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My boyfriend will masturbate that I don't go on Gonewild with, but we both agree that we can watch porn together without it. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been with my boyfriend for six months, and we have an agreement that both of us can watch whatever porn we want - EXCEPT no pictures or video of people we know in any way (even Internet friends) and nothing interactive, like camgirls or dirty chats. I thought this was fair because we both agreed to it. However, on a couple threads about porn recently the consensus seems to be "you have no right to dictate what he wanks to AT ALL as long as he still throws you a bone" (which I take issue with because an ex of mine used to go on Gonewild a lot and message girls who had the opposite body type to me and would still have sex with me, but it was rare and he couldn't stay hard or cum). So is this seen as controlling by most of Relationships, or is it reasonable? | openai_summarize |
My boyfriend is struggling with himself and difficult to communicate with. I am not sure if I should break up with him or keep going with him.
Any advice would be great! | Summarize the following paragraph: We've been together for nearly half a year. Honeymoon phase has faded but i'm still so into him, even more so. I'm totally ready to exchange 'I love you's but I feel like he maybe isn't there yet.
Lately things have really changed between us. He is going through some pretty heavy family drama right now, and had a really abusive upbringing. He sees a therapist routinely which helps but has a very distracted and complex headspace.
I'm still trying to understand his personality 100% because sometimes he is very difficult to read. He is not very forthcoming with telling me how he feels, both how into me he is or what's generally on his mind. I am trying to coerce him to open up to me with what he is going through right now as he has definitely been pulling away. His response was pretty much, 'you just can't understand'. I want him to come to me for support when he's upset, not ice me out.
I am really trying to be patient and understanding, but he is poor at replying to my messages, rarely asks me to hang out lately and small instances keep occurring where he is inconsiderate of what's going on with me while he is so distracted. I am constantly letting him know i'm there for him, how crazy I am about him. He does reciprocate sometimes and I know deep down he definitely cares for me and is into me, he's just extremely stressed and borderline depressed right now.
I feel like I need a break and some space because I keep getting frustrated and let down when he breaks plans or because he isn't as flamboyant with his affections (although that is just part of his personality). I care deeply for him, and know he's in a rough patch and really has no one else in his life. I feel sometimes that i'm putting 100% into the relationship and he is doing just enough. I've mentioned these concerns to him, and he's apologized, but then nothing really happens. | openai_summarize |
My ex boyfriend's father passed away, and I'm feeling torn about what to do, if anything. | Summarize the following paragraph: My high school boyfriend's father just passed away after a long illness. We haven't kept in touch, as it was a bit of an acrimonious break up (I left him for someone else in college). I bumped into him a few years ago at a concert and it was really nice to see him and things went well, but we haven't spoken since.
I found out today that his father passed away a few days ago, and the wake is tomorrow night, with the service on Thursday. I spent a lot of time with his family in high school (vacations, weekly dinners out, time at their house, visiting family members), so they were a big part of my life.
I'm torn about what to do, if I do anything at all. If I send a card, I don't know how they would feel about that, or same thing if I went to the wake - since I'm an ex, I don't want to rub them the wrong way, but at the same time, I want to show support, and honor them for the time that they were a part of my life.
What's the etiquette for this kind of situation? Is it appropriate to send a card or attend the wake? Or is it best not to dig up old wounds? Or, I could make a donation to Hospice in lieu of flowers. What to do? | openai_summarize |
I lied about my gpa so I could get an interview for experience, ended up getting the job. Should I worry? | Summarize the following paragraph: A little about me. I'm graduating from college with a business degree in May. I wanted to start getting interview experience so I could land a job. So I went to a career fair.
I ended up getting an interview with a big company and in my head they only way they would want me is if I had a good gpa. I have a 2.76 but my grades are good this semester. Anyway I told them I have a 3.1 just to get an interview.
Well I did well in all my interviews and I end up getting a job offer which I accepted. My mom is so happy! However I have this reoccurring thought I will lose the job because they will learn the truth about my current gpa. Is there anything I can/should do? Should I be worried? | openai_summarize |
just started dating a guy, want to know some good conversation starting questions to get to know him personally. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've known this guy since freshman year, but it was only halfway through this year I sort of even talked to him. We've been on 3 dates so far, but see each other quite a bit in school . It's not like we can't talk to each other, but we're still in that awkward phase since before a month ago we barely talked at all. We get along really well, and enjoy each others company, but we mostly joke and I feel like I want to know him better. I really want to be able to have legitimate conversations and get to know him better, but I'm not quite sure how/what to ask. So basically I guess what I'm asking is what are some things I should ask him to get to know him that he wouldn't feel uncomfortable talking about. | openai_summarize |
Fiance won't go to visit my sister on her move to a new apartment. I would like to know what this is doing to us. | Summarize the following paragraph: So a while ago, my sister, who is in grad school, asked if my fiance and I could come down and move her to her new apartment. We live about four hours away from her, so the trip always ends up being long and expensive. My sister is kind of a shut-in, so we also usually end up staying in her apartment and watching things on her laptop. This really upsets my fiance, who finds no reward in going to visit my sister, and does it strictly as a favor for me. Paired with this, he has very long work weeks (sometimes up to 90 hours a week), and doesn't get much time to himself.
This morning, he had said he would have to think of another excuse not to go down to Albany. I was kind of floored. I had been thinking the whole time he was grudgingly accepting of going along, not planning on ditching. I was trying to think of what to say to my sister and tell her we wouldn't be able to help her move. He explained his reasons for not wanting to go (not fun, expensive, takes up all his time when he could be doing something fun he enjoys, basically no reward), and I definitely understand him. But I had told my sister I would go. And I think it was because of this that he grudgingly accepted to go again.
I feel like this puts kind of a strain on our relationship. I don't want him to resent me for this. But I also have a responsibility to my sister, and I feel it wouldn't be fair of me to explain to my sister what this is doing to us. I would just like advice or help in any form.
EDIT: for extreme time/distance issue. | openai_summarize |
I'm really worried about my girlfriend's ex-boyfriend going to a party with her. | Summarize the following paragraph: I don't know if this is relevant, but my girlfriend, who is my first one, says she is a lesbian. I'm not sure, because, well, she is with me, and she likes the sex and stuff. She says I'm an exception. There is the first thing I don't understand very well.
So, we've been dating for exactly 7 months (we were friends with benefits for 5 months before that, but with no sex). She is a musician who dreams to play at a band, and I'm not. Actually, I have a hearing loss, which stops me from being good at any instrument. Her ex-boyfriend, who still has feelings for her and is single (she dumped him to date a girl, about 2 years ago) is also a musician and has a band. I pains me so much to admit this, but they have a lot in common. Don't get me wrong, I do have a lot in common with her too.
This Thursday I'm going to travel for 4 days. There's a party at a friend's house and I won't be able to go. She asked me to go and I said yes. But now it really bothers me that she is going and I'm not. They will, since it's a common friend of theirs. I think they haven't talked since I started dating with her.
I know I shouldn't feel that, but I think he is a better man than I am. I mean, I just saw him today and it's like he just got out of /r/malefashionadvice. He is so much more confident than me.
Please, help me, guys, I don't wanna lose *her.
Edit: formatting | openai_summarize |
My wife and I have been college students for 5 years, but my job pays well and I have time to play video games and watch movies. What are your opinions on the matter? | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey Reddit! I don't normally go into my personal life on this site, though I've been known to shout my beliefs and get all riled up on the /r/politics page. However, I was walking home from my short sporadic part of my life called a job. I work on call at a hotel that doesn't have many hours right now, and hasn't for some time, but it's a well paying job when I get the shifts. But I digress from this to ask you a serious question.
My wife and I have been students for 5 years, until last year when my wife graduated but I was going to school until this past December. Bills will be due for my loans in about 3 more months, but that's a problem I will address when that time comes. Like I said, I have a job that pays well, when I get shifts... so I have a lot of free time around the house. Most of the time it is spent playing video games or watching movies and reading comic books. But don't get the wrong idea, I clean the house and feed the cats we have too.
My wife on the other hand, is a caring person working 40+ hours a week to bring home enough for us to pay what little bills we have right now. She is the best thing to ever happen to me, and probably the best thing that WILL ever happen to me. So here is my question to you. (the long winded way of saying it, but)... | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend is the type of girl that doesn't contact anyone first, even me, her boyfriend. It's annoying me and I don't know how to address this since we already talked about it in the past and not much changed. | Summarize the following paragraph: Basically, we talked about it before, how she never initiates the conversations (be it text, phone call, facebook IM, etc.) until I do. I'm personally getting tired of doing it all the time because I feel like I'm putting more into this relationship than she is. She knows I have a slight problem with this, yet she hasn't really done anything to fix it aside from occasionally starting a conversation first. I've been dating her for four months and I'm really getting annoyed that she isn't initiating conversations. We planned to have her come over tomorrow for sex and I didn't see her at all today so we didn't really make any solid plans, yet I really don't feel the need to contact her and confirm. What do I do to address this situation? | openai_summarize |
Fiancee is completely unable to work through issues in any sort of logical manner | Summarize the following paragraph: We have been together 2.5 years and plan to marry in August. For the past year, our problems have increased a lot due to various issues both within and outside of our relationship.
All relationships have problems, but I feel like ours are actually being compounded because he is the worst person I've ever dealt with when it comes to working through issues. He will never truly focus on what the ISSUE at the time is. He will twist, turn, manipulate, confuse, project, blame. I think I'm an intelligent person and by the end I can no longer even deal with it and I end up walking away.
If he does something unreasonable/unacceptable, he will not take ownership of it. Instead he will say that I *made him act like that* (although he can never really explain how). He will say that the fact I'm trying to hold him accountable is abusive. He will then say so many weird and crazy things that I can't keep it all straight and I end up feeling hopeless. Nothing is ever resolved.
What is this???? When we aren't arguing I'll try to talk to him about these things and I still get absolutely nowhere. He often will magically come up with some "crisis" to distract me and tell me that he can't handle me putting more stress on him right now. I truly don't know what to do. | openai_summarize |
Want to ask an old friend out on a date, but have never asked anyone out. So I need help | Summarize the following paragraph: As the title says, I'm trying to ask a friend on a date. We've known each other for ~8 years and have known that we've had feelings for each other at some point in time. But I've never dated someone, let alone ask a girl out before, so it might make things difficult. She also gave birth to a kid last year and is something to think about when asking her out.
So I came here to ask for help. I feel that she will say yes but I've gone over the negative too much. Help ya boi out please | openai_summarize |
Wife is trying to force me to go out on my birthday and spend money we don't have. Work friend is also pushing the issue but I can't tell him why I don't attend. | Summarize the following paragraph: The problem is, currently my wife and I are set to relocate in December and are saving for the move and all expenses that will come with it. We are already in financial hard times, we had to put some bills on credit, and after November rent is paid I'll be sitting on $22 until I'm paid two weeks later.
I understand that it is my birthday and people want to do things for me, which I'm fine with. But we can't afford to go out and drink etc, I'm trying to be the responsible adult.
My wife is being extremely unsupportive about this and is angry with me that I don't want to go out, even after explaining my reasoning. She is now telling me that she is going to need the car that night because she is going out with MY friends from work. I'm frustrated and her trying to do something nice has resulted in this argument.
The work friend is also being extremely uncooperative and telling me he is going to be upset with me if I don't show up even after repeated attempts to tell him I'm not attending. I have not told him the reason why because he is the type of person(past experience with him) that will just say "I got you bro" and pay for everything, which he knows I'm not comfortable with.
Am I fighting a useless battle? Should I just go and be uncomfortable to make everyone happy? Or am I handling this correctly? | openai_summarize |
Want to talk to girl in class, crappy circumstances give me little room and time to talk to her. Just looking for advice on what to do | Summarize the following paragraph: Background: Back in September 2012, I went through a horrible breakup with my ex girlfriend, causing me to fail out of my Sophomore year of college and move from my old college to a community college. Our relationship, both our first, lasted 2 years.
Story: Over the course of this semester, I have noticed a girl in one of my classes. I have not yet talked to her, but from how she dresses (band shirts, tattoos), and how she acts, I would love to get to know her. Note: I do not know anything about her other than she likes the same general things as I do (its a start).
However, my class is completely full, and everyone mostly sits in the same seat they always have. She is usually talking to classmates in the class before class starts. I cannot switch seats with anyone either (teacher takes attendance by if a seat is filled). I also do not see her outside this class.
What is a simple but smart way to initiate conversation with her? She sits several seats in front of me. Id love to get coffee or something with her, and move on as so. All and any advice is appreciated. | openai_summarize |
Husband is abusive and threatening to kill me if I leave. I don’t know what to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: Hello, I am an American Citizen, who has been married to a Moroccan citizen for 3 years. We have had a very rocky marriage and I, of course, have been the bread winner.
My husband works from home and watches our 17 month old son. He has some medical problems and lately he has threatened me, asking for money I do not have. I am in a lot of debt and I am barely making the bills every month. He does not want to contribute money like he used to and he no longer wants to watch our son.
On Friday (6/21) my husband demanded money from me again and because I did not honor his wish, he grabbed a trash can and threatened to hit me with him unless I give him money. Our son was sitting right next to me. I begged him to please top and leave me alone and he finally walked away.
That evening after that incident, I left with my son to my mom’s home and I have not returned. M husband has been texting me with threats to bring back my son “or else.” My husband has been physically violent with me in the past, so I do not want to take any risks by returning home. My husband also texted
Things that have made our relationship rocky: Money, debt, his health problems, him being away from his family, his infidelity and lies, lack of communication, my mom never accepting him.
One last note to add is that my husband’s last day to file for his permanent Green Card is tomorrow.
Questions:
I am done with this relationship. My question is should I file a police report? Do I have enough evidence? I also don’t know if I can legally stay with my mom with our son, since my husband obviously has every right to see his child. I also want to know if I should file for divorce now or wait to see if he actually filed for his permanent Green Card.
Any suggestions would be helpful. | openai_summarize |
I was a little bit petty, told the girl in question that I liked her, she was uncomfortable around me for a week. | Summarize the following paragraph: A very long time ago back in secondary school (British High school) I came out as Pansexual to my friends, I had a girlfriend at the time and wanted to talk about her with my friends - the conversation went something like.
+"me and my gf did this yesterday"
~"oh you have a gf, are you gay?"
+"i'm pansexual"
~"oh cool, is she fit?"
Anyway, within about a week this information had spread around the school, a very liberal, tolerant school where most of the pupils couldn't care less. There was one person in particular, let's call her AD, who wasn't very accepting of this news. I never had a problem with this girl, I always considered her very pleasant, I sat next to her during computer science, and was with her in some classes.
I had no real problems with her, only that she was convinced that because she was female, and I could be attracted to females, that I must be attracted to her. I was told this by several people who didn't like her bitching about this behind my back, and wanted me to know what she'd been saying. Anyway, I wasn't very offended but I was pretty annoyed at the ignorance and the idea of her spreading this rumour that I liked her, when I had a gf. For the next two years I sat next to her at every possible opportunity, including the bus home (This was not my bus, but I always got it with a friend after school so we could hang out for a bit. I eventually convinced her that I caught the bus so I could watch her from a distance) At every available opportunity I complimented her on her "astonishingly beautiful cheekbones", would often tell her that she "smells sweet today"
She was visibly uncomfortable around me for a long time, everyone knew what I was doing - other girls started to do the same thing to her. | openai_summarize |
Started a relationship with a girl, but now she wants to be exclusive.**
**I'm scared to mess this up!** | Summarize the following paragraph: Hi all!
I'm a 22 M in his senior year of college, and after about a month of talking I've entered what seems more and more like a relationship with a pretty, smart, funny 19 F in her sophomore year.
Before this, I had never even kissed a girl. Now, we make out, and I've slept over with her five or six times. She's mature and clever and always makes me laugh, and our conversations are incredible.
Anyway, the other night she asked me if we were dating. She then rescinded her question, saying it was too soon, but not before I could honestly answer with an "I've never done this before - I have no idea!"
I clarified my affection for her, and we've had the exclusivity talk, but now I'm finding myself falling for her and not wanting to mess this whole thing up because of my fears about my inexperience. | openai_summarize |
I'm a Junior in high school. I'm an introvert and really dislike school dances. My best friend is an extrovert who keeps promising me to go. He can get me a date easily and really wants me to go. Is skipping Prom going to be a mistake? | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm a Junior in high school. I'm an introvert and really dislike school dances. I'm not someone who will get out and dance, I don't have a girlfriend, and I don't like parties.
My best friend, however, is the most extroverted person you'd ever meet. He keeps begging me to go. "It's a once in a lifetime opportunity!" He says he can get me a date easily and really wants me to go. He actually keeps using "You will get laid by this girl, I swear!" as a bargaining tactic...
I don't want to go to Prom! Especially not with a random girl I don't know and I don't want to get laid by a random chick I don't know either. If he can guarantee that, she's definitely a slut anyway.
So would I really be missing out by skipping on Prom?... any of you guys regret not going? | openai_summarize |
dog barks at anyone around him or in front of us. I'm the only one who walks him, and need to know how to stop him from barks when we're far enough away. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have a year old French toy poodle. Great dog, full of energy, and very well behaved. I only have one gripe with this dog. When he was younger (we adopted him from a pound in Ecuador), he had medical troubles which made him very sensitive to diseases and such. He is fine now, but for about half a month or so, we couldn't walk him or pretty much take him outside at all. This led to him not being socialized ideally with other dogs or other people besides my family. We've started walking him, but there's a problem. During walks, he barks at any other person he sees, once they're about, 50 or so feet away from us. He loses all consideration for my commands and just barks wildly without mercy until we're far enough from the people, or dog, he's barking at. Aside from this, he's very well behaved. I've trained him to do about 10 commands (sit, stand up, jump, roll over, etc.) and I'm certain he thinks of me as a dominant figure. I'm the only one who walks him, so I know he trusts me. I've tried smacking when he barks and rewarding when he doesn't, but that hasn't worked. The same applies to when we have guests over. Other than this, he's been just fine. We play fetch and wrestle everyday and what-have-you, but the barking problem is huge. But because of this, I haven't been able to bathroom train him properly. What methods have any of you guys found to be effective to suppress bad barking behavior? Many thanks to anyone who gives a suggestion. | openai_summarize |
Sent my best friend a pretty nice gift and she never said anything. What do I say?
EDIT: I'm a huge flamer. I'm pretty sure she was flamed. I'm just trying to help. | Summarize the following paragraph: My friend Suzie and I have been friends since college. She now lives on the East Coast and I live on the West Coast. She recently asked me to be her bridesmaid and sent me a very cute bridesmaid box with goodies in it. It made me feel really special. I decided for her birthday to get her a really nice gift.
I ended up spending a good amount of money on a name brand purse for her. I thought that she would love it. I amazon Primed it to her when she was out of town. A few days later, I realized maybe someone would steal the package. I texted her asking if someone could pick up the box for her so it didn't get stolen. She said that the concierge at her building was holding on to it and she couldn't wait to open it.
That was about two weeks ago. Since then, she hasn't texted me telling me that she received the gift, which is very unlike her. It's also very unlikely that she forgot to pick it up. I'm worried that maybe she really hated it and didn't want to say anything. I feel awkward asking her yet again if she got the gift. What is a good way to approach this? What should I say to her? | openai_summarize |
I made a flirty Instagram post to someone, and she has not responded to it since, what should I do now? | Summarize the following paragraph: Before I begin, I will actually point whomever reads this to the two previous posts that I have posted here so that you may understand the full context of this post right here.
As such, I have continued to speak with "Melissa" via Facebook and on Thursday, I truly believed I was making significant progress after I comforted her on how she carried herself during our presentation the previous day. Subsequently, Melissa made me blush after she had complimented me and I do not receive those all that often honestly.
Nevertheless, I messaged her the following day, with a very flirty message about what she was wearing Wednesday. And lo and behold, complete radio silence since though she has read it. Did I screw up something or am I reading too much into it and should continue on or move on? | openai_summarize |
I've been seeing a guy who is 20 years older than me for 2 months. We have sex, but not a lot of it. But we cuddle up and talk. We have sex sometimes, but it's not much. We also don't use condoms. I'm really confused about him being interested in me right now. | Summarize the following paragraph: SO! I am 24. For 2 months, I have been seeing this guy who is 20 years older than me. We met online.
The night we met, we went back to his house, where he cooked me dinner <3... Then we had sex (I'm super naive and had NO idea that would happen).
Anyway, he is in town every 2 weeks for work, and I see him when he's in town, every day or every two days. He has kids, so I will usually come over when they are asleep, since he almost always has them when he's in town. We haven't been on a date since we met.... But I have only seen him 2x without the kids there (15x other times).
Anyway! When I come over, we always have sex.. BUT, we also cuddle up, watch movies, and talk about our lives. He opens up to me and tells me personal things. Holds my hand. When he wakes up in the morning, he hugs me and kisses me...
I've gotten to know him, and he's truly amazing. I am SO attracted to him on the inside and out. Today he even gave me a small gift. And when he woke up, the way he looked in my eyes made me feel special. BUT, when he's out of town, I barely hear from him. No "good morning" texts or anything.
Does any of this sound like he could like me back? Or am I crazy?
I should also mention that we don't use condoms (his idea)... I find it hard to believe he wold just use me for sex, but is that what this is?? I looked up the "fuck buddy" rules, and it seems like we have broken most of them... What should I do?? How could this move to the next level?
Does he just think I'm a slut? The first date sex was his idea... And I'm actually very sexually inexperienced. | openai_summarize |
I've started to make a new friend but I'm not sure how she feels about me. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've recently taken interest in this girl that went to the same middle school as me. We never talked too much during middle school, but we remained friends on Facebook. We went to different high schools. We recently started to talk over facebook and I eventually got her number and invited her to hang out with my friends and I. We've hung out maybe 4 or 5 times within the last week or two. We've been texting and snapchatting pretty regularly for the last 3-4 weeks now. She is frequently the one to initiate our snapchat conversations now which is really nice. From the time that we've hung out and talked I can definitely say that I'm interested in her. I haven't flirted with her very much at this point but I feel like she has definitely gotten the idea that I'm at least somewhat interested in her. I've been trying to take things pretty slow since she just broke up with a boyfriend that she had been with for over a year and she is clearly not completely over him yet. This all makes it kind of confusing for me. I have no idea how she feels about me. I've asked her to hang out just her and I one on one so we could get to know each other a bit better, but I'm not entirely sure how genuine her "sounds good" response was. Essentially I'm just overthinking all the different possibilities and I'm pretty confused on how she feels. Do you think I just need to give it more time? How could I warm her up to the idea of hanging out one on one? Any other advice greatly appreciated. | openai_summarize |
boyfriend doesnt have sex with me. i feel as if he is not interested and this is hurting my relationship.
Any advice? | Summarize the following paragraph: Me and my boyfriend have been happily dating for the past 4 years, and lately i feel as though he is "going through the motions" when it comes to our intimate activities.
We dont live together, but spend 2-3 nights a week with each other.
I am the only person who initiates these days, and even though he never turns me down.... its the same lazy position every time and he rarely orgasms.
He swears its not me, but its hard to take.
I will mention that i have been making every effort to keep our sex life interesting. I love sex! and i miss his energy and libido from when we first started dating.
Also, i have not gained any weight or let my appearance go in any way. My job requires me to stay fit and healthy, so no worries there.
When i bring this up to him, he shrugs it off like its not a big deal and reassures me that i make him happy. | openai_summarize |
9-1-1 dispatcher, sitting down for entire 10 hour graveyard shifts, need suggestions for losing weight while being tired all the time. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm a 9-1-1 dispatcher and I work 4 10 hours shifts a week. I spend almost the entire time sitting down, and when I get off work (at 8 am) I pretty much pass out for the rest of the day until about 1-2 hours before I have to go back to work. I try to eat salads every night, and I resist all the candy that my coworkers bring in, and I also lost a majority of my weight because I completely stopped eating fast food (my motto is, if it has a drive thru, I'm not driving through. Totally cheesy, I know).
But now I'm stuck, and haven't lost much weight since. I still have about 60lbs to go. I'm a 24/F, 5'3" (160 cm) and I'm about 200 lbs (90 kg).
I know I have to exercise more, and I try to stretch and move around during slow times. My knees are also not in the best shape, and my GP told me to go swimming to strengthen my legs so I can get into a running routine.
But I'm just so tired all the time! I'm trying to get off the night shift, but until then does anyone have any suggestions? | openai_summarize |
Out of the blue I remember a lawsuit Which i am involved in this morning and get a call from lawyers about it in the afternoon. | Summarize the following paragraph: So i was involved in a car accident in mid-2007 which resulted in back injuries and prompted a lawsuit against the other party. I have not heard from my lawyers in over a year and while in the shower today, day dreaming, i randomly remember the case and imagined i get a settlement for boat loads of cash. I completely forget about this and go on about my day. Later in the day at work i get a call from my lawyer saying i have to show up to an arbitration hearing tomorrow regarding the case and a decision will be reached. Kinda blew me away. | openai_summarize |
what I'm feeling or what to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: Been dating since february 2008. Sex was amazing, relationship was amazing unti she switched birth controls and fell into crippling depression in august 2012. She's been off them for a year but her libido is still just dead. We haven't had sex in 13 months, 1 week 5 days to the day.
She's only starting to get over her depression now but I just feel so shitty over it. Just totally unwanted and completely unattractive after being denied sex probably 100 times, called selfish and a pig over it, etc. I don't even remember how to initiate sex because I just associate everything with failure now; once she left the house for a day over me touching her breasts while we kissed and wouldn't tell me where she went.
One of our close friends confided in me that she told her she feels like she might be a lesbian but I don't believe that a woman having sex with me 3 times a day for 5 years is a lesbian. She usually initiated too.
I spoke to her and she said that isn't what she said, and she said she feels like a bisexual but never got the chance to have sex with a girl. I have -always- been cool with her doing this without my consent but she views it as cheating.
Not really sure how to | openai_summarize |
My ex boyfriend of three years broke up with me and said he would fix things, but now doesn't want to be with me. I don't know what to do with myself. | Summarize the following paragraph: My now ex boyfriend, and I had been dating since high school. We dated for three years. Lately, we've been going through a lot of things, his cat had to be put down, my dog had to be put down, and I've slowly been going through a mental breakdown. He had told me that he was "probably" going to breakup with me a few weeks ago. I thought I could fix our relationship, but I was wrong.
We had been planning a trip to see a friend of ours, and my ex told me that this would be my last chance. I thought the vacation went well, my normal temper was down, and there was only really one problem on the vacation.
We came back on a Wednesday, and on the following Monday, we broke up. He made it seem like he wanted to fix things, and just take some time off from each other. Saying he wanted to be single, and would still like to talk to me daily.
Unfortunately, I get really jealous and worried, so I had ended up trying to talk to him since we broke up. I found out he was hanging out with some people, including someone who I thought was interested in him. I ended up pissing him off, and today he confirmed that he no longer wanted to be in a relationship with me, but doesn't want me to be out of his life.
I am unsure of what to do with myself right now. I want to be with him, and fix things, like I know I can, but he wont give me another chance. I lost the most important person in my life that is not family. | openai_summarize |
What are your opinions about her kisses? | Summarize the following paragraph: So I had been hooking up with her for a few months and we recently decided to be exclusive. I haven't gotten with anyone else since the first time we hooked up and I don't think she has either.
The only problem is my friends think that she has cheated on me at least once. One of my friends says he saw her holding hands and being really touchy-feely with some guy before we were officially "exclusive" but she had told me she wasn't getting with anyone else.
Another one of my friends saw her with (what he thinks was) a hickey around the same time. And the biggest problem is a couple weeks ago, after we decided to be exclusive, she texted me that she had kissed another guy.
After a while of not responding, I responded angrily. She responded clarifying that she had just kissed this guy on the cheek after he pulled her in close to him. Because she was so drunk and it was just the cheek, I decided to forgive her. The only thing is my friends are convinced that she at least made out with him.
They've pointed out that nobody would text their S/O that they kissed another person and be vague that it was on the cheek. I guess I'm just looking for a bunch of strangers' opinions. | openai_summarize |
BF and friend went on a holiday and his friend is going with him. | Summarize the following paragraph: Me and my BF haven't been together for very long but i know my own pitfall is that i really want to be with him 24/7 you know. And i actually ruined a relationship before with that so i am very very aware not to be like that ever again. Thats why i am so super confused if this is behaviour i shouldn't mind or if i should adress this? this is basicly the main question
Now for the actual story. My only holiday i have this year is now till the end of august. My BF cannot have any days off until the last week of august. We had plans running that we would go on a holiday with another couple. The girl form the other couple however couldn't have any days off this year anymore so unfortunately we couldnt go as 4. So i told my BF how about you go with your friend alone as two boys and have a boys trip. And now they have decided to go in the last week of august! while they both could have taken days off in september as well but because of the weather in scotland they rather go that week.
I can't help but feel a bit down because that was the only week we could have gone on a holiday and on top of that we would be going to some concert next week. He only has one spot in his car left and one of his friends does not have his drivers license and no car so he told me: ye you come with me and he has to look for another driver blablabla. And i get a message: Ye i found out random friend is going as well so you can drive with him if friend without drivers license is coming with me.
I just feel like wtf? so i need to go somewhere else because his friend can't look for something else instead?
I kinda feel like i am overreacting like in my previous relationship so if someone has some insight to help me please. | openai_summarize |
About to graduate with Emerging Media Production, want to pursue MBA, what next? | Summarize the following paragraph: As stated, I am about to graduate with a degree in Emerging Media Production from Ball State University. My degree basically means I am pretty well versed in most forms of media production: Video production and post production, graphic design, web design, etc. But, what I have been doing most of the time is project management because I can help pull the different teams together because of my different skills.
My plans took a quick change recently and I've been given the opportunity to pursue graduate school for free as a graduate assistant. I've decided a good option for myself may be to pursue a Master's of Business Administration because what I do now and love is the management and business related side of media.
What I would like from you, Reddit community, is some insight as to what avenues I should pursue or if you even think this is a good career path to try to take?
What kind of companies should I approach after I attain my MBA?
General advice would also be much appreciated! | openai_summarize |
Feel guilty at not doing much for sick relative, but then feel angry at being obliged to be his carer when I'm quite busy and have a lot of things to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: My relative fell ill a few months ago and has been diagnosed with a type of cancer. He is going through chemo at the moment and moved in with my and my mom as the specialist hospital is in our town.
I am a student and live at home with my mum however she works a lot and therefore isn't around for the day to day stuff.
I also work part time and have to study a lot to keep up with my classes.
I guess my question is, am I obliged to be my relative's carer? To cook fresh food for him everyday and keep his bedroom spotless? To ensure he is on top of all his medicines and to entertain him when I get home from work/school? [he has been here for 5/6 weeks now so not exactly a guest anymore]
Tbh, it's pretty exhausting and I have so much on my plate already, I don't want even more responsibilty.
To add: Relative's mother who is in her 60s has also moved in, so I don't understand why his care should fall onto me?? She is free the whole day and is retired btw, so plenty of time to cook etc. | openai_summarize |
I have everything but feel unhappy and miserable at times and don't know why. | Summarize the following paragraph: Just, looking for advice or maybe some outside perspective.
I'm rich I'm going to throw that out there I have a shit ton of money and keep making more. I have a house, stupid cars I don't really need they just look cool and a pool.
I have partied a lot and made a few friends and generally have a good life, but I'm unhappy. It feels like there's a void in my life and no matter what I do I can't fill it, not with things I buy or friends I make I just can't no matter what I do.
I'm not sure what else to do I used to think money made people happy, but I feel more miserable than when I was broke. I'm not sure what else I could do since i have tried everything.
I'm not sure what could be causing this. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend doesn't believe I'm "truly" in love with him, and I feel like he's not giving enough attention to me. How do I get him to listen to me, and do what I feel is best for him? | Summarize the following paragraph: So, last night, I posed a question to my boyfriend and it spiraled out of control. He thought something was wrong (which is the only time I should ask questions in his opinion- he hates theoretical conversations) and it opened up a gigantic can of worms. One of them being he thinks I think the time and attention he gives me isn't enough for me. He generally likes to be alone, so being around me, doing things to involve me is actually a huge thing for him. It is enough for me, and I tell him so. If anything, I feel like he's paying too much attention to me, and doing too many nice things for me. But he won't listen when I tell him. I don't know how I can get him to.
I've worked so hard to be with him, and I always try to give him enough space so he doesn't feel smothered or hounded. I live with him, so it's hard not to see him all the time, but when I didn't, I made a point not to call or text him unless it was important- edit: this would sometimes mean I wouldn't see or talk to him for weeks on end. In the beginning of our relationship, I texted him several times a day, and found out he detested it, so I stopped. So unless he called or texted, and if he was really busy at work, I sometimes wouldn't see him for two weeks. I never complain if he wants to play video games- I just ask if I can watch, and that's good enough for me. I rarely ask him to alter his schedule, since he has such a long work week. Only if he's had time off do I ask maybe if we can watch a DVD instead of him playing video games.
And I really am happy with what we have. I've even told him I don't know why he tries as hard as he does for me. I just don't think he believes me.
(edited for clarity) | openai_summarize |
My [18M] best friend crush [18F] constantly thinks she is ugly due to one person. What do I do? | Summarize the following paragraph: This girl, thinks she is so ugly all because her crush does not like her. She thinks it is because of her looks and she is too fat and ugly for him. She hardly eats because of this. I reassure her everyday how pretty and beautiful she really is because she actually is very attractive and other guys think the same. This has been going on for awhile and she barely eats. I know this is bad for her health first of all but also to her image of herself. I need some advice of what to do. Thank you. | openai_summarize |
what constitutes consent for unhidden audio and video recording in a private home in Maryland? | Summarize the following paragraph: I have d-link style audio and video recorders running in my house which are recording constantly to hard drives. The cameras are not hidden in that they are plainly visible, obviously cameras, and have a flashing light indicating they are on. The cameras are not in and cannot see into the bathroom or bedroom, but are the the kitchen, living room, dining room, family room etc.
I have a girlfriend who does not live here but frequently stays over, and dog walker who has access to the house (which was the original reason for getting the cameras). From reading through it implies that all parties must consent to the recording, but doesn't go into detail what consent means (written, verbal, notarized).
My concern is: in the case of a bad breakup, or the dog walker doing something illegal, or some other incident in the house, I would like to use the recordings in my defense. What types of consent are needed to make this possible? Does the fact that the cameras are visible imply consent from anyone remaining in the house? Should I be posting signs? Getting signatures from visitors? | openai_summarize |
My own insecurity, "standards" and lack of a 100% physical/sexual attraction seem to prevent me from pursuing anything with a girl I feel very emotionally compatible with and have mutual "feelings" for. | Summarize the following paragraph: I really don't want to sound like a bad person, I do my best to be the best that I can to everybody. I really like this girl, personality-wise, we're pretty similar, we've spend a decent amount of time together over the past few months, and we are planning to spend Valentine's Day together (she asked if we could, and since we're friends, why not. We both acknowledge we have feelings for each other) and I am looking forward to it.
That being said, for some reason, I'm put off by the idea of a relationship with her. She's a great girl, I REALLY enjoy being around her, because she reminds me a lot of the things about myself that I like without any of the things that I dislike. With that being said, I've always had very strict standards for what I'm looking for in relationships, and that isn't the case here.
I don't want to make it sound like I don't think she's good enough, because I actually sit here thinking about how she deserves the best she can get, and I know that I may not be the best for her simply because I am so on the fence about my feelings.
I think her personality is amazing, but I'm not fully attracted to her physically. Like, I'm not sure if I am, as shitty as that sounds. I know relationships need compatibility, and attraction, in all ways, and if I'm not physically or sexually attracted to this girl, anything I try to pursue beyond friendship is bound to fail.
As everybody can probably tell by now, I kind of feel guilty about all this. I haven't tried to pursue anything because I don't want to string her along in case I can't follow through, but even the idea that it **COULD** happen has been going through my head over and over. | openai_summarize |
I want to have long, meaningful conversations with my boyfriend, but he never seems interested. I've brought it up many times. Is there anything else I can do? Am I setting an unreasonable standard? | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been dating my [23M] boyfriend for six months (and we hooked up for a few months prior to this), we're both seniors about to graduate college.
My last relationship was very intense (and toxic) with codependency, roller coaster emotions and trust issues, but also with a deep intellectual bond. When I first started dating my current boyfriend, I was happy just to be finally enjoying spending time with someone who was emotionally stable and a really good person.
But there's one problem: I get emotional fulfillment from real conversation -- I want to know what my partner thinks about the world, what things are important to him. I want lots of spirited debate over issues and intimate sharing of feelings!
Getting my boyfriend to engage with me on this level has been hard. It's gotten better since the beginning of our relationship, but whenever we have a free second together he wants to watch a youtube video or read something funny.
I'm starting to get really discouraged. We spent the last week alone together 24/7 and didn't really have a single satisfying (to me!) conversation. I've brought this issue up many times, non-confrontationally. In the past week, I've expressed that I would really like to have more serious discussions probably four times, and he always agrees, but it never materializes.
At this point, I almost feel like I am forcing/guilting him into something he is just not interested in. I asked him if he just didn't enjoy that kind of conversation, and he said that he did enjoy it, he simply wasn't used to it. I get the impression that my continuous requests have made him nervous about the issue.
This boy is so good for me -- he's a very loving, kind, great person who is laid back in a way that complements my somewhat intense personality. He helps me relax and enjoy myself. I feel lucky to be with him. But I don't think I can be satisfied without the deeper emotional/intellectual engagement. At what point do I give up on a great relationship for this issue? Any suggestions on how else I could approach it with him? | openai_summarize |
Sent screenshots of a cheating boyfriend to his faithful girlfriend, am I wrong? Feel sort of guilty for ruining this for her because she seems quite happy and also maybe it's not my place to do that as I don't know any of them personally | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend and I have a very close relationship and he always tells me what's going on with him and his friends, so when he came home from a party he immediately started talking about his friend (we'll call him West), who has been dating a girl named Bay for about 5 months.
West went behind Bay's back and texted a girl (we'll call G) and asked to hook up with her and also sent her nudes. G hates West because she felt used by him so she took screenshots of the texts and posted them to Twitter to humiliate him. Everyone except Bay has seen these texts and she still doesn't know about the situation. West doesn't say a word, of course.
I'm completely a girls girl and my sister and I took it upon ourselves to let Bay know of the texts - we don't know Bay personally so we created a fake Twitter profile and just linked her to the tweets. We did this around 2AM, so I'm assuming she'll see the mention in the morning, but I can't help but feel sort of awful, I know I would want someone to do the same for me if I were in Bay's position, but am I wrong? Was it not my place to do that? I haven't ever met any of these people and my only link to them is through my boyfriend but I feel like as a woman it was just the right thing to do. Also my boyfriend doesn't know a thing about this, if he found out he would be furious for meddling in his friends life, but I know no one else would do it and I can't stand to see a girl like her being cheated on, and so publicly! | openai_summarize |
I'm broke and I want to know if this is something we can do. | Summarize the following paragraph: I work ~37 hours at $9 an hour. Getting cut too 30. I get paid biweekly. My last paycheck was $620. My next will be on Aug 31. Rent is $575. Credit card (fuel, insurance, internet) is $112. A speeding ticket, idk $. Car headlight out, $. Air conditioner repair, $. Loan repayment, $. Next mobile bill. Next fuel fill up. Ect. Ect. Even if I am able to sell my PC, Laptop, and furniture I will be back in the redin no time. I'm also a student doing at least 12 hours minimum to take care of 95% of my costs, but 5% of that I pay back out of pocket. And these arn't all the costs either. Car insurance and half of mobile bill gets paid by dad. Food stamps get my food when I can (if i have time) grocery shop. Government takes care of my medical expenses, like medication, therapy, and misc doctors. I'm 25, female, single, and live in Arkansas. | openai_summarize |
Liked a guy for a year, liked me back. Decided against dating since he is going to be overseas but been in constant contact for most of this year. Now lost contact and not in good terms. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I’ve liked this guy for about a year, we both admitted to liking one another late last year. The thing is that he’s an avid traveller and wanted to do exchange before finishing uni. So for half a year starting this semester he will be overseas. Earlier this year we decided against starting a relationship – never been a fan of long distance relationships plus had we started seeing each other we would only be six months into the relationship before he left. So for the better half of this year we have just been keeping in touch and talking throughout.
I’ve been in one relationship previously but never felt such a strong emotional connection with anyone - I guess that’s why I’ve kept this window open for this long. We have lots of common interests, similar career aspirations. The problem started about two months ago. I got tired of waiting to be with him and told him that I wanted out. I thought he’d try to reassure me but instead two weeks later he came back to me saying he wanted out too. I haven’t heard from him in about a month. I still really like him but am scared to recontact him and thought he needed time to cool off. He’s leaving in about two weeks and I didn’t really see the point of creating an issue now. I have no idea what to do – not sure whether to leave things till he gets back from exchange and then pursue things again. | openai_summarize |
I've grown apart from my SO of seven years. I don't want to blame him. But I'm wondering if I should be. I mean to tell my SO he has had a big part in my growth as a person, but I don't want to sound like an asshole. | Summarize the following paragraph: When I say I was depressed, I don't necessarily mean actively. It's a cyclical disease, for those who are not familiar. Rather, I mean it had been diagnosed, but had gone either untreated or unsuccessfully treated the entire time we've known each other.
Since the beginning of this year, I've been on a different class of medication that has cleared the fog like nothing else has before. As a result, I'm something of a different person. I have more confidence, I'm more interested in getting out and doing things, and I'm coming back from what I consider a heavy substance reliance. And now I wonder if the reason I stayed with him for as long as I did was simply that I didn't know what else to do.
I don't mean to cast our relationship as empty. We've got a lot of history. He helped me through a couple of serious bouts of anxiety, and was very understanding. I visited him every day in hospital for a month and a half, and a few times a week at his mom's for about five months when he was almost killed in a drunk driver wreck. I certainly loved him. I think I still do. But I feel like we've grown apart since I've changed. At the risk of sounding like an asshole, I feel like I've grown up a lot in the past few months, and he's still largely the same person he's been the whole time I've known him. I can't fault him for that, but it's becoming difficult for me. | openai_summarize |
A kid is having underage parties at my house with my parents and I don’t know how to handle it. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'll try to keep this brief. I moved home recently, I’m 26 (bad roommate situation) and work full time. Last night I get home from work and find my parents have gone with my little sis to the coast until Friday. I'm left with my younger brother (16). He calls me to ask if he can have a couple friends from his basketball team sleep over and "not to tell mom and dad". I find out that he’s supposed to be sleeping at home, and no guests allowed. I'm usually pretty lenient, but when I hear lots of noise by the door I see about 8 kids, mix of boys and girls.
The first thought in my mind is "oh HELL no" and I send my little bro a text that says there is no way these kids are staying the night, get them all out now. I should note that on previous sleepovers - when the parents were home - he has had alcohol with his friends.
Normally we have a great relationship, but for him to mislead me have underage kids drinking downstairs crossed a line. He is trying to play it like I’ve betrayed him and we get into the first fight we’ve ever had. I tried my best to calmly explain that this puts me in a bad position and that it is not fair to ask this from me. He insists that it’s “no big deal and I’ll take the blame for anything that happens.”
In the end, I stand my ground. He huffs and puffs, but eventually goes to someone else’s house that my parents have said is OK for him to go to.
For me the worst part is that my parents gave me no heads up, so I was forced to play bad guy – or girl in this case. I feel shitty to have our relationship stressed by this, but I had no choice really. He’s a good kid, this is just normal teenage shit that I did when I was young too. | openai_summarize |
Was in class at the time of an exam. Got a B+ in the class. A TA sent me a confirmation that there is a discrepancy between the grade given and the grade posted online. Now I'm being accused of academic dishonesty and may receive a "FF" and possibly expulsion. What should I do? | Summarize the following paragraph: Over the summer, I took Organic Chemistry I. On the first test I received the highest grade: a 97. I didn't do so hot on the next two tests (68 and 72 respectively), though relative to the class averages I fared pretty well. Thankfully, because a test is dropped in the class, I received a B+ in the class.
Last Friday, I received an email from my TA stating that there is a discrepancy between the grade shown in their records and the grade posted online for exam 1. This would easily be settled by showing them the exam, but of course I lost it after lending it to someone. Partly because of retardation and partly because of my disbelief in the gravity of the situation, I simply emailed my TA saying the equivalent of "I lost the exam, but c'mooon."
Today, I received an email from my professor telling me that I'm being accused of academic dishonesty and that I may receive a "FF" and potentially expulsion. Most likely this is due to an input error on their part, but I think that they'd rather believe that I somehow hacked the online interface and changed my grade for the lulz (or to cause confusion in my favor). I have no way of proving that I'm innocent and I have few witnesses. I'd be willing to retake the test, but I'm aware of how unfair that would be for other students.
Currently I'm in PR, and was planning on staying here for three weeks with my family. However, this bullshit is forcing me to go back to the university after just one day of being here; and the process of changing my ticket was pretty expensive. Tomorrow I will talk with the professor and perhaps a board of people who will judge my story. As this is the first time that this ever happens to me, I'm pretty freaked out. What should I do? | openai_summarize |
I'm now getting extremely attached to an entitled fucking bitch who is completely different from who I thought she was. | Summarize the following paragraph: I have been seeing a girl for 9 months who at first seemed really likeable, laid back, logical and definitely the sort of person I could see myself being with for a long time. In the initial few months, we became very close very quickly and all my friends became her friends. Over time though she has seemed to transform into a (jealous, needy, hypocritical, bitchy) totally different person. I still think she is a great girl but every little thing she does wrong gets to me so much. I just can't see myself putting up with it 10 years down the track. I am not attracted to her like I used to be either.
Am I an asshole for going in head first and now deciding that it is not something I wish to continue? There are all sorts of other problems, like the fact she doesn't trust me because of the very slight reputation I had when we met (what single guy doesn't sleep around a bit??), so I have no relationships with any other girls and travelling by myself is off the cards. I am struggling because I need to end it but we have become so codependent I keep convincing myself to just keep trying, but as time goes on I am just becoming colder and colder towards her, seeing more and more flaws and being angry at her probably more than is necessary. I'm also so mad that I've let her infiltrate my entire group of friends to the point where she is living with them.
Sorry for the long post. | openai_summarize |
Had a dream where I was intimate with a close friend who I don't have romantic intentions with - am I crazy? | Summarize the following paragraph: I have a really close male friend. Our closeness is on a level where we tell each other a lot of intimate details and things like when we're taking a dump. He has a fiancee who he's been with for over 4 years. I'm fairly certain that we're both not romantically interested in each other.
In the dream, we're just hanging out normally and this is where it gets a bit hazy but he starts becoming more physical (e.g. cuddles) and then next thing I knew, he's sucking on my tit. I'm so confused at this point (in the dream) and I ask him "What about your fiancee?" and he tells me that they've broken up. From then on, we start kissing and groping each other and we're getting ready to have sex ... but then I woke up.
When I woke up, I felt so weirded out. I don't really see him in a sexual light so this is just so ... WEIRD.
Is a dream just a dream or a manifestation of a deeper desire? | openai_summarize |
I want to fuck this guy's life up. How do I do it? | Summarize the following paragraph: Here is the rub. I am just getting into mycology and was trying to grow some oyster and shitake mushrooms from spore samples (please refrain from psychedelic magic mushroom jokes) I find him on craigsist and send him $15.00. I know it is only $15 but it is fucking principal. He strung me along for a while and now has gone ghost after a month. I have his name and home address. Not only that but I started googling him and found a twitter account that is another obvious scam. I tiny eyed the image and it came from a news story in Nova Scotia. This guy is a sleazebag and is ripping people off. I want him to pay...pay me back my $15 and then pay even more! This is the new scam he created and what he keeps putting on his twitter feed. | openai_summarize |
I (23/m) moved from my home country to the UK, my girlfriend (22/f) has never been here before but she is now becoming increasingly worried about me being with another girl. I (23/m) am not the kind of person to tell new people who I am with all the time, what should I say/do?** | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey relationship_advice.
Story goes: I (23/M) have had a long distance relationship with (22/F) for around 10 months. Like every long distance relationship it is not always easy. 1 month ago I moved from my home country to the UK to study, when I did she started becoming increasingly more worried about everything. I get that she has never been in the UK before so she probably feels she has no control of the situation. I met a friend here (girl), which is normal in my culture but maybe not as normal in hers(?). She freaked out over this for a week ish and then she said it was fine. I have not even hugged this girl (my friend). Then the real problem, I spent a few days with my friend at the library and we walked home together seeing as we live close to one another, there was also a pre-party where my friend was. I am not the kind of person to mention who I am with all the time so I didn´t. This for my girlfriend was the same as me lying about who I was with and she now feels I have betrayed her trust and no matter what I say it won´t help. The only reason why I didn´t tell her was so that she would feel more comfortable, and I realize now that was wrong but at this point I don´t know what I could have done. What should I say/do? Please help me out or suggest something here Reddit, I really love this girl. | openai_summarize |
I have been in a relationship for 7 months and see that I have a severe self-image issue. I'm becoming paranoid and I need help changing my views of myself. I can't help myself and fear that I'll find out that my girlfriend is cheating and ruin everything. | Summarize the following paragraph: This is mainly about me, but she is definitely mixed in now.
I've come to the conclusion that I have some type of insecurity issue based on my own personal beliefs. I need major help. I know once I explain the issue, I'll probably be downvoted for simply being a piece of shit. But I am honestly looking for some type of solution here, I'm not looking for justification of my thoughts.
So here it is, bluntly. I believe that I would cheat if I knew I could get away with it 100%. I don't know if I would let the guilt get to me or not, since I've not actually done it. That's not the point. The point is, I feel that, because I hold this belief, that everyone else does as well, they just don't admit it. So that makes me think my girlfriend would do it and that I wouldn't know.
I am paranoid that I'll found out a couple years down the road that she's been cheating and that it will all be wasted time. It occupies my thoughts and I truly want some advice on maybe how to change this view of mine or maybe how to not worry so damn much. Anytime she goes anywhere I'm nervous that she's seeing someone. I don't ride her case and interrogate her like you would assume though. I just ball it all up inside and die slowly. It needs to stop and I need help doing it before it truly ruins myself and what I WANT to be a long term relationship.
Please, I know how bad it sounds. I really want a paradigm shift but have been stuck like this for a while and I just can't help it. | openai_summarize |
My [29/m] boyfriend [23/f] is leaving me [23/f] in four months. Should I give up? | Summarize the following paragraph: I've been dating this great guy for a while now. He's everything I ever wanted. Even better, he claimed to feel the same way.
Recently, I was admitted (and given a substantial scholarship to) one of the best graduate schools in the country, that is located 3 hours away from our current home. He seemed supportive of me going to this school at first, but once we found he couldn't transfer jobs for another year, decided we weren't stable enough for a long distance relationship. In other words, once I move in July, he and I are through.
In the meantime, we still live together and he clearly expects us to do everything together, as though nothing has changed. It feels like someone has punched me in the stomach. I can't defer another year or I won't be able to afford this school. I feel like I'm being punished for trying to go to a good school. I love him so much, but this feels unfair and cruel. I almost wish he would have just dumped me today so I don't have to see him every day and sleep in the same bed as him every night.
I hate myself for even getting into this relationship. I hate myself for trying to leave the state. I hate him for not even pretending to be willing to try long distance. I just want to drink until I'm numb.
Should I just break up with him now, or try to change his mind? Or just do what he wants and pretend there's nothing wrong for the next 4 months? | openai_summarize |
Girl follows me around in public, forces me to see her, stops me from talking to my crush on public media. | Summarize the following paragraph: The guy I like is 32 M. He and I have flirted and we have good chemistry. Recently, at an event this girl saw me and said, "Every time I see her, she gets on my nerves" to one of her friends. I'm not a dramatic person and I don't surround myself with people who are negative.
I do not even know who she is. So she followed me around the whole night... I found it creepy and quite stalkerish. She entered into the group I was talking to and started aggressively asking everyone who they are and what company they are from. She waywardedly asked everyone, looking at me and them randomly asking people and gave me a look. I left the group and excused myself. Then she followed me into the same after-show meeting room. There were several rooms she could have gone into. I don't know how to handle this situation, I feel like she's scheming to do something to hurt me or my reputation. She actively messaged my crush on a public media site the very next day. I turned my social media accounts private, because I'm sure this is how she discovered me and that I like my guy. How do I deal with this situation and I like my crush very much and think of him seriously. | openai_summarize |
boyfriend only wants sex late at night when I'm already asleep. Won't initiate any other time. | Summarize the following paragraph: So, I'll try to keep this short. My boyfriend is a night owl and I am an early bird. I wake up at 7 am every day to go work out and go to work. He'll sleep in as late as he can (8 on weekdays, much later on weekends). Because I wake up early and am basically active all day (wake up, work out, go to work, come home, cook dinner for us), I like to be asleep by 11.
My boyfriend hates going to bed that early. He doesn't like laying down with me at that time, even if I say I just want to cuddle, have sex, chat with him, etc., and then he can leave.
Most nights, I'll go to bed alone at 11. He'll stay up to watch TV and play games. Then when he comes to bed, he'll wake me up and try to have sex with me. I've told him repeatedly that I hate this. I am tired and I just want to sleep. I would be perfectly happy having sex in the mornings, at any point that we're both home from work, or when I go to bed. But the only time he initiates is late at night when I'm already asleep. He gets annoyed that I won't just wake up for him.
This has made me almost dread sex, and I used to love it. It has become a chore now that either I have to initiate every single time so he won't wake me up later, or wake up for it. And when I stay up late, I'm grumpy the next day and sometimes miss my work out. He'll then be disappointed in me because we've discussed that being healthy/active is important. He wouldn't say that, but I know he would be.
What do I do?! | openai_summarize |
GF(31M) wants to travel the world. I (26M) have been with her for 18 months. She wants to do the same. I don't know how to handle it. | Summarize the following paragraph: So my (31M) girlfriend (26F) recently returned from a 4 week backpacking trip through Thialand and Lao with some friends. I had planned on joining them but financial issue stopped that. So she wanted the trip to be a life changing spiritual trip, but it fell short of that. Turned into mostly a tourism spring break kinda trip.
So while travelling she met a group of guys from the UK who had all been traveling south east Asia. Some longer than others. 2 of them had saved up enough money to quit their jobs and live the dream of being a free soul. Another hadn't really saved any money and was just winging it. She became very close to these guys during the trip. Eventually she had to return home while they all kept travelling.
So all of this happened back in February, and it's now June. She has been entertaining the idea of saving enough money to quit her job and move to Australia. Stay there long enough and save money to hop over to New Zealand. Then do the same there, and finish off in the UK where she meets up with some of these guys she met on her trip.
All said and done the trip should only take 3-4 years... We've been together for 18 months, we live together and are pretty happy. While she was gone for those 4 weeks I was an emotional mess. Just so sad and depressed. I don't really know how to deal with this. She has basically given our relationship an unspecified expiration date. I do love her, but I don't know how well I can cope with the separation for 3-4 years. Really looking for advice on how I should be reacting to this. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend has expressed interest in cross-dressing. What should I assume and investigate? | Summarize the following paragraph: My boyfriend [M18] and I [F18] have been dating for about 7 months now. Early in the relationship he told me that he has some varied interests in the bedroom, cross-dressing being among them.
At the time, it was just a theoretical interest, nothing he had pursued. I'm totally fine with him exploring in private. In fact, I've even participated in small amounts by teaching him about female clothing sizing and things like that.
However, he has recently been exploring in small ways like wearing panties instead of boxers and learning to apply a small amount of makeup. The thought occurred to me that he may not be entirely straight.
We've talked about it and he says that he doesn't know. We are both young, so that's understandable, I'm just starting to wonder what the implications for the relationship are going to be. We've been playfully planning a future together (I know it's early, but I really love this boy), but I can't help but to think about what would happen if he decided years from now that a traditional relationship isn't what he wants.
Is this an early sign that he may need something else out of a relationship some day, or should I just love him and hope for the best? | openai_summarize |
Regretfully made fun of my friend for failing tests in school, I apologized but he is still understandably upset. Picked up one of his tests, which he failed, and I need advice on how to return it to him without upsetting him further. | Summarize the following paragraph: A little back story, Me [19 M] and my friend [19 M] are both attending university together. The other day he was teasing me about something fairly minor which he has brought up a lot in the past, and immaturely said something about how I am doing better in school than him, specifically that I could pass tests and that he couldn't (which was not very related to the topic he was teasing me for at all). He has had a rough semester and is usually quite an average student (as am I), but has had a couple bad tests. Within ten seconds I realized what I said was cruel and apologized quite fully, and that what I said was cruel and immature, and it was just being a mean for the sake of it and that I was being an asshole. He didn't exactly accept the apology and was still visibly upset, but we awkwardly talked for a little while before parting ways.
Forward to today, he still seems upset and down about what I said and did not attend our math class, which we were getting a mid term back in. I picked up his test for him and my heart dropped when I saw he did not do very well at all on the test, and I managed to do a little better than average.
I very much need advice on how to procede with this. I understand exactly why he is upset about what I said and how innappropriate it was, but now I have to hand him a shitty test back. Is there anyway I can give him this test without making him more upset than he already is? I feel like me giving him his test back will make it seem like I'm rubbing it in, and that is the last thing I want to do as I regret what I said deeply and do not want him to do poorly on tests. Should I give it to another one of our friends to hand it back? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | openai_summarize |
My cousin is dragging me down, lacks principles and respect, and it's time to call it quits on a friendship | Summarize the following paragraph: We've known each other since we were toddlers but the time has come to separate from him. He takes zero responsibility for his life. He consistently plays the victim and brings up past instances of "charity" he has performed to negate hard evidence of his unruly behavior that is brought up. He dangles things over my head to make me feel bad. I'll go as far to say that he is an ignorant child and is a moral hazard. I'll always love him because he's family but even after I help him pass a college course, he still berates me for petty things. **I know I've surely messed up in life and made mistakes** but at least I *own* what I do and have principles. I wish him the best and I hope he can grow up enough to own his shit and succeed in life instead of becoming a burnout. It would bother me more if half the shit he said had some love or something besides self-interest behind it. But instead I just smile to myself and know that he doesn't know what the hell he's talking about. Everything has always been given to him. Oh well, I'll always love ya cuz. | openai_summarize |
Brother has been having strange, inappropriate behaviours and also has a adult baby fetish. He works with children. Should i be concerned? | Summarize the following paragraph: My 25 year old brother has Klinefelters syndrome (chromosomal XXY). He has always been a bit odd and can be very inappropriate at times. He does things before he thinks. Im a girl and he has said sexual comments to me in the past.
I was using his computer because mine broke and I accidentally found HEAPS of adult baby (sometimes called diaper fetish) porn of his. Stuff that he had written himself where he is fantasising he is the baby. And lots of other weird porn.
He is a child care worker and also looks after a family friends young son. I am an open minded person and I'm not saying that he is a risk to children but I am not informed about the topic enough to know if there is something I should be concerned about. If anyone has advice that would be really appreciated. | openai_summarize |
Guy with Down syndrome in church started singing in the middle of church, I laughed. | Summarize the following paragraph: I feel terrible even retelling this story but here goes.
So there I was in church with my family around the age of 13. There is a church band playing, and everyone is singing along. Out of fucking nowhere, a kid with down syndrome started singing his heart out. "HARERUUUYAAAAHHHHHH!!! HARERUUYAHHHH!" (This is my attempt at how he said hallelujah) I shot my dad a quick glance and notice he has his eyes clamped closed, biting his lip stifling laughter. Noticing this makes me laugh even more. When the song finally ends my whole family is in tears from trying to hold in laughter. One last, "PWAISE JESSUS" did it in for all of us...we had to leave...we never went back. To this day it is the worst thing ive ever laughed at. | openai_summarize |
I need to know how to chat up a girl when I'm so scared to do it. | Summarize the following paragraph: A little backstory, when I was 15 I saw this girl at an Xmas party. We made eye contact, mutual attraction, but I was too scared to talk to her. Ended up being struck by Cupid for this girl... She's gorgeous. I spent a week asking friends and cousins what her name is and finally got her AIM, I sent her a message and she was sweet, but she had a boyfriend.
Fast forward to last night. I'm 23 years old and for the past two weeks I've been dealing with a horrible break-up with my girlfriend of 3 years. I decided I need to go out and test the waters again, so I go with a friend and his two cousins and we hit it off, dancing all night and having fun. His cousins are very attractive and I'm starting to enjoy being single again. Until I see this girl from the Xmas party in 2005. She's grown and she looks amazing, hands down hottest girl there. What happens now is I wuss out again just like when I was 15. She noticed me. She smiled at me. But in between dancing with the girls we came with and just not having enough balls, I didn't talk to her. Now I know her facebook through friends.. I really want to talk to her, I just really need some coaching and help. I never message girls on fb, ever. | openai_summarize |
My [17 M] sister [15 F] is dating a [24 M] stranger who lives half way across the world and is apparently a loser. What do I do?** | Summarize the following paragraph: (throwaway for obs reasons)
So my sister a few months ago really got into this game and started playing it a lot and streaming it on twitch. While streaming, she met a man in Sweden (we live in the USA btw) who's apparently really good at that game. This man always donated to her channel and they started talking and got really close.
I should hasten to add that this man who lives half way across the world appears to be a total loser. He's obese, he's a college drop out, and the only thing he seems to do is play video games.
After talking for several weeks they began a long distance relationship and she has even bought him a plane ticket (with her own money) to come visit her from Sweden.
Naturally, although I understand that it is wrong to judge a book by its cover, I must admit that I absolutely do not approve of this relationship. I think my sister is being immature and does not know what she's getting herself into with a man 7 years her senior. I mean is this even legal?!
Much to my dismay, my parents do not seem to care that much and professed that she can do whatever she wants. And is actually allowing this man to come visit her with the plane ticket she bought him.
I'm at a total loss for what I should do. On the one hand, I feel like as a good older brother, I should not let her date this man and possibly be taken advantage of by this person who seems like a complete loser. On the other hand, I feel like it is not up to me to decide who she decides to fall in love with and I don't even know what I can even do.
Reddit, what should I do in this situation? | openai_summarize |
Met a girl from a friends party, she has 3 hours drive away, and I want to be there. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I went to a friends 21st party and met her friends, me and one of her friends really hit off and was clear we liked eachother, her friends told me and we were holding hands and dancing together. We stayed the night at her friends house and me and her stayed in a different room to the others so all was good.
So I got her number and today before we both go home, I left her a text 12 hours ago saying it was nice to meet you and hope to see you soon, but she hasn't replied :/ so not sure what to think of that?
The other issue is we live about 3 hours drive from each other, what should I do? I'm happy to drive to her every now and then, but just not sure what to make of it.
Thanks for you help, sorry for the long read. | openai_summarize |
Girlfriend of 8 months moved to the east coast and stopped texting me for a month and a half. We have been talking for a while but she hasn't texted me in a while. I'm sad but I don't know what to do. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I've known this girl for 8 months now and we used to hangout 4-5 times a week and text everyday. Then 6 weeks ago she told me she was moving to the east coast at the end of October. I was sad but figured we'd hang out and enjoy what time we had left.
Nope. We haven't hung out since the day she told me. I stopped asking to hang out and stopped initiating texting about 2 weeks ago because every time I asked to hangout she said no or that she was busy. So I figured she's either really busy or she's blowing me off. I figured if she was busy then she'd ask me to hangout when she wasn't busy. But nope she never did.
Now she's just texted me saying she's leaving Monday and wants to see me before she goes. I don't know what to do. I feel kind of hurt cuz we hooked up a couple times so I thought I at least meant something to her but it sure hasn't seemed like it the last 6 weeks.
I kind of just want to tell her no, because basically for me it's like she already moved 6 weeks ago. I've been pretty sad for a while now and last weekend was the first weekend where I really didn't think about her which I thought was progress in getting over her and I feel like seeing her would ruin that.
What do you guys think I should do? | openai_summarize |
Ex girlfriend calls me, tells me shes breaking up with me, but I feel like she's just giving me a chance and is keeping me around for selfish reasons. I'm angry and confused, and I don't know how to move on from her, or how to deal with her leaving me. | Summarize the following paragraph: So last month, my ex girlfriend calls me on the phone and tells me that shes breaking up with me. Her reasons were that her feelings changed about me, and that our relationship had changed too much to keep it going. This is after two and a half years of a very happy and very loving relationship.
At first I was numb, but now its hitting me a lot harder than I had expected. This was my first real relationship, and I've had a really hard time coping with it. I can't concentrate on school work, and none of my previous hobbies are entertaining anymore. I'm hurt, angry, and confused.
What's really messing with my head is how drastically her feelings changed so quickly. Over the summer, we both worked 40+ hour weeks, so we didn't see each other as much as we had liked. I had a feeling that things weren't so good between us, but I was hoping that we could fix that before school started up again.
But instead of giving me time to fix things, she just breaks up with me. She says she needs time to figure out what she wants, and a month later, she still hasn't said anything about getting back together.
I feel extremely jealous when I think about her doing anything with somebody else, because I still have very strong feelings for her. I just don't know how to move on or deal with this, and I could use some advice.
She wants to stay friends because I'm her "best friend", but I really don't believe it since she hasn't showed any effort to talk to me or check on how I'm doing. It seems like a really convenient excuse to me.
Supposedly she still cares about me, and that I still mean something to her, but she has changed from the person I once knew. I don't know how to let her go. | openai_summarize |
How can I tell my boyfriend's parents that I'm not 19? | Summarize the following paragraph: Please I'm not here to be judged about the age gap(This is a throwaway account). He is extremely caring and I feel more safe with him than anyone I think i've been with, he never pressured me into sex or groomed me and my parents know and are fine with it.
Anyways, his brothers know and aren't phased by it really. However, someone he works with [F40s] and is doing a project(he works in the film industry) comes over often and chats with me, she loves zodiac signs and constantly asks me about my age and stuff. We are having a hard time covering it up. I might appear in one of his projects too.
His mother also thinks I'm 19. Which I am not.
So my question *is how can we if it comes to it tell his parent? or should we even?* I feel like we will be together for awhile and he shows a lot of interest in me(we have been dating almost 4 months seriously)
I doubt we are going to tell the people he works with since I don't want it to hurt his career. | openai_summarize |
As a new photographer should I buy a Canon 550D (T2i) or should I save for a Canon 60D? | Summarize the following paragraph: My fellow Redditors. I'm new on this Photography world and all dSLR's stuff. I like taking photos a lot, with my DMC-FZ7 Lumix, but I decided to take it to the next level. I already found a place to take Digital Photography classes, the only thing missing is a dSLR camera. The school asks for a Canon 550D (Rebel T2i), but as I did a little review, I was wondering if it was worth it to save a few more bucks and get a Canon 60D. I'm thinking that way so in the long term I don't have to buy another, more advanced, camera. I decided to go with Canon, so please avoid the Nikon cameras. Thanks a lot! | openai_summarize |
Long distance relationship, need to find activities we can do together. | Summarize the following paragraph: We met in college, and had a wonderful junior and senior year together. I am in a gap year between undergraduate and medical school and she is in a masters program for the rest of this year.
Our current relationship involves skype and phone calls, but our relationship is slowly unwinding due to multiple factors, one of which is a lack of things to do together. Our skype dates involve talking about our days, and perhaps watching TV together, but that's as far as things go usually.
I recommended we start a semi-book club just for the 2 of us, and she is really responsive to that, (We start tomorrow once the libraries are open). Does anyone have any advice for more things we can do together? | openai_summarize |
Met a girl, she graduated, I'm moving away and I miss her. | Summarize the following paragraph: I'm sorry if this isn't the right place for this, but I read the rules and didn't see anything wrong with this.
Story time: In March 2013 I met a girl at a speech (high school public speaking activity) meet, and we instantly connected. I'm a confident guy, but I'd never been too interested in women until her. We'll call her Anna. We talked for hours daily, and I soon asked her on a date. We talked a lot and hung out as much as possible (We both worked, so it was sort of difficult).
Then, she graduated. I'm two grades under her, so I knew it'd be kind of difficult to maintain, but not like this. She decided to go to a school several states away, which was a bit of a blow. My parents then announced that our family was also relocating to a different state, even further away from Anna. We hung out less and less, by the end it was only an awkward friendship. I deleted Anna on Facebook in an idiotic fit of rage. We haven't talked in months. I'm certain she doesn't want to speak to me. She was dating a 25 year old for a while, but I think they've split.
I miss her. She never goes back to our home state to visit due to a poor family life. She loves her new state and school. I hadn't thought about her in a long time, but the last couple weeks have been filled with thoughts of Anna. It's so obvious now that she was great, and I should've made more time for her. Knowing that I'll likely never see her again is the worst feeling I've known. Mods, I'm sorry if this shouldn't be here. I know reddit isn't too fond of teens.
EDIT: For wall of text. | openai_summarize |
My SO's mom is anxious about our relationship, and doesn't want to move forward as a "package deal" with us. What do I do?** | Summarize the following paragraph: So, first I met the father twice before I met the mother, both times it went well, even though I was a bit nervous. She introduced me to them because I was invited to her friend's wedding, and her parents were gonna be there, so she wanted to avoid any awkwardness of meeting them there. However, due to scheduling conflicts and them living 3 hours away, I wasn't able to meet the mother until the wedding. I was really nervous and didn't talk to them very much during the event, but still made small talk here and there. In my defense, it was a wedding and a ton of things were happening, obviously. Apparently, the mom wished I would've chatted more, and told her daughter (my s.o.) that she should just be more casual with our relationship and date others until she's absolutely sure. We're already pretty serious, and we've talked about our exclusivity many times before, and recently too. But now, whenever her parents come to town, she says maybe we should reschedule because it would seem "more serious" to her parents if we were a "package deal". This confuses me, but my guess is because she's unsure how to introduce us as an exclusive couple to her parents, or just afraid that her mom (notoriously stubborn/difficult to deal with) will get angry at her for not taking her advice of "being more casual". Something to keep in mind: she's an only child. I don't know if it's something I should even worry about, since we've been only dating for one year (this Friday!), and I like the slow pace we're moving at. I'm just concerned that maybe she doesn't want to move forward so she can keep her options open. | openai_summarize |
my girlfriend is mad because i want to get a job over the holidays, she wants me to stay at home and not leave her alone, i don't know if i should do it | Summarize the following paragraph: So, my mum has a new workspace as a manager of a store, and she told me there's a chance for me to get a job over the holidays, but she doesn't know the specifics regarding shifts and whatnot. I told her i want to get a job and since then she is telling me about job offers everyday, so she really wants me to get one. With the current minimum wage in my country there's a good chance i could make 1500€.
Now my girlfriend is really attached to me. She gets bored fast when i'm not around, so in the summer vacations, when she has alot of free time, she wants me to be by her place alot. We also made plans for the vacations, getting a job at the same place and whatnot. Her parents are gonna go on a cruise and she's gonna be home alone for 2 weeks, and now she is getting angry at me because my mum forced me to send my application over to her workplace and she again is the one losing out on the situation.
I have disappointed my girlfriend before. I left for a one-week-trip to a friends place who lives 12 hours from here over the easter holidays even though she said i shouldn't. She got so mad and depressed that she even through a vase at her heater. She always tells me how shitty that was of me and how she suffered during that time. I think that the same will happen again when i get this job.
I don't know what to do at this point... I don't know if i should get the job and make money over the holidays, or if I should stay, not get my girlfriend angry and don't make any money. I don't even know if it is right of her to even get angry at me, and if she is just holding me off from doing my thing... | openai_summarize |
How do i get the girl i have been seeing to open up more and talk more about herself? | Summarize the following paragraph: So theres this girl ive met up with 4 times who recently got out of an abusive relationship 2 months ago and she normally has confidence issues anyway, but obviously her ex has made things worse. anyway eevery time i talk to her i always get the feeling i end up talking about myself because every time i ask her something she replies with a short answer and even when i try to ask a followup question she answers short, doesnt ask me back a question and so to break the silence i end up talking about myself! she has said a lot that her friends talk about themselves a lot and so because of that she tries to talk about herself as little as possible. so how do i get her to open up more? she sent me a message tonight after seeing me that she really likes spending time with me and i like seeing her too but i want to hear more about her life and her thoughts. | openai_summarize |
How to choose when to be frugal and when not? | Summarize the following paragraph: In the wake of a divorce, I'm starting over with not much more than a Ikea bed. He kept almost all the household stuff, but I have a new job and can afford to spend a little bit on myself in order to be comfortable and not feel like a broke college student. But what do I spend my money on, and where should I be frugal? Where's the biggest experience value for my buck?
Right now, my contemplations are focusing on a TV and plates and silverware, but I'm sure I'll start filling my new apartment up as I nest a bit. (If it matters, I'm a 40-something single female, starting over in a new town.) | openai_summarize |
unsure if I should study English or photography, I've always wanted to be a photojournalist. | Summarize the following paragraph: I've always been a pretty confident person in who I was and what I wanted out of life. I am now however at a crossroads with what to do with my life in terms of deciding on going to university.
It has always been assumed by my family that I would study English as "you can do anything with an English degree." However my real passion and dream is to become a photojournalist, not that I couldn't do that after my degree, it's just as I got closer to university (applying for accommodation etc.) I had the feeling my life was going to end and it's something I'm going to regret.
I have now deferred my English places and am planning to take a year long art and photography course as a sort of gap year, however I'm worried that I'm just procrastinating making a proper decision.
How do you know that you're making the right decision? | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend doesn't seem satisfied with how I look and eats more than me. Are we in a relationship that will never work, or should I just keep at it? | Summarize the following paragraph: My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and two months but have known each other for about 7 years. We recently moved together from our hometown to a new town and are now living together until we find our own apartments to live in the new town. We decided to live separately to avoid extra stress. We've been fighting a lot lately as we're moving out at the end of July and tensions have been high.
Our biggest issue, however, is the fact that she is upset in my appearance, says I don't work out enough and eat enough. When we argue she says she shouldn't have gotten into a relationship with someone who wasn't exactly what she wanted. I try to work out, eat as much as possible, ect. but she never seems satisfied even if I do gain weight and work on looking better.
Also, she'll tell me everyday about how bigger more muscly guys are always telling her shes beautiful on the bus and talking to her. She looks up photos of guys like Channing Tatum online and asks me why I don't look like that.
I want to make this work out because I moved here with her because I love her but I what to know what, r/relationships thinks about it. She says she loves me but I don't know if shes just saying it, to say it. Am I being weak and should just keep at it, even if she may never be satisfied with how I am? Or am I in a relationship that really will never work, and I should find someone who appreciates me more for how I already am?
Feel free to ask me questions regarding our relationship, I'm open to answer pretty much any question that will help. | openai_summarize |
One of my best friends recently stopped talking to me and began ignoring me as well. I have listed possible causes but I just don't know why still. | Summarize the following paragraph: So I'm an 18 year old male and my friend is also 18 years old and is female. Now let me just give you a little background of our friendship...
We were friends for quite a while but we never got close until our senior year in high school when we both had classes with each other and we both got out of that "seemingly awkward adolescent stage". Anyway, we would talk/text/chat to each other almost everyday, did a lot of things together as well, you know best friend stuff to say the least. Also, let's call my friend Rachel.
Now we're both in college and we go to the same university and out of no where she has stopped talking to me. I also did meet a girl whom I really like as well this first year in college and I don't know if that has anything to do with it because I always figured Rachel and I would always be the best of friends but I guess I was wrong.
Another thing that could be taken into account was the fact that she doesn't like one of my male friends whom I am really close to as well. I don't know if this has anything to do with her doing this to me either.
During our winter break I tried messaging her on Facebook, texting her, etc and to no avail. I was completely ignored and she never replied or texted after. When our break was over, I noticed she seemed to avoid me in the hallways, where we normally sit together, and ignore me in general (we also have a class together).
I don't really know what I should do as I have messaged her saying," I was sorry for whatever I did and she probably does have a reason to ignore me and I'll understand if she doesn't reply." I feel like I went terribly wrong on that part. | openai_summarize |
Had second thoughts about dating a girl, just wondering if it was just because of my body, age, and personality, or if I'm not what she wants. | Summarize the following paragraph: Have any of you ever had second thoughts about a girl/guy, after dating for about a 3weeks?
At little detail: she once told me that usually she only dates bigger guys(4yrs older, and a bigger body) and that he is not shy about anything.
About this, I was an exception because I am shy about certain things but confident enough, same age, and a bit smaller body.
Would I be correct to assume that maybe she had second thoughts about me, that I'm not what she wants?
I can almost definitely say that we had fun in those few weeks, so that shouldn't be an issue, chemistry was there and we did get physical, so there was attraction(at least I assume so) | openai_summarize |
I don't know what I want to do with my money, no real credit history and no credit cards. Should I start an IRA/save for retirement early?
Thanks Reddit! | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey Redditors! I am a 15 year old High School student and I have some got questions. First off, lets talk about the money that I have got.
TD Bank Student Checking: $1500
TD Bank Savings Account: $3,827
The savings account that I have got is mainly for an emergency. Lets say that later on in life I get sick or something like that and I need to pay for the hospital (because we all know how much that can cost) that is what that money is for. So I guess what I am asking is what I want to do next. I have got almost no finical direction. Should I start an IRA and start saving for retirement early? Should I just keep doing what I am doing, saving the money that I get for birthdays/Christmas and keep putting it in the savings account? My parents have got some other accounts that are for college and stuff like that, but I don't really know what is in there. I have got no credit cards that my parents opened in my name (that I know of) or any loans. I don't really have a credit history. | openai_summarize |
I have flat feet. I ran on shoes with no support for 2 months and did some damage. Rested up. Got new shoes. Doesn't seem any better. Help? | Summarize the following paragraph: So I did that thing where I took up running with the thought that I just needed a pair of shoes and could go run to my heart's content. After 20km over my first month, I thought I was going well so I did 80km over the next month. Ankles started hurting, went to the doc, turned out I'm extremely flat footed and ran in shoes with virtually no support which eventually killed both my ankles. I stopped running for 1.5 months to rest up and recently started again three weeks ago. I got some new shoes with a lot of support but now I get blisters (never had blisters before) around my right arch and my ankles don't seem to be getting any better. I also saw my City2Surf finishing video and I still run weird. Is this just another "give it time" thing or am I doing something wrong? | openai_summarize |
Hot chick in my class, i want to ask her out, but I have no experience doing this... plz help! | Summarize the following paragraph: I was in class minding my own business on my laptop when she came down and sat next to me. I took one look at her and I knew I had to ask her out. She's and I are getting the same degree and we're both want to go for masters. Anyways I was talking to her after class and I got her number but it didn't help that I said "incase I have any questions about class" I know I am not a pro at this. I am new to this I never do this so I am not very good at it.
When we talked I got to know her a bit but I think I screwed up when I left early cuz I was running late. I think maybe she wanted something more or it looked that way but I could be wrong. I was thinking just tell her: I think your are beautiful, smart and I want to get to know you". But I have no idea if she's single or married and I dont want to make things awkward between us or scare her away. Help me out here what do I do? What should I say? Or do I just ask her out for coffee first? Idk.. hlp! | openai_summarize |
How can I overcome the lack of sexual satisfaction from my girlfriend? | Summarize the following paragraph: So this is the first person I've had a serious relationship (and ever had sex with) and I care about her dearly. It's just when it comes to sex it seems I'm never satisfied as in I never reach orgasm.
I have pleasured her several times and made her achieve orgasm. Its just sometimes she just plain out doesn't pleasure me or attempts and her wrist start to hurt her and I have to finish myself. She's unwilling to do oral which I understand (many people don't like the idea of it nor the action).
But I feel as though I'm being selfish and i'll have to resort to a toy for satisfaction or myself. And it leaves me feeling sort of lonely? Its a hard feeling to describe.
I guess I'm just looking for advice from someone who has dealt with this or advice on what we should do. I would appreciate anything you guys could offer. Thanks for your time. | openai_summarize |
friend is mad at me over something I did and is acting like she doesn't want to be friends anymore. | Summarize the following paragraph: She is someone I know from work. We've been good friends for about 3 years.
There's not really a love interest as we've seen other people since we've known one another. But we have been good friends despite that.
A few times I asked if she'd like to just so something like go hike or something. She said "sure", but always flaked last minute. I was disappointed but whatever, did it with someone else.
Last week we were gonna meet so I can help her with a project. Didnt happen. Asked why she didnt hit me up about it and she told me she went running. So I jokefully said "Hey you should hit me up next time so I can go with you". She said "no im good". I asked "why not?" She replied "because I dont want to run with you".
It was the way she said it that put me off. Like I did something. I made a comment about her being flaky sometimes. It bothered her and she said "should I just say no from now on?". I realized it was starting to turn into an argument so I stopped.
She said she did not want to talk about it anymore because she was getting annoyed. I agreed and she started joking with me and talking as if that never happened.
Fast forward to Friday and today, she came to work giving me the cold shoulder. Bring short with me and having an overall angry mood.
I asked if things were ok and said because of what I did, our friendship cant be the same.
I asked to talk about it, she said no. She told me to stop bugging her. I asked why she is acting like this. "Your bugging me!" She replies. Not looking at me not, just very cold and complacent.
I know I was in the wrong. I apologized. For some reason i've been treated like I've done something horrible. Like if I called her names or did something unspeakable.
She out a wall and doesn't want to clarify why she is acting like this. Thought about just leaving her a message, just worried she wont read it. Im really starting to feel resentment and it hurts. | openai_summarize |
I've been trying to get out of my small town for years and have had no luck. I am only really trying to get out of town and into a big city. I have no friends and no desire to have friends. I am deep down depressed and I feel like I will never be able to make friends unless I start growing a pair. | Summarize the following paragraph: I need basic human interaction. I probably hang out with 1 person around my age once every 2 or more weeks. I live in a small town and work in a small town that is an hour away from the city and my friend (the one i hang out with very little) lives 30 minutes away. I haven't had a crush on a guy or even been interested in one for about 3 years now. I also had no friends coming out of highschool (graduated with 14 kids) except 2, the one far away and the other moved to another country.
I think I'm developing depression or losing my social skills. I've having trouble focusing with customers, talking properly, or caring what they say. My whole body is screaming at me that I need to get the hell out of this town because its the same routine of talking to old people all day. I go home to my parents who are turning senile and ramble on about the latest random thing: light bulb going out, cleaning the stove, etc.
I go to college in the nearest city but can't seem to make friends or find a roommate, though I do make acquaintances often. I've sent messages to craigslist replying to housing and I never get a response. I've applied for jobs in the city but have received no call backs for the past 2 years I've been applying to various minimum wage jobs. I don't even like this city but just need human interaction. I thought the whole idea of getting stuck in a small town was cliche, but I guess it's a real thing. | openai_summarize |
Boyfriend hid a gopro camera in his room and secretly filmed us having sex. He said I agreed to make a sex tape together without me knowing. I'm confused about how to talk to him about it. | Summarize the following paragraph: So earlier this month, my boyfriend asked me if I would be willing to make a sex tape (sex video?). I said that it sounded like a sexy idea to make a video together and I would be open to try it some time.
Last night, he told me that he had hidden his gopro camera in his room and filmed us the last time we had had sex. He was really confused when I reacted strongly as being upset. He told me that I had agreed to make a video which he took as consent to film us without me knowing.
To me it is a completely separate thing for me to agree to make a video together in abstract than for me to agree to be filmed without me knowing, which I didn't consent to at all. I work at a women's health center so he's heard me rant at length about how important explicit consent is to me. It seems really obvious in my mind that that was a big no-no.
I spoke to him briefly this morning- he feels awful that I had gotten upset and apologized profusely, said he would delete the video, etc.- but he still doesn't seem to understand why I feel violated.
I really admire my boyfriend- he is a compassionate, intelligent man who is head over heels for me and would never do anything with a malicious intent to hurt me. I genuinely believe that he thought what he was doing was okay and that he just made a thoughtless "dumb boy" mistake.
That said, I was really upset to find out I had been secretly filmed in such an intimate position and I don't want to just ignore the whole thing. I really want to figure out a way to talk to him about this so that he understands why I think he fucked up. I definitely don't want to break up or drag this out for days but it's important to me to make sure our relationship is healthy and based on respect and all that.
I would really appreciate some advice about what to say when we talk after we both get off work. Thank you so much in advance if anyone has some insight! | openai_summarize |
my bf/gf of 7 1/2 years will ask for and receive a lot of physical affection, and is constantly in a half-assed manner. I feel like an object & am upset by him treating me this way. | Summarize the following paragraph: Been together for 7 1/2 years & living together since June of last year. He has never been the most affectionate & I can live with that. However, lately I've been feeling resentful because he will ask for a lot of physical affection, to which I oblige since I love him & just want him to be happy. These sessions of affection will last anywhere from 15-45 min. When I ask for 5 min though, it's never a convenient moment, he's tired, or he does it but it such a half-assed manner that I tell him to forget it.
This morning he spooned me & started caressing me & it felt so good to have him proactively touch me...except as soon as I told him that I was still on my period, he immediately stopped touching me, pulled away from me & reached for his iPhone to start browsing. When I told him that his actions hurt my feelings, he said that there was no point touching me if we can't have sex. I lost it completely & told him that he makes me feel like an object and that I can no longer continue a relationship where my basic needs are not being met. He thinks I'm overreacting & doesn't think it's wrong to treat me this way. | openai_summarize |
Girl dumped me four days before moving in together, she still wants to be friends but is acting like shit. | Summarize the following paragraph: It's all in the title.
We dated for a year and spent a lot of our free time together and decided we would take the plunge and move in together even though we are young. We had a perfect relationship, we communicated everything, had a lot of fun, were on the same frequency, etc etc. During the summer we saw each other every weekend and although we both worked full time during the week, it was all we both worked towards. The only person more excited for the move in and our future than myself was her.
Two weeks before moving in together she went to a conference for anxiety issues, which she has struggled with in the past and which I have been very supportive of. We sign the lease the day after she gets back even though she has been very distant. The next weekend, four days before we're supposed to start living together and after I move our stuff in, she dumps me without reason. Just because she isn't feeling it.
This weekend, one week later, she's at her new dude's sister's house staying with him.
So, fuck that.
I love her still, but not sure what to do. She still wants to be friends but is treating me like shit. I'm hurting a ton and have never been this depressed in my life. | openai_summarize |
Want to turn a meetup into an explicit date, but not sure if I should do this before or after a date.** | Summarize the following paragraph: Hey everyone.
So I've been friends with this girl for almost 4 years now, and spoken to her regularly on and off. Recently, we've started speaking again and I really do want to date her.
We met up the other day for coffee and caught up and have got something else planned for a few days time.
I was hoping to ask her out before but never plucked up the courage. Would it be appropriate to speak to her and tell her I want to turn this next meeting into an explicit date?
Or should I wait until we actually meet and ask her in person? This means our date (if she accepts) would be the following meeting. | openai_summarize |
My math teacher is trying to fail me. Help please. | Summarize the following paragraph: It started about 2 weeks after school started, he decided he didn't like me. This is partially my fault because I wasn't doing most of my homework which I can understand might have affected his view of me negatively. However, now my parents have gotten back from the parent teacher conferences and have been told that my homework is incomplete when he didn't notify me when it was. He also marked me wrong for something that was blatantly right. I brought the question that he marked me wrong for to his attention and his reaction was blank and he didn't say anything to me after I prompted him to change the grade on my quiz (which he did reluctantly). Reddit please help me from failing this class wrongfully by either helping me catch him or by helping me prevent him from failing me. I'm sorry if this is erroneous or if it is poorly written as I'm quite upset. | openai_summarize |
My fiance wants to take my name instead of the other way around. I would be all for it, but I fall victim to family/others judgement. Looking for support on how to handle things if we decide to keep my last name. | Summarize the following paragraph: This is going to be short and sweet, hopefully.
My fiance and I got engaged back in September. We are proving to be amazing partners when it comes to making decisions together. Venue, photography, music, and almost everything in between. We've even been pretty good about discussing the important marriage issues that we might encounter in the upcoming years. Children, living space, careers, dreams and goals.
With all these discussions and decisions occurring, we've finally come across something that has stumped us, Name Changes.
Growing up in a Catholic family as a girl, it's been ingrained that my last name was never going to stay the same. I never thought twice about it. Until my fiance addressed that he really doesn't like his last name. His last name can be used as first name, for example "James". He expressed that he was fed up with always getting the questions for his actual last name and the annoyance it brings with it.
So here is where I come to a cross roads. The feminist in me would love to keep my name, what sometimes feels like my identity. But I often fall victim to not only what others might think but what my family might think of it. I know this question should be posed to them first, but I want to get a general consensus and tips and tools to figure out if this is what we really want.
I would gladly give my fiance my last name, but the stigma might get the best of me and I'll chicken out.
For the record, I don't have a problem taking his name. I've already written my new name (or what I thought might be) a thousand times in a hundred different notebooks. | openai_summarize |
Going out with my girlfriend at a club in a group of friends for her birthday, nervous about how I should act around her, not sure how to feel about it. Help? | Summarize the following paragraph: I don't drink, and I've never been to a bar or club. My girlfriend of 3.5 years on the other hand does. She didn't drink either when we started dating, but started going out with her girlfriends in college. It made me feel very uncomfortable and upset when she started, and it has gotten better over the years, but still bothers me in some way that I can't understand or put into words.
This weekend I am going out with her to a club for one of her girlfriend's birthday, and I'm very nervous about the experience. She has been saying, "are you sure you want to go?" a lot. I think she just doesn't want me to feel uncomfortable, but it hurts a little to imagine that she might just have more fun if I wasn't there. The truth is, I am nervous, and I have no idea what to expect.
The worst part is the girlfriend who's birthday it is has recently gone through a breakup. So now she seems to want to go out and party and be crazy much more than usual. Notably, she wants to go up and dance on the little stage at this club, which she didn't get to do before because her ex-boyfriend felt uncomfortable with her shaking her ass for everybody. My girlfriend isn't the type to normally do that sort of thing, but said half jokingly half serious, "I'm sure she'll want to go dance on the stage now. I hope you don't get mad at me if she drags me up there too." The thought of her dancing up on stage, with all the other guys there eyeing her up makes me feel physically sick. The thought of seeing her drink makes me feel sick. I wish so deeply that I was a normal young person who liked to drink and party but I am unfortunately not that person.
I'm very nervous and I don't know how to feel about the situation, how I should act on Friday, what to expect going to a club for the first time, what to expect watching my girlfriend drink for the first time, and how on earth I am supposed to handle it if my girlfriend does go on the stage. Can anybody help me? | openai_summarize |
Ex-fiance and I broke up, now I wonder how people deal with the fact that they lied to me. | Summarize the following paragraph: Some days it is fine, but other days, thinking about all of the lies that my fiance told me make me seethe with rage and anger, and I don't know how to control it. To make matters worse, aside from lying about his relationships with other women, he lied to his family and friends about the circumstances of our breakup, telling them that I threw him out of the house with nowhere to go for something he didn't do and is playing the victim, though we both know that is anything but the truth.
How do you deal with the sense of outrage if you've been betrayed or cheated on? I can handle the loss and the sadness as it comes and goes, but not the anger. | openai_summarize |
recent break up, ex is hot, picturing her having sexy times with some random. do not want | Summarize the following paragraph: me and my ex broke up pretty recently. I know she has been going out more, and being with her friends and stuff which is cool. but we stil talk sometimes, and she said that she was frustrated, because when she was out with one of her guy friends, at one point he smelled like me. and it made her want to be "close" with someone. she didnt act on it, but....
now sometimes all i can imagine is that first time she gets intimate with another guy. i keep relating it to how we met and did so the first night, and all i can picture is.. well, nsfw type things. she is quite beautiful, especially her body, and i know that she gets flirted with frequently.... its just a matter of time...
Is there an easy way to get over and accept the fact that yes, we are broken up, and yes, she at some point will be intimate with someone else? | openai_summarize |
im immature and keeping my boyfriend in the dark about my issues, im scared I will lose him and want advice. | Summarize the following paragraph: Theres layers and layers to this. But im going to try and sum this up the best I can.
I can be very mature, but recently ive been working through some mental things and have been reverting back into a immature mind set. and just to be clear, i had a happy childhood, nothing bad happened. My personality is kinda childish, but he knew when we met and was fine with it. But ive been in the mind set plus I started to get very clingy with him. Hes a very loving, caring, and a amazing partner, I could never say anything bad about him.
We have hit a very rough patch am im very scared/nervous about whats happening. Hes told me he wants space and dosent know what he wants or if hes right for me. I respect he wants space, I havent looked at any of his online stuff, I dont ask others what hes been up to, and im trying my best to stay away, but its really hard cause we always talk and hang out on the weekends. I havent asked if he wants to end this cause in scared he dose... Ive put so much into him and I was hoping one day he would be my person. He knows im going to get help and hes happy that I am. I want to prove this will blow over and ill go back to being a good partner for him, im just not sure how...
And before you say I need a life and im overlay attached, I know. Im working on this and I dont need that pointed out more. I just want advice on what to do when your partner wants space and is unsure, but hasent ended the relationship. | openai_summarize |
My girlfriend and I are moving into new apartment and landlord is charging for paint and spackle to fix up a wall. Advice? | Summarize the following paragraph: So my girlfriend and I are moving into a new place. I'm moving because I've been a lazy parent moocher and she is moving because her rent is just too damn high and in the past couple months my car has been broken into in front of her place and her place has been broken into with a ton of electronics stolen.
The landlords had agreed to put bars on the windows but in 2 months had failed to do so. Now comes move out time. We cleaned everything in the apartment, took everything down, scrubbed and cleaned EVERY surface, I would eat off the floor of this place GDI! The landlord comes to look at the place and talk over how much security would be returned. We bought spackle and they have paint, to cover holes from shelves and pictures and such, the landlord is saying that they are going to charge 160/day for a guy to come in and spackle and paint the walls and that they cannot just "touch up" the affected areas and that if we were to do it, it wouldn't be acceptable because it just wouldn't be as good. Granted I know that paint hues can vary ever so slightly from batch to batch and that dirt can make older paint look darker, BUT! Do I have any recourse in terms of him charging 160 fucking dollars for normal living wear and tear like holes for anchors for shelves? Especially when we are willing to fix it, I'm an engineer and very handy and she's an artist of sorts, we can patch up a fucking wall! Also level of cleanliness? How clean is acceptable, they also want to charge 100/day for a cleaning person(s). Like i said, this shit is sparkling already? Any advice, can she do anything? There aren't move in pictures to reference what was started with. | openai_summarize |
My ex and I haven’t been together for over a year, he had a mysterious new boyfriend. We thought we told each other everything. We didn’t, and now he is living with her. | Summarize the following paragraph: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
My ex m17 and I F18 haven’t been together for a while. We were in a long distance relationship for a year but gave up due to many reasons. Nothing really changed when we went from being in the relationship to us not being together. We still talked every day, called most nights and recently we’ve skyped each other. It’s been at least nine months from us not being together, but we still love each other a lot.
A month or two ago he had started a strange relationship with a girl. A ‘cuddle buddy’ because he was lonely, that hurt, but I didn’t want to be selfish because it was what he needed. He had assured me that it was nothing more.
Today I found out that they are living together, and have been so for two days, although this would have been planned a week or two in advance.
I feel as though my heart has been physically ripped out. I know that maybe it’s nothing, although he had previously told me that he wasn’t going to get any room mates for a while. I’m being stupid and silly, but… He didn’t tell me about it, and I guess I was under the impression that we told each other everything.
I think I should move on from him, I know that’s probably for the best but it just hurts, it hurts so much. | openai_summarize |
New to RK Bridal, ordered a dress for a wedding and it flared at the mid thigh and I get given a sample of the dress that is way bigger than the dress I ordered. Owner was rude, kept showing me the sample instead of the dress I ordered and they do not give me the deposit back even though it appears to be a different dress. | Summarize the following paragraph: I live in NY and heard great things about RK Bridal so decided to give it a shot. I went a few times before choosing a dress but was having a hard time because I wanted a trumpet that flared at the mid thigh but am only 5’2. The bridal attendant handed me a dress that said should be perfect so I put it in, she clipped it, and it was great! I ordered it that night and was so excited. My dress arrived and this week went in for my try on which is when the disaster unfolded. The dress flared about three inches lower than when I tried it on and looked ridiculous on me. The way the bridal attendant clipped the sample made the flare considerably higher and I was told that is how it would flare. She insisted that did no wrong even though I have pictures in the sample showing the flare much higher. I asked to speak to the manager and they pretty much stalled for two hours. They made me try on my dress, then the sample, then my dress again, then another identical size 8 they had in the back (which apparently was not there three weeks ago when I ordered my dress but is there now?), my dress again, the sample again, and then someone else’s size 6 dress which they said was for a bride getting married next august so they could get her a new one. All while this was going on, an outside seamstress who they have there would not stop badgering me and trying to get me to do alterations with him. I finally spoke to the owner and she refused to give me the deposit back despite the dress being a completely different shape from what I was told it would look like. She was incredibly rude, kept interrupting me, and was telling me the dress always flared at that place even though I had pictures from the day I ordered it! I left there crying and still owning a dress I that looks ridiculous on me with my wedding less than 5 months away. So to all my fellow NYC brides out there, be careful before getting a dress from RK Bridal! | openai_summarize |
I'm 30 and I'm trying to find a way to meet people my own age (actually my own age, as it's my age now, not my age when I started writing) and to do so with a girlfriend who's older than me. | Summarize the following paragraph: I am in a very unusual position. I completed all of my exams at the age of 15 and decided that instead of waiting for uni I would quit school and start work in earnest on making my dream career a reality. I'd been writing since I was seven and it had always/ still is my dream to be an author. Three-and-a-half years, three novels (one of them a Christmas best-seller on kindle) later and I'm on the brink of releasing what is, by far, my best novel. Editing is still to be done along with a vast amount of internet marketing, site design and a short film to be shot. I'm very proud of all I've achieved and generally happy with my life. However, all this consistent hard work in combination with not being in education mean that all my friends are either adults or on the internet in a part of the globe I am very unlikely to visit. I met my girlfriend who was quite a lot older than me at the beginning of the year. We were deeply in love, but for various reasons it did not/ could not work out and I haven't seen her since July.
I am here because I'm lost as to figuring out a way to meeting like-minded people of my own age for friends and need suggestions. If it makes any difference I'm in Edinburgh, Scotland. | openai_summarize |
My parents are strict, and I'm afraid to try to go on a vacation. | Summarize the following paragraph: Before y'all start yelling at me, I just want to clarify.
Yes, I'm 19, and I'm at the age where I really want to grow up and be treated as an adult. I'm not trying to fall into the stereotype, my family is so very protective. Too protective.
I come from a Chinese background, which means that my parents care about grades and university and where I eventually end up on the career ladder. But it's more than that.
I can never get them to see that I know how to handle my problems. For instance, I wanted to go to Thailand or Japan or Taiwan for a trip with my friends that I've known ever since high school, and they had me begging on my knees to go.
In the end they settled for Taiwan because it was an hour's flight vs. 3 or 4 hours to Japan or Thailand.
I live in a dorm for university right now and they demand that I go home for the weekend, every single weekend. I'm in the same country and even then, Hong Kong is not that big. At most, it is a 2-3 hour public transport back home. Every day, they demand that I call everyone at least once, especially my mother at 1pm and 7pm.
I'm trying to emerge myself in student life and going out...Yes, sometimes that means to the odd club/pub, but I handle my alcohol, they have access to my Facebook and know what I'm doing most of the time, but they freak out that I'm out past 12.
I'm trying to go a vacation with my friends to Japan and I'm so afraid to bring it up to them...At this point, I'm honestly considering not going. But I'd regret it so much....letting my parents stop me from experiencing something that I really want. | openai_summarize |
No matter how hard I try, I lose my erection when my girlfriend tries to please me. It's extremely frustrating and I need to orgasm faster. | Summarize the following paragraph: Okay so I started dating this girl at the start of the summer, and we've kept it going for a while now.
We haven't had sex together yet, but we've both performed oral on each other.
I don't have much trouble getting her to orgasm, but she can't seem to make me orgasm. It just goes on for a while, I lose my erection, we start over. Sometimes my mind wanders to things like homework or the fate of the cosmos, but usually I can stay focused on the fact that she's blowing me.
I'm very sexually attracted to her, and to the best of my knowledge she's not doing anything wrong at all. (On a somewhat related note, I'm pretty sure she's doing nothing wrong because she's not my first sexual partner, and even my first ones had trouble bringing me to orgasm. They were prostitutes I hired while in Europe. It was through tremendous concentration that I finished.)
I can masturbate fairly easily, but I think this is going to kill our relationship. My girlfriend feels really shitty because she can't get me off and I can get her off. She won't believe me if I tell her that nobody else has done it easily either. Is there something I can do to make myself orgasm faster? I know this is the opposite of most guys' problems, but it's killing our relationship and I need help with this.
I'm not nervous at all, and I'm pretty confident about the size of my member, so I can't see why this would be a problem. | openai_summarize |
i haven't been told I've been fired. Can I get in trouble for using my discount at other stores? | Summarize the following paragraph: So a couple months ago I got my a job at Ambercrombie & Fitch(retail). After 1-2 months of working one day a week with my sports schedule.
One weekend came up and I ended up not showing up to work. No one said anything to me about it. The next week I did the same thing, at this point I didn't care if I was to be fired. And once again nothing was said to me.
Since then I was removed from this group msg thing our work had.
And it's been a couple weeks since then.
No one has said ANYTHING to me. No employees, no managers....
So since I haven't been told I've been fired. Am I? And for my main question;
Could I get in trouble for using my discount at other stores that are Ambercrombie?? | openai_summarize |
Just found out I'm pregnant from a previous relationship with another guy, and just found out about it today. Want to wait a day or two before speaking to him, and decide what my direction is. | Summarize the following paragraph: This relationship has been going on for almost three years, and it has been on-again, off-again.
About five weeks ago, the relationship was on and we met up, had a good weekend, and at the end of it he said that he hadn't felt really close to me for over a year, and he didn't want to continue the relationship.
This was an initial shock, and I felt rather used since he'd been very close all during the visit. But in the end, I actually felt okay about the break up itself. When I look back at the times that have been really hard for me, he's often not been there for me, been judgmental, or even more distressing, expressed anger at me.
So, we left it that we'd be friends, which is fine. We've had limited contact since, mostly through text, on light topics.
Fast-forward to today, my period is a couple weeks late. I didn't think too much of it because I'm very irregular, but I took a pregnancy test anyway, and it was positive.
I currently live several states away from him, and honestly, even if we were physically close I'm not sure how much support he'd be no matter what my choice is. The majority of the times he's gone into uncontrollable anger (shouting, not physical hitting) have been when I was very ill and asking him for help or emotional support.
My current plan is to wait a day or two and let the news settle into my mind before telling him. Honestly, I'm still in a bit of shock and denial, but I don't want to be a jerk. I'd like to make a decision on what direction to take before talking to him, and research what that decision means in my life. I don't expect him to offer help of any sort, so the decision is really for me by me.
I'm looking for opinions on waiting for a day or two to let my mind settle. I feel like that course of action is reasonable, but wanted some other opinions. | openai_summarize |
GF is upset because she thinks I treat her like I would've any other girl and is now saying our whole relationship isn't real | Summarize the following paragraph: We've been together almost a year now and are absolutely crazy about eachother. We've talked about a long future together and how we want to stay together no matter what through any issue. We went drinking last night and she made the drunk decision to go through my phone while I slept. I woke up to her not speaking to me and telling me that we're breaking up. She found some texts from before we were dating with me and a couple other girls. I basically was hammered trying to hook up with them. She now is saying that I'm a pig and that our entire relationship has been fake and that I just used the same lines with her as I did with anyone else and that I don't actually love her.
I'm frustrated because it's just so far from the truth. I've been crazy about her since day one and I completely know that I was a douche in those texts but thats not who I am as a human and I haven't done anything close to that in a year. But I have nothing to convince her with because anything I say she just responds with "you're full of shit and I'll never believe anything you say.'
What can I do to show her how genuine our relationship is and how I am absolutely not that kind of guy? | openai_summarize |
A girl I've never spoken to in over a year texts me and says she misses me, hopes I'm doing well, and that she'd love to facetime and possibly hang out someday if I was willing to make it happen. I replied saying thanks and wished her the best. She ignored it. | Summarize the following paragraph: So there is this girl who was my best friend my senior year of high school. We met that year but we became really close really fast. At one point, that friendship started going in the direction of being more but it just wasn't a good time for her (still dealing with past issues). Things got kinda weird for a little while but eventually went back to normal. A few months later, things went to complete shit.
She way overstepped some boundaries, combined with repetitively taking advantage of my interest in her. Then, I handled it completely wrong and tried cutting her off, hoping I'd finally get over my feelings for her if she wasn't around anymore. For almost a year after, I dealt with her sending extremely mixed signals, even though she said she'd give me the space I wanted. I also made it worse because I was extremely inconsistent. I claimed I wanted space but would never fully block her and reply when she'd try and contact me.
EVENTUALLY, I think she just kinda gave up and we have not spoken in well over a year. We are now juniors in college, go to school about 2000 miles away, and the only interaction we've had is a few likes on some form of social media.
However, I woke up this morning to a text from her (she sent it super late and I was asleep). It's kinda long but she basically said she misses me, hopes I'm doing well, and that she would love to facetime or something if I was willing to. I replied saying thanks, hoped she was doing well also, and that I'd enjoy catching up sometime. She read the text fairly fast but just ignored it. Like, over a year of nothing, she sends a late night text, then ignores me when I respond. What the F*CK? | openai_summarize |