision making (Gurland and Grolnick 2 003 ) . β’ They listen to them when they have concerns or worries and offer emotional sup- port (Benard 1997 ) . High-quality teacherβstudent relationships lead to feelings of security that empower children to interact confi dently with their environment and encourage them to adopt the behaviour and values modelled by the teacher (Bergin and Bergin 2 009 ) . Childrenβs behaviour will be infl uenced by the behaviour of people around them that they trust or who function as a secure base within a relationship (Masten and ObradoviΔ 2 008 ) . Feelings of security also promote self-reliance and independence (Bretherton and Munholland 1 999 ) . Students who believe that their teachers care about them are more motivated to try hard, pay attention in class and do well and are therefore more likely to achieve and stay in school rather than drop out (Benard 2 004 ; Pianta 1999 ; Sztejnberg et al. 2004 ) . Students who experience good relationships with their teach- ers are more likely to be open and responsive to their directives and advice (Gregory et al. 2 010 ) and more reluctant to disappoint them by failing to complete assignments, being absent from school or engaging in antisocial behaviour (Stipek 2 006 ) . 2.6 Curriculum Programmes for Developing Student Wellbeing and Resilience If teachers (or other community members) are to assist children and young people to be resilient and have optimal levels of wellbeing, then they need to have the capacity to be resilient and promote their o wn wellbeing too (Ungar 2008 ) . Teaching a curriculum programme designed to foster coping skills and relationship skills and having a positive relationship with each of their students also contribute to teacher wellbeing and job satisfaction (Axford et al. 2010 ; Goldstein and Lake 2000 ) . 2 Wellbeing and Resilience in Young People and the Role of Positive Relationships 27 Curriculum programmes that teach social and emotional skills for coping, self- management and establishing and maintaining positive relationships have been described as among the most successful interventions ever offered to school-aged young people (Payton et al. 2 008 ) . Many research studies have demonstrated the positive effects of school-based prevention programmes on developing student wellbeing and creating protective factors and resilience (Anderson and Doyle 2 005 ) . Several guiding principles about effective curriculum programmes of this type have emerged. These include: β’ It is important to start teaching these programmes when children are very young (Greenberg et al. 2 003 ; OβShaughnessy et al. 2002 ) . β’ A whole-school programme works best: i.e. the programme is not just an βadd-onβ but is embedded in the curriculum and general life of the classroom and school and involves the whole school, families and community (Scheckner et al. 2002 ; Wells et al. 2 003 ) . β’ The programme should be delivered by teachers and integrated with academic learning (Durlak et al. 2011 ; Weissberg and OβBrien 2 004 ) . β’ A universal programme, taught to all students and not just those who are identi- fi ed as βat riskβ, is more effective (Greenberg et al. 2 003 ; Durlak et al. 2011 ) . β’ Long-term, multilevel and multi-strategic approaches are more likely to pro- duce enduring benefi ts and are more sustainable especially when taught across year levels (Durlak et al. 2 011 ). β’ The programme should include a signifi cant component of skills derived from cog- nitive behaviour approaches (Andrews et al. 2 001, 2002 ; Scheckner et al. 2 002 ) . 2.6.1 Examples of Programmes and Initiatives That Foster Student Wellbeing, Resilience and Positive Relationships The βPATHS curriculumβ for Years K-5 (KuschΓ© and Greenberg 2 004 ) is a pro- gramme from the USA that focuses on developing young peopleβs social and emotional competence in order to build protective factors and decrease the risk of behavioural and social problems. 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covered include: relationships, emotions, self-management and social problem-solving skills. P ATHS is a fl exible programme that allows the implementation of the 131 lessons over a 5-year period. The βPrimary SEAL (Social and Emotional Aspects of Learning) programmeβ is a nationwide social and emotional whole-school programme from the UK for K-6 students taught by classroom teachers. It focuses on social and emotional skills in order to enhance student relationships, attendance, behaviour, learning and emo- tional wellbeing (Department for Education and Skills 2 005 ) . It has been adopted in 80% of British schools (Humphrey et al. 2008 ) . It includes options for early inter- vention with small group learning for students who are deemed to need extra sup- port, and follow up and individual interventions with those students who do not 28 T. Noble and H. McGrath appear to have benefi ted from either the whole-class programme or the small group early interventions (DfES 2005 ) . KidsMatter is an Australian Primary Schools Mental Health Initiative . An evaluation of the effectiveness of the KidsMatter initiative in 100 schools indicated that there were signifi cant and positive changes in the schools, teachers, parents/ caregivers and students over the 2-year trial. In particular, there were statistically and practically signifi cant improvements in studentsβ measured mental health in terms of both reduced mental health diffi culties and increased mental health strengths. The impact of KidsMatter was especially apparent for students who were rated as having higher levels of mental health diffi culties at the start of the trial (Dix et al. 2 009 ) . βBounce Back! A Classroom Wellbeing and Resilience Programβ (McGrath and Noble 2003, 2011 ) is an Australian preventative whole-school multi-year social and emotional learning curriculum programme (for Years K-8) that is built on the princi- ples of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and Positive Psychology. It was selected by 64% of the KidsMatter schools that chose to implement a specifi c programme as their preferred social and emotional learning programme. Topics covered include: core values, skills for βbouncing backβ, fi nding courage, optimistic thinking, managing emotions, relationships skills, using humour, no bullying and successful goal setting. All topics and sub-topics are introduced through a variety of picture books and junior novels. The programme also focuses on strategies for developing learning environ- ments that foster positive peer relationships and teacherβstudent relationships. 2.7 Conclusion If we are able to help young people develop a sense of wellbeing and resilience, then we need a clear understanding of what these constructs mean. We also need a strong evidence base for the protective factors that are most likely to facilitate the develop- ment of their wellbeing and resilience. Wellbeing is an overarching construct that encapsulates oneβs quality of life. 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Toni Noble is an Adjunct Professor in the School of Educational Leadership at ACU National (Australian Catholic University) and is based in Sydney. She is on the advisory board of the Wellbeing Australia network. Contact: toni.noble@acu.edu.au . Helen McGrath is a Senior Lecturer in the Faculty of Education at Deakin University and an Adjunct Professor at RMIT University Melbourne, Australia. Contact: helenmc@deakin.edu.au. Chapter 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships as an Antidote to Violence Robyn Hromek and Angela Walsh 3.1 Introduction This chapter focuses on two case studies described separately by the two authors to illustrate how building relational values, knowledge and skills in young people might address violence and construct more peaceful communities of the future. The word βviolenceβ is open to many defi nitions and interpretations, including vehemence or intensity of expression. The authors here focus on deliberate acts of physical or psychological aggression with the primary intention to hurt, intimidate or otherwise abuse power. Western societies expend considerable resources in both trying to control vio- lence and dealing with the aftermath, including retribution for offenders. Although the expression of violence is most commonly seen within the context of relation- ships (Wolfe et al. 1 999 ) , the behaviour of individuals does not stand alone but is embedded in social mores. Interpersonal violence is often linked to who has most power within a culture. Women and children, along with minority groups, are therefore often the recipients of violent acts (WHO 2002 ) . Reducing violence therefore needs to be addressed at several levels, including organisational and societal. Peaceful and compassionate societies are built on a his- tory of social evolution where liberties have been won and securities assured; where education and employment are sought for all and disadvantage is recompensed. Trust and goodwill can only fl ourish where fair structures are in place to protect rights and foster responsibilities. There is now extensive evidence that more equal R. Hromek (*) The University of Sydney , Sydney , NSW , Australia e-mail: Robyn.Hromek@det.nsw.edu.au A. Walsh National Association for Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect , Sydney , NSW , Australia Womenβs Health (North Coast Area Health Service) , Sydney , NSW , Australia e-mail: angelalovebites@gmail.com S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 35 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_3, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 36 R. Hromek and A. Walsh societies are better for everyone (Wilkinson and Pickett 2 010 ) , including the reduction of violent crime (Dorling 2005 ) . This utopian vision of social progress and happiness is underpinned by the posi- tive, respectful relationships that grow within a community. At the basis of this is the ability to understand and value both oneself and others. Children and young people learn these skills in their homes, schools and communities. |
It is within a social milieu that they gain an understanding of who they are and how to manage emotional states. If others model respect and hold positive relational values, then they connect more successfully to others and contribute to social harmony. As soci- eties grow in moral and ethical understanding, the physical, mental, social and spiri- tual development of individuals is enhanced and the βbrotherhood of manβ is more likely to be realised (Gardner et al. 2001 ) . 3.2 Relationships and Resilience Are Learnt in the Complexity of Social Settings Homes and schools play major roles in creating the sense of belonging that nur- tures young people. A social network of respectful, caring relationships can reduce the severity and duration of problems like substance abuse, bullying, violence and mental health problems (Benard 2004 ; Blum 2 000) . Resilience is a comprehensive process, not a single programme. Cultures that promote resilience provide oppor- tunities for young people to become competent emotionally, socially and academi- cally (Farmer et al. 2007 ) . They provide opportunities to contribute through leadership roles and humanitarian programmes and to participate in adventure and fun-based programmes which give young people a sense of purpose and enjoy- ment. These positive interconnections support and build fl ourishing communities. The seeds of a peaceful and compassionate future are planted in this soil, growing through the generosity of individuals to share knowledge, humour, compassion, creativity, courage, forgiveness, communication, celebration, respect and loyalty (Post and Neimark 2 007 ) . 3.3 Case Study One: Planting the Peace Virus in a School Community 3.3.1 Background Information βPlanting the peace virusβ (Hromek 2004 ) is a metaphor for the evolution of a systematic, whole-school approach to confl ict that signifi cantly reduced violence and harassment in a large elementary school in New South Wales. There were 600 students aged 5β12 years old in the school in a busy seaside tourist town. Tensions 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships... 37 existed between the children of long-standing conservative families and the children of newcomers who brought alternative, colourful ways of living. The project began by establishing a committee of teachers interested in the wellbeing of children. Over several years the school engaged in βaction researchβ to address student behaviour. They met weekly to discuss issues of violence and harassment and examined ideas for changing the culture in their school. Their fi rst task was to gather data from the playground and classrooms to determine the extent of the problem and to create a baseline on which to evaluate change. An initial survey of the playground found that up to 30 students every lunchtime were sent to the detention room on account of aggressive behaviour. Data collected revealed several incidents of physical violence each day. Teasing and bullying was widespread with one young girl found to have up to 50 harassers calling her names on a regular basis. The schoolβs negative responses to these situations were not changing this behaviour, just managing it. It was clear that something else had to be done. 3.3.2 Taking Action Ongoing dialogue in staff meetings, classrooms, parent forums and related child services laid the foundation for shared understandings about what was meant by violence, harassment, teasing, confl ict and rough play. The values of respect, dignity and fairness emerged, and strategies were found to address confl ict and aggression in peaceful ways and to include parents and related child support services as necessary. New ideas began to shape responses by establishing structures to pro- mote clear, positive communications, monitor wellbeing and follow up every inci- dent consistently. Protocols and letters home were developed, with quick-tick checklists to make implementing and monitoring of the programme easy and effi cient for teachers. Playtime behaviour was discussed in class and at assemblies and incentives introduced. An action cycle of adjustment and improvement led to an intervention plan that was tailor-made to the community, with strategies implemented at three levels across the school: β’ Universal strategies were broadcast across classrooms and playgrounds to sup- port positive, respectful interactions and to place social and emotional learning in the curriculum. β’ A secondary level of targeted interventions was activated when violence or harassment occurred. A hierarchy of staff responses was developed to intervene consistently, with executive staff available immediately when there was physi- cal violence or sustained harassment. Mediation and games-based learning activities were used in small groups to teach social skills with a skilled facilitator. β’ Tertiary interventions were initiated if problems persisted. Intense support was sought from specialist teachers and counsellors. Parents and child services were involved. 38 R. Hromek and A. Walsh According to the students, the most effective parts of the programme were the leadership opportunities and the positive, interactive, fun-based elements that made it easy for young people to have a voice and engage. By the third year, data indicated that confl ict levels had dramatically reduced, with physical violence occurring once or twice per week. The strategies and struc- tures that had been put in place became self-sustaining amongst the students as they developed courteous and friendly relationships where confl icts were dealt with in restorative ways. Gradually a cohort of children progressed through the school that taught each other and initiated newcomers into the way things were done at βour schoolβ. As confl ict reduced, much less attention was required from the teachers and the school was able to focus on other priorities. Sustained commitment and effort had paid valuable dividends. 3.3.3 The Research and Ideas that Guided the School on Its Journey 3.3.3.1 New Paradigms Until the late 1960s, pedagogy relied on competitive systems where experts trans- ferred information to learners using textbooks and lectures. Success was measured by written examination with individual effort paramount. When students did not conform to expectations, there was an over-reliance on punishment and exclusion. This created adversarial environments with negative cycles of resentment and revenge (Donnellan et al. 1 988 ; Mayer and Sulzer-Azaroff 1990 ) . Evidence suggests that this βoldβ paradigm still exists in some school settings and therefore upholds a system that does nothing to reduce violence and may in fact be perpetrating confl ict (Skiba et al. 2 006 ) . School structures and parenting practices that use intimidation, arbitration and punishment must be challenged in order to engage young people in meaningful dialogue about their lives and what matters to them. Pedagogy has moved on to broader understandings about the collaborative nature of learning and the pivotal role of social and emotional development. New instructional technologies recognise the value of experience-based learning that is interactive and relational. Simulations, games, role plays, case studies, scenarios, cooperative research and problem-solving and multimedia presentations are effective ways to engage young learners (Hromek and Roffey 2009 ; Ruben 1 999 ) . Research increasingly demonstrates the potential to impact on social and emotional learning to enhance positive relationships through programmes like peer mediation, peer support, restorative practice, circle time and therapeutic games. 3.3.3.2 Adult Leadership School leaders represent the values of their community and play an important role as agents of educational change (Fullan 2 003 ; Goleman 2 000 ) . They work with school staff and families in a respectful and dignifi ed way to identify priorities and 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships... 39 develop projects in an ongoing cycle of improvement. A professional educational community is supported in schools by leaders who provide opportunities for: β’ Ongoing improvement cycles of assessment, response planning, implementa- tion, evaluation and refocus β’ Professional development, refl ection and planning, space, release from other duties, teamwork (Maeroff 1993 ) β’ Communication systems, regular meetings, information boards, electronic mail, newsletters, suggestion boxes, questionnaires, monitoring systems β’ Curriculum materials, departmental personnel and resources, liaison with other schools, current research, other agencies β’ Flexible responses to ongoing feedback β’ An opportunity for the voices of all stakeholders to be heard, especially students 3.3.3.3 Modelling Language and Confl ict Resolution Each interaction models a βresponse styleβ to children, whether diplomatic and respectful or authoritarian and aggressive. Young peopleβs interactions are more likely to be positive when the wider social environment models respect, dignity and generosity of spirit. These skills are transmitted as much as taught and are demon- strated in every interaction. Strategies like modelling, coaching, behavioural rehearsal and social reinforcement will enhance positive relationships (Jennings and Greenberg 2 009 ; Hromek 2 007 ; Bandura 1986 ) . Words and language patterns are fundamental to understanding and can scaffold learning, including social and emo- tional development (Vygotsky 1 986 ) . With guidance, children can learn βscriptsβ of language that refl ect calmness, confi dence and control and help develop cooperative, respectful mindsets when resolving confl ict. 3.3.3.4 Early Intervention Early intervention is fundamental to positive life outcomes for young people and is economically effi cient when redressing disadvantage in the community (Surgeon General 2 001 ; Karoly et al. 1998 ; Perry 1996 ) . Children who are βat riskβ often arrive at school having learnt violent responses to issues without any intervention to address these diffi culties or support more positive relationships. Schools are well placed to intervene early into the social and emotional wellbeing of students by providing structured learning opportunities in the classroom and playground. Walker and colleagues (1 996 ) re-conceptualise the role of schools in preventing antisocial behaviour through: β’ Coordination of schools, families, social service agencies and medical clinics β’ Fair policies and practices that are communicated clearly and monitored closely β’ Universal approaches that reduce risk factors and enhance protective factors β’ Meeting the needs of βat-riskβ children early with remedial programmes rather than exclusion 40 R. Hromek and A. Walsh 3.3.3.5 Home, School and Community Collaboration As the importance of early intervention is recognised, structures are developed to bring together education, social services, health and housing agencies to support young children. Dialogues that encourage perspective-taking and mutual respect increase the potential for repair and growth when diffi culties arise. Shared respon- sibility is encouraged when information is presented in different formats and forums with a range of fl exible procedures in place. Problems and defi cits become chal- lenges and opportunities as stakeholders collaborate to create solution-focused and strengths-based approaches (Leadbeater et al. 2004 ; Roffey 2002 ) . Families possess a wide range of characteristics that determine the vulnerability or resilience of young people. Respectful support of families helps develop positive relationships, ultimately producing better outcomes for children (Ungar 2008 ) . Resilience build- ing characteristics within families include: β’ Communication β talking, listening β’ Togetherness β a sense of belonging β’ Shared activity β family rituals, outings, fun, celebrations β’ Support β physical and emotional assistance β’ Affection β eye contact, touching, hugging β’ Acceptance β acknowledging and accepting each otherβs strengths and weaknesses β’ Commitment β being there for each other in all circumstances 3.3.3.6 Universal, Targeted and Tertiary Programmes Universal approaches to student wellbeing reduce risk factors and enhance protective factors that young people might bring to schools (Noble et al. 2 008 ) . Most young people will respond to this level of intervention. Targeted programmes support indi- vidual student needs and provide a humane alternative to exclusionary practices. Having a skilled facilitator ensures that social and emotional skills are honed in a systematic and fun-based manner. A small number of children need this intense level of intervention. Tertiary programmes acknowledge that for some children there are signifi cant problems impacting negatively on their development. Children who require this level of support usually have diffi culties arising from medical con- ditions, developmental disorders or child-rearing issues in the family (Walker et al. 1996 ) . Tertiary programmes are the most costly and should be delivered early in a childβs life to be effective. 3.3.3.7 Student Leadership Programmes Young people with well-developed social skills usually enjoy contributing to the school and wider community. Young people have a way of relating to each other that eludes most adults. Students who take on leadership roles gain life-long skills in 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships... 41 public speaking, acting confi dently, being organised, working in teams, making decisions and taking responsibility (Grose 2004 ) . Leadership roles like peer media- tion, peer refereeing, peer mentoring, student councils |
and fund raising for charities model positive relationships and help the work of teachers. With a little thought, creativity and dedication, this student-based resource can be tapped for the benefi t of the school community. 3.3.3.8 Social and Emotional Literacy in the Classroom Social and emotional literacy not only increases student wellbeing; it also increases the learning capacity of students across the curriculum (Frey et al. 2 000 ; Zins et al. 2 004 ) . Social literacy refers to the ability to read other people in social situations and to engage and interact with them to reach common goals (Goldstein et al. 1998 ) . Emotional literacy refers to the ability to read emotions in the self and others and to manage these emotions so that cordial relationships develop. It includes motivation, zeal and persistence (Goleman 1 996 ) . Goleman asserts that the emotional habits of children may be shaped if we intervene early. Philosophical discussion in the class- room helps children learn critical thinking skills and how to apply them to social situations where they need to be able to cooperate or stand up for what is right (Cam 2006 ) . Examples of curriculum-based programmes include: β’ Circle time β a framework for group interaction based on the principles of democracy, inclusion, respect and safety (Roffey 2 006 ) β’ Restorative practice β supports open, transparent, honest and fair ways of relating and resolving confl ict (McCold 2002 ; OβConnell and McCold 2 004 ) β’ Skill-streaming social development (Goldstein et al. 1998 ) β’ Bounce Back! (McGrath and Noble 2 003 ) β’ Philosophy in the classroom (Cam 2 006 ) 3.3.3.9 Positive Playground Programmes For many children the playground is the best part of school. This is where they plot, plan, organise and negotiate games, and children need a free environment in which to practise their social skills, relax and βdo their own thingβ. Play is the learning vehicle that children naturally adopt, and for the most part they do this well. For some children, however, it is a complete mystery, full of worries or aggression, and these individuals need assistance. Positive playground programmes ensure there is enough fun, freedom, resources and incentives to support childrenβs play and encourage pro-social behaviour with as little interference from adults as possible (Hromek 2 004 ; Blatchford 1 998 ) . Following are some ways to provide this: β’ Direct teaching of friendly playtime behaviour in the classroom and at assemblies β’ Incentive programmes to reinforce positive behaviour β raffl es, awards, celebrations 42 R. Hromek and A. Walsh β’ Student consultation about playground issues β physical layout, play equipment, rosters β’ Adequate resources β play equipment, tables, stools, bins, playground markings, passive games β’ Events β sports, drama, dance, chess competitions β’ A βplayground boxβ for seeking help and giving suggestions in a formal, confi - dential way 3.3.3.10 Monitoring and Evaluation Systematic monitoring and evaluation of programmes helps focus effort and provides the basis of feedback to the wider community. Monitoring also acts as a deterrent. Children who know they are being monitored and are called to account for their behaviour are more motivated to adjust and self-monitor. It ensures that extra attention is paid to those young people who need it and that parents are kept informed of their progress. Simple practical systems for data collection and analysis make it easier for staff to carry out this vital step. The βplayground bagβ (Hromek 2004 ) is a simple tool that provides playground monitors easy access to: β’ Data collection sheets β’ A behaviour-response hierarchy β’ Red emergency disc to summon immediate assistance β’ Profi les of special-needs children (medical, emotional, behavioural) β useful for big schools and casual teachers β’ Student self-referral sheets β’ Peer mediation rosters β’ Raffl e tickets for the playground incentive programme β’ Simple fi rst aid kit β tissues, band-aids, rubber gloves, antiseptic cream β’ Pencil, sharpener, pens 3.3.3.11 The Attention Room The concept of an attention or βchill outβ room is a positive slant on the more traditional detention room. Attention rooms are open at playtimes and function as the main venue for dealing with playground diffi culties. This is where teachers are rostered on duty to organise mediation sessions, friendship circles and therapeutic games. Life space interviews assist students in taking responsibility for their actions in a fair and respectful manner and working towards a solution (Wood and Long 1 991 ) . Emotional coaching (Hromek 2 007 ) provides ongoing support for the development of self-regulation by working regularly with children to set goals and map progress. When young people are fl ooding with emotions like anger and 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships... 43 sadness, βemotional fi rst aidβ provides time and space to allow them to regain their self-control. Emotional fi rst aid refers to having a drink of water, sitting away from others, saying self-soothing things, taking deep breaths, walking away from situations. 3.3.3.12 Therapeutic Games Therapeutic games (Hromek 2005 ) are psycho-educational tools that teach a range of social and emotional skills including friendship skills, handling harassment, self- regulation, managing anxiety, authentic happiness and success at school. Games are highly motivating, making them a great vehicle for targeted programmes and ideal to include in lunchtime programmes. 3.3.4 For the Future 3.3.4.1 Some Words of Caution Having begun the task of changing a culture of violence and harassment in a school, it is essential to continue, especially if children have been encouraged to confront violence through help-seeking or assertiveness training. Children who ask for help from a teacher must be assisted until the problem is resolved, otherwise violence may go βundergroundβ where aggressors may make threats to βget themβ after school or βbash themβ if they tell. Physical violence may be extinguished from a childβs behavioural repertoire only to be replaced by verbal or emotional abuse. 3.3.4.2 Some Words of Encouragement The fi rst few months and possibly years of creating peaceful and compassionate school environments can be intense depending on pre-existing levels of student con- fl ict. It helps to see this phase as transitory as it will be followed by a more settled era. When progress seems slow, teachers need to remind themselves that every step taken works towards reducing violence and harassment, especially in the fi rst few years of a childβs schooling. There are many ways to reach the goal of a peaceful and compassionate school environment. School communities fi rst need to believe that violence is neither inevi- table nor acceptable and, through appropriate culture development and clear posi- tive relationship education, can be substantially eliminated. Adopting some of the ideas presented here and maintaining other proven, successful programmes will equip the school to meet the specifi c needs of the community. 44 R. Hromek and A. Walsh 3.4 Case Study Two: Preventing Violence Against Women and Children The prevention of violence against women is not an aspirational goal but, rather, is well within our reach. We now know that practice in prevention of violence against women has an evidence base, sound rationale for action and support for development by government, non-government, philanthropic and corporate sectors (VicHealth 2 008 : 5). This part of the chapter talks more specifi cally about the important role that schools can play in preventing gendered violence and the elimination of violence against women and children through the effective delivery of respectful relation- ship education. Governments, experts in family violence and academics around the world concur with this. Flood, Fergus and Heenanβs report R espectful Relationships Education β Violence prevention and respectful relationships education in Victorian Schools (2 009 ) , for the Victorian Department of Education and Early Childhood Development, presents a strong rationale for delivering effective primary prevention respectful relationships education programmes in schools. Flood and his colleagues state that βs tarting young β¦ can have a lasting effect on childrenβs and young peopleβs later relationships β (p. 8) specifi cally as children and young people are already developing beliefs and attitudes towards violence and many may have already experienced violence in their homes and in their own relationships. They state that schools are important as the main place where children and young people βl earn, negotiate and potentially contest the norms and attitudes that encourage and maintain interpersonal violence β. Peers in schools heavily infl uence other children and young people positively, as supports and ethical bystanders, or negatively through involvement in violent behaviours. Flood et al. consider that the school environment can be positive and respectful, one in which children and young people can safely learn about respectful relationship through partnerships with community service providers (Police, Sexual Assault services, Domestic Violence Services, Aboriginal Service), parents and teachers. 3.4.1 The Extent of the Problem Western societies have been grappling with how to eliminate violence against women and children since feminists placed the issue on the political stage in the 1970s. Although much violence against women and children happens behind closed doors, it is no longer a hidden social phenomenon but recognised as a major issue that demands attention from governments around the world. Violence against women is defi ned as βphysical and sexual violence, threats, verbal abuse, harassment and stalking, intimida- tion, emotional, psychological and social abuse, spiritual and cultural abuse and eco- nomic deprivationβ (Partnerships Against Domestic Violence 2000 ) . Despite the ongoing efforts of many, it remains fi rmly entrenched in and perpetuated by global societal structures and the gender inequality in societies that promote male power 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships... 45 (Flood 2 007 ) . The International Violence Against Women Survey Project commis- sioned by the United Nations found that violence against women and children is a βuniversal phenomenon and occurs in every age and economic groupβ and βcontinues to be frighteningly common and considered as βnormalβ within too many societiesβ around the world (WHO 2005 ) . This gender inequality denies women, men, young people and children their right to physical, mental and social wellbeing. The fi rst comparative research report of the International Violence Against Women Survey data in 11 countries was published jointly by Springer and the European Institute for Crime Prevention and Control affi liated with the United Nations in early 2008. The survey found that between 35% and 60% of women in all the surveyed countries had experienced violence by a man during their lifetime (Johnson et al. 2 008 ) . In Australia alone 1.2 million Australian women aged 18 and over have experienced sexual violence or its threat since they were 15 years old (ABS 2006 ) , and around one in three young people have experienced some form of violence in their own relationships (Flood and Fergus 2008 ) . The economic cost of violence against women and their children to the Australian Economy in 2007/2008 was estimated be $13.6 billion, which is higher than the total cost of the Australian Governmentβs stimulus package ($10.4 billion) rolled out to address the Global Financial Crisis in 2009 (Australian Government 2 009a ) . The World Health Organization ( 2005 ) states: βViolence against women has a far deeper impact of the immediate harm caused. It has devastating consequences for the women who experience it, and a traumatic effect on those who βare exposedβ to it, particularly childrenβ. Violence against women also has a devastating effect and high emotional cost for boys and young men who are exposed to and are also vic- tims of gender-based violence, and as possible future perpetrators of violence (Katz 2 006 ) . Young men and women need to be given the opportunity to develop healthy and respectful relationships in their lives free from violence and abuse. 3.4.2 An Investment for Change Motivating communities to eliminate violence against women and children requires an emotional, practical and fi nancial investment and a comprehensive commitment to challenging and changing attitudes and behaviours, not just for children and young people, but on all levels, including individual, interpersonal, community and societal. The World Health Organization ( 2002 ) identifi es an ecological approach to prevention as there is no single factor that explains why some individuals or com- munities experience higher rates of violence than others. This ecological model is supported |
by The Victorian Health Promotion Foundation (VicHealth 2 008 ) in their paper P reventing Violence Before It Occurs: A Framework and Background Paper to Guide the Primary Prevention of Violence Against Women in Victoria. This says βthat factors infl uencing violent behaviours or vulnerability to violence lie at mul- tiple and interacting levels of infl uence β individual/relationship, community and organisational and societalβ (VicHealth 2 008 : 12). 46 R. Hromek and A. Walsh International organisations and governments are embracing the ecological approach in developing national and international strategies to address family vio- lence. At the time of writing, Scotland, Australia, Brazil, Canada, Ecuador, Germany, Indonesia, New Zealand, Norway, Spain and Switzerland have all developed national plans of action to eliminate violence against women and children (Amnesty International 2 008 ) . These plans have common themes including long-term strate- gies which address the underlying causes of such violence (Australian Government 2009b ; Scottish Executive 2 003 ; Amnesty International 2008 ) . These include: β’ Promoting gender equality and human rights β’ Public awareness raising through multimedia awareness raising campaigns β’ Primary prevention respectful relationship education for children β’ Individual responsibility for preventing violence against women and children β’ Long-term commitment and sustained investment in preventing violence against women β’ Promoting multileveled responses from the community, government, services and the NGO sector and society β’ Delivering comprehensive services for women and children affected by violence β’ Delivering comprehensive services for perpetrators of violence to raise personal responsibility and promote behavioural change β’ Legislative reform on violence against women Respectful relationship education for children and young people is an integral part of this approach. Evaluations of school-based interventions in the United States and Canada demonstrate promising outcomes in relation to changing attitudes and reducing some levels of abuse (Hassall and Hanna 2 007 ; Flood et al. 2009 ) . The Safe Dates Program in North America is showing positive outcomes up to 6 years after the programme (Foshee et al. 2 004) . Recommendations from these and other evaluations suggest that programmes are more effective if delivered in multiple sessions over time connected to the wider community (specifi cally studentsβ families) and are backed by institutional and national leadership and a national strategy (WHO 2 009a ) . These recommendations have been substantiated by recent research in vio- lence prevention (Carmody et al. 2 009 ; Flood et al. 2009 ) . These studies have delivered key criteria and standards for quality violence prevention programmes as follows: β’ A clear programme logic and framework that articulates why violence against women and children occurs and effective programming that supports this β’ That programmes are based on attitudinal change, behaviour change and skills building β’ A whole of school/service approach encompassing high-level support for program- ming, comprehensive violence prevention school/service policies and procedures, the development of a school/service culture that promotes violence prevention β’ Partnerships with community services to assist with delivering programmes and staff training on violence prevention 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships... 47 β’ Effective curriculum/programme delivery focusing on appropriate programme content and structure β’ Relevant, inclusive and culturally sensitive practice β’ Impact evaluation framework β’ Communities supported with thorough training and professional development of educators 3.4.3 LOVE BiTES β A Programme to Reduce Violence Towards Women and Children The Love Bites programme was originally developed on the mid north coast of New South Wales, Australia, and was based on the best practice standards recommended by Mulroney in the Australian Domestic and Family Violence Clearing House paper Australian Prevention Programmes for Young People (Mulroney 2 003 ) . Love Bites is a respectful relationship programme for young people aged 14β16 years that includes a number of 1-day workshops delivered by community service providers, follow-up sessions delivered by teachers and the development of a violence pre- vention community campaign by the students for their local community. This takes place in partnership with local service providers to connect young people with their community. The Love Bites programme explores the issues of sexual assault and relationship violence including defi nition, myth deconstruction, consent, ethical bystander strategies, skills-building activities, and promotion of respectful behaviours. It also works alongside young people to develop their own community education campaign that is connected to national education campaigns including White Ribbon. The programme is primarily delivered in schools as evidence suggests that school-based strategies can lessen relationship violence (Flood et al. 2009 ) . Schools are viewed as a positive site from which to run prevention education as the material can be reinforced by integration within aspects of the curriculum and the systems of the school. School welfare departments can also provide holistic support to young people where needed (WHO 2 009b ) . Over the past 3 years under the auspices of the National Association for the Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect (NAPCAN), and with the assistance of International and State government funding, the Love Bites programme has grown comprehensively. It has been implemented in over 80 communities across Australia and has been delivered to over 70,000 young people by trained and supported facilitators. The training package includes sessions on gender, sexual harassment, ethical bystander behaviour, consenting sexual relationships and what young people want in their emerging relationships. This programme aims to: β’ Increase student learning in identifying safe and unsafe feelings β’ Encourage the belief that every child has the right to feel safe 48 R. Hromek and A. Walsh β’ Identify the difference between safe and abusive behaviours in relationships and the features of both β’ Talk with a safe and trusted person if they feel unsafe or have experienced abu- sive behaviours β’ Develop skills in managing feelings in safe and respectful ways β’ Develop confl ict resolution and problem solving skills β’ Talk about gender roles and how gender infl uences relationships β’ Develop an ethical framework for their developing relationships The Love Bites training model provides professional development workshops in local communities for community service providers who work in the area of relationship violence and to school teaching staff. The partnership between service providers and teaching staff implement and deliver the Love Bites sessions in schools. This model has proven to be particularly relevant for rural and remote com- munities that have high staff turnover in that it ensures a level of sustainability. This model also strives to train male and female facilitators to ensure that male and female role models lead discussions around preventing violence against women with young people (Flood 2008 ) . Online and phone support is available to teachers, community service providers and communities before and after training to provide guidance on troubleshooting if issues arise and also assist with the development of activities for specifi c issues that communities may be experiencing. NAPCAN works alongside communities so that programming and practices are relevant and culturally inclusive. Refl ective practice is also encouraged to ensure high-quality programme facilitation and programme improvement. Love Bites facilitator-training workshops also include ways to relate to student groups. The NSW Commission for Children and Young People (2 003 ) identifi ed facilitator skills such as active listening, problem solving and good communication. Personal qualities include a sense of humour, energy, enthusiasm and an understanding of the needs of young people. Facilitators are required to: β’ Model respectful relationships β speaking to young people as we would like them to speak to each other; having an awareness of the messages communicated by words, tone, body language and attitude β’ Be open, calm, receptive and enthusiastic β’ Use respectful confl ict resolution processes β’ Promote open discussion stimulated by actively listening to young people and genuinely respecting their opinions β’ Maintain curiosity and wonder about young peopleβs comments allowing critical discussions to fl ow, not being defensive β’ Make young men participating in the sessions feel comfortable and not blamed: giving young men the space to deconstruct societal norms and attitudes empowers them to challenge violence against women, and develop respectful relationships of their own A strength of Love Bites is child and youth inclusive practice. Programmes are targeted at appropriate developmental stages, and all classroom activities and 3 Peaceful and Compassionate Futures: Positive Relationships... 49 resources aim to encourage the active participation and voice of each young person. In the creative sessions participants can write, perform and record a hip-hop song, radio advertisement or drama piece, as well as develop art works for posters. These creative works are then used to develop local campaigns, led and delivered by young people, to challenge relationship violence in their communities. Young people con- tribute to the further development of Love Bites activities and resources through focus groups, ensuring that materials remain relevant and engaging. As it evolves, Love Bites is moving towards a whole of school and community approach to respectful relationship education. This process includes auditing school readiness for such programmes, participation of all teaching staff in professional development, a comprehensive framework on relationships education, the development of complimentary teaching resources to enhance the existing curriculum and the establishment of support systems for young people who may disclose through the educative process. There is also a connection to parents through school newsletters and events at school assemblies and connection with the local community through respectful relationships community campaigns, led by the young people themselves (White Ribbon Canada 2 004 ) . An example of this is in the Northern Territory where the NT Government is funding a Territory-wide youth-led Love Bites poster and radio advertisement campaign. The Love Bites programme was evaluated independently in 2007. A cross sec- tion of students was surveyed across years 10 and 11: a total of 72 responses were recorded. Interviews 6 months after attending the Love Bites programme yielded the following data: β’ 93% responded that the programme had improved their knowledge of sexual assault and domestic violence. β’ 88.5% indicated that Love Bites had a positive impact on young peopleβs behaviour. β’ 76% indicated that since attending the programme, they had seen a positive change in the attitudes and behaviour amongst young people. β’ 50% indicated that their friends are more supportive of their relationships. β’ 43% indicated that Love Bites had given them more confi dence in setting bound- aries in their relationships. β’ 75% indicated that they would speak up if a friend was in an unhealthy relationship. β’ 32% indicated that there was a positive change in relationships since attending the programme. β’ 83% indicated they knew of services they could contact and how to contact these services. β’ 52.5% had heard of these services from Love Bites. β’ 70% indicated that Love Bites is a good way to get the message about healthy relationships across to young people (Spannari-Oxley 2007 ) . NAPCAN is now developing a more comprehensive behaviour change evalua- tion framework that will provide data on programme effectiveness and the extent to which attitudes and behaviours in relation to violence against women are changing. This information will further develop programmes and practice. 50 R. Hromek and A. Walsh 3.4.4 For the Future We are experiencing an exciting time in the fi eld of violence prevention/respectful relationships education. Young people, teaching staff and community services are driv- ing change in their communities. The levels of motivation and enthusiasm for change are high, and the belief that we can eliminate violence against women and children is real and growing. With continued leadership from governments and international agen- cies and sustained fi nancial investment in prevention and evaluation of strategies, there is hope for an end to intergenerational violence against women and children. 3.5 Conclusion There are those who throw up their hands in horror at the extent of violence in our society and others who say βwhat can you do, this is only human behaviourβ. This chapter demonstrates that human change is possible given the right conditions and the will to take preventative measures seriously. It is more diffi cult to measure prevention β to see that when you do something, something else does not happen. It may take years to see outcomes in communities whereas grant bodies and politicians often want to see quick results. Despite media coverage that gives the impression that there is more violence in our society than ever before, the opposite is |
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V iolence prevention: The evidence: Promoting gender equal- ity to prevent violence against women . Geneva: WHO. World Health Organisation. (2009b). W hat is a health promoting school? . http://www.who.int/ school_youth_health/gshi/hps/en/index.html Zins, J. E., Weissberg, R. P., Wang, M. C., & Walberg, H. J. (2004). B uilding academic success on social and emotional learning: What does the research say? New York: Teachers College Press. Robyn Hromek is an Honorary Associate of the University of Sydney and an edu- cational psychologist working in Sydney schools. She is also an author, game designer and on the advisory board of the Wellbeing Australia network. Contact: Robyn.Hromek@det.nsw.edu.au Angela Walsh has been developing and delivering training in sexual assault and family violence prevention programmes across Australia for 10 years for the National Association for Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect, and Womenβs Health (North Coast Area Health Service), NSW. She has also worked as a child protection counsellor and support worker for women escaping family violence. Contact: angelalovebites@gmail.com Chapter 4 Learning About Relationships Gretchen Brion-Meisels and Stephanie M. Jones 4.1 Introduction In her synthesis of fi ve decades of research on resilience in development, Suniya Luthar ( 2006 ) concluded, βResilience rests, fundamentally, on relationshipsβ (p. 780). In fact, every major theory of human development identifi es relationships as central. In their seminal work, Bronfenbrenner and Morris (1 998 ) encouraged psychologists to consider the reciprocal nature of social, emotional and cognitive growth, describing a nested system of contexts and relationships in which human beings were situated and within which they interacted over the lifespan. Researchers since have expanded upon his framework by: studying the cumulative role of risk factors (Sameroff and Gutman 2 004 ) , exploring how protective and promotive sys- tems contribute to resilience (Masten and Wright 2009 ) , articulating the ways in which systems and settings effect development (Tseng and Seidman 2007 ) and con- ceptualizing models that integrate the effects |
of nature and nurture on development over time (Sameroff 2 010 ) . Today, across disciplinary fi elds, practitioners seek to foster healthy relationships in the lives of children. This chapter provides a discussion of how adults can support children in developing the skills and understandings that enable them to engage in positive relationships. Because adult caretakers shape the relationships of young children (Sameroff 2010 ) , we necessarily highlight the role that adults play in supporting healthy relationships. However, we also speak to the ways that children can learn to play a reciprocal, developmentally appropriate role in their own relationships. We begin by synthesizing traditional research on the stage-salient developmental rela- tionship tasks of early and middle childhood. Next, we highlight dimensions of positive relationships that children must learn from and with adults in order to foster healthy interactions with others. We go on to identify strategies that promote positive G. Brion-Meisels β’ S. M. Jones (*) Harvard Graduate School of Education , Cambridge , MA , USA e-mail: gretchen_brion-meisels@gse.harvard.edu; stephanie_m_jones@gse.harvard.edu S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 55 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_4, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 56 G. Brion-Meisels and S.M. Jones relationships during early and middle childhood and provide examples of programmes that are attempting to improve the quality of childrenβs relationships. Finally, we suggest the need for a shift in how researchers conceptualize the role of early relationships in childrenβs development. 4.2 A Brief Summary of the Stage-Salient Developmental Relationship Tasks of Infancy Through Late Childhood As human beings transition from the generally helpless state of infancy to the more fully realized autonomy of adulthood, they proceed through a series of interrelated tasks, such as the development of trust, self-regulation and language (Sroufe 1 979 ) . This learning is shaped, in part, through the proximal processes of childrenβs primary relationships (Thompson 2 006 ) . Although human develop- ment is typically seen as continuous and nonlinear, developmental tasks are defi ned as stage-salient because they become centrally important for the fi rst time during different stages of the lifespan (Aber and Jones 1 997 ) . Mastering these tasks is critically important for future development (Masten and Cicchetti 2010 ) . By considering human development in stage-salient terms β and studying contexts, inputs and outputs in these same terms β researchers and practitioners gain an increased ability to think about development from a strengths-based stance (Aber and Jones 1997 ) . Understanding the developmental tasks necessary for nurturing positive relation- ships is critical for anyone who hopes to intervene to promote healthy interactions. Because relationships are integral to processes of social, emotional and cognitive development β and may, in fact, be a key mechanism through which these domains of development are linked (Thompson 2 006 ) β research must consider how chil- drenβs biological and environmental contexts interact to shape these tasks (Table 4 .1 ). We begin by providing a brief overview of the relationship tasks of infancy and childhood (see Sroufe 1 979 for a more complete explanation). 4.2.1 Early Relationships and Attachment During infancy and early childhood, children must develop reliable, reciprocal relationships with their primary caregivers. Commonly referred to as attachment, the development of high-quality primary relationships provides infants with a sense of trust and a foundation from which they can safely explore the world (B owlby 1969 ) . Research informed by attachment theory has found considerable support for the impact of early primary relationships on the development of childrenβs relational skills. Scholars describe attachment as an emotional bond or tie, characterized by a host of behaviours, including proximity seeking and contact maintenance under stress (Ainsworth et al. 1978) . Through early primary r elationships, children learn a 4 Learning About Relationships 57 Table 4.1 Brief description of the stage -salient relationship tasks of infancy and childhood (Adapted from Aber and Jones 1997) Transition between stages Age range Developmental relationship tasks Infancy/toddlerhood 0β3 Develop trusting relationship with primary caregivers Gain a sense of security from relationship with caregivers Begin to self-regulate physiological states Practise social referencing Develop sense of self as distinct from other Toddlerhood/preschool 2β5 Balance curiosity and active exploration of the world with sense of security Transfer knowledge and relationships from primary caregivers to secondary caregivers Develop sensitivity to the needs and expectations of others Learn to use others as resources Develop increasing sense of autonomy Preschool/early school age 4β7 Actively engage with surrounds through relationships Develop the fl exibility to adjust to the demands of different settings Manage impulses, especially in the context of peer relationships Engage in collective monologues with others Learn to follow externally the imposed rules/ expectations Learn to express empathy and feelings with language Begin to categorize self as same as others Early school-age/middle 6β9 Develop the ability to self-regulate thoughts, childhood behaviours and emotions to fl exibly adjust to the demands and opportunities of multiple settings Begin to recognize that other peoplesβ feelings result from their own experiences Begin to empathize with groups of people or on the basis of more abstract conditions (e.g. poverty) Begin to categorize self as same or different from others Middle childhood/late 8β11 Develop skills to negotiate confl ict and solve childhood interpersonal problems non-aggressively Develop an understanding of autonomous morality Begin to internalize social/cultural norms Become more aware of other peoplesβ emotions and better able to read a situation Begin to consolidate oneβs self of self as competent and able to handle social and academic spheres of life Begin to defi ne oneβs own identity 58 G. Brion-Meisels and S.M. Jones strategy of affect regulation that structures their behaviour when confronted with stress. When caregivers are sensitive and responsive in a manner complementary to their infant/toddlerβs bids for comfort and attention, relationships are thought to be developmentally supportive (Belsky et al. 1 984 ; Egeland and Sroufe 1 981 ) . Since childrenβs individual needs differ, early relationships are not characterized by a set of universally βpositiveβ qualities; rather, they are positive because they are sensitive to the unique individual and contextual needs of infants and children β they exhibit a βgoodness of fi tβ. 1 When caregivers are inaccessible and unresponsive, infants may learn to regulate their affect by avoiding interactions with their caregivers or come to view the world with anger, mistrust and hostility (Crittenden and Ainsworth 1 989 ; Isabella and Belsky 1991 ) . Without healthy early relationships, children may fail to develop appropriate attention to interpersonal interaction and thereby miss key social cues or become hyper-vigilant to hostile cues in later relationships (Dodge et al. 1990 ; Shaw and Bell 1 993) . These processes may also shape neural development in the prefrontal cortex, which has been linked to emotional and cognitive self- regulation later in life ( Boyd et al. 2005 ) . Children and their primary caregivers negotiate strategic interactive patterns over the course of multiple experiences with each other. These interactional patterns become internal working models (cognitions and emotions) that each partner forms of the relationship (B owlby 1982 ; Sroufe 1990 ) . These models, which form in a complementary fashion unique to the individual pair, structure and affectively infl u- ence social interactions throughout development (B owlby 1982 ) . For children, they function as a guiding framework for further interaction, becoming a key mechanism through which they learn to be in relationships with others (Shaw and Bell 1993 ) . Early relationships are internalized and affect subsequent social and emotional competence (Lyons-Ruth and Zeanah 1 993 ; Thompson 2 006 ) . Characteristics of early relationships often manifest themselves anew over the course of development with new individuals and in new contexts. 4.2.2 Developing Emotional Competence As children transition into toddlerhood, they must learn to regulate and understand their own emotions with less support from caregivers. For young children, emotional development plays a central role in the growth of social competence (Aber and Jones 1997 ; Weare and Gray 2 003 ) , equal to that of health, formal cognitive ability and achievement (Zigler and Trickett 1978 ) . Emotional competence is generally viewed as encompassing four broad constructs: emotional regulation, emotion 1 In their longitudinal studies of a cohort of infants in New York City, Thomas and Chess ( 1986 ) found that βno one single pattern of personβenvironment interaction could be applied as a general rule for predicting the developmental courseβ, but rather that healthy development was the result of βthe properties of the environment and its expectations and demands and the subjects temperament and other characteristicsβ (p. 49). They referred to this as βgoodness of fi tβ. 4 Learning About Relationships 59 recognition and appraisal, emotional expression and empathy/perspective taking (Harris and Saarni 1989 ; Mayer and Salovey 1997; Saarni 1 990 ) . Children who are emotionally competent can identify and understand their own feelings, read and understand emotional states in others, manage strong emotions constructively, regu- late their own behaviours and develop empathy for others in the context of relation- ships ( DfES 2005a, DfES 2 005b ; Hallam 2 009 ) . These skills guide children in developing social relationships and managing interactions with others (DfES 2005a, DfES 2005b ; Weare and Gray 2003 ) . To support the development of emotional competence, adults must help children learn to recognize, name and cope with their emotions. Adults also need to model and support the development of empathy for others. Children learn from watching adults; they benefi t when adults spend time modelling successful communication and peaceful problem-solving (DfES 2 005a, DfES 2 005b ) . Children benefi t when parents are responsive to their needs, express interest in their opinions, support their development of communication skills (including the verbal identifi cation of emotional states), cele- brate their accomplishments and support them in problem-solving ( Boyd et al. 2005 ) . Although preschool-age children are beginning to form relationships outside of the home, primary caregivers often facilitate their relational tasks through direct interac- tion and modelling and by controlling the settings in which they interact. Much like parents, early relationships with educational caregivers contribute to childrenβs working models of positive relationships. Teachers must have the time and space to develop one-on-one relationships with young children. As children transi- tion into preschool, they must learn to transfer their knowledge and understanding of relationships from primary caregivers (typically family) to secondary caregivers and eventually peers. For some, this transition includes a shift in contextual or cultural expectations, presenting an additional challenge (Pianta and Cox 1 999 ) . Educational caregivers can support this transition by modelling explicit pro-social skills, providing opportunities to practise self-regulation and providing consistent feedback (Weare and Gray 2003 ) . It is important for educational caregivers to value the cultures of their studentsβ families, to partner with parents, to think constructively about issues of language and to collaborate with other professionals in support of childrenβs devel- opmental needs (Clifford 1999 ; Weare and Gray 2 003 ) . 4.2.3 Negotiating Relationships and the Role of Play in Development During the preschool and early school years, children continue to practise their emotional competencies while adjusting to the demands and opportunities of varied contexts (Aber and Jones 1997 ). Many children begin to understand that their caregiversβ goals may be separate from their own, and that they must negotiate to satisfy both sets of needs (Ainsworth et al. 1 978 ) . Increased social interactions require that children negotiate the needs of peers as well, some of whom may struggle with their own emotional competence. Given this, the development of empathy 60 G. Brion-Meisels and S.M. Jones becomes increasingly important. Over time, notions of empathy become more abstract for children, allowing them to empathize with both individuals and groups of people. These expanded feelings of empathy, coupled with increased language agility, often help children to develop contextually appropriate confl ict negotiation skills (e.g. avoiding physical aggression in school contexts). Parents and educators can support childrenβs abilities to build relationships by providing opportunities to: practise self-regulation, identify emotions and develop an understanding of the motivation, needs and skills of others (e.g. DfES 2005a ; DfES 2005b ) . Children can be taught various coping mechanisms for dealing with stress including self-talk, which supports self-regulation (Vygotsky |
1 978 ) . Since the development of language is critical in allowing children to express empathy and emotions with words (Hoffman 1975 ) , school-based social-emotional learning pro- grammes should provide opportunities to practise verbally communicating oneβs needs. Similarly, children can benefi t from programmes that support their ability to take the perspective of others (Selman et al. 2 004 ) . In addition to modelling and teaching children specifi c relational skills, a growing body of research documents the foundational role of play in early development (Elkind 2008 ; NIfP 2 009) . There is evidence that children learn fundamental s elf-regulation and pro-social skills through play as this provides an opportunity to: monitor their own and othersβ performance, refl ect on what is happening socially and practise developing skills, maintain rules or instructions that promote executive func- tioning and use language to structure their own behaviour and infl uence others (Bodrova and Leong 2007 ) . Research has explored three dimensions of social play β belonging play, rough-and-tumble play, and celebratory play β each of which supports a distinct relational skill-set (NIfP 2 009 ) . For example, rough-and-tumble play (e.g. running or wrestling) is thought to support the development of social awareness, cooperation, fairness and altruism (Pelligrini 1 988 ) . Panskepp ( 2008 ) and others have also connected early play to the epigenetic construction of social brain func- tions, suggesting that natural play supports critical neurological development. Neurological development is prominent in early childhood, and studies s uggest a physiological basis for the development of self-regulation and empathy (Blair 2 002 ) . While processes in the prefrontal cortex affect childrenβs self- regulation skills, these skills (in turn) affect their relationships with others (Jones and Zigler 2 002 ) . 4.2.4 Looking Towards Adolescence During late childhood, children must learn to balance the contextual and cultural norms of their environment with their growing sense of self. This is often a period of development when adults play less of a mediatory role in relationships. As a result, older children must develop an ability to βreadβ situations and predict appropriate and effective emotional and behavioural reactions for specifi c contexts. As children gain more control over the settings and people with whom they interact, their primary relationships begin to shift towards peers. School and community-based 4 Learning About Relationships 61 settings can provide important opportunities for older children to practise positive relational skills with the support of adult caregivers. This is also a period when children begin to integrate understandings of self with understandings of their social and academic lives, cultural contexts and relationships. Having reviewed some of the stage-salient relational tasks of development, we turn our attention now towards the dimensions of positive relationships, more broadly. What types of processes and environments support positive relationships? 4.3 Qualities of Positive Relationships Within and Across Contexts in Early and Middle Childhood Although the specifi c qualities of positive relationships vary across ecological and developmental contexts, there are several dimensions of relationships that universally support childrenβs development: relationships work best when they are d evelopmen- tally and contextually appropriate, reciprocal, reliable and fl exible (Jones and Zigler 2002 ) . Here, we explore these dimensions generally rather than attempting to highlight characteristics of positive relationships in specifi c contexts, because we believe that they can be actualized differently, dependent upon contextual needs. In describing these dimensions of positive relationships, we draw on the stage-salient developmental tasks summarized above. One of the most important qualities of positive relationships is that they are d evel- opmentally appropriate. As evidenced above, childrenβs relational needs change d ramatically between birth and adolescence. While toddlers require a secure base from which to explore the world, school-age children benefi t from increased auton- omy and support in negotiating new relationships. Positive relationships adjust to these varying tasks, are sensitive to childrenβs individual needs and help children prepare for the next steps in their development. For example, while caregivers may support a toddlerβs development of relational skills by modelling the use of l anguage to identify emotional states, adults are more likely to support adolescentsβ relation- ships by encouraging the use of confl ict resolution strategies. Similarly, social emo- tional interventions must provide children with developmentally appropriate skills. Just as relationships must be developmentally appropriate, so too must they be contextually or culturally relevant. The power of thoughts, emotions and behaviours lies in the way people make meaning of them. For example, in their study of differ- ences in early childrearing practices of Japanese and American children, Rothbaum et al. ( 2000 ) found that parents chose different ways of exercising control, with American parents being more likely to directly confront their children and Japanese parents being more likely to model deference. Both of these parenting styles are effective in their cultural context (Lewis 2000 ) ; but, one can imagine the diffi culties a child might face if placed in a classroom with a teacher who employed a form of management different from that used at home. Because primary caregivers typically transmit cultural norms to very young children through everyday interactions, these early relationships are (by nature) contextually appropriate. However, as children 62 G. Brion-Meisels and S.M. Jones get older, they begin to interact with secondary caregivers and peers and are required to adjust to varying expectations around communication and behaviour. Research on the transition into kindergarten, for example, suggests that children who experi- ence incongruence between the settings of home and school are often seen as less successful than those whose family cultures mirror those of their school (Christenson 1999 ) . Because children must learn to transfer knowledge of relationships from primary to secondary caregivers, it is easy to imagine the challenges that students face when school settings are not sensitive to home cultures. Relationships are interactional by nature, but positive relationships are explicitly reciprocal ; they provide opportunities for each party to infl uence and learn from the other. In his chapter on early social and personality development, Thompson (2 006 ) suggests that positive relational experiences are βgenerative of new understanding, whether of emotions, self, morality or peopleβs beliefsβ (p. 25). Relationships are most generative when they foster learning for a ll of those involved. Even very young children infl uence the ways that adults respond to their needs; for example, parentsβ perceptions of their childrenβs temperaments can affect their choice of parenting styles (Rubin et al. 1 999 ) . Positive relationships acknowledge and build on their own interactional nature in developmentally appropriate ways. This type of reci- procity is diffi cult for many secondary caregivers to provide, as they must balance the relational needs of multiple children. At the same time, it may be critical to learning: research suggests that effective teachers are sensitive and responsive to their studentsβ needs (Pianta and Allen 2008 ) . Finally, positive relationships are reliable : as children adapt to changes in their envi- ronments over time, sustained relationships can provide critical developmental sup- ports (Benard 1 991) . For example, in their study of the effects of mentoring relationships on a national sample of adolescents, DuBois and Silverthorn ( 2005 ) found that teenag- ers who reported being in mentoring relationships characterized by consistent, positive interaction were more likely to report positive outcomes in terms of education, work or psychological wellbeing, and less likely to report problem behaviours. Other studies have noted that the longevity and intensity of mentoring relationships can vastly impact their effect on adolescents (Rhodes and DuBois 2 008 ) : βClose and enduring ties appear to be fostered when mentors adopt a fl exible, youth centered style in which the young personβs interests and preferences are emphasized, rather than when they focus predominantly on their own agendas or expectations for the relationshipβ (p. 255) Similar benefi ts emerge from sustained positive relationships with parents and teachers. In fact, research suggests that the effects of mentoring relationships may be mediated by childrenβs perceptions of their relationships with parents, peers and school-based adults (Rhodes and DuBois 2 008 ) . The importance of reliable r elationships has implications for policies that aim to help children: it suggests the need for policies that provide economic and social stability for families and encourages us to align relationship structures across contexts and developmental periods. In sum, positive relationships take into account childrenβs ecologies by providing developmentally and culturally relevant, reciprocal and r eliable support across 4 Learning About Relationships 63 the lifespan. As a result, children learn to recreate these dimensions of positive relationships in their future interactions. 4.4 A Closer Look at the Context of School: Positive Relationships in Educational Settings School is a critical setting for relational learning, but it is also a setting deeply infl u- enced by relationships. Children learn many of their social and emotional skills in school contexts by watching adults and peers or through direct instruction. In addi- tion, relationships between parents and teachers play a signifi cant role in shaping studentsβ outcomes (Henderson and Mapp 2 002 ) .2 As many educators fi nd it diffi cult to build developmentally and culturally relevant, reciprocal and reliable relation- ships, in part because the needs of individual children are so varied, this section considers several factors that can support this endeavour. First, schools need to build trust amongst individuals to support the emergence of reciprocity and the maintenance of r eliable relationships. Trusting relationships have critical effects on cognitive, social and emotional development (Thompson 2006 ) . At the same time, trust between children shapes their interactions with each other (Goddard 2 003 ; Kahn and Turiel 1 988 ) as well as the interactions of adults around them (Dunsmuir et al. 2 004 ; Goddard 2003 ) . Classrooms nurture pro-social skills and positive peer relationships when children engage in structured activities that help them to develop trust and connectedness (Jones et al. 2 008) . Teachers can build trust in their classrooms through scaffolding pro-social behaviours (e.g. group work), building a sense of collective responsibility for success, providing psychological safety (often, through consistency) and modelling language that supports nonviolent communication; in turn, positive relationships with teachers support student learning (Pianta and Allen 2 008 ; Weare and Gray 2 003 ). Students who report their school environment to be βsupportive and caringβ are less likely to engage in violence and substance abuse, more likely to develop positive attitudes towards self and others and more likely to engage in school (Schaps 2005) . Often, this distinction is given to schools where students have strong relationships with at least one adult, feel psycho- logically safe, are given structured opportunities to connect with peers and feel as though their needs are met. In addition, evidence suggests that trust amongst parents and teachers increases positive outcomes for children (Dunsmuir et al. 2 004 ; Weare and Gray 2 003 ) and is an important prerequisite for collaboration (Voltz 1994 ) . Critical to the development of trust is the development of c ross-cultural understanding , a concept that overlaps with the notion of c ulturally relevant relation- ships . Research suggests that schools are structured in ways that value certain types of social and cultural capital over others (Bourdieu 1984 ) . Children who arrive at school 2 For example, when parents are involved in school, students show improvement in grades and test scores, increased motivation and self esteem, higher attendance rates and lower dropout rates (Christenson 1 999 ) . 64 G. Brion-Meisels and S.M. Jones with different types of social and cultural capital often experience schooling as a series of micro-aggressions (Delgado-Bernal 2 002 ; Solorzano 1997 ) . For example, a child used to looking down when he addresses adults and speaking softly to show respect may be told to βLook up!β and βSpeak up!β by teachers in his elementary classroom. There is a vast body of research on culturally relevant pedagogy, which provides examples of ways in which teachers can nurture and value the multiplicity of cultures represented by students in their classrooms (e.g. Gay 2 000 ; Maina 1997 ; Winch- Dummett 2 006 ) . Positive relationships are nurtured when: teachers work to under- stand children in the context of |
the norms and communities where they have been raised; children have opportunities to both teach and learn from their classmates, rec- ognizing the value of different contributions to a classroom community; high expecta- tions are held for all children; classroom norms draw from relational patterns in childrenβs home cultures; content refl ects studentsβ cultural histories; and instruction provides an opportunity to understand the world from multiple perspectives (Education Alliance 2 006 ) . Schools that foster a sense of cross-cultural understanding amongst adults are best able to support the development of healthy relationships for children; for example, children benefi t when teachers take the time to understand parentsβ hopes and concerns about their childβs development (Education Alliance 2 006 ) . When the cultures of families are not respected and valued, schools and children suffer. Finally, critical to the development of trust is the existence of d emocratic, collaborative school structures ; these structures help to ensure that classrooms and schools are d evelopmentally appropriate and fl exible to the needs of students. A growing body of research suggests that childrenβs participation in school and community-based organizations can positively affect communities (Ginwright and James 2002 ) , organizations/schools (Mitra 2 008 ) and the healthy development of children themselves (OβDonoghue et al. 2003 ) . Children benefi t from the opportu- nity to voice their opinions, contribute to the good of the community, collaborate with adults on projects and gain an understanding of ways to create change in their own lives. These activities help improve communication skills and build feelings of connectedness. Research on families and schools also suggests that moving towards a βpartnership approachβ (Christenson 1999 ) enhances relationships between parents and teachers, improving student-level outcomes (Henderson and Mapp 2 002 ) . Here, parents and teachers βmodel collaboration by: listening to each otherβs perspective and viewing differences as strengths; sharing information to co-construct the βbigger pictureβ about childrenβs performance; respecting the skills and knowledge of each other; and planning and making decisions cooperativelyβ (Christenson 1 999 : 148). Schools can improve relationships by building structures that allow parents and children to authentically participate in educational processes. Of note, the fi eld of positive youth development has identifi ed qualities of schools and community organizations that promote positive relationships. For example, the D evelopmental Assets (Scales and Leffert 2 004 ) , used regularly in the United States and Canada, highlights external and internal factors that support childrenβs development. Many of these speak to the question of positive relation- ships. This work echoes our calls for d evelopmentally and culturally appropriate relationships that are r eciprocal, reliable and fl exible in nature. 4 Learning About Relationships 65 4.5 Programmes That Help Children Learn to Be in Positive Relationships There is a growing body of evidence suggesting that early intervention and prevention programmes can enhance childrenβs relationships (Diekstra 2008 ; Durlak et al. 2 011 ; Elias 2 003 ; Ferrer-Wreder et al. 2 004 ) . In Great Britain, for example, the Social and Emotional Aspects of Learning programme has reduced emotional and behavioural diffi culties for students needing extra support (Humphrey et al. 2010 ) and has increased staff understanding of the social and emotional aspects of learn- ing, which has changed their behaviour with students (Hallam 2 009 ) . In many coun- tries, similar programmes have been implemented to improve childrenβs relational skills; unfortunately, there are limited evaluations of these programmes. In this sec- tion, we provide a brief overview of three school-based interventions that have been shown to improve childrenβs outcomes through the nurturing of positive relation- ships: R esponsive Classroom, the 4Rs Program and Colombiaβs National Program of Citizenship Competencies. These programmes are distinct in that Responsive Classroom targets positive relationships through classroom processes, 4Rs targets positive relationships through teachersβ competencies and instruction and the National Program of Citizenship Competencies targets positive relationships through national standards. 4.5.1 Responsive Classroom Started in 1981, Responsive Classroom is an approach to teaching that integrates social and emotional learning throughout the school day in developmentally and contextually appropriate ways. The programme builds relationships amongst students, between teachers and students and between parents and teachers, by creating space for children to practise social interaction. Teachers dedicate time to building com- munity and setting up classroom rituals; students participate in creating classroom rules; and all consequences are βlogicalβ to βallow children to fi x and learn from their mistakes while preserving their dignityβ (Responsive Classroom 2 010 ) . In addition, teachers hold Morning Meetings daily, where students engage in structured activities that help support their academic and pro-social skills. During the remainder of the day, teachers present students with developmentally appropriate learning activities that provide opportunities for social interaction. Students are given academic choices to encourage independence and responsibility and support their individual learning styles and interests. The physical layout of responsive classrooms supports these pedagogical priorities. Evaluations demonstrate programmatic gains in studentsβ social, emotional and cognitive development (Rimm-Kaufman 2 006 ) . Responsive Classroom is designed to create organizational change in elemen- tary schools: all grade-levels participate, and school-wide community-building activities support cross-grade and home-school collaboration. Rituals and daily 66 G. Brion-Meisels and S.M. Jones activities are designed to be developmentally appropriate and to support students in transitioning between their home and school cultures. Although these activities may not be culturally relevant for all students, they become a means of fostering a classroom culture in which all students are included. In addition, curricular fl exi- bility allows students to choose activities that match their learning styles and inter- ests, promoting responsibility and autonomy. Across grades, a similar set of classroom practices support peer relationships that are reliable over time. Responsive Classroom practices give students a chance to learn from peers who have different relational needs. By valuing each student and family, the Responsive Classroom approach highlights the benefi t of reciprocity in relationships. In this way, the school community comes to prioritize relationship-building. 4.5.2 The 4Rs Program Like Responsive Classroom, the 4Rs Program (Reading, Writing, Respect and Resolution) integrates a social-emotional curriculum with traditional academic learning. The programme trains teachers to implement a curriculum that supports the development of pro-social skills, including social competence and peer coopera- tion. For example, teachers are taught to model good listening skills (direct eye contact, paraphrasing, acknowledging comprehension) through their interactions with other adults and students and to explicitly teach these skills using real-life examples in their classrooms. During teacher training, teachers refl ect on their own social and emotional experiences, attitudes and competencies, while learning explicit strategies for improving classroom social-emotional learning (Jones et al. 2008 ) . In class, high-quality childrenβs stories and other literacy-based activities are used to teach and model relational skills. By changing teachersβ relationships and their curricular content, the programme targets classroom pedagogies and the transactional social processes in the setting overall. 3 Initial fi ndings from a school- randomized evaluation suggest that the programme results in increases in both individual- and classroom-level positive outcomes (Jones et al. 2 011 ) . The 4Rs Program aims to support teachers and students in developing relationships that are developmentally and culturally appropriate, reliable and fl exible; by targeting all classrooms, it creates organizational-level change in a school community. The programme supports reciprocal relationships by teaching pro-social skills to both children and staff, asking teachers to refl ect on their own relationships, as well as to support their studentsβ developing relationships. In addition, its literacy-based curric- ulum increases teachersβ capacities to support studentsβ relationships across domains. Finally, the programme serves as a reliable source of social-emotional support for students since it spans multiple grade levels within a school. 3 One example of this type of effect is that children who have positive relationships with their teachers tend to be more accepted by their peers (Ladd et al. 1999 ) and to be well-liked and con- sidered socially competent by other students in the classroom (Hughes et al. 2001 ) . 4 Learning About Relationships 67 4.5.3 The National Program of Citizenship Competencies Our last highlighted social-emotional intervention emerges from a different cultural context, Colombia, and operates at a different ecological level (the macro-system). Responding to the effects of more than four decades of violent political confl ict in Colombia, in 2004, the Colombian Ministry of Education developed a National Program of Citizenship Competencies (Ministerio de EducaciΓ³n de Nacional 2 004 ; Patti and Espinosa 2007 ) . The competencies outline a set of standards organized by developmental stage (3rdβ11th grade), which include cognitive, emotional, com- municative and integrative competencies. 4 The competencies span developmental domains, touching upon the themes of peace and peaceful interactions, democratic participation and diversity (Chaux 2009 ; Ministerio de EducaciΓ³n Nacional 2004 ) . By focusing on the development of standards rather than the transmission of values, the Ministry of Education holds that students can βdevelop their competencies by practising them in simulated or real-life situationsβ, an assertion that differs from many past efforts to promote citizenship (Chaux 2 009 : 88; Patti and Espinosa 2007 ) . The government does not dictate the pedagogical approach of specifi c school communities, although it is supporting the evaluation and expansion of specifi c pro- grammes (Chaux 2009 ) and the development of local curricula. The National Program of Citizenship Competencies supports the development of positive relationships amongst children, as well as between children and adults. In fact, the competencies speak to the elements of positive relationships highlighted above: they are developmentally and culturally appropriate, reliable and fl exible. The stan- dards differ across developmental periods; for example, while a 4th grader is expected to learn to address daily confl ict in school and family using peaceful strategies, a 10th grader is called upon to βexplicitly reject all forms of discrimination of social exclu- sionβ (Patti and Espinosa 2 007 : 113); by spanning grade-levels, the competencies are structured to be reliable supports. Also, the competencies are broad enough to allow communities to determine their own pedagogical approaches (Patti and Espinosa 2007 ) . Finally, the competencies are explicitly reciprocal in that they aim to empower students and recognize the role that children can play in shaping their relationships. 4.6 (Re)conceptualizing Positive Relationships: A Shifting Focus on Supporting Development The research presented in this chapter suggests that positive relationships are critical for childrenβs healthy development and that healthy development is critical for chil- drenβs positive relationships. As cascade theories suggest (Masten and Cicchetti 2010 ) , 4 Here, cognitive competencies develop skills and understandings that support active participation in civic life; emotional competencies develop skills and understandings that support oneβs ability to respond to his/her own emotions as well as othersβ emotions; communicative competencies develop the capacity to have productive dialogues; and integrative competencies develop skills that require social, emotional and cognitive competencies (e.g. brainstorming compromises to a confl ict). 68 G. Brion-Meisels and S.M. Jones positive relationships yield positive relationships. Because relationships serve as a primary proximal process for all domains of development, nurturing positive rela- tionships is one of the most powerful means of supporting children. In 2006, Ross Thompson suggested the need for βa developmental relational scienceβ (2 006 : 25), which would integrate important parts of βattachment theory, neo-Vygotskian thinking, sociolinguistic approaches to cognitive growth, and other perspectives into a thoughtful understanding of how early relational experience con- tributes to fundamental competencies and the emergence of individual differences in thinking, sociability, and personality developmentβ (p. 25). By studying relation- ships, Thompson argued, we might better understand the interrelated pathways of development. Recently, Sameroff (2 010 ) articulated a theory of development that begins to pull together these empirical understandings of personal change, ecological context, self-regulation and representation, highlighting the role of relationships in them.5 Whether in the largely dependent state of infancy or the largely autonomous state of adulthood, relationships remain central to humanβs social, emotional and cognitive growth. Sameroff suggests the need for future research to integrate addi- tional perspectives of human development from sociology and anthropology6 ; these perspectives can help us to understand how relationships between and amongst individuals shape the social, emotional and cognitive development of children. In this sense, Sameroffβs ( 2010 ) conclusion echoes Thompsonβs (2 006 ) call for a βdevel- opmental relational scienceβ |
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Jonesβ research focuses on the developmental impact of educational interventions targeting childrenβs social-emotional and academic skills. She is involved as Principal Investigator or Co-Investigator in a number of evaluation studies of preschool and school-based programmes in social-emotional learning and literacy. Contact: stephanie_m_jones@gse.harvard.edu Chapter 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship Satisfaction and Happiness Vagdevi Meunier and Wayne Baker 5.1 Introduction The fi eld of positive psychology is painting a new picture of what it takes to create lasting, stable and, more importantly, enjoyable relationships (Gable and Haidt 2005 ) . To create happiness with an intimate partner, it is not enough to simply learn how to get rid of negative behaviours (Gottman 1 995 ; Gottman and Silver 2000 ) . There is a critical need to build a positive psychology of relationships, one that details the behaviours happy couples engage in that accentuate the positive and ignore or reduce the impact of the negative. 5.2 A Positive Psychology of Relationships Psychology has long been a science of healing and has tried to follow in the footsteps of medical science. The literature and research has focused almost entirely on the cause and elimination of suffering. There has been little focus on the βfulfi lled individual and thriving communityβ (Seligman and Csikszentmihalyi 2 000 ) . This has been particularly true in the fi eld of relationship science, where concerns about vio- lence, depression, divorce, betrayals and other negative human experiences have held centre stage for many decades (Gable and Haidt 2005 ) . We know more about couples in distress, who come to marital therapy because they could not handle what life had to offer, than we do about the couples who are quietly managing all the same V. Meunier (*) St. Edwards University , Austin , TX , USA e-mail: vagdevim@gmail.com W. Baker Austin , TX , USA e-mail: wayne@waynebakerlpc.com S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 73 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_5, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 74 V. Meunier and W. Baker challenges and transitions of life and maintaining their relationships over a long time. We know little about couples who are managing to thrive and grow despite setbacks, and who are fi nding ways to enjoy, support and nurture each other as well as their children (Tucker and Crouter 2008 ) , even under circumstances one would not expect to offer contentment such as slum dwellers in Calcutta (Gable and Haidt 2 005 ) . Divorce rates have risen at an alarming rate in the past century in most industrial- ized countries, and have caused great concern for the impact not only on individual stress and mental health but also on relationships, families and social communities as a whole (Kaslow 2001 ; Coontz 2 006 ) . In recent decades, non-industrialized countries have also begun to see rising divorce rates. For example, India, which had the lowest divorce rates in the world for many decades, has begun to see a sharp rise in divorces in urban cities (Shetty 2009 ) . Similarly in Japan and China, the rate of relationship breakup has gone up enough to cause concern about the social impact of this phenomenon on childbirth, childrenβs mental health, the stability of extended family structures, and even productivity in the workplace (Kaslow 2001 ) . The rising concern about relationship breakup hides an important fi nding. The majority of couples in committed, intimate relationships are doing well. Research from eight different countries (US, Canada, Germany, Sweden, the Netherlands, Israel, South Africa and Chile) found the divorce rate to be between 20% and 50% (Sharlin et al. 2 000 ) . What is exceptional about these fi ndings is that, in most parts of the world, 50β80% of couples are in lasting relationships that they fi nd quite satisfying. That is a fact worth celebrating but it is often ignored or lost in the moun- tains of writing about divorce and distress in relationships. We are now beginning to see a growing body of sociological as well as psycho- logical research that speaks to the value of being in long-term committed relation- ships both for men and women (Waite and Gallagher 2001 ; OβConnell 2008 ) . We are learning that social support from close positive relationships has positive impact on longevity, wellbeing, productivity and immune function (Kantrowitz and Wingert 1 999 ) . Once we know that committed relationships are benefi cial and that happy committed relationships βmake life worth livingβ (Waite and Gallagher 2 001 ; Seligman and Csikszentmihalyi 2000 ) , the next step is understanding what it takes to create that happiness, positivity and stability in committed relationships. There are a few researchers who have made it their career goal to study and understand positive intimate relationships. One of them is Dr. John Gottman, who has spent more than three decades studying over 3,000 married couples using multi- method and multi-dimensional research methods and built a solid scientifi c model of healthy relationships that he calls the Sound Relationship House (Gottman 1 995, 1999, 2007 ) (see Fig. 5 .1 ). The Sound Relationship House model is a template for healthy, satisfying and lasting relationships. Gottman is able to predict with over 94% accuracy which relationships are likely to remain intact and those that will not. He also replicated his fi ndings in six separate studies ( 2007 ) . Gottman discovered early in his research that helping couples have positive relationships is not just about preventing or eliminating negative behaviours. He found a group of couples he called Masters of Relationship who were engaging in specifi c behaviours that were enhancing or maintaining the positivity of the relationship. 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship... 75 Fig. 5.1 The Sound Relationship House (Reprinted with permission from The Gottman Relationship Institute: www. gottman.com . Copyright Β© 2008 by Dr. John M. Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman) Barbara Fredricksonβs research confi rms that when fl ourishing relationships go above a tipping point of 3:1 positive to negative experiences they are a qualitatively different experience ( 2009 ) . Similarly, Amy Strachman and Shelly Gable ( 2006 ) , who have been studying positive behaviours in a variety of relationships, have found that happy couples tend to demonstrate specifi c behaviours that go beyond avoiding behaviours that might cause pain and suffering to each other. Based on the work of these major researchers as well as other emerging research on positivity in relationships, the fol- lowing sections offer an overview of the factors and behaviours that can be found in positive couple relationships. 5.3 Qualities of Positive Couple Relationships: The Friendship Dimension Most committed, intimate and romantic relationships begin with a foundation of friendship. Even in cultures where marriages are arranged, the couple that builds a strong friendship in the early years of marriage will be more likely to weather the challenges of the later years (Sharlin et al. 2000 ; Sandhya 2 009 ) . Unfortunately, many couples believe that fi nding oneβs soul mate is the goal, and that once they have found the perfect mate, the love between the two of them will take care of any challenges that arise. Empirical research on relationships shows that love has to be nurtured and savoured and preserved through regular actions that build the foundation of friendship (Gottman 1 999, 2007 ) . Gottmanβs research found that there 76 V. Meunier and W. Baker are three components to the marital friendship that form the foundation of the sound relationship house: Love Maps, Fondness and Admiration and Turning Towards (the latter also known as the emotional bank account). 5.3.1 Love Maps Gottman (1 995) coined the term βLove Mapsβ to denote the cognitive space that one partner has in their mind for their partnerβs world. In other words, how well does one spouse know the other personβs experiences, likes and dislikes and personality quirks or unique talents. βLove Mapsβ also refers to the awareness and sensitivity one part- ner has for his or her partnerβs inner world β what is making them happy, what they are looking forward to, what is stressing them, etc. During the courtship period and in the throes of early love, most couples work on love maps quite easily and regu- larly. As the relationship gets established and time passes, these love maps are neglected. Couples forget to update their love maps, and believe they know every- thing there is to know about their partners. However, people grow and change all the time, and the inspiration for change sometimes comes from having an energizing, enthusiastic conversation with a spouse who is genuinely interested in oneβs story, as much as it comes from intrinsic motivations. Gottman found that master couples maintained this regular interest in their partnerβs lives and built rituals of connection that kept their love maps updated ( 1999 ) . Other researchers have substantiated the importance of these love maps, albeit in different terms. Diener and Seligman (2 002 ) found that the 10% of students with the highest levels of happiness and fewest symptoms of depression had strong ties to family and friends and made a commitment to sharing time with them. Australian researchers Halford et al. (2 007 ) confi rmed that newly married couples who worked on their relationship were more successful in maintaining satisfaction despite stress- ful life events over a 5-year period. 5.3.2 Fondness and Admiration The second component of the friendship dimension is maintaining fondness and admiration. This is a simple concept to understand but challenging to maintain over the long term. Maintaining admiration is critical to preventing the loss of respect or empathy |
towards one another. Research has shown that emotional expressiveness is positively correlated with marital satisfaction, and that the sense of stability that comes from regular experience of feeling loved (and admired) in a relationship is the best predictor of long-term commitment (Sharlin et al. 2 000) . People are usually drawn into relationships because of feelings of fondness and admiration. However, over time, partners begin to notice and react to small irritations and disappointments more than positive behaviours. As the number of negative experiences are noted and 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship... 77 added to, fondness and admiration can be eroded. Scanning the environment for what is not going well enhances negative thinking and feeds negative emotional states, which can become quite absorbing. In fact, negative emotional states are more intense and likely to dampen any positive emotions that may also be present (Gottman 1 995 ; Johnson 2008 ; Hanson and Mendius 2 009 ) . In order to overcome this negative bias, it is important to maintain generous praise and appreciation for each other. Maintaining admiration also has the added benefi t that spouses who admire each other are more likely to accept and even celebrate their differences and enjoy the diverse interests and opinions they offer each other (Gottman 2 007 ) . Spouses who feel fondness and admiration and make an effort to express these positive feelings are also likely to see the positivity add up over time leading to a longevity bonus of about 10 years (Fredrickson 2009 ) . A key ingredient in maintaining positivity is to express positive feelings either verbally or in some other form, and to make an effort to express specifi c, recent and timely praise rather than global or general admira- tion. Lyubomirsky ( 2007 ) found that deliberately counting oneβs blessings on a regular basis, for example in a gratitude diary, once a week, increased participantsβ feelings of satisfaction about their life. In order to express positive thoughts and feelings in a relationship, it is important to cultivate and maintain internal positive thoughts and perceptions. Research shows that positivity engenders success and more positivity in a nurturing feedback loop (Fredrickson 2009 ; Lyubomirsky et al. 2005 ) . Rehman and Holtzworth-Munroe ( 2007 ) , in a cross-cultural study of American and Pakistani couples, found a strong association between positive mari- tal communication and satisfaction indices. In a relationship, positive expression leads to gratitude and appreciation from the spouse, which then enhances self- esteem in both partners and leads to increased positive thinking and perceptions. Robinson and Price (1 980 ) showed that couples who had high adjustment (or satisfaction in the marriage) where the fondness and admiration was intact, had the same count of both positive and negative interactions in the relationship as inde- pendent observers. Distressed couples underestimated the positive interactions by up to 50%. Spouses in positive relationships accentuate the positive, maintain posi- tive illusions and admiration for their partners, and this helps them have a more realistic or balanced view of experiences in the relationship. They fi nd the good in whatever has happened to them: researchers call this βbenefi t fi ndingβ. Research shows that there are some specifi c positive behaviours that are more impactful. For example, expressing gratitude appears to be more important than seeking happiness (Algoe and Haidt 2 009 ) . Individuals who encourage feelings of gratitude towards another person tend to experience more closeness, more affection and tend to have positive thoughts and feelings about the otherβs motives or personality. Individuals who focus on happiness tend to be more self-centred β concerned about what they are getting in a relationship (Algoe et al. 2008 ; Katzir et al. 2 010 ) . Positivity doesnβt just refl ect success and happiness in life, it produces success and happiness too. A meta-analysis of positivity research confi rmed this fi nding (Lyubomirsky et al. 2 005 ) . Positivity does not only refl ect a current state, it draws in and produces that state. Barbara Fredrickson has created the Broaden and Build 78 V. Meunier and W. Baker theory of positivity based on two decades of empirical research. Maintaining positive emotions (internally) and expressing positivity (towards others) help to broaden oneβs perspective, see the big picture, think more creatively and fi nd solu- tions and new ideas more easily. Broadening then leads to building more positivity, creating new pathways towards happiness, serenity, joy, etc. As the positivity ratio approaches the tipping point, which is 3:1 positive to negative thoughts or moments, it creates fl ourishing individuals as well as relationships (Fredrickson 2 009 ; Cohn et al. 2 009 ) . 5.3.3 The Emotional Bank Account Researchers have believed for a long time that the fundamental unit of intimacy is verbal and reciprocal self-disclosure (Jourard 1 959 ) . Driver and Gottman (2 004 ) showed, through research on couplesβ mundane interactions throughout the day, that the fundamental unit of intimacy is actually the Bid and the Turn. This is a concept they developed to explain the simple, often subtle, interactions that happen between two people who are sharing time and space together. Couples who are in the same room together, even if they are engaged in individual pursuits such as reading or watching television, will be making small gestures to each other, both verbal and nonverbal that function as invitations to connect. For example, one spouse who is reading the newspaper starts to chuckle and the other spouse who is reading some- thing else says, βWhat?β The fi rst spouse shares the article in the newspaper that caused the chuckle and both of them have a moment of shared laughter before going back to their individual reading. The fi rst spouse made a bid and the partner turned towards their spouse rather than turning away (ignoring the chuckle) or turning against (hushing their partner). Driver and Gottman found that happy couples respond to their partnerβs bid for attention about 85% of the time with a positive response. The frequency of bids and turns can be 20 times greater in happy couples, which creates an upward spiral of bids and turns, often up to 77 times in 10 min contrasted with 10β20 bids in 10 min for distressed couples (Driver et al. 2 003) . This high level of positive reciprocity leads to deposits in the βemotional bank accountβ in the relation- ship. If the emotional bank account is fi lled to the brim, confl ict, stress and other misfortunes of life tend to have a lower impact. If the emotional bank account is running on empty, every argument has the potential to derail the relationship. The hallmark of positive relationships is that partners not only notice these small invitations but turn towards each other enthusiastically. They show willingness and delight in being invited to share in a personal experience with their spouse and have no hesitation in laughing loudly, complimenting their spouse or showing a high level of interest and engagement in the interaction. High level bids and enthusiastic βturning towardsβ behaviour lead to relationships that become rich environments of intimacy, lightheartedness and enjoyment. Strachman and Gable (2 006 ) found a similar distinction in their research on cou- ples that they labelled approach- or avoidance-oriented behaviour. A person is using 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship... 79 approach skills when he or she is demonstrating motivations that are connected to rewards or positive outcomes, which, in turn, was related to greater happiness in the relationship. For example, I call my husband to fi nd out how his day is going, to let him know I am thinking of him fondly or to share something interesting or exciting from my day. The motivation here is to seek out connection or share my experience. On the other hand, avoidance-oriented skills are those that help us avoid pain or suf- fering, or, to prevent something bad from happening. If I call my husband but my motivation is to check upon him because I worry that he is engaging in an affair, I am likely to communicate a different message. The behaviours might be the same β I called my husband β but the motivations and intentions are quite different. One will enhance the positivity in the relationship and the other might result in confl ict (because of the fearful motivation) or maintain the relationship at a price. Strachman and Gable found that some people had high approach-oriented skills, which increased the likelihood of their receiving support, positive feedback and enjoyment from relationships. Capitalization, which is the retelling of a positive event to your spouse, is likely to generate more positive affect that is over and above the initial positive affect of the event itself (Fredrickson and Joiner 2 002 ; Gable et al. 2004 ) . The partnerβs supportive response must be seen as supportive of the event and of the relationship. There is a basking effect of the positive emotions for both partners. 5.3.4 Play, Fun and Humour Positive relationships are often characterized by play and humour because both individuals in the relationship are prone to scanning their environment for success and opportunities for gratitude rather than the reverse (Gottman 2007 ) . Positivity research confi rms that injecting humour into a confl ictual or distressing situation has multiple benefi ts for both partners (Fredrickson 2009 , Lyubomirsky 2 007 ) including increased immune function, lowered cortisol, reduced risk of depression or stress-related illness and increased likelihood of relationship satisfaction. In fact, Gottman ( 1 999) found that the fi rst 3 minutes of a confl ict conversation can be used to predict the trajectory of the conversation as well as the relationship itself because the lack of humour, a harsh opening or start-up to the discussion and the use of negative confl ict strategies are powerful determinants of relationship path- ways and health. Playfulness and humour in relationships have other signifi cant consequences. They are often present when partners are enthusiastically turning towards each other, which then leads to a greater sense of intimacy and closeness (Gottman and Silver 2 000 ) . These behaviours are also likely to be associated with more sexual desire, affectionate touch and greater sexual satisfaction (McCarthy and McCarthy 2 009 ) . A study of older Israeli couples in enduring marriages found that sexual pleasure as well as affection, trust, openness and consideration were important factors in marital satisfaction throughout the lifespan and not just in earlier stages of rela- tionship (Cohen et al. 2 009 ) . 80 V. Meunier and W. Baker 5.4 The Confl ict Dimension Healthy relationships are not 100% positive or full of playfulness and humour at the expense of other emotions (Wallerstein and Blakeslee 1995) . Researchers have found that in general there is a positivity offset of about 2:1, suggesting that on average most people experience about two positive events for each negative event (Fredrickson 2009 ) . Flourishing relationships exceed the tipping point of three positives to every negative. However, even in fl ourishing relationships, the negative side of the ratio is never zero. Positive relationships are healthy because both partners in the relationship have the capacity to recognize, honour and work with the negative moments or emo- tions that come up in life. As Fredrickson ( 2009 ) found, individuals in healthy rela- tionships are characterized by less reactivity to negative circumstances, an ability to see positive alternatives or return to positive perceptions of the relationship quickly and an emotional agility that allows them to spend less time worrying about the past or the future and being able to count their blessings in the present. In Gottmanβs (1 999 ) sound relationship model, the middle two levels represent the confl ict dimension and include skills such as learning how to manage confl ict that is unsolvable, effectively repairing negative interactions and avoiding relation- ship-damaging behaviours during confl ict. Gottman found that couples who thrive have a softer, gentler approach to confl ict, inject humour, diffuse tensions at low levels of negativity and avoid the four horsemen of the apocalypse. The four horse- men β criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling β are the four behaviours that predict |
the deterioration of a relationship. A detailed description of the four horsemen can be found in Gottmanβs book, W hy Marriages Succeed or Fail ( 1995 ) . Confl ict in itself is not a sign of deterioration because confl ict often allows partners to air grievances that may be building in the background (Kesner 2 008 ) . Building a lasting vision of the relationship and putting confl ict into perspective are important tasks in healthy relationships (Fincham et al. 2004 ) . When we open ourselves to knowing and being known deeply by our partner, we are likely to encounter differences in opinion, values or emotional and relational templates (Banse 2 004 ) . Expressing the different facets of our personality can be risky if differences are seen as threatening (Johnson 2 008 ) . Confl ict then becomes a vehicle for real and enduring growth if the partners can use their differences as opportunities to build a stronger base for their intimacy and admiration for each other. 5.4.1 Positive Sentiment Override Gottman (1 999) found that marriages exist in two kinds of steady states or set points he called Positive Sentiment Override (PSO) and Negative Sentiment Override (NSO). These states are called sentiment overrides because the prevailing sentiment, whether positive or negative, tends to override the momentary experiences, colours the neutral moments or helps fi lter the incoming communication from the partner. Flourishing relationships that exist in a state of PSO are often characterized by 1.93 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship... 81 positive interactions or gestures per minute (about 115 per hour) which is signifi cantly higher than distressed relationships (Gottman et al. 1 998 ) . In other words, these rela- tionships offer rich environments of affection, positivity, humour and appreciation that override the more mundane challenges in life. The PSO becomes a sort of fi lter that allows partners to see even negative communications in a positive light because each negative experience is seen within the context of a rich database of positive experiences. PSO can alter the way in which a couple remembers past events or can create a positive container that can weather challenging interactions (Gottman 2 007 ) . A positive sentiment override is not something a couple can consciously create in a relationship because it is the indirect outcome of many positive elements in the rela- tionship. In other words, PSO is like the weather of a relationship that requires many conditions coming together at the right time and in the right mixture to form the clouds of happiness. A strong friendship system characterized by updated love maps and regular expressions of fondness and appreciation are critical to creating the posi- tive weather in the relationship. For PSO to exist there must also be an absence of serious unresolved or gridlocked confl ict as a result of well-established and regular confl ict management strategies (Gottman 2007 ) . 5.4.2 Softened Start-Up Softened start-up is the term coined by Gottman ( 1999 ) to denote a gentle opening in the fi rst 3 minutes of a confl ict discussion. This is the critical period during con- fl ict when exercising tact in opening a conversation, maintaining a calm, open men- tal state and managing oneβs emotional reactivity has signifi cant pay-off. A necessary skill in starting and managing confl ict discussions well is being able to manage oneβs physiological reactivity. In one study, Gottman and associates (1 995 ) found that listener positivity and neutrality during confl ict discussions were more preva- lent in happy marriages. Gottman (1 999 ) and other researchers (Atkinson 2 005 ) have shown that confl ict discussions in committed relationships can have the same physiological signature as combat stress, which includes symptoms such as elevated heart rate (typically over 95 beats per minute), agitation, misperceptions of incom- ing information and fl ight or fi ght thinking. Any understanding of safety in relationships has to take into account some of our evolutionary legacies. Our brains are wired to keep us safe (Hanson and Mendius 2 009 ) . The entire limbic system functions on the basis of the danger signals that are picked up by the amygdala and then transmitted across the brain, shutting down think- ing centres and heightening the survival mechanisms of fl ight, fi ght, or freeze. Couples who know how to argue productively seem to understand this intuitively and develop strategies to diffuse tensions at low levels of negativity, have low thresholds for hurtful communication, take breaks in conversations when the confl ict seems gridlocked and balance their complaints with statements of love or appreciation and humour. Gottman and Krokoff (1 989 ) found that in satisfi ed relationships, men defuse negativity in low-confl ict situations while women de-escalate negativity in high-confl ict contexts. 82 V. Meunier and W. Baker 5.4.3 Unsolvable Problems Gottman (1 999, 2007) found that about two-thirds of all confl icts across both happy as well as distressed couples are not resolvable. In other words, the topics that cause confl ict in the relationship are likely to endure for many years, and there may be no good solutions to be found. Couples who understand this learn to manage confl icts the same way they manage chronic illnesses, by learning strategies to keep the confl ict at bay, reducing the impact of the confl ict on other aspects of their relationship and learn- ing ways to negotiate compromises in place of trying to solve unsolvable problems. Experimental studies have repeatedly shown that individual positive moods or internal positivity has a large impact on confl ict management and negotiation. In fact Gottman et al. (1 998) found that amongst newlyweds positive affect, when used as a contingent emotion to diffuse negativity or soothe a partner, was the only predictor of both marital stability and satisfaction 6 years later. Positivity on an individual or relationship level reduces aggressive tactics, increases cooperation, curiosity and willingness to look at new solutions, decreases use of avoidance or manipulation strategies and increases the desire to help others. This effect is so prevalent it has been dubbed the βfeel good, do goodβ phenomenon (Lyubomirsky et al. 2 005 ) . Since a personβs positive mood or state increases the ability to negotiate confl ict more pro- ductively, it also enhances feelings of gratitude and appreciation in the partner (Fredrickson 2 009 ; Cohn et al. 2 009) and the likelihood that each partner considers the otherβs point of view and βaccepts infl uenceβ. Accepting infl uence or being willing to take a partnerβs suggestion and be infl uenced by their perceptions were predictive of long-term relationship satisfaction for men (Gottman and Silver 2000 ). 5.4.4 Repair Relationship repair is a critical aspect of healthy confl ict management (Gottman 1999 ) . In Gottmanβs research, the master couples were repairing and de-escalating the confl ict during the argument as well as making effective repairs after a negative interaction. Repair attempts during the confl ict include efforts to interject humour, conceding a point, or apologizing for hurting the partnerβs feelings. There is typi- cally one effort to repair about every 3 minutes for most couples (Gottman 2007 ) . Repair attempts can also include bids for connection through a joke, a quick peck on the cheek or a smile that is received and returned. Confl ict in long-term committed relationships is unavoidable, at least in most healthy relationships. This is because life itself brings ups and downs in addition to differences in individuals within a relationship who bring diverse points of view, dif- ferences in upbringing and social and moral values, and predictable mishaps in attun- ement or communications. A German study found that distressed and non-distressed couples have many similarities in their confl ict management strategies: the important difference was that non-distressed couples had more predictability and trust that a positive gesture will be reciprocated by the spouse (Hahlweg et al. 1 984 ) . 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship... 83 The key to successful confl ict management is not avoiding confl ict but maintaining reciprocal, fair and respectful confl ict management methods that avoid the four horsemen of the apocalypse (Gottman 1 995 ) . One is likely to fi nd criticism (treating a relationship problem like it is a defect in the partner), defensiveness (not taking responsibility for even a small part of the problem) or stonewalling (shutting down during a conversation) in happy and unhappy couples. Gottman et al. ( 1998 ) found that a softened start-up in a womanβs approach to confl ict and a manβs ability to accept infl uence from his partner were positive predictors of a lasting relationship. What one is not likely to fi nd in happy satisfi ed relationships is contempt. Contempt is any behaviour, gesture or non-verbal signal that communicates that one partner is on a superior plane compared to the other partner. Contempt is the most corrosive of confl ict strategies used during arguments because it erodes the respect, the equality and the sense of safety in a relationship (Gottman 1999 ; Johnson 2008 ) . Couples in positive relationships rarely feel contempt towards their partners both because of their own internal positivity but also because they make efforts to main- tain admiration, affection and respect in the relationship even when they are fi ght- ing. They also recognize the harm caused by contemptuous behaviour and either avoid it altogether during confl ict or recognize when they have crossed the line and quickly retract or repair the hurt. In fact, the absence of contempt can be seen as a positive prognostic indicator of health in a relationship. 5.4.5 Forgive and Give Thanks Any discussion of confl ict management in committed relationships has to pay spe- cial attention to the concepts of forgiveness and expressions of gratitude. These two behaviours or attitudes are absolutely essential for the success of long-term relation- ships and also mark the major challenges of maintaining positivity in a relationship over time (Algoe et al. 2010 ; Luskin 2003 ; Kornfi eld 2008 ) . Everyone at some point feels hurt, let down, betrayed, disappointed or wronged by his or her partner. Spouses report that the capacity to seek and offer forgiveness is one of the most important factors contributing to marital longevity and marital satisfaction (Fincham et al. 2 004 ) . Research consistently shows that forgiving the spouse enhances rela- tionship intimacy and commitment, promotes better confl ict resolution and has a positive infl uence on marital quality over the long haul (Fincham and Beach 2 007 ; Fincham et al. 2004 ) . Closely related to forgiveness is gratitude, the virtue of learn- ing to give thanks. As a positive emotion, gratitude helps to create an upward spiral of relational wellbeing (Fredrickson et al. 2 008 ; Fredrickson and Joiner 2002 ) . Injury in an intimate relationship engenders strong negative emotions. Sometimes, forgiveness or gratitude cannot be achieved immediately because the wounding or injury is of great signifi cance to the person who is wounded (Johnson 2 008) . While any long-term relationship has to weather periodic dis- appointments, mishaps or mistakes, there are some moments that cause more emotional injury than others such as affairs, abandonment or abuse. Johnson 84 V. Meunier and W. Baker describes these as attachment injuries because the negative interaction ruptures the attachment bond between the two partners in the relationship (Johnson 2008 ) . In such circumstances, the wounded partner may justifi ably react with anger or resentment, emotions Johnson refers to as secondary emotions that protect and hide the primary, more vulnerable emotions such as sadness, help- lessness or hurt. Couples in healthy relationships recognize that replacing anger and resentment with grief or sadness ultimately allows movement towards a radical acceptance and healing (OβConnell 2008 ) . 5.4.6 Empathic Attunement Another key element of successful confl ict management is empathic attunement (Gottman 2 007 ) . Attunement to each otherβs emotional experience, being able to imagine what the other person is thinking and feeling and being able to respond to the emotional needs of the partner rather than get caught up in defensiveness and blame can build relationship safety, regulate negative emotions in |
both self and others through positive limbic resonance (Hanson and Mendius 2 009 ) and even heal attachment inju- ries (Johnson 2008) . Empathic attunement also conveys the idea that one partner may not be able to prevent wounds or disappointments from happening, but will be emo- tionally present and willing to participate in the healing process. When one person hurts another in a committed relationship, no one else can offer the kind of healing the wounded partner needs more than the one attachment fi gure who caused the injury. This is the primary gift offered by empathic attunement, which is why couples that offer this are more likely to overcome negative experiences successfully. Individual positivity and emotion regulation help each partner see the confl ict in a balanced manner, reduce overreaction, recover quickly from negative events, repair successfully and maintain closeness even through diffi cult events (Fredrickson 2 009 ) . Fincham and Beach (2 010 ) note that fl ourishing relationships are ones where each partner takes the responsibility and puts forth the effort to keep the relationship high in health and low in distress. When the two, individual skills and relational skills, are present in each partner, the relationship becomes resilient, which leads to fl ourishing, when confl ict can be transformed into opportunities for greater intimacy and understanding (Fredrickson 2009 ; Gottman 2 007 ) , which in turn makes each person feel like they are part of a relational experience that has greater meaning, a life purpose or a spiritual bond. 5.5 Shared Meaning Dimension Shared meaning is the aspect of a committed relationship that creates meaning and purpose to an intimate partnership. In the Sound Relationship House model, shared meaning has two levels or components. The fi rst one is supporting and making each 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship... 85 otherβs dreams come true. The second component is creating a shared culture, which is often done through the roles, rituals and traditions that are honoured within the family life of the partnership. 5.5.1 Making Dreams Come True In order to support each otherβs dreams, each partner in the relationship has to main- tain an active engagement and commitment to the relationship. Through that active commitment, and the safety and trust that are built in the relationship, each partner then has the opportunity to articulate their life dreams and try to be all that they can be. Research done in several cultures (Sharlin et al. 2 000 ) found that couples in almost every culture spoke of being supportive of each otherβs wishes, careers and dreams as a key component of relationship satisfaction. Research shows that posi- tivity within oneself breeds compassion and kindness which engenders gratitude with oneβs partner and pride in oneself for acting from a place of integrity or whole- ness (Lyubomirsky 2007 ) . The pride in oneβs actions then inspires visions of greater action, lofty dreams of action within the world and self-confi dence and effi cacy in carrying out these dreams. Again, one sees the positive feedback loop that helps individuals grow in themselves and in relationship through the practice of internal and external positive thoughts and actions. As Fredrickson (2 009 ) found in her research, since positivity at the individual and relationship level broadens and builds physical, intellectual, psychological and social resources, couples in positive rela- tionships develop the ability to be more fl exible, creative, adaptive, receptive and far thinking, all of which has a direct correlation with success in life. This fi nding was confi rmed through a meta-analysis of both experimental and correlational research that showed that happy people have greater levels of satisfaction with all spheres of experience including family, love, social support system, education and work, leisure activities and even housing and transportation (Lyubomirsky et al. 2 005 ) . 5.5.2 Building Shared Meaning Individual dreams or successes are just one of the aspects of shared meaning in a committed relationship. When two adults join together to build a family bond with each other, the more their life together is characterized by symbolic actions and dem- onstrations of that family bond, the more meaningful the relationship feels to each partner (Gottman 2007 ) . Seligman et al. (2 005 ) found three main components to hap- piness: pleasure, engagement (or depth of involvement in family, work, hobbies, etc.) and meaning. Engagement and meaning were more important in the pursuit of hap- piness than pleasure (Wallis 2004 ). Shared meaning in a couple is created through mutual engagement in meaningful activities. Bill Doherty (1 997 ) wrote a book called T he Intentional Family , where he affi rms this notion that two people in a marriage are creating a new culture between them. 86 V. Meunier and W. Baker When this relational culture is characterized by roles, rituals, traditions or regular patterns of symbolic behaviour that has meaning, purpose or cultural context for each of them, the emotional bond between the partners feels stronger and more resilient. Roles represent the kind of explicit and implicit arrangements between partners for tasks and responsibilities within the relationship. If these roles capitalize on each per- sonβs strengths or interests and create a harmonious working arrangement, each part- nerβs sense of stability and accountability within the relationship is enhanced. The roles do not need to follow a prescribed set of cultural values. The roles have to suit the two individuals in the relationship and honour each partnerβs upbringing, values, interests and strengths. As Wallerstein and Blakeslee (1 995 ) found in their qualitative research, βEvery good marriage must adapt to the developmental changes in each partner, bending and yielding to the redefi nitions that all men and women go throughβ. In a similar fashion, rituals are regular patterns of action that each person can count on as a symbol of what is important, meaningful and purposeful in their lives. Rituals can be formal and signifi cant such as religious participation, holiday rituals, family events and other developmental moments or informal such as mundane or simple repeated acts that carry symbolic meaning such as waking up together, having meals together, parting and reunion rituals, shared chores or family play time. The richness of a family life can be measured by the quantity and quality of these moments of shared meaning that all members of the couple or family participate in and enjoy. Shared meaning in fl ourishing relationships can also be about activities or rituals that occur outside the context of the couple relationship. As Fincham and Beach ( 2010 ) point out, in fl ourishing relationships the partners reward themselves with the kinds of friendships and activities that make them whole and more interesting. Partners do not depend only on each other to fulfi l all of their needs. We become interesting to others when we thrive and grow by having outside interests and relationships that meet our needs in a healthy manner and help us feel alive, vital and productive. In that context, each partner brings something fresh and rich to the primary relationship from their other activities and network of relationships that feeds the primary relationship. It also means that each partner in the relationship asks for what they need and want from their partners but can tolerate disappointment or temporary unavailability by their partner because they have multiple avenues for meeting their needs. Honesty, transparency, trust and fi delity would, of course, be important elements that allow each person to trust that they can have many pathways to happiness and fulfi lment that include the spouse or partner as a primary but not exclusive fi gure. Flourishing relationships are born out of fl ourishing human beings. Fincham and Beach ( 2010 ) suggest that a dynamic balance between oneβs focus on spousal relationship, family subsystems, other relational networks and community are aspects of healthy indi- vidual functioning. Individuals who feel part of a broad and complex relationship container are able to be productive citizens of their communities and societies and bring value to the world and not just their immediate circle of infl uence. Fincham and Beach also suggest that if we promote the βmini-memesβ of commitment, for- giveness, gratitude and sacrifi ce, then we have the ability to create a forward momen- tum in society that is based on positivity. If we could all live our lives as ambassadors of positivity, we stand a good chance of creating a huge impact in the world. 5 Positive Couple Relationships: The Evidence for Long-Lasting Relationship... 87 5.6 Summary Love encompasses all other positive emotions such as awe, inspiration, pride, joy, hope, gratitude, serenity, interest and inspiration (Fredrickson 2009 ) . The context in which these positive emotions are experienced, i.e. in an attachment bond, trans- forms them into love. Because of this multifaceted nature of love, it is more accurate to think of love as a journey through the many faces of positive emotions, some of them intense and dramatic such as joy or pride or awe and others more calming and soothing such as contentment, serenity and gratitude. 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New York: Houghton Miffl in. Wallis, C. (2004). The science of happiness. Time Magazine , January 17, 2005. Vagdevi Meunier is a clinical psychologist and Associate Professor at St. Edwards University in Austin, Texas. She has a private clinical and consulting practice in Austin where she specializes in couples and family therapy, couples workshops, training and supervision, and organisational consultation. She is a consultant and trainer with the Gottman Institute. Contact: vagdevim@gmail.com Wayne Baker is a professional counsellor and in private practice in Austin, Texas. He specializes in working with couples surviving the damage of infi delity and adult trauma survivors. He leads groups for men and couples. Contact: wayne@waynebakerlpc.com Chapter 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships Kimberley OβBrien and Jane Mosco 6.1 Parenting in the Twenty-First Century Family relationships in the Western world have been affected by rapid social and technological changes. Parents are pressured to work longer hours while young chil- dren spend more time with alternative carers both within and outside the home. While there is ongoing political pressure in several Western countries to improve maternity and paternity leave and provide subsidised childcare, the majority of families make do with minimal economic and practical assistance when raising infants and toddlers. Parents usually want the best for their children whatever they conceive this to be. Unlike previous generations, todayβs parents are faced with an information industry offering suggestions on every angle of the parenting process. Parenting βgurusβ pro- liferate, sometimes giving different advice or emphasising different aspects of the role. Although the word βparentsβ is commonly used, there is still an expectation that it is women who take on this primary responsibility with men being the main breadwinners. This division of labour is less and less the norm, although there are clear indications that even where women are working full time outside the home, they still do most of the work within it and take on the primary responsibility for many of the tasks inherent in parenting (Crompton 2006 ) . More children than ever spend time being cared for outside the family, and there are a plethora of recommendations concerning the quality of that care. Other specifi c issues that impact the modern parentβchild relationship include work demands, greater mobility, the scattering of the extended family, family breakdown and single parenthood. There is regular media coverage on family life; from the general prob- lems of parenting and growing up in todayβs world to the need to protect children K. OβBrien (*) Quirky Kid Clinic , P.O. Box 598, Woollahra, NSW 2025 e-mail: kimberley@quirkykid.com.au J. Mosco Bishop Druitt College , P.O. Box 8004, 111 North Boambee Rd, Coffs Harbour , NSW 2450 e-mail: jmosco@bdc.nsw.edu.au S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 91 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_6, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 92 K. OβBrien and J. Mosco from abuse and neglect. This chapter explores the evidence, rather than any current zeitgeist on factors and approaches that enable parents to be the best they can be β in order to facilitate the authentic wellbeing of their children (Suldo 2 009 ) . 6.2 Parenting Styles Parental responsibility for children and their development varies in emphasis across time and culture. It includes foci on physical health, spiritual development, cultural transmission, socialisation, emotional health and cognitive development. Here we explore what is of benefi t to children in all domains of their development β enhancing their ability to fl ourish and achieve authentic wellbeing. Parentsβ relationships with their children are strongly linked with outcomes (Amato 2000 ; Demo and Cox 2 000 ) . The most harmonious and positive parentβ child relationships share similar qualities from birth to adolescence although spe- cifi c practices change as children grow. Baumrindβs (1 967 ) classic research identifi ed four styles of parenting in preschool-age families. These are: β’ The neglectful u ninvolved parent β’ The controlling and detached a uthoritarian parent β’ The warm p ermissive parent with low expectations for their children and weak boundaries for behaviour β’ The warm, responsive and encouraging authoritative parent with high age- appropriate expectations and limits for their children and the provision of sup- port to meet these (DeHart et al. 2 000 ) Baumrind found that preschool children in authoritarian households were more hostile and less independent, while p ermissive parents were more likely to raise children who were less achievement-oriented and did not develop appropri- ate independence or resilience. The most self-reliant, content, adaptable and cooperative children were raised by a uthoritative parents. This theory has now extended to children of all ages (Baumrind 1989 ; Maccoby and Martin 1983 ) confi rming that authoritative parenting predicts healthy child adjustment (Amato 2 000 ; Demo and Cox 2000 ) . Numerous βparenting expertsβ have since explored positive strategies to comple- ment this parenting style, with βstep-by-step suggestionsβ for raising happy kids (Hartley-Brewer 2 004 ) and creating a βphenomenal familyβ (McGraw 2004 ) . These approaches regularly refer to positive strategies such as giving praise and devoting time, enhancing motivation and self-confi dence, building respect, trust and security and encouraging independence and self-reliance. Popular catch phrases are littered within parenting literature, such as purposeful parenting: βthe modelling of good emotional and mental stability in order to be the role model your children will rememberβ (McGraw 2 004 ) ; proactive parenting: βwe donβt wait for things to go wrong before we refl ect on our parenting strategiesβ (Walker 2 010 ) ; unconditional 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships 93 parenting: βchildren shouldnβt have to earn a parents approval and they should always feel lovedβ (Kohn 2005 ) and positive parenting: βparents who do not overplay their role of police for civilization, lest they invite avoidable resentment, resistance and hostilityβ (Ginott and Goddard 2 003 ) . A warm, responsive, supportive parenting style with high expectations is also referred to as βfacilitativeβ in some of the litera- ture (Bryant 2001 ; Roffey 2 011 ) . 6.3 Learning Parenting Styles Parenting styles develop from a combination of the parentsβ own experiences as children and the society in which they live, including the books they read, the friends they keep and their exposure to different expectations within the community (Buss 2005 ) . Although these infl uences are usually found locally, ideas about parenting may accumulate through exchanges with other cultures or through extended family, such as grandparents of migrants who remain in the country of origin. This may cause confl ict for parents who may need to refl ect on what is the best interests of the child in the setting in which they are being raised. Parenting styles are often not questioned until something goes awry. A parent may seek help to change their child in some way and discover they need to change how they are parenting. 6.4 Core Principles Underpinning Positive ParentβChild Relationships Understanding : All human |
relationships are perpetually changing. Maintaining a healthy and enduring relationship requires the ability to empathise with someone, understand their needs and appreciate their alternative perspectives. Effective parenting includes an understanding of how children develop and learn, and what motivates them. Children are also individuals β tuning into their specifi c likes, dislikes, sensitivities and strengths builds the ability to respond well to their needs as they grow. We must also understand ourselves β what we can expect of our- selves as parents and what support we will require along the parenting pathway (Walker 2010 ) . Mutual respect : This is vital in any healthy relationship. Parents who try to impose their own will on a child are likely to be met with resentment or a simmering sense of frustration (Kohn 2005 ) . Respect means being willing to listen to children and look at situations from their perspective. Even if a parent has the fi nal say in mak- ing decisions in the best interest of the child, showing that views of the child are taken into consideration reduces potential power struggles. Self-determination theory (Ryan and Deci 2 000 ) indicates that young people need to feel autonomous, experience choice and feel listened to. Conversely, where parents use a controlling 94 K. OβBrien and J. Mosco parenting style, children may learn to try to control others through bullying b ehaviours (Assor et al. 2002 ) . By acknowledging childrenβs feelings, desires and q uestions, parents model ways that promote both prosocial behaviour and authen- tic independence. Positive parents are fl exible, able to compromise and work towards mutual goals. For example, if there is a need to reorganise bedroom alloca- tions, the whole family can discuss alternative solutions together. Although parents might make the fi nal decision, this is likely to be more acceptable to the children when authentic consultation has taken place. With an authoritarian parent, the decision may be made without reference to anyone else in the family, who are then expected to comply, often with resentment. Open communication : The quality of communication between parent and child is an indicator of the mutual respect and dignity existing within the parentβchild relationship. Adults with the skills to enter the world of children in a compassionate and caring way are helping children to trust their inner reality and develop self- confi dence (Ginott 1 965 ) . Parents who refl ect on themselves and the relationships they share with their children are less likely to be rigid, impatient or negative. This may involve admitting they made a wrong decision or apologising for an unthoughtful comment. These interactions help children learn richer and more developed interpersonal and intrapersonal skills. A parent who listens well and is open to questions teaches the child to articulate emotions safely. Time : Setting aside time to nurture the parentβchild relationship is another key to continuing good communication as children mature into young adults (Sanders 2008 ) . Simply spending time with a parent makes children feel valued and worthy of attention particularly where parents follow the young personβs lead and partici- pate in an activity the child has chosen. For those who have to compete for their parentβs attention this is especially valuable (McNeely and Barber 2010 ) . Giving children attention in the absence of distractions, such as television or competing siblings, provides opportunities for developing new mutual interests, resolving any confl ict, maintaining trust, accessing emotional availability and providing close proximity for physical affection. Children also like to be included in adult activities, such as building projects and cooking. Being given responsibilities in such joint endeavours promotes a sense of connection essential for wellbeing and resilience and can foster a sense of independence and confi dence β especially if the child is allowed to make and learn from mistakes. 6.5 Family Resilience The literature on family resilience indicates common factors across diverse cultural and ethnic groups that are globally recognisable (Patterson 2002 ) . Family resilience factors are described as: β’ Having a positive outlook : such as looking for the best in a situation, acting as though you imagine that things will turn out well. 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships 95 β’ Having consistency of family member accord : working consciously to reduce stress in the household and use positive confl ict resolution techniques. β’ Engaging in fl exibility : being open to spontaneous plans, or changing your mind when it seems appropriate. β’ Using positive family communication : noticing and acknowledging when chil- dren are behaving well, using positive and reinforcing language. Having many more positive than negative statements in daily interactions. β’ Practising sound fi nancial management : use budgets and forward planning to ensure you can meet your fi nancial commitments. β’ Participation in shared recreation : going fi shing, swimming or baking a cake together. β’ Following regular routines and rituals : these may include having a regular bed- time routine (game, bath, book, bed) special dinners or celebrations. β’ Being engaged in spirituality : this may involve saying blessings before meals, engaging in regular meditation or discussing mindfulness around the dinner table. β’ Belonging to wider support networks , such as a local soccer club, faith-based community or community garden. (Black and Lobo 2008 ) . These qualities of family resilience are essential tools for leading a meaningful life as well as benefi ting the positive development of our children. Although the family unit has gone through many developments and changes, the depth of special meaning it has for people hasnβt changed. Family life is reported to be responsible for many signifi cant aspects of our lives, and for many people, positive family expe- riences are focused around love and security (DCSF 2 010 ) . 6.6 Parenting Style and Prosocial Behaviour The relationship between parenting style and a childβs prosocial behaviour- behaviour has been studied extensively (e.g. Eisenberg and Fabes 1998 ; Bierhoff 2 002 ; Grusec et al. 2 002 ) . Parental warmth, use of reasoning and autonomy support enhance a childβs ability to empathise and adopt prosocial behaviour (Clark and Ladd 2 000 ; Krevans and Gibbs 1996 ) where a power-assertive behaviour management approach is much less effective β especially over time. Where parents provide children with a caring model this increases both the childβs willingness to attend to parental messages and their accuracy in detecting these messages (Knafo and Schwartz 2003 ; Smetana et al. 2009 ; Staub 1 979 ) . In one example, children observed to have a warm relation- ship with their parents were rated by their teachers as more prosocial in that their considerate behaviour was intended to benefi t others (Clark and Ladd 2 000 ) . Parents who express negative feelings toward their children are more likely to raise children with less prosocial behaviour (Deater-Deckard et al. 2001 ) . Authoritative parents also set clear limits and standards of behaviour and utilise an approach that aims to explain and teach the preferred behaviour. This encourages learning and forgiving, allowing children to engage in problem solving and increase their independence. 96 K. OβBrien and J. Mosco 6.7 A Focus on Fathers Although fathers are less often the focus of parenting research, studies confi rm the value of active and authoritative parenting styles for both parents. When fathers are more involved in childrenβs lives, children experience better friendships and more empathy, have increased educational achievement and a positive sense of self (Flouri 2 005 ). Todayβs fathers are being more involved in childrenβs lives (Gray 2006 ) and research suggests that engaging fathers throughout pregnancy and the birth of babies, is more likely to lead to fathers remaining actively involved in bringing up their children (May 1 978 ) . There are indications (Craig 2 006 ; Tan 1997 ) that the higher a fatherβs educational qualifi cation, the more time he will spend with his children. The quality of that relationship remains crucial. Data from an urban Southern Visayan region supported Filipino fathersβ involve- ment in parenting with regards to positive outcomes for school age and adolescent children. This was particularly so for boys when fathers utilised an authoritative style (Harper 2 010 ) . Although the best outcome for adolescents results from having two authoritative parents, Simons and Conger ( 2007 ) found that having just one could generally protect young people from the more negative impacts of other less preferable styles of parenting. 6.8 Ecological Factors That Contribute to Positive ParentβChild Relationships To better understand how broader social systems contribute to child develop- ment, Urie Bronfenbrenner ( 1979 ) developed T he Ecology of Human Development theory. He identifi ed four levels within nested systems. The microsystem (such as the family or classroom); the m esosystem (which is the interaction between those at the microsystem, such as a teacher and parent); the exosystem (external envi- ronments which indirectly infl uence development, e.g. parental workplace); and the macrosystem (the larger sociocultural context). Bronfrenbrenner later added a fi fth system, called the c hronosystem (the evolution of the external systems over time). Each system contains roles, norms and rules that can powerfully shape devel- opment. Although the biggest impact on children is centred around what happens in the home, parents also make important decisions external to family interactions for their children, including which educational philosophy, sport or political party to embrace. Empirical research suggests that strong and stable relationships in the family home have the greatest impact on a childβs happiness and healthy development (DCSF 2 009 ) . As βthe conductor of the family orchestraβ (Harold 2 001 ) , positive adult relationships set the tone of childrenβs family experiences as does the level of marital accord (Walsh 1998, 2002 ) . 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships 97 Parents who are happier in their relationships participate in more positive relationships with their young children (Simons et al. 1993 ) , so it is not surprising that there is a strong association between the quality of the partnersβ relationship and better child outcomes (Coleman and Glenn 2 009 ) . Children report that the experience of parental confl ict is stressful for them, and as a result children can withdraw, become anxious or aggressive (DCSF 2 009 ) . Even in families where parents have separated, when the adults involved manage to work co-operatively, children cope better (Rodgers and Pryor 1998 ) . It is the quality of the relationship with the non-resident parent rather than the frequency of the contact that is important (Gilmore 2 006 ) . Positive and consistent parenting with regards to behaviour, support and involvement, is linked with increased academic and behavioural outcomes (London Economics 2 007 ) . Childrenβs happiness also depends on the relationships they witness between other adults residing in their home environment, such as grandparents or alternative carers (DCSF 2010 ) , and the relationships these adults have with them. It is the quality of the relationships not the form of family unit itself that is important. Children and adolescents are particularly vulnerable to the impact of tension between adults and to the reactions or mood swings of carers experiencing stress or tiredness. Parents exhibiting erratic or extreme responses to their childβs behaviour are likely to trigger fear, confusion or mistrust within the parentβchild relationship. Childrenβs wellbeing depends on the adults in their life being reliable and predict- able, providing guidance, meeting both emotional and material needs as well as setting reasonable limits on behaviour. Finkenauer and colleagues ( 2004 ) reported that when children from Holland shared sensitive and personal information with a parent, they reported increased family contentment. As internal family dynamics are impacted by external factors including alterna- tive care arrangements and extended working hours for parents, we need to consider the impact of factors beyond the immediate care-giving environment. 6.9 Parent Support The more supported parents are, the better placed they are to support children and to parent more positively (DCSF 2010 ) . There are key developmental periods and pressure points where additional edu- cation and support are most benefi cial. These include the steep learning curve of becoming a new parent, of managing the toddler years, starting school and during the transition at adolescence from child to adulthood. Educational |
programmes on positive parenting skills can be successful in supporting parents at these times (Moran et al. 2 004 ; de Graaf et al. 2 008 ) When parents are able to access practical support such as fl exible work practices, assistance with caring for children during holidays, times of ill health, or attending school occasions, children benefi t. This relieves stress and enables parents to be more involved in their childrenβs lives. 98 K. OβBrien and J. Mosco 6.10 Developmental Aspects of Positive ParentβChild Relationships 6.10.1 Bonding and Attachment β The First 9 Months Parents begin their journey before their child is born, with quality health care for mind and body during pregnancy and birth. Stress reduction and extra support at this stage can make a difference to how a mother feels about her role and this in turn may impact on how she responds to her baby. Securing a healthy and enduring attachment with a child occurs between birth and 9 months (Ainsworth and Bowlby 1991) . These early months and the babyβs fi rst experiences of the world are crucial. Babies respond to the levels of respon- siveness of their carers. Between 6 and 10 weeks there is engagement with the social smile (Sroufe and Waters 1976 ) , by 3 months babies are smiling when they are socialising and interacting with other people (Ellsworth et al. 1 993 ) . When parents are playful with their child they can infl uence a babyβs reactions (Repacholi 1998 ) . According to Bowlbyβs Attachment Theory, infants require a close and continu- ous care-giving relationship with a supportive and stable parental fi gure in order to thrive both physically and emotionally (Bowlby 1 973 ; Ainsworth et al. 1978 ) . In some cases, the bonding process between mother and baby is disrupted through separation, deprivation, depression or bereavement. For infants living in alternative care, primary attachment fi gures are still essential in the development of security, trust and self-worth (Cassidy 1 999 ; Verschueren and Marcoen 1 999 ) . It does not have to be the biological mother. Gerhardt ( 2004 ) highlighted the importance of β loveβ in healthy infant brain development. By this she means the extent to which a baby needs are met and ways in which these are met. Emotional nurturing and responsiveness to an infantβs attempt to make connections is fundamental and when these needs are unmet there is a rise in stress and levels of cortisol, which has implications for future development. Gerhardt explored how a babyβs earliest relationships shape their nervous system and how the development of the brain can affect future emo- tional wellbeing with particular reference to the way children (and adults) later respond to stress. Summarising the empirical research on secure and insecure attachments, Sroufe and colleagues ( 2 005) conclude that the benefi cial effects of secure attachments are observed in harmonious parentβchild relationships and in satisfying, close friendships at later stages of development. A parentβs ability to assess a situation from the childβs perspective enhances attachment and a positive parentβchild rela- tionship (Velderman et al. 2 006 ) . A motherβs ability to respond promptly to signs of fear, stress, tiredness and hunger for example are fundamental to secure attachment. Research suggests more empathic parents are better able to form close, mutually responsive relationships with their young children (Kochanska 1 997 ) . 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships 99 6.10.2 Toddlers in Todayβs World Toddlers are busy people, responding to physical play, seeking out parental affection, and learning new skills. Parenting that results in shared positive affect β when both parent and child experience positive emotions β has broad adaptive consequences for development, including childrenβs security, early morality and eagerness to imitate parents (Kochanska and Aksan 1995 ; Aksan and Kochanska 2004 ) . Proactive and responsive parenting, which βtracksβ the child during the day, allows adults to anticipate child needs, notice subtle cues such as tiredness and ensure safety, including encounters with peers. This helps toddlers cope with dis- tress before it becomes intense. Mothersβ internal knowledge of attachment seems important. Vaughn et al. ( 2007 ) found that in three sociocultural groups, the motherβs ability to create stories rich in attachment themes about everyday events predicted childrenβs ability to use their mother as a secure base when at home, coming to her when they were distressed or needed support. Maternal responsiveness to distress is linked positively with the development of empathic abilities and prosocial behav- iours in young children (Davidov and Grusec 2 006 ) . For young children in care, quality care can be determined in part by the carerβs ability to be responsive to the childβs needs. Early childhood is a time to experience autonomy and become more indepen- dent. Some children do this with passion. βNo, me do itβ every other minute can be frustrating for busy parents. Children are also naturally curious and want to explore in areas that parents may see as risky. This boundary pushing can involve seemingly challenging behaviours. The key is to recognise this developmental stage and not misinterpret the behaviours as βnaughtyβ, disobedient or disrespectful. Having a clear and structured response to issues of challenging behaviour supports parents to maintain positive parentβchild relationships. Understanding their childβs temperament can help parents have realistic expectations. Fearfulness in shyer infants can be reduced by warm, supportive parenting that lowers cortisol (Gunnar et al. 1997) . Other strategies include using regular routines and rhythms and responding to needs of the child as they arise. As well as setting age appropriate guidelines, distraction, imitation and modelling reinforces desired behaviour as does noticing when the sought after behaviour is practised. Parenting can at times hamper healthy development even though intentions are caring. The phenomenon of anxious parents hovering over their own children is sometimes known as βhelicopter parentingβ resulting in βbubble-wrapped kidsβ. Risk-taking is inhibited and children lack opportunities to explore their own capac- ities, particularly in terms of physical play. Occupational therapists (Jackson-King 2 010 ) have identifi ed delays in developmental milestones, such as walking, run- ning and climbing due to these inhibitions. Gill (2 007 ) also gives evidence that childrenβs restricted experiences of childhood are hampering their natural develop- ment as parents are fearful of the potential risks involved in explortion and 100 K. OβBrien and J. Mosco experimentation. Children need encouragement to test out their growing capacities. Too much restriction not only impairs physical wellbeing but also ultimately chil- drenβs social and psychological wellbeing including their relationship with their parents (N elson 2010 ) . 6.10.3 Positive Parenting in Middle Childhood As children develop to school age and beyond, the same key concepts of warmth, support, high expectations, boundary setting and responsiveness remain critical to effective relationships. When family life has supported children positively in early childhood, this stage of middle childhood (6β11 years) can focus on mastery of skills and increased peer interactions both in school and home, as physical, social and cognitive abilities increase. Across cultures, children this age take on greater responsibilities in the family. In Malawi, when Ngoni children lose their fi rst teeth around 6 years, this indicates their new role. Boys move away from family group- ings, independence is encouraged and children are now held accountable for their behaviour (Read 1 968 ; Rogoff 1996 ) Parents assist children in developing both independence and competence by teaching skills around the house and monitoring schoolwork. Parents who are fi rm but have reasonable expectations of behaviour and standards and support children in meeting these, this helps children feel good about their developing skills (Dekovic and Meeus 1 997 ; Feiring and Taska 1996 ) . A controlling style reinforces childrenβs non-competence, either through having things done for them by adults or by belit- tling their efforts, whilst a permissive style encourages a false sense of self, leading the child to doubt themselves as they get older (Damon 1 995 ) . Positive communica- tion is important. Letting children know that it is ok to make mistakes strengthens childrenβs ability to bounce back and try again. Although parents remain highly infl uential at this time, peers are also increas- ing in focus as a key area of feedback for children. Many spend more time with their siblings than with their parents (McHale and Crouter 1996 ) . While most parents strive to maintain a positive relationship with their children, there is greater variability in the degree brothers and sisters get along. Evidence suggests that problematic parentβchild relationships go hand in hand with more hostile sibling relationships (Brody et al. 1994 ; Easterbrooks and Emde 1 988 ) , whereas the most positive sibling relationships typically evolve in households with posi- tive parentβchild relationships. There is a bidirectional infl uence between positive relationships within the family and prosocial behaviour outside the family. Parents who encourage and foster cooperative and pretend play between siblings are more likely to raise children with greater social understanding and enhanced social skills in peer group situations (Downey and Condron 2004 ) . Positive dynamics between all family members is not only dependent on the parentβchild relation- ship, but also related to how much parentβs foster positive relations between siblings in early/middle childhood. 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships 101 6.10.4 Journeying Towards Adolescence and Beyond Adolescent development involves complex changes in many areas. Young people are not only maturing physically and biologically, they are increasingly using abstract thinking to explore their understanding of the world and their own identity. The transition from child to adult involves freedoms and responsibilities associated with this bumpy terrain and the parentβchild relationship often needs to change in response. These changes are often linked with the cultural milieu. For example Hispanic adolescent boysβ relationships with parents were found to improve, as this refl ects the cultural traditional status of male roles in the society (Molina and Chassin 1 996 ) . Fuller ( 2008 ) points out that the frontal lobes are the last part of the brain to fully mature. This leaves adolescents primed for emotions, romance and running away but not so much for planning, being in control of impulsive reactions and thinking ahead (Dahl 2 004 ; Geidd 2004 ) . Parents can assist their offspring create cognitive pathways that support positive, helpful thinking and learning habits. One way of doing this is to develop co-regulation, in which young people are increasingly encouraged to make their own decisions about things that affect them (Masten 2004 ) . This needs to start in middle childhood and gradually increase as they grow towards adulthood. Rather than tell their teenager what to do, parents ask questions about the things that need to be taken into account, consequences of different decisions and how these help to meet long term goals, not just short term outcomes. This encourages thinking rather than impulsivity and helps the young person feel parents are listening to them. Although teenagers may still make what adults consider to be βbadβ decisions at times this approach leaves the door open for continuing conversation. Not surprisingly this period of time can be confusing for everyone. It is helpful for parents to be aware of teenage development so interactions are based on realistic expectations. Studies identify adolescents asserting their independence as one of the greatest sources of confl ict within the family unit and the greatest threat to an other- wise positive parentβchild relationship. In a large cross-sectional study that spanned ages 6 through 18 years, Loeber et al. (2 000 ) found that positive aspects of parent- ing decreased markedly through middle adolescence. The life tasks of adolescents are to explore, take risks, become more autono- mous and develop their own unique identity. The task of parents is to keep their child safe, on the pathway to healthy wellbeing and coach them well for adulthood. Confl ict is therefore often part of the journey. The research also points out, how- ever, that positive relationships with parents can act as a mediator for outcomes of wellbeing (Hayes et al. 2004 ) . Even in this heavily infl uenced peer environment parenting practices and family belonging do still have a signifi cant effect on well- being outcomes for young people (Csikszentmihalyi and Schneider 2001 ) |
during this intense developmental stage. Promoting resilience strategies enables young people to maintain a sense of belonging to the family and reassured that their views matter and are taken into 102 K. OβBrien and J. Mosco account. This can include having meals together and celebrating birthday and family customs. Spending time with teenagers on their own (Ashbourne and Daly 2010 ) , engaging positively with their friends and encouraging them to actively engage with a variety of people and other organisations are all effective strategies. Adolescents also learn about themselves and relationships from parents who attend to their own wellbeing and social life, including caring for their adult marital relationship. The parentβchild relationship continues to change as adolescents mature. For young adults who chose to leave home and become more independent, there is another shift as both parties explore new roles, such as friend or mentor (Peel 2 003 ) . Dornbusch et al. ( 1987 ) suggest that authoritative parenting maintains its effectiveness across the developmental journey and is particularly valuable during the adolescent stage in its more democratic nature. 6.11 Cultural Infl uences on Parenting Although some literature discusses differences in parenting practices across cul- tures, ethnic and religious groups, research also indicates some similarities. One such area is that of parental support. Adolescents across diverse groups showed that different parental support can elicit the same meaning in young people from other cultural backgrounds, indicating that instrumental support and emotional support are connected. For example in countries where money or education may be rare and valued, this is seen as an example of parental support by adolescents, whilst in another country, quality time with one another may be rare and valued, and this is seen as parental support (McNeely and Barber 2010 ) . Just as every parentβchild relationship is different, parents from different racial and ethnic communities may attach different priorities to different aspects of parent- ing. For example, according to Spicer ( 2010 ) , AfricanβAmerican parents are less likely than Hispanic and white parents to see routines and discussions of feelings as centrally important in the earliest years, whereas white parents are more likely than AfricanβAmerican and Hispanic parents to see setting and enforcing rules, comfort- ing an upset child, and encouraging a child to persist in diffi cult tasks as important. In all cases, the majority of parents in any population endorse the importance of supportive parenting behaviours, but these subtle differences may indicate potential targets for increased dialogue and understanding on how parents can shape early social and emotional development. In a literature review of intercultural marriages, Crippen and Brew (2 007 ) found that cultural differences can become amplifi ed when parenting children, each devel- opmental stage potentially triggering new confl icts. Addressing these cultural differ- ences ensures that children have a way to express their feelings and assist with identity formation. When culturally assertive behaviours are expressed in a helpful and respectful way, the parenting process itself can be the medium for passing on the cultural values and practices between parents and children (Keller et al. 2004 ) . Other benefi ts of intercultural parenting (Vivero and Jenkins 1 999 ) are promoting βbroader, 6 Positive ParentβChild Relationships 103 stronger, social and cognitive skill sets, greater interpersonal fl exibility and less ethnocentric attitudeβ. Johnson (1 995) noted that these challenges and diversity led to family resilience in the areas of creative problem solving and drawing on strengths to overcome diffi culties. Again, the conscious choice of parenting style can focus on the positive things that unite us, resulting in a healthier and stronger family. 6.12 Conclusion A wealth of evidence points to a positive, balanced and facilitative approach to par- enting as fostering a constructive and effective relationship between parent and child, leading to the best outcomes for children and young people. This warm and caring approach accompanied by high expectations and clear boundaries, supports the journey of development from the key attachment period in infancy, to the school- age years and into adolescence. Positive parenting encompasses the fl exibility to respond to each unique stage with mutual respect and open communication. 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Kimberley OβBrien is a child psychologist and Director of the Quirky Kid Clinic in Sydney. She is currently completing her Ph.D. at Monash University. Contact: kimberley@quirkykid.com.au. Jane Mosco is a psychologist and school counsellor working at Bishop Druitt College, Coffs Harbour. She also works in private practice with children and their families in Bellingen. Contact: jmosco@bdc.nsw.edu.au. Chapter 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change in Family Relationships Emilia Dowling and Diana Elliott 7.1 Introduction The aim of this chapter is to explore what parents and other family members and professionals can do to ensure that the needs and wellbeing of children are held in mind throughout what can be a lengthy and tortuous process: the separation and divorce of their parents and therefore, the end of the family as children know it. Whilst discourses in western society emphasise that each and every child matters, in practice, it is often the adult perspective that takes precedence in the decisions that in turn affect childrenβs lives and wellbeing. How can we ensure that the voice of the child is heard and taken into account? How can we best protect the child and their relationships in the future? Drawing on the international evidence, together with our knowledge and experi- ence through many years of working with families during and in the aftermath of separation and divorce, this chapter will address: β’ Separation and divorce as a process rather than an event β’ Our conceptual framework: divorce as a transition β’ What the international research indicates promotes childrenβs wellbeing in these circumstances β’ What helps children during and after separation and divorce β’ What practice has taught us β’ What parents tell us β’ A framework for professionals β’ What is needed for children and parents E. Dowling (*) Tavistock Clinic , London , UK e-mail: emilia@dowling2901.plus.com D. Elliott Institute of Family Therapy , London , UK e-mail: di_elliott23@hotmail.com S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 109 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_7, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 110 E. Dowling and D. Elliott The chapter will conclude with some signposts that hopefully will contribute to enable parents, professionals and children to make sense of the experience and utilise their resources, knowledge and skills to manage these diffi cult transitions in family relationships. 7.2 Separation and Divorce as a Process When a family separates, it is a form of bereavement at many levels for individuals in the family. Each family member will also be experiencing this at different times and in different ways. The impact of the separation extends to other family mem- bers including grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and beyond that to the community, school and workplace. It affects relationships at many levels and in many ways. The process gives rise to strong emotions including despair and anger, distress and sadness and sometimes relief. There is potential for many confl ictual situations. The losses are potentially enormous, of partners, children, extended family, friends, home and school. Often, children are the last to know that their parents are parting, or have not been told, in an effort to avoid the pain. Sometimes, this ending is a surprise to children; sometimes, they have experienced the turbulence preceding it. It takes emotional as well as physical energy to travel through this life experience, and again it can be different for each family member. It is a process over time rather than a one-off event. The experience can be likened to the image of throwing a stone into still water and witnessing the endless rippling effect. A helpful frame is that of a process of change over time β a separation/divorce cycle that progresses from recognising the breakdown, deciding to separate, planning and preparing for the outcome, the legal process and beyond into the post-divorce family. At each stage, there are emotional and practical tasks to be achieved. It is in recognising this process of change over time that can help parents and practitioners make sense of the complexity of the emotions involved whilst managing some of the tasks to be undertaken by members of the family at each stage of this cycle (Robinson 1 991 ) . It has to be understood that βfew people are able to behave totally rationally and unselfi shly at times of crisis, uncertainty and great unhappiness in their lifeβ¦β (King and Trowell 1 992 ) . Whilst friends and relatives may be highly supportive, the other possibility is that they may line up behind the protagonists and become partisan and adversarial. Practitioners who become involved in the process of separation and divorce and who are not versed in the complexities of family processes and the power of the wider family system may speak of the individuals involved as βreasonableβ or βunreasonableβ. This occurs when they see the situation through the lens of one individual and in this way escalate confl ict and become themselves part of the problem rather than a helpful resource. 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change... 111 We know from practice that couples rarely set out together as partners envisaging that the partnership will not endure. When the relationship falters and ends, it is initially a very private, personal matter. Sometimes, it is a mutual decision, often not. Even so, many |
partners manage to sort out all the necessary arrangements for family and fi nance without professional help. Some seek professional help, and their personal sadness becomes public and involved in the legal system if they decide to divorce. The journey through divorce, whilst a psychological process, then moves into the legal framework. The legal process seeks to ensure that arrangements are made for children and their support, and that fi nancial matters are also settled by the couple. It can become adversarial, and if so, counterproduc- tive for families in distress. However, many family lawyers are committed to a conciliatory approach, and an increasing number of family lawyers are becoming family mediators too in several countries. The courts encourage mediation, and there is a positive growth of information sessions for parents, often in groups, which empower parents not only with information but also skills to talk to their children and ex-partners. 7.3 Conceptual Framework: Divorce as a Transition The consequences of divorce and separation are felt by an increasing number of children who are growing up in different family confi gurations from the traditional nuclear family (Dowling and Gorell Barnes 2000 ) . βResearch in the UK estimated that 19% of children born to married couples will experience parental divorce by the age of ten and 28% by age sixteen. However, these fi gures may underestimate the rate of family dissolution, since they do not include the separation of cohabiting parentsβ (Rodgers and Pryor 1 998 :4). A recent review of international literature into the consequences of couple rela- tionship breakdown for adults and children by One Plus One, the UKβs leading relationships research organisation, concludes that 45% of marriages in the UK will end in divorce (Coleman and Glenn 2 009 ) . No doubt these statistics will continue to increase as the traditional nuclear family is replaced by a variety of family forms, but what is most important is not so much the statistics, but our concern as professionals about the stories that lie behind the research headlines on divorce and remarriage, and in particular the experience of children who go through this transition as they grow up. The ideas we are sharing in this chapter are based on many years of experience of working with families living through processes of separation and divorce, as well as subsequent family reconstruction. Our practice is informed by many ideas as well as the experience of working with a wide range of families at different stages in the transition. In particular, we have been infl uenced by the following conceptual frameworks: 112 E. Dowling and D. Elliott 7.3.1 Attachment Theory John Bowlbyβs ideas have been crucial to the understanding of childrenβs needs at different developmental stages, and we know from research on attachment that children who experience their parents as unresponsive or unavailable will tend to see themselves as unlovable or unworthy. On the other hand, children whose parents are perceived as available and helpful will develop a narrative about themselves as coping but also worthy of help (Bowlby 1 977, 1988 ) . Parents need to understand that childrenβs wish for proximity and responsiveness is a developmental expression of their needs, rather than construe it as βnaughtyβ or βattention-seekingβ behaviour. They also need to recognise that the commonest source of anger is connected with anxiety and uncertainty about parentsβ or caregiversβ availability (Dowling and Gorell Barnes 2000 ) . Gill Gorell Barnes ( 2005 ) uses the framework of attachment when assessing the possibility of post-divorce contact when a parent is pursuing contact after a long absence of two or more years. In her work as an expert witness advising the courts in the UK as to whether re-establishing contact is in the childβs best interest, she pays particular attention to the way the parent seeking contact expresses his/her attachment and whether it is primarily directed to the child or to the ex-partner. When there has been violence, is there acknowledgement of the effect on the child and the other parentβs concern about the childβs safety? Gorell Barnes also considers each parentβs capacity to, at least minimally, under- stand the otherβs point of view in order to serve the childβs best interests and the way in which children themselves express their own attachment to the absent parent and their wish to re-establish contact. 7.3.2 Systems Theory Systems theory has been a crucial infl uence in the development of family therapy (Rivett and Street 2003 ) . It involves an emphasis on the effect of relationships on relationships and a focus on what takes place between people rather than on the individualβs inner world. The importance of the connection between systemic and narrative ideas and their application to practice when working with families has been emphasised by Vetere and Dallos (2 003 ) and Vetere and Dowling (2 005 ) . 7.3.3 Social Constructionist Ideas A basic premise of the social constructionist view is that reality is constructed in interaction through language (Campbell 2 000 ) . Therefore, in our clinical work we endeavour to listen to different voices, different views, different realities. This means giving up the notion of one truth. 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change... 113 We pay attention to different narratives: fathers, mothers, children, school. We try to elicit the different discourses paying attention not only to the dominant but also the marginalised voices. One of the main aims of our work with families in transi- tion has been to enable the voice of the child to be heard. 7.3.4 Narrative Theory The central tenet of narrative theory is that βthe self is constructed, storied through interaction with others and that in this context language produces meaning not just refl ects experienceβ (Burck 1 997 :64). These theories suggest that the stories people develop about themselves do not encompass the totality of their experience. Therefore, it is part of our professional task to elicit other stories that may have been submerged, which contribute to a wider and more useful narrative. In post-divorce work, it is often the story of acri- mony and resentment that prevails, and it is important, particularly for children, to incorporate positive elements that may have been present in the relationship in order to widen the story and enable children to have a more balanced perspective of the parental relationship. When using a narrative approach as the focus of our intervention, we must be aware that when we listen to a story, it will be from one personβs perspective and that decisions about who is invited to an interview or a meeting determine who we listen to and therefore whose voice might remain unheard. A particular danger might be the temptation to privilege adult over childrenβs voices. In our work with families during and in the aftermath of separation and divorce, we endeavour to pay attention to the following: β’ The importance of working towards a coherent story about the separation for children. This is sometimes diffi cult to achieve as children fi nd themselves caught up in the middle of oppositional narratives held by each parent. β’ The importance of listening to different narratives: fathers, mothers, children, school. β’ Different beliefs: the dangers and pitfalls of privileging some narratives over others (negative aspects of a parent, marital dispute over parentβchild relationship). β’ Dominant and marginalised discourses. β’ Power and silencing of voices. β’ Giving children a voice. Blow and Daniel (2 005 ) emphasise the importance of recognising that children have a mind of their own and may have different ideas about what is best for them. In their work, they aim to understand the impact the parental separation has had on children and assess their sense of agency in relation to the future. It is their experi- ence, as is ours, that children caught in the middle of an adversarial process very rarely feel heard. They have found in their work that childrenβs narratives are often 114 E. Dowling and D. Elliott constrained by their parentsβ polarised views, and therefore, they might not feel free to say everything they think either to parents or professionals. 7.4 Post-divorce Narratives In a previous publication, three main groups of parental relationship narratives were identifi ed (Gorell Barnes and Dowling 1997 ) that highlighted the dilem- mas for children having to reconcile the very entrenched positions that their parents take. The fi rst group involves competing parental narratives with the children having to sacrifi ce their own view in order to fi t in with and please each parent. The second group involves the obstinate refusal to provide children with a story about the absent parent. The absence of meaning and the inability to make sense of their experience lead to confusion and lack of concentration in children. The third group represents those parents who continue to compete with each other as to who is the better parent with the inevitable triangulation of the children, who take on the task of fi ltering information and adapting their own views and wishes in order to βkeep the peaceβ. Sometimes, the children are caught in the middle of confl icting narratives and are left confused and bewildered, even blaming themselves for the changes occurring around them. The following is an example of confl icting narratives and their effect on the children: Sam, 8, and his younger brother Ben were very confused about the fact that father was not living at home any longer. On the one hand, the parents had played down the changes β βdad has moved out because he has a lot of work to doβ; on the other hand, the children seemed to be seeing more of him, and at the same time, they were noticing how often mum got upset and they saw her crying. Despite these very evident changes, no adequate explanation was pro- vided for the boys. The school were concerned about Samβs disruptive behaviour and Benβs βdreamy attitudeβ and diffi culty in concentrating. During the work with the family, it proved very diffi cult to openly address the changes. Father, whose new partner was expecting a new baby, had not even told the boys he was living with someone else and his way of managing was never to take the children to his new place. Mother found it very diffi cult to help the children make the connection between her sadness and the end of her marriage; therefore, it had not been possible for them to express their sadness about their parentsβ separation or even make sense of it. Research and clinical experience indicate that it is important to listen and keep in focus the childβs perspective whilst paying ongoing attention to the differing dilemmas affecting mothers, fathers and stepparents in the evolution of the idea of ongoing βfamily lifeβ after divorce. In relation to practice, this has made us pay attention to the hierarchy of discourses in a family, the way in which certain stories about childrenβs lives and parental func- tioning dominate over other stories and the effects of such dominance on potential stories, which have become silenced or submerged. 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change... 115 7.5 Multiple Voices, Multiple Perspectives How can we develop our practice, widening the narratives, bringing forth silent voices and enabling marginalised discourses to emerge? We have found the following guiding principles to be very useful in our under- standing and helping families in transition: β’ Maintaining a systemic approach, based on an interactional framework which focuses on the relationships between people and the patterns of interaction that maintain behaviour rather than apportioning blame to an individual β’ Viewing separation and divorce as a transition and therefore avoiding pathologis- ing the process and its consequences β’ Striving towards a collaborative and respectful practice, paying attention to the different voices and different perspectives β’ Giving up the notion of one truth. β’ Aiming to reach families outside the consulting room, the general separating population, through parent and children groups, working with schools and in the community . In our work with families and schools, we fi nd it helpful to invite participants to identify stories which may not have been verbalised before but which will contrib- ute to widen the narrative and introduce new meanings, and therefore opening |
up possibilities for change. No narrative should be privileged over any other, and it is important to allow dif- ferent voices to emerge in order to enrich the story. Young people benefi t from this approach as often the adult discourse is privileged over the childrenβs discourse. We need to be curious about who has been silenced: whose voices have become marginalised? How are we, as professionals, going to empower those voices to emerge and be heard? It may be that discourses of gender, race and difference are being marginalised by the dominant, powerful voices. 7.6 What the Research Shows There is now an extensive body of research that shows divorce as a risk factor in the psychological wellbeing of children. Studies have shown higher incidence of physical and psychological ill health, lower performance at school, substance abuse and behavioural problems (Rodgers and Pryor 1998 ; Cockett and Tripp 1 994 ) . However, the evidence is complex, and we as professionals need to focus on the protective factors which promote resilience and enable children to adjust to the transition. Some recent studies have shown interesting fi ndings that throw new and more detailed light on the consequences of divorce for children: Coleman and Glenn ( 2009 ) carried out a comprehensive review of the research evidence on the consequences of divorce for adults and children. They identify 116 E. Dowling and D. Elliott parental confl ict as a crucial issue but, interestingly, conclude that the way confl ict is dealt with is what matters more than the confl ict itself. They also found that low level of confl ict prior to divorce seemed to be more detrimental to the wellbeing of children than high confl ict. This is because the children do not have much time to anticipate the divorce of their parents, and therefore might even blame themselves for it. The authors also identifi ed a useful distinction between d estructive confl icts, for example when violence is involved, and constructive confl icts, when the level of confl ict is mild and can be resolved, as this provides the children with a model for resolving disputes effectively. They highlight the negative effects of prolonged confl ict that involves children in the role of messengers or as recipients of negative information. They also conclude that the risks for children increase when the experiences of parental relationship breakdown are repeated. This review helpfully reminds us that the negative effects of marital breakdown on children are not universal, and many children are able to adjust to the transition. It is important to remember that as the review points out and our clinical experience shows, a crucial moderating factor in terms of outcomes for children is the quality of parentβchild relationship. Therefore, good and effective parenting is a powerful and positive way to reduce the negative impact of divorce and separation on children. McIntosh ( 2007 ) reports that in Australia, 25% of children of divorced parents developed mental health diffi culties such as emotional and behavioural problems compared with 12% of children in intact families. She describes a βchild-inclusiveβ, evidence-based model of intervention with divorce and separated families and shows positive outcomes for parents and children. Her study of 142 families compared out- comes for two treatment groups of separated parents who attended mediation: child- focused intervention and child-inclusive intervention. The former focuses on the parenting arrangements that best support the childrenβs needs, but the children are not seen. The latter includes a brief assessment of the childβs experience of the separation. Follow up data 1 year after the mediation showed reduction in the level of confl ict and improved capacity to manage and resolve the initial disputes. Children in both groups perceived a reduction in the intensity and frequency of confl ict between their parents, which resulted in a lowering of their own distress about their parentsβ disagreements. McIntosh highlights the importance of p arental attunement or refl ective func- tion , which refers to a parentβs capacity to put themselves in their childβs shoes and see things from their point of view, as a crucial factor in promoting childrenβs secu- rity. She describes as βsecure base parentsβ those who are able to regulate emotions for themselves and their children. 7.7 What Helps Children During and After Separation and Divorce β’ An age appropriate explanation for the family break-up β’ Absence of confl ict between parents after divorce β’ Good relationships and easy contact with both parents 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change... 117 β’ Knowledge about the absent parent, even if there is no contact β’ How well a parent adjusts has a signifi cant impact on how well children adjust (Dowling and Gorell Barnes 2 000 : 41) It is a signifi cant leap from being a couple with children to parenting apart. When working with separating/divorcing families, it is clear that many parents seek to do their best but feel they have no signposts as to what to say and do to help their chil- dren, particularly when they are in distress themselves. Sometimes, they think that their children will know about the situation when they have not actually spelt it out to them. As a contrast, others will want to inform children of βthe truthβ, i.e. detailed accounts about the failure of the parentβadult relationship which, as children tell us, is unwelcome. In offering group meetings to parents, it is our experience that they welcome informing themselves of the reactions and needs of their children appropriate to age and stage and to hear what helps. Information about research, books, videos, web- sites and help lines are well received, and parents share their own knowledge with each other in such a setting. 7.7.1 The Voice of the Child The voice of the child/young person can be heard in different ways. Ideally, the child is included in family discussions so that there are understandings about what is happening, and the child is able to participate and have a voice. This may not be possible initially or in high-confl ict situations. There are different models developing which include the child in mediation. This may be inclusion as a principle (McIntosh 2 007 ) or inclusion by invitation where the child has the right to accept or not. The child thus may be seen directly in the process of mediation or indirectly when the mediator helps parents focus on plans to include the needs of their particular and individual children. In England, if parents canβt agree, the Family Court may appoint a Family Court Advisor to talk with the child and report to the Court. On some occasions, judges also talk with children when deciding on arrangements for future residence and contact. There are growing resources for parents, practitioners and policy makers ranging from research studies, videos made by young people (e.g. W hen Parents Part by Young Voice ) , pocket guides, direct lists compiled by young people to help parents and check lists. Below we cite a few examples. Dr. Joan Kelly, a clinical psychologist, researcher and practitioner based in California, USA, who has worked in the fi eld of separation and divorce and has studied the impact of divorce on children for four decades, offers the following βTen top ways to protect your kids from the fallout of a high-confl ict break-upβ (Kelly 2009 ) : The headings of these helpful tips are: βTalk to your children about your separation; Be discreet; Act like grown-ups; Keep confl ict away from the kids; Dad stay in the picture, Mom deal with anger appropriately; Be a good parent; Manage your own 118 E. Dowling and D. Elliott mental health; Keep the people your children care about in their lives; Be thoughtful about your future love life; and Pay your child supportβ. In her review of the empirical evidence on the longer term adjustment of children of divorce, Joan Kelly highlights the stressors of the initial separation such as the fact that the majority of children seem to have little emotional preparation for the separation of their parents and often lack essential information regarding the practical changes affecting their lives. A particular stressor is the abrupt departure of one parent, usually the father (Kelly and Emery 2003 ) . Kelly, like other researchers, emphasises the adverse effect of persistent confl ict between the parents following separation and divorce. She points out that the chil- dren of divorce face the loss of important relationships with friends and extended family members, and moving away can be a factor. In her research, she found that in Virginia, USA, for example, the average distance between fathers and children, 10 years after divorce, was 400 miles (Hetherington and Kelly 2002 ) . In terms of balance between risk and resilience, Kelly makes a useful distinction between pain- ful memories and longer term pathological effects. 7.7.2 Parenting Coordinator High-confl ict couples tend to use the Court system as a means of continuing their disputes for some years post divorce. This perpetual cycle puts children in the middle of the confl ict, and whilst there has been development in alternative dispute resolution such as family mediation and divorce education programmes, there has also been a growing need to address the distress of high-confl ict parents. Over the last decade, the role of the Parenting Coordinator has been developing in many states in the USA (Mitcham and Henry 2 007 ) . The role is a mix of coun- selling, family mediation and the Court in dealing with parenting plans and con- tact issues. The Parenting Coordinator, mandated by the Court, is often a highly experienced mental health professional. Help is given to parents to put their parenting plans in place by facilitating disputes, making recommendations where there is an impasse and offering education in a collaborative way. Judges, lawyers and mental health professionals are recognising the value of the Parent Coordinator in cases of high- confl ict families where they are helped to focus on their childrenβs needs. 7.7.3 A Research Study A study seeking views on what children thought of post-divorce family life focused on what worked well in addition to what was problematic. A few of the points made by children were that they valued mutual respect between parents and emphasised their wish to participate in family discussions rather than in making choices. 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change... 119 However, some children who felt unheard or frightened did wish to make their own choices. The preference was for conversations to take place within the family, seeing the involvement of outside agencies as a last resort. They valued the quality rather than the quantity of time with parents ( Smart and Neale 2000 ) . 7.7.4 A Pocket Guide A pocket guide for parents, What Most Children Say , has been devised by Kent Family Mediation Service, UK. It gives clear and simple messages from children which the Guide links directly with relevant research fi ndings (see website). Some of the messages are: β’ Try not to argue in front of us. β’ Tell us what is happening. β’ Keep talking together about things that affect us. β’ We can cope and get on with our lives, as long as you do too; if you donβt, we canβt. β’ We donβt want to be involved in what went wrong or whose fault it is (Kent Family Mediation Service ( 2010 ) . 7.7.5 Messages from a Group of School Children We worked with a group of school children aged 14β15 who had experience of divorce in the family. They eagerly put together the following list for parents and generously agreed to its wide distribution. Questions are βWhat should young people be told when their parents separate or divorce?β and/or βWhat should parents be told to bear in mind about their young people?β: β’ That they are still loved β’ That they donβt want to hear one parent βslagged offβ by the other β’ How courts work β’ That they donβt have to pretend that one parent doesnβt exist when they are talking with the other parent β’ That they are still loved by both parents β’ Young people should be told that their parents have grown apart, not that |
they canβt stand being with each other anymore β’ The child that stays with the parent should not be expected to take on the responsibility of the parent who has gone, e.g. the eldest son should not have to take the place of the father β’ That it is not their fault β’ That they will get over it β there is light at the end of the tunnel 120 E. Dowling and D. Elliott β’ That they should not feel guilty about going out with their friends and leaving Mum or Dad in β’ That they donβt have to be down and morbid all the time β’ That they are not social outcasts, and they need to be able to rely on their friends 7.7.6 An Innovative Initiative An association of mediation practitioners in the South of England found that they were on occasions working with families with maybe three or four children/young adults, where one or more could not attend by reason of being away at school or col- lege. By agreement, they completed a questionnaire which was to be used in a media- tion session for parents to include this in their planning. This device proved fruitful and was pronounced helpful by parents and the rest of the family. This has been devel- oped further and used with children who may decide not to accept an invitation to attend mediation but are willing to include their thoughts by completing the question- naire. It may also be used when they do attend β an initiative taken up with enthusiasm by children . The practitioners have given permission to reproduce the questions: 1. What is your understanding of the present situation? 2. What hopes do you have about family life in the future? 3. What worries, if any, do you have about family life in the future? 4. What would you like more of or less of, or to be different? 5. If Mum and Dad asked for your advice, what would you say? 6. Is there anything else? 7.8 What Practice Has Taught Us Over the years, we have seen many families consulting over their childrenβs diffi culties or attending mediation either during or after prolonged and painful court cases. There is little doubt that the adversarial context in which the courts usually operate is detrimental to confl ict resolution and contributes to reinforce the entrenched posi- tions taken by parents who are in the middle of a process where hurt, rage, resent- ment and other powerful feelings dominate. Our clinical experience shows that what is needed is a more collaborative stance by practitioners, where adults are helped to manage their differences and concentrate on the needs of their children who are the most vulnerable party when the family breaks up. Resources need to be available, early on in the process , in order to help parents move from a fi ghting position where the most important factor is to βwinβ or to βbe rightβ to a more cooperative parenting position where they can begin to work together for their children, even if profound differences between them as partners remain. It is important to stress that parents are also vulnerable at this time, and, although they might feel self-indulgent, they need to take care of themselves physically and 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change... 121 mentally so that they can look after their children. Support systems such as family, friends and colleagues can be invaluable. We know from our work with families that children often fi nd themselves in: A loyalty bind , over what parent to please or what to say in order not to upset the other: this puts an intolerable burden of responsibility for fi ltering their emotions in order not to upset their parents and keep confl ict at bay. Confusion and anger : children often fi nd themselves confused over the reasons for the separation and lacking a coherent story that helps them to make sense of the crisis in the family. Parents can help children by tolerating and acknowledging their angry feelings and providing a developmentally appropriate story of what has hap- pened. This need not involve blame, but it needs to acknowledge that the marital relationship has come to an end. However, it is important to emphasise that the parentβchild relationship will continue and that children are never to blame for the divorce or separation of their parents. Diffi culties to concentrate/achieve at school : when children are preoccupied with confl ict at home, this has a detrimental effect on their capacity to concentrate and learn, particularly if they feel responsible for the psychological wellbeing of a parent or parents and adopt a care taker role in relation to a parent who might be depressed or anxious. 7.9 What Parents Tell Us In working with groups of separating and divorcing parents, we have found that their main preoccupation is to do their best for their children. We have worked with groups where participants are at different stages of the divorce process, and they are able to help and learn from each other and generally gain confi dence in their own abilities as parents. They are thirsty for information about loss for family members: age and stage reactions of their children and what they can do to help. A gender mix helps them to look at situations from the otherβs perspective and therefore contributes to a better and different understanding of what might have been previously perceived as simply an ex-partnerβs negative behaviour. We are acutely aware that being part of a group enables them to gain a wider lens on male and female responses and to refl ect and modify previously fi xed views. As well as gaining information, parents consistently ask for skills and ideas on what to say to children and how to manage communication with an ex-partner. They fi nd it useful to experiment with specifi c examples of situations and explore together different ways of handling them. We think it is important to emphasise that it is crucial for those who facilitate these groups to have the necessary skills to manage and contain the very strong emotions and highly charged climate that can develop in the group process. 122 E. Dowling and D. Elliott We seek to set up a nurturing, collaborative experience, acknowledging emotions whilst keeping the focus mainly on what children need from parents. Alongside this, it is essential to acknowledge parentsβ efforts, skills, commitment and creativity in fi nding solutions for themselves and their families. We try to maintain a balance between respect for both p arents whilst keeping children in mind. 7.10 Post-divorce Re-partnering and Remarriage It is beyond the scope of this chapter to elaborate in detail on the transition to becom- ing a βreconstituted familyβ with the various permutations and additions to family relationships. However, in the context of the risk factors affecting children, the evidence shows that the post-divorce stage creates the potential for children to expe- rience changes and disruptions in family life when one or both parents introduce new partners, cohabit, remarry or re-divorce. The re-partnering of parents is particularly stressful for children if it occurs soon after divorce (Hetherington and Kelly 2 002 ) . In her research on childrenβs perspectives of family relationships in the UK, Judy Dunn found that it was common for children of single parents to feel displaced when their mothers re-partnered, for children to feel less important than step and half siblings and many children wished more contact with their non-resident par- ents. However, she found that these concerns decreased over time. Shared family activities as well as communication between children and parents were found to be very important (Dunn 2 008 ) . 7.11 Signposts for the Future 7.11.1 For Practitioners Practitioners need a framework for thinking and refl ecting about their work. Ongoing supervision and consultation are essential. In their paper on βFrozen Narrativesβ, Blow and Daniel (2 002 ) remind us of the emotionally draining nature of this work: βThis is partly because of the enormous distress caused to children in the name of love, and partly because the levels of hostility and mistrust are such that making a therapeutic alliance with one partner is seen as betrayal by the otherβ (p. 94). Policy makers, practitioners, lawyers, schools and all those who, as a result of their work, come into contact with families during and in the aftermath of separation and divorce need to understand the psychological processes involved over time for parents and children alike. The assumption that this can be a single event to be dealt with rationally and practically is unhelpful. The level of confl ict can vary in each unique situation and Bernard Mayer ( 2009 ) encourages practitioners to ask them- selves: βHow can we help people to engage with this issue over time?β rather than 7 Promoting Positive Outcomes for Children Experiencing Change... 123 βWhat can we do to resolve or de-escalate this confl ict?β (Preface, p. x). βI focus on confl icts as enduring, ongoing or long term rather than intractable or irresolvable, because I think the latter terms suggest that confl ict duration is in itself a problem or that progress is hopelessβ (Preface, p. xiv). 7.11.2 For Parents and Children The process of separation is complex and cannot be addressed with a one-size-fi ts-all model of mediation or parent/children information programmes. A more thera- peutic model of mediation may take root. This model has been developed by Irving and Benjamin (2 002 ) and is not to be confused with therapy. They propose that they use therapeutic techniques to βadvance the objectives of family media- tionβ (p. 10). There is a possibility of pre-mediation, which enables clients to feel heard in a way which is meaningful to them, and to fi nd avenues for managing confl icts in a different way so that mediation itself can become more possible. There is also development of one-stop-shop agencies where there is a menu of services available by entering one door. Indeed, this was proposed by Dr. Janet Walker in her original research in Ogus et al. ( 1989 ) . One example of this was a government-funded initiative in which one of us was involved (DE) called Family Focus β One Stop Shop which was an integral part of a family mediation service. The report at the end of the 3-year project was compiled in 2005. There was a menu of services which were considered at an initial consultation. At that time, a decision was made to engage in one of the following: work with couples, indi- viduals or families β a relationship review which considered whether or not the relationship was over or if it could continue β and the other option offered was for separation or divorce mediation. These possibilities enabled clients to choose to do a time-limited piece of work in the knowledge that they could return to the service at a later juncture when and if necessary (Family Focus 2005 ) . This model has been taken further and funded by various bodies in other family mediation services in England. Parent information programmes are well developed in Australia and North America. In recent years, there has been a gradual growth of theses programmes in England and Scotland. Research is showing that, again, one model does not fi t for everyone and that different programmes may be needed to address different levels of confl ict. In California, the Alameda group model is a programme specifi cally devised for high- confl ict families and offers parents and children concurrent sessions ( Johnston 2004 ) . Another well-established group model developed in America called Kidsβ Turn offers parents and children the opportunity to work in groups and is well described in a guidebook made available for all (Hannibal 2 007 ) . A group model for children called βTime to Talkβ is offered in Scotland (R elationships Scotland ) . There is great scope to offer children and young people the opportunity to attend a group and to make sense of their family changes with others in the same position. 124 E. Dowling and D. Elliott The wider systems of family, friends and school must be actively |
considered in promoting positive outcomes for children. Relationships can be lost at worst or overlooked in the emotional chaos. Often, children intimate that a teacher, a grand- parent or a friend offered a safe haven in times of upheaval. Practitioners, as a matter of course, will have this important framework in mind when working with families through separation. An interesting peer group education programme, βSeasons for Growthβ (s ee website ) , deals with loss, death, family breakdown and other forms of separation. It is now well established in Australia, New Zealand, Ireland and the UK. Its main advantage is that it is delivered through schools, and is therefore supporting the World Health Organizationβs aim that schools play a key role in psy- chosocial development. 7.12 Concluding Remarks In a review of services and interventions for children of divorcing and separating parents supported by the Joseph Rowntree Foundation, Hawthorne et al. (2 003 ) sug- gested that provision designed to support children through family change should ensure that children had someone to listen to their views and help them understand the processes that they and their parents were going through. Parents should be sup- ported to reduce stress, and both parents and children should be helped to understand and manage confl ict. The survey identifi ed numerous useful programmes but noted that few had been effectively evaluated. The challenge therefore continues as research is showing what parents and children need and request. The review also suggested that a mixed strategy of interventions might be required, given the variety of needs and situations for families. At the time of publication in England of the research undertaken by the organisation One Plus One (Coleman and Glenn 2 009 ) , the Director of the organisa- tion, Penny Mansfi eld, wrote an article in the Times newspaper, October 8th 2009, entitled βTo help children, start fi rst with the parentsβ. She stated that the relationships of modern parents are βmore fragileβ. The research shows that βthe most effective time to get parents to look at their relationships and parenting is when they are hav- ing a baby: this is the moment when Health Visitors and others routinely in touch with new parents could offer more effective helpβ. This is important information for practice and policy. Ongoing research and practice innovation continue to promote positive out- comes for children experiencing change in family relationships. It is essential that effective evaluation takes place and that policy and practice should be coherent with research evidence. 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Diana Elliott is a trained Social Worker and Systemic Psychotherapist and a mem- ber of the Institute of Family Therapy. She set up an independent family mediation service where she practised and trained family mediators for many years. Emilia and Diana were involved in an innovative project for separating parents and their children at the Institute of Family Therapy in London. Contact: di_elliott23@hotmail.com. Chapter 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance Karen Majors 8.1 Introduction As Diener and Diener (2 009 ) comment, positive psychology has had a focus on adulthood and only relatively recently has turned its attention to child development. They acknowledge past research which now makes a valuable contribution to posi- tive psychology concepts. In this chapter on friendships, I will draw on relevant research from child and adolescent development. Friendships serve a range of important purposes. Mendelson and Aboud ( 1999 ) have categorised these as: companionship, intimacy, support, reliable alliance, self- validation and emotional security. There are long-term consequences for children who do not establish friendships and positive peer relations. Several longitudinal studies have found that children with poor peer relations and lack of friends go on to experience maladjustment in terms of life status, perceived competence and men- tal health diffi culties in adulthood (e.g. Cowen et al. 1 973 ; Bagwell et al. 1998 ) . There is evidence to indicate that having friends is associated with good academic performance and school adjustment, and correspondingly not having friends pre- dicts poor academic performance and school adjustment (e.g. Ladd 1 990 ; Wentzel et al. 2 004 ) . School adjustment is usefully defi ned by Ladd and Kochenderfer (1 996 ) : βthe degree to which children become interested, engaged, comfortable and successful in the school environmentβ (p. 324). Providing individual support for the child who lacks friends and is rejected by classmates is not enough in itself. There is a need not only to help them to develop new skills but also to address the perceptions and behaviours of others in the class (Frederickson 1 991 ) . K. Majors (*) Department of Psychology and Human Development, Institute of Education , University of London , UK e-mail: k.majors@ioe.ac.uk S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 127 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_8, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 128 K. Majors The qualities of friendship for young children differ in some respects from qualities of adult friendships. It should be acknowledged that children of school age are entering a complex social arena where they need to gain peer acceptance and learn to initiate and maintain friendships. They may often need to deal with rebuffs, rejection and the frequent breaking up of friendships in ways that are not typical of adult friendships (Besag 2007 ) . Not all children initially have the social competence, confi dence and emotional capacity needed to negotiate these relationships in a fulfi lling way. Also, classmates can vary signifi cantly in terms of how friendly and inclusive they are. A UNICEF report (2 007) indicated considerable variation between countries on how helpful and friendly classroom peers were perceived to be. Research has shown that how schools organise and group pupils in schools can act to promote friendships and inclusion across, for example, different racial groups (Hallinan and Williams 1 989 ) . Knowledge and understanding of the developmental tasks of friendships at par- ticular ages supports the identifi cation of effective interventions. Indeed, there are numerous resources now available to help children and whole classes develop friendly relationships. This chapter includes sections on friendship development in the early years, middle childhood and adolescence. Each of these sections outlines research on the psychological signifi cance of each developmental phase and con- cludes by providing examples of effective interventions and resources available. 8.2 Friendship in Social and Cultural Contexts Friendship can be defi ned as a reciprocal relationship where there is mutual liking and enjoyment spent in each otherβs company. Whilst we may feel that we make our own choices of friends in what are generally regarded as voluntary relationships, the social and cultural context can infl uence friendship choice and opportunities for friendship (Chu 2 005 ; Way et al. 2005 ) . Frean (2 003 ) cites the work of Graham Allan, a Professor of Social Relations, who pointed out that whilst these relationships are perceived to be personal and volun- tary, they are still determined, to a large extent, by ethnicity, class, age, gender and geography. I would suggest that this might indicate that there are unnecessary constraints that restrict possibilities for friendship. With regard to gender, for |
example, most people agree that there are some gender differences observable in the friendships and social networks of both children and adults. Typically, the friendships and social network of boys and men might be cen- tred on activities such as football or other sports. For girls and women, the focus might be on opportunities for conversation and the specifi c activity, if there is one, of less importance. The relationships described above might be viewed as stereotypical and a refl ection of the infl uence of society and culture on the gendered expectations of girls and boys in respect of toys, play companions and friendships and women and 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance 129 men in terms of leisure activities and acceptable patterns of friendship. With regard to the former, for example, a parent of a young boy might be perfectly happy that he enjoys using the dressing up box for imaginative play. She might have more concerns when her son requests to be an Angel in the Christmas play alongside female peers rather than as a shepherd with his male peers! As notice- able gender patterns in friendships would seem to be determined, at least in part, by social and/or cultural expectations, we need to avoid making assumptions based on such expectations in order not to impose restrictions on the possibilities for friendship. Not all boys and men like football, and the fact that we now have girls and womenβs football teams is testament to the fact that some girls and women very much enjoy football! This chapter is primarily focused on the many positive aspects of friendship. It needs to be acknowledged, however, that some friendships/aspects of a friendship are not so positive. In most friendships, there is a feeling of reciprocity and of being on an approximately equal footing with each other. Qualities of each person may be perceived as different though complement each otherβs needs and aspirations. Some friendships, however, may contain more negative qualities. They might be perceived to be less equal and reciprocal; there may be an uneven balance of power. A friend who perceives themselves to be less powerful in this situation may at times feel put upon and not valued. Other less-than-positive friendships may encourage participation in undesirable behaviours such as exclusion, bullying, risk taking and other antisocial behaviours. Leather (2 009 ) found that adolescents who had been excluded from school were more likely to form associations with others and participate in unsociable and risky behaviours in the community. Roffey ( 2011 ) asserts that more inclusive environ- ments where students feel connected to school and community are likely to discour- age the development of negative groupings, such as gangs. Providing opportunities in schools and in the community where friendships and positive relationships can be sustained amongst diverse life styles and cultures is of benefi t to all. The suggested strategies, interventions and resources in this chapter show how more inclusive environments for children and young people can be developed where friendships and positive social relationships are enhanced. 8.3 Friendship, the Peer Group and Social Networks Researchers have defi ned friendship as distinct from acceptance by the peer group (people of similar age and status) although both involve perceptions of likeability. Wentzel, Baker and Russell (2 009 ) defi ne the distinction: βThe central distinction between having friends and involvement with larger peer groups is that friends refl ect relatively private, egalitarian relationships often formed on the basis of idio- syncratic criteriaβ (p. 231). Whereas in peer groups, there are publicly known and readily identifi ed and valued group characteristics. 130 K. Majors Being accepted by peers may be a fi rst step for many children in friendship formation. Whilst peer acceptance does provide a threshold for friendship, there is evidence that some children who are not generally accepted by peers are still able to form and maintain friendships. Ladd ( 2005 ) reviewed research which found that children with social diffi culties, those with a tendency towards aggression, abused children and rejected children were able to form friendships. However, he also found that these friendships could have both positive and negative qualities, for instance containing higher levels of confl ict. Whilst research has historically explored and compared friendship and the peer group, recent research has highlighted the complexity of childrenβs friendships and peer relations (Howe 2 010 ) . It has been noted that children have social relationships in a variety of social contexts which are dynamic and subject to change. Recent research has investigated childrenβs social networks, which, as Baines and Blatchford ( 2009 ) describe, is a term that covers a range of relationships including βthe group of peers they most often hang about withβ and friendship networks. A child may have social networks at school and outside of school. There may be a social network connected to a particular activity. Within these groups, some children will have a hierarchy of best friends, friends and network members to play with when the best friend is not available, whilst others prefer to have a group of friends rather than designated best friends. 8.4 The Developmental Signifi cance of Friendships Newcomb and Bagwell ( 1996 ) conducted a quantitative meta-analysis of studies comparing reciprocal friends and acquaintances. The studies covered children from preschool years up to and including early adolescence. Signifi cant differences were found. Friendship relations were characterised by more positive engagement, con- fl ict management, task activity and relationship properties than did acquaintances. Interestingly, there was no difference in the instances of confl ict, but friends were then motivated to problem-solve to overcome the confl ict, leaving the friendship intact. They conclude: βThe developmental signifi cance of these friendship features may rest in the opportunity they afford children to experience and to practice these critical components of effective interpersonal relationsβ. (p. 298) Friendships have a role to play in supporting transitions at various developmental stages throughout the life cycle. In a longitudinal study, Ladd (1 990 ) found that young children showed better adjustments to school and educational attainments if they already had friends in their class when starting school and kept these as well as making new friends. Berndt and Keefe (1 992 ) found that having friends when transferring to different grades and schools was associated with less psychological disturbance in adolescence. Hartup and Stevens ( 1 999 ) conclude that friendships throughout the life cycle are of developmental signifi cance, but caution that: βWhether friendships are developmental assets or liabilities depends on several conditions, especially the characteristics of oneβs friends and the quality of oneβs relationships with themβ (p. 79). 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance 131 8.5 Friendships Throughout the Life Cycle Friendships are an important feature of our lives from the early years into adulthood. The nature and quality of these friendships change over time. A developmental perspective of friendships throughout the life cycle helps us to understand the sig- nifi cance and purposes served by friendships at different developmental phases. Sullivan (1 953 ) theorised that we have distinct social needs that could also be conceptualised as developmental tasks to accomplish at key phases in our develop- ment. In infancy, we have a need for security and nurturing from those that are close to us. In the early years (2β6 years), children need to join in play and activi- ties with others. In middle childhood (7β12 years), children have a need to make friends and gain acceptance from their peers. As they move towards adolescence (13β19 years), children have a need for intimacy in their friendships, and in later adolescence, a desire to develop more intimate relationships including sexual rela- tionships. Subsequent research over the years provides evidence to support this theoretical framework. I will draw on some of these research studies in this chapter. As Buhrmester ( 1996 ) comments, developmental researchers view the progressive accomplishment of these developmental tasks as enabling the formation of satisfying and fulfi lling relationships in adulthood. Thus, friendships in childhood not only have an immediate ongoing impact but also have a formative impact on friendships in adulthood. 8.6 The Early Years As Rubin (1 980 ) notes, these early friendships provide opportunities for participat- ing and learning about self and relationships in ways that cannot be met in other relationships such as the parentβchild relationship. Studies by psychologists provide evidence that, whilst there is much variation at this age, even young children can show preferences for particular playmates, seeking them out, playing cooperatively with them and showing the beginnings of empathy (e.g. Dunn 2 004 ; Howes 1996 ) . As Dunn (2 004 ) points out, these fi ndings chal- lenge conventional notions that children are not able to form signifi cant friendships until they are 7 or 8 years of age. Qualitative ethnographic studies where young childrenβs interactions in early years settings have been carefully observed over extended time periods have also documented a wide range of skills, behaviours and understandings that children draw on in establishing and maintaining their friend- ships (Rubin 1980; Meyer 2003; Meyer and Driscoll 1 997; Rizzo 1989 ) . Meyer and Driscoll (1 997 ) identifi ed ten categories of strategies used by young children in a day care centre to establish, maintain and terminate friendships. These included proximity, listening, touch, expressing feelings, making jokes, using humour or teasing, making statements about the friendship, engaging in confl ict, directing/ controlling others, invoking rules and participating in pretend role play where there were shared expectations. 132 K. Majors Rubin (1 980 ) provides an example of two 4-year olds, where in a conversation one child becomes aware that he has hurt his friendβs feelings and is able to take steps to successfully redress the situation: David: Iβm a missile robot who can shoot missiles out of my fi ngers. I can shoot them out of everywhere β even out of my legs. I am a missile robot. Josh: (tauntingly) No, youβre a fart robot. David: (protestingly) No, Iβm a missile robot. Josh: No, youβre a fart robot. David: (hurt, almost in tears) No, Josh! Josh: (recognizing that David is upset) And Iβm a poo- poo robot. David: (in good spirits again) Iβm a pee-pee robot (p. 58). Developmental psychologists have highlighted the importance of play in these early years, and particularly role play/pretend play between friends, as being crucial to developing social and emotional understanding and cognitive skills (Dunn 2 004 ; Harris 2000 ) . Harrisβ research demonstrates that when children use their imagina- tion in shared pretence role plays with others, they are able to further their understanding of the real world and to distinguish it from fantasy, and to appreciate perspectives of others. In fact, as Harris points out, it is when children have diffi culty in using their imagination in this way, as is the case for children on the autistic spectrum for example, that children experience diffi culties in social and cognitive understanding and relating successfully with others. Dunn ( 2004 ) comments that young friendships can be a means of emotional sup- port. She gives the examples of a close friendship being supportive when there are signifi cant life events, e.g. at a time when a sibling is born or on transferring from nursery to school. As Dunn notes: βIt is with the development of the features of shared feelings and ideas, of mutual affection and attachment, of concern for the other, which lead eventually to commitment and loyalty β¦β (p. 3). Like Harris, Dunn also comments on the signifi cance of shared role play with friends. Findings reveal that pretend play between friends is more sustained and harmonious and more complex than play with acquaintances. She concludes that the shared fantasies are important in the development of the friendship: βSharing that pretend world can be a key setting for the growth of intimacy, and sharing the excite- ment generated by the fantasy; it may also perhaps be an important context for shar- ing what is worrying, as well as excitingβ (p. 28). It is important to consider that, as Smith ( 2010 ) notes, children who have experi- enced disadvantaged environments often do show impoverished pretend play. Early interventions are required to support play and communication |
skills in order to pro- mote optimal conditions for friendship formation and educational progression. 8.6.1 Implications for Positive Practice β’ In early years settings, aim for a small group size (up to 12 children). This provides optimal conditions for pretend play and the development of quality friendships (Smith and Connolly 1980 ) . 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance 133 β’ Provide a space and props to encourage creative shared role play. So in addition to a themed home corner, have alternative periods where space is available with a variety of materials, e.g. dressing up clothes, boxes, screens, sheets of material etc., for children to develop their own shared themes. Broadhead ( 2004 ) uses the term the βWhatever you want it to beβ place for this resource. β’ Where children are having diffi culties in peer relations and friendships, carry out observations to clarify their skills and highlight areas for development. A useful tool for observing play is βThe Social Play Continuumβ in Broadheadβs (2 004 ) book, Early Years Play and Learning . β’ Provide guidance, model and comment on friendly behaviour. β’ Supervise at a distance. Give children time to learn to sort out confl icts and sup- port where needed. β’ Provide opportunities to talk things through with a child when there has been upset and confl ict. This helps the child understand their own feelings and those of others (Dunn 2 004 ) . β’ Use role play with puppets where the children can practise a wide range of friendship skills, including how to gain entry to a group or deal with being turned down (Webster-Stratton 2009 ) . β’ Encourage parents to invite playmates home and support this by providing infor- mation on friendships in the playgroup/class room and with ideas for activities if required (Webster-Stratton 2 009 ) . β’ Provide activities and opportunities which invite children to take turns and share, e.g. dressing up clothes and props, and wheeled toys designed for two children to ride (Dowling 2010 ) . β’ Use storybooks on friendships to raise awareness and discuss features of friendships. β’ For children transferring to school and needing to develop language/communica- tion and social and early learning skills, set up friendship groups. In this approach, an adult such as a teaching assistant works with a group of up to four children for half an hour a day. The emphasis is on participating in enjoyable activities rather than more structured educational activities. Cooking, art activities and growing plants and gardening are ideal activities. This safe space can be used to facilitate verbal and non-verbal communication, interactive play and friendly behaviours. β’ A useful resource with activities for very young children and up to age 5 years is: 1 00 ideas for teaching personal, social and emotional development (Thwaites 2008 ) . 8.7 Friendship in Middle Childhood As children move into middle childhood, play with others continues to be an impor- tant factor in developing social networks and friendships. The form of play is in pretence games and also physical, rule-based games, e.g. ball games, chase, skipping with elastic etc., often with a competitive element. 134 K. Majors Blatchford (1 998 ) researched children aged 8β9 years transferring to junior school and monitored their friendship formation and the stability of friendship groups over the year. He observed that games played at break time in the school served two important functions. First, the variety of games played at break time provided a structure to enable children to have contact with other children on transfer to the junior school, and this social networking supported friendship for- mation. Blatchford noted that initially there was a fl urry of activity as children sought out friendships. Later on in the school year, however, friendship groups stabilised, and entry to games was more exclusive as they were entwined with particular friendship groups. Interestingly, some of the children interviewed about why children had particular friends spoke of best friends transcending the game connection: Their best friends were those that were always available to play with β e.g. John told the researcher that best friends were always available to play with and there when needed, so that: βsometimes Graham doesnβt play with me and sometimes Shawn doesnβt but Tim always does though we play different gamesβ (p. 79). This view of friendship was also apparent in the interviews carried out by Wordley ( 2010 ) , who carried out in-depth interviews with a small sample of 8-year-old children regarding their classroom friendships and learning. Guy: ββ¦Anthony is a good friend cos like if you donβt have anyone to play with or some- thing, heβll always be willing to come and play with you or stop what heβs doing, or maybe ask you if what he was doing, you might want to go and play with him with some of your friendsβ. In another interview with Mia: Claire: So whatβs a difference between a friend and a best friend? Mia: Well, βcos like Gemma and Holly mostly play with me and like Amelia plays with someone else but occasionally she plays with me. Baines and Blatchford (2 011 ) highlight the importance of school break times or recess as being one of the main opportunities for children to play with friends and develop friendships. They note that break times are particularly valuable as children today have less opportunity for unsupervised activities and contact with others out- side of school. This situation, they suggest, may be due at least in part to increasing parental concerns about child safety and heightened parental supervision as a result. Baines and Blatchford are therefore concerned to note that these periods in the school day are increasingly being abolished or shortened in countries such as the USA, Australia and the UK. School staffs frequently cite problem behaviour and needing time for teaching the curriculum as reasons for reducing break times. Baines and Blatchford comment that whilst there are substantial campaigns across many countries to enhance play facilities outside of school, there are few such campaigns to protect break time/recess. At this stage of development, as parents and teachers are often aware, there may be frequent making and breaking of friendships as children develop their social and communication skills and their ability to manage their emotions. Wordleyβs ( 2010 ) 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance 135 interview with Laura, aged 8 years, gives a fl avour of the ebb and fl ow in these relationships and Lauraβs awareness of the process: Lisa, Carmel and Jacinta they do normally have fall outs but theyβre like one day Jacinta and Carmel are friends and they leave Lisa out because they all have an argument and then the next day Jacinta and Lisa and then the next Carmel and Lisa and Jacinta gets left out and it goes all around like thatβ¦ This quote also serves to illustrate a distinctive feature of this developmental phase in that children tend to form same-sex social networks and friendships. It is thought that children seek same-sex social networks because they share similar interests and play styles (Maccoby 1 998 ) . Baines and Blatchford (2 009 ) carried out research comparing girlsβ and boysβ social networks and friendships in the play- ground. They found, as has previous research, that boys tended to form larger social networks than girls, consisting of both friends and non-friends. Girlsβ social net- works were smaller and consisted mainly of best friends and friends. 8.7.1 Social Networks Outside of School Most research on childrenβs social networks has been carried out in the school con- text, and there is a need to research on childrenβs social networks and friendships outside of school. This is particularly as there have been signifi cant changes in childrenβs opportunities to spend time with their friends and in the nature of com- municating and maintaining friendships. Thus, with regard to the latter, children frequently maintain friendships through texting and using their mobile phones and online βchat forumsβ. Layard and Dunn (2 009 ) view the pace and change of this decade, of society in general and of experiences of childhood in particular, as unprecedented, and that we need to consider the impact on children and young people. Friendship was one of the seven themes explored by The Good Childhood Inquiry panel. This Inquiry set out to consider experiences of all children in the United Kingdom and made com- parisons with research fi ndings from other countries. Layard and Dunn note that there are fewer areas for safe play and that children have much less freedom to go out with friends unsupervised. Thus, some parents spend much of their time ferry- ing their children to supervised activities and parties. Other parents may not have the resources to do this, and children remain at home, sometimes spending large amounts of time on the computer. To conclude, in the middle school years, children recognise and develop a range of friendships with differing qualities according to whether they are casual friends, good friends or best friends. Towards the end of middle childhood, children are increasingly making friendship choices based on personality, and there is a level of intimacy in a growing awareness of sharing and supporting. As Doll ( 2010 ) points out, these friendships involve a degree of loyalty, and children need to balance their 136 K. Majors own interests with the needs of their friend. They therefore need to be able to see a situation from their friendβs perspective and to make small compromises. 8.7.2 Implications for Positive Practice β’ Children need increased access to recreation spaces in the community, including playgrounds and playing fi elds for unsupervised play (Layard and Dunn 2009 ) . β’ Children need to have opportunities to participate in a range of activities outside of school to sustain interests and friendships with others. β’ Interventions should make optimal use of the school playground to provide enjoyable play space and opportunities to make and consolidate friendships. Involve the children in designing an exciting school playground that meets the diverse needs and desires of the children. Children could survey classmates to fi nd out what they would like. The playground needs to provide places for physi- cal activities such as football and chase games, and also quieter activities. Include a signposted friends meeting place where children can go to if they want some- one to play with or talk to. β’ Some schools have trained and supported a team of children (squad) to befriend others in the playground and help sort out disputes over games. β’ An excellent resource for developing the play ground is R esilient Playgrounds by Beth Doll with Katherine Brehm (2010). β’ Discuss friendships and friendly behaviour as a class. Agree on class principles which would aim to ensure that individuals are valued, difference is accepted and that all are included in play and work activities. β’ Use Circle Time to talk through and resolve friendship issues/unfriendly behav- iour as they arise. A useful book is C ircle Time Resources (Robinson and Maines 2004 ) . β’ Provide activities in the classroom that invite collaboration, e.g. solving a sci- ence problem or shared story writing. Provide adult commentary on helpful and friendly behaviour. β’ Provide opportunities for children to work with their friends on problem tasks. β’ Provide opportunities at other times for children to get used to working with dif- ferent members of the class. β’ This is probably the best time for group work to develop the skills and social understanding of children who are fi nding it diffi cult to gain peer acceptance and establish friendships. Three useful resources for middle childhood are: β The Friendship Formula: A Social Skills Programme to Develop an Awareness of Self and Others (Schroeder 2 008 ) . β How to Promote Children β s Social and Emotional Competence (Webster- Stratton 2009 ) , particularly Chapter 10: Peer Problems and Friendship . β Developing Children β s Social, Emotional and Behavioural Skills (Costi 2 009 ) . 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance 137 β’ Parents and teachers need to value childrenβs friendships. They need to encourage children to make friends and maintain friendships, e.g. following a change of school and moving house. Children need |
opportunities to have their friends stay with them for both play and study (Layard and Dunn 2 009 ) . 8.8 Adolescent Friendships At this phase of development, friends and the social networks they are contained within become increasingly important and enable a range of developmental needs to be met. Young people have a need for companionship and a growing intimacy alongside meeting the challenge of new life experiences including transition to high school and later transitions to university and/or work involving changes in friend- ships and social networks. School continues to be an important source of friends. Hamm and Faircloth (2 005 ) found that these friendships played a vital role in enabling adolescents to develop a sense of belonging to the school. They describe such a sense of belonging as relating to: βstudentsβ perceptions that they are liked, respected, and valued by others in the schoolβ (p. 61). Hamm and Faircloth found that school friendships provided a secure base that helped adolescents to cope with the social context of the high school. Researchers of peer relations, friendships and school break time have commented that in contrast to early years and middle childhood, adolescent friendships are char- acterised by a lack of play, games and physical activities at break time, and there is more emphasis on opportunities to talk and to βhanging aroundβ together (Blatchford 1998 ) . He comments that break times for older students in secondary schools pro- vide an important function in providing loosely supervised areas where adolescent girls and boys can socialise. At this time, adolescents need to develop their sense of identity and belonging, and interactions with friends and friendship groups facilitate this. As Cotterell (2 007 ) notes: βTwo particular social provisions that are supplied by friends as a group are social integration into a friendship network and reassurance of worth through the social validation of friendsβ (p. 80). Adolescent friends serve a very important purpose in providing acceptance and emotional support at a time when they are becoming more independent and less reliant on parents. The level of intimacy in a friendship is an indicator both of the maturing quality of friendship and, indeed, predicts wellbeing and self-esteem in adolescence (Buhrmester 1 990 ) . Loyalty also distinguishes adolescent friendships from other relationships. There may be gender differences here in that girls and womenβs friendships are often characterised as having a greater level of intimacy and self-disclosure. Thus, it could be argued that this facilitates more emotional support than that available within male friendships. There is, however, a need to challenge assumptions made about male friendships. Recent qualitative research studies challenge assumptions that boys do not want 138 K. Majors close friendships (Chu 2 005 ; Way et al. 2005 ) . Chu ( 2005 ) found that adolescent boys interviewed in this study actually did want to have close male friendships, though some felt that needing to prove masculinity and protect vulnerability were barriers to such friendships. Optimistically, Chu notes that despite these barriers, some adolescent boys did form close friendships, and these friendships actually supported them in dealing with male peer pressure to conform: Ethan: When I was thirteen, I met my closest friend right now, and he really helped me to become who I want to become. I felt like we both kind of helped each other grow into, like, who we want to be right now. Up until that time, Iβd kind of been thinking, βWell, I donβt really like this, so why am I doing it?β but continued to do it, like just dressing all neat and trying to impress everyone I met and trying to be, like, the perfect kid. But in meeting my friend, he really helped-we both helped each other a lot to become who we are right now. And we both like who we are right now, to some extent (p. 16). Way et al. (2 005 ) , in a study of ethnic-minority urban adolescents, found that both girls and boys desired close friendships, and they did not differ in emphasising the keeping of secrets and self-disclosure as important features of their closest friendships. Cotterell ( 2007 ) cautions about making assumptions about gender dif- ferences in intimacy and communication and urges that there should be a closer examination of gender differences in styles of intimacy and communication to enhance a greater understanding. As Scholte and Van Aken (2 008 ) comment, friendships are formed where βcom- mon groundβ and βaffi rmationsβ about the friendship are made. Whilst perceived similarities might be important in establishing the common ground, they become less important as the friendship becomes established. Maintenance of the friendship is dependent on the quality of the friendship. Thus, friendships which are emotion- ally supportive, and where there is trust and intimacy, may well survive for many years. Other friendships which may have these qualities to a much lesser degree are unlikely to survive in the long run. Outside of school, young people continue to develop a range of interconnected friendship groups or cliques, within a larger peer crowd or social cluster (Cotterell 2007 ) . Membership of these groups is fl uid and changeable. As in middle childhood, within these groups, adolescents are likely to have some close friendships and more casual friends and acquaintances. Whilst most adolescents will still enjoy spending time with a small group of same-sex friends, they also seek opportunities and are excited to be part of large mixed sex crowds, e.g. at parties, or music concerts, or simply at the beach, park or street corner. This wider social cluster provides opportunities for mixed sex friendship groups or cliques in later adolescence and for romantic relationships. There is a need for communities to consider activities, spaces and resources to meet the social and leisure needs of adolescence, some of whom report that there is nothing for them to do or go to. It is also apparent that in early adolescence, some who might have confi dently tried new activities as a child lack social confi dence to go to clubs and activities unless accompanied by a friend and are also much infl uenced by what their peer group might consider to be βcoolβ or βun-coolβ. 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance 139 8.8.1 Implications for Positive Practice β’ There is a need to work with young people to identify stimulating and supportive areas where young people can meet. β’ Layard and Dunn ( 2009 ) recommend the setting up of Young Peopleβs Centres which offer high-quality activities such as IT, music, drama and dance, sport and volunteering as well as psychological support and careers advice. β’ Interventions should aim to support transitions to establish positive peer rela- tions and to provide new friendships to fl ourish: B.E.S.T. Buddies Bettering Everyone βs Secondary Transition: A comprehensive training programme introducing a peer buddy system to support students starting secondary school (Smith 2 003 ) . 8.8.2 Friendship Transition Groups Short-term group work during transition for adolescents who lack confi dence and might be overwhelmed by the social and organisational expectations of secondary school can be very effective. For example, a summer project could involve 1 week of the summer holiday. In this time, staff from Education Support Services could run an orientation group in the secondary school. Activities could include games that enable the young people to fi nd their way around the school and activities to raise self-esteem and promote positive interactions and involvement in social and leisure activities. These young people start school feeling knowledgeable and con- fi dent, already knowing some new people. Other schools have run Friendship Groups for socially vulnerable pupils on transfer to secondary school. These could be run weekly by staff from Education Support Services for the fi rst term. The aim is to provide a secure base to develop trusting relationships, in order to express feelings and worries. Activities are pro- vided to develop communication and assertiveness skills, friendship, self-esteem and problem-solving skills. Initially, the sessions need to be structured and contain several activities. As the young people develop trust and confi dence and communi- cation skills, they are able to use the group to discuss their situations and problem solve and to support each other. Experience of running these groups has shown that adolescents are not looking to adults to sort out problems. Group members often do have the resources amongst themselves to support each other and problem solve given appropriate opportunities to do so. Interventions should develop a sense of belonging by offering a wide range of after-school clubs catering for a diversity of interests. They should also provide a range of activities for boys as this provides a focus for their relationships. Peer support improves both learning and positive interactions: P eer Support Works: A Step by Step Guide to Long Term Success (Cartwright 2 007 ) . 140 K. Majors 8.9 Friendships in Adult Life In later adolescence and into adulthood, friendships are important though time is also increasingly spent with romantic partners. Most adults will also go on to become parents. The traditional view of family and social relations puts family ties before friendships. Pahl and Spence (2 003 -4) assert that this does not refl ect the reality of peopleβs lives and the complexity of social relationships. They put forward a model of βpersonal communitiesβ to describe an individualβs commitments to fam- ily and friends. Thus, an individual will have a high commitment to specifi c family members (βgivenβ relationships in the sense that blood ties are not chosen) and friends (βchosenβ relationships in the sense that friendships are primarily voluntary relationships). A lower level of commitment will be shown to other given (family) and chosen (friends) relationships. This model allows for the power of informal sup- port structures to be recognised. Close friendships, sometimes formed at school, may endure over years and may well last into adulthood. These would constitute high commitment βchosenβ relation- ships in Pahl and Spenceβs model. Cotterell (2 007 ) lists the βdistinctive qualitiesβ of sustaining a friendship as: βsharing enjoyable activities, being loyal and available, being ready to assist, being sensitive to friendβs feelings, expressing confi dence in the friends, and providing comfort and optimism in times of diffi cultyβ (p. 80). A small-scale study for this publication was conducted in order to shed light on the defi ning features of long-lasting friendships. Questionnaires on best friends were completed by 30 adults aged between 24 and 59 years. This included men and women, predominantly white British; 33% were from different nationalities. Whist the sample was small, some clear patterns emerged. 94% of friendships were same sex, and 87% of friendships were same age or within 1 year. Most had met their friend at school or university (73%). The length of friendship was between 5 and 49 years. The question- naire asked an open-ended question on why people thought the friendship with their best friend had endured. The following themes were identifi ed: β’ Shared experience/interests/values β’ Good company/humour/fun/get on well/relaxed β’ Trust/loyalty/open/talk about anything/acceptance β’ Reciprocity/both make time/bond Some friendships had endured despite those friends not living nearby: 44% said that their friend did not live nearby and in some cases lived in a different country. 8.10 Conclusion Having a range of social networks and fulfi lling friendships is important to our wellbeing. An understanding of the complexity of social interactions to be negoti- ated over the life cycle is a prerequisite for adults aiming to promote an environment 8 Friendships: The Power of Positive Alliance 141 for others where friendships can begin and fl ourish. Positive interventions can be designed that are helpful in ensuring optimal conditions for the development of friendship skills. References Bagwell, C., Newcomb, A., & Bukowski, W. (1998). 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She has written on friendship in the school context and completed her doctorate on Imaginary Friendships in children. Contact: k.majors@ioe.ac.uk Chapter 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools Sue Roffey 9.1 Introduction Schools play a signifi cant part not only in the formal and informal education of young people but also in their wellbeing β and hence the wellbeing of families and communities of the future. In 1995, the World Health Organization introduced the Global School Health initiative (WHO 1 995 ) and brought the concept of education for wellbeing into the foreground. Related initiatives have since been adopted or developed by governments and education authorities in many parts of the world. In 2003 , the Wingspread Declaration: A National Strategy for Improving School Connectedness was issued in the USA. This is based on a detailed review of the relevant research as well as in-depth discussions amongst leaders in health and edu- cation in the USA. It summarises the evidence for positive relationships across education (Blum and Libbey 2 004 ) . Wellbeing comprises not only physical but also psychological health. This is demonstrated by both optimal functioning and predominantly positive feelings (Noble et al. 2008 ) . It is where people are fl ourishing rather than languishing in their everyday lives (Keyes and Haidt 2003 ) . Although acknowledging a responsibility to respond to individual needs and specifi c issues, this broader concept of health has increasingly incorporated a whole-school approach in which all aspects of the school system are targeted to establish a health-promoting environment for all (Wyn et al. 2 000 ; Leger 2005 ) . S. Roffey (*) School of Education , University of Western Sydney , Sydney , Australia Department of Clinical, Educational & Health Psychology , University College , London , UK e-mail: sue@sueroffey.com. S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 145 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_9, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 146 S. Roffey The Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development, comprising 30 nations, issued its fi rst report in 2009 on indicators of child wellbeing (OECD 2009 ) . The six dimensions identifi ed are material wellbeing, housing and environ- ment, health and safety, risk behaviours and quality of school life. How βqualityβ is defi ned and developed goes beyond material resources and the curriculum to the heart of the teaching endeavour. Emotions and relationships exist all day, every day in the classroom, staffroom and throughout the school. Sometimes these feelings and relationships, especially for more vulnerable students, can be over- whelmingly negative. The quality of the learning environment therefore depends, not only on curriculum content, but also how accessible this is to students. The active promotion of positive feelings β enjoyment, achievement, optimism, safety and a sense of belonging β alongside positive and healthy relationships facilitate an environment in which everyone is able to fl ourish and learn (Fredrickson 2009 ; Roffey 2011a ) . The ethos of schools and the quality of the learning environment has been a focus of research for several decades, particularly in relation to behavioural issues. The Elton Report on Discipline in Schools in the UK (DES 1989 ) advocated a coherent whole-school approach to behaviour based on good relationships between all mem- bers of the school community. The Steer Report on Learning Behaviour ( DfES 2 005a ) , nearly 30 years later, says that despite the differences in educational prac- tices, this still holds true. The difference now is how much more we know about what constitutes good relationships in schools and the multiple and interrelated outcomes, not only for behaviour, but also for academic achievement (Hattie 2 009 ; Hearn et al. 2006 ) and mental health (Spratt et al. 2 006 ; Murray-Harvey 2010 ) . Most importantly, researchers and practitioners have discovered and developed ways in which these relationships might be brought about. 9.2 Social Capital in Schools Physical capital comprises hardware resources, such as buildings and equipment, human capital comprises knowledge and skills and social capital refers to the quality of relationships within an organisation or community. Social capital can be defi ned as the levels of trust, mutual responsibility and reciprocity that people experience in their interactions with each other and their sense of belonging to a particular com- munity with a shared identity and shared values (Putnam 2 000 ) . Social capital not only enhances feelings of safety and wellbeing, but also enables groups of people to work together towards shared goals. It enhances the resources of an organisation in multiple ways by increasing the fl ow of information, ideas, advice, help, opportuni- ties, contacts, emotional support and goodwill (Adler and Kwon 2002 ) . Baker and Dutton ( 2007 ) talk about the importance of developing positive social capital where this is developed for the benefi t of the greater good rather than increasing connec- tions for one group at the expense of others. It is the difference between inclusive and exclusive belonging, the latter being where group members maintain their sense 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools 147 of wellbeing by keeping βinferiorβ others out. Positive social capital helps everyone in an organisation fl ourish. You can determine the level of social capital within a school by the way people talk to and about each other, the quality of the βemotionalβ climate, and the extent to which this appears to be calm, supportive |
and purposeful. There is evidence that interventions that add to the levels of social capital can help pro- tect against the adverse effects of psychosocial stressors (Phongsavan et al. 2 006 ) , as well as promote prosocial behaviour and engagement (Jennings and Greenberg 2009 ) . Participation, empowerment and a sense of connection are central to a high level of social capital. Schools that are less hierarchical and didactic are more likely to involve all members of the school community in respectful interactions. Onyx and Bullen (2 000 ) identifi ed the following factors for measuring social capital in schools: β’ Levels of participation in the community β’ Proactivity in a social context and a sense of personal and collective effi cacy β’ Feelings of trust and safety β’ Tolerance of diversity β’ Feeling part of a team The quote below (cited in Roffey 2 008 ) illustrates several of these elements: Iβm just blown away by how kind the teachers are to students hereβ¦ but I think thatβs just a follow-on of the whole culture. You sit in the dining room and you never have to be mind- ful of what youβre saying, because everyoneβs on the same side β¦ the staff are supportive of each other, and I think that carries across into the classroom (teacher, high school). The health-promoting school aims to promote change in three broad areas: β’ Formal curriculum in health education β’ Connectedness and caring relationships between all stakeholders β’ Recognition of the important role the school has to promote health and develop- ment of links with the wider community to support this role One study (Sun and Stewart 2 007 ) found that the health-promoting school approach had the capacity to substantially affect the relationships that people had with one another and the school psychosocial environment. Intervention activities were developed in ten primary schools around issues identifi ed by each school com- munity, such as resilience, anti-bullying and communication skills. The fi ndings suggest a strong link between taking action on these issues and the promotion of social capital with specifi c regard to feelings of trust and safety, tolerance of diver- sity and work relationships with colleagues. This matches the experience of Antidote (Tew 2 010 ), who discovered that open, safe and equal debate around issues of improving the school environment impacted on relational dynamics and how people felt about themselves and their colleagues. The collection of data gathered multiple views, avoided blame and generated a wide spectrum of ideas. This process in itself increased the level of social capital and fostered creative solutions in which every- one felt they had ownership. 148 S. Roffey 9.3 The Ecology of Student and School Wellbeing There is rarely a straight line between cause and effect in human behaviour. Outcomes at any one time are the result of interactive, circular and accumulative causation. Relationships are rarely established or broken in an instant. Beliefs deter- mine actions that infl uence responses from others. This builds a history that leads to expectations and repeated cycles of interaction. Relationships are, however, not only rooted in personal constructs of the world, but also in the social and cultural milieu in which individuals are living. These offer a set of beliefs about how things βshouldβ be as well as impacting on the resources available. Bronfenbrenner ( 1979 ) fi rst gave prominence to an ecosystemic view of human development and others have taken and applied this model to related issues (de Jong 2 003 ; Felner 2 006 ; Friesthler et al. 2006 ) . This model says that the most important infl uence on a childβs development is what happens at the βmicro-levelβ and the interactions that individuals have with those in their immediate world. In schools, this is refl ected in a schoolβs mission to have as a central focus the βwhole childβ and all their experiences in order to optimise each studentβs development in all domains. This βwhole childβ focus appears to extend to the βwhole personβ and the acceptance of diversity across staff and families as well as students. The next level, the meso- system, comprises the beliefs, values and skills that determine the quality of rela- tionships throughout the school. At the exosystem are procedures and policies that impact on what happens at the microsystem and mesosystem. This includes resources that are available and access to these, working schedules and organisational expec- tations. At the macro-system are cultural norms, values and laws. These have a cascading infl uence throughout the other systems. The chronosystem recognises that systems are forever interacting and changing over time. Although elements of relationships within a school ecology may be addressed separately, none stands alone. Infl uences and actions are bidirectional both within and between levels of the system. Conversations in the staffroom impact on what happens in the classroom, how welcome a parent feels will, in part, be determined by policies and procedures that determine how families are βpositionedβ in the school. In a qualitative study exploring the development of emotional literacy in two second- ary and four primary schools in Australia, this ecology became apparent. See Fig. 9 .1 below (Roffey 2008 ) . Unless stated otherwise, all quotes in this chapter are taken from this research. All the schools in this study had been identifi ed as having actively raised awareness of emotional literacy and relational quality throughout the school. Teachers, students, school counsellors and school principals were interviewed to explore what had happened in this development, what difference it made to them and what they thought had infl uenced these outcomes. It became clear in the analysis that how students felt about their school and the relationships they experienced with teachers was mirrored by how teachers felt about their relationships with colleagues and with management. School culture and expectations fi ltered down to the interactions that took place. β¦ if you have a happy staff, then I think that leads to you being happy in your own classroom, and leads to happy relationships with the children, and the children with each other. (teacher) 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools 149 Fig. 9.1 An eco-systemic analysis of emotional literacy in the school context A related project in the UK explored the factors that enabled staff and students to engage most effectively with teaching and learning (Haddon et al. 2 005 ) . This took place in two schools over 3 years. The researchers found that fi ve aspects of a school were linked to peopleβs capacity to fully engage. These are encapsulated in the acronym CLASI β how Capable, Listened to, Accepted, Safe and Included each person felt. These aspects impacted on the emotional climate of the school, formal and informal communications, day-to-day practices and the way relation- ships were experienced. This study also identifi ed factors critical to the development of positive relation- ships throughout the school for both students and staff. Again there is signifi cant overlap between what happens for students and what happens for teachers in terms of emotional safety; time, space and permission given by the school for relationship building and the sense of feeling connected not only to friends but also to others in the school context. A focus on relationships throughout the school has a positive ripple effect impact- ing on not only on wellbeing, but also the motivation and performance of both stu- dents and their teachers (Martin and Dowson 2 009 ) . The development of a whole school approach that enhances social capital is effective in many dimensions. 150 S. Roffey 9.4 The Micro-level: The Whole Child A vision for the wellbeing of the whole child would appear to be a central driver for relational quality in school. We build an acceptance of others, all are different but all have a place. (principal, primary school) Thereβs absolutely an emphasis on the whole person and the whole school β¦ everyone will tell you that you are a valued member of the team β¦ (school counsellor) A focus on the whole child has dual connotations. On the one hand, it means that each individual is valued and accepted for who they are, not just what they can achieve. It is also concerned with education in all domains of a childβs development, cognitive, physical, emotional, social and spiritual. This last domain is a broad term covering values, ethics and what brings purpose and meaning to our lives. It addresses one of the three βPillars of Authentic Happinessβ in Seligmanβs seminal work on Authentic Happiness (2 002 ) , the others being positive feelings/experiences and deep engagement. The challenge to schools in valuing the whole child is related to inclusion and poli- cies on admission and exclusion (Rose 2010 ) . A positive approach begins with a belief that acceptance of every student β with all their needs and challenges β is both necessary and possible. As the following illustrates, this is not simply a question of resources. Case Study As part of her work for the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child , Gerison Lansdown has visited schools around the world . S he was particularly impressed by a government primary school in Nepal . The far - sighted head teacher had decided to include 12 blind children alongside his mainstream pupils . He had minimal resources but a determination and belief , a pparently shared by his staff , t hat these children deserved an education . Disability is seen as β bad karma β in Nepal and children are often marginalised or even rejected if they are not β normal β. These pupils , from across the country , lived in very basic accommodation attached to the school . Their hostel would be unlikely to meet any Western standard of health and safety . T hey were fi rst taught Braille and then integrated into classrooms with other pupils , paired with sighted children so they could help each other . The sighted students were often astonished to fi nd that their visually impaired classmates were often as able , and sometimes more capable , of achieving than they were . Gerison was invited to speak with the blind children about their experiences . This in itself was unusual in a country where the child β s voice is rarely encouraged . The young students said it was the fi rst time they had friendships , that the teachers were kind to them . One young boy , aged about eight , said that coming to school had been the best and possibly the only positive experience of his life . He had been kicked by a drunken father , told he was useless and should never have been born β but when he came to school he realised that not only could he learn but also he could be loved β h e felt included and part of something . His life was β going some- where β and wasn β t just being kicked aside . 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools 151 In another example, the Catholic Education Offi ce in Melbourne has made Student Wellbeing a central platform of policy. The aim is to promote school com- munities where the whole person is valued. β¦ students (and staff) are given every opportunity to be affi rmed in their dignity and worth, confi rmed in their personhood and assisted to grow to their full potential (CECV 1 994 :2) Student Wellbeing Coordinators in primary schools have regular professional development to enhance their knowledge base and confi dence in developing the practical applications of their role. Many have taken a Masterβs course at the University of Melbourne where their research projects are building a strong evi- dence base about the development of wellbeing in the school context. Key elements of student wellbeing are positive self-regard, respect for others, positive rela- tionships, responsible behaviours and personal resilience. Alongside this comes the active promotion of the values of love, respect, compassion, tolerance, forgiveness, repentance, reconciliation and justice. Many of these values are implicated in the development of positive relationships. The next section explores both specifi c interactions and the impact of these interac- tions across the whole school system. 9.5 The Meso-level: |
Relational Values and Skills Across the School 9.5.1 TeacherβStudent Relationships: High Expectations, Care and Participation According to a meta-analysis by Cornelius-White (2 007 ) , learner-centred teacherβ student relationships are effective in many dimensions. Relationships that are non- directive, empathic, warm and encourage thinking and learning have correlations with the following: increased participation, critical thinking, student satisfaction, perceived and actual achievement, self-esteem, positive motivation, social connection and attendance. There are also correlations with low drop-out rates and reduction in disruptive behaviour. Hattieβs meta-analysis of over 800 meta-analyses relating to effective education (Hattie 2009 ) also says that schools need to create environments where students can feel safe to learn and explore their understanding. Mistakes must be welcomed as part of this process. As each student constructs their learning differently, teachers need to have feedback from their pupils so they know how to make learning meaningful. Feedback is commonly one-way, where teachers tell students how they are doing rather than students telling teachers how they have made sense of what has been taught. Hattieβs fi ndings also show that too often students are written off. He maintains that high expectations for all students are essential for effective education. This is synonymous with one of the major protective factors for children at risk. 152 S. Roffey Many researchers, including Hattie, have commented on the need for adults to care for children. This has been succinctly and powerfully articulated by Bronfenbrenner ( 2004 ) : βIn order to develop, a child needs the enduring, irrational involvement of one or more adults in care and joint activity with the child. Somebody has to be crazy about that kidβ. Many teachers go into their profession with a passion both for teaching and a determination to do their best for their students. They often become disillusioned because of overwhelming workloads, pressure to βteach to testβ and the challenges of managing diffi cult behaviour (Galton and McBeath 2 008 ; Roffey 2011b ) . The ethic of care can become lost in the day-to-day demands. This can lead to teachers saying that they care about their students but young people not experiencing this. What students say does help them feel they matter are the following teacher atti- tudes and positive behaviours, many of which take little additional time but a high level of awareness: The following quotes are from students cited in Robertson (2 006 ) in the USA and the NSW Commission for Children and Young People ( 2009 ) in Australia; ages range from kindergarten to undergraduate: β’ If you know our names it helps ! β’ They smile at me . β’ They will be nice to you . β’ Don β t say one student is better than another . β’ The best teachers are hopeful that we will succeed . They believe in us . β’ My favourite teacher was a good listener , she let me explain . She didn β t embar- rass me in class when I didn β t know the answer . β’ I think they should relate lessons to our lives , society , and maybe even laugh once in a while ? β’ A good teacher knows how to control students without screaming at them . β’ He makes people feel good about themselves , because they β ve achieved something . β Cos he sort of helps you achieve it . Caring teachers can provide a motivational trigger for both engagement with learn- ing and prosocial behaviour. The educational philosopher Nel Noddings, who has writ- ten extensively on the moral imperative for an ethic of care in education, sums this up. It is obvious that children will work harder and do things β even odd things like adding fractions β for people they love and trust. (Noddings 1 988 ) Students associate their own and their teachersβ positive emotional states with good teaching and good learning (Moore and Kuol 2 007 ) . Pupils warm to teachers who are usually cheerful and optimistic. Teachers here are focused on your life β so you donβt bring home stress to school. They really care for us. (student) Article 12 in the United Nations Convention on the Right of the Child says that children have a right to an opinion, and for that opinion to be heard in all matters concerning the child. Childrenβs ability to make decisions and to be experts in their own lives is often underestimated. When given the opportunity and encouragement children and young people can show surprising insight. This is illustrated below. 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools 153 Case Study Account of a conference presentation by 9 β 12 year olds on their study of maturity ( Yardley 2 009 , cited with permission ) We listen as the group considers whether maturity necessarily makes you happy , and whether it can also make you sad β β the idea of it makes you happy β says one child β the reality of it can sometimes make you unhappy β, β because β β o ffers another child β β of the responsibility you might not want β. As these thoughts begin to excite our own synapses into action , the group then moves on to discuss the β being β and β doing β aspects of maturity as they have encountered them in their lives , including those responsibili- ties they willingly accept and feel comfortable with , and the responsibilities that they fear , feel ill - equipped to shoulder or simply fi nd irritating or β unfair β. In the same session we hear the students consider whether maturity can help people cope when life is painful β o r when they have a broken heart . W e might feel some sympathetic shivers of recognition as we listen to these 9 β 12 year olds talk about what kind of things break their own and other people β s hearts β βw hen you are betrayed β, βw hen you lose your friends , or someone special that you love β, βw hen you lose your home or your country β, βw hen you are humiliated β, βw hen someone dies β. Eliciting and hearing student views has implications for the relationship that teachers have with their students. It shows interest and respect. The NSW Commission (2 009 ) study found that children want adults in the school community to take them seriously and act on issues that concern them. When that doesnβt happen they feel misunderstood and powerless. Students said that not only do children and young people have good ideas but also bring a different perspective. They felt that all children should have a right to be involved, not just a select few. 9.5.2 Relationships Between Students Relationships between students are often a focus of discussion on issues related to bullying and rejection. A positive psychology view, however, explores the factors that contribute to inclusion, friendship and support between pupils. Once in place these reduce the incidence of negative social behaviours. McGrath and Noble ( 2010 ) explored commonalities between six primary and fi ve secondary schools that enjoyed low levels of bullying. In these, they found the following: β’ An effective leadership working constructively with teachers to implement a whole school vision for safety and wellbeing β’ An effective behaviour policy β’ Planning for a βrelationship cultureβ which adopted strategies such as coopera- tive learning, cross age social activities and actively teaching prosocial skills and values β’ A high priority placed on student wellbeing 154 S. Roffey The social dimensions of school and how connected students feel are increasingly acknowledged as central to their engagement and wellbeing. When children are asked about school, friendship fi gures signifi cantly. This is from their earliest days at school throughout high school (NSW Commission 2009 ) . Children need to know how to interact well with others, what is involved to establish and maintain friendships, how to operate in a group and what is involved in resolving confl icts. The introduction of social and emotional learning programmes has been increasing with some positive outcomes for students in many dimensions. In the UK, the Social and Emotional Aspects of Learning (SEAL) programme was introduced to primary schools in 2005 and secondary schools in 2007 (DfES 2 005b ) . Evaluation in 84 primary schools in Sheffi eld between 2005 and 2007 indicated high levels of success (Pullinger 2 008 ) , including improvements in behaviour and the way children were able to express feelings. Some pupils had learnt to sort out low-level confl ict on their own and incidents of bullying were reduced. Payton et al. ( 2008 ) analysed three large-scale reviews of research on the impact of social and emotional learning (SEL) programmes on elementary and middle school students from Kindergarten to Grade 8 in the USA. The reviews included 317 studies and involved 324,303 children. The researchers found raised achievement scores, increased social and emotional skills in test situations, improved social behaviours, more positive views about the self, others and school and reduced anxiety and depression. The delivery of programmes is relevant to their effectiveness. High levels of control and didactic pedagogy do not change behaviour from the inside out. Circle Solutions is a framework for group interaction, based in positive psychology, which aims to promote relationship skills and a caring classroom ethos. It is a pedagogy based in the principles of inclusion, respect, safety and democracy (Roffey 2006 ) . An evaluation of its implementation in eight primary schools indicated that positive outcomes require teachers to believe that relationships are important and facilitate circles in a way that is congruent with the principles and intended outcomes (McCarthy 2 009 ) . When this happens, it facilitates both self-awareness and positive relationships between students and also between teachers and students. β¦ the children that I had been working with since March (were) working together as a team and creating friendships and bonds β¦ No longer were they being disruptive and not talking to one another β¦ (Undergraduate student facilitator of Circle Solutions) 9.5.3 Staff Relationships Positive interactions amongst staff are strongly associated with teacher wellbeing on several fronts. When teachers are burnt out they feel a lack of competence and often distance themselves from their peers. Pillay et al. (2 005 ) refer to this as βdepersonalisationβ. This negative spiral can be interrupted by fostering positive relationships where 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools 155 colleagues are helped to identify their strengths and provided with emotional and practical support to deal with what may seem to be overwhelming issues. It helps when others acknowledge that they too have struggled. When teachers felt able to seek support from their colleagues, especially the school executive, they were better able to manage stress (Howard and Johnson 2 002 ) . When teachers talk about what helps them feel they belong to their school, they say that being greeted, especially by name and with a smile, being asked their opin- ion, having their efforts acknowledged and strengths valued, all make a difference to how they feel about themselves and their colleagues. Their relational needs are just the same as their pupils! Many teachers appear to feel that despite putting their hearts and backs into what they do, few notice or comment. This decreases motivation and can lead to a toxic environment with low social capital. When the opposite happens it provides a build- ing block for developing both individual wellbeing and school culture. My confi dence has increasedβ¦ it could be a product of this different energy at the schoolβ¦ Even receiving a compliment, like βyouβre doing a great jobββ¦ (school counsellor, high school) The way staff relate to each other also provides a model for how students behave. It comes from the staff fi rst - you can see the staff getting on, and having a bit of funβ¦so (students) know that weβre all friends, and thatβs an example of good behaviour (teacher, primary school) 9.5.4 HomeβSchool Relationships: Positive Partnerships The rationale for positive homeβschool relationships is far reaching and congruent with the multiple stakeholder perspective of health-promoting schools. Positive interactions with families motivate children in school (Hoover-Dempsey et al. 2005 ) . When parents feel |
comfortable and valued, they will pass on messages to their children about the value of school and this increases the respect that students have for staff (Pianta and Walsh 1 996 ) . Supportive relationships may also increase parental confi dence in their role and give them strategies to parent more effectively (Roffey 2 004 ) . It may also support the educative process when families become involved in backing up what teachers are doing in school. There is now a substantive literature on schoolβcommunity relationships and the need for all stakeholders to work together. This requires awareness of both the formal and informal power struc- tures in schools and ways in which these may promote or inhibit constructive relationships. I t is often the families of younger children and those with special educational needs that have most to do with the school, together with aspirational parents who want to ensure their child gets the best possible education. The challenge is to engage with as many families as possible. 156 S. Roffey Teachers may, however, be wary of parents and concerned about the potential for criticism. They may perceive them as demanding or unreasonable or alternatively inadequate or uncaring. There can be a power struggle between parents who βknow their rightsβ and educators who βknow whatβs bestβ. It is usually incumbent on schools to be highly professional in their approach to parents and behave in ways to support collaborative relationships. Partnership is often used to describe this pro- cess but this requires an approach from school that sees parents as equal and acknowledges the expertise of the parent on their child (Roffey 2 002 ) . It can require high levels of emotional literacy from the professionals. 9.6 Exo-level This comprises the structural elements of policy, resources and organisation. It is exemplifi ed in the congruence of policies, the ways in which these policies are developed, and the communication practices that keep everyone well informed without being overwhelmed. A behaviour policy based in rules, rewards and sanc- tions β including exclusion β does not fi t comfortably with a school ethos in which relationships have a high profi le. A restorative approach, which emphasises respon- sibility to the community and repairing of βharmβ, is a better fi t. It fosters the sense of connection that vulnerable and often challenging young people need. The way resources are prioritised demonstrates the vision of the school. Time is a prime example of this. Teachers who say βthere is no timeβ available for building relationships because of the need to cover curriculum content are making a state- ment about what is seen as important. When social and emotional learning is fi gured into the timetable, there are expectations on everyone to refl ect on how they interact with each other. 9.7 The Macro-level: School Leaders and School Culture As the job of leaders is to develop a shared culture (Fullan 2003 ) , this requires a leadership style that both trusts and empowers others. Transformational leaders (Leithwood et al. 1 999 ) are said to manifest values of collaboration and a commit- ment to democratic processes. Everyone being involved in the process of change in itself builds social capital. First and foremost, it has to be collaborative. You canβt have someone from the top saying: βthis is what weβre going to doβ. You need to give everyone the opportunityβ¦ to have own- ership of it and to put their thoughts to it (teacher, high school) I guess thereβs a real acceptance of each otherβs roles, and a feeling that weβre all equal in this, weβre all in this boat together, letβs work as best as we can together. I think that does increase confi dence levels within staff β¦ (school counsellor, high school) 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools 157 The most powerful infl uence on relational quality in a school is found with the school leader and the leadership team. Their vision of the school and how well they are able to both communicate this effectively to others and also inspire their endorse- ment is fundamental to positive change (Roffey 2 007 ) . Channer and Hope (2 001 ) found that transformational leaders demonstrated a strong belief in other people. Although their instinct was to take charge, they used the team around them to deliver a goal and valued excellence in others as well as themselves. Where relationships are a core feature of the schoolβs vision, it is incumbent on leaders that they be seen to βwalk the talkβ. Although the possession of both generic and job-specifi c knowledge and skills is necessary, emotional intelli- gence, both personal and interpersonal, is central to being an effective principal. Scott ( 2003 ) found that, out of 11 core competencies of effective principles, eight are related to their levels of emotional intelligence. He summarised the qualities and approaches that enable leaders to develop child friendly school communities (Scott 2005 ) . Such leaders: β’ Have a clear vision for their school β’ Have a commitment to making a positive difference for all students β’ Are able to stay calm and keep things in perspective when things donβt go well β’ Have a sense of humour β’ Are fl exible and responsive to changing demands β’ Are self aware and know their strengths and limitations β’ Reserve hasty judgement but make tough decisions when necessary β’ Demonstrate empathy β’ Have a positive outlook β’ Are able to listen, empower others and work as a team member as well as take initiative and be authoritative β’ Keep the βbig pictureβ in focus in analysing problems β’ Are open to learning and to support β’ Are resilient and able to persevere in the face of challenges Singh and BilIingsley (1 996 ) found that school leaders who gave feedback, encouragement and were in favour of participatory decision making fostered com- mitment within their staff. A further factor less evident in the educational literature but increasingly in positive psychology research is the importance of a positive, βcan doβ attitude by leaders. There is a body of evidence that shows that an upbeat mood and optimistic outlook is infectious and can support the development of positive relationships and associated change (Avolio and Gardner 2005 ) . There is a synergy between the qualities of effective principals and the features of a both learner centred and health-promoting school. School leaders have a critical role in ensuring an effective learning environment for every student β from the most able and compliant to the most disadvantaged and diffi cult. To do this they need to attend to the quality of their interactions with staff but also ensure that policies within the school are congruent. 158 S. Roffey 9.8 Conclusion and a Word About Sustainability Although academic outcomes are still the primary measure of school success, there are indications that there is increasing attention being paid by governments to the levels of social capital within schools and the positive differences that a school can make for all its students, especially the more disadvantaged. Keeping the evidence at the forefront of political debate is necessary in order for future policies to refl ect effective practice. We have a crisis in many communities with increased antisocial behaviour and a strong focus on individual rights rather than community wellbeing. If soci- ety is going to thrive in the future, then there needs to be greater understanding and skills in building positive relationships. These need to focus on the βweβ, what is best for all of us, rather than the βmeβ, what is in my interest alone. Even though many may say that it is parents who should be supporting the social and emo- tional development of children, not all can manage this. If our children do not have the opportunity to learn about positive healthy relationships in their com- munities they need to learn these in school, in the social world set up for learning and teaching. This learning requires both a specifi c knowledge content and a context and school environment that is congruent. This includes the examples set by teachers (Roffey 2010 ) . Current teacher education programmes and professional development pro- grammes often fail to address the ethic of care and its impact on the educational process (Owens and Ennis 2 005 ) . Where teacher education courses raise awareness of the impact that relationships in schools have on academic and behavioural out- comes they help to ensure that new entrants learn what is involved in establishing and maintaining the relationships that facilitate an effective learning environment. The Hunter Institute of Mental Health fosters this for teacher education courses around Australia with their publication C onnections . School leaders can be powerful initiators and drivers of relational quality in school and need support from their own managers to encourage a whole school, whole child approach. There also needs to be an expectation that leaders will access professional development to foster their emerging knowledge and skills. Nothing succeeds like success. Celebrating and sharing good practice and the outcomes gained is effective in inspiring positive change. Doppler ( 2008 ) reports on the outcomes of using a relationship and restorative approach in her school. These are the edited highlights (as cited in Roffey 2011a ) : β’ Parents and students have responded positively to the programme. β’ Personal accountability for actions has occurred and students have been empow- ered to βmake things rightβ both academically and socially. β’ Student achievement has increased with results being above average. β’ Student suspension rates have dropped to nil in the past 3 terms. β’ Staff and students are empowered to repair and rebuild relationships negating the need for children to be referred to the offi ce and executive. β’ Mistakes are viewed as opportunities for insight. 9 Developing Positive Relationships in Schools 159 β’ There is a real βcan doβ attitude. β’ Data indicates a more motivated and engaged student population. β’ Student attendance rates are excellent. β’ A higher participation rate of students where previously only the βeliteβ entered. β’ Staff feel more confi dent, valued and supported. β’ Attendance rates at events indicate a community that feels included and valued. 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Sue Roffey is an educational psychologist, Adjunct Associate Professor at the School of Education, University of Western Sydney and an Honorary Lecturer at University College, London. She is a prolifi c author on behavioural and relational issues, works internationally as an educational consultant, and is a founder member of the Wellbeing Australia network. Sue is on the editorial board of E ducational and Child Psychology and a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts . Contact: sue@sueroffey.com Chapter 10 Positive Relationships at Work Sue Langley 10.1 Introduction Most people spend a signifi cant amount of time at work, therefore being employed in an organisation that allows people to experience positive emotions; engagement and meaning can make a considerable difference to overall life satisfaction and individual fl ourishing. How many people do work in positive institutions that allow them to experience a sense of positive accomplishment every day? What impact does this have on the individual and the organisation? What can individuals and organisations do to create positive relationships at work? This chapter explores answers to some of these questions. Based on their organisational surveys over the years, Gallup suggests that there are a few key elements that increase employee engagement (Gallup 2 008 ) . Their 12 elements are: 1. I know what is expected of me at work. 2. I have the materials and equipment I need to do my work right. 3. At work, I have the opportunity to do what I do best every day. 4. In the last 7 days, I have received recognition or praise for doing good work. 5. My supervisor, or someone at work, seems to care about me as a person. 6. There is someone at work who encourages my development. 7. At work, my opinions seem to count. 8. The mission or purpose of my organisation makes me feel that my job is important. 9. My associates and fellow employees are committed to doing quality work. 10. I have a best friend at work. 11. In the last 6 months, someone at work has talked to me about my progress. 12. The last year, I have had opportunities at work to learn and grow. S. Langley (*) Langley Group Pty Ltd, 1 Gunshot Alley, Suakin Drive , Mosman , NSW, 2088 , Australia e-mail: sue@langleygroup.com.au S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 163 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_10, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 164 S. Langley Fig. 10.1 Positive psychology model Β© emotional intelli- gence worldwide pty ltd Several of these elements link closely with positive relationships and emotional intelligence, such as βhaving a best friend at workβ, βgetting to do what I am good atβ and βhaving a supervisor who cares about meβ. These elements may come with good leadership, such as encouraging development, valuing opinions and making someone feel important. Positive psychology provides insights into these elements with a fl ourishing mindset for individuals and organisations. Kim Cameron, a leader in the fi eld of positive organisational scholarship, believes: βEvidence regarding the importance of subjective wellbeing, positive emo- tions, character strengths, and virtues such as gratitude, optimism, and forgiveness has provided leaders in organisations with a great deal of insight regarding the power of the positiveβ. (Bernstein 2 003 ) . This chapter will explore positive relationships in line with the following frame- work based on Seligmanβs four pillars of positive psychology (ABC Australia 2 009 ) . Understanding more about positive emotion (and emotions in general), engagement and a strength-based approach, and meaning can help build positive relationships in the workplace (Fig . 1 0.1 ). 10.2 Emotions in the Workplace Human beings are emotional and social creatures. Emotions are a consistent, if ever changing, presence. They provide important data to help both survival and general social functioning. Ekman (1 999 ) says: ββ¦ the fundamental function of emotion is to mobilize the organism to deal quickly with important interpersonal encountersβ. All relationships are suffused with emotion, whether this is positive or negative, so understanding more about specifi c feelings can help improve relationships in the 10 Positive Relationships at Work 165 workplace. Specifi cally, it is helpful to understand how emotions and moods affect others and contribute to or detract from those relationships. Employee moods and emotions infl uence several critical elements in organisations β such as job performance, turnover, creativity, decision making. Research supports what may be seen as common sense, although as Voltaire once said, βCommon sense is not so commonβ. Consider the following: John strides into the offi ce. Heβs had a rough morning. His two year old had been up half the night sick so heβs had little sleep. Due to the chaos in the house he missed his usual train, so he is now stressed, rushing and is late. His |
routine is messed up. He has a meeting at 9.30 am that he knows heβs not prepared for and heβs irritable and anxious. As he strides past two of his colleagues they greet him with a cheery βMorning John.β He grunts back, thinking, βHow can someone be so annoyingly happy in the morning,β and noisily dumps his stuff at his desk. As John bangs around getting settled in his colleagues say to each other βOh no, better steer clear of John this morning. Heβs in one of his moods again.β This type of interaction happens every day in many offi ces. Does it make John a bad person? Of course not: he is expressing emotions based in a number of chal- lenges in his life. He is unaware of how his emotions are affecting those around him, the impact on his team members and how his mood affects the climate of the offi ce. This situation may be common in the workplace β one personβs negative emotion infl uences those around them, especially if they have a big personality, high status or are senior in the hierarchy. Does it mean that in order to have positive relation- ships, we have to be happy all the time; that we have to fake it and pretend to be joyous when we are feeling anxious or down? This is not the case as we will see when we explore negative emotions. 10.2.1 Positive Emotions People in positive moods are more receptive and open to new ideas. This can assist organisations when they are facing change or when individuals are dealing with negotiations and confl ict resolution. People are more creative when experiencing positive moods, which helps organisations come up with new ideas that give them the edge over their competitors (Caruso and Salovey 2004 ) . Dan Pink cites Google as an organisation that allows its team 1 day a week to work on whatever they want, as long as they show what they have done. During this time, employees have come up with numerous new ideas and fi xes, including Gmail (Pink 2 009 ) . New organisa- tions need staff who do not necessarily fi t a conformist mould and trained to obey orders to the letter β many still operate like this despite the fact that research shows that it is to neither the organisationβs benefi t nor the individualsβ. Autonomy is becoming more important in organisations to keep ahead (Pink 2 009 ) . Experiencing and expressing positive emotion would seem to enhance per- formance in individuals, teams and organisations (Barsade and Gibson 2 007 ) . 166 S. Langley Positive emotions that are expressed through effective communication infl uence cooperation and pro-social behaviour, which is more likely to lead to positive performance outcomes. Positive relationships and positive emotion at work can also help reduce sick leave and absenteeism, as happier, more optimistic people tend to be healthier, have stronger immune systems and recover quicker from illness. Research has found that people who are in the upper reaches of happiness on psychological tests develop about 50% more antibodies than average in response to fl u vaccines (Lemonick 2 005 ) . Case Study One organisation has reduced their sick leave by 40% over a 5-year period by embedding positive psychology tools and techniques into the culture and business practices. These included gratitude lists, best things, using strengths for goal set- ting, monitoring the positive/negative ratio in meetings and many more. Camp Quality, Sydney, Australia 10.2.2 Negative Emotions Positive psychology does not suggest that people need to be happy and joyous at work all the time. There is research to suggest that people can be more accurate, more able to fi nd problems and do detailed work more effectively when in a slightly neutral to negative mood (Caruso and Salovey 2 004 ) . Negative moods are important for our survival and not to be ignored (Ekman 1999 ) . Positive psychology helps us explore how to ensure our negative emotions do not become destructive. Reviewing the earlier situation with John, we can see that positive relationships can be undermined if people are experiencing and expressing negative emotions in ways that impact others. Johnβs colleagues recognise the pattern in him and may have a tendency to steer clear of him, when βhe is in one of his moodsβ. This will impact the performance of the team in several dimensions: maybe others start to shut John out of key discussions because it is easier to do that than to deal with his mood; maybe when they do include him, he is more likely to fi nd fault and be aggressive in his responses and make his colleagues feel belittled or uncomfortable. Over time, the relationships at work may start to break down, cooperation is likely to decrease and the team may end up in a downward spiral. Alternatively, people who express authentic positive emotions tend to create upward spirals and βspring outward as well, infusing, connecting and energising whole networks, communicates and organisationsβ (Fredrickson and Dutton 2008 ) . A simple example of this is the person on the checkout at the supermarket or the bus driver in the morning. If they are positive, it has a positive infl uence on customers. Top performing leaders elicited laughter from their subordinates three times as often, on average, than mid-performing leaders (Goleman and Boyatzis 2008 ) . Negative emotions between individuals can cause confl ict, although at a deeper level, this is more often initiated by a clash of values. Negative emotions, however, 10 Positive Relationships at Work 167 maintain the confl ict and/or prevent individuals dealing with it effectively. We know that positive emotions infl uence the ability to resolve confl ict (Barsade and Gibson 2 007 ) and negative emotions are more likely to exacerbate diffi culties. 10.3 Positive Emotions and Relationships Positive emotion has a signifi cant impact on positive relationships at work. We are drawn to those who are happier and more optimistic. People like to be around such individuals and often feel inspired by them to do better (Carver et al. 2010 ) . Increasing levels of positive emotion in the workplace is therefore a valid aim. This needs strategic planning and action from different levels of an organisation. Positive psychology research has provided insights that can translate into changes in practice in the workplace β more than just changes in reward and recognition programmes or traditional organisational practices. Above a certain point, money doesnβt increase happiness and wellbeing (Kahneman and Deaton 2 010 ) , although organisational psychology and motiva- tional research show that a standard and fair level of remuneration is necessary to avoid de-motivation. Once a personβs salary reaches a certain level and these levels change depending on the country, further increases may lead to an improved sense of success but do not necessarily increase day-to-day happiness. There is a big difference in happiness between earning $10,000 and $50,000; whereas there is little difference in happiness between earning $100,000 and $150,000. In the former, the extra money can buy a person out of poverty, poor health and adversity. Positive feelings, although perhaps subject to some infl uence from income, are largely driven by temperament, personal relationships and activities that create interest and fl ow (Diener and Kahneman 2009 ) . Case Study One βnot for profi tβ organisation, which doesnβt have the ability to offer signifi - cantly increased salaries, has embedded many ideas taken from positive psychol- ogy, including the three blessings and gratitude ideas into their workplace. They have a βGoofi ttiβ board up in the reception area of each offi ce and each person before they leave the offi ce writes down the best thing that has happened to them today. This has led to some wonderful results in the relationships around the offi ce as well as increasing positive emotion. The board highlights things about work colleagues that were previously unknown, so the team are starting to learn more about each other. This in turns helps them understand each other better and therefore able to handle confl ict and diffi cult situations more clearly. It also helps team members go home in a better mood, which apparently is contributing to nicer home lives for their partners β instead of going home ruminating on the worst aspects of the day they go home focused on the best things. Camp Quality, Sydney, Australia 168 S. Langley 10.4 Positive Emotions and Collaboration Happier people are more altruistic and therefore more likely to help each other β cooperation produces results. Altruistic emotions and behaviours are also associ- ated with higher levels of fl ourishing both physically and psychologically (Post 2 005 ) . Less cooperation can lead to greater confl ict, and more importantly for organisations, poorer fi nancial performance (Barsade et al. 2 000 ) . Positive emotions also help broaden peopleβs feeling of self/other overlap in the beginning of a new relationship (Fredrickson 2 001 ) . Regular positive, in-the- moment connections increase feelings of inclusion in a team and a sense of belong- ing. This links to Maslowβs motivation theory (Maslow 1943 ) and also in turn builds more positive relationships and more chances of cooperation. Buckingham and Coffman (1 999 ) found that strong relationships with co- workers increase commitment between each other. For Camp Quality, in the case study above, the βGoofi ttiβ board helps build those strong relationships. With a different culture, an organisation can fi nd that team members are encouraged to be so individualistic that collaboration and positive relationships are hampered. Case Study One organisation has a culture of driving for results β everything is about hitting the numbers, which is the focus of every individual in the organisation. This culture pro- vides a toxic environment as in the pursuit of the mighty dollar the leaders and man- agers are crushing people underfoot. There are no one-on-one conversations around how the team is doing in general, no empathic or supportive conversations when a person is struggling. The key thing is that if you have not hit your numbers over a 3-month period you are out. The pressure on each person is enormous as they live under the threat of losing their job. This kind of stress has implications β people donβt think as clearly when their brains are under pressure and the levels of neurotransmit- ters and glucose donβt allow the cognitive brain to fi re as well as it needs to. This can, and has, lead to dubious decisions being made not always in the best interests of the team or organisation. Each person is often so under pressure they are not functioning well; they are not enjoying work; they are experiencing less and less positive emotions; they are more likely to be directive and abrupt with team members; there is very little teamwork and cooperation; no-one will do anything for anyone else as it may affect their ability to hit their numbers and keep their job. All of this has led to a huge turnover rate β in some countries β of nearly 50%. With an estimate of 150% of salary to replace an employee this is placing an enormous cost on the business. With the above example, this organisation may not choose to exchange the results gained from the culture for a few dollars off the cost base due to reduced turnover. The results may be the ultimate prize. Organisational psychology research shows that organisations need a range of elements in place for individuals and organisations to be successful, and positive relationships are a signifi cant contribu- tor to this. 10 Positive Relationships at Work 169 Toxic emotions and relationships happen all the time in organisations and between individuals and often not intentionally. For example, a behaviour that may have proved successful in the past as an independent contributor becomes destruc- tive when that person changes role β in particular moves into a leadership position. 10.5 Building Positive Relationships Through Individuals Fowler and Christakis ( 2009 , 2010 ) found that if a person is happy, the likelihood that a close friend will also be happy is increased by 15%. At two degrees of separation, this likelihood is increased by 10%, and |
at three degrees of separation, this increase of prob- ability falls to 6% and the effect is still signifi cant. Their βThree Degrees of Infl uenceβ have effects on individualβs personal and professional lives. Reverting to the Gallup item about having a best friend at work, they found this correlated most highly in the most productive workgroups. Gallup also observed that employees who report having a best friend at work were: β’ 43% more likely to report having received praise or recognition for their work in the last 7 days β’ 37% more likely to report that someone at work encourages their development β’ 35% more likely to report co-worker commitment to quality β’ 28% more likely to report that in the last 6 months, someone at work has talked to them about their progress β’ 27% more likely to report that the mission of their company makes them feel their job is important β’ 27% more likely to report that their opinions seem to count at work β’ 21% more likely to report that at work, they have the opportunity to do what they do best every day This last point links to positive psychology research around strengths β ensuring that employees have the opportunity to do what they do best every day. 10.6 Engagement at Work: Using Strengths Positive relationships may be enhanced at work if institutions encourage people to use their strengths every day β again this links to the third item on the Gallup list. A standard tool in many organisations is the 360Β°-feedback tool, where people assess themselves, and then choose managers, direct reports, peers and maybe clients to assess them too, on a range of behaviours or competencies. Interestingly, the fi rst place a recipient of such a report looks at is the page about development opportunities or the Bottom Ten behaviours. Exploring where improvements can be made is important, yet perhaps counterintuitive. If people spend all their time focusing on doing things they are not good at and donβt like doing, it will affect morale and 170 S. Langley motivation and perhaps reduce performance. A strengths-based approach, as explored by the positive psychology research, suggests looking at what employees do well and encouraging this in their day-to-day work. Strengths-based research indicates that people are happier and fi nd more fulfi lment when they are playing to their strengths (Linley et al. 2 009 ) . The VIA (Values in Action) Signature Strengths, devised by Chris Peterson and Martin Seligman, focuses on 24 specifi c strengths classifi ed under six broad virtues. These virtues are considered universal across all cultures β wisdom, courage, human- ity, justice, temperance and transcendence. Substantial research into these strengths has resulted in the Character Strengths and Virtues Handbook , which provides detailed data into each of the 24 areas, including gender, age, cross-cultural elements and inter- ventions (Peterson and Seligman 2004 ) . Utilising these strengths in the workplace can lead to increased engagement for employees and in turn increased positive relation- ships if used in a constructive manner to support organisational goals. The VIA can be completed free of charge online and embedded into the workplace. Case Study Consider an organisation that asks each member of the team to complete the VIA Signature Strengths test online when they join the organisation. Each employeeβs top fi ve strengths are posted on their intranet page (including the CEO) and everyone is encouraged to use this information when they are working with each other. The CEO encourages team members to consider his strengths when they are asking for approval of new projects. This aids communication and builds positive relationships. Individual strengths are also used to create growth targets in addition to standard key performance indicators (KPIs). Each person identifi es and agrees one or two growth targets aligned with their strengths and the business goals and at the end of the year they are rewarded if the target is achieved. Camp Quality Sydney, NSW, Australia Case Study Consider the leadership team who complete their strengths test regularly throughout the year, and share these as a team when they are offsite discussing the strategy for the future. The team as a whole builds stronger relationships by working to these strengths and encouraging each other to use them every day in the workplace. Langley Group 10.7 Flow Another element to consider for engagement is the work of Csikszentmihalyi around βfl owβ states. Flow is the mental state that occurs when a person is fully immersed in an activity with a feeling of energised focus, full involvement and success in the process of the activity or βthe capacity for full engagement in an activityβ (Csikszentmihalyi 2 003 ) . Flow is focused intrinsic motivation; it is such absorption in a task that time disappears. It is about being contained yet energised by the task. Flow can be experienced at any time, yet for most people, it will be when they are doing something they do best. 10 Positive Relationships at Work 171 The experience of more positive emotion and perhaps a higher sense of accom- plishment can translate to positive business outcomes. Understanding strengths can help build positive relationships at work in various ways. Often, organisations will ask employees to complete a personality or thinking styles profi le in order to improve team understanding, which may not be as benefi - cial as strengths and are often used as an excuse for behaviour. The ideal use is to understand and appreciate everyoneβs individual strengths and use the knowledge to communicate more effectively. Whether an organisation is exploring personality strengths, learned skills or signature strengths, using these in the workplace can help build stronger relationships and higher performance. When strong engagement is felt in a workgroup, employees believe that their co-workers will help them during times of stress and challenge. In this day of rapid- fi re change, reorganisation, mergers and acquisitions, having best friends at work may be the true key to effective change integration and adaptation. When compared to those who donβt, employees who have best friends at work identify signifi cantly higher levels of healthy stress management, even though they experience the same levels of stress (Gallup 2 008 ) . 10.8 Meaning at Work Providing meaning at work can enhance positive relationships β whether a leader is providing the purpose behind a task or linking it to a bigger vision, or an indi- vidual gains understanding of how their work makes a difference. Research has found successful organisations over time are clear on their purpose, vision and values and embed that into the culture of the business (Collins and Porras 1994 ) . Research also suggests individuals who have a greater sense of meaning have more fl ourishing lives. Our positive emotions evoke thought-action tendencies in humans that broaden human attachment to others and to community service. From thence comes meaning and purpose (Vaillant 2008 ) . Research on meaning at work by Wrzesniewski (1 997 ) found that people who see their job as a calling as opposed to a job fi nd more meaning in their work and are more likely to be using their strengths (Bunderson and Thompson 2009 ) . Wrzesniewskiβs work on jobs, careers and callings provides insight into how people fi nd meaning in what they do and how this contributes to the overall sense of well- being and satisfaction (Wrzesniewski and Dutton 2 001 ) . Wrzesniewski defi nes the meaning of work in the following ways: β’ A job has a focus on fi nancial rewards and necessity rather than pleasure or fulfi l- ment; not a major positive part of life β’ A career has a focus on advancement β’ A calling has a focus on enjoyment of fulfi ling, socially useful work 172 S. Langley Her work explores the psychological and social processes through which these work meanings develop. An organisation that can tap into the sense of meaning that can develop for their employees will often fi nd that this enhances workplace relationships (Wrzesniewski et al. 1997 ) . Helping employees fi nd meaning through connecting their role to something bigger than themselves is important here. From a young age, a child often asks βwhyβ β longing to learn and know and understand. As adults, often the same principle applies in the workplace; creating a sense of meaning through purpose, values, effi cacy and self-worth is important. 10.9 The Neuroscience of Relationships Social neuroscience also provides insights into building positive relationships in the workplace. One theory is that the human brain has evolved to the size and complexity it has in order to deal with our social networks (Dunbar 1 998 ) . When people experi- ence social pain, such as being excluded from a project or the promised promotion doesnβt happen, it activates the same area of the brain as physical pain. Equally, brains respond to fairness β the brainβs reward centre activates when fairness and cooperation is experienced. This has implications for the workplace with respect to fairness between colleagues, fairness in the allocation of work or rewards and cooperation during meetings (Tabibnia and Lieberman 2007 ) . Human relationships also impact key areas of our brains. People are more likely to connect with another person if they perceive there are similarities between them. With similarity comes the ability to better infer mental states. If a person is able to fi nd something similar in a new team member, he and she are more likely to empathise and connect with them, which in turn is going to ensure that they con- verse and build a relationship, leading to more cooperation and teamwork. If a per- son feels they are signifi cantly different to a new team member, it may be harder to fi nd common ground; the person may be less likely to make an effort to get to know them. This information provides insight into how we handle diversity in organisations. Diversity is encouraged and embraced in organisations for many more valid rea- sons than covered in this chapter; however, a key element is that in order to build positive relationships, people need to fi nd something in common β that could be race, gender, background, history, experience or even just the project, favourite colour, sport, etc. These elements that create similarity allow for more positive emo- tions and therefore more positive relationships to develop (Mitchell et al. 2 006 ) . When I am facilitating or working with a group in any part of the world, if a participant is from England at some point during the morning tea break or over lunch I can guarantee they will come up to me and ask me what part of England I am from. My accent gives me away and it will be something that another English person can grasp that indicates we are similar. That thought triggers a positive response in the brain, which means we are more likely to connect through conversation and perhaps fi nd other areas of similarity. Sue Langley, ELW, Sydney, Australia. 10 Positive Relationships at Work 173 Creating positive relationships in a team leads to an exploration of mirror neurons in the social neuroscience research. Mirror neurons are particularly important in the workplace as these can infl uence feelings and actions (Mukamel et al. 2010 ) . To give an example of how mirror neurons work, imagine you are walking down the street and someone smiles at you. The natural reaction is to smile back. Imagine this same situation in the workplace. There is a subset of mirror neurons whose job it is to detect these smiles and prompt the same response, and a person in a team who can trigger these responses tends to be able to bond a team, which in turns leads to higher performance (Goleman and Boyatzis 2 008 ) . A person experiencing positive emotions triggers the mirror neurons of those around him or her; however, so does a person experiencing negative emotions. Mirror neurons mean people are con- stantly infl uenced in the workplace by others β those with the ability to create positive relationships and those with the ability to create negative relationships. 10.10 Positive Relationships and the Impact of Effective Communication Communication |
at work has a big infl uence on creating or destroying positive rela- tionships. Research has found that providing negative feedback in a positive way (such as nods and smiles) left people feeling better than if they were given positive feedback in a negative way (Goleman and Boyatzis 2 008 ) . Often in the workplace, positive feedback can be given fl ippantly in a generic way, such as βgreat job todayβ or βwell done, that was goodβ. This may be nice yet becomes meaningless to a team member if not done in a genuine, connected manner. It is far more important to connect with the person and ensure they know exactly what was good or bad and why, such as: βGreat job with the report today Jim, I loved how you put the sum- mary fi gures on the front, so they were easy for the project team to see at a glance, thank you so much for doing itβ, (with a smile and a nod) is more benefi cial for both parties. Communication in the workplace can make or break a relationship or a team. Consider the following scenario: The team are in a sales meeting discussing new ideas to lift sales and perhaps branch into new niche markets. Peter has an idea. Heβs thought about focusing on small to medium enterprises (SMEs) with their new product line as it could really help business owners organise their database and customer relationship more effectively. He hasnβt fully formulated the idea yet so in the meeting he says, βWhat about SMEs?β Jane immediately replies, βThat wonβt work because they donβt have enough funds and weβll spend all our time running around for small contracts.β Meilin adds, βYeah, Iβm sure we tried that a few years ago, letβs focus on our core corporate markets.β Peterβs idea is shot down and the team move on getting bogged down on the usual chal- lenges with growing their corporate sales. Peter still thinks it is a huge untapped market and is now feeling de-motivated and disillusioned β βthis always happens, they never listen to new ideas, they didnβt even let me fi nish.β 174 S. Langley This may be common in meetings β one person has an idea and another person suggests why it wonβt work. The idea may not work; yet dismissing the idea con- tracts the conversation and may make the person less likely to share other ideas in the future. The team does not explore the new idea, and relationships and neural connections are reduced (Fredrickson and Losada 2 005 ) . Gottman fi rst explored the positive/negative ratio with his work on marital rela- tionships (Gottman et al. 1 998 ) , and this has continued in the positive psychology fi eld around individuals and teams. Fredrickson and Losada ( 2005 ) explore a 3:1 positivity ratio for individual experience of positive emotions in relation to negative, and Losada and Heaphy (2 004 ) found that high-performing teams worked at a ratio of 5:1 β meaning that they had fi ve positive interactions to each negative. This does not mean people can only say nice things. The language used in communicating to others in the workplace can either con- tract or expand relationships and conversation. In the example above, Janeβs response immediately contracted the conversation and Peterβs idea was crushed. Does it mean that Peterβs idea was great and would have worked? Not necessarily. It may well have been a ridiculous idea, yet the way it was dismissed contracts the workplace relationship between each person. How could Jane and Meilin have created a more positive outcome? Consider an alternative with a more positive team response: The team are in a sales meeting discussing new ideas to lift sales and perhaps branch into new niche markets. Peter has an idea. Heβs thought about focusing on small to medium businesses with their new product line as it could really help business owners organise their database and customer relationship more effectively. He hasnβt fully formulated the idea yet so in the meeting he says, βWhat about SMEs?β Jane immediately replies, βTell us what you had in mind?β Meilin adds, βYeah, we did think about that a year ago. I am not sure we ever really explored it. How do you see it working, Peter?β Peter expands on his idea and as he does a few others in the meeting are able to add some elements that means it may be viable. They agreed to draft an outline of how it could work and review at the next meeting. Corporate sales are higher revenue, yet SMEs could be something new. Peter is happy with the outcome of the meeting. He doesnβt really know if it will work, he is just happy he has been heard and getting input from the rest of the team really made him feel like he belonged at last. The fi nal outcome of this may mean that Peter realised all by himself that the idea is not viable, in which case it is still a better outcome for the relationships in the group and his own levels of positive emotion. By expanding the conversation also, Peter was able to feel heard and connected to the others in the team and the others were able to contribute to what may turn out to be a viable option. This method of active constructive responding (Gable et al. 2 004 ) is much more powerful in workplace relationships, as it preserves a positive dynamic between two people and expands the communication. Consider the team member who can use that style of communication to connect with internal clients and encourage cooperation between groups. Consider how this works across borders or with virtual teams. It can really expand and explore the topic whilst at the same time building the relationships. 10 Positive Relationships at Work 175 10.11 Positive Relationships and Social Capital Positive relationships build social capital, which facilitates co-operation and mutually supportive relations. This may be applicable between two people in an organisation as well as in communities and nations as a means of combating some of the social disorders in modern society (Putnam 1995 ) . This building of social capital could be reciprocity between two people in an organisation, and it may be specifi c β βI do something for you and you do something for meβ β or general β βI do something for you and maybe you will do something for someone elseβ β and so on. This reciproc- ity is more likely to occur when people are in a positive mood as people are gener- ally more helpful and altruistic when feeling positive (Post 2005 ) . Dutton (Dutton and Ragins 2007 ) is a key researcher in social capital and identi- fi es it as βthe resources that inhere in and fl ow through networks of relationshipsβ β they could include knowledge, advice, information, goodwill, help and emotional support, as well as material goods and services. Whilst social capital can be nega- tive, this chapter focuses on the positive elements. When people experience high-quality connections at work, research has found that physiological functioning increases, learning and engagement increases, attach- ment and commitment increases, as well as cooperation and collaboration and indi- vidual performance (Baker and Dutton 2 007 ) . High-quality connections are defi ned as βshort-term, dyadic, interactions that are positive in terms of the subjective experience of the connected individuals and the structural features of the connectionβ. These high-quality connections have an impact on individual and organisational outcomes, and one of the keys is positive relationships and link heavily to respect. The fi ve key areas are: β’ Conveying presence, which is about being psychologically available to someone β’ Being genuine, which is about authenticity β’ Communicating affi rmation, which is about fi nding the good in people and sharing it β’ Effective listening β’ Supportive communication, which links to the active constructive responding elements from Gableβs work (Stephens et al. 2011 ) Maintaining positive self-regard and being able to make positive contributions is critical for individual fl ourishing in the workplace (Ramarajan et al. 2007 ) . This links to motivation and the Gallup questions around βdoing quality workβ, βmy opinions countβ, and βdoing what I am good atβ. People like to feel they are contributing to something bigger than themselves. This is prevalent in the meaning research and also contributes to enhancing positive emotions. If organisations want to build fl ourishing workplaces, they need to provide the means to allow each person to build their own positive self-regard, to build their self-confi dence and levels of positive emotion. Many people donβt know how to do this every day. They have had past experiences and past relationships that have led them to some unproductive workplace behaviours. These behaviours may get results 176 S. Langley in the short term. Providing training around emotional intelligence and positive psychology can allow individuals to learn how to handle their own emotions, build resilience, manage themselves more effectively, and therefore consider the impact they are having on others and adjust their behaviour accordingly. Peopleβs subjective experience of their social interactions with others has βimme- diate, enduring and consequential effects on their bodiesβ (Heaphy and Dutton 2008 ) . One way organisations can encourage fl ourishing relationships is to be aware of the impact these social interactions have on employees and encourage these. The current way of working is to use email and virtual conferencing for all interactions β every day people will send an email to a person that sits beside them at work. Social media and internal networks reduce personal interactions. In the workplace, perhaps we need to strive to keep social interaction alive, for the sake of our bodies as well as our minds? This sense of appreciation is key to generating powerful neurotransmitters and positive emotions in both people. Appreciation has several meanings β it means thank you, and it means growth (Thompson 1995 ) . Appreciation is often about thanking a person, and when this is done well, the level of positive emotion increases. Appreciation is a win-win situation β when one person appreciates another, both people are likely to experience positive responses. 10.12 Making Things Practical: How to Increase Positive Relationships What positive psychology tools can help people build better relationships and enhance performance? 10.12.1 Positive Psychology Training Teaching all individuals how to build their own levels of positive emotions β simple techniques, such as three blessings (Seligman et al. 2 005 ) , resilience training (Reivich and Shatte 2 002 ) , reappraisal and labelling (Lieberman 2007 ) . 10.12.2 Emotional Intelligence Training Teaching individuals emotional intelligence techniques to manage negative emo- tions more effectively: emotional intelligence training helps build skills in emo- tional awareness of self and others, as well as emotional management. Building resilience through emotional management includes the four As β awareness, accep- tance, adjustment and action. There are various models of emotional intelligence (Palmer et al. 2 007 ) ; the model itself is only powerful when it is translated into tangible tools and 10 Positive Relationships at Work 177 techniques that can be built into individual and team behaviour (Vella-Brodrick and Page 2 009 : 117). Resilience in the workplace helps individuals bounce back from setbacks and challenges. People who are more resilient are likely to be more successful (Reivich and Shatte 2 002 ) . 10.12.3 Social Neuroscience Learning Building similarity across diversity β encourages teams to fi nd elements of similar- ity whether across functional borders or country borders; fi nd the common ground. Teaching people more about how the human brain works and encouraging indi- viduals and leaders to practise what is known about social neuroscience and allow for the desire for status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness and fairness where possible (Rock 2 009 ) . 10.12.4 Developing Communication Improving communication between individuals and in meetings by increased understanding of active constructive responding and the positive negative ratio helps build relationships. Providing tools and techniques to manage this allows individuals to be more aware of how their communication is impacting their rela- tionships at work. Helping individual create high-quality connections through their daily commu- nication habits and interactions (Heaphy and Dutton 2008 ) . |
10.12.5 Developing Strengths Building strengths into the framework of the business so each person can use their strengths each day in what they do. The VIA Strength Survey is a well-researched tool, and many interventions exist exploring how to develop each strength. 10.12.6 Create Meaning and Contribution Ensuring that there is a framework of meaning through purpose, vision and values so each person knows where they fi t into the bigger picture and how what they do every day makes a difference. Providing a sense of meaning through leadership as well as allowing people more control over what they do and where it fi ts to the bigger picture. 178 S. Langley 10.13 Conclusion An organisation comprises the people who work there. It is individual performances and the relationships between people that impact on how effective and successful the organisation is in meeting its goals. 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Her consultancy company is focused on human development within organisations, using emotional intelligence and positive psychology interventions. Sue has worked in many different industries across the world and is a regular speaker at positive psychology conferences. Contact: sue@langleygroup.com.au Chapter 11 Positive Professional Relationships Elizabeth Gillies 11.1 Introduction We live in a world of relationships: from birth to death, we are part of social groups in our families, with friends, at work, in school and in our local communities. In this social world, we will, at many times, look to others for help and support for different reasons or problems. This chapter is about the role of the effective helper in a professional relationship, when someone buys in assistance, whether this is of a practical or professional nature. This role brings with it responsibilities and expecta- tions that impact the nature of this work and hence the outcome. Positive profes- sional relationships contribute to the quality and progression of that work and have an impact on life when the work is over. In recent years, there has been a move in many helping professions away from the traditional expert model with passive client to a collaborative empow- ering partnership. This new relationship calls on professionals to view clients as experts in their own right, owning their own strengths and skills, working along- side them to achieve their goals and paying attention to the factors that enhance the relationship. This chapter will initially address broad issues about helping and the positive approach, then go on to examine how elements from current research from the fi eld of psychological help can be useful to a wide range of professional relationships. E. Gillies (*) Educational Psychologist, International Mental Health Professionals , Tokyo , Japan e-mail: elizabeth_gillies@mac.com S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 181 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_11, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 182 E. Gillies 11.2 Positive Professional Relationships Matter A friend recently hired a construction company to renovate their house. Their experience was a highly positive one for several reasons: The clients knew what they wanted to achieve and the builders provided expertise about how best to realize their goal. Options with the pros and cons were presented and dis- cussed. Decisions always remained with the clients. There was good communication by both parties: there was honesty about delays, issues were clarifi ed and information fl owed. When the clients didnβt understand something, it was explained - often through demonstration. The builders valued the open communication and provided this feedback to the clients. At a time of potential confl ict the workers and client were courteous, willing to negotiate and arrived at a compromise. The positive relationships already established facilitated this process. There were conversations about life beyond the project, which enabled each side to see they were more than clients and builders. The builders were unfailingly polite, did what they said they were going to do, were reliable, conscientious and worked long days towards the end of the project to fulfi ll their time commitment. The clients expressed their appreciation. The above illustrates a collaborative process where respect, trust, knowledge and expertise from both sides were valued, solutions worked through and refl ection about how the project was progressing |
took place. Importantly, they discussed how they were working together. Though the ongoing work and the eventual outcome were important, it was the process that enabled this to occur that made the differ- ence to the satisfactory completion of the project. This comprised the relational qualities between the workers and clients that created a positive environment. Though the βclientsβ in this example were the people who paid for the time and skills of the builders, they also felt a sense of inclusion, of this being a project where their full involvement was welcomed. The case study highlights critical aspects in making professional relationships work well; they are about the nature of knowledge, how it is valued and who has power to make decisions. According to Dutton and Heaphy ( 2003 ) , the features of βhigh quality connectionsβ are where a wide range of emotions are part of the dia- logue, fl exibility exists to withstand diffi culties and there is creativity and openness to new sources of ideas. Here both parties recognised the value of creating and fos- tering their collaborative relationship. 11.3 The Positive Force As humans, we are drawn into action when we feel challenged and react with our fi ght/fl ight response. When things are going well or are just ticking over, our attention is less. Noticing the details when things are working well requires a different stance. Positive psychology has encouraged us to focus on what we need to do to thrive and fl ourish. This is a different lens with which to interpret the world (Seligman 11 Positive Professional Relationships 183 and Csikszentmihalyi 2000 ) . In many fi elds, there is growing interest in examin- ing excellence and how it is attained and developed. In Good to Great , Collins (2 001 ) researched the important factors of excellence in industry; Robinson and Aronica ( 2009 ) write about how individuals fi nd their passion and excel; and Miller et al. (2 007 ) report on how βSupershrinksβ contribute to successful out- comes in therapy. The move in positive working relationships is away from discussing βcorrosive connectionsβ to βhigh quality connectionsβ (Dutton and Heaphy 2 003 ) . Adopting curiosity about examining and then using what actually works in creating effective professional relationships is an important part of the βpositiveβ focus. The positive approach places relationships as central toward attaining quality experiences, actions and outcomes; creating mutually benefi cial win-win partner- ships where everybody profi ts in some way needs to focus on the βhowβ of creating effective relationships (Covey 1989 ) . The p ositive contribution in this chapter focuses on the details of successful models and approaches rather than on investigating the problems and diffi culties in professional relationships. 11.4 What Is Different About a Professional Relationship? There are issues and elements that set professional relationships apart from other kinds of relationships. β’ The client seeks some expert help, skills and/or support. They have choice in this selection. β’ The professional gets paid for their help: itβs what they do for a living. β’ A contract usually exists outlining practical ways that will enable the work to progress smoothly and professionally: e.g. costs, timing of meetings, a start and end point. β’ βBeing a βhelperβ of some kind is not as simple as it may at fi rst seemβ. (M aidment 2006 ) . Work takes place in an environment of increased litigation and where there are favoured best practice models that can often direct and dictate profes- sional action. Competition exists between professionals. There is demand for quality and satisfaction amongst clients. β’ Professionals usually belong to organisations or associations where core values, principles and standards are set to uphold professional practice and offer protec- tion to the public in their selection and work with professionals. With member- ship comes agreement to work in ethical ways: e.g. being competent to carry out specifi c professional roles, continuing professional development, knowing the limits of your professional skills, etc. β’ Within such relationships, there are guidelines that recommend rules in the rela- tionship or boundaries in order to ensure professionalism and safety in the interaction. 184 E. Gillies 11.5 How Professionals Go About Helping Professional relationships can be varied and range from seemingly simple tasks to complex situations: e.g. hiring a plumber to repair a leaking tap, going to a doctor or consulting a psychologist. Within these different partnerships are ways of relating that bring quality to the relationship: ways that make or break the common goal, ways that create stress or provide comfort, ways that empower or deskill. It is clear when we have a positive experience, as in the case study above, and is painfully obvious when we donβt. For the professional then, there are important factors that impact on their practice in order to provide a skilled service. β’ In T he Customer Revolution , Seybold et al. ( 2 001 ) suggest customers have greater control in how they choose and use services. With greater choice come higher demands and expectations. The relationship with clients and their experi- ence matters more than it used to. β’ Professionals need to be aware of the changing experiences and expectations of people, especially younger people. Saxton (2 004 ) writes of the βdriving forces of participationβ in society that demand greater involvement. With increasing levels of education, people expect to be involved in many levels in society from voting to making health care decisions. The rise of technology has increased searching and sharing information in a highly participatory way with people around the world. β’ Clients have access to many sources of information, especially the Internet, and may come into the professional relationship with a level of knowledge and infor- mation that was previously less available to them. For example, in the medical world, many patients are βactive consumers of health informationβ, and this can affect how doctors relate with their patients (McMullan 2006 ) . β’ We live in a changing diverse society and need to work with people in ways that are culturally sensitive. Professional relationships are culturally dependent; lev- els of respect and interaction between professionals and clients are related to values and norms in society (Macklin 1 999 ) . β’ Rights and views of consumers are important and are often protected by law and by professional standards of accreditation. β’ Professionals have expertise. It is important for them to understand how to use their knowledge skillfully and successfully to arrive at a positive outcome for the client. It is also valuable for them to understand the positive gains for themselves in helping and how this affects their work. 11.6 A Change of Direction in Helping The transition from traditional expert role, where experts have the power and knowl- edge and where clients are silent recipients, to a more collaborative approach is evident in many helping professional fi elds. In the literature, there is increasing use 11 Positive Professional Relationships 185 of terms and discourse that places the client or relationship at the centre of the work and focuses on a working partnership. There is evidence of many positive outcomes of employing such an approach. In an increasingly global and diverse world, where working and managing from a distance are common, employers want staff to be able to work cooperatively both within their own company and with their partner companies. In their βPortrait of an ideal helperβ, Corey and Corey (2 006 ) suggest that knowing your own strengths and weaknesses and understanding who you are as a person are your most important resources in effective helping. With the move toward more collaboration in the workplace, inter- and intrapersonal skills become highly valued (Goleman 2000 ) . More collaborative approaches are increasingly popular in the medical fi eld and appear frequently in journal articles. Notions of patient-centred care and relationship-centred medicine highlight a change in thinking βbeyond diagnosis to include the person being treated and improving the quality of connection between physician and patientβ (Goleman 2 006 ) . Elywn et al. (2 009 ) state βshared decision makingβ as an important goal for clinical practice. Preference for terms such as βadherenceβ to medical treatment is viewed to be more appropriate than βcomplianceβ, suggesting a more collaborative approach between doctors and their patients (Osterberg and Blaschke 2 005 ) . Research evidence indicates that a positive doctor/patient relationship leads to higher satisfaction with medical treatment (Fuertes et al. 2009 ) . Restorative justice practices are used successfully in many countries to deliver a fair and just process to wrongdoing. The aim is to work toward repairing harm and restoring relationships through collaborative processes with the involved parties and a trained facilitator. Sherman and Strang ( 2007 ) , in a review of research in the UK and abroad, cite positive and powerful outcomes for crime victims and offenders. In social work too, over the last 20 years, there has been a growing emphasis on engagement with and learning from their clients. βPartnership with parents has become a central feature of child care policy and practiceβ (Sheppard 2 001 ) . Asking users and carers of their experience of services should be an βintegral part of strate- gic commissioningβ (Schehrer and Sexton 2010 ) . 11.7 Consultation with Schools: Collaboration in Action Two heads are better than one. The following example highlights the difference between a more traditional interac- tion and relationship between client and professional and one in which collabora- tion becomes centre stage. In the UK, consultation is a popular and common form of service delivery operat- ing between Educational Psychologists (EPs) who are employed in Local Education Authorities (LEAs) and work in schools with students, teachers, parents and other professionals at an individual, group and system level. This provides an alternative to assessing and counselling individual students as the main way of working. 186 E. Gillies In consultation, there is often a βtriadic relationshipβ involving the psychologist and the key adult/s in consultation about a student or an issue (Dougherty 1995 ) . EPs are not employed to work full time in a single school but have an agreed time allocation of hours or visits on an annual basis. They are therefore external consul- tants with a committed relationship to a patch of schools. Case Study An example of systemic consultation is where an educational psychologist regularly met with a group of teachers from different schools who all had children with Downβs Syndrome in their class. The group got together after school once a term to share knowledge, approaches and work out new ways forward. The group was both reac- tive in discussing problems and preventative in sharing information that might be used by other members in the future. Not only was this a more effective use of time for the EP, but also facilitated group support. Caplanβs work in the 1970s infl uenced consultation being taken into schools in the USA. Different models of consultation are described and discussed in the US literature with evidence that this way of working is popular with psycholo- gists and schools. Over the last 15 years, consultation in the UK has been shaped by Wagner (1 995, 2000 ) who has developed a consultation model in her own LEA and with other services across the country (Watkins 2000 ) . Her model is partly based on Mental Health Consultation but with greater emphasis on social psychological approaches as they βmatch the complexity of the social systems with which we work and promote a refl exive stance for the EPβ (Wagner 1995 ) . In particular, systems thinking, personal construct psychology, social construc- tionism and symbolic interactionism are mentioned as helpful. EPs also use solution-focused thinking/approach with their work in schools (Ajmal and Rees 2 001 ) . These approaches inform the structure and language of the consultation. Consultation is defi ned by several assumptions (Wagner 2 008 ; Brown et al. 2010 ) : 1. It is a voluntary indirect process to resolve issues. The EP works initially or solely with the key adults rather than students. 2. The subject of the consultation can be an individual, group, or organisation. 3. There are two expected outcomes of the consultation: the fi rst is about helping the |
person consulted to be more skilled in their area of concern; the second out- come is related to improving services for a third party, e.g. differentiated support for a student. In writing about βactive consultationβ, Kanter (1 994 ) highlights the need for developing βmechanisms - structures, processes and skills in order to achieve real value from the partnershipβ . In structure, a typical consultation might look like this: A teacher has a concern about a student in their class. They request a consulta- tion with the EP who works in their school. The teacher would prepare for the consultation by thinking about or writing questions that will set the scene for the 11 Positive Professional Relationships 187 consultation and provide thinking time prior to meeting. Typically, this is presented as a Consultation Request Form. The questions asked encourage an interactionist perspective and place value on the teacherβs knowledge and skills (Wagner and Gillies 2001 ) . What do you hope to get from the consultation? What strategies have you already tried? What effects have you noted? When does the behaviour you want happen? In the face-to-face meeting, the EP will give an outline about what will take place in the consultation. A script, a dialogue using set words and phrases that emphasise role and relationship, is used to provide a consistent approach that guides both EP and teacher through the consultation (Kerslake and Roller 2 000 ) . The consultation continues with refl ection about what the teacher wants from the meeting by gathering and processing the information presented by the teacher. The underlying psychology informs the questions asked and demonstrates interest in particular aspects, widening the view of the situation and opening up new possible solutions. What sense does the student make of the situation? How might other people be infl uencing what is happening? When everything is working well, what helps this happen? Planning what needs to happen next follows with input from both professionals, the teacher and the EP, in a way that meets the needs of the situation and ensures the collaborative process. Sometimes it will be clear to the teacher about what they can implement to make changes; at other times, the intervention will need more input from the EP, further meetings, or direct contact with the student. Plans are recorded with a follow-up meeting arranged. R eviewing how the consultation met the needs stated at the beginning of the consultation and confi dence levels of the teacher in carrying out the intervention close the consultation. At the end of the school year, the EP writes a summary of the joint work in school. This would then form a basis of refl ection on the work together and planning for the year ahead. The outline above provides a brief overview of the structure of consultation, and of course it is much more than this. Relationship-making skills will be covered in the section on signifi cant factors in a therapeutic relationship. 11.8 Outcomes from Consultation For many EP services, consultation provided the solution to move from a crisis- referral-based system of individual work with students to an interactive process where psychological conversations and shared responsibility take place. For the LEA where I worked, our impetus for change was to add greater value and 188 E. Gillies consistency in the psychological contribution to schools and improve client satis- faction with our professional service. Positive outcomes found were: β’ Enhanced ratings by schools and parents of our service β’ Increase in time allocated to schools β’ Increase in joint working and in team project among EPs β’ Discussion with other agencies and managers about consultation. (From Developing Consultation. A workshop for Educational Psychologists. Institute of Education 1 998 ) The outcomes included greater satisfaction and understanding about consulta- tion from clients with increased opportunities for collaborative work among EPs. In the UK, discussion and research continue to grow about how EPs use consul- tation in schools (Kennedy et al. 2008 ; Leadbetter 2 006 ) . The research has mainly focused on what psychologists say in the consultation though there is evidence about the benefi ts for teachers and students of the joint nature of the collaboration (Timmins et al. 2 006 ) . Overall, consultation has offered a way of asking what help people want and working alongside them in a professional way to achieve it. Both the specialist skills and knowledge of the teacher and psychologist are harnessed to make a difference for teachers and students. It is a good example of high quality connection. 11.9 Signifi cant Factors in a Positive Therapeutic Relationship Therapy is commonly viewed as a relational activity. βRelationships are the forum for change to take placeβ (Kottler and Shepard 2008 ) . Though the relationship is valued as a highly infl uencing aspect by most mental health professionals, it has only recently been a major focus of attention. A shift has taken place from looking at what therapies are effective to what therapists do to contribute to effect change with their clients. Lambertβs (1 992 ) common factor research highlighted the importance of rela- tional aspects in therapeutic work. From analysis of thousands of sessions between client and practitioner, four sets of factors were seen to contribute to successful outcome: β’ 40% of successful change was attributed to the factors that clients bring with them into therapy. These included the clientsβ own strengths and skills, their readiness for change and the other resources available. β’ 30% of successful change was attributed to the positive relationship between practitioner and client. Skills such as βempathy, warmth, acceptance, encourage- ment of risk takingβ were seen to be important. β’ 15% was attributed to hopes, expectations and placebo factors. β’ 15% was attributed to the model or technique that was used. 11 Positive Professional Relationships 189 Client factors and the alliance between the client and therapist were therefore found to have greater infl uence over techniques and models. Though initially con- ceptualised as separate factors, it is now recognised that there is an interplay among all these aspects. Research and debate continue about the nature of how things work together to create change, though the relationship between client and professional is viewed to be key. The one constant βvariableβ is the βrelationship, co-created and sustained by client and therapistβ (Orlinsky 2010 ) . From extensive research, Norcross (2 010 ) highlights evidence from both sides of the relationship that contribute to effectiveness. First are elements of effective prac- tice of the therapist, then secondly, feedback from clients about their experience of the work together. These do not happen in isolation but work in concert together. Many therapeutic professionals will recognise the elements of good practice, detailed below. It is not just therapists having and using the skill; it is the clientβs perceptions of these in the relationship that is important to outcome. This is espe- cially important in relation to empathy and positive regard. Even though this is known to be an important characteristic, levels of low empathy are sometimes found in professional helpers (Reynolds 2008 ) . Professionals are not always able to accu- rately ascertain or predict others peoplesβ experience. The following are desired elements of a therapist in a helping relationship: β’ The role of the empathetic helper, in being sensitive and open to understanding life from the clientsβ point of view, initially highlighted by Carl Rogers (Rogers 1 980 ) . β’ Building an alliance by creating a positive working partnership, especially in the early stages of work; having a clear idea about how to build relationships espe- cially in complex circumstances; using positive communication skills, empathy and openness. β’ Collaboration in agreeing goals and a focus for work. β’ Positive regard for the client through an accepting, caring and respectful attitude. β’ Genuineness and openness shown by the therapist in relating to the client. β’ Providing considered positive feedback to clients that adds to the partnership. β’ Addressing and repairing diffi culties when they arise. β’ Infrequent personal disclosures that are signifi cant in the context of the work and that will enhance the relationship. The following important factors are given in client feedback: β’ The fi t and the quality of the relationship both matter. The consistent client voice says to βcultivate and customize the β¦ relationshipβ (Duncan et al. 2004 ) . β’ Pay attention to how the clients experience the work. Good outcomes are related to client feelings of empathy and collaboration. β’ Ask for feedback on how the relationship is going while you are working together. This demonstrates collaborative work in action and provides a voice for the client; the feedback can inform how the work proceeds in the future and helps know what is contributing to what is working in this particular case. βIf evalua- tion only happens at the end, it is too lateβ (Egan 2 002 ) . 190 E. Gillies βHow are we doing?β is a question regularly asked by a colleague during group and individual work. Just asking the question and using word βweβ both emphasize the goal of joint work and is open to receiving a variety of feedback. β’ At the end of the work, ask what has helped. Below is an example of seeking the clientβs view: I like to follow-up with people when our work is over, to ask a few questions about what was helpful in our time together. This primarily helps me improve my work with others. So, if you were to say 3 things that you thought helped, what would they be? In my experience, clients have defi nite ideas about what has helped them. Often it is about the positive thinking space that leads to different ways of viewing their issues and subsequently new possibilities for action. The rise of relational factors has led to closer examination of what successful therapists or βSupershrinksβ do in creating positive relationships and change (Miller et al. 2 007 ) . Literature about experts from many fi elds and the distinctive behaviors of skilled professionals were translated into a βformula for successβ for therapists. The elements are both process- and outcome-focused and act as a βcycle of excellenceβ. β’ Creating a baseline in order to measure effectiveness: knowing where you are starting from in order to gauge success. β’ βEngaging in deliberate practiceβ happens when there is a focused effort to improve performance. This involves hard work with increased attention on the process as it is happening and on the outcome. β’ Asking for feedback and acting on the information to inform/change the process. There are a variety of tools available to provide feedback on the working rela- tionship and outcome (Lambert 2010 ; Kelly et al. 2 010 ) . Two well-researched scales have been developed by Duncan and colleagues (2 003 ) . The scales are completed at the end of each session and are straightforward to complete, taking only a few min- utes. There are scales for adult and child feedback, and the questions focus on aspects of the working relationship and on progress. The Session Rating Scale (SRS) has four scales to be completed by the client about the current session in the following areas: β’ The relationship β being heard, understood and respected. β’ The goals and topics β was the work appropriately focused on what the client wanted to talk about. β’ Approach β the goodness of fi t of the therapist method. β’ Overall β how the session worked. The Outcome Rating Scale (ORS) again asks for four sets of feedback, focusing on client movement toward their goal in the following areas: β’ Personal wellbeing β’ Relationships with family and friends β’ Work relationships β’ General sense of wellbeing 11 Positive Professional Relationships 191 Benefi ts of asking for feedback have been found to increase positive outcomes and client retention (Miller et al. 2 005 ) . The process covers many of the desired ele- ments of effective therapists highlighted by Norcross ( 2010 ) earlier in the chapter and provides a space for the client voice. When using the SRS in a recent piece of work with a 9 year old student, his rating for the overall way the session worked was much less than I |
anticipated. When asked about this, he replied he liked to learn through games and wanted to know if I had games that might help him learn some new ways of doing things. This proved to be very useful feedback that helped me change my approach and helped him towards his goal. Current therapeutic research highlights the factors that make helping more effective: the focus is on skillfully creating a collaborative working relationship while understanding the needs, impact and experience of the other person in the process. Using models that include these elements as central is important. Such frameworks inform the wider scope of professional relationships and are highly desirable. 11.10 How Solution-Focused Thinking (SFT) Builds Positive and Effective Relationships Brief Therapy is an effective model that is used with a wide range of clients. It is a collaborative, strength-based approach based in a positive psychology para- digm. A wellness belief exists about clients who are viewed to have skills and resources. Through examining what is already working and adopting a future orientation, clients are helped to uncover their own solutions. Solution-focused thinking (SFT) has developed from Brief Therapy, using the principles and tech- niques in areas other than in therapy. A wide range of successful applications is found, for example, in education (Durrant 1995 ; Parsons 2 009 ) , social work (de Jong and Berg 2001 ) , coaching/management (Greene and Grant 2006 ) and nursing (McAllister 2 010 ) . In adopting the assumptions below, the techniques and questions provide practi- cal tools that are used in a deliberate way to create an expectation of change and improve the situation: β’ Every client/situation is unique. β’ Strengths and resources within the client/situation exist and can be used to create solutions. β’ An emphasis on the past and details of the problem are not necessary for the development of solutions. β’ Knowing the client goal will focus where and what is wanted. β’ Change is constant. There are always exceptions to problems; it is not an all-or- nothing situation. β’ In trying to bring about change, begin by starting small. Walter and Peller ( 1992 ) suggest a three-part βpathway to constructing solutionsβ: 192 E. Gillies 11.10.1 Find Out the Clientβs Goal Constructing goals together is a respectful approach that brings clarity to what needs to happen and acts as a guide to navigate through the work. In presenting at a conference in the UK in 2000, John Murphy described his job as similar to a travel agent. The client knowing or working out together the desired destination helps them on their journey as briefl y and directly as possible (Murphy 2 000 ) . Iveson (2 005 ) talks about the βPower Handoverβ when writing about solution- focused therapists who ask the not-knowing question of βHow can I help you?β He recognises that this is a question asked by many professionals in determining a work contract. The focus centres on what the customer wants, and the therapist joins with them in a βcommon projectβ (Korman 2004 ) . 11.10.2 Look for Positives in the Current Situation and Build on These Strengths This involves exploring details of what is already working well or is something positive that already exists in the situation. Scaling questions emphasise the notion of change and can act as a way to mea- sure progress, compare situations, or gain feedback. The client is an active partici- pant in monitoring differences and change. In relation to your goal, where are you now on a scale of 0β10 with 10 achieving your goal? If you were one point higher on the scale, what would be happening? What has been your highest point on the scale? On the 0β10 scale, how would you rate the helpfulness of this work? Exception questions can help unpick the dynamics of the positives and build on what is already going well: When things are going well, what is different? What do you do that is different? Who else in involved or notices? Uncovering client skills, then enquiring how they can use them in the prob- lem scenario, makes use of what the client resources and encourages new thinking. A young client who wanted to be an actor when he grew up decided he could use his talents in acting like the student that all the teachers wanted. 11 Positive Professional Relationships 193 11.10.3 Find Out What Needs to Happen Next and Do Something Different Bill OβHanlon ( 1999 ) quotes a Dakota tribal saying: βWhen you discover you are riding a dead horse, the best strategy is to dismountβ . This philosophy goes against the grain of βtry, try againβ and moves the focus to trying new different things. Talking about positives and possibilities brings a new view to the situation and provides hope for change. It can be a short step then to ask: So what needs to happen next? What will it take for that to happen? Due to the interest in what is working, oral and written feedback is a common feature, both during the work and at the end of a session. How are we doing? Tell me if you feel Iβm going at a snailβs pace with my questions? I can change gear! (Rees 2 001 ) . Commonly toward the end of the session, there is a short break in the meeting. This time for refl ection can be used by both therapist and client to actively review and then plan what happens next (Sharry et al. 2 001 ) . Feedback letters aim to βcapture the essence of the conversationβ and remind the client of their strengths and the changes they have made (Stephenson and Smith 2001 ) . SFT offers many different professionals hopeful assumptions and tools to use fl exibly and creatively. It places collaboration with the client at the centre. Clear strategies attend to and use the positives that already exist in the situation. Giving and gaining feedback is important to the process. 11.11 Implications for Developing Positive Relationships Relationships are a core component of helping. They matter on a number of levels and need to be cultivated and reviewed. Professional training brings a level of exper- tise and knowledge. Clients also have expertise, and many are knowledgeable about their situation. Adopting a collaborative solution-focused approach where the pro- fessional is attentive to the process, asks for ongoing feedback, and is open to change will go a long way to create a positive working relationship. The example at the beginning illustrates many of the points made in the chapter. The workers in this situation may not have had formal training on how to create posi- tive working relationships, yet they were able to put many aspects into practice. It might just be that along the way, they attended to what has worked well for them and their clients and that they know how to continue to maintain high quality connections. 194 E. Gillies They know the benefi ts of evidence gained as they are involved in their day-to-day work. For others, we can look to the research literature and implement fi ndings into our practice that will promote our working relationships. References Ajmal, Y., & Rees, I. 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Brewer 12.1 Introduction In todayβs fast-developing world, whatever oneβs age, and whether one is working or studying, raising a family or volunteering, it is important to learn and go on learning throughout life. All relationships involve learning, but in mentoring this is espe- cially so and both formal and informal mentoring continues to be popular. Mentoring has its roots in ancient times with Homer in The Odyssey telling the story of Telemachus, the son of Odysseus, and his coming of age under the tutelage of a mentor while his father was absent at war. It has endured throughout the ages to the present day and is used, for example, with children in primary school who are paired with older students, early career professionals with more-experienced counterparts, youth workers working with young people, women seeking directorships on boards and young people using reverse mentoring with the less technologically savvy. Mentoring is a relationship built on trust, with two people conversing together and one giving guidance, support and encouragement to the other (Hartley 2004 ) . It occurs in a range of contexts: personal, professional and organisational. A typical mentoring relationship involves the mentor: a more experienced person, a trusted counsellor and the mentee: the recipient of the mentoring relationship referred to here as a protΓ©gΓ©. Protege has been selected as βMenteeβ is simply a descriptor referring to a person who has a mentor, whereas a protΓ©gΓ© conveys potential and untapped talent and therefore active learning. Infl uence in this relationship is never unidirectional, with one party being shaped and dominated by the other. The βequalityβ of the partnership, however, depends upon the more experienced person doing what they can to neutralise any power imbalance. While mentorship is A.M. Brewer (*) Offi ce of Vice Chancellor Strategic Management , University of Sydney , Sydney , Australia e-mail: ann.brewer@sydney.edu.au S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 197 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_12, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 198 A.M. Brewer characterised as dyadic, with differential experience between the mentor and protΓ©gΓ©, this is not always the case. For learning to occur, the social exchange between the mentor and protΓ©gΓ© involves mutual infl uence, as will be demonstrated throughout this chapter. The focus here is on understanding mentoring and the reasons for its endurance. Several questions will be addressed: What do we understand by mentoring? What is it about the mentoring relationship that allows a personβs potential to emerge, be shaped or fl ourish? What are the types of mentoring available? How is the mentor- ing relationship qualitatively different from other types of relationships? What are the benefi ts for mentors and which ways of mentoring are more effective than oth- ers? Does it make a difference the way this relationship comes about? What about training for mentors? Case Study Mitchell helped Diana rethink her start-up business, which, although making a small margin, had an ad hoc approach. One thing Mitchell revealed was that he does not always follow his own advice but varies it depending on business context. Mitchell was a reluctant mentor at fi rst but took this assignment on because he was asked by a mutual friend. One of the fi rst tasks he got Diana to think about was what success would look like in, say, 2 years time and to write it down. That helped her work with a more structured business plan than she currently had, and over the course of the next 6 months, he assisted her: β’ Improve her negotiating skills with suppliers β’ Refuse potential clients seeking free advice β’ Develop relationships with new networks of clients β’ Develop and align her marketing plan to her newly formulated business plan β’ Select an accountant to improve her budgeting and capital planning β’ Price her services to improve her margin β’ Better manage her time between home and work At the end of the 6 months assignment, Mitchell reported that Diana had renewed confi dence in herself and this allowed her to make better business decisions. This chapter attempts to show how this successful mentorship was achieved. 12.2 What Do We Understand by Mentoring? Mentoring forms the backbone of most learning relationships including coaching, consulting, person-centred counselling and the shadowing of more-experienced people that occurs in professional and organisational learning contexts. The focus of both parties together is on the potential goals, performance, relationships, leader- ship capability and motivation of the protΓ©gΓ©. A mentor intervenes in the learning process through facilitation, listening, counselling, challenging and providing overall support to assist the protΓ©gΓ© in identifying and examining the above and to see whether these are aligned to actions and plans. A formal mentoring conversation 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential 199 usually includes preparation, dialogue, commitment and closure to each meeting. It also involves agreement about goals around the process, accountability of each party to the relationship and a plan. Following up and identifying outcomes, oppor- tunities for further development or advancement, assessing progress towards goals and using feedback are important in producing the desired learning. Mentors need to assess their own capability for assisting the protΓ©gΓ©, either through self-assessment or peer review by a colleague or friend. Mentors do not try to persuade or coerce, but rather encourage and challenge their protΓ©gΓ©s. Mentorship ensures accountability of both parties and abides by the professional standards and ethics of the participants relevant to the context (school, organisation or profession). For example, if a teacher is acting as a mentor with a younger person, then the professional and ethical standards apply, as does the rele- vant sphere of accountability. A positive mentoring relationship develops gradually over time as the key ingre- dients, mutual trust and respect, take time to develop. It allows the protΓ©gΓ© to connect personally at a deeper level with a signifi cant other, usually but not always a more experienced person. This personal connection is important for mirroring other types of critical relationships for the protΓ©gΓ©, such as teacher, parent, supervisor, client or peer, depending on the type of mentorship. More importantly, such relationships expedite learning in a way that may otherwise not occur or take longer if the mentor- ship did not exist. For example, the mentor may offer insights or opinions that may not have been shared except within this exclusive relationship. T rust is vital in this situation as privileged insights, knowledge and information are often private and both parties are relying on the other to respect confi dentiality. The protΓ©gΓ© may describe a situation, for example, where they are feeling oppressed or bullied, and ask the mentor whether this situation is familiar to them, and if so, how would they deal with it. Intervention by the mentor is not requested as this can lead to a confl ict of interest or an ethical concern for the mentor. They may have the authority to act on this but cannot do so due to the privileged nature of the communication. An example of this is where a junior medico is being βbulliedβ by a more senior colleague. Underpinning mutual trust between the mentor and protΓ©gΓ© are shared values and perspectives, vital particularly in youth mentoring where the adult needs to work within the βheadspaceβ of the protΓ©gΓ©. Both parties to the mentoring relationship need to agree to participate, with the mentor taking responsibility for supporting the protΓ©gΓ©. Essentially success is dependent upon the meeting of two minds to achieve a certain shared βrelaxed spaceβ that will progress refl ection and learning. When mutual trust and respect lead to positive outcomes, this helps develop a rhythm and synchronicity to the pairβs cooperation. The notion of βmentisβ, the Latin word for mind, is core to mentorship. ProtΓ©gΓ©s are often encouraged to build a different m ind- set , sometimes actively countermanding a prevailing one. The new mindset is a catalyst for new learning and critical to the process of development. Central also to mentoring is the use of n arrative (Britzman and Gilbert 2004 ) . This is where two people come together and tell stories to each other about both big and small things such as past achievements and failures, present and future aspirations. Unsolicited advice does not have a place in these conversations, as this is likely to be ignored unless something occurs to trigger it being replayed in the protΓ©gΓ©βs mind. 200 A.M. Brewer 12.3 What Is It About the Mentoring Relationship That Allows a Personβs Potential to Emerge, Be Shaped or Flourish? Learning is frequently accidental, whether planned or not. Mentoring facilitates the protΓ©gΓ© in progressing from inadvertent learning towards active learning, self-knowl- edge and building personal capability to deal with the ups and downs of life. The unfolding narrative facilitates meaning between the participants about what is going on in their situation and what meaning it has for them. What can they learn from this? A |
lack of self-focus can be valuable in getting the protΓ©gΓ© to see themselves as others see them. There is a paradox here, as the protΓ©gΓ© also becomes the centre of attention in the relationship to assist their own internal locus of evaluation, a cata- lyst for transformational learning. What does a mentor offer another person and how does this infl uence them through- out the relationship and beyond? In many situations, public and private, people learn from each other informally through observation, modelling or shadowing, and also through conversations and confl icts. How many times does one hear the expression βif only Iβd thought of that at the timeβ indicating that people refl ect on past conversations after the event and learn from the further contemplation about the experience. Mentoring facilitates further contemplation which is where real learning occurs. Whilst mentoring varies from situation to situation, it requires the following three dimensions: learning, transforming and ultimately a capacity to rebuild. Take the example of a young person working with an adult where the mentor is attempting to steer the protΓ©gΓ© in a new or life-changing direction. Both have to believe in each other and that any change of direction is based on the mentorβs belief that this is in the protΓ©gΓ©βs best interest. The protΓ©gΓ© has to assume that the mentor is acting in good faith. Trust is crucial for βunpickingβ the current action and formulating new goals. Building new personal capacity requires expanding networks of relation- ships, and this also takes time. Often in mentoring, the protΓ©gΓ© has to step back rather than forward, a process that is never easy for young people who are keen to progress rapidly. Helping them to take a step back and rebuild to fortify personal capability can be crucial for their development. 12.3.1 The Role of Infl uence in Mentoring Mentoring is about infl uencing rather than βtellingβ or βadvisingβ, and each party to the relationship is subjected to the otherβs energy, control and resistance. Although the mentor infl uences the protΓ©gΓ©, this is never a one-way exchange. The challenge for each is to accept or counter the otherβs infl uence depending on the nature of the persuasion and the purpose being addressed. The protΓ©gΓ© should never be domi- nated by the mentor, who may be revered for their achievement or status (senior- ity), as this would defeat the purpose of mentoring. The protΓ©gΓ© does, however, 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential 201 need to be accepting of the mentorβs infl uence and consider alternative directions if they are to learn. This requires both belief in each other and an evaluation of the learning that occurs. One of the outcomes of mentoring is to improve oneβs capa- bility to infl uence others and not be dominated by them, particularly where oneβs own ideas are being subjugated. Mentoring reveals the role that power and infl u- ence play in every relationship and how to act vigorously to participate in this process and not stand on the sidelines. Selecting an appropriate mentor is impor- tant in balancing the power within this relationship. Mentors need to be well con- nected so that they can use a range of resources, although ideally these should not include the protΓ©gΓ©sβ supervisor as the capacity to be open may be thwarted by the possibility of gaining incentives or receiving sanctions. Having said this, supervisors frequently use mentoring to develop skills in those reporting to them, and this can work effectively. An unsuccessful mentoring relationship makes people reluctant to participate in another similar relationship. βA negative relationship can affect morale, stress levels and even turnover rates. Those who have a bad experience with mentoring are often reluctant to take part in another relationshipβ (Cranwell-Ward et al. 2004 : 209). Empowering participants rather than incapacitating them is the key to exerting posi- tive infl uence. The quality of the mentoring relationship is therefore critical both for the present and the future. 12.3.2 What Makes a Successful Mentoring Relationship? In the fi rst instance, protΓ©gΓ©s themselves need to have a commitment to act on their new learning. This includes making decisions about how to modify what they do, how they think and their approach to others. Mentoring encourages self-refl ections, evaluation and a commitment to change. It facilitates change and development in mindsets. It is a form of learning where the protΓ©gΓ© has to be βpresentβ and cannot be βabsentβ, unlike in other learning situations, such as the classroom or in a clinical therapeutic situation where the βlearnerβ does not necessarily βbuy intoβ the process. If they become preoccupied, the mentor needs to be attuned to this and bring them back into the moment. Secondly, mentoring takes time β although the amount of time will vary depending on its nature and the roles and experience of the people involved. Some pairs will meet regularly and frequently while others will agree to get together as needed. The former is suited where young and less experienced protΓ©gΓ©s are involved, and the latter, where it involves professional equivalents or differently experienced people of similar status. Whatever the circumstance, successful mentorship requires frequent meetings in the beginning of the relationship to establish a good foundation for moving forward. Meetings do not always require personal contact and could be achieved through Skype, email or phone. Peer mentoring can be done in a similar way and through electronic discussion fora too. 202 A.M. Brewer Thirdly, sponsorship may be a signifi cant feature of the mentoring relationship whereby the mentor can draw their infl uence and networks to gain some advantage for the protΓ©gΓ©. This advantage may be in the form of additional resources, career opportunities and the like. For example, in Australia and other western countries, women aspiring to become board members of listed companies are seeking out formal mentors with the expectation that this will give them a real opportunity to gain a seat on boards (Korporaal 2010 ) . 12.3.3 Outcomes of Mentoring A core benefi t of mentoring for both parties is multidimensional learning. Feedback on how to make decisions, how to impact on others and how to align individual goals with actions, resources and plans may take place simultaneously. Mentors offer valuable knowledge and skill development based on their own experiences of fi nding pathways out of lifeβs cul-de-sacs. ProtΓ©gΓ©s can offer valuable resources to the mentor to reciprocate their support (Mezias and Scandura 2005 ) . Mentoring provides for both, individually and together, feedback about their assumptions and roles (Hall 1996 ) and is an effective way for both to broaden their vision on career development (Liu et al. 2009 ) . Other benefi ts from a positive mentoring relationship are within the affective domain. This includes feeling more self-aware and self-confi dent, more closely connected to the organisation and fi nding work more satisfying and meaningful. For example, some of the positive outcomes of mentoring for law students, who were paired up with lawyers acting as volunteer mentors through a university alumni programme, include: βI enjoy the one to one contact with my mentor; it helped reduce the gap between teacher and student and its helped me with my career decisions tooβ. βI am much more interested in law as a career now than I was before I started this programβ. βI have an increased awareness of my professional responsibilities nowβ. Mentoring increases knowledge and connections extending to others outside the mentoring relationship, including throughout an organisation. βIt helps people build new relationships and strengthen existing ones; people become more collaborative in their performance and learning, and individuals feel more prepared to offer them- selves as mentors to othersβ (Zachary 2 005 : 9). This is important given the labyrin- thine career paths that people, especially women, fi nd themselves having to navigate. Some comments from women include: βIβve been inspired to push myself beyond my limits and that has resulted in my promotion β thank youβ. βI felt so frustrated about my opportunities but my mentor helped me open the door to new ones that I hadnβt even seenβ. 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential 203 12.4 How Is the Mentoring Relationship Different? Mentoring covers the full gamut of learning relationships and can be benefi cial from the novice to the highly experienced. It can also include elements of counselling, coaching and team building. Although the learning outcomes are critical, the pro- cess itself is also an important source of modelling, transforming and education. Learning occurs at any stage of this spectrum if the mentor is someone that the pro- tΓ©gΓ© admires. This process entails unpacking the thinking and feelings of the pro- tΓ©gΓ©, refl ecting on the degree of coherence between emotions and reasoning, intentions and aspirations, implementation and follow up. The effectiveness of men- toring is dependent on the degree of engagement and the nature of the interpersonal communication between the mentor and protΓ©gΓ©. This builds a store of information including sensitivity to contextual meanings, perceptions and interpretations as well as being able to tease out the distinctions between these. Effective mentoring is pri- mary a conversation where protΓ©gΓ©s feel βprotectedβ by the mentors and that they are βthereβ for them. This is particularly important for Generation Y workers who respond well to management when they are provided prompt feedback and credit for results achieved (Martin 2 005 ; Southard and Lewis 2 004 ) . This personal, intimate conversation transmits shared meaning and is responsive, deeply satisfying, trusting and infl uential (Nezlek 2001 ) . All of these characteristics make life more fulfi lling. Intimacy inherent in mentoring is impossible in situations where there are more than two people present, such as group training sessions, apprenticeships or on-the-job training. A one-on-one mentoring relationship can therefore become highly signifi cant and worthwhile. While mentoring does o ccur within, overlap and p arallel other forms of collaborative, learning relationships, these rarely contain the particular ingredients and benefi ts that mentoring affords its participants, both for the mentor and the protΓ©gΓ© (Tenner, 2004 ) . 12.5 Types of Mentoring Mentoring relationships are established through different ways. 12.5.1 Traditional One-on-One Mentoring Traditional one-on-on mentoring is a type of apprenticeship whereby the more junior protΓ©gΓ© learns from a more experienced mentor. Its aim is to prime the pro- tΓ©gΓ© for their next step, focusing on values, decisions and performance. This is often formalised, although rarely compulsory, and the mentor and protΓ©gΓ© are often selected and matched. It is used in schools and other organisations for supporting people to develop or learn new skills. Mentoring can, however, also be informal 204 A.M. Brewer where one party seeks out the other. Whether formal or not, traditional mentoring may vary in its philosophy in regard to whether the mentorβs viewpoint is that the protΓ©gΓ©βs thinking needs to be βalignedβ to that of, say, an organisation (dubbed βalignment mentoringβ) or allows the protΓ©gΓ© to come to their own position through refl ection and refl ective practice, more akin to professional mentoring. 12.5.2 Professional Mentoring for Practitioners This is similar to traditional one-on-one mentoring and primarily focuses on refl ec- tive inquiry into how the junior professional is improving the quality of their decisions and actions as a practitioner, for example, a medical practitioner, lawyer, teacher, social/youth worker, counsellor or nurse. Professional mentoring is often manda- tory, such as peer supervision for psychologists, coaches and the like. It provides a standards and ethical base that enables the practitioner to evaluate their own approach, analyse their dilemmas and work through problems to resolution. 12.5.3 Mentoring and Sponsoring Sponsoring is a form of mentoring with one difference: βSponsors go beyond giving feedback and advice; they advocate for their mentees and help them gain visibility in the companyβ (Ibarra et al. 2 010 : 83). 12.5.4 Cross-Cultural Mentoring Cross-cultural mentoring encourages and assists the protΓ©gΓ© to probe into their underlying assumptions, values that impact on their perceptions and actions in the host culture. It is mentoring between people of different cultures such as in βexpatβ situations. It works through an approach whereby the protΓ©gΓ© is required to walk along two paths. A good example of this would be integrating an indigenous approach within mainstream culture especially where the protΓ©gΓ© has to deal with people from the former cultural background. Napier |
has explored the cross-cultural exchanges between foreign βexpertsβ who work as mentors in developing countries and local βlearnersβ who possess a great deal of locally relevant knowledge that the foreigner needs and lacks (Napier 2 006 ) . The dialogue, learning, teaching and support across cultural differences are a vital component of cross-cultural mentoring relationship. The interaction between the two parties happens within the institu- tional context, and the decision to engage in those actions is infl uenced not only by the individual but also by the institutionβs culture, staff expectations, mission and history. 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential 205 12.5.5 Peer Mentoring Mentoring between peers of similar status such as school or university students is beneficial in sharing information, problem solving and support for each other. It overlaps with informal mentoring and is probably the most common and, there- fore, invisible form of mentoring. The key factor here is that peer mentoring includes personal approaches that are not always dealt with in formal programmes. Some examples of feedback from two different peer mentoring experiences between lecturers and students conducted as part of a course include: A wonderful experience, which defi nitely contributed to my experience as a teacher. It encouraged me to be more refl exive regarding my own teaching practices β something we donβt often take the opportunity to think about. (Lecturer group) It allowed us leadership opportunities and also encouraged us to be more innovative in our approach to our learning. (Student group) 12.5.6 Reverse Mentoring The protΓ©gΓ© stereotype is usually that of a young or βjuniorβ status person paired with a more experienced, older person (Wanberg et al. 2 003 ) . Effective mentors could, however, just as easily have less experience and still provide a basis for new learning for others. The notion of Generation Y approaching work with different expectations compared to previous generations may be oversimplifi ed. Over the ages, humans have wanted similar things from their working life regardless of whether it is a short or long career, continuous or temporary. They desire security, satisfaction, a sense of belonging, acknowledgement and growth. Many motiva- tional theorists and research attest to this (Watson et al. 2 003 ; Montana and Lenaghan 1999 ; Macky et al. 2 008 ; Cennamo and Gardner 2 008 ) . The stereotypes applied to Gen Y could therefore just as easily be applied to the over 50s. If one thinks about the baby boomer generation, the amount of change and innovation that has occurred in their lifetime has far outstripped that of Gen X or Gen Y. They were the fi rst teenagers, the fi rst hippies, some transmogrifi ed into βyuppiesβ and more recently, βsea-changersβ and βtree-changersβ. While structured mentoring schemes are well established for senior mentors and junior protΓ©gΓ©s, reverse mentoring schemes are relatively new (Greengard 2002 ) . The over 50s generation are paired with a Gen Y, for example, with a specifi c pur- pose in mind. There is widespread recognition, however, that reverse mentoring is more common than is acknowledged, if only because it happens informally and goes unnoticed. Reverse mentoring originates in the trend away from concepts of knowledge and power that parallel traditional mentoring to a more equal relation- ship, whereby all participants, regardless of age, have something of value to contrib- ute (Darwin 2 000 ; Tempest 2 003 ) . 206 A.M. Brewer Trust is also essential in reverse mentoring especially where one member acts as a sounding board or takes on the role of the questioning partner: βWhy are you doing that? What are you trying to achieve? Wouldnβt you be better doing it this way?β and so on. (Welch and Welch 2006 ) . This approach benefi ts younger people, giving them a leadership voice and enabling them to feel more confi dent and valued by others (Cotugna and Vickery 1998 ; Leh 2005 ; Morgan and Streb 2 001 ) . This may be of particular value to Generation Y, whom some authors claim to be more inter- ested than earlier generations in the moral, civic and social value that their work provides (Allen 2004 ; Cone 2006 ; Crampton and Hodge 2 009 ; Glass 2007 ; Pekala 2 001 ) . The benefi ts of reverse mentoring also open up networking and other benefi ts for young people (Leh 2005 ; Wong et al. 2 008 ; Zanni 2 009 ) . An example of how trust came about is exemplifi ed in the following quote from a Gen Y participant working with a much older staff member: Bob was so gracious in letting me guide him through the process that, although I was showing him the technical side of things, when I think back on it, I was actually learning from him about how to let others take the lead. Rather than relying on staff to approach their supervisors when they had a problem, this programme reverses the accountability and puts the control back on to the younger staff, allowing them to help older workers and, in doing so, have a conver- sation with them where they discover other βpearls of wisdomβ in the process. Learning occurs both ways and helps to break down the generation gap. 12.5.7 Group or Situational Mentoring Although it is often thought that learning is best served through a traditional one-on- one mentoring experience, sometimes it works better when people interact with multiple learners (group mentoring) or with multiple experts (situational mentoring). Different learning situations are important (Emelo 2 010 ) , and various approaches may need to be trialled and used. Some employers have experimented with forms of peer coaching for cultural change and personal transformation. Others have estab- lished mentoring circles for the purpose of facilitating development. An example of this is where a senior leader, trained in managing group dynamics, meets with a small circle of people regularly to discuss particular issues that may be shared among them and uses the groupβs skills and knowledge to learn. 12.6 Gender Differences in Mentoring Mentoring plays different roles in menβs and womenβs professional development. Professional women might experience more mentoring than professional men. In a 2008 Catalyst survey of more than 4,000 full-time professional men and women, 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential 207 83% of women and 76% of men say that they had one or even more mentors at certain time in their career. However, more mentoring does not necessarily lead to career advancement. A 2010 follow-up survey showed that men received 15% more promotions than women. One of the main reasons that mentoring failed women in terms of promotion is the difference between having a mentor and a sponsor. Women tend to have mentors and men have sponsors (Ibarra et al. 2 010 ) . Compared with men who are more ready and willing to both offer and seek a mentor, women mentors need to be encouraged and sought out (Laff 2009 ) . And they will provide more psychosocial functions since they are more relationship-oriented (Okurame 2 007 ) . Womenβs mentors usually possess less organisational power due to their posi- tion in the hierarchy. In the 2008 survey, 78% of men versus only 69% of women were actively mentored by a CEO or other senior executive. This is a real disad- vantage, as a mentorβs position in organisations is closely related to their protΓ©- gΓ©βs career advancement. Both men and women fi nd mentors themselves instead of relying on formal programmes. However, the different mentoring (formal or informal) does make a difference to promotional prospects. In the 2010 follow-up survey, women with mentors through formal programmes received more promo- tions than women who found mentors by themselves (by a ratio of nearly 3 to 2) (Ibarra et al. 2 010 ) . 12.7 The Benefi ts for Mentors Sometimes a mentor is viewed as the one giving all or even making sacrifi ces for the other; however, this is rarely the case. The benefi ts to each participant will vary according to the quality of the relationship that is generated between them. Mentors can learn from their protΓ©gΓ©s how to become more constructive and/or appreciate the need to extend their own professional or social networks. The interaction can heighten mentorsβ performance and acknowledgement for this work especially where outcomes are substantiated (Ragins and Scandura 1 994 ; Russell and Adams 1 997 ) . This in turn can afford them enhanced career satisfaction, renewed effort and interest from collaborating with others (Johnson 2 002 : 87). Being a mentor inevitably fosters oneβs understanding about how other people think, feel and act including in relation to others. The mentoring relationship is a microcosm of the protΓ©gΓ©βs behaviour. As a result, mentors not only assist protΓ©gΓ©s and provide them with feedback on their interpersonal dynamics but also fi nd that they learn to communicate more effectively themselves regardless of whether it is a traditional or reverse mentoring relationship. Seeing life through the eyes of others is an important learning source for mentors (Eby and Lockwood 2005 ; Wanberg et al. 2 006 ) and one that is often overlooked. Different perspectives such as these broaden the mentorsβ understanding and allow them to address some of the chal- lenges they face in their own lives. Through self-refl ection activated during the men- toring process, mentors learn by appreciating how they themselves (or their roles) 208 A.M. Brewer impact others and how this leads them to modify their approach as well as enhance their communication with people who have different values and backgrounds. 12.8 Different Ways of Mentoring Are More Effective Than Others Mentoring, formal or informal, is more effective when it is voluntary by both par- ties, and both respect each other and believe that they are achieving some value from it. Voluntary mentoring relationships have better chance to succeed because of the self-motivation inherent in the voluntariness. Take the Lawyers Encouraging and Assisting Promising Students (LEAPS) project for example; this is βa workplace learning program in which young people are each provided with a mentor from a law fi rm. The mentors work through lessons on study skills, ethics and career plan- ning with the studentsβ (Australian Youth Mentoring Network 2 010 ) . 12.9 Does It Make a Difference the Way the Mentoring Relationship Comes About? The manner in which mentoring programmes are established leads to different outcomes. Formal and informal mentorships vary in the ways they are established and acknowledged. One should not replace the other. Often informal mentorships are established by selection of participants based on mutual appeal and convenience, which may not be offi cially endorsed by management. On the other hand, the institutional orchestration of formal mentorship means that formal mentors may not view the protΓ©gΓ© as worthy of special attention and support; protΓ©gΓ©s may be seen as undeserving of the benefi ts of mentorship or the special attention it affords them. Such βassignedβ relationships may lack compatibility, inter- personal ease, as well as the longevity required to develop trust and the provision of psychosocial dynamics so critical to achieve the best outcomes (Chao et al. 1 992 ) . Mentors in formal programmes may be more visible and therefore less able to spon- sor and promote their protΓ©gΓ©s because these actions may be construed as favourit- ism by co-workers (Ragins and Cotton 1999 ) . DeLong et al. (2 008 ) see a disadvantage. They claim that mentoring often relies on the selection of βA-grade performersβ, that is, the top 10% of the internal workforce, and does not include the βB- or C-grade performersβ, that is, the bulk of the internal workforce who are good, albeit invisible, workers who get more than the lionβs share of the work done, especially the burden- some work, and often remain loyal to the organisation for longer periods. However, much of the value of those exclusive, one-on-one, power-dependent mentoring rela- tionships depends on context-specifi c knowledge, which is less and less relevant to sustaining career learning especially as career mobility increases (Darwin 2000 ) . 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential 209 12.10 Training for Mentors Potential mentors and protΓ©gΓ©s need to be identifi ed in all institutions, whether staff, students or leaders. A path can be planned |
for each depending on how their knowl- edge and experience is to be developed and utilised. The new recruit, student or staff, in the organisation can be assigned a mentor, and their progress tracked. Similarly, a training pathway for the mentor can be designed and planned. This approach can suit one-on-one mentoring or a circle of peer mentors. Performance feedback training for mentors will be of value in terms of their effectiveness as a mentor as well as their retention in the organisation. Leaders need to be responsible for seeking out βways to help people foster their own developmental networks that include relationships providing various types and amounts of supportβ (Chandler et al. 2 010 : 49). They could then ascertain informa- tion about, for example: What is it like to join this organisation as a newcomer? What does it feel like to be promoted or not promoted here? How are people treated when faced with leaving? What do we learn when we take on a new management or leadership role? What is it like to change career focus? Answers to these questions are vital for designing mentoring programmes. 12.11 Handling Confl ict in the Mentoring Relationship Good mentors understand that confl ict is all-pervading. No matter how productive confl ict can be between two people, it is challenging. Infl uence, confl ict and negotia- tion are important parts of mentoring especially for the protΓ©gΓ© to learn and test their skills and reactions to confl ict. Mentorships will sometimes produce disagreement, strain relationships and even be distressful for individuals (Johnson et al. 2000 ; Johnson and Nelson 1999 ; Levinson et al. 1978 ; OβNeil and Wrightsman 2 001 ) . Learning to cope with confl ict and examining both sides of an argument, while sus- pending judgment, are critical for everyone to learn. As confl ict and change are inevitable in relationships, confl ict handling is a vital skill for effective mentoring. 12.11.1 Communication Communication training boosts confi dence and credibility with the protΓ©gΓ© and strengthens the mentor relationship. Mentors need to listen well so as to give those frequently not heard a voice in what sometimes can be described as βsilent cultureβ in organisation, where diffi cult issues are not voiced and avoided. In learning how to voice issues, protΓ©gΓ©s gain a sense of being a more powerful unique self. 210 A.M. Brewer 12.11.2 Team Building Training in team development is critical to mentoring. It permits diverse perspectives to be shared so as to facilitate a common outlook on issues, which in turn is more likely to engender trust and transparency amongst team members and leaders (Jones et al. 2 007 ; Reilly and Lojeski 2009 ) . In spite of best efforts and attention, some people will be poorly suited to mentoring. 12.11.3 Boundary Setting All human relationships have boundaries or βrulesβ about what is or isnβt allowed in the relationship. Boundaries are expectations of what can be achieved and are essential for framing a mentoring relationship and distinguishing it from other rela- tionships. Mentors need to think in advance about setting appropriate boundaries, expectations and accountability with their protΓ©gΓ©s, and discuss these to reach an agreement about them from the outset. For example, respect is an important boundary in any relationship. Respect is relevant in informal mentoring and peer mentoring, where personal issues are more likely to be dealt with. Personal issues are explored in other mentoring situations when they might interfere with the protΓ©gΓ©βs positive feeling about themselves in the school, workplace or organisations. Confi dentiality is an essential element here too. Mentors need to establish rules of confi dentiality in the relationship and discuss it with the protΓ©gΓ© at the outset. 12.12 Choosing Mentors In formal mentoring programmes, individuals who are deemed desirable (a teacher, a good student, a good citizen, a good manager) are usually invited to become men- tors. However what is more important in selecting mentors is ensuring they can form positive relationships and have the resources and capability to contribute posi- tively to the growth of the protΓ©gΓ©. As one protege told me: βHe helped me defi ne what I thought were impossible goals, and then I went on to achieve themβ. As a consequence of this, the protΓ©gΓ© felt βfreerβ, which gave her permission to test out other ideas that she had. Mentors do not always require the technical expertise to be successful. In many circumstances, the personal qualities of a mentor make a big difference: a good listener, capable of encouraging and creating opportunities to realise hidden talents and wanting to help people develop and succeed. Allowing potential protΓ©gΓ©s to have a say in the choice and selection is impor- tant. Using social media is one way of achieving this. Establishing mentoring groups, according to special interests, is one way. Facilitating people to link with a 12 Positive Mentoring Relationships: Nurturing Potential 211 group with common needs through a website is a good way to achieve this. Support for informal group creation, either by the mentoring programme administrator or the participants themselves, including searches of mentor and protΓ©gΓ© profi les to facilitate group formation, is advisable. A SharePoint with designated areas for group discussions, question and answer sessions , group event notices, project post- ings and document uploads encourages interaction and collaboration among group participants. Group administration and moderation is essential to assure programme monitoring, evaluation and safety. 12.13 More than a Fleeting Connection Mentorship, if effective, can become the mainstay of a signifi cant learning relation- ship for both mentors and protΓ©gΓ©s and may even develop into a friendship that extends beyond the initial need. Durable mentoring is valuable for young people in particular. In order to maximise mentoring, it is recommended that mentoring programmes are planned and designed according to the principles outlined in this chapter, assuring quality and consistency. This prepares potential mentors and protΓ©gΓ©s from the time they enter their organisation whether this be as a student, employee, client or citizen. Mentoring requires strong support from within institutions and the community to encourage as many people as possible to volunteer and participate. Mentors are never paid extra for this work as this would impinge on the relationship. This chapter has shown how mentoring can occur and how it contributes to life learning, enhanced perspectives of thinking and values as well as outcomes. Economic and social changes have somewhat transformed us and the communities in which we reside and the institutions in which we study and work, and mentoring connects both mentor and protΓ©gΓ© to these changes. Increasingly, people are engaged in small- to medium-sized organisations with fl atter hierarchies, with people working alongside their βbossesβ or collaborating with their teachers or lecturers. Although there is increasing ageism, it is not the inter-generational issues that are the points of difference between different experience levels in mentoring. What distinguishes people today are their views about the environment, education, the economy, refu- gees and our national resources. People, young and old, expect social justice and βfair playβ in all aspects of their lives, and they believe that our leaders have an obli- gation to deliver this through procedural fairness. People want better lives, and given that work and study is a fair chunk of this, they want leaders and followers to work together on common challenges and endeavours. Mentorship is an important micro-relationship to assure that this happens at the macro-level. The challenges for us are to integrate the view of all layers of society into a defi ning vision and refl ect this in laws, regulations, opportunities and educational pro- grammes. By reconciling the fi nancial imperative with social justice and innovation, mentoring harnesses the power of relationships to develop resolution to numerous social and economic issues. 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Armstrong 13.1 Spirited Leadership There are, and always have been βlittle sacraments of daily existenceβ, those subtle weavings of the heart that move us on a minute to minute basis β the fabric of our existence, which we ignore but which are the DNA that binds us together. (David Malouf, The Great World, 1990) Currently when organisations and communities seek to develop leadership, there are a number of key activities they use, mainly based on taken-for-granted leadership theories and practices. One of these is a common practice of positive psychology, organisational coaching. What is not clear, though, is why certain interventions are chosen over others and what learning outcomes leadership programmes hope to produce. One consequence of the lack of clarity about leadership is that organisations still promote and reward people based on technical expertise (easier to quantify) and then wonder why their newly appointed CEO fails. In many cases the failure of a new senior recruit is because of his/her lack of βsoft skillsβ or ability to build positive relationships based on emotional intelligence β and rarely is this considered seriously enough for it to become the driver for successful recruitment. The signifi cance of emotional intelligence is well known but more diffi cult to quantify. At all levels of leadership, there is a knowing/doing gap partly at least because there is more talk than action and soft skills are (unfortunately) rarely rewarded or valued. Recently writers drawing on the emerging neuroscience research have added weight to the arguments for βsoft skillsβ, particularly in the area of what is being termed social intelligence. What this is telling us is that leadership at all levels must include social as well as emotional intelligence (Boyatzis and McKee 2 005 ; Sinclair 2007; Hughes et al. 2 009 ) . The aim of this chapter is to unpack what is meant by H.B. Armstrong (*) Institute of Executive Coaching , Sydney , Australia e-mail: hilarya@iecl.com S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 215 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_13, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 216 H.B. Armstrong positive relationships in the context of leadership by reporting on the experience of people who are identifi ed as βleaders of the futureβ in a number of organisations. We employ the results of a piece of research done with aspiring leaders to understand more about the connection between positive workplace relationships and leadership. In particular we propose the notion of a βspiritedβ leadership that has as its heart a form of relationality that enables the leader to inspire and innovate (transform). This spe- cifi c aspect of social intelligence named by respondents is, with the exception of Sinclair, not usually taken into account. Spirited leadership requires a particular form of sensibility β the ability to βreadβ others and the social/cultural dynamics present. A spirited leader does this to be constructively subversive β to challenge taken-for- granted practices. A spirited leader needs this to conform, but just enough and not without the critical thinking. But to be spirited β to challenge, stretch and grow people and organisations beyond their perceived limitations β requires positive relationships. This is the new face of leadership, and in the tradition of strength-based or positive psychology approaches, we will explore and elucidate this more in order to grow it. Initially we critically refl ect on the received wisdom about leadership to reposi- tion it as a set of refl ective and relational practices that are socially located within an organisational/cultural structure. The evidence we use comes from a piece of research designed to explore the benefi ts of organisational coaching in leadership development. Our aim here is not to prove or disprove the effectiveness of coaching but to reposition leadership based on what the respondents reported. The 280 people identifi ed as βleadership talentβ who completed the survey work in a broad range of organisations, public and private, not-for-profi t and government, and at all levels. There are CEOs, people in high offi ce, leaders in schools and universities, mid range leaders, team leaders and leaders of small not-for-profi ts. One thing they agreed on, wherever they are positioned, was the vital importance of positive and constructive workplace relationships, a view that is contrary to much of the received wisdom about leadership. 13.2 The βHeroicβ Leader Stories of heroic leadership are fi rmly embedded in the cultural psyche, and although books on leadership multiply yearly, they mostly, implicitly or explicitly, just add to the βalready saidβ about leadership. Leadership is seen as an individual endeavour attached to material success, involving extraordinary willpower and even redemp- tion. It is portrayed largely in heroic terms β tales of an individualβs transformation of (and in) crisis and diffi culty. This ability to transform (hopefully for good) is depicted as being due to intrinsic (hence psychological) heroic attributes that are mostly innate, even if enhanced through discipline, ambition and focused learning. T he ideology of the leader as hero, like any dogma, is interesting not only for what it inspires in us but also for what it ignores or represses. When we hear of acts of heroism, we feel excitement, enjoyment and perhaps some relief at being (simply) voyeurs; we are moved and frightened and simultaneously given hope that our βordi- naryβ struggles will fi nally be transcended. But there is another side, an implicit and 13 Spirited Leadership: Growing Leaders for the Future 217 competing aspect of this dogma. Leadership is something a person can get right, or horribly wrong. It is paradoxical. We see this most in political and historical arenas. Leadership is both our possible salvation (Ghandi or Obama) and our shadow (Hitler, or Stalin). It is regarded as the answer to the current woes of the world as well as something that has the power to enslave and ultimately destroy us. The possibility of fi nding the βrightβ leader/hero fi lls us with hope and routinely lets us down. Individualistic assumptions about leadership mislead us in several ways. Firstly, they remove leadership from the essentially social relationship that defi nes it; a leader does not exist without a follower. Secondly, they propagate a specifi c struc- ture of social relationship: Heroic acts are performed by mainly men conquering mainly thorny problems. In our prevailing mythology, effective leaders only work for βgoodβ (although it is their right to make the call about what is βgoodβ). Thirdly, individualistic assumptions perpetuate the myth that leadership is practised only by βchosenβ people who are born to it (βitβs innateβ) or through ambition, have gained the skills. Finally, these assumptions trap us either into competitive striving for exceptionalness through subliminal messages of defi cit (βyou havenβt got what it takesβ, βyouβre not good enoughβ) or into passive acquiescence and learned helpless- ness. Of course, there are some people who are wise to this, but unfortunately in organisations, most of us fi nd ourselves pulled around by these assumptions. Gender equality in leadership is still minimal, and immoral leadership still exists. Hierarchical structures still silence people, and many young people in organisations feel under pressure to strive and deliver at the expense of their own and their familiesβ health. 13.3 Leadership Learning Goals The proposition that I am making is that leadership practices, whether at macro or micro levels, depend on the implicit ethos of positive relationships (the quote at the beginning of the chapter) to be truly transformative. An aspect of this is the health of our inner worlds. But this is not enough. Sensibility to the other, including the outer world and its culture and social dynamics, its power and politics, is also required. And from the research, high potential individuals are increasingly aware that individualistic assumptions about leadership, though still infl uential, are no lon- ger suffi cient. In a pre-work survey undertaken before their leadership development (including coaching), respondents were asked to clarify their learning goals. Table 1 3.1 shows the goals, including a summary of the meanings attached to them ( n = 280). They fall into fi ve categories. The fi rst two categories refl ect the role of emotional and social intelligence in leadership and the need to understand its social location. What is important here is that participants are asking to be able to develop and learn about these things. The goals they identify refl ect qualitative aspects of leadership, includ- ing managing relationships with others and the bigger picture as well as self- awareness and self-management. Less important are the more instrumental aspects of leadership: performance, goal setting, results, planning. Although this may not be surprising, it was the degree of importance placed on the top 218 H.B. Armstrong Table 13.1 Leadership learning goals Goal % Summary Managing everyday relationships 99 Speak openly; give feedback; conduct robust at work conversations; manage up, down, sideways; manage confl ict; empathy; respect for difference; power and politics; political savvy Team building 95 Delegate, model roles, understand relational dynamics, mentor/support, understand βbigger pictureβ Learning about self in relation- 81 Awareness of personal values, self talk, strengths/ ship to others and work |
challenges, personal history and psychology Reduction of stress 65 Improve workβlife balance, wellbeing; learn to manage stress at work Improve workplace organisation 62 Improved task performance, setting goals, planning of and planning work, prioritising, achieving results three categories that interested us, and because we regard them as aspects of a spirited leadership, we will address in more detail. The fi rst aspect is an obvious one. In the fi rst three categories, respondents are asking to learn about managing relationships and self-in-relationship at work. This indicates that they consider leadership to be relational rather than individualistic. This is confi rmed by the world stage. Leaders at any level are deemed successful (or not) because of their ability to mobilise and inspire others. And the opposite is also true: without a network of relationships, leadership cannot emerge. Our atten- tion might be diverted to the wonder of a heroic act attributed to a single human being at a particular time. But where leadership really waits is not in the spotlight but in the shadows, emerging out of the nexus of events that materialise in com- munities of people weaving their lives together in invisible and unspoken ways. What happens is that thousands of acts of relationality come together and are expressed as ongoing guidance, support, sharing of experience and inspiration of one another. These are the everyday interactions and humane acts that build com- munal relationality and connectedness, producing new possibilities for the ways we live our lives β and a leader emerges. This is again most visible on the world stage, when a leader like Barack Obama appears βout of nowhereβ at a particular point of history in a particular location. Leading at its best then is a relationship of mutual infl uence that dwells in our connection with others as we mobilise them through our responsiveness, mindful- ness and curiosity, political savvy, group dynamics, modelling robust conversations, respecting difference and infl uencing. When one reads these characteristics of leading, it becomes obvious it is not a one-way street, i.e. it involves both parties, and the quality of relationality happens through mutual infl uence (for example, being mindful of our intentions as well as monitoring how they are landing on another). As Goleman and Boyatzis (2 008 ) report, from neuroscience research: ββ¦ the leader- follower dynamic is not a case of two (or more) independent brains reacting 13 Spirited Leadership: Growing Leaders for the Future 219 consciously or unconsciously to each other. Rather, the individual minds become, in a sense, fused into a single systemβ¦ great leaders are those whose behaviour pow- erfully leverages this system of brain interconnectednessβ. 13.4 βOutsightβ, Voice and Mindfulness At the basis of political savvy, group dynamics and managing diversity is βoutsightβ β as opposed to insight (Armstrong 2 009 ) . Many leadership learning interventions (including coaching) are directed at interior/individual change alone β something unexpected when the majority of theories that are drawn upon emerge from indi- vidualistic theories and pedagogies drawn from mainstream psychology and devel- opmental theories, new age concepts, positive psychology, the human potential movement and motivation and goal-setting processes (Grant and Cavanagh 2004 ) . From these perspectives, βoutsightβ is regarded as a product of increased self- awareness rather than also a likely producer of it and the goal becomes one of changing/eliminating βdistortions of perceptionβ that get in the way of the βnaturalβ potential of individuals. However, in our study the goals that respondents identify indicate that leading also includes awareness of social dynamics. Distortions of perception are not necessarily only subjective and individual. In fact people in organisations will usually acknowledge that judgements about validity (βtrueβ or βjust a perceptionβ) are more likely to be based on where the speaker (as well as the listener) is located in the social dynamics (including organisational hierarchy). Another aspect is the issue of voice: speaking openly, robust conversations, feed- back conversations, managing confl ict, indicating the correlation between positive relationships and conversation. To achieve results, a leader is engaged in countless conversations in a day or a week. How these conversations are conducted will shape the relationship. As Buber ( 1923 ) said: βThe inmost growth of the self does not take place through our relationship to ourselves but through being made present by the other and knowing that we are made present by himβ. Or, more simply put, the con- versation is the relationship (Scott 2 004 ) . Spirited leadership recognises that quality conversations are the basis of success. If a conversation is shallow or leads to mis- understandings, the relationship becomes shallow and full of misunderstandings. If a conversation is lively, respectful and productive, then the relationship is positive and leads to mutually productive outcomes. And, conversations are complex. They can never be separated from the milieu in which they occur, making them both personal and social. For example, a senior leader when asking for input or feedback should take into account that his/her posi- tion and/or perceived power may affect peoplesβ decisions on how/whether to speak. In these situations, a leader requires βoutsightβ. One respondent managing in a cross- cultural context reported: βThrough the conversations [in coaching] I realised that I was expecting too much of my leadership team. Itβs a cultural thing as well as a positional thing. In their culture they would not speak up in the group. But after the 220 H.B. Armstrong meeting I would spend all morning with them, one at a time, in my offi ce, telling me what they really thought. It was me who had to changeβ. In this case, awareness of the social and cultural dynamics produced the learning and the leader introduced changes that refl ected this and shifted the group towards more positive and therefore productive relationships (Armstrong 2009 ) . At the heart of leadership in all its relational complexity is mindfulness, the refl ective capacity to self-regulate and adapt in the moment in ways that build and maintain relationship. Being mindful means refl ecting and accepting the stories that have shaped oneβs life, as well as awareness of others and their stories and using this awareness to self-monitor and adapt in order to build rapport. Awareness of the con- nection between inner and outer, subjective and objective, echoes what Buber is really saying in the statement quoted above β that the gap between inner and outer collapses as both parties mutually shape the relational space. Therefore, self-awareness practices to enhance mindfulness are central to spirited leadership. Heifetz (1 999 ) called this the ability to be βon the balcony and in the danceβ simultaneously. As he suggested, this ability, which we all can learn, enables us to notice, to be with another, to recognise the effect of the environment and to adapt and change in order to maintain a strong relationship. Finally, spirited leadership, or leadership grounded in positive relationships, nec- essarily incorporates a positive psychology, or more precisely in the present context, a strength-based approach to learning and leadership. One participant gave an exam- ple: βIt was not until I was asked about how I had got where I was that I realised I had faced my problem before in another context. It was then I realised I could get through this time and I had all the skills to do itβ. The assumption underlying this approach is that a problem focus tends to grow the problem, while a focus on resourcefulness grows peoplesβ strengths. There are several strength-based approaches that build positive relationships β some grouped around a psychological framework (Seligman 1 990 ; Greene and Grant 2003 ) which regards strengths as based on inner resources and psychological processes. Others are grouped around a social epistemology (de Shazer 1 993 ; White and Epston 1990 ; Armstrong 1 999 ) , and they emphasise the weaving of outer as well as inner resources and strengths through language and meaning. The latter places the focus on the nexus of the relationship between people rather than the individual. How this looks in practice is that achievements, strengths and personal resources are identifi ed and βtalked upβ in the conversation, including where they are employed and the effects this deployment has on others. The focus and βtalking upβ of personal strengths validates them, and this refl ective and iterative process of recognition, acknowledgement and confi dence generates application of existing resources and strengths in new areas of major challenge. This practice is not new. It expands the foundations of the experiential and βwhole personβ learning tradi- tions (Kolb 1 985 ; Boud et al. 1993 ) which are grounded in the idea that learning is a social process based in, and building upon, peoplesβ, existing resources. Recently, with the popularity of positive psychology, this idea, which can be seen as counter- cultural, has gained popularity, and there is excellent evidence that a βgold-minerβsβ mentality (that the other has the gold within) will grow and enhance positive relation- ships (Seligman 1 990 ) and transform leadership. 13 Spirited Leadership: Growing Leaders for the Future 221 13.5 Benefi ts from Leadership Coaching I have described these aspects of spirited leadership in detail because they are the aspects of leadership described by participants in the study when asked to identify benefi ts gained from leadership coaching. The survey 1 lists 32 benefi t items which participants are asked to rate in two different ways; the extent of benefi t (learning) and the signifi cance of that benefi t to their work and leadership goals. The benefi ts, grouped under thematic headings, are listed below in the rank order of importance assigned to them (Table 1 3.2 ). Table 13.2 Benefi t groups listed in order of importance Benefi t groups Summary of items in group Mindfulness Awareness of personal values, self talk, strengths/ challenges, personal history and psychology Voice: communicating of self to other Speak openly, give feedback, robust conversations, managing up, managing confl ict Listening: responsiveness to others Understand relational dynamics, empathy, respect for difference, relational power and politics Leadership and teambuilding Delegate, role model, group dynamics, mentor/ support, βbigger pictureβ Professional aspirations Clearer personal vision, deeper appreciation of collective, meaning, confi dence Work organisation and performance Improved task performance, planning of work, prioritising, solving problems Wellbeing in work Job satisfaction, stress level, work/life balance Although the most important benefi t named is mindfulness, taken together, the top four areas of greatest impact are those to do with learning about self in relation to others . This confi rms leadership as personal and social, a shift away from abstract and rational to individualistic notions about leadership to the myriad practices and ways of relating that is leadership β a view given its fi rst major attention through a notion of βservant leadershipβ (Greenleaf 1 977 ) . However, the transition from an individual focus in leadership to a relational focus was initially not apparent in the results. The benefi t groups below are ranked by the average proportion of coachees rating benefi ts in relation to items in the group from βconsiderableβ or βvery consid- erableβ with the latter average shown in parentheses (Table 13.3 ). 1 In 2004 research was initiated to assess the effectiveness of a socially located coaching practice in growing talent and leadership in organisations. Our interest was twofold. One was to ascertain both the benefi ts that coachees were gaining from coaching and the signifi cance of these benefi ts on their leadership journey. The second was to ascertain how coaching was working to create these benefi ts. The research employed several approaches: a before and after online survey with a space for open-ended comments, both qualitative and quantitative methods with responses from coachees and from people (third parties) who worked with them. The coachee respondents all completed six to ten sessions of hourly coaching with a coach accredited in the approach described above. For yearly reports of the results, please refer to www.iecoaching.com 222 H.B. Armstrong Table 13.3 Average scores of Extent of benefi t items in each benefi t group Benefi t group Top 2 (Top 1)% Self-awareness 67 (36) Communicating with others 64 (26) Responsiveness to others 57 (24) Leadership and teambuilding 56 (30) Professional and career aspirations 55 (22) Work organisation and performance |
49 (20) Personal wellbeing in work 43 (18) The percentage of people who ranked the benefi t of individual awareness as considerable or very considerable is greater than for other benefi ts. This seems to show that it is increased self-awareness that was the clear area of change that respon- dents experience and value most. However in the survey, respondents were also asked to rate not only the benefi ts they received from coaching but also the signifi - cance that they placed on these benefi ts when they thought about them in the context of the workplace. What is interesting in the following table is that although increased self-awareness is the highest ranked in terms of benefi t gained, it is not regarded as the most signifi - cant (Table 1 3.4 ). Table 13.4 Average scores of items in each benefi t group Extent of benefi t Signifi cance of benefi t Benefi t group Top 2 (Top 1)% Top2 (Top 1)% Self-awareness 67 (36) 69 (38) Communicating with others 64 (26) 75 (39) Responsiveness to others 57 (24) 69 (31) Professional and career aspirations 56 (30) 59 (33) Leadership and teambuilding 55 (22) 63 (32) Work organisation and performance 49 (20) 55 (28) Personal wellbeing in work 43 (18) 50 (25) The variation or βgapβ between rating of the signifi cance and the rating of extent of benefi t is interesting. While gains in self-awareness and professional and career aspirations are rated as very signifi cant, the gap between their signifi cance and the extent of benefi t experienced is slight, indicating that participants are achieving the level of gain that they consider desirable. For other dimensions, the signifi cance is rated generally 10% higher than the benefi t that is experienced. This gap is most marked in benefi t areas concerning positive relationships (com- municating self to other and responsiveness), leadership and team building. This suggests that what is most important to this group of respondents is learning to build positive workplace relationships, suggesting that the complexity of everyday relationships in the workplace and their management is the most pressing issue. 13 Spirited Leadership: Growing Leaders for the Future 223 When we asked respondents to be more specifi c, they identifi ed confl ictual rela- tionships with especially others who did not report to them (colleagues and those who are more senior) and the diffi culty of presenting their ideas, trying out new things, fi elding questions, encouraging innovation and creativity and assisting people to feel engaged and part of the workplace. Finally, a key question this paper asked was: How do leadership interventions produce the benefi ts? We were particularly interested in organisational coaching, but the coaching approach is basically an extension of best-practice adult learning principles. How learning interventions such as coaching produce learning outcomes is therefore translatable to any adult learning context. More interesting perhaps is that they also translate into spirited leadership, in that the conversational practices that respondents identifi ed as assisting them in their leadership learning are the same practices that help build positive workplace relationships. Table 13.5 reports on these (see also Armstrong 2007 ) . Table 13.5 Practices and qualities that contribute to achieving benefi t Mean Top 2 4 3 2 1 n/a % % % % % % % A person who asked r efl ective questions 91 60 31 5 1 0 2 that got me thinking about things differently A person who c hallenged the assumptions 86 51 35 8 2 1 3 I am making in constructive ways A safe place to talk about problems and 85 56 29 8 3 2 2 issues that I canβt discuss with anyone else (the politics) A β sounding board β where it was safe to 84 51 33 11 2 0 3 express and test ideas A person who was interested and able to 80 45 35 21 6 2 1 monitor my learning and development Someone who could join with me in 73 35 38 16 8 1 3 brainstorming ideas for my work or professional future Someone who really u nderstands my 70 31 39 17 8 3 3 situation and the issues I face Someone I could depend upon to give me 68 33 35 21 6 3 3 support while I made signifi cant changes A structured learning framework for me to 56 24 32 27 10 4 3 develop new behaviours and work processes These rankings show the extraordinary value of asking refl ective questions that stretch and challenge people to think differently and outside the assumptions of their everyday organisational culture and social milieu. When people are given a βsafeβ space away from the politics and the confi ning routines of their everyday work life, they can refl ect and be challenged to see themselves and others in new 224 H.B. Armstrong and transformative ways. More βinstrumentalβ aspects of learning β a structure, monitoring and having subject matter expertise β are less important, again suggesting the signifi cance of building positive relationships in leadership. It is not heroic acts but courageous conversations, small and seemingly insignifi cant conversational practices, the sacraments of everyday life, that matter. People seem to also indicate the enjoyment of being challenged and stretched, suggesting another very important aspect of learning and leadership. There is a middle ground between overchallenging someone to the point of distrust and disre- spect and underchallenging them through the tyranny of wanting to be liked. This is where courage and everyday heroics enter. The practice of relational risk taking, the dance between sustaining trust and challenging people to go beyond their comfort zone and draw new, previously βunspeakableβ topics into the conversation, is central to both learning and leadership. Providing a safe place is implicitly gesturing to the politics of organisations and the ethical dilemmas people fi nd themselves in when they work inside organisa- tions. Organisation systems and cultures shape peoplesβ thoughts and behaviours more strongly than people are able to shape their organisation culture. There are always complex social dynamics; there is always a complex three-way relationship between self/other and the organisation. A βsafeβ place meant to respondents aware- ness of these things β of ethical quandaries that exist with all employees, of trans- parency, confi dentiality and responsibility. Finally, what we consider to be the most important aspect of any leadership intervention is the modelling of the learning objectives during the learning. Relational risk-taking (Mason 2005 ) is a delicate dance that cannot be learned from a book, only through modelling and experience. Modelling refl ective questioning (the understanding of safety in political environments, the challenging of assumptions, focused listening skills, strength-based practices) is arguably the most powerful form of learning and leadership. And, if knowledge and new learning is generated in the space, both parties benefi t and learn β another reinforcement of the importance of relationality. Spirited leading involves active processes of ongoing attention, action and engagement in order to appropriately introduce refl ective questions that challenge and βdisturbβ (bring into question) routine assumptions and βways of being/actingβ in the workplace without doing it in a way that is alienating or judgemental. These fi ndings confi rm that leadership learning should focus on relationality rather just on removing individual distortions of perception. In other words, it is the quality of the conversational practices that enables positive relationships and there- fore spirited leadership. In conclusion, spirited leadership is a form of leadership aimed at creating and sustaining positive relationships in the workplace. This expresses a different view of leadership from the received wisdom that paints leadership as an independent, indi- vidualistic role usually held by a male who overcomes adversity on his own. I propose a different expression of leadership; one that is embedded in social and emotional intelligence to weave inner and outer worlds through language and meaning to acknowledge and build peoplesβ strengths and resources. The practice of spirited 13 Spirited Leadership: Growing Leaders for the Future 225 leadership requires qualities and skills that are not exceptional (except for their rarity). They require a fi nely tuned sensibility to βotherβ and to the context and to the courage to respond to them. 13.6 Conclusion Through the study into organisational coaching and its success as a leadership inter- vention, we were able to provide evidence of spirited leadership as well as unpack what it looks like in practice. What we found was a shift of focus from the individual and their internal processes to the ways people relate in their everyday worlds. The ways people relate are the taken-for-granted relational practices β the βlittle sacra- ments of daily lifeβ, including the everyday conversation through which people in organisations achieve their results and goals. When people can dance between insight (knowing our own story and role) and outsight (how we and the environment are mutually infl uencing each other), they are more likely to be demonstrating spirited leadership. As the adage goes, it is not who we are, but what we do with who we are. Leaders always depend on others for their success. A signifi cant part of this is emotional intelligence. But we also swim in a sea of language and/or social practices that shape who and what we are. Through social intelligence β the recognition of our interconnectedness β we can change our relationships and infl uence others, building together new and alternative ways of being and doing that that fosters leadership at all levels of an organisation. References Armstrong, H. B. (1999). Dead certainties and local knowledge, post structuralism, narrative and confl ict in experiential learning . Unpublished Thesis, UWS, Sydney. Armstrong, H. B. (2007). 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and narrative psychology and was an academic at the University of Western Sydney, Sydney, Australia, holding senior academic positions for a number of years. She is on the advisory panel of the International Coaching Psychology Review and a professional associate of the St James Ethics Centre, Sydney. Contact: hilarya@iecl.com Chapter 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ Florence E. McCarthy and Margaret H. Vickers* 14.1 Introduction The word βcommunityβ has a range of connotations. It can refer to those who share a geographical location, who belong to a school or a neighbourhood or who share common knowledge, understandings and values. This chapter shows how active respect among communities that differ but live in the same locality, can break down barriers and construct more positive community relationships. This chapter pro- vides an example of how this might be put into practice and the factors and pro- cesses that can contribute to positive outcomes. Positive psychology has an extensive literature focusing on promoting the strengths of people, groups and institutions (Aspinwall and Staudinger 2 002 ; Seligman 2002 ) . Ingram and Snyder (2 006 ) note the extensive forays of the posi- tive psychology approach in areas of life, including schools (Baker et al. 2 003 ) , sports (Curry and Snyder 2 000 ) , multicultural relations (Sandage et al. 2 003 ) and other disciplines (Held 2004 ) . Rather than focusing on the negative aspects of individual mental health or group or institutional dysfunction, the aim is to establish knowledge about what people do well, the knowledge they have and the resilience and strength they exhibit (Seligman and Csekszentmihalyi 2000 ; Held 2 004 ; *The views expressed in this article refl ect those of the authors and do not refl ect the views of the Australian Literacy and Numeracy Foundation, the Papulu Apparr-kari Aboriginal Corporation or the University of Western Sydney. F. E. McCarthy Centre for Educational Research , University of Western Sydney , Rydalmere , NSW , Australia e-mail: ide@iinet.net.au M. H. Vickers (*) School of Education , University of Western Sydney , Rydalmere , NSW , Australia e-mail: mhv@uws.edu.au S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 227 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_14, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 228 F.E. McCarthy and M.H. Vickers Murray 2 004 . See also chapters in this volume). These benchmarks are then used to establish concrete ways of responding to individual needs. This approach has led to studies of wellbeing (Noble et al. 2 008 ) , resilience (Frederickson and Tugade 2004 ; Masten 2 001 ) and persistence. By shifting the focus on the βsubjectβ from a concern with negative aspects to more positive ones, different approaches are being constructed to work with people so as to position them as participants rather than as marginal others (Dooley 2009 ; Pate 2008 ; Bond 2 009 ) . As Gable and Haidt (2 005 ) argue, much of conventional social psychology has focused on prejudice and confl ict and on defi cit models of others. However, following their lead, this chapter explores the conditions that lead to trust, acceptance and com- promise rather than confl ict and division among disparate inhabitants within one local community. 14.2 Power Relations Within Communities Most communities embody well-established patterns of exclusion and segmenta- tion, where the dynamics of power and factors of race, gender, socio-economic status, poverty and ethnic and cultural differences tend to set people apart. These factors are often well entrenched and function to sustain institutional and indi- vidual borders that can be diffi cult to cross. Typically these divisions involve dominant and subordinate groups, with the dominant positioning the subordinate as the βotherβ. These βothersβ are characterised as defi cient, inferior and in need of direction, but rarely consulted or heard (Armstrong 2000 ) . Situations such as these raise a signifi cant challenge for positive psychology, namely, to address the age-old question of how innovative programmes can destabilise both the dis- courses and patterns of community divisiveness. To the extent that positive psy- chology includes an emphasis on general wellbeing, strength and resilience and recognition that people and their experiences are embedded in social contexts (Seligman and Csekszentmihalyi 2 000 ) , it is well positioned to respond to this challenge. However, as Held (2 004 ) reminds us, positive psychology is not with- out its negative aspects, particularly the negativity that arises from its dominant separatist message (Held 2 004 :10). It is recognised that of the βthree pillarsβ of positive psychology identifi ed by Seligman (2 002 ) , that of positive institutions and communities is the least well developed (Gable and Haidt 2 005 ) . Beginning with this recognition, our goal in this chapter is to explore ways in which community relations can be improved through βborder crossingβ strategies that are created and sustained by both resident/local and visiting/outsider participants supporting some common goals. These strategies will be illustrated though the development of a case study based on Tennant Creek, a remote rural community in the Northern Territory of Australia. 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ 229 14.3 Indigenous Australians: History, Politics and the Tennant Creek Context Indigenous history in Australia provides a bleak record of maltreatment, injustice and destruction through the interaction of White settlers with the original inhabitants. Nothing exemplifi es this history more than the construction of the new continent as a βterra nulliusβ (empty land) upon the arrival of the British who disregarded the presence of roughly 500,000 Indigenous people and over 300 different languages and cultures. As Reynolds (1 992 ) argued, βdiscoveryβ was deemed to give Europeans automatic sovereignty over the land, eliminating recognition of native title. Government policies that dominated the twentieth century were based on the premise that Indigenous Australians would become extinct and their children should be assimilated into White society. An example of these policies was the forcible removal of Indigenous children from their families, placing them in government homes and mission schools (Hollinsworth 2003 ) . From 1900 to 1970, between one tenth and one third of all Indigenous children were removed from their parents. Despite such policies, Indigenous Australians have survived and wherever possible focus on sustaining and reviving their languages and traditions that uphold the distinctive features of their own countries and communities. This case study illustrates the possibilities that can be created when historical antagonists are involved in new undertakings that reposition them in relation to each other and provide spaces for alternative relationships to develop. Prilleltensky and Prilleltensky (2 006 ) write about the distinguishing characteristics of transformative interventions in community change. They argue that when values of self-determination, participation, social justice and respect are valued and people work together in partnership β doing things βwithβ rather than βtoβ or βforβ each other β transformative and sustainable change can take place. The partners in this project include Indigenous Elders (βthe Ladiesβ), Indigenous high-school and primary school students, teachers of the Tennant Creek primary and high schools, pre-service University Secondary Masters of Teaching students from the University of Western Sydney and staff of the Australian Literacy and Numeracy Foundation (ALNF). The role of this outside agency was to act as a catalyst in stimulating new possibilities for all community stakeholders. 14.3.1 The Recent and Relevant History of the Community It is important to contextualise the relational nexus existing in Tennant Creek. A central feature of this case study revolves around the struggle to sustain fi rst- language learning in the context of schooling and the relations between Whites and 230 F.E. McCarthy and M.H. Vickers Indigenous people in a small isolated town in the Northern Territory of Australia. The main focus is the development of a language preservation and acquisition pro- gramme (Community Action Support programme) for young Indigenous primary school students, together with the transformations that occurred in the relational nexus bringing major stakeholders of the community and outside institutions together as participants in this programme. By creating new spaces for cooperation, participants were able to envision possible new roles for themselves and alter pre- existing notions of βothersβ (Armstrong 2 000 ) . Tennant Creek is the fi fth largest town in the Northern Territory (NT), founded in 1934 in response to the discovery of gold in the area. The town is located in country traditionally held by the Warumungu people, but even from the 1880s, large por- tions of this land were designated as pastoral leases, forcing Warumungu and other Indigenous people off their own land to work as stockmen or domestic servants on the cattle stations or move to reserves established for them. Tennant Creek was offi cially off limits to Indigenous people until the 1960s, and their attempts to move into the township in the 1970s met with opposition from offi cials and Anglo- European town people. In response to this opposition, Indigenous people began to form their own organisations focused on gaining representation, infrastructure and services for their community (Aboriginal Child Language Acquisition project (ACLA) 2008 ) . Along with a health service, an offi ce of the Central Land Council (the regional representative body for Indigenous people) and the Barkly Regional Language Centre ( Papulu Apparr-kari Aboriginal Corporation ) , the Julali-kari Aboriginal Council Corporation was formed. It originally concerned itself with Indigenous housing but has expanded its focus over time. Within the town, Indigenous people live either in one of the eight residential town camps or at βstreet addressesβ on residential streets. These βplace of residenceβ divisions signify borders of segregation and exclusion. After a 10-year legal battle, Indigenous people of the region now have rights to the country surrounding the town. This means the return of the traditional Warumungu lands to their control and jurisdiction. While some mining and mineral exploration still continue in the area, the main gold mines have largely closed down, reducing the town from a population of roughly 9,000 people in 2001 to a current estimate of 3,185, of which 1,176 are Indigenous (ABS Census 2001) . The town is located about 1,000 km south of Darwin and about 500 km north of Alice Springs and is situated at the crossroads of the two major roads in the Territory, the Stuart and Barkly highways. Being extremely isolated, it is difficult to obtain permanent teachers for its one primary and one secondary school or doctors or nurses for the small, local hospital. The mine closures saw the exodus of permanent mine managers and employees, leaving the reduced non-Indigenous population in control of the local council and other positions of consequence in the town. Because Tennant Creek is a regional centre of the Barkly Division, it has Commonwealth government offi ces, various civic and non-profit organisations, as well as branches of the Charles Darwin University and Bachelor University, which is an Indigenous higher education institution. 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ 231 14.3.2 Bilingual Education It is widely accepted that children whose mother tongue is not English learn more easily if they fi rst achieve literacy in their mother tongue (Collins 1 999 ) . Indigenous children who speak one or more languages other than English will require explicit instruction in English as a second language (ESL) in order to adequately learn English (Simpson et al. 2009 ) . These issues are critically important for many Indigenous children in the Northern Territory as they may come from families where Aboriginal English or Indigenous languages are spoken as fi rst languages. Aboriginal English is a non-standard form of English that has its own grammatical rules and follows many constructions found in Indigenous languages (Turpin 2008 ) . It is a form of Creole that arises when adults speak many different languages. Many Indigenous children speak more than one Indigenous language, and the formal Standard Australian English taught in public schools is not necessarily familiar to them. In Central Australia, where Tennant Creek is located, the main language families are Arandic, Ngarrkicc and Western Desert, in addition to Warumungu. Each language family has numerous dialects, but βoverlapping dialects/languages share common vocabulary and grammatical featuresβ and are mutually intelligible (Turpin 2008 :1). An example of the complexity of languages is found around Tennant Creek where groups speak Wakaya, Alyawarre, |
Warlpiri or Warlmanpa, Julalikari or Kaytetye, in addition to Warumungu (ACLA 2008 ) . Bilingual education began in the Northern Territory in the 1970s; though strongly supported then, it has since become a major area of political disagreement. During the time that bilingual education was supported by the Commonwealth government, 22 two-way schools were created in remote rural settlements where both fi rst- language and ESL instruction were provided to children (Turpin 2 008 ) . These schools were staffed with a teacher-linguist and were supported by a Literacy Production Centre that created bilingual texts and useful instructional materials. With the attainment of self-government in 1978, the new Northern Territory gov- ernment withdrew support from bilingual education, closed 11 of the 22 two-way schools and by 2008, virtually closed all bilingual education by instituting a policy under which the fi rst 4 years of schooling for all children must be only in English. This decision bode ill for many of the endangered Indigenous languages in the Territory; it ignored the language rights of Indigenous people and also ignored the considerable research which indicates that learning outcomes for children for whom English is not their fi rst language are signifi cantly enhanced when bilingual and ESL instruction is employed (Simpson et al. 2 009 ) . 14.3.3 The Main Players in Education in Tennant Creek In communities such as Tennant Creek, where social disadvantage is well estab- lished and seemingly intractable, schools are the main institutions that bring different, disparate groups together. All children are required to attend school, and while 232 F.E. McCarthy and M.H. Vickers attendance and interest in schooling may vary greatly within different groups, the required presence of children in schools offers an opportunity to reach out to parents and their communities. Most parents would like their children to receive a useful education and be treated fairly and with respect in the classroom. They desire schools that are welcoming and inclusive of their concerns (Pate 2 008 ) . When this does not happen, disparities continue to exist among and within schools and their communities. The disadvantage in communities fi nds its way into schools and class- rooms and is often mirrored in playground interactions together with the treatment of students by teachers. Given that schools do not operate in a vacuum, any reform activities need to include a range of groups that represent the diverse communities served by the school. The involvement of groups who are marginalised is especially important. Each group will have specifi c defi nitions of its traditionally defi ned functions and purposes. The mean- ings attached to these roles will often incorporate well-established constructions about others in the community. The combination of traditional roles and ascribed construc- tions of others creates symbolic and behavioural boundaries that reinforce the segre- gation existing in the town. Below is a brief description of the main players in education in Tennant Creek that have contributed to creating and running the Community Action Support programme (CAS). 14.3.4 Tennant Creek High School (TCHS) In 2008, there were 265 students enrolled in the Tennant Creek High School (TCHS) in Years 7 to 12 (NT Govt 2 008a ) . Currently, approximately 80% of all students are from Indigenous families; some are from settlements and small communities even more remote than Tennant Creek. Twenty years ago, there were almost no Indigenous students, the majority being Anglo-Australians. Estimates of student attendance vary from 74% to 79%. The teaching staff is composed almost entirely of Anglo- Australian teachers, several of whom have been at the school for a long time. There is only one Indigenous teacher born in Tennant Creek. She has returned to teach English in high school. There is also an Indigenous student liaison offi cer who pro- vides support services, such as driving a school bus to transport Indigenous students to and from school. In 2008, there were no bilingual classes in high school as the school administra- tion felt that there were βtoo many Indigenous languages and a lack of qualifi ed language teachersβ. In addition, there was no English as a Second Language (ESL) teacher. Attempts to acquaint Anglo-Australian students with aspects of Indigenous culture are found in a βculture and languageβ programme being run by an Indigenous woman appointed as an assistant teacher. Students in each Year group do different fi eld trips involving camping and hunting, with the βLadiesβ from the Language Centre providing information about local plants and fl owers and telling stories from their culture. This programme was called a βtwo-wayβ programme, providing Anglo- Australian students with some idea about Indigenous life. 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ 233 14.3.5 Tennant Creek Primary School (TCPS) The primary school, including a preschool in the same grounds, has a current enrolment of 378 students (NT Govt. 2 008b ) . The primary school engages in various programmes, such as a government-sponsored healthy eating programme where Indigenous women are contracted to provide breakfast, recess snacks and lunch to primary school students. Other programmes feature environmental concerns, including having students design, plant and care for school gardens, featuring desert plants, or develop signboards highlighting the history of the region, featur- ing the cattle stations, mining and Indigenous culture. Although exact fi gures are unavailable, it is safe to assume that the majority of students in the primary school are of Indigenous origin. In 2008, there were no bilingual education classes in the school. 14.3.6 Segmentation and Community Relations This brief description of Tennant Creek and its schools highlights the segmentation of different groups within the boundaries of the town. Anglo-Australians carry the memories of a more affl uent time when they constituted the majority living in the town. Those who continue to reside there now assume and exercise the power atten- dant in dominant social relations and organisations, holding powerful positions in local government and maintaining separate social clubs. However, maintaining these advantages sometimes assumes a defensive posture as many Anglo-Australians are aware of the signifi cant number of Indigenous people in the town. Many busi- nesses rely on Indigenous people as part-time workers or customers. Relationships across the Anglo-Indigenous divide tend to be remote and uneasy, and each segment of the community has largely stereotypic views of the other. There are few venues or cultural events where Anglos and Indigenous people mingle. The two schools refl ect this separation, as the curriculum of the school features basically Anglo-Australian history, values and subjects deemed important by the Department of Education. Efforts to promote Indigenous culture or provide mean- ingful language instruction as a key to improving Indigenous student achievement are tokenistic or largely missing. Changing the overall relational nexus of the town is unlikely to occur naturally. Although small beginnings can be created in the one place where Anglos and Indigenous people meet, altering the well-established patterns of behaviour and structure of the schools is also diffi cult. Often, what is needed to destabilise the existing situation is the intervention of an outside agency willing to work collaboratively in creating new possibilities beyond what might naturally occur, given the existing circumstances and players. Creating positive community relations is like looking at a puzzle and putting it together in new ways. This is the role that the ALNF assumed by working with members and staff of the Language Centre at the Papulu Apparr-kari Aboriginal Corporation . 234 F.E. McCarthy and M.H. Vickers 14.3.7 Papulu Apparr-kari Aboriginal Corporation One of the most important activities of the Papulu Apparr-kari (PAK) Aboriginal Corporation is the management of the Regional Indigenous Language Centre for the Barkly Division. It was founded to preserve, maintain and revive the 16 Indigenous languages of the region ( www.papak.com.au , accessed 28/04/2010). The Language Centre runs a variety of programmes. Among them are cultural awareness/cross- cultural courses for businesses and corporations, interpreter services for legal matters, liaison/mediation services between Indigenous peoples and government and corporate entities, and translation services to help promote communication between Indigenous groups and businesses or government offi ces. Papulu Apparr-kari has also created business ventures to make it independent of outside funding, foster technical skills among Indigenous workers to improve their employment opportunities and serve as role models for other Indigenous people. The media centre, originally designed to support the main work of the Language Centre has expanded to include a range of commercial services. Many of these activities were funded through the Commonwealthβs Community Development Employment Program (CDEP). With this funding, a group of Indigenous Elders, βthe Ladiesβ, has developed considerable skills related to local languages. They have provided a reliable source of information, knowledge and translation of Indigenous languages for linguists, businesses and government organ- isations for many years. These Ladies are also essential to the new CAS programme with the schools. With the Commonwealth Intervention in 2007 in the Northern Territory, the CDEP was closed, greatly infl uencing the work of the Centre. Many of the programmes, such as the Media Centre and welding were phased out, and only the translation work of the Ladies was continued. There was a perception among Indigenous people that their initiatives to exercise independence were not always appreciated by the White community. For example, feelings among some of the PAK administrative staff indicated that: βAnglos in the town think Indigenous people canβt do foodβ (referring to the efforts of PAK to make groceries available at affordable prices to Indigenous people). Another comment was that: βOpposition is from Whites who resent Aboriginals doing for themselves and cutting down on Anglo profi tsβ. In regard to earlier attempts by the Ladies to work in the schools, one teacher associated with PAK said that: βthe program stopped because the ladies wouldnβt go any more because of behaviour problems from studentsβ. We later learned that these problems arose because the classroom teacher left the room when the Ladies came to present their lessons. 14.3.8 Training Centre, Charles Darwin University (CDU) The CDU training centre coordinates Vocational Education and Training (VET) and Technical and Further Education (TAFE) equivalent certifi cate courses. There are three full-time staff: two teach in the adult Language, Literacy and Numeracy 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ 235 Programme (LLNP). The third person also functions as the coordinator. When other lecturers are needed, instructors are brought from the main campus of Charles Darwin University in Alice Springs. The training centre works closely with Bachelor University, the Language Centre and, in some cases, the high school to provide certifi - cate classes when there is adequate demand. An opinion expressed here by one staff member mirrored that of some school administrators: βthere is only a minimal work ethic among Indigenous people; they didnβt need to work because they are on CDEP or get support from dividends from the minesβ. As can be seen from these comments, the positioning of the other from both sides of the community was entrenched within a long history of mistrust and stereotyping. Movements across these boundaries required changes within both individuals and organisations. The CAS programme with its inherent values of learning and respect, along with the contributions of new participants, provided the catalyst for initiating this repositioning. 14.3.9 Australian Literacy and Numeracy Foundation (ALNF) The Australian Literacy and Numeracy Foundation (ALNF), founded in 1999, is dedicated to raising language, literacy and numeracy standards for disadvantaged people. As part of its work, it raises funds to develop, implement and sustain innova- tive projects for individuals, families and communities ( www.alnf.org ). The project in Tennant Creek began in 2004 when Mary Ruth Mendel, a co-founder of ALNF, began working with Indigenous women elders in the Language Centre to transcribe and analyse the Warumungu language and transform it into forms that could be used for fi rst-language teaching to Warumungu children. In seeking to develop this pro- gramme, the authors of this chapter were invited to Tennant Creek to explore what kind of school-based programme could be developed. Drawing in part on existing partnership programmes between the ALNF and the University of Western Sydney, a cross-generational mentoring programme was created. An important element in the beginning success of the Community Action Support programme was the trust and respect that had developed between the Ladies and the ALNF. These are essen- tial elements |
in the creation of any new community initiative and will be discussed below. Such an endeavour requires time. It cannot be hurried to meet a budget requirement or an agency deadline. 14.3.10 The University of Western Sydney, School of Education The Master of Teaching Secondary programme in the School of Education requires all pre-service teachers to enrol in a non-traditional, service-learning-based practicum (known as PE3) where they engage with school-age children but in non-classroom settings. PE3 is meant to foster an understanding about students, their lives and cultures that are often not possible to learn in the regular routine of the classroom 236 F.E. McCarthy and M.H. Vickers (Power 2010 ; Vickers 2 007 ; Harris et al. 2004 ) . The service-learning approach involves engaging students in new situations where they are invited to participate in the ongoing activities of a community agency or not-for-profi t organisation. Students are required to refl ect on their experiences through a range of activities in order to generate new understandings of the people, children and circumstances in which they have been participating (Harris et al. 2 004 ) . The key to the success of these arrangements is the reciprocal relationships that are fostered and nurtured between all participants in the undertaking (McCarthy et al. 2005 ) . 14.4 The Community Action Support Programme (CAS) The Community Action Support programme (CAS) is a cross-generational literacy- support programme in which different groups collaborate together to train and prepare Yr 10 Indigenous high-school students to provide reading and writing support for young primary school children. While the immediate objective is to enhance the learning of primary school students in both English and fi rst language, the long-term objective is to involve Yr 10 Indigenous students in meaningful engagement with learning and teaching in anticipation that this may encourage retention and lead to pathways to further education for them. The role of the pre- service UWS university students was to provide curriculum suggestions and assist in the development of lesson plans with the Ladies and high-school student teachers and also mentor the high-school students in their own academic work. The Ladies provided an orientation to the UWS students regarding Indigenous culture(s) and language(s). Programme design and all curriculum support materials were the result of collaboration among the ALNF, the high school, the Ladies and the UWS students. While the main teaching staff of the primary and high schools were not directly involved in the delivery of CAS, their approval and support were essential. Over time, their support became more vocal as in both schools, they began to see different forms of interest and engagement in learning among their Indigenous students. This collaboration provides an innovation in community dynamics through which central players are encouraged to re-evaluate their constructions of each other in the process of engaging in fruitful new joint activities. It was anticipated that as an outcome of CAS, aspects of the Indigenous com- munity would be strengthened. For example, the Ladies would have renewed status within the PAK Language Centre and the wider Indigenous community for their work in promoting fi rst-language instruction in the primary school. The communities would benefi t from the active language learning their children were receiving, and this was likely to change their attitudes toward the primary school. The successful teaching by the Indigenous high-school students of the younger children would contribute to the completion of their own community studies class. Their presence and that of the Ladies in the classroom altered the view of the younger children to these adults in positive ways. 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ 237 The creation of situations that build on the strengths of individuals established new pathways to learning, to changed perceptions about themselves and others and views of education and the schools. The increased engagement and interest of Indigenous students in learning were apparent to the mainstream teachers in both schools. This challenged many of the negative views held by teachers about Indigenous students and about their learning capacities (Armstrong 2 000 ) . 14.5 Reactions to CAS The response to CAS has been overwhelmingly positive. Among the Yr 10 students, at least two of the fi ve students have made plans for further education: one to become a teacher, the other to join the army (Jepson 2009 ) . Two other students in the class also successfully passed the Community Studies subject. The new high-school prin- cipal termed the project βhighly successfulβ: βIt keeps the doors open between older and younger generation and in all cultures that are slippingβ. The vice principal and Community Studies teacher thought that through CAS, Indigenous students could begin to envision a more ambitious future for themselves, not just as teaching aides or teaching assistants but as classroom teachers. UWS pre-service teachers working with high-school classroom teachers brought the latest methods and ideas with them, and this stimulated the high-school teachers to refl ect on their own teaching methods. The head of the CDU training centre suggested that the CAS experience expanded the restricted view Indigenous students had about what was possible for them to achieve (ALNF 2 009a ) . UWS pre-service teachers saw the power of Indigenous teachers teaching Indigenous students, and this experience at Tennant Creek transformed their ideas about Indigenous people and about the nature of teaching (Brace 2 009 ) . One or two stated that they would consider accepting an assignment to teach in Tennant Creek. The Ladies and Papulu Apparr-kari were thrilled with the enthu- siastic response of the younger children to fi rst-language teaching and with the presence of young Indigenous high-school students playing an active role in teaching and assisting in the childrenβs acquisition of fi rst language. Mrs. Nakkamarra Nixon, the leader of the Ladies, says she is βrelieved when others learn from her because the language needs to be spoken to live. But Indigenous children need good English, too. It is half this and half that, it is diffi cult. They should learn both ways so it can balance the things in their livesβ (Jepson 2 009 ) . It was rewarding for the Ladies to interact with these young people and to expe- rience the enthusiasm and respect of the children and high-school students to them as Elders. For the high-school students, the impact they had on the younger students became clear as the children greeted them on the streets outside of school or at the football matches (ALNF 2 009b ) . Clearly, being a role model was new to them, and while they may not admit this, they were pleased about this (ALNF 2 010 ) . 238 F.E. McCarthy and M.H. Vickers 14.6 The Construction of More Positive Community Relations To make this project successful requires the unique contributions of all the players. The withdrawal of any one of them would inhibit programme outcomes. All are equally important but each in a different way. The ALNF was the catalyst that pro- vided the stimulus and the means for local people to try something new. The primary school undertook to select groups of students who would be taught by the high- school students and provided the space and time for this to occur. The high school enrolled students in the Community Studies class and contributed a supervising teacher who teaches the class and works with the other partners to prepare the teaching materials and resources needed. This teacher also is responsible for teaching and demonstrating to the Yr 10 students what and how to teach the lessons to the younger students. The Ladies and PAK bring their considerable knowledge and experience of working with Indigenous languages and the preparation of fi rst-language teaching materials; they also provide cultural orientation to the UWS students, who may have never been in the βoutbackβ before or interacted with Indigenous students. The Yr 10 students contribute their willingness to teach younger students, and they become role models for the younger students. Having all the players in place is still not enough. An analysis of the nature of the exchanges that occurred is crucial to the understanding the outcomes. Fundamental to the exchange among the Ladies and ALNF is the issue of r espect and giving . The ALNF came to work with the Ladies on something that was important to them: to develop the means so that young Indigenous children could learn to read and write in their fi rst languages. This involved 4 or 5 years of collaboration in relation to Warumungu as a written language. The ALNF s upported the Ladies to develop the means to teach Warumungu to young children. This was a way to keep the language alive and, at the same time, to realise that these children also needed to learn Standard English. This contributed to an improved sense of empowerment and control by Indigenous people of this important aspect of their lives. The fact that the interven- tion is occurring in the mainstream primary school with the support of the high school is immensely important in shaping new possible forms of community rela- tions between Anglo-Australians and the Indigenous communities. R eciprocally, after CAS was established, the Ladies were willing to consider going back into the primary school to try teaching again. They willingly mentored the Yr 10 teachers and helped them develop teaching materials. The Ladies gave their time and energies to orient the six UWS pre-service teachers, which increased the likelihood that these outsiders would have more success in their interactions with Indigenous children and adults. Relationships built on reciprocity were established with trust and respect inherent in the interaction between the Ladies and the ALNF. As the Director of PAK said: βThat ALNF is a good mob to work with. We particularly like their enthusiasm and interest in our languagesβ. Another important feature of CAS is the c ontinuity it is establishing. Most visitors to Tennant Creek make one visit and are referred to by Indigenous people as βfl y-in- fl y-outβ types. The continuity of the connection between ALNF and PAK and the 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ 239 Ladies is in sharp contrast with this. Ongoing and continuous c ommunication among all the players is an important characteristic of the dynamics of CAS. All participants agreed to attend meetings when the ALNF staff were in town; none of the major players were left out. All relevant players participated in the development of the lessons for the primary school children and for the high-school students doing the teaching. Rather than having projects done βtoβ or done βforβ Indigenous people or for the local Anglo-Australians by outsiders, CAS was done βwithβ everyone. Different contributions were noted and appreciated, and there was no questioning anyoneβs commitment to making the programme work. This initiative was supported by the newly appointed principals in both public schools as a means of improving Indigenous student retention and improving the literacy develop- ment of Indigenous primary school students. The CDU training centre added its support by crediting the teaching experiences of Indigenous students in Community Studies as prior experience in qualifying for relevant TAFE (Technical and Further Education) certifi cates. The elements identifi ed here as essential in overcoming confl ict and creating more positive connections among diverse groups are widely supported in the fi eld of community development. For example, in the protocol for health professionals to work with Indigenous communities in the northern reaches of Australia, these same values are listed as essential for professional outsiders who are seeking to engage with Indigenous people: respect, reciprocity, trust, communication, time and so on (NHMRC 2003 ) . Other efforts to improve the power and capacity of people to rep- resent themselves are also found in community mapping initiatives (Amsden and Van Wynberghe 2005 ) or in the βtheories of changeβ approach which focuses on creating forms of evaluation that capture the complexity, diversity and variability of communities (Sullivan et al. 2002 ) . The elements posited by advocates of positive psychology as crucial are essentially similar to approaches drawn from diverse dis- ciplines and world views. Universally, it appears that efforts to improve community relations are essential ingredients in promoting peace and stability. 14.7 Into the Future While |
CAS has only been operating for 1 year, indications of improved community relations are already apparent. Partially, this is found in the new ways that local townspeople and Indigenous people are relating to each other, both as groups and as individuals. These changes potentially break down long-held constructions of βothersβ and open spaces for new ways of relating. The Ladiesβ interaction with the Anglo- Australian teachers in the schools is an example. Stemming also from these interactions are transformative experiences for many players who have been involved. Young Indigenous children have enthusiastically responded to learning first languages and English and have fl ourished by having Indigenous teachers in the classroom. The high-school students have become role models not only in the classroom but also in other arenas; two of them want to continue with advanced education. 240 F.E. McCarthy and M.H. Vickers Respect for Elders by younger Indigenous generations has been enhanced and is important, as traditional relationships, as well as language, need to survive. The Papulu Apparr-kari Centre has potentially gained stature in the town as the Ladies have utilised their own work and relationship with the ALNF to make a dif- ference in the operation of the schools, proving the value of an increased presence of Indigenous people in educational practices. This relationship is built on the rec- ognition that Indigenous children benefi t from learning both English and their fi rst languages simultaneously; this is why bilingual education is needed. The contribu- tions of UWS pre-service teachers made a difference to many in the community, but equally important, they experienced a transformation in their own constructions of βothersβ, which will inform their own practice as teachers in classrooms with Indigenous students. Other research (McCarthy and Murakami 2010 ; Sato et al. 2 009 ; Ferfolja et al. 2 009 ; King 2004 ) also supports the transformative effect that participating in unfamiliar situations can have on the views people have of others. 14.8 What Have We Learnt? The improvements in social dynamics described in this case study illustrate key principles of community relations in the fi eld of positive psychology. The emphasis is on building on the strengths and resilience of people through collaborative endea- vours. Established traditional boundaries are breached both by new experiences and by openness to learning β about the self and about βothersβ. Inherent in this process is the movement of Indigenous people from the margins to the centre of the rela- tional nexus. Within a safe setting facilitated by third parties, marginalised voices were heard and respectful action was taken. The imbalance in power was minimised as partners were dependent on each other to reach their mutual and separate goals. The specifi c goal of CAS was the preservation and promotion of Indigenous languages, and the key to its success was a carefully constructed programme built as the outgrowth of a long and profi table ongoing relationship among the major parties. The work done by Nakkula et al. ( 2010 ) in the US mirrors many of the prin- ciples and understandings developed here, including respect for individual identi- ties, gaining trust, building on assets or strengths and being both pro-active and collaborative. They too used mentoring as a tool for development and gave young people structured opportunities for leadership. The initial success of CAS is impressive, illustrating how opportunities for posi- tive relationships between Indigenous people and Anglo-Australians can occur. This success is, however, only a small beginning in the long process required to bring about further and other forms of reconciliation between Indigenous people and Anglo-Australians across Australia. CAS will continue in Tennant Creek. It can be anticipated that as CAS grows, problems will arise that will again require resourcefulness and initiative on the part of all participants. What the programme has in its favour is the fi rm foundations built within the PAK Language Centre, the continuity provided by ALNF and the 14 Positive Community Relations: Border Crossings and Repositioning the βOtherβ 241 ongoing commitment of the schools. If this initiative can be sustained, there is a good chance that real change could occur in the social context and relational nexus of Tennant Creek. What can be learned from this for other endeavours is that com- munity wellbeing only grows out of reconstructed relationships. 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Contact: mhv@uws.edu.au Chapter 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent Beliefs and Cultures Zalman Kastel 15.1 Introduction The deputy principal of a small town school in Australiaβs Northern Territory had organised with the interfaith Together for Humanity team to run a Leadership Day as part of a two-day seminar with 11β12 year olds. Almost all the students were Indigenous, so we thought it important to make it culturally appropriate. Shortly before starting, the team sat down for a snack outside, so our Indigenous team member, Auntie K., could smoke a cigarette. I asked Auntie how we might make the Leadership Day more culturally appropriate. Her response did not seem to answer our question. I asked the question differently and still did not get what we were looking for. I stopped and asked myself: βAm I really listening? Am I asking the wrong question?β Then I asked if this whole |
idea of 11-year-old leaders might have no cultural resonance. Auntie confi rmed this. Ok, we said, we wonβt have a Leadership Day. What we are really trying to do is encour- age respect, initiative and contribution. What does your heritage say on that? Ah! Auntie was in her element. She explained the kinship system and how every person has responsi- bilities and links to a vast network of people, and custodianship of specifi c plants, animals and places. The students responded enthusiastically with a range of initiatives including plans for planting a vegetable garden to distribute to the needy, and making a welcoming video for new students about their friendly school. A few months later, the deputy principal reported there was still a different feeling in the school. This chapter does not set out a path for world peace, nor does it address the broad relationships between religions, peoples or nations. In terms of divergent beliefs, the purpose here is not to promote respect for religions in general or any particular religion, but rather to identify ways in which people holding different viewpoints about religion, or politics, ranging from atheism to religious literalism, and conser- vatism to communism can respond appropriately and ethically to tensions arising from these differences and other cultural expressions that might make some people feel uncomfortable. Rabbi Z. Kastel (*) National Director Together for Humanity Foundation , Sydney , NSW , Australia e-mail: zalman@togetherforhumanity.org.au S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 245 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_15, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 246 Z. Kastel βI hate the word toleranceβ . Thatβs a refrain heard from those who fi nd prejudice deeply offensive and think we can celebrate diversity rather than merely tolerate it. It is a noble sentiment, but one this author rejects on the ground that for some situations, tolerance would be a signifi cant improvement. The defi nition here of βpositive relationshipsβ includes a spectrum of stances varying according to what is realistic for different individuals and contexts. These range along a continuum from an improved sense of belonging for people from varied backgrounds and strong support for distinc- tive and interconnected communities, to more modest states of responding construc- tively to confl ict, such as interacting with people from varied backgrounds in respectful and just ways (Paradies et al. 2 009 ) , to confl ict containment and reduction of hatred and mistrust in the context of an intractable confl ict (Biton and Salomon 2 006 ) . As much as evidence gathered by academics, this chapter draws on the experi- ence of practitioners working and grappling with divergent beliefs, narratives, norms and perspectives in a range of settings. The authorβs own experience involves work carried out between late 2002 and 2010 with a group of people with diverse reli- gious and political beliefs, who set out to educate Australian school children about replacing prejudice with empathy, awareness of common values and our ability to work together. Initially there were three: a Turkish politically active Muslim, a Quaker suspicious of power and the author, a Hasidic Jew employed by a religiously uncompromising, revivalist Synagogue. Over time, others got involved: a Liberian survivor of civil war, Aboriginal people, people of Arabic backgrounds including Palestinians and Lebanese, an Israeli, Christian believers in the literal truth of the Bible, religious progressives and atheists. Their collaboration, now known as Together for Humanity, engaged face-to-face with over 50,000 students in 7 years. This rewarding journey confronted core participants with the sometimes challeng- ing reality of divergent beliefs and cultures. 15.2 Challenges I grew up in an ethnically mixed part of Sydney, but my son did not experience growing up here in the country. When I went on an aeroplane with him β this was after the Bali bombing β and a Muslim sat next to us, he was really terrifi ed. To be honest, I wasnβt too comfortable either. It made me think about how prejudiced I was. (School Principal in regional NSW, Australia, 2010) This chapter frames challenges to positive inter-group relations under three broad categories: Beliefs, Identity and Grievance (BIG). Unhelpful beliefs include preju- dices on the part of people who hold strong views about religion, such as the attitudes of conservatively religious people about non-religious people and people who are dif- ferently religious to themselves, as well as stereotypes about religious people held by people who are hostile to or ambivalent about religion (Bouma and Halafoff 2009 ) . Mirroring arguments against racism which assert we are all the same, some have tried to deal with religion-linked hostility by proclaiming all religions are βgoodβ; or in the case of Islam, calling it βthe religion of peaceβ. These platitudes do not stand up to scrutiny because far too much violence has been committed at least in part in the name 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent... 247 of religion. There are legitimate concerns relating to religious difference especially as it interacts with other factors, e.g. coercive enforcement of religious standards of mod- esty, controversy around gay marriage and abortion and the real threat to many reli- gious beliefs, values and practices posed by western βgodlessβ cultural infl uences. Waleed Aly, an Australian Muslim academic, attributes much misunderstanding between Muslims and the so-called West to arrogance, which he sees in the ten- dency of some to ignore the basic principle that we cannot assume our own solu- tions will work for other peopleβs problems. Yet many in the West insist on a reformation of Islam simply because in the history of Christian Europe this helped solve problems (Aly 2 007 ) . A reality of Islam, not considered by those offering such advice, is that the religious ideas often associated with terrorism are inspired by people like Abdul Wahab (1703β1792) who is seen by at least some of his admir- ers as an βoutstanding reformerβ of Islam (Baz 2010 ) . Aly is equally critical of Muslims who see the βWestβ as uniform and fail to appreciate its diversity and merits. A case in point is the way in which the range of views and practices relating to sexuality in western countries can be interpreted as wholesale promiscuity. A middle-aged man is clearly annoyed with the remarks of Dr. Syafi Anwar at the 2010 Yogyakarta World Peace Forum, about his counter-radicalisation efforts. βIt is not we who are the problem. The President of France (Nicolas Sarkozy) , bans women from wearing the veil, he wants them all to be like his wife and walk around with no clothes on. In Switzerland they ban the Minarets. It is the so-called βEnlightened Westβ that is the problem!β Misrepresenting the βotherβ, and seeing them in a negative light, is used by some as a way of strengthening their own identity and collective self-esteem (Griffi ths and Pedersen 2009) . Exclusive identities and the development of βus and themβ ways of looking at groups are strongly present in societies in confl ict and even in post-confl ict societies (Hamber 2 004) . Interestingly, it also can be developed between members of the same majority groups, as a white high school girl made clear to Together for Humanity facilitators in an Australian country town: βPeople in Mudgee say that people in (neighbouring) Gulgong are born with two heads, and if you look closely at their necks youβll see a red scar at the spot where the other head was cut offβ. More broadly, identity plays a role in what has been termed the βnew racismβ and the nega- tive attitudes to people whose differences are seen to be irreconcilable and a threat to the social values of the majority (Paradies et al. 2 009 ) . The perceived threat need not be violent. To established groups such as βwhite Australiansβ, the behaviour of new arrivals with unfamiliar norms and customs such as playing football at the beach can be confronting (Wise 2 010 ) . Muslim migration along with other movements of people from diverse cultures and beliefs was supposed to be accommodated by the policy of multiculturalism. For some people it works well; how- ever, as Australian social researcher Hugh Mackay explains, βMulticulturalism as a word carries some negative baggage for others. It suggests to some people that subcul- tures will be preserved in a way that slows the process of establishing social harmonyβ (Mackay 2 007 :145). Some assessments of the situation in the UK and the Netherlands are blunt: βMulticulturalism has run its course and it is time to move onβ; βMulticulturalism has led not to integration but to segregationβ and βThe outcome has been to encourage exclusion rather than inclusionβ (Sniderman and Hagendoorn 2007 ) . 248 Z. Kastel One of the greatest challenges stems from grievances relating to actual, per- ceived or feared harm by people of other groups. This could be a direct experience with minority group members who exhibit anti-social behaviour when this behav- iour is βessentialisedβ and understood to be related to the offenders and their groupβs basic culture or nature, rather than being explained as a response to a situation (Batterham 2001 ) . Similarly, there are attitudes stemming from what has been called βindirect-experiential functionβ, where information received from the media or friends about objectionable behaviour such as terrorism shapes the perception of the whole group that is seen to be linked to this behaviour (Griffi ths and Pedersen 2009 ) . These factors also contribute to the βnew racismβ, where people justify their atti- tudes because they are based on βempirical factsβ ( McConahay 1 986 ) . In the cases of post-confl ict societies, or societies currently engaged with con- fl ict, this challenge seems insurmountable. The experiences of war, systemic dis- crimination, dispossession and extreme poverty are unimaginable to those who have not endured them. Victims of political violence might have their sense of belonging undermined, be dehumanised and internalise a perspective that legitimises violence, although the impact varies between individuals and contexts (Hamber 2 004 ) . Even with people not directly involved in confl ict, the vicarious effect can be substantial both in terms of the experiences and feelings of those swept up in confl ict and their perception of the quantity and degree of evil of the βothersβ. 15.3 Justice Clearly inter-cultural and international justice is the most signifi cant factor in positive relations between groups. Ongoing unresolved issues of justice, equity, prejudice and contested uses of force or power will contribute to animosity between groups and must be resolved at a political and practical level. In appar- ently successful peace-building initiated by the Center of Research and Development of the Indonesian Religion, Ministry of Religious Affairs, youth leaders, trained as βaction researchersβ, worked together with community leaders to resolve local confl icts. One important element was ensuring that commitments to correct grievances were honoured (Mudzhar 2 010 ) . Sometimes the substantial issues are beyond the control of those involved; however, just as the macro level infl uences the local level, the reverse is also true. Starting with ourselves would seem the most logical place to start. Liberian Australian Mohamed Dukuly relates: βThat morning, in mid-1990 during the civil war in Liberia, we were sitting in the hut, it was the triangle hut, we build it with thatch. We all slept hungry, and planned to eat in the morning. I saw a young man I knew, Mamade, coming toward us, when he got to us he fell to the ground. He was covered with blood and he had been in water, which made it look worse. We asked him, what happened? He told us that he escaped from captivityβ. βThen I sat there looking at him and I was thinking, why? Why? I thought this (Mamade) could be me and it became real. Now I wanted to know: why do they hate us? Why do they want to kill us?! This was the beginning of my journey, to start thinking about why people hate us. Now I can begin to give it meaning.β 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent... 249 Self-refl ection is essential for learning to relate positively to people who seem different to ourselves, and to imagine βalternative possibilitiesβ to our entrenched |
way of seeing reality (Hoffman 1996 ) . It is worth refl ecting on our responses to injustice and violence against our group. How do we think, feel and talk about the group against whom our group has a grievance? Do we tend to think of βthemβ as essentially evil? Or can we see them as human beings who are responding in a way that for us is terrible, but which might make some sense to them, based on their story? This is not to say we cannot stand up for justice as we understand it: It is rather an argument for refusing to dehumanise the other side. An employer and his Jewish employee are doing their annual wage negotiation βdanceβ. The employee wants more money to meet his familyβs needs. The employer is trying to get the best βbang for his buckβ. They settle on a fraction of the requested raise. The employee feels cor- nered into accepting, but fails to tell the employer this. After a number of times the employer turns to the employee and says: βYou know you are just like the Palestinians. The Israelis reach an agreement with them, but they always want more.β βHmmm,β thought the employee, βso that is what it feels like to be Palestinian.β Some negotiations between people or groups are predominantly positional bar- gaining, where each side moves from their original position to βmeet each other halfwayβ. However, the agreements produced can fail to meet key interests of one party or both (Fisher et al. 1 999 ) . Particularly in Islamic tradition, there is a view that there can be no real peace without justice. This, of course, is about a perception of justice or injustice. Problems are exacerbated when people on both sides of a confl ict are convinced that a perception of truth is the objective truth. 15.4 Religious Truth Claims The issue of truth, as related to religion, might seem bizarre to those for whom reli- gious beliefs are essentially a matter of personal preference. To them, feeling uncomfortable about someoneβs religion might make as much sense as becoming angry about a preference for one ice-cream fl avour over another. It might be useful to think of religion in the way some of us feel about the environment, free speech, trade unions, abortion or respect between the sexes. People who believe in the abso- lute truth of their religious beliefs could be afraid that standing side by side with people of other faiths implies an endorsement of beliefs contrary to their own (Feinstein 1959 ) . Some religious authorities advise that, if the focus is on social action, then the meaning of being together is not an endorsement of each otherβs faiths but a practi- cal collaboration. In addition, it is worth recognising the range of views about reli- gious βtruthβ, including Exclusivist, Relativist Agnostic/Indifferent, Pluralist and Inclusivist. An inclusivist stance is essentially that objective truth exists, and adher- ents believe their understanding of this objective truth is essentially correct. However, there is an allowance for people who do not share oneβs belief as still sharing in the one βtruthβ, albeit getting at it in their own way (Engebretson 2 009 ) . A variation of this is to assert that, βWhile I believe strongly that my belief is true, I must be 250 Z. Kastel humble enough to recognise the inadequacy of the human mind to grasp the mystery of the divine with certainty, and respect othersβ sincere attempts to fi nd the truthβ. This might not satisfy those who believe the concept of βtruthβ itself is the source of confl ict, but recognising the options between absolutism and relativism is a prag- matic and effective way to work with some devout believers. 15.5 Realism We must work with people and groups as they are, rather than how we wish them to be. This principle might seem obvious, but it is not always recognised in practice. An example of this was the desire of some Jews and Muslims to engage only with those members of the other group who were close to their own view on the ArabβIsraeli confl ict. A Muslim study centre in Sydney engaged a Jewish speaker who was harshly critical of the State of Israel and Jewish community support for it. Some members of the Jewish community wanted to limit their engagement to Muslims who were not βanti-Israelβ. As the slain Israeli Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin retorted to those who criticised him for shaking the hand of Palestinian leader Yasser Arafat: βOne does not make peace with oneβs friends; you can only make peace with your enemiesβ. 15.6 Honesty There is an either/or way of thinking about other groups that is unhelpful: namely, either political correctness and denial of problems, or βsaying it like it isβ and hyper- focusing on problems. 30 men and women were sitting in a circle in a community centre in Western Sydney a short time after the infamous βCronulla riotsβ of 2005. The confl ict could be summed up as hav- ing three waves: reports of anti-social behaviour by Lebanese on the beaches; people who looked βMiddle Easternβ being attacked by mostly drunken whites, some waving Australian fl ags; revenge attacks by gangs of mostly Lebanese who smashed cars and went on a ram- page. In our circle, half the group were white residents from the Cronulla area and the other half were mostly Muslim of Lebanese heritage. A woman in her 50s asserted that the allega- tion of violent behaviour by young Lebanese males was baseless and untrue. A tall blond suntanned white man in his 20s interjected with his personal experience of being attacked by 20 young Lebanese on a train on his way home. Resistance to recognising the faults of members of minority groups might have various motives, some well intentioned. However, pretending everything is ok will not work in certain situations, especially instances of prejudice or animosity relating to negative experiences, either fi rst hand or vicarious. Participants must feel βsafeβ to speak honestly and frankly, including talking about negative experiences. If peo- ple feel under attack and think they will be labelled as racist, they are less likely to listen or engage (Pedersen et al. 2005 ) . This was powerfully brought home to us in 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent... 251 a Together for Humanity seminar with student leaders at a rural retreat at Lake Burendong, Australia. Students were asked to build something using plastic connector pieces. A group of Indigenous students made a colourful circle. In the middle they placed a box fi lled with small black rect- angles. They said, βThe colours represent the rest of Australia, fi lled with colour; but in the middle are us blackfellas isolated from everyone else. But we donβt want to talk about it.β We moved on, respecting their choice not to discuss their disclosure. However, when we returned to the issue of relations between black and white Australians, it was as if the fl ood- gates had opened. There was impassioned discussion for almost an hour. As one student put it with deep feeling and frustration, βWe care about Indigenous issues; but whenever we open our mouth, we are told we are racist so we just shut up.β The diffi culty people have with differences can take the form of βpositive ste- reotypesβ where the generalisations about a particular minority group are meant to be complimentary, e.g. βBlacks are good at sportsβ. These generalisations are likely to be seen quite differently by those on the receiving end of the βcompli- mentβ. People are not given the chance to be seen accurately as themselves but are assumed to possess certain qualities based on their colour or group. This can result in increased inter-group mistrust (Czopp 2008 ) . Refl ection : One of the traps I fell into was that in rejecting my old prejudices and building empathy with new communities I put the βotherβ on a pedestal. I thought if all the false beliefs I had about Muslims were proven wrong, then any concerns I had in working with any Muslim must also be wrong. Of course, every group has its share of saints and sinners, every person has their virtues and vices, and every relationship will have its joys and chal- lenges. I had to deny any problems. Years later I read βThree Cups of Teaβ, about an American mountain climber who like me is swept off his feet by the beauty and wholesomeness of an Islamic culture (Mortenson and Relin 2006 ) . When I read how he is stunned by a betrayal by a member of this com- munity he has come to love, I found tears running down my face. Years later, I would say in relation to our Indigenous Australians, βWhy is it that people see them either as Savages or Noble Savages? Why canβt we see every community for what it is, just people?!β Of course we can and must recognise each community as a collection of unique individuals, capable of both good and evil. Still, in some cases, the prevalence of anti- social behaviour or other problems, often related to extreme social disadvantage, looms so large that if we are brutally honest then, we would actually be quite brutal. In these cases, it is sometimes necessary to see the other not as they appear to us based on a collection of obvious facts but as they can be based on their human potential, and broader positive aspects of their heritage and community. βHonesty and realismβ must be tempered with imagination, compassion, a broader perspective and openness. 15.7 Openness A religious leader from the subcontinent related how his wife opened his mail when they fi rst married. He was shocked, and explained these were letters addressed to him! She respected his wishes and privacy and never opened his mail again. She later told the author how she grew up in a large family where everyone rushed to the door when the postman 252 Z. Kastel arrived and whoever got there fi rst opened the mail for the whole family. When her husband was asked if he reciprocated his wifeβs fl exibility and willingness to adapt to his norms, he said, βYes, I donβt open her mail either.β He was serious. To learn to appreciate each other, especially in cases of mistrust and confl ict, we need to listen to the βotherβsβ narratives with real curiosity, which entails willing- ness to abandon preconceived assumptions. This is harder than it seems. Genuine openness requires adopting a stance of βnot knowingβ, that resists the temptation to fi ll in the blanks in the otherβs story with our own experiences, and drills down further to understand the otherβs experience through their eyes rather than ours (Livyatan et al. 2005 ) . We also need some openness to values that are different to our own, but this must be negotiated with respect for our need to be true to our own principles and morals. It is highly problematic for positive relationships if, to maintain them, people need to compromise their religious or moral beliefs and important cultural practices. In 2006, the author and a male Muslim member of Together for Humanity fl ew across Australia. The Muslim suggested this would be an opportunity to talk about a sensitive issue. During the trip, he complained about the inclusion of a female Muslim participant who did not conform to certain religious norms, yet was representing the faith. One of the Christian members objected strongly to this βfundamentalist male chauvinismβ and threatened to quit if she was forced out. We had to accept that the decision for how their religion would be represented was properly that of the Muslim community, yet we were reluctant to ask her to leave. In the end she chose to bow out to avoid associating controversy with the project. Other confl icts of values were resolved in favour of secular principles, e.g. a Jewish male memberβs religious laws against hearing women and girls singing confl icted with a group of high school girls invited to sing at a public event. In this case, the girls sang, and the Jewish member slipped out |
for that time. A Quaker member of the group objected to use of power structures such as senior bureaucrats in the Department of Education who might coerce teachers to invite us. The decision was taken to prioritise opportunities of working with more students by engaging these powerful people. Often the clash is less about a real confl ict of values and more about a need for openness to other ways, creativity and fl exibility. 15.8 Credibility and Guilt by Association While we must be realistic about how much or how little agreement we can expect from βthe other sideβ, there can be limits with whom one can work. There are issues of being co-opted to legitimise or whitewash evil in its various forms. There are also practical considerations of maintaining integrity and legitimacy so that oneβs efforts to establish contact with the other are seen as legitimate and sanctioned by oneβs own group (Alport 1954 ) . The tendency to assign generalised guilt in times of con- fl ict can mean massive social pressure on those engaging with βthe enemyβ. Running too far ahead of oneβs own group in inter-group confl ict situations can create signifi cant tensions for bridge builders which, if left unresolved, could 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent... 253 delegitimatise them to members of their own side to the point where all progress made in infl uencing members could be reversed or at least discontinued. Yet there is external pressure to stand up for justice as understood by bridge builders from the βopposing sideβ. We must ensure that we operate in a way that leaders of the βother groupβ can feel able to participate without compromising themselves or being seen to be selling out their community. One of the issues I am fi nding hard to accept is that I have never ever heard, even from the most liberal of Jews, anyone ever come out and unequivocally state that Israel stands con- demned for her actions without qualifi cation. Why is this so? This seems to be a line that the vast overwhelming majority of Jews will not cross. Is there a religious teaching that prohibits any criticism of what Israel does as a nation? If this is so, this is something that I as a Muslim would fi nd very diffi cult to come to terms with. (Arabic Australian Muslim bridge builder) The βGaza warβ or Operation Cast Lead (late 2008βearly 2009), following rock- ets fi red at Southern Israel, really shook the foundations under the fragile bridges being built between Australian Jews and Muslims, and presented a serious chal- lenge to bridge builders themselves. There was a view among some Muslims that the test of sincerity for Jews involved in this work would be their willingness to condemn Israel. These people criticised Muslim bridge builders for engaging with Jewish people who seemed not to care about justice. We worked through it by expressing genuine concern about deaths of civilians, affi rming universal principles and insisting there is a difference between being active in killing and being silent about a particular campaign of violence carried out by people with whom one has strong ties of nationality or faith. Refl ection : It would be far easier for people in either Jewish or Arabic Muslim communi- ties to insist on only working with people who agree with their perspective of the confl ict. In fact since September 11, if not earlier, Muslims faced the βcondemnation testβ, which measured the worthiness of a Muslim by their willingness to condemn violence committed by other Muslims. With the βshoe on the other footβ, I began to question the value of using condemnation as such an important criterion for engagement. In a sense, condemnation on the basis of a lack of condemnation would be an endorsement of the idea of collective cul- pability practised by Bin-Laden and others that is so offensive in the fi rst place. 15.9 Respect In 1999, the Nuer and Dinka tribes of Southern Sudan had been waging war, killing each other and destroying each othersβ cattle. An American Christian, Bill Lowery, and others from the New Sudan Council of Churches brought chiefs from the two sides together, at great risk to the chiefs themselves. One of the rituals involved participants spitting into a gourd fi lled with water. When it came to Bill, he spat into it too. When everyone had spat, they splashed the water on each other. The spittle on the tongue is meant to be the coldest part of a person, and splashing it symbolised cooling off the hot bodies, charged with the βheat of confl ictβ. Bill asked the chiefs to tell stories they heard from their fathersβ mothers about how confl icts were resolved in the past. They sat opposite each other, divided by a rope representing the Nile, and discovered the wisdom of their respective ancestors was 254 Z. Kastel very similar. They told stories about what was done to them, and fi nally were asked what they βrememberedβ for the future of their daughtersβ sons. After three days of story telling, they reached the point of decision. Bill warned his team that this was not a time to give advice. In the end the decision was a βno-brainerβ. The logical conclusion was ending the fi ghting. One of the oldest chiefs told Bill, βI have been to many meetings with the United Nations. Never before has anyone asked me what I think.β (Lowery 2010 ) It makes sense to value the traditional wisdom of diverse communities that are adap- tive and have withstood the tests of time, including the varying positive roles reli- gion plays in the lives of some groups. It is useful to challenge ourselves about whether we are asking the right questions, e.g. instead of asking how pessimistic Asian Americans are, which assumes pessimism is the same for them as it is for the researcherβs group, we might want to ask whether pessimism is harmful or useful for this group. We could then discover that while Asian Americans were generally more pessimistic than other groups, their pessimism correlated with better function- ing, perhaps better preparing them for diffi culties, and helping them cope (Lopez et al. 2005 ) . Putting into practice the respect for diverse ways of knowing and being requires fl exibility and preparedness to change the question or approach, if it is to be more than tokenism. 15.10 Strategies for Change Three signifi cant factors that improve inter-group relations are empathy, inter-group contact and cognitive approaches that appeal to reasonableness (Trang and Wittenberg 2004) , dispel false beliefs (Batterham 2 001 ) or provide information (Pedersen et al. 2005 ) . 15.10.1 Empathy A strong inverse relationship exists between levels of prejudice and empathy that infl uences people to behave in a more positive way toward others (Batterham 2001 ) . In our experience, working together as people of different faiths and vastly different backgrounds, we saw this dynamic at work both in our changing feelings about each other and in responses from students. An effective method for invoking empathy is hearing the stories of others. This was found to be effective in addressing percep- tions of Indigenous people in Bunbury, Western Australia, as being lazy and not wanting to work. A television campaign, featuring 12 interviews with employed Indigenous people, saw a 15.8% improvement in the way Indigenous people were perceived after these stories were told (Donovan and Leivers 1 993 ) . Invoking empathy can take a variety of forms with a range of results. Some attempts at manipulating empathy have shown no result in reducing prejudice (Batterham 2001 ) . Particular caution must be taken with building empathy with 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent... 255 the suffering of βout-groupsβ. Asking people to imagine how they would feel personally in that situation could evoke distress as well as empathy (Batson et al. 1997) . In research undertaken in Germany, descriptions of ongoing suffering of Holocaust survivors and secondary trauma in their descendants resulted in increased anti-Semitism on the part of German participants. They were assumed to be giving their real views because they were led to believe a lie detector would show any dishonesty. Their motivation might have been to protect a positive image of their βin-groupβ. An explanation for these fi ndings is that when confronted with the guilt of their own group, people might turn on the βout-groupβ even if in other situations it would elicit sympathy (Imhoff and Banse 2 009 ) . While positive themes evoke empathy and reduce prejudice, and negativity might increase it, we must also consider the desire of people who have suffered to have their experience acknowledged and validated. The 2008 apology that Australian Prime Minister Rudd offered to Indigenous people and the Stolen Generations was profoundly meaningful to many Indigenous Australians. It acknowledged the trauma and injustice of taking children away from their families. Yet if the aim is to invoke empathy in the listener rather than catharsis for the speaker, there is a trade-off that needs to be considered. In our experience, this has not meant avoiding any discus- sion of discrimination, but rather to talk about it in the context of a challenge on which we can work on together. Of course, the development of empathy is more likely to occur as the result of an experience with the βotherβ than simply receiving information. 15.10.2 Inter-group Contact When I walked out the gates of [my school], I felt a sense of unity. I felt closer and more in touch with other students the same age as myself. I was able to step outside of my bubble and be exposed to one of the many other cultures that contribute to our society. I felt so privileged to be able to take part in such an eye-opening event. It just goes to show how one day can change a personβs life forever. It can give one more respect for others. That one day was the fi rst layer of bricks used to build a world of peace and understanding. Things worked out better than we had expected. Everyone mixed in with each other, making the day informative while enjoyable at the same time. It was such an honour to be able to take part in such an event. If everyone in our world participated in this programme, imagine the effects on society? (Sydney High School students, quoted in Nayler 2 009 ) This refl ection was written by students who had participated in a two-day Together for Humanity program in 2008, involving seven public and private schools. It brought together students from Christian, Jewish, Muslim and other backgrounds. The stu- dent feedback indicates the programβs major impact on them. This is consistent with research in various contexts which found inter-group contact to have signifi cant ben- efi ts in reducing prejudice (Pedersen et al. 2005 ) . Shifts in attitudes in some cases were also generalised from specifi c inter-group contact to other contexts. This was seen in the results of contact between Chinese 256 Z. Kastel and Australian students over 6 months in a university residence, indicating increased acceptance and knowledge of each other (Nesdale and Todd 1998 ) . For this to hap- pen, it is useful that, in addition to changing the way we see the other, we revise our own βgroup identityβ, so that the way we think about the idea or word βusβ is expanded to include a wider range. It is important to note that while inter-group contact can result in positive attitude shifts, this is not always the case: It can at times exacerbate tensions. For positive outcome, certain facilitating conditions identifi ed by Alport (1 954 ) must be met. These include equality between participants, avoiding competition, common goals and sanction for the contact from relevant authority fi gures. It is important to ensure that inter-group activity is structured in such a way that participants become interdependent in carrying out the tasks set for them. Walker and Crogan (1 998 ) found that if a group was asked to learn material by cooperation with each other, but there was nothing in the structure of |
the activity that made cooperation necessary, there was exacerbation of pre-existing tension. If the activity was, however, structured using a procedure such as the βjigsawβ approach in which the material is divided between small groups of students who will then be required to teach what they learned to other small groups, this resulted in improved feelings toward βout-groupβ peers. An example of both the failure to implement this principle and learning from it is the case of Muslim and Jewish schools in Australia which began a four part inter- group contact-based activity which could not be completed. Teachers in both schools blamed the other school for the breakdown. Teachers of the better resourced, middle class school A saw the problem as being due to lack of commitment on the part of teachers in school B, which served a poorer community. School B teachers had another interpretation: When the students met and the teachers went into the staff room for some tea, the teachers of their school all congregated together and the teachers from our school were on the other side. No effort was made to bring us together. As is often the case, the teachers were expected to develop rapport without a directed effort to do so. In 2010, school A again embarked on an inter-school proj- ect, but this time, teachersβ interaction at their fi rst meeting was structured by being given a task to do with one of their peers from the other school. At the time of writ- ing, the activity is on track. 15.10.3 Cognitive Approaches While experiential approaches are known to be very potent and there is a need to provide information that refutes false beliefs, there is also a role for cognitive approaches as the idea of βreasonablenessβ is a signifi cant factor in why people reject prejudice (Trang and Wittenberg 2 004 ) . The educational programs of Together for Humanity in Australia are one example that combines elements of both cognitive and experiential approaches. Nayler (2009) carried out an independent evaluation of this 15 Positive Relations Between Members of Groups with Divergent... 257 work. She noted the need for longitudinal research but still found evidence of educational effectiveness: βThese comments by students suggest that the (Together for Humanity) Workshop Program was very powerful in achieving its objectives to develop student appreciation for and empathy with people from diverse groups/ beliefsβ. 15.11 Conclusion The social, historical, philosophical and psychological forces that challenge posi- tive inter-group relations are formidable. To maintain positive relations or at least minimise division requires some seemingly contradictory responses. The recogni- tion that oneβs own way is not βnormalβ but is just one way amongst many needs to be combined with tolerance of people who believe that their ways are the one Truth. Humility to counter our assumptions about others must not lessen our courage to challenge our own groupsβ self-serving narratives or offences. At the same time, this invaluable challenging of our own must not be a pre-condition for outsiders being offered a seat at our dialogue table. Honesty about the problems and fears between groups is to be restrained by compassion and tact. Realism combined with hope. Not all of it is complicated though. A lot of it comes down to empathy, fostered by interaction, listening and respect. Auntie B, an Indigenous woman, attended a Together for Humanity orientation session in Darwin. We sat in a circle, including the author, a Christian facilitator, an African Imam, Auntie K and others. 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J ournal of Community and Applied Social Psychology, 8 , 381β393. Wise, A. (2010). A nation β s line in the sand . Sydney Morning Herald. http://www.smh.com.au/ national/a-nations-line-in-the-sand-20100122-mqrc.html . Accessed October 10, 2010. Rabbi Zalman Kastel was raised and ordained as a Rabbi in the Chasidic Jewish tradition in Brooklyn, New York, before migrating to Australia. Encounters and work with Christians, Muslims and Indigenous Australians have transformed him. He is Director of Together for Humanity Foundation, an inclusive, interfaith diversity education organisation. Contact: zalman@togetherforhumanity.org.au. Chapter 16 Confl ict and Confrontation Lois Edmund 16.1 Introduction Confl ict Resolution Studies, also called Peace Studies or Confl ict Transformation Studies, is a nascent interdisciplinary fi eld, differentiating since the early 1990s from a felicitous coalition of law, history, psychology, sociology and the human sci- ences. This fi eld of scholarship claims goals of understanding the deep roots of human confl ict and illuminating the dynamics of healthy and destructive confl ictual relationships. It aims to extend both personal and professional methods for resolv- ing confl ict that lead to individual needs fulfi lment and sustainable relationships. Although there is no defi nitive βpositive psychology of confl ictβ, the developing branches of positive psychology can point toward insights that support our work in this fi eld. In this chapter, we explore the intersection between positive psychology and confl ict resolution studies. A useful positive psychology of confl ict would incorporate the following: β’ Acknowledgment that no amount of positive thinking will completely eliminate confl ict; rather, we need to accept and respect the endemic nature of confl ict and expect that insight can assist in shaping confl ict into a potentially positive force in relationships. β’ Affi rmation that people do use the techniques arising out of positive psycho- logy, as well as broader spiritual-religious practices, to enhance their skills and modify their relationships to decrease the frequency, intensity and destructive- ness of confl ict. β’ Recognition that confl ict and healthy relationships can and do co-exist; confl ict is normal and does not necessarily lead to dysfunctional patterns or personal harm. β’ A search for positive feelings and behaviours which can mitigate the unpleasant and undesirable aspects of confl ict. L. Edmund (*) Confl ict Resolution Studies , Menno Simons College , Winnipeg , MB , Canada e-mail: l.edmund@uwinnipeg.ca S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 261 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_16, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 262 L. Edmund β’ The cultivation of positive character traits that reinforce healthy, effective human relationships in which we tolerate or even grow and thrive under condi- tions of confl ict. β’ A distinction between healthy confl ict where differences are expressed and com- mon understanding discovered, and destructive confl ict which is overly critical or hurtful, undermining power or self-esteem. β’ An explanation of how healthy confl ict can make a positive contribution to healthy human relationships through providing means for negotiating and bal- ancing power and infl uence. β’ The integration of multidisciplinary theory and research evidence which will develop effective personal and professional practices. 16.2 Exploring Confl ict A commonly used, somewhat consensual defi nition of confl ict is proposed by William Wilmot and Joyce Hocker: βConfl ict is an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and/or interference from others in achieving personal goalsβ. (Wilmot and Hocker 2011 :11). This defi nition is pragmatic because it normalizes confl ict as βstruggleβ which does not inevitably deteriorate into βfi ghtβ, emphasizes the interdependent relationships at the heart of confl ict (Lewin 1 948 ) and also summarizes three con- spicuous causes of confl ict. Relational abuse, power abuse and violence are not |
themselves confl ict β these are ineffective ways of reacting to confl ict, which per- petuate the very problems they are intended to address. Although confl ict is inherently risky, it can have strong and constructive pur- poses. In the best of circumstances confl ict, even though intense or unpleasant, helps parties to mature, to create new perspectives. Confl ict extends and expands skill capacities and, thus, transforms behaviours and relationships. The relationship that has no confl ict at all is either idealistic or carelessly indifferent. The daunting tasks for all disputants are to sustain positive tactics and goals, avoiding destructive behaviour even while perturbed. We can think about the complex roots of confl ict as a simplifi ed βTriple Pβ: People, Problems and Process. 16.3 People Issues βPeople issuesβ arise from the parties themselves. People matter to each other so the relationship is worth fi ghting over. Issues arise out of differing needs, goals, inten- tions or expectations, apparent incompatibility or interference, erupting into strug- gles that matter. Most people fi nd confl ict deeply stressful and react with typical stress responses: fi ght, fl ight, tending others or befriending allies (Taylor 2 006 ) . 16 Confl ict and Confrontation 263 βPeople issuesβ are multifarious, rooted in intrapersonal dynamics and catalysed by interpersonal interactions. If issues are processed in the context of well meaning intention, friendly communication and reliable trust, confl ict is likely to be con- structive and the diffi cult dimensions can be tolerated. 16.3.1 Intent Is Not Effect One core factor in βpeople issuesβ focuses on the intentions that motivate actions. There is often a stark contrast between the intention behind an action and its results. Even in confl ict, intentions can be pro-relationship: the wish to communicate about an issue or solve a problem, the hope to clarify or strengthen a bond, the desire to heal a past hurt, for instance. Intentions usually express the core values that a person has for the relationship, and these organize and motivate behavioural choices. Positive intentions can go awry, however, and may be badly expressed, misinter- preted or poorly received. Sometimes the consequences of actions are not at all what was desired. Rather, the harmful effects of confl ict are unintended: βThatβs not what I meant!β; βI was not aware that I was doing thatβ. Often the actor and the recipient of the actions have very different interpretations. This is complicated in that both intent and effect are intrapersonal and not usually shared or spoken, whereas actions are overt. The actor is more aware of the intent and goal than of the consequences; the recipient is aware of the sometimes hurtful results of the actions and may be completely unaware of actual positive intentions. In interpreting events and respon- sibility for them, we are often caught by the fundamental attributional bias (Ross 1977 ) : actors tend to interpret their own actions to be positive and supportive of relationship; recipients, especially when hurt, are likely to interpret the actorβs behaviour as intentionally malicious. In confl ict resolution, useful distinctions are between friendly and hostile intent, and between intended and unintended consequences. If actions are amicably and positively motivated, even negative or hurtful effects can be overlooked or forgiven; if actions have a hostile tone, they will escalate confl ict, or the relationship may dete- riorate. Confl ict resolution begins with a willingness to understand actual intentions and often requires acknowledging unintended, but nonetheless hurtful, consequences of actions, even if they were positively motivated. 16.3.2 Positive Communication Another core issue in both the development and resolution of confl ict is communi- cation. Confl icts frequently develop because people miscommunicate, misunder- stand each other, communicate ineffectively or with hostility. Confl icts cannot be sustainably resolved without open communication and accurate listening to authentic concerns. On the other hand, in the context of effective speaking and 264 L. Edmund listening, even hostile communication can be tolerated and need not erupt into serious confl ict. Sherod Miller and his colleaguesβ ( 1992 ) analysis of communication styles cata- logues this core βpeopleβ issue. Miller notes that communication is layered with shal- low Shop Talk and Small Talk on the surface. Confl ict is rarely part of this layer because the topic and interchange are dispassionate and usually factual, but imper- sonal. This surface level is enriched by nonverbal communication and also touches on playful communication, which is helpful in confl ict resolution (Gottman 1 999 ; Segal 2008) . At the deepest level of intimacy is Straight Talk, a style of c ommunication which is authentic, mutual and, when it occurs, implicitly communicates trust, care and respect. Confl ict is rarely a part of this type of deeply personal interaction because of its elemental honesty and interpersonal welcome. The positive psychology virtues of courage, humanity and temperance are foundational to Straight Talk. In confl ict terms, the middle level of communication is most sensitive to misun- derstanding. At this level, Control Talk and Search Talk occur. Control Talk is action oriented and its purpose is to lead or direct the recipient. If used with mutual consent, Control Talk can be benign and helpful. If used supportively, with kind- ness and respect, it does not cause problems or confl ict. For example, employers, teachers and parents appropriately use Control Talk to teach skills; consenting employees, students and offspring benefi t from the control. However, Control Talk can be potentially provocative if it is used with criticism or without consent. Then it is highly likely to cause confl ict, which then spills over into Fight Talk or even Spite Talk. Fight Talk contains harsh, negative or judgmental words. Its purpose is to dominate or control others through anger or animosity, and it, therefore, often provokes confl ict. Although unpleasant or intimidating, Fight Talk does accom- plish communication. It can possibly lead to confl ict resolution if parties are will- ing to hear each otherβs concerns and move toward solving problems identifi ed. If the communicative element of Fight Talk is frustrated by an unwillingness to listen or solve problems, it is likely to escalate to Spite Talk, which is all-out interper- sonal war. The only goal of Spite Talk is harm and humiliation, to hurt or defeat the opponent. Problems are not solved because parties have lost the point of the con- fl ict and their interactions have deteriorated into wholly negative tactics, interac- tions and outcomes. A complementary middle level communication style is Search Talk, characterized by careful exploration of personal perceptions, problems, feelings and memories. This supports knowing and understanding both self and other. It is crucial to healthy relationship and also to effective confl ict processing. Its purposes are to clarify what is uncertain or ambiguous, to improve understanding and to reduce the anxieties of all parties. Using searching questions, the parties can identify and clarify issues so that resolution can move forward. When Control Talk deteriorates into Fight Talk, when Fight Talk or Spite Talk has taken over, this searching inquiry can effectively transform the negative dynamic into something that could be creative and construc- tive. Search Talk supports trust, which improves disclosure, defusing the controlling dynamic and opening the possibility of effective communication. Parties can then move toward deeper mutual understanding by using Straight Talk. 16 Confl ict and Confrontation 265 16.3.3 Trust and Trust-Building A third core issue in interpersonal confl ict and its resolution is trust. Trust is founded in confi dence in a partnerβs good will or βfriendlinessβ, shown in mutually positive actions, reliability when it counts, and predictable care and responsiveness. Although to some extent inscrutable, trust building can be a deliberated strategy. When relat- ing with others, trustworthy people accept open disclosure without judgment, listen with warmth and reliable and accurate empathy, communicate support and uncondi- tional acceptance that transcends disagreement or disapproval (Zimbardo et al. 2009 ) . Trust is nourished by transparent disclosure and reciprocated openness, upholding consistent but not rigid standards, values and behaviour, and not making bad faith promises (Lewicki and Tomlinson 2003 ) . Interpersonal trust is fragile. When trust is slow to develop, or is betrayed, or when expectations are disappointed, confl ict is one logical result. The intensity of erupting confl ict is directly proportional to the initial trust and closeness (Tavris and Aronson 2 007 ) . Confl ict may then fuel defensiveness, further reducing the likelihood of effec- tive resolution (Gibb 1 961 ) . Distrust presumes hostility or malicious intent and may then be used to justify destructive behaviour (Eidelson and Eidelson 2 003 ) . Repairing broken trust requires bilateral commitment and effort. Considerations of whether to work toward reconciliation depend on such factors as the nature of the original relationship (for example, a working versus a personal relationship), the char- acter resources of the parties (wisdom, strength, courage) or the severity of the confl ict events and history. The fi rst step toward repair is the de-escalation of confl ict. The complex and perilous process of trust repair then requires the restoration of trustwor- thiness on the part of a wrongdoer, and a victimβs willingness to reframe and reinter- pret offensive events or the character of the offender. A constructive base for effective confl ict processing then produces a positive, relationship enhancing attitude, effective and friendly communication and a base of trust. 16.3.4 The Dimensions of Confl ict and a Rationale for Resolution Paul Wehr ( 1979 ) notes the necessity for effectively resolving issues while, at the same time, preserving a workable, healthy relationship. He points our discussion toward practical questions that privately determine whether people choose to engage with each other to process confl ict, to overlook issues or even to end a relationship because of a confl ict: β’ Is the relationship important to at least one party? β’ Is the issue important enough to argue over? β’ Is there time pressure or stress? If these questions are answered βnoβ, it is likely that the parties will at least post- pone or possibly decline the diffi cult process of working through the confl ict β they 266 L. Edmund will give up. If any of the answers are βyesβ β the relationship matters, the issue is important, and/or there is a sense of urgency to resolve the confl ict β the parties are more willing to engage in the struggle openly and with positive goals. 16.4 Problem Issues βProblem issuesβ have to do with the focal point of a confl ict. A confl ict revolves around surface problems that can be easily identifi ed as the topic of the argument, often expressed in differing opinions, viewpoints and needs. However, most con- fl icts are also attempts to renegotiate or resolve deeper problems of relationship history and pattern, or underlying attitudes. An argument might be about money, for example, but simultaneously address unresolved inequities in previous money deci- sions and also express the partiesβ foundational values about money. Problem issues are enlightened by Johan Galtungβs (1 990 ) important analysis of three simultaneous and embedded confl ict roots (and solutions): behaviour, struc- tures and culture. Confl ict behaviours describe the obvious, identifi ably problematic issues that are conscious during a struggle: βHe saidβ¦ she saidβ¦β; βShe didβ¦ he didβ¦β. When in confl ict, we tend to mirror the behaviours of the opponent. Other infl uences that shape confl ict behaviour include high or hot emotions (especially fear and anger), frustration in goal achievement, a need for power or status, or revenge for previously unfi nished confl ict episodes. Galtungβs two additional layers of confl ict are substratal. Structural confl ict results from the ways relationships are organized, particularly when order and existing power are preserved to the detriment of those βat the bottomβ. For example, structural confl ict may result from parentsβ over-control of money in a family, excluding teenage children from decision-making and leading to parentβteen arguments. Structural confl ict is perpetuated by power and polarization β the par- ents βagainstβ the kids. Confl ict then disintegrates to a simple goal of victory/power over the opponent. Sometimes, structural confl ict results in certain people experi- encing freedom and power, while others experience repression and powerlessness, and this inevitably results in ongoing confl ict, even if it |
is latent and suppressed. Confl ict culture expresses attitudes, beliefs and consequent behaviour patterns that pervade a group, becoming the norm and perceived as normal. These are the values that characterize some people or groups as more or less amiable, and the attitudes actuate both confl ict behaviours and structures. For example, members of some groups will react with anxiety when experiencing confl ict and address confl ict only indirectly or not at all; members of other groups value straightforward interac- tion and will address confl ict with a hopeful, positive attitude. This was also referred to by Kurt Lewin ( 1948 ) as the discernible βconfl ict climateβ of a group, and it strongly infl uences the behaviour of individuals within a group. Another important infl uence on group climate is the broader culture in which a group functions. Deborah Tannenβs (1 999 ) contribution was to identify Western culture as an βargument cultureβ. By overemphasizing mutually exclusive concepts and positions, people tend to artifi cially structure conversations as contests. This 16 Confl ict and Confrontation 267 tendency creates false dichotomies and polarities that can hinder thorough explora- tion of an issue and heighten the probability of overt confl ict. 16.5 Process Issues Process issues are determined by the ways in which the parties engage with each other when in confl ict. People often believe that confl ict events unfold inexorably. This is one of the βcommon senseβ fallacies of confl ict process. There are many pos- sible choices along the way, and successive choices during confl ict can infl uence both process and outcome. 16.5.1 Confl ict Style It is useful to identify patterns of confl ict response or style and to deliberately culti- vate healthy and positive process. Individuals tend to respond with one primary style in approximately 50% of confl icts, selecting and utilizing alternative styles according to such factors as situation, the prior relationship, or the needs contribut- ing to the confl ict (Adler et al. 2 006 ) . Healthy, mature individuals are able to fl exibly use all styles to improve the resolution of the issues. Prevailing Western and Eastern cultures are shaped by core values which differently emphasize the styles described below. Western individuals are more likely to rely on confl ict behaviours which assert individual rights, whereas Eastern individuals are more likely to value accom- modating behaviour which emphasizes group needs and harmony. Scholarly consensus has coalesced around the articulation of fi ve styles of behav- iour that persistently affect the struggle. Although all styles are motivated to βkeep the peaceβ and are appropriate under specifi c circumstances, some are more likely to result in constructive confl ict resolution. Kilmann and Thomas ( 1975 ) were the fi rst researchers to crystallize these styles, but their work has been expanded and refi ned by others (e.g. Robert 1 982 ; Gilmore and Fraleigh 1985 ; Rahim and Magner 1 995 ) . Avoidance is arguably the most reactive response to confl ict. Most people have experienced confl ict that ended badly with unfi nished problems, wounded people and damaged relationships. Therefore, many people do whatever they can to simply avoid an argument through silence or fl ight, often at the expense of their own wellbeing. Avoidance frustrates any possibility of a solution. People who use a ccommodation relate by adapting their agenda to that of oth- ers. When in confl ict, accommodators tend to use appeasement, processing confl ict by creating harmony through self-suppression or even self-sacrifi ce. Such behav- iours are in themselves positive and supportive of relationships and often depict maturity (Cassady and Eissa 2 008 ) . When contentious issues are hidden and never addressed, however, accommodation can block productive issue resolution. A third style of responding to confl ict is to c oerce resolution; to force the other party or the confl ict process or to use power to silence the opponent. People who use this style attend to the topic of contention at the expense of the relationship. Dominating 268 L. Edmund behaviour is vigorous and assertive, but may be perceived by others to be aggressively forceful. It may provoke resistance at least and will often infl ame confl ict. One party who dominates is usually a good partner to another party who accommodates. This pair engages in a symbiotic βdanceβ that may meet their short-term needs for βpeaceβ, but it is likely to be pseudo-peace. The dance is inef- fective because it cannot resolve the issues, and the relationship that is preserved is amiably unhealthy. Avoidance, accommodation and coercion patterns do quiet or suppress confl ict but rarely in effective or constructive ways. Two other styles, compromise and col- laboration, are much more likely to lead disputing parties toward resolution that is long lasting and productive. Compromise is based on dialogic communication, with reciprocal listening, and assertive negotiation of needs and desires. It is, therefore, effective to simultane- ously resolve an issue and maintain the relationship. Compromise is best conducted between parties of similar power, else it devolves easily into domination. The peril of compromise is that the needs or goals of each party are only partially satisfi ed, and each party is required to relinquish something in order to gain something, so the resolution reached may be experienced as only incompletely favourable. In all cultures, the most effective and satisfactory confl ict style uses c ollaborative problem-solving . Although this can be relatively time-consuming, it attends both to the health of the continuing relationship and also to the importance of the contentious issue. The parties who process confl ict in this way mutually disclose their needs, opinions and desires and are committed to the wellbeing of the opponent. They com- municate until they can identify the issue clearly and come to a common understand- ing of the problem when they then can consider several solutions. This provides for further processing as the solution unfolds (Walton 1987 ) . Collaborative problem- solving is respectful of confl ict parties and of their needs. It takes seriously the issue that kindled the confl ict and works sincerely toward sustainable resolution. 16.5.2 Destructive and Constructive Confl ict Process Process issues are the primary factors that distinguish destructive, futile confl ict from effective, creative forms. These issues are therefore often central to positive or contentious relationships. Negative, destructive confl ict dynamics tend to overlook common needs or the common good, and instead centre on self-interested process and goals. Parties are querulous, tending to compound and polarize issues and peo- ple. Tactics of coercion or passive-aggression ensure costly victory. The destructive goal is to defeat the opponent rather than to settle the diffi cult issue. When this type of dynamic is used, it is likely to ignite reciprocal behaviours in the opponent, and this will often result in an Escalatory Cycle of confl ict during which communication and collaboration decrease and strife increases. In some relationships, a heated escalation is too risky, so a commonly occurring alternative is the Chilling Cycle. When confronted, parties protect themselves by withdrawing engagement and com- munication. Either increased animosity or diminished engagement can be lethal to 16 Confl ict and Confrontation 269 a relationship, however, because without reasonable avenues for process, the possibilities for resolution plummet. Both the escalatory and the chilling cycles are correlated with confl ict futility, because at the end point neither partyβs needs are satisfi ed, the issue remains unsettled, and the future of the relationship is jeopar- dized (Adler et al. 2006 ) . Harm and damaged relationship are by no means the inevitable outcome of confl ict. Constructive confl ict dynamics can creatively and positively strengthen a relationship through improved understanding, broadened communication skills and greater confi dence. The relationship matters and effort is invested to ensure its con- tinuation. Confl ict parties refuse to withdraw or break but do remain engaged with each other until the confl ict is satisfactorily addressed. Parties are mindful and pro- tective of the future of the relationship beyond the current struggle. At the same time, the contentious issue is important, and parties are committed to actively seek productive resolution; they are unwilling to simply give in. Confl ict processing is therefore focused. Tactics and manners are cooperative; parties remain supportive of each other while asserting their own needs. The overall outcome of these dynam- ics is the increased possibility of fi nding positive, long-term resolution of the issues that satisfi es everyoneβs needs. This outcome is sometimes called a Virtuous Cycle, wherein a positive action generates positive emotions and self-esteem that, in turn, lead to further positive actions. This cycle is correlated with effective confl ict reso- lution for three reasons: problem issues are dealt with and resolved, the relationship is preserved, and the parties have learned and improved their skills for addressing potential confl ict in the future. Constructive confl ict βdoes not come easily or without struggleβ (Wylie 2003 ) . Destructive confl ict is, in fact, simpler and more easily fi nished β but at the tragic cost of relationship and, perhaps, of self-respect. βPleasure and satisfaction do not come without expenditures of willpower, courage, applied intelligence, and a posi- tive attitude which signals good characterβ (Wylie 2 003 :50). 16.5.3 The βGoodβ and the βBadβ Together We should not assume, though, that escalation of confl ict is always a negative or dangerous phenomenon. Richard Waltonβs research (1 969, 1987 ) describes healthy interpersonal peacemaking as a sequential process with two broad phases of mount- ing and diminishing tension. Differentiation is the phase when parties lay their dif- ferences βon the tableβ. This may be experienced as similar to the escalation of confl ict but occurs more naturally than does heated escalation and is probably nec- essary for enduring resolution. During differentiation, issues and emotions prolifer- ate and intensify. The effect of differentiation, even though it may become tense or intense, is a fi rst step toward problem-solving. By opening issues and spending time and energy clarifying them, the parties come to a clearer understanding of the prob- lems and, in the process, take each other more seriously. If the relationship is strong, the parties can tolerate the escalatory behaviours. One risk of differentiation is the endless drift of issues and emotions, so original problems become obscured. 270 L. Edmund At some point, one person in the conversation will recognize the critical state of tension or the loss of problem-solving momentum and initiate a turning point in the argument by inserting statements that cool emotions and shepherd parties toward negotiation. The second confl ict phase, inaugurated by the turning point, is integration. This occurs as issues and emotions become focused so that they can be sorted into central issues and lower priority ones. During integration, parties are able to decipher what is βworth fi ghting forβ. They fi nd or generate common ground, explore possible options for everyoneβs satisfaction and move toward resolution. Together, differentiation and integration prepare the parties for mutual, collab- orative problem-solving. Confl ict is dynamic and can transform in the blink of an eye. Constructive confl ict therefore contributes to positive character, motivates participants to engage and to move hopefully toward solution and should inspire positive, relationship building behaviour. 16.6 Positive Confl ict Behaviour Specifi c patterns of confl ict behaviour can be identifi ed as healthy, constructive and likely to lead participants to a desirable resolution. All relationships must deal with negative events, differences and tensions, and these differences or confl icts per se are not indicators of health or relational impairment. In the relationships Gottman studied ( 1999 ) , 69% of confl icts are not, in fact, resolved. It is the manner of engag- ing in confl ict and what follows confl ict that distinguishes partners who are able to use confl ict episodes to reinforce the positive. First, proscribed negative tactics, the so-called βfour horses of the apocalypseβ inevitably lead to damaged relationships. Partners in healthy relationships tend to avoid these tactics even during confl ict, whereas warring people use them frequently. The horses are: (a) criticism, which judges another partyβs behaviour or even character with disrespectful animosity; (b) defensiveness, which justifi es our own interpreta- tions while preventing us from hearing the truth in another personβs argument; |
(c) stonewalling, which blocks communication and frustrates the resolution of prob- lems; and (d) contempt, the most destructive tactic that blames and shames the other party while signalling resignation of hope for positive change. Gottman also describes contrasting positive tactics, which move parties toward creative solutions. Healthy, stable partners tend to couch critique within the positive β they use a ratio of as many as 20 positive affi rmations to one negative, or as few as fi ve positive to one negative. Unstable, jeopardized relationship partners (Gottman calls them βMasters of Disasterβ) favour negative feedback by a ratio of one positive to fi ve negative. What follows the end of a confl ict episode is crucial. Partners who are able to use confl ict constructively are those who offer and accept relational repairs after the confl ict is over. These overtures reach out to the other party with care that overrides discord, using tactics such as apology, humour, empathy and overt expressions of affection. 16 Confl ict and Confrontation 271 Other research adds to this fi nding, using the concept of emotional contagion. Emotional contagion seems to parallel disease contagion: feelings spread from one individual to another, so that the recipients begin to feel emotions that are not truly their own. Gustave LeBon ( 1896 ) suggested that the emotions which are particu- larly susceptible to contagion are those based in survival: fear and self-protective anger. These emotions are pointedly generative of confl ict. There is a positive dimension of contagion, however, which can create a βCooperative Cycleβ, a posi- tive counterpart to the escalatory and chilling cycles discussed above. Rooted in interpersonal empathy or even sympathy, positive behaviours such as cooperation and kindness also spread. βCooperative behaviour is contagious and spreads from person to person to personβ (Fowler and Christakis 2 010 ) . When a person receives a signifi cant kindness such as a relational repair, they are more likely to be generous and offer others kindness. The next person then does the same thing, and the posi- tive momentum of kindness spreads. So, because of emotional contagion, when the parties to a confl ict use negative tactics such as the βfour horsesβ, this can unnecessarily escalate a confl ict. When the parties are able to offer amicable interactions, relational repairs or kindness, this is likely to be reciprocated with positive, constructive responses that can contribute to positive feelings toward the opponent, even during confl ict. 16.7 Complimentary Continua of Confl ict and Peace When does struggle become confl ict? At what point does confl ict become fi ght or lead to interpersonal war? Alternatively, how can confl ict or contention be trans- formed into something positive and creative? As we explore the dynamic elements of confl ict, we are reminded that confl ict actually occurs on a continuum of inten- sity and valence. Some confl ict such as that motivated by rage or hatred is extreme, out of control and very dangerous to all participants. Some confl ict is based on differences in participantsβ points of view or personal factors such as gender or culture and, if occurring in a context of respect and appreciation, can actually enrich the parties. This type of confl ict can be intriguing and positive. In fact, r elationships that exhibit a neutralized absence of confl ict are likely to be apathetic and unmotivating. The goal of all confl ict is authentic, appreciative peace. Johan Galtungβs ( 1990 ) discussion of βnegative peaceβ and βpositive peaceβ provides important insight. Negative peace is the simple absence of overt confl ict. Although not undesirable, negative peace does not imply actual relationship: confl ict can be suppressed by the use of power or privilege; it can be silenced by force; confl ict- ing parties can be prohibited from contacting each other. Although these strate- gies may well diminish the stark destruction of hostility, they do little to address the reasons the confl ict arose in the fi rst place. For this reason, negative peace is βpseudo-peaceβ. Galtung notes that positive peace is the actual goal of all con- fl ict, and especially that of confl ict in a healthy relationship. Disputants do not 272 L. Edmund overlook the causes of confl ict, but come to an agreement on how to develop an equitable relationship that satisfi es all partiesβ needs, thus obviating confl ict. Positive peace rests on good will, harmony, justice and order, qualities supported by positive psychology. 16.8 Positive Confl ict Transformation and Peace-Building Relational and collective confl ict transformation and positive peace-building are undertakings with concurrent and integrative pathways. Peace-building is a long- term, creative, growth task. Confl ict resolution is always emotional, personal and costly unless it is accomplished superfi cially, in which case it is not resolution at all. Peace-building focuses on strengths and positive commitments to overcome, tran- scend or transform negative events and feelings. Positive peace-building involves any activity which fosters understanding among disputants and can even reconstruct relationships broken by past confl ict. Joseph Bock ( 2001) outlines four types of peace-building which are used at sequential stages in a confl ict. Promotive peace-building is quiet, unobtrusive rela- tionship promotion. This may occur, for example, between parties who might com- monly be perceived to be enemies such as divorcing couples or gang and community members. Relationship and joint activities are used to indirectly bridge differences and distance. Preventive peace-building is somewhat more deliberated and occurs specifi cally in situations where enmity has begun but constructive dialogue is still feasible. The focus is issue dialogue and relationship exploration in the hope of fi nd- ing common ground for understanding and action, thus preventing the release of negative feelings. P re-emptive peace-building occurs when a confl ict is ripe but has not yet erupted to become overt. Peace and restraint are called for, along with cau- tions that the issues require attention if confl ict is to be warded off. This is immedi- ate, short-term crisis prevention which rises out of a sense that struggle is about to become heated. Reparative peace-building occurs at the end point of a destructive confl ict and involves rebuilding, repairing and reconciling the brokenness caused by confl ict. Reparative peace-building is not always possible if the relationship is suffi - ciently damaged to inhibit repair. Deeply positive confl ict process is built on virtues, strengths and a commitment to positive feelings and correlated with safety, prosperity, wellbeing and health. Positive peace-building therefore goes much further than the simple cessation of confl ict to emphasize the creation of relationships characterized by cooperation, friendly interactions and generosity of spirit. If confl ict can be constructive or even catalytic, then the task is not how to rid ourselves of confl ict, but βwhat personal abilities, strengths and potentials within our nature can we draw on to create the good lifeβ β in other words, positive dynam- ics (Wylie 2003 :51). Here, practical work in positive psychology effectively explores ways to reinforce the individual and collective resilience required to persist with confl ict until it reaches actual resolution. 16 Confl ict and Confrontation 273 16.9 Positive Emotional Skills Barbara Fredrickson (2 001 ) observes that positive emotions serve not only to build relationship but also to improve an individualβs social resources. Positive emotions work as a buffer against negativity, shoring up resilience and expanding strategies for coping with diffi cult challenges. As the repertoire of potential solutions increases, so does the capacity for problem-solving. This theory would predict that as confl icts are constructively resolved, individuals and relationships become stronger so that future arguments are more quickly and satisfactorily resolved, and individuals are able to meet their needs well (also Rummel 1991 ) . Naomi Greenspan ( 2004 ) distinguishes two elemental forms of emotion, which she calls light emotions β pleasant, subjectively desirable feelings such as gratitude, joy and faith β and more negative dark emotions β subjectively unpleasant, painful feelings such as grief, fear or despair which signal vulnerability. To be healthy, we need to experience an authentic mixture of both light and dark. Either excessive darkness (pain) or excessive lightness (happiness) leads to perceptual distortion. If we are unable to tolerate both light and dark emotions, we suppress or deny them, and they are transformed into toxic emotions, expressed in reactivity, pathology and collective destructiveness. The toxic process poisons individual and collective wellbeing and also contributes to the likelihood of confl ict. Greenspan suggests that we must relearn to accept all feelings, in both light and dark manifestations, to restore wholeness of being and understand ourselves and our world. Greenspanβs approach would encourage all confl ict participants to be authentic emotionally, trusting their inherent wisdom to guide actions toward constructive patterns. Balanced feelings can without doubt guide, heal and transform. Her practical βThree Skillsβ β attend with mindfulness to all feelings, befriend them and surrender the dark manifestations β are useful when learning how to process confl ict constructively. The positive, lighter feelings, but the darker ones, each have their own βreasoningβ and are essential to actualization of the goals of confl ict. Greenspanβs work focuses the broader foundation of βemotional intelligenceβ (EI), the insight articulated by Daniel Goleman ( 1995 ) . EI describes the ability to identify, assess and manage oneβs own emotions and those of others. These abilities are manifest in Golemanβs four fundamental competencies: self-awareness, social awareness, self-management and relationship management (Goleman 2 000 ) . Each of these learned competencies supports healthy relationship functioning, particu- larly when in confl ict. Individuals with high EI show empathic understanding of the deeper, potent content of a dialogue. Given an accurate understanding of the heart of a confl ict in the context of a valued relationship, resolution is facilitated through skills based on EI. Individuals with high EI consistently prefer to use collaborative means to reach solutions (Jordan and Troth 2002 ) . In addition to positive receptive and expressive communication skills, key EI abilities that support confl ict process- ing include effective personal stress relief and emotional awareness (Segal 2008 ) . This suite of skills reinforces the insight and patience needed to process confl ict carefully without resorting to the use of destructive tactics. 274 L. Edmund 16.10 An Environment Which Cultivates Positive Confl ict Resolution Virtues and inner strengths protect against the subjective negativity of confl ict, contributing to both individual and relational resilience. βOur strengths are our best protectionsβ¦ this buffers us against our weaknessesβ (Seligman in Wylie 2003 ) . Signature strengths which support constructive confl ict processing are hope and optimism, justice and temperance, wisdom, courage, humanity and transcendence. These positive character strengths and associated behaviours can be taught and refi ned through numerous methods (Decety and Meyer 2 008 ; Keysers and Gazzola 2009 ) . No matter where we start, someone will benefi t. Martin Seligman (in Wylie 2003 ) describes the development and intervention challenges: (a) To teach optimism, gratitude, forgiveness; (b) To βdevelop character, positive emotion and strengths, completely independent of alleviating problemsβ and (c) To βrecraft what we are doing to better use our strengthsβ, and to βhelp people identify what they are really good atβ¦β (Wylie 2 003 ) . Development and growth take place naturally in both informal and formal set- tings, and character strengths correlate with age, maturity and experienced chal- lenges. This implies that all confl ict can be instructive, though not all lessons learned will be positive. The best learning is connected with real experiences where learners can work through confl ict to recognize and appreciate the positive dimensions of a relationship and experience hope about resolution. Positive psychology suggests that optimal learning occurs in a context of enjoyment and success, engagement and meaningful exploration, using varied pedagogic methods. An effective learning environment is integrated and interwoven, offering learners repeating opportunities to explore and experiment with their emotional and confl ict experiences, reactions and skills. Learning is enhanced with interest, respect and affection, and students become engaged and active and belong. Facilitators have specifi c expectations of learners, but also provide an accepting, supportive environment. 16.11 Conclusions Confl ict is an intrinsic part of every relationship, and many aspects have been covered in this chapter. The following common themes have emerged. Confl ict is |
not necessarily unhealthy or destructive but, under optimal circum- stances, the dynamics of confl ict can be constructive and catalytic of self-knowledge and strengthened relationship. Confl ict does not need to be avoided. Confl ict is normal even in healthy relationships and does not threaten strong relationships. When tolerated and processed openly, confl ict can support interpersonal growth. 16 Confl ict and Confrontation 275 Specifi c confl ict resolution behaviours occur within the context of a broader interpersonal tone and history and are interpreted in light of that context. This cru- cially affects the impact of specifi c behaviour. Specifi c patterns can protect against the unpleasant and undesirable aspects of confl ict. The positive, active behaviours explored in this chapter are: β’ Maintaining a positive, friendly intent. β’ Acknowledging that the effects of actions may not be congruent with the intent. β’ Communication is helpful when it includes surface talk, authentic mutual disclo- sure and searching inquiry, but minimizes non-consensual dominance, critical fi ghting and spiteful interpersonal war. β’ Respect for the fragility of trust, along with a commitment to build, sustain and repair trust through trustworthiness. β’ A hopeful attitude toward confl ict does not attempt to eliminate it through avoid- ance, self-sacrifi cial accommodation, coercion or futile compromise, but does maximize collaborative problem-solving which acknowledges the presence of a problem and also works to preserve the relationship. β’ A commitment to positive, active peace-building which generates a healthy relation- ship, uses emotional skill and maturity and relies on personal and group resilience. 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At times confl ict can present positive opportunities for growth and learning, whilst at other times it can have destructive outcomes. Recognising the signs of confl ict and developing the skills to repair harm in the aftermath of confl ict and wrongdoing are essential for families, schools, organisations and communities. Confl ict can take an emotional toll on those involved and needs to be managed in a way that the dignity and well- being of those involved can be restored. It also requires that the responsible parties take accountability for their part in the incident and ensure that they take action to make amends. Restorative justice offers much hope in this regard. Restorative justice and the range of restorative practices have been found to effectively manage this process in a way that meets the needs of those involved. Working restoratively to resolve confl ict means looking at the resultant harm and how to assist those who have been impacted to deal with this. Whilst some models of confl ict resolution might seek to put aside emotions in the confl ict resolution process, restorative justice seeks to work with the emotional impact. It does this by starting from the premise that people are often signifi cantly affected by what has happened. The venting of emotion in a safe forum can assist those involved to shift from the negative range of affect and operate more in the positive range of emotions. Emotional wellbeing is enhanced through the appropriate expression of emotion, building understanding of what has happened and creating closure in order to move on. As such, restorative practices can operationalise aspects of positive psychology by turning a traumatic event into one for growth and healing. This chapter will P. Blood (*) Restorative Practices International (RPI Circle Speak), Sydney, Australia e-mail: peta@circlespeak.com.au S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 277 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0_17, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 278 P. Blood outline how restorative practices have been adopted in various settings to make a difference when confl ict, crime and wrongdoing have affected others. 17.2 The History of Restorative Justice Developments Working restoratively is a way of approaching harm, confl ict and wrongdoing in schools, families, workplaces and communities. Restorative justice emerged in the 1970s as a response to the failings of the retributive system of justice and rehabili- tation models of the day (Lemonne 2003 ) . Primary to this push were the need to prevent the re-victimisation of victims through the judicial process and to involve community in the repair of harm. This contributed to the development of alternate confl ict resolution strategies designed to be responsive to the needs of those involved (Lemonne 2 003 ) . Various authors have charted the development of restorative justice and com- mented on the diverse roots of this work. Hopkins (2 009 ) refers to four strands of practice development that contributed to the gradual emergence of restorative jus- tice around the world. The fi rst of these involved victim-offender mediation initi- ated by the Mennonites in the mid-1970s, a practice pivotal in the development of the restorative justice movement. Victim-offender mediation offered victims a say in how offenders could take responsibility for their actions and to make amends for what they had done. This gave victims a voice and held offenders to account rather than locking them away from the very people they had harmed. Another strand involved the First Nations people of Canada and the development of sentencing circles. These built on traditional communitarian processes to bring members of the community together with the judiciary to determine the most appropriate sentence for a crime involving one of their own. Sentencing circles enabled those who had a stake in the matter to be involved in determining what needed to happen to repair the harm done by a member of their community. Circles have since developed to repair harm, reintegrate wrongdoers into com- munity and as part of the judicial process for sentencing and pre-release. In the 1980s, the Maori people of New Zealand were working through a similar process, resulting in the development of Family Group Conferencing (FGC) as the fi rst leg- islated model to deal with young offending in a restorative manner. Like the First Nations people of Canada, this built on a long tradition of indigenous collaborative problem-solving practices (Hopkins 2009 ) . Since this time, there has been a prolif- eration of practice emanating from New Zealand, Australia and North America. The term restorative justice is now used interchangeably with terms such as restorative approaches, restorative measures and restorative practices, dependent on the setting in which it is applied. The term βrestorative practicesβ was fi rst adopted by Australian practitioners working in schools. This distinguished practice from the justice setting and acknowledged the existence of a range of informal and formal practices. These ranged from a formal conference to deal with suspension and expulsion through to informal restorative conversations to deal with low-level 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships 279 confl ict and disruption. Rather than see a restorative approach as just an alternate method of discipline or confl ict resolution, practice was diversifi ed to look at ways to strengthen relationships across the school community. Likewise, Canadian prac- titioners refer to restorative measures in schools, whilst Scottish and British practi- tioners refer to a range of restorative approaches. Whilst still an emerging fi eld, there is a diverse range of practice that includes circles, victim-offender mediation and conferencing. Practice varies in terms of who attends, who facilitates the process and the reason that |
people have been brought together. Restorative justice provides fl exibility for adaptation to differ- ent contexts and cultural settings. Common names attributed to conferencing include: Family Group Conferencing (FGC), Family Group Decision Making (FGDM) and Community Accountability Conferencing (CAC). Conferences vary in terms of whether they are scripted as in the case of the Australian CAC model and whether participants have private time for deliberation as in the case of FGC and FGDM. Today, FGC is commonly practised in the juvenile justice sector. FGDM is more evident in care and protection and family matters, whilst the scripted model of conferencing is synonymous with the educational sector. Practice has been further developed to include a range of informal to formal prac- tices that are used in schools, workplaces and residential settings. These will be explained in more detail later. 17.3 Defi nition Restorative justice offers an alternate response to crime and wrongdoing, starting from the premise that when crime or wrongdoing has occurred, people have been affected and that someone will have obligations to repair that harm (Zehr 2 002 ) . Whilst a clear defi nition of restorative justice is yet to be agreed on, Zehrβs (2 002 ) pillars of restorative justice form the elements of most working defi nitions. These are: 1. Establishing who has been harmed and what their needs are 2. Determining who has an obligation to repair that harm 3. Engaging key stakeholders in the matter Restorative processes built around these pillars take into account the ripple effect of harm by seeking to involve all who have a stake in the matter. This could be in terms of the impact on them or their loved ones, or that they were somehow involved. In a restorative frame, these people are critical to the process. An example in a school situation occurs when a student is sent from the classroom for disciplinary reasons. Often they are dealt with in isolation and then returned to the classroom. The teacher and other students may still be annoyed with them, whilst others may still expect the errant student to behave in a certain way. In this instance, the teacher and the other students are key stakeholders in the process. Unless they are included or involved in some way, they may maintain their view of the wrongdoer or carry unresolved emotional issues triggered by the incident. For the student at the centre 280 P. Blood of the issue, they walk back in carrying their feelings about what happened without the opportunity to make amends. The pattern of behaviour is likely to continue. In a restorative frame, the student would be called to account for their behaviour and be provided with the opportunity to acknowledge the harm, hear how it has affected others and together look at what needs to happen to repair the harm and move forwards. This requires a paradigm shift in the way institutions and communities respond to crime and wrongdoing, or a shift in hearts and minds. Restorative justice moves from the traditional punitive systems of discipline and justice to one that is responsive to the needs of those involved and less dependent on the state (Lemonne 2003 ; Zehr 1990 ) . Pranis et al. (2 003 ) , in describing the practice of circles, articulate this as shifting from: 1. Coercion to healing 2. Individual to collective 3. State dependence to self-reliance within community 4. Punishment to healing and a renewed sense of justice Braithwaite ( 2003 ) describes this as a victim-centred process focused on the repair of harm, as opposed to the retributive or formal justice system, which is offender oriented and focused on punishment, blame and stigmatisation. In the tra- ditional system, crime and wrongdoing is seen more as an offence against the state as the judicial process seeks to determine what law has been broken, who is to blame and how they will be punished. At sentencing time, the offender is given an opportunity to put forward a case for mitigating the circumstances of their crime and reducing the penalty imposed on them, i.e. βI was intoxicated at the time and not in control of what I didβ. Despite numerous criminal justice reforms, the victimβs voice still struggles to get heard. Helen Garnerβs ( 2004 ) portrayal of the death of Joe Cinque is a case in point. At the centre of the court process are two offenders who were responsible for Joeβs premeditated death. Throughout Garnerβs description of the respective court cases, the question lingers βBut what about the victim, Joe?β Whilst the offenders and the offendersβ families have a voice in the process, the victim and the victimβs families are absent except on the occasion when their anger, rage and distress spills over into the court. What they desire throughout the case is a chance to say who the victim was to them and for the offenders and the court to hear who they took away. Alternatively, in the documentary F acing the Demons (Ziegler 1 999 ) , which tracks the family of 18-year-old Michael Marslew (killed in a botched armed robbery on a takeaway food outlet) confronting two of the four offenders responsible for Michaelβs death, the family thank the offenders for the opportunity to humanise the victim and to say what he meant to them as a coworker, as a friend and as a son. Follow-up interviews with the family and friends show how this had let them get on with their lives. This included the father of Michael going on to work with Karl, one of the offenders, to help young people not get into trouble. Despite changes and moves to offer more restorative processes, the traditional court system is still impersonal, state oriented and overly offender focused . In many ways, the early kings of England have much to answer for, by taking away the right 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships 281 of communities to deal with wrongdoing within their own community and making it their business to be the punisher, often in barbaric and publicly humiliating ways. Prior to this, if you stole a pig from your neighbour, your community would call on you to repay the neighbour in a way that replaced the food or breeding stock that you stole. In order to do this, you may labour for your neighbour, you may give him an animal of yours or fi nd a way to address that wrong. From a sociological perspec- tive, the responsibility for crime and wrongdoing was taken out of the hands of the very communities affected by that crime and put in the hands of some authoritarian fi gure or institution. Since this time, we have continued to see the professionalisa- tion of crime and wellbeing as we rely on others to take care of our needs and to deal with societyβs deviance β a by-product of the industrialised world. As the Cinque and Marslew cases highlight and Zehr ( 2002 ) affi rms, crime is a personal violation of people and their rights. When someoneβs home is broken into, it is a violation of their property and their personal space. Secondary to this, it might be seen as an offence against the good order of the state, there to protect its people. Restorative justice is about taking care of the needs of those involved in crime, con- fl ict and disruption and the roles of those responsible to repair that harm. As Moroney (2 010 ) states, the prison system locks offenders away from society, where they are not forced to face the damage that they have done. Victims and their loved ones and the families of the offenders are left to face the community, often with devastating effects. Restorative justice is inclusive in an effort to address the ripple effect of harm by taking into account that crime often affects many people. More often than not, those who are important in the lives of those directly involved are also affected, even if only out of concern for their loved ones or because they too have been impacted by what has happened. Communities need to pay attention to the needs and concerns of victims and the roles that offenders/wrongdoers have in meeting the needs of those involved (Zehr 2002 ) . To not do this leaves people in precarious places having to deal with the impact on their lives in their own way or to seek professional help. 17.4 How Does Restorative Justice Work? Whilst debate exists as to what types of interventions constitute effective healing, it is generally accepted that helping those involved to tell their story is a signifi cant part of the process. It allows for the integration of what happened (the version of events) with the impact this has had at an emotive level. As Yoder (2 005 ) indicates βacknowledging and telling the story counteracts the isolation, silence, fear, shame, or βunspeakableβ horrorβ of the event (p. 53). Restorative practices allow those involved to share their version of what happened and the impact this had on them. In the aftermath of confl ict and trauma, people initially go through a process of trying to make sense of what has happened. Yoder ( 2005 ) indicates that this hap- pens automatically as those involved try to come to terms with the preceding event in the immediate aftermath. With time, the process unfolds for those involved 282 P. Blood making sense of their life or their view of the world and how that has been affected. Confl ict itself can result in major upheaval that can have destructive consequences for those involved or constructive consequences when people are able to make sense of what happened, to learn from it and to move on. How the traumatic event is interpreted and integrated is crucial to a personβs accurate sense of self and their view of the world. This is no more evident than in the 2010 BP Oil disaster in the Gulf of Mexico where the damage to the environment and to the livelihoods of those working on the coastline is likely to continue for many years to come. The human victims need acknowledgement of the harm done to their livelihoods and to their communities, and they need to see that those responsible are called to account and make amends. The restorative justice philosophy is about valuing relationships and understand- ing the needs of those involved. This addresses the emotional or affective needs as well as a primal need to belong, which works across cultural boundaries. As Zehr and Mika (2 003) state βrestorative justice is a continuum of responses to the range of needs and harms experienced by victims, offenders and the communityβ (p. 41). The authorβs own experience of working with those harmed and those affected is that their needs mirror the process that Yoder outlines and that their needs are ulti- mately similar. In the face of having done harm or been harmed, people need to: β’ Have their say β’ Be heard β’ To understand and be understood β’ Make sense of what happened β’ Know that what happened was not fair or was not intended β’ Have time out/space to refl ect (perhaps talk to a trusted other) β’ Make amends β’ Feel OK with self and OK with others β’ Repair relationships When these needs are met, this helps bring a sense of closure and restore a sense of wellbeing for all involved. In the case of those responsible, this amounts to hav- ing a chance to make amends and restore their place in community. Take for instance a family confl ict involving Kathy, who is the victim of child- hood abuse. After being steadily groomed by her perpetrator, Kathy went on to marry the offender, not knowing that anything was wrong with the initial covert relationship. After the marriage dissolved a few years later, Kathy realised what had happened to her was abuse and took steps to ensure the offender was appropriately dealt with and punished for his wrongdoing. Whilst sexual abuse is a serious issue, related confl ict emerged in Kathyβs family as her parents and siblings struggled to manage how they felt about what had happened. There were those that felt that jus- |
tice had been served and Kathy ought to get over it and not speak about this hor- rendous shame. Kathyβs mother refused to talk about it, whilst her father would get angry if the topic was raised. Her siblings aligned themselves accordingly. Kathy, whilst she felt that justice had been served through the court, needed her family to understand the impact this had had on her and that she was still being punished by 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships 283 her family for having spoken the truth. What is clear is that confl ict and trauma can have far reaching impact on others, and they need to be involved in processes to bring about extended healing. 17.5 Affect and Script Psychology (ASP) The success of restorative justice processes is that they work at a deep level to repair emotional harm. Silvan Tomkinsβ (1 962, 1963 ) Affect and Script Psychology (ASP) has much to offer in understanding the biological roots of emotions and how restor- ative justice helps in trauma recovery. This is something that has been understated in the commentary about the effectiveness of restorative justice, despite victim sat- isfaction being one of the most commonly used measures to determine a successful restorative process. Much of the debate instead focuses on whether restorative jus- tice reduces re-offending, which was not the original intent of the process. Tomkins described nine core affects or patterns of response that are innate to human beings. These fall on a continuum from positive to negative and include the neutral affect of s urprise-startle . On the positive end of the continuum is the affect of enjoyment-joy and interest-excitement which generally feel good. On the negative end of the continuum, we experience six uncomfortable forms of affect on a range from a nger-rage, fear-terror, distress-anguish, disgust, dismell and shame-humiliation . Negative affect feels unbearable, and we are moved to fi nd ways to feel better or to neutralise the pain. The neutral affect of s urprise-startle is the affect that merely resets the system. When affect is said to be triggered, it is taken to mean that a βknown pattern of biological eventsβ has been set in train (Nathanson 1992 : 49). For this to occur, there must be a stimulus that triggers the affect. For example, the little known affect of dismell is a sensory smell response triggered by an offensive odour, or, more commonly in the modern world, is seen as the rejection of something without sampling, as in the case of racism. As an affect is triggered, we take notice and start to ascribe feelings or emotions to that sense. When people are affected by confl ict and trauma, they may experience any or all negative affects. It can be diffi cult to work through this. Help may be needed to return to a state of wellbeing and positive affect. Understanding the biological aspects of emotionality is crucial to understanding the range of affect triggered in situations of confl ict and upheaval and how to work with it. Tomkins ( 1962, 1963 ) said that learning how to read affect in the faces of others can assist with understanding what is happening for them. This assists us to see a situation from a different perspective and adapt our approach to dealing with it, thereby becoming smarter about confl ict management. Roth and Newman ( 1992 ) indicate that one of the challenges in working with those who have been traumatised is to help them shift from preoccupation with the trauma to fi nding an adaptive resolution to the negative affect of βhelplessness, rage, fear, loss, shame, and guiltβ (p. 221). Of these affects, shame will be explored in depth to understand what happens for people caught in the confl ict cycle and how we can 284 P. Blood assist those involved to deal effectively with what has happened. As Tomkins ( 1962, 1963 ) controversially stated, shame is the negative affect that precedes all other negative affect. In learning more about ASP, it is clear that Tomkins saw shame as a warning sign that something is wrong and that corrective action needs to be taken. At the same time, it is relatively easy to see how offenders carry shame for their actions, how some victims feel shame in terms of what happened and how their loved ones also carry shame about what happened. This is espe- cially so for the families and friends of wrongdoers. Regardless of how people view the signifi cance of Tomkinβs work, it is important in understanding how restorative practices work at a deep emotive level. 17.6 Kellyβs Blueprint for Healthy Relationships Human beings have a primary need for healthy attachments with others they can rely on in times of need (Kelly 2 009 ) . A sense of secure attachment allows us to function at an optimum level, feel safe and have a positive view of self and others. Shaver and Mikulincer (2 009 : 447) state: βThis pervasive sense of security based on implicit beliefs that the world is generally safe, that attachment fi gures are helpful when called upon, and that it is possible to explore the environment curiously and engage effectively and enjoyably with other people. This sense of security is rooted in positive mental representations of self and othersβ. In order to maintain healthy relationships, we need to manage our emotional wellbeing. Kelly ( 2009 ) describes a central blueprint for relationships in which the following four rules must work in tandem: We need to maximise positive affect, minimise negative affect, minimise the inhibition of our affect and maximise our ability to do all three. The mental and emotional wellbeing of human beings in rela- tionship with each other is maintained when the blueprint is maintained. Kelly (2 009 ) states that: βWhen circumstances in our lives hinder our ability to follow these rules and we either have to ignore one of them completely or overemphasize one at the expense of the others, there is signifi cant reduction in the quality of our lives and our relationshipsβ (p. 24). This can be diffi cult to achieve when cultural norms dictate how emotion can be expressed, with the minimisation of negative emotion encouraged in some cultures, particularly around death and dying. To express how we feel about the loss of someone or how an event has been triggered can be a shame-evoking experience in itself. I recall a situation in my police forensic career of being ridiculed by another forensic operative, when several colleagues had experienced a stress response in reaction to a series of traumatic incidents and high workload without suffi cient support or rest. The same operative managed his own stress through drinking and being diffi cult to work with. By ridiculing another, he could effectively distance how he felt about his own workload and in some way feel better about himself by denying his own stress levels. By not getting in touch with his own issues, he can feel temporarily better about himself. 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships 285 17.7 Why Is Shame Important to Understand? Kaufman (1 993 ) states that βto feel shame is to feel seen in a painfully diminished sense. Shame reveals the inner self, exposing it to view. The self feels exposed both to itself and to anyone else present. β¦ it is an entirely inner experienceβ (p. 17). Shame stops someone feeling good about themselves or others. If people do not have the capacity or processes for dealing with their shame and the punishing feel- ings associated with this, they potentially alienate themselves from others, with- draw, attack themselves or attack others. At its worst, people who experience shame (which we all do) may do all four (Nathanson 1 992 ) . When we become aware that we have done something to harm another, we are likely to experience shame and not feel good about ourselves or our actions. Likewise, when we have been harmed by anotherβs actions, we too experience shame, as our relationships with others change and our sense of self-worth is shaken. Shame is a normal part of the human experience and is innate to human beings (Nathanson 1992 ) . It is diffi cult to talk about and often a part of an experience that most seek to disown. Shame feels uncomfortable and we will do anything to avoid it. We may run away from these uncomfortable feelings and in turn withdraw from the relationships around us, often at great cost to the self and others, or we may adopt a confrontational style to avoid how bad we feel. Take for example fi nding out that a partner is unfaithful. Not only can this event derail the relationship but also both parties are likely to feel a sense of shame in the aftermath of this issue being exposed. The partner who had the affair is likely to feel ashamed of what they have done, whilst the other partner is likely to feel confused, angry and that they are somehow to blame β which is one of the shame responses. If we are unable to deal with the situation effectively, we are likely to try and displace the way we feel. According to Nathanson (1 992 ) , we have several possi- bilities; see the C ompass of Shame (Fig. 17.1 ). The four responses include a with- drawal from the situation and the other person, attacking ourselves through negative self-talk or self-harming (such as self-mutilation), attacking others (physically or verbally) or avoiding the situation and its toxic feelings by drinking or refusing to talk about it (a form of denial). Consider potential responses to the issue of infi delity Fig. 17.1 Compass of shame WITHDRAWAL (Adapted from Nathanson Isolate & 1992 ) Blame Self ATTACK ATTACK OTHERS SELF Blame Others & Denial of problem AVOIDANCE 286 P. Blood above. One partner may be outraged that they have been exposed and resort to violent outbursts (attack other), whilst the other may internalise the matter feeling that they are in some way to blame (attack self). At the same time, family members and signifi cant others can be outraged, insist on the relationship dissolving or be in varying stages of disbelief. All are defensive ways of coping with the shame that has been triggered. When we are not managing the shame we feel, there is a tendency for certain poles of the compass to combine. Our response is likely to relate to whether we are more likely to internalise or externalise our reaction to what is happening. Those that are likely to attack others and adopt a confrontational approach are also likely to avoid the situation and deny that there is a problem or that they were responsible. In another explanation of the power of shame to motivate behaviour, Ahmed and Braithwaite (2 004 ) , in discussing bullying behaviour, use the notion of shame d isplacement to explain how, as destructive as it is, it is a protective mecha- nism for the wrongdoer or person responsible, as they are blaming others and push- ing the problem away from themselves. Bullies frequently offer excuses to minimise their role in a shameful situation, denying their responsibility. This might in part explain why studies have found that bullies do not necessarily have the diminished sense of self-esteem that we might imagine. On the other side is the victim who is typically internalising the shame by with- drawing from the situation and berating themselves for being too weak. They inter- nalise the problem and feel they are to blame, which fi ts with Seligmanβs (1 990 ) view of pessimism. No one can maintain this state of βattack selfβ for lengthy peri- ods of time without the risk of further self-harm or switching poles to attack other. In the school massacres committed by school students, this switch is all too evident. Those responsible for these devastating acts at some stage withdrew or were forced to withdraw from their school community, only to turn and attack others, blaming them for what had happened. What was lacking for these students was a secure attachment or sense of belonging with their peer group, their school community and, in some cases, their families. 17.8 |
What Can Be Learned from Positive Psychology Seligman ( 1990 ) draws on extensive evidence that suggests there are two ways of viewing life and coping with what happens: we are either optimistic or pessimistic about our life and what happens around us. At the core of pessimism is a sense of helplessness that can develop in the face of tragedy and loss, when nothing an individual does makes a difference. As Roth and Newman ( 1992 ) suggest, this is frequently experienced by survivors of sexual and other trauma and is something that needs to be dealt with therapeutically. In Kathyβs case, she had sought much needed psychological assistance to deal with her ongoing issues. In the end, the opportunity to confront the person that had taken her innocence from her, to share the impact on her and her family, enabled her to take her power back in the 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships 287 situation. It also enabled her family to deal with the extended impact on them and to reunite the family. A positive view would say that what hurts us can make us stronger when it is handled effectively. These events can put us in touch with our deeper self and facili- tate self-growth (Boniwell 2008 ) , or they can cause us to reconsider the very nature of our purpose on this planet (Roth and Newman 1 992 ) . Whilst it is possible that someone may have the resilience to manage this process themselves, others will need to engage in a therapeutic or healing approach. Sullivan and Tifft ( 2005 ) indi- cate that restorative justice and its range of practices foster healing in others. As people βwe develop our potentialities as human beings and enhance our collective wellbeing when our needs are respected, expressed, listened to, defi ned with care, and ultimately metβ (p. 167). Positive psychology explores mental health, what it is to feel good, what quali- fi es someone as a good person and what constitutes a group or communityβs social responsibility (Boniwell 2 008 ) . The range of strong negative emotions generated in trauma and confl ict get in the way of people feeling good about themselves; they may question their very being and the virtues of the community to which they belong. As Drozdek et al. ( 2006 ) indicate, this may result in questioning their very existence. Questioning the self can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-blame for what has happened and trigger a host of negative emotions, including the affect of shame. These negative emotions can also have a destabilising effect on communities. 17.9 Restorative Practices A fully restorative process seeks to bring together those responsible, those harmed and those who are signifi cant in the lives of those harmed and responsible, to repair the harm. Each practice in its own right might be completely or partially restorative, dependent on the impact on others and who is involved. For example, mediation around the separation of a couple with children may be partially restorative if it assists the couple to work through their differences, but it does not take into account the impact the separation has on the children and the extended family who are often left reeling in the aftermath of a family break-up. Involving children and others in a family decision-making circle (FGDM) or conference may assist in absolving chil- dren of blame for the relationship breakdown and assisting them to stay clear of the confl ict (Grych and Fincham 1 993 ) . This hopefully prevents an ugly situation devel- oping that can perpetuate throughout the years between fractured families. By involving those who have a stake in the matter, there is an opportunity for all involved to have their say and together work towards the best possible solution. Kathyβs case was an example of this. This also aligns with a growing body of research that indicates that families who are more restorative in nature by having fi rm boundaries and strong support are less likely to have delinquent children (Braithwaite 2 003 ; Coloroso 2009 ) . 288 P. Blood Bringing restorative practices into our families, schools, workplaces and communities is a way to transform confl ict. In doing so, it is important that we understand what peopleβs needs are and be comfortable in dealing with the range of strong emotions that are triggered. The Truth and Reconciliation Commission (TRC) in South Africa is an example at a community level of an attempt to deal with the human rights violations of the apartheid era. The nation chose not to perpetuate the process of retribution by seeking an alternate way of dealing with the harm and taking responsibility for gross breaches of human rights, largely perpetuated by those carrying out government policy. Whilst the process has its detractors, it is held as an example of a nation taking responsibility for attempting to speak the truth and to start the reconciliation process (Vora and Vora 2 004 ) . By taking a restorative approach to our lives and our interactions with others, we can start transforming our families, schools, workplaces, communities and nations. By working with children to equip them with these same values and the skills to manage repair of relationships, this will fl ow into families, their relationships with others and their workplaces. Take for example a young man with anger management issues who had been suspended from school many times throughout his schooling. Each time he was suspended, the angrier he would get, and the angrier others would get towards him. Everything changed when a teacher took the time to have a conver- sation with him and inquire what needed to happen to make a difference. By asking questions such as: What happened? What were you thinking at the time? What have you thought since? Who has been harmed? How? What needs to happen to repair the harm? The young man was able to get in touch with the impact of his action, fi nd a way to discharge his shame and move on, not getting suspended again for his entire schooling. On asking him what had happened, he clearly articulated how someone had shown him how to come back from when he had done the wrong thing. Until this point he didnβt know how, which translated into heightened frustration, anger and further incidents of harm. As Kelly ( 2009 ) indicates, he overemphasised the negative affect of anger at the expense of feeling good about himself, reducing the quality of his own life and those around him. Without this intervention, he was a likely candidate for violence in community, particularly in relationship with others, as he struggled to control this emotion. 17.10 Role of the Facilitator The role of a skilled facilitator is central to the success of restorative justice (Latimer et al. 2005 ) . As in the case above, it took not only the willingness of the wrongdoer to look at doing things differently but also the skill of the facilitator (in this case a teacher) who guided the adolescent through the process by asking the right questions. 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships 289 This included patience and an openness to helping him fi nd a way that worked. It also required ongoing persistence and an intervention plan to change his behaviour over time. In effective processes, preparation is everything, as is the facilitatorβs ability to trust and manage the group process. Facilitator skills outlined by Hopkins (2 004 ) include the need to: β’ Be impartial and non-judgemental β’ Respect the perspectives of all involved β’ Listen actively and empathically β’ Develop rapport amongst participants β’ Empower participants to come up with solutions rather than suggesting or impos- ing ideas β’ Use creative questioning β’ Above all else, to be warm, compassionate and patient Applying these skills enables the facilitator to prepare participants so that they can have a challenging conversation, feel free to share their story and express their emotions in a safe way. To facilitate a process where people are not prepared risks further harm. When restorative processes are facilitated well, those involved return to a state of wellbeing, as in Kathyβs case. To do this, facilitators need to take a positive psychology approach in being optimistic about outcomes and believing that those involved can take responsibility for their behaviour and be healed in the process. Together they work with the capacity of those involved to fi nd a solution for all and hopefully prevent the reoccurrence of further harm. From a traumatic experi- ence, growth, learning and change can occur. Restorative approaches have been inte- grated with a range of different approaches, including solution-focused thinking, non-violent communication (NVC) and narrative therapy. The blending of approaches bodes well for a more responsive way of working with confl ict and trauma and pre- venting this from happening. The latter signifi es a development in restorative prac- tice, where an emphasis on prevention through the development of healthy connections is as prominent as a behaviour response, particularly in schools and care settings. Working restoratively is an approach to working with others both when things are going well and when they are not going well. As Sullivan and Tifft ( 2005 ) suggest, βhow healthy we are, how spiritually grounded we are, how moral we are, can be measured by how much we are committed to meeting the needs of all and to living out relationships in which seeking the equal wellbeing of all is our intentionβ (p. 169). These are perhaps hard principles to maintain but worthy ones to aspire to. 17.11 From Restorative Justice Practices to Restorative Communities, Cities and States At the core of this process is the need to build strong, healthy communities that see incidents of crime and wrongdoing as a violation of people and a signal that the community has work to do to repair the harm. Restorative justice is a communitarian 290 P. Blood process that implies that you are restoring good order. In many cases, the functionality of the community involved is questionable, whether this be whole sections of com- munities, workplaces, schools or families. Hoyle and Noguera ( 2008 ) , for example, question the ability of some parents to effectively support their children in restor- ative approaches either because they are somehow complicit or struggle to deal with their own shame about their parenting ability. Increasingly, we are seeing examples of whole towns, cities, states, territories, counties or areas moving towards a restorative approach in everything they do, in an effort to transform their communities. This has led to a wave of practice, perhaps better referred to as transformative justice (Hopkins 2 009 ) . The city of Hull in the United Kingdom is an example of an economically and socially challenged city working to ensure that all people and services that interact with children and young people work in a restorative way (Mirsky 2 009 ) . Initiated in 2007, preliminary fi nd- ings are encouraging at several levels. Collingwood Primary School reported shift- ing from a school requiring special measures to an outstanding school within 2 years of implementing a restorative approach (Mirsky 2 009 ) . Similarly, in Australia, Charnwood Primary School in the Australian Capital Territory (ACT) went from a school where no one wanted to send their children or to work there to a thriving school within 2 years of implementing a range of measures that included restorative practices. The school was anecdotally credited with contribution to the reduction of crime within the area, because in the view of local police, the young people (many from socially disadvantaged situations) were no longer involved in crime because of what the school were doing. The successful implementation of restorative practice in schools and at a justice level has led to the ACT to adopting a restorative approach to their whole territory (ACT Government 2008 ) . The city of London in the United Kingdom recently called a meeting of those interested in developing a restorative city, following initiatives supported by the Home Offi ce in 1997 to promote restorative justice in working with young offenders (Hoyle and Noguera 2 008 ) . Key providers in the regional area of |
Wodonga in Victoria, Australia, have united together to improve the outcomes for young people and adolescents with engagement issues in schools. Here, police, community health and schools have come together to use Family Group Conferencing (FGC). This approach offers a βfamily-centred, strengths-focused, culturally sensitive and com- munity-based approach to family decision-making and case planningβ (Parker 2 009 ) . Since its inception, the project has seen overall reductions in truancy, suspen- sion, expulsions and criminal activity. Combined with the growth of practice in schools across the United Kingdom, Australia, New Zealand, North America and emerging areas in the Asia Rim, it is hoped that the proliferation of practice in educational arenas will see a corre- sponding reduction in youth offending. Braithwaite (2004) indicates that schools provide an ideal place to start to develop restorative communities, not only from the perspective shown here, but also from the notion of schools as the hub of their communities. Whilst these initiatives take time, it is encouraging that policy mak- ers see this as a positive way forwards, and that 36 years on, restorative practices continue to evolve. 17 The Repair and Restoration of Relationships 291 17.12 Conclusion Confl ict is an inevitable part of life. From a positive psychology perspective, the effective management of confl ict and traumatic experiences allows us to develop emotional resilience, so that we are better able to manage the ups and downs of life. The blueprint for healthy relationships helps us to understand that any block to feeling good about ourselves will invoke a host of negative emotions and cause disconnect in our community. We need to know how to repair these breaches for our own wellbeing and that of those around us. Restorative practices encourage the appropriate expression of negative emotion by giving those involved and who are affected the chance to have a say and to be heard. When the impact of confl ict is expressed, those responsible are more likely to have empathy for the other person, and all parties are more able to move forwards feeling better about themselves and others. At the same time, the communities of care around the central players are more able to accept the decision that has been made and also to move on. This allows for the best chance of the restoration of relationships and an effective outcome for all. The adoption of restorative practices by institutions, families, schools and commu- nities is providing hope that together we can make a difference and transform our communities. References Ahmed, E., & Braithwaite, V. 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Index A Belonging, 2, 6, 24, 36, 40, 60, 95, 101, 137, Acceptance, 5, 12, 24, 40, 84, 128β131, 136, 139, 146β147, 168, 205, 246, 248, 286 137, 140, 148, 150, 156, 176, 188, 228, Blame, 4, 84, 115, 116, 121, 147, 280, 256, 265 285β287 Achievement, 3, 18, 22β24, 58, 92, 96, 146, Blessings, 77, 80, 95, 167, 176 151, 154, 158, 200, 233, 266 Boundaries, 9, 92, 103, 183, 210, 232, 233, Acknowledgement, 3, 11, 112, 205, 207, 235, 240, 241, 282, 287 220, 282 Bullying, 2, 7, 24, 28, 36, 37, 94, 129, 153, Adjustment, 18, 37, 77, 92, 118, 127, 176 154, 286 Affection, 6, 40, 77, 81, 83, 87, 94, 99, 132, Business, 166, 168, 170, 171, 173, 174, 177, 270, 274 198, 234, 281 Aggression, aggressive, 5β7, 24, 35, 37, 39, 41, 60, 82, 97, 130, 166, 268 Altruism, altruistic, 21, 60, 169, 175 C Anger, 5, 6, 10, 21, 42, 58, 84, 110, 112, 117, Character, 24, 164, 170, 262, 265, 269, 270, 121, 264, 266, 271, 280, 283, 288 274, 275 Anxiety, anxious, 8, 21, 24, 43, 97, 99, 112, Choice, 26, 62, 93, 103, 128, 183, 184, 121, 154, 165, 266 210, 251 Appreciation, 77, 81, 82, 176, 182, 221, Citizens, citizenship, 3, 5, 50, 65, 67, 86 257, 271 Coaching, 8, 39, 42, 191, 198, 203, 206, Assumptions, 9, 129, 137β138, 186, 191, 193, 215β217, 219, 221β225 202, 204, 217, 223, 224, 252, 257 Coercion, coercive, 6, 26, 247, 268, 275, 280 Attachment, 2, 11, 56β58, 68, 84, 87, 98, 99, Collective, 57, 63, 147, 221, 247, 253, 272, 103, 112, 132, 171, 175, 284, 286 273, 280, 287 Attribute, attributional, 263 Comfortable, comfort, 48, 58, 127, 140, 153, Authenticity, authentic, 2β5, 10, 14, 43, 92, 155, 184, 224, 246, 288 94, 150, 159, 166, 175, 263, 264, 271, Compassion, compassionate, 1, 35β50, 85, 94, 273, 275 151, 251, 257, 289 Authoritarian, 23, 39, 92, 94, 281 Competition, competitive, 2, 5, 38, 133, 178, Authoritative, 7, 23, 92, 95, 96, 102, 157 183, 217, 256 Autonomy, autonomous, 22, 23, 26, 56, 57, Compromise, 94, 182, 228, 252, 268, 275 61, 66, 68, 93, 95, 99, 101, 165, 177 Confi dence, 7, 21, 24, 39, 49, 87, 94, 121, 128, 138, 139, 151, 155, 156, 187, 198, 209, 220, 221, 265, 269 B Confi dentiality, 199, 210, 224 Belief, 4, 47, 50, 150, 157, 191, 200, 201, Confusion, 97, 114, 121 249β250 Connectedness, 22, 63, 64, 145, 147, 218 S. Roffey (ed.), Positive Relationships: Evidence Based Practice across the World, 293 DOI 10.1007/978-94-007-2147-0, Β© Springer Science+Business Media B.V. 2012 294 Index Consistency, 63, 95, 188, 211 Emotional intelligence/literacy, 8, 11β12, 41, Consultation, 8, 42, 94, 122, 123, 185β188 66, 148, 149, 156, 157, 164, 176β177, Contact, 40, 49, 56, 66, 97, 112, 116β118, 122, 215, 224, 225, 229, 231, 234β236, 134, 187, 201, 202, 252, 254β256 239, 273 Contagion, 271 Empathy, empathic, 4β7, 12, 21, 24, 57, Control, 21, 22, 35, 39, 43, 45, 60, 61, 94, 101, 59β60, 76, 84, 96, 98, 99, 131, 151, 152, 154, 177, 184, 200, 206, 230, 238, 157, 168, 188, 189, 218, 221, 246, 251, 248, 264, 266, 271, 280, 288 254β255, 257, 265, 270, 271, 273, 291 Conversation, 76, 79, 81, 83, 101, 128, 132, Empower, empowerment, 26, 67, 111, 115, 172, 174, 193, 198, 203, 206, 219, 220, 147, 157, 184, 238, 289 224, 225, 270, 288, 289 Engagement, 3, 8, 78, 85, 98, 130, 147, 150, Cooperation, 7, 21, 60, 66, 82, 146, 166, 168, 152, 154, 163, 164, 169β171, 175, 178, 172, 174, 175, 199, 230, 256, 271, 272 185, 203, 224, 236, 237, 250, 253, Coping, 18, 20, 21, 26, 27, 60, 112, 273, 286 268β269, 274, 290 Courage, 12, 28, 36, 170, 224, 225, 257, 264, Enjoyment, 23, 36, 78, 79, 128, 146, 171, 216, 265, 269, 274 224, 274, 283 Creativity, creative, 3, 8, 11, 36, 41, 49, 85, Equality, 4β5, 13, 46, 50, 83, 197, 217, 103, 122, 133, 147, 165, 182, 223, 252, 256, 257 264, 268, 270β272, 289 Ethics, ethical, 4, 5, 36, 44, 47, 48, 150, 183, Crime, criminal, criminality, 5, 20, 21, 36, 45, 199, 204, 208, 224 185, 278β281, 289, 290 Ethnicity, 128 Crisis, 45, 110, 121, 158, 187, 216, 272 Evaluation, 28, 39, 42, 47, 49, 50, 66, 67, Cultural context, 61, 67, 86, 128, 219 124, 154, 189, 200, 201, 211, 239, Cultural norms, 5, 57, 60, 61, 148, 284 256β257 Curriculum, 26β28, 37, 39, 41, 47, 49, 66, 134, Excellence, 4, 157, 159, 183, 190 146, 147, 156, 233, 236 Exclusion, 38, 39, 67, 129, 150, 156, 228, 230, 247 Expectations, 10β11, 18, 38, 57β59, 61, 62, D 64, 92, 93, 99β101, 103, 128, 129, 131, Decisions, decision-making, 2, 12, 23, 41, 64, 139, 148, 151β153, 156, 181, 184, 188, 93, 96, 101, 109, 113, 152, 157, 168, 204, 205, 210, 262, 265, 274 182, 184, 198, 201β204, 219, 266, 287, 290 Democracy, democratic, 41, 64, 67, 102, F 154, 156 Facilitation, |
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