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So I a[m] 24. She is 21. I am almost 5'8, she is about 5'5. I am in good shape, she is in great shape. I would put myself around a 6, her around a 7. I would be higher if I was taller. Anyway, we met a few months ago and totally hit it off. Connected about so many things. Loved the same music, had the same humor, knew random things to discuss with the other. We both love adventure time! We spent the whole weekend together at a music festival. We both got really really drunk and I told her how awesome she was and held her hand for awhile. After the weekend I find out she lives about 2 hours away so I decide I don't want to look desperate and put things on the back burner. We texted for a few months until she came to a party I had. We talked awhile, but she had to go to another friends house cause she was only in town for the night. There was this really awkward moment when we were alone and I could feel something between us, but I was too drunk and she wasn't so I didn't want to do anything dumb. Fast forward another month. She went out of the country and we talked over facebook a little. A few days after she got back, I happened to be in a town next to where she lived so I asked if she would like a visit from me. She said it would sound lovely. When I got to her house we had one of the best conversations I've ever had. We talked about everything. We made each other laugh, talked about our deep morals, talked about our families, books we both really connected with, it was INSANE. After the first 2 hours I started to feel a weird tension when ever we stopped talking. At first I thought she wanted me to go, but when I offered to leave she started talking about something else. The pauses in the conversation kept having lingering tension. Not awkward moments, just tension. So I started to test the waters. First I touched her feet with mine. She moved away right away at first. The second time she did not move away. I left my feet touching hers. A little later I put my knuckles against her outer thigh. Again she didn't move away, but she tensed up a bit. I started to lean into her, and she backed off. So I stopped touching her after that. Now it was 2 in the morning. We both agreed it was time to call it a night. We hugged, and I left. It was a little awkward, but I don't know why. She told me to text her when I got home so she would know I was safe. I said it would be 4am. She said she didn't care. I texted her, and the next morning she responded by saying she felt like we were so similar, except I was a nicer. I said I felt the same about her except she was so good at getting people to open up. She said that was really thoughtful and she appreciated it. I didn't respond. That was a few days ago. I texted her for the first time today. We had a short conversation, then I asked if she wanted to meet me up to go ice skating. During our long conversation she brought up that She had never been before, and I said I would take her. It's now been an hour since I asked her, and no response. I understand she is probably busy, but I also have this feeling that she is backing off, and I shouldn't have invited her after I tried to kiss her. She is such an amazing girl with a beautiful soul. Thanks for reading, I just had to vent a bit. Any thoughts are much appreciated. Questions: did I wait too long, or not long enough to ask her to do something? Is she interested, or just really nice? Edit:

nice girl and I have an amazing weekend together. 3 months later we have the best deep conversation I've had in years. She let my foot rub on hers, but when I moved in closer, she backed off. She said we are the "same person, but I am nicer than her". I responded by saying how awesome and receptive she. I asked her if she wants to learn to ice skate from me. Did I blow it, or is she not interested? We have known each other for 6 months.

thekitchenwench

relationships

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My father: 63M My mother: 57F Myself: 31F My sister: 27F My brother: 25M Please be warned that what follows is an almighty wall of text. My father is a toxic human being. He is extremely racist, has anger issues, is controlling and a misogynist. But on top of this, he was also diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia when I was 14 years old. My mother was somehow forced into marrying him and I believe it has something to do with my conception, but she refuses to talk about it other than a few comments during my life that have made me come to this conclusion. The reason that I mention this is because after 31 years of being abused and controlled by my father, she is now mentally unable to leave him. She hates him, but when his condition is managed, pities him and says she can't leave him because he can't take care of himself - which is true. My father would walk around oblivious in piss and shit stained pants if it wasn't for her. He's been forcibly institutionalized twice (1996 and again in 2009), but both times the doctors told me that under Australian law, they can't keep him for longer than 2 weeks if they think the condition has gotten under control, and unfortunately he does not believe that there is anything wrong with him so refuses to engage in any kind of anger management or ongoing treatment once he's out of the psych ward. Both times that he was institutionalized, it started with him imagining that my mother was having an affair which triggered a very rapid downward spiral, and I'm afraid that it's happening again. He's told her three times in the past two days that she has shamed him in her conduct so much that she needs to go back to Korea because he won't allow her to be seen with him or us (myself, my sister and my brother) and a few days ago I almost caught him talking loudly to himself (I was asleep and he was talking so loudly that it woke me up, so I came out of my room ask him to be quiet as I thought he was on the phone...but there was no phone. He stopped talking as soon as he saw me). He's even "stealthily" followed her when she walks the dog in the mornings. I've called the CAT (Crisis Assessment Team), his GP that he gets his meds from, as well as the police, and while they agree that it sounds like his stability is declining, they all tell me the same thing. That they cannot forcibly institutionalize him again unless he deteriorates further to the point of threatening the family/himself or starts to talk to the voices in his head in front of us. So now my siblings and I are living in crisis mode, making sure that we don't leave my mother alone with him, and watching his behaviour like a hawk. But we can't be by her side 24/7 and I'm terrified that something is going to happen while I'm not there. Some additional information: We are barely living above the poverty line. My father's illness means he has never been able to hold down a job for long, so at the moment the bills are paid primarily through myself and my mother's welfare payments. My brother is unemployed but desperately looking for work, and my sister doesn't earn enough to make a substantial contribution. We can't afford private healthcare so are dependent on the public health system. I was the one who made the call last time to have him taken away, and since then my father is a little scared of me, but not enough to listen to my previous pleas for him to seek treatment. I've tried getting my mother to speak to a therapist, but her mental state combined with the fact that my father prevented her from learning English during her 26 years in Australia means I've not been able to find a therapist that she is able to communicate with Lastly, I have very few friends I can turn to for support. Ongoing bouts of depression over the years have made it difficult for me to reach out to and connect with people, and I've lost touch with a lot of my old friends. My boyfriend is trying to be supportive, but I don't feel like I can tell him how much I'm really struggling at the moment because I'm worried about stressing him out, and that like previous boyfriends, he'll decide that it's too much hassle and leave me. Reddit, I need your advice. I don't know what to do. I'm trying to hold it together but I don't know how long I can cope with this. **

my father is losing his mind again and I don't know what to do or how to protect my family.

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We've only been dating for a month We get along better than the norm. his friends adore how we are with eachother. He suggests a future together involving kids marriage and a home. Doesn't initiate sex or get intimate with me a fraction of what other boyfriends have. Which i'm still learning to accept. I do things for him no other woman has. In terms of taking care of him, his place, and doing things for his friends. Asked me if I was interested in a threesome before he asked me out. I said i've been with girls and it's not my thing. Texts me last night that "I'm faithful to you and would never hurt you, but you said you weren't interested in a threesome, and that frustrates me" *

he wont even let me kiss him late at night, but he wants to invite another woman into our sex life (That hardly even started) 'cause it's something he always wanted to experience'? I attract all sorts of men and put my boyfriend before any fantasy. How should i go about this?

danredux

sex

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There's a long-running debate between me and my girlfriend about what makes you gay. It started when someone said "earrings on the left make you gay" to which I replied "no, wanting to date men makes you gay". She rebutted with "no, wanting to suck cock makes you gay". This one is my side of the argument, although she's usually right when we debate. :P So, which is it? I, for exa[m]ple, would happily fuck a man in the bum. I have actually had other men give me blowjobs. However, I can't kiss them, or be romantic with them, and certainly not date them. Therefor I don't think of myself as liking men, just liking butts and blowjobs.. On the other hand, I imagine someone could not want to have sex with anyone at all, but still date or marry the same gender. So

is it gay to want to have sex with the same gender, because of their genitals, or is it gay when you want to kiss, cuddle, and otherwise be romantic with the same gender? I understand there is usually overlap, but which one specifically defines your sexual orientation?

mr_throwaway64

sex

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Greetings r/sex! I have a question that a search through the archives did not turn up any answers to, so I figured I would ask here. I apologize in advance if this is a stupid inquiry, or if I squicked people out with it. Essentially, I am looking to purchase an anal vibrator, but really have no idea what is a good design or brand, so I am asking you redditors. Googling around, it turns out that you need to purchase one specifically designed for anal use because if they are not designed for that, they can apparently get sucked up and lost in the, ahem, cavity--resulting in a funny story for a paramedic, but not the poor user. So, my question for redditors is this: Are there any brands/models that you have used that you have particularly enjoyed? Anything else to know? <b>

b>: Want to buy an anal vibrator, need suggestions.

ridik_ulass

gaming

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Is it just me or is the gaming industry getting out of hand. lets examine the highly topical dragon age 2 in this thread as reference , now this isn't about how good or not the game is. this is about sales tactics that are quickly becoming industry standard. [firstly] pre-orders, every where every place encourages you with extra content to buy games in advance I haven't seen this commented on before but, considering PC games cant be returned (occasionally steam does if your nice) you are given allot of incentive to buy something you know little about. I like extra content,but (/me places on tinfoil hat) i cant help get the feeling that extra content may just be withheld content I saw on reddit a while ago,a info graph someone made about variety degrees of extra content and how some are purely decorative and some give players a unattainable permanent advantage in multi-player games [Secondly] that little knowledge we get for preorders come from limited sources. 1.reviews as we learned with the meta critic fiasco these can be bias, with companies potentially blacklisting reviewers preventing them from getting a game in advance and reviewing it or just reviewing it them selves and giving us copy pasta sound bites or the more blatant high percent of reviews that come from retailers themselves,retailers who have an obvious vested interest in selling these games 2.Videos , videos have a habit of showing more than they can deliver , (EG:my opinion of star wars force unleashed 1) they can be pure prerenders which will show little of the finished product and they display little more than graphics and nothing of what the game play or the feel of the game has to offer and they are inherently bias as they are officially released by the game developers/publishers 3.prequals , these are often the best way to judge a game, I liked the last one ill like the next I loved portal 1 IM sure i will like portal 2 so ill buy that, but going back to EA and bioware, EA have a habit of buying anything they can get their hands on and often running the franchise into the ground and ruining it, anyone play C&C 4 recently? as much as liked dragon age origins(and we wont go into my opinion of DA2) but they are very different games, and what exactly is farcry 2 a sequel too? it wasn't farcry that's for sure 4 demos, these are very good ways to judge a game, i can rarely fault any demo,but it will remain bias as it is the choice parts of the game the developer thinks will show the best of a game,but if a game is shit it will show through easily no matter how they frame it. so please more demos of games [thirdly] additional unlock able content (bribes) as the publishers look for new ways to advertise they look to things like twitter and Facebook,and are now encouraging you to become a fan and support the game, and inevitably encourage your friends to sign up to get extra content, often this starts before the game is released and thus people are bought into advocating a game they haven't played other content is unlocked by signing up for newsletters so they can advertise more of their unlock able content, and essentially buy your future obedience in such matters or buying other products from the publisher and finally buying your games from a specific location this is inherently bad, even if the customer is completely compliant they cant avail of every opportunity , unless they are mad rich fools lets make a real to world comparison here would you buy a car, based entirely on concept art ,prerendered drawing and a few bullet points(that may not make the final cut if production gets held up) and a review from the sales person that it is "maybe the best car of all time" knowing you cant return it if it doesn't meet the standards? for free alloy wheels? would you then recommend it to all your friends before you have tried it for a free rear spoiler? on these forums we say how EA abused meta critic to bolster their review rating (2 cases were knowingly observed) maybe more undiscovered? we saw how EA/Bioware blocked a consumer from playing their game for badmouthing on their forums (dispite EA's retraction and comment it was a mistake, I am under the personal opinion they only regretted this after the public uproar) we saw how a bioware forum user recived a warning(maybe automated) for making a comment on the homosexual nature of male companions in DA2,dispite this being the turth on the upside,with mmorpgs as they are, they are more like a real product than any other game genere, free test full game, ongoing maintence and service and clear signs of the games sucess and content by the poulation and activity of its community so...i cant think now where i was going with this,just had a rant flare up and had to unload. my toughts are now with the old republic, and how/if EA will fuck that up.... Edit:

gaming industry using underhanded methods to encourage sales of often non-returnable pre purchase's

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I'm 21, she's 22. She's from Montana(which is where she's living now), and I'm at KU. Now onto the current. We haven't seen each other for 6 months. I was supposed to fly up to see her in December, but both of us were a little broke, so it didn't happen. She's currently in the process of driving (she's never flown before and is terrified of it) from Montana, to here, roughly 21-22 hours away, because I'm on Spring Break. She was supposed to be here Friday. But, due to her lack of foresight, even with me reminding her, she didn't take her car in to get a check-up until the day she was supposed to leave. Didn't hear from her all day Friday until around.. 9.30pm? Told me she had been on the road since 5.30am, was tired, and was going to stop for the night. So at this point, she should have been at least 13 hours into said trip - over halfway there. Saturday, I can't get ahold of her. Basically all I had was her phone to try, but I started freaking out thinking the worst - car accident. Turns out she had been asleep for basically 24 hours from the long drive the day before. I was relieved, and let it go. She decided she'd get back on the road Sunday morning. Sunday night rolls around. She's not replying to texts or answering calls. I finally get ahold of her and she tells me she is in ..drumroll.. South Dakota . I do the math - she's made it barely halfway when she technically could have made it here and halfway back home. I call her out on it, ask wtf she was doing there, and I get yelled at because she had been stopping for hours at a time to visit friends along the way. Now, she never ONCE mentioned this to me. I was under the impression her trip was going to be a straight shot here. Now, today. Finally get in touch with her around 4.30 or so.. Her car started making funny noises the day before so she took it in to a shop in the town in SD she was still in (which I had no idea about). So her trip has taken her from going to be here Friday, to Saturday, to Sunday, to Monday, to Tuesday. How do I talk to her about this when she gets here? I'm beginning to question how serious she is about this relationship, or if she's really that interested in making this work. And how do I tell her that I am NOT the bad guy in this situation, and that she should have told me about her trip plans so I wouldn't be freaking out the entire weekend thinking she had been hurt? No

for you. EDIT/UPDATE: Little more story in the comments I've left on this posting, but she's still stuck in SD. I looked up the name of the place she's got her car at, and the reviews I've found online were.. well, disheartening to say the least. So the hope I have of her showing up is pretty much squashed. However, we're getting over being frustrated by the ordeal. She's genuinely sorry that our plans got ruined, and I'm genuinely sorry that I've overreacted at times over the whole thing. We'll figure something out soon :)

japaneseknotweed

politics

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I know this is long, but I really hope a few people with way more political savvy than me take a moment to weigh in. I had three sixth graders with me on a looong drive. They were at the stage where they were glorying in their new-found social awareness, frolicking in the heady waters of intellectual discourse. They were talking about monarchies, and kicking around the idea that a good king wasn't such a bad thing -- if he levied fair tariffs, used the tithes to feed a well-trained standing army, kept the barbarians away, and opened the castle to the serfs in times of war or pestilence, well then, why not let him train his princely son to take on the throne after him, and let everyone else get on with being blacksmiths or weavers? And they came to the conclusion that a good king = a good kingdom, and a bad king meant misery for the peasants. Then they asked me to explain communism/socialism, so I did as best as I could and they kicked that around. And decided that a good central committee = a good country, and a committee infiltrated by the greedy = miserable comrades. So THEN they took on free-market capitalism, and decided that the market really will reward the deserving... unless those who maintain the economic structure itself decide to selfishly manipulate it, in which case the bottom-rung consumers are screwed. They dove into a huddle for about a half an hour and finally announced: We think you grownups have got it all backwards. You're always arguing about which government is best: left versus right, socialism vs communism, but the real problem is that some people are jerks. And depending on which kind of government you pick, different kinds of jerks find a chance to get in and take all of the best stuff for themselves, either by fighting with swords or bribing suppliers or being really good with money and legal loopholes. And that's why governments need to change types once in a while. When you've had one kind of system for a while, you get a whole bunch of jerks who've had lots of practice manipulating that type. When you switch to a new system, it takes a while for the jerks to weasel their way in. But eventually they do, and then you have to change back. And that's a problem, too, because when governments change there's usually a lot of fighting and people get killed and cornfields become battlefields and people starve." (

starts about here) "So why can't people stop arguing about whose system is best and admit that they all work if you use them right, and what we really need to be doing is keeping the jerks out of power? Why don't we just pick one form and stick with it and make it as jerk-proof as possible? Or is that the real problem, that jerk-proofing is impossible? Because all systems have flaws, and there will always be jerks smart enough to find them, and we're doomed to keep switching back and forth?" Reddit, what would you have said? Music and math are my thing, not politics/economics. Is what they came up with hopelessly naive? Or simplistic-but-basically-right?

omfghi2u

Fitness

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Hey /fitness... long time digger (yeah, I know, boooooo!) but I quit that place a while back when it went down the tubes, took a break from user submitted content sites, then started lurking you guys (reddit as a whole) a couple months ago. This is my first post so pardon me for any redditisms/etiquette that I am unfamiliar with (I skimmed the FAQ). In any case, here's the deal: I'm 22 year old male, I'm 5'10", weigh 170 lb, I'm an Aero/astro engineering student at Ohio State, I'm a smoker, I drink, and I game. Long story short, since highschool I have been a lazy, make excuses all day long, procrastinating, alcoholic asshole. I've grappled with changing myself a couple times with mild success but I end up falling back into certain bad habits (read: 18 y.o. me w=220lb, it has gotten a little better). It's time for me to change and I'm dead fucking set on it this time around. Time to sack up and stop waiting until tomorrow to do shit. I live a (relatively) healthy lifestyle these days but I want more. I don't stuff my face, I bike daily (5-10 mi) and do a small strength regimen on the side (push ups, pull ups, squats, crunches, "plyo boxes" aka my porch stairs etc.). I enjoy manual labor (my favorite form of exercise) and I generally get a job landscaping 50-60 hrs/week over the summer months. I own a bow flex but barely use it... Here's where you guys/ladies come into play. I want to change my diet for the better. I certainly don't eat the best due to being a college student but the biggest problem is that I love food. For all intents and purposes, pretty much all food. I want to eat healthy but I need diversity. I would very much appreciate some tips and suggestions as to how to diversify my food portfolio but still be able to keep it healthy enough to knock off a couple more pounds of fat and potentially pick up a couple pounds of muscle. I have, in fact, used the search function and read a sizable quantity of posts about changing your diet to include more protein, reduce bad carbs, eat vegetables and fruit, monitor caloric intake, calculate body mass indexes based on caloric intake and activity levels, and think about suppliments/shakes/whey/whatever else. In all honesty, the amount of information is a little staggering to try and take in all at once. The main problem is this: every time people suggest food to help with this, it's always the same damn things. What I know thus far: Eat: chicken breasts, whole grain carbs, eggs, tuna, lean steaks, greek yogurt, cottage cheese, vegetables, legumes of some sort, fruit. Do not eat: chips, cookies, pop/soda, fast food, carry out, pizza, gravy, processed foods... etc. (obviously) Problem: I really don't think I can limit my diet down to eating eggs for breakfast, a tuna sandwich for lunch, yogurt for a snack, and a chicken breast for dinner. While I do enjoy all of these foods, I submit that there must be a more extensive list of things that are healthy for you. Even if I were able to do it for, say, 6 months or even a year, I cannot go the rest of my healthy existence eating 6 different things. I just enjoy too many flavors and different types of food to do this. Questions from me: Do you guys take cooking classes or know of a quality website dedicated to learning how to cook in a healthy fashion? After a brief google I found nothing that really piqued my interest. I feel like this is of utmost importance as learning to be an excellent cook can turn 6 ingredients into 100 different meals. (plus, hey, ladies like a guy who can cook amirite?) Do you think a bow flex is comparable to free-weight style work out equipment? I don't. Are there any exceptionally good and healthy soups or stews you guys enjoy? A good soup and a sandwich... yes please. Are there any lunch style meats that are better than others for making a sandwich? Tuna is okay flavor-wise I guess but I am having a difficult time shaking the mental block that it is like eating cat food. What should I be looking for in bread? At the store there is 12 grain, multi-grain, whole grain, glucose free whole grain, whole wheat, oat, rye, and like 5 others that all seem healthy-ish and really similar. How do I pick? I understand that I can always take a break from a healthy eating habit and have that pot pie or bbq pulled-pork sandwich occasionally but in order to break a habit you must first make a habit. I need to make myself eat better. I need diversity to do so. If anyone else struggled with this dilemma and has any special resources/charts/graphs/spreadsheets/websites that you use and wants to share, I would appreciate it thoroughly. Sorry about the long post but the

says if you didn't read it, don't worry about posting here. edit: a little formatting. edit 2: How do you guys feel about ketosis? I've read briefly that it can boost your fat burning rate because it changes your metabolism from using glucose as it's primary energy source to using fats. I've also read that it can increase your cognitive abilities... I take lots of difficult math so that could be a plus. Is it doable on a low-medium activity lifestyle or do you have to be a workout buff to pull it off?

dontletmebpreggo

TwoXChromosomes

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Throwaway because I'm embarrassed that I have to ask it, though I'm sure we've all been there. Three weeks ago, I switched from Lutera to Ativan. According to the pharmacist, they are the exact same thing. Or incredibly close. When I started this new pack (of Ativan, 3 weeks ago), I started it during my placebo pills from the previous pack and before my period started. So, in short, I skipped my period. My gyno, when we talked about doing this, said spotting could still happen during the time when my normal period would be, but it never did. Fast forward three weeks and here I am. I've been spotting for about a week now, but it's brown with a bit of... tissue? I guess is what you would call it? I feel completely normal- no cramps or anything. But this has been happening a week and I'm starting to worry. My big worry is that, at the beginning of February (re: two packs of BC ago), I was a day late on starting my active pills. I'm told you should use extra protection when that happens for the first 7 days after a missed/late pill. I waited 6. So I never had a period to confirm that I was not pregnant because I skipped it by starting a new pack early. So, uh,

two months ago was way late on a pill, month later start new BC during placebo pills and skip a period, two weeks later I'm spotting. I SHOULD start my "legit" period within the next 2-3 days, as I just finished my latest active pills. Is this anything I should worry about? The spotting? Is it just from starting the new pills and/or skipping a period? Sorry for the length. I just need one person to say, "you're crazy! you're fine!" and I'll stop freaking out. Thanks, 2X.

AmnesiaCane

politics

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I know this is a very long post, and I'm going to start by saying that I actually like the Representative a lot, I think it's wonderful that he really fights for what he believes in and does so rationally and with support in citeable fact most of the time. I think he makes an excellent representative, even if I don't agree 100% with everything he believes or does (although I seem to stand with him on most issues). I'm not sure I'd ever vote for him for President, but he is excellent as a Congressman, hopefully one day even a Senator. That said, I'm absolutely perplexed by the amount of attention that his AMA is getting. I think there's sort of two sides to the issue: The first is the beneficial side. It's beneficial to all parties the recognition from this. He gets more coverage from a pretty liberal community, and Reddit gets political recognition (in a good, non-Fox BS sort of way). He knows there's a large community here and indicates his desire to inform the people on his views. The more public forums available for people that politicians take advantage of, the better off everyone is. Reddit is also a diverse, but anonymous community, and this gave an opportunity for everyone to ask questions of a governmental official, regardless of whatever characteristics. Now for the bad: I, and a large number of people who commented seem to agree, feel that he provided little to no real substance in any of his very few posts. I recognize that he is a busy man, but many of his responses were borderline-offensively short, non-committal, and substance-free. The top five issues he addressed in video form: 1) His support of Israel. Only the most minuscule bit of research reveals that the Representative has expressed public support of Israel in the past, the question indicates that he has done so. In his response, he never touches on the nature of Israel's actions, which was the core of the question. He does actually respond to a further question, which was nice to see, but only discusses one incident that touches on the issue with information that seems to be rather contested. The general idea of peace and negotiations is a good one, to be sure, but he expresses no idea of how this should be done, what it should entail, or if he feels any one side has any particular rights or valid claims. His defense of Israel is limited to the fact that they are surrounded by enemies, and "what they represent." Defending an idea is commendable, supporting Israel with governmental money during a financial crisis needs defense in light of the OP's question. 2) Voting "No" to extend the Patriot Act: He gives a straightforward reason for why he voted it down: he was against the lack of any sort of time limit for the act, unsure of whether it was "indefinite" or "forever". This is a commendable thing, regardless of your view on the act itself. The act was never meant to become a permanent fixture to the law, nor should it be. I believe the core of the question was in hopes of getting an actual opinion on the act from a person close to it. The question was answered, but those hoping for any sort of discussion on the act were left wanting. His post was limited to disagreeing with, specifically, "a long term extension of the thing," with no comment on the bill itself. 3) Pot reform: Some people were "insulted" by the use of the word "kids". It seems unlikely that he meant anything demeaning by it, and I think the greater insult here is the single phrase response. Americans deserve a strong, legitimate explanation from their government as to why recreational use of pot, a narcotic less chemically altered and less long-term harming than tobacco and less mind-altering ability-impairing than alcohol, is still criminalized. This same, short "We don't like pot" from the government is getting far, far too old. Celebrities who drink and drive make the news and maybe spend a couple months in jail, college students who get caught with pot get expelled, fined and/or jailed, and a mark on their record forever. Regardless of personal opinion on the "morality" of marijuana, this NEEDS legitimate justification. I recognize that this may be a matter for the states, but the Representative expressed an opinion, as a governmental official, and his view matters. 4) Campaign Reform: A much stronger, more committal response than the previous ones. He strongly supports transparency and even publicly financed campaigns. Not a vague answer, but he still gives no more real information here. An equivalent example would be if, during the presidential debates, Obama had been asked if he were going to close down Guantanamo, and he responded by saying "Yes, I will close it if elected." It was practically a campaign platform. A committal response that repeats a very frequently repeated and very public view that doesn't give any noteworthy information whatsoever. It's a good thing he likes the idea of reform, but we already knew that about him. Again, the question really looks for detail, although in fairness, he does provide a few specific things he supports. 5) Obama so far: A difficult question, for sure, his response is also the most political of the top five. He does say he thinks Obama is doing a good job leading the country, gives an opinion on Obama's view of the nation, and then makes an important note for how he does one important thing differently that Obama does not. The problem is that terms like "leading our nation" and "leading our fight" are exceptionally, almost offensively vague. There is no substance to speak of in what those terms: "leading" can mean any number of things, from simply being the one responsible to guiding the politics in America to foreign affairs, and there is zero context to indicate what "our fight" is. The question was looking for content. He then clearly aligns himself with the progressives, saying on a very large liberal community that he is fights for progressives in a way Obama does not. Opinions of the motives of these comments aside, they seem to be deliberately vague and political. The Iraq War comment seems the most noteworthy not because he does not support it now, but because he supported it when it started. A very safe issue to admit to being wrong on. Representative Weiner, Reddit clearly very much supports your ability to recognize that which the people you represent feel is important, whether those are what you fight for in Congress or knowing enough about us to recognize Reddit. You are a very popular figure on this part of the internet, and rightfully so. I recognize that you are a very busy and important politician, and that Reddit is an online message board, but if you're going to do an "AMA" on Reddit, you should commit to providing real substance. Reddit is not a place to remind the public of your basic political beliefs nor are the questions meant to invoke short, cookie cutter responses that might be given in a TV interview. We're already on the internet, and as a politician, in seconds we could have found out almost everything you told us about your basic beliefs on the issues discussed. There was no new or even obscure information provided. With all due respect, if you're not going to truly recognize the community for what it should be, then please use your time more valuably. edit:

as much as the Representative's recognition was respected, his responses were trivial and vague, and not worth the time of either side involved.

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sex

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This post actually come from /r/offmychest, but in fact i'll give here more information than on the previous post. we live together for now 2 years and a half, and we're being a couple for almost 5 years. She is an asexual, in fact she can't have desire for anyone, she can still have desire with Sexual Fantasy, because the idea of having sex or erotic stories can aroused her. In fact, it is maybe strange for you, but the way she is horny is by taking the role of someone horny,and it works well. She is bi-romantic, so she can have feelings for both gender. So in fact we can have sex and everything is alright in our relationship.But the problem is no one support her about being asexual, she often heard she was sick. My own family is not supportive about it, for example my brother said when she was here that being with an asexual is boring and he would not understand why anyone would do that. I try to replay saying that if both are alright about it I don't see the issue, his only answer was "still" . We struck with depression and have seen psychologist, it is not about our relationship, it was about other things, job, family, not having a lot of friends, this kind of things. Even if it was NOT what she wants to talk about she say the fact that she is asexual. The professional answer was that she was sick,and the psychologist stay the whole session talking about it and how she have a problem, and our relationship have a problem. I think what shocked her most was that she said "If you don't want to have sex with him, why you do stay with him" . After an awkward silence due to her being shocked her answer (obvious for me) was "because I love him" . I'm not in denied, I know it CAN be a problem, honestly when we discover about this (I am her first partner), I was afraid she doesn't want me enough. But it's not just me, she can't recognize a facial expression of desire on someone face. We tried to see a lot of "beautiful people" in pictures, asking what she thought about it, they can find them beautiful, but she don't get attracted at all, she feels nothing if she imagine having sex with them, except being uncomfortable. Want an example ? we like anime style character,yesterday she sees this [slightly NSFW image]( and she says : "aww, she looks sad". That's not being sad...or is it just me ? looks like embarrassed to me. Anyway, I don't like how people want to judge our sex life, I think it's private and It starts to really pissing me off. Even if they judge I would like more constructive discussion, not saying asexual are sick and abnormal. I do my best but my girlfriend, because of this can't feel normal being asexual. In a way she don't feel normal because of it . I think people are not supposed to make a big deal of our sexuality, especially if we are happy about it. I want you being honest with me, and if you want to ask anything to me or her,just ask :). edit :

people say my girlfriend is sick because she's asexual, and i'm becoming sick of it.

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sex

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throwaway is obvious :D) Hey everyone! :) I'm a 20 year old guy and I've always been curious but the norms of society have always held me back from getting into the "more interesting" stuff like prostate stimulation. I'm a straight guy, so it always seemed wrong for me to do this kind of stuff, but I came to the realization that I shouldn't care what people think is weird or stuff like that. I'm confident about my sexuality and i wanna explore my body and bring as much pleasure to myself as possible! I've been wondering a lot about prostate stimulation, and frankly, im not quite sure how it works, why it makes your orgasm, how you do it, and what kind of preparation is required. I've only once put something up my ass and that was a.... less than great experience, especially because i was 13 and really hadn't thought about cleaning myself up beforehand :D That, and i used soap as lube (yup.. You can imagine how much that stung, but you probably wont get close :p) So

straight guy wanna try some prostate-stimulation. what should i do? how do i prepare myself and with what? Why does this make you orgasm?? Thanks in advance ppl :-) /Throwaway4analplay6 xD

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relationships

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On July 1st, I will have been with my boyfriend for 4 years - the last 3 of which we have spent long-distance. He has also given me our anniversary date as a deadline to see that I am actively trying to improve our relationship, otherwise, we will no longer be together. He wants me to work on my listening skills (including my body language, because he feels that I communicate that I am bored with my actions), making time for us to talk (I oftentimes get overwhelmed with school work, as I am a full time student at university who is working on her honors thesis, as well as my part time job), fulfilling my promises to him at a reasonable time (oftentimes he will ask me to do something, even as simple as giving him my mailing address for flowers, which I frequently prioritize after schoolwork - I am trying to get better on this), and trust. Regarding trust, we had taken a break a year ago and nearly two months thereafter I had a one-week fling with someone I had met at school. I was still in contact with my then-ex and chatted with him on a daily basis (except for two weeks leading up to the fling, because we had an argument). I had told him less than a month before the fling that I was considering getting back with him, because he was addressing the reasons why we broke up. At the time, I was quite confused what I wanted and went back and forth whether I wanted to date him again or not. Mostly, I wasn't sure if his actions to fix our relationship was temporary or permanent. We broke up for a number of reasons. He had dropped out of school without telling me, refused to get treatment for his depression, and was too dependent on me (I was his one and only priority). I was very upset that he dropped his university studies for a number of reasons. Neither my mother nor her sisters have university degrees, and I grew up in a household where education was highly prioritized. I grew up in poverty and saw university as a gateway to a better life; therefore, it troubled me that he stopped his studies. We had also been planning on studying abroad together for a year, and we selected the country and program (which I ended up spending a semester at) someplace we could both go. At the time, we had spent over two and a half years apart (we only see each other about three times a year, as he lives in a different country), and I wanted us to spend one year physically together. By dropping out, we were unable to spend time together abroad. Also, as he is from another country, I felt that getting a university degree was the only way he could enter my country without me having to necessarily get married to him - I felt very pressured after he dropped out, as I was the key for us to be physically together (I do want to marry him, but feel I am not at that point in my life yet). Lastly, I was frustrated that he did not tell me he was planning on dropping out of school. I could only help him after the fact, but not while he was trying to make this hard decision. I was hurt that he didn't feel comfortable enough with me to share his plans and the reasons behind them. I was also influenced to take a break, as he was also the only boy I had ever been with and vice-versa. I felt I needed time to reconsider our relationship. Right before my fling, however, he enrolled in another school, worked tirelessly to make friends, began seeing a psychologist and psychiatrist, and taking antidepressants. He was also doing fairly well at school. These changes lasted quite a while; however, things have recently been changing over the last month. He is unhappy with his life. I partly think it is because of us and our issues that I created by having this fling. He no longer seeks medical help, because he cannot afford the appointments or medicine - I have offered him money, but he refuses to take it, because I do not have much myself. He is still doing well at university, but is beginning to miss out on most of his classes again. He still has his friend network, but I worry he is seeing them less because of his university attendance. Anyways, I told him I would work hard to show him that like him, I can also make certain changes. I read the "Five Languages of Love" and have been doing a lot of online research on how to have a successful long-distance relationship. I am already trying to incorporate those suggestions, but he doesn't seem to notice. I am also working on a document with my notes from the materials I have read, and a calendar with things I should do everyday to show him I am committed to getting better. I am also trying to find out how to address the problems he is concerned with, but worry that some of these are chronic issues (e.g. Being a poor listener). I also worry that I can never get his trust back after hurting him so badly. I really want us to work out. I love him dearly. If you have any recommendations, I would greatly appreciate it. I have tried apologizing about the fling, but he doubts my sincerity. For a long time, I didn't consider it cheating, however, I felt it was wrong regardless. He considers it cheating and I only recently came to grips that that was what it was about three months ago. I oftentimes cry about having hurt him so much, and for a long time my self esteem was affected by it. I do not know what to do to make things better between us... EDIT: my boyfriend supports my university studies and even stays up with me sometimes while I pull all-nighters writing a paper for moral support. He often tells me that he admires my devotion to my studies and encourages me to be the top student in my classes. He wishes, though, that I learned to prioritize him the same way I do school, which is what I have a hard time with. As for the length of time left LDR, I finish my studies this year and haven't decided whether I will spend a year with him in his country with him while he finishes his studies or just get my Masters done with in one year. We have been talking about teaching English in Southeast Asia once we both finish, before settling down. I really love him and enjoyed the first year we spent together that wasn't LDR. Also, he is one of the most thoughtful people I know. For example, I was very sick with pneumonia and he stayed by my side throughout the whole thing - helping feed me, changing my clothes and my bedding because I was so sick that I couldn't move, bringing me little surprises he made by hand to increase my resolve. He also made me a silver engagement ring by hand with handwritten engravings. These are only a few of the moments that show how much he cares for me. **

my boyfriend has given me our 4 year anniversary as a deadline to show him I am working towards improving our relationship. He has asked me to address a number of issues including trust, as I had a fling while we were on a break a year ago. Other issues including my listening skills, making time to speak with him and making time to fulfill promises within a reasonable period of time (hard as I am FT university student and PT employee). Recommendations?

Anonymoususer1162

relationships

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I had feelings for this girl for a year now. We talk and hangout a lot and are great friends. In fact, she is everything I look for in a potential girlfriend. To be honest, she is my first true love. But I've realized that a relationship will never happen between us and I am slowly moving on from that desire. However, I find it incredibly tough to accept the failure, which eats me up inside. I know that it is high school, and that she isn't "the one", but how do I move on from her and accept my failure despite my strong feelings. I've failed at many things in my life before, but none of them has made me feel anywhere near this feeling and I am incredibly confused with myself as of now. **

how does one move on from someone they felt they truly loved?

badchristian

relationships

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To add to the title I assured her it was her choice whether or not to go through with it and we are not bf and gf we don't have a label. Anyways, we cut it short due to me going to work so neither of us finished leaving us...frustrated today. She is nervous and may want to wait before we do it again. However, I think it would be more thearaputic to have sex again just to relieve some tension. Again, if she doesn't want to, it's ok. Am I wrong for thinking this? Should I tell her this or just let it go? **

had sex with my gf now she's nervous/frustrated because we didn't finish. Has mixed feelings. I want to assure her it's ok, but sex might help.

iDecide_

Fitness

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Today was test day at school. Test day is the day our coach has us do our maxes to see how much we've improved throughout the term. We do backsquats, bench press and power cleans. But today we only managed to get through backsquats. So there I am,(newbie) stoked cause I managed to pull a plate (45 lbs) and the bar with ease. (40 lbs... adds up to 130) I had an experienced friend help spot me for testing. I do a practice rep, just to make sure I can handle it. "Hmm, too easy, add more" he says I start to get a bit nervous since that was going past my current max at the time. He adds 50 more lbs, adds up to 200 I still managed to squat it, no problem "Dude, still too easy, add more" adds 20 more lbs, 220 God, alright we get it So I capped out at 245(?) lbs which was freaking insane. Let me try and set an image for what the bar looked like: 10lbs,45lbs,45lbs,---BAR40lbs---,45lbs,45lbs,10lbs If I were to kinda

this: I've gone way beyond my max because someone said it looked too easy. Having a veteran spot you will benefit because they can tell if you're comfortable at a certain weight on something. They'll push your limits and let you realize you can do way more than what you can do now. You're probably going too easy on yourself if you can handle x weight with only a huff or two. Sorry I gave details on what I was squatting I'm just still really proud edit: I can see why alot of you guys are iffy about this. All I wanted was to share my accomplishment. I will try and get a video out to help get a visual and.. prove I can do it? Oh and I'm not super fit or anything, I'm on the + side. A couple months back which was the last time I was weighed I was 219

Baickie

summonerschool

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hey, so i have the idea in my mind to swap main role to top, because this is the only role ive never mained during the 4 years i play league :) im diamond IV this Season with maining midlane but i dont even like it anymore and i dont feel confident with locking in a midlane champion in champselect. so and toplane seems a funny lane because its alot about knowledge and there are fun champs that ive never played that much before. so i wanted to create a new account lvl it ect. and buy toplane champs and play ye just toplane :) so

is it smart to swap roles if you think u have more fun on the new role? cheers :) (if anyone has some cool advanced toplane tips oriented for higher elos feel free to send me :))

aramiara

TwoXChromosomes

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So I searched high and low for stories like these when I was getting my IUD installed at first, so I figured I should post mine. I decided to get an IUD the summer before my Sophomore year of College (08/2014). I was 19, a technical virgin, and was planning on removing that technicality in the upcoming semester. Talked to my doctor, she was fine with it, and referred me to the adolescent family planning center at the hospital. The Nurse Practioner she referred me to at the adolescent health center was not as fine with it, considering I was a virgin with no kids. She ran me through every little thing that could go wrong, and my other options, but I decided to go through with it. For some reason I remember the insertion being painful as my cramps, which are pretty bad. I did take advil beforehand and remember thinking that it clearly didn't work. But the insertion went fine, she talked me through it, and that was that. I didn't have to take medicine to open my cervix or anything which I know two of my friends had but all-in-all it worked out. I had the Mirena inserted, and was sent off to school with a note to come back in three months. For those first 5 months it was fine. I had 2 periods, some spotting, and cramping everyday at noon like clockwork for about a minute. I had no period for about two months after that first one. Then February hit. I was spotting and bleeding for seemingly no reason, which was beyond annoying. I felt like I had to check every hour to make sure I wasn't actually bleeding on days I was "clear" so to speak. It definitely made up for that no-bleed streak. Once February was over, everything seemed to settle down. No noon cramps, no weird out of cycle spotting, etc. I started getting regular periods and I thought I was good, until last week. I had really bad cramps, so much so that I excused myself from the evening activities from the trip I was on. Popped two ibuprofen, went to bed, next morning my period started. It was a day or two late, so I was expecting this. What I wasn't expecting was for me to shower later that night, and see my IUD strings sticking out. The thing managed to expel itself! After a year and a half! I was warned about the "three threes" - three days, three weeks, and three months, but I didn't know I still needed to be worried about it ejecting from my uterus after a year and a half. I called the clinic and once I was assured I wouldn't hemorrhage, I went out with my friends and everything was fine. Today (01/2016) I got Skyla inserted because I saw that a few people had said that if you ejected a larger iud it might make sense to try a smaller one. Also since my period decidedly did not disappear on Mirena, I figured there was no harm in trying Skyla. I wasn't exactly planning on having it inserted, so I didn't take any ibuprofen before going. Holy Jesus it hurt. We're talking cold sweats, hands shaking once we were, done hurt. All in all the physical discomfort of the insertion lasted about 5 minutes, then I came down from the pain, took 3 ibuprofen, and within an hour I was feeling pretty good. I'm going to continue to take ibuprofen and see what happens. Hopefully this one stays in. So, my

general words of advice: If your IUD expels on its own completely, just toss it and move on with your life unless you're going through more pads or tampons than usual - then you might be hemorrhaging. Insertion hurts. But according to the nurse it is about 1/100th of the pain of childbirth so suck it up. Take some advil/ibuprofen, don't plan to do anything strenuous, and (if you can) get someone to pick you up. The first 6/12 months are not rainbows and butterflies for everyone. Stick it out, and ye shall reap the wonderful rewards of not having a kid. Probably. Also don't let people talk you out of your birth control options. And make sure that if they do, they are at least knowledgeable in the way they do it. The NP wasn't lying to me, she was just making sure I knew I could bleed continuously for six months while having it, which prepared me for February.

Hounmlayn

summonerschool

t5_2t9x3

t3_41rp9x

Here's a good idea for many people who wish to do well and improve. Start a notepad, either actual paper or on your computer, and keep monitoring your ranked games. Monitor your overall games and your wins to losses, and keep a track of your current 10-20 games, the W/L ratio should fluctuate but if you're improving it should be >50% Write down anything you think contributed to your wins or losses, anything from afk and trolls and flamers on either team, to losing lane, Baron 50/50 throws or Base races. Also keep track of your own plays. If you watch your own replays this works even better, you get to rewatch your first death multiple times and see what in the few minutes before really set up your death, and how to notice it happening again. What did your enemy do to outplay you? Watch it again and take a note of it. Basically,

this post is keep a note this year on your games. Having a history monitored will help you look back at your 3-7 placement matches while you're going on 14-6 streaks climbing back to a division you truly deserve. Also making notes after each game really helps stop a tilt. It calms you down and really focuses your mind into the game instead of playing it (imagine watching lcs after each game you play and get pumped to play again). Any thoughts on this or ideas to improve are welcome. I'm going to do this myself and would love feedback and ideas. We could even make a monthly megathread where people post their own weekly streaks and individual notes so we can encourage each other.

SequinRococo

TwoXChromosomes

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My grandmother is getting older and older and it seems meaner and meaner. Any help we try to give her she dismisses as us controlling her. Example: she had kept it a long time secret that she has been walking around with a severely prolapsed uterus. She was having incontinence issues and we only saw how severe it was when she had a giant blood stain on her house robe. She lives alone with her husband. And even though we visit her, it's not something you readily notice until it is too late. She also was seeing a doctor who wasn't properly treating her. She would smell like urine, and when we confronted her she would scream at us and tell us to mind our business. She also suffered several serious UTI's....that also took much frustration to have her go to the hospital. So after much frustration, we finally have her go to a doctor who treats her. Luckily for us the hospital where she had her surgery, was affiliated with a geriatric rehabilitation center. So she didn't have to travel far to get more treatment for her legs, which due to diabetic neuropathy and a poor diet on her part, we're slowly degrading. And like magic, after only 3weeks, she healed from her surgery and was walking! Her diet was monitored, she was given activities and a personal PT/OT to help her gain back movmemt and independence. But during the entire stay at the rehabilitation center( which was nicer than some hotels I have been on vacation in) she would tell us that we shoved her into a home and want to get rid of her. That she was being starved and neglected. Her husband would call her 5xs a day complaining that he was hungry and she needs to get back home, and that we were horrible selfish people who only wanted her gone. So with her request we asked for early release. She speaks little English and her husband speaks none. She gets home, and she starts to smell again. Her house is dirty and she's back to eating fried foods, potatoes, candy, chocolate, bread and all things she shouldn't with diabetes. So she's back to square one. She's falling again. She's unhealthy and we have become horrible people that she tells to not meddle in her life. So we step back. We call her, we visit, but stop trying to give her any help. But: when she falls in the middle of the night, I get the phone call and rush to her. When she needs assistance we drop everything we are doing and go to help her. We've offered to have her life with us. She doesn't want to because she has a husband, who for some reason isn't available when she needs help. She also has home health aides, to help her feel independent at home. Those home aides end up calling me and my mother berating us for being bad relatives. For ignoring a poor helpless woman and how dare we this that and the other. They do this because she tells them about how horrible we are. And we can't complain to the agency because out of the 10women who have worked so far they are the most reliable, and at least are available to care for her while we are at work. There is more to this shit show, and I'm sure some of you are very familiar with this. Just looking for a safe place to vent/rant. Thank you. No

you can read it or you can not. I just needed to get it out.

TwoPhat

leagueoflegends

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Rengar pre-rework major issues: Resourceless ranged CC nuke harass (his bola). No counter play and frankly obnoxious for opponents to deal with. Lack of counterplay. This was mostly the result of his burst and stealth. Leading on from these, the anti-fun nature of the character for opponents. It was just plain anti-fun for opponents who had to deal with this playstyle. Other potential focuses for the rework: Bonetooth causes rengar to lose an item slot and is OP early game and promotes snowballing which it really shouldn't do. Post Rework update on these issues: Bola is a skillshot. This has its pros and cons, but it is the direction riot chose. The E changes Here are the important pros and cons: Pros: Damage did not need to be reduced Adds more satisfying gameplay to the champion Adds counterplay and generally balances the ability Cons: Slows down rengar's spammy playstyle. (This spammable playstyle is undoubtedly the result of Rengar's ferocity mechanic. The more you spam, the more you get your empowered ability. Hence, a skillshot really slows down that ferocity generation.) Has strange interactions with leaps. Kind of like this Overall the bola changes are fine. Post Rework update on these issues (continued): In regard to the counterplay issues, the new playstyle is perfect for dealing with this. From my experiences, it is a perfect balance. It is rewarding for the Rengar player, yet not too easy for the adc. HOWEVER, the indicator for enemies while Rengar is stealthed is a bit overboard. Bonetooth is much better now to. Not overpowered, neither a handicap for rengar, nor a ridiculous snowballing item. The only problem is the Khazix and Rengar battle is broken (Rengar gets nothing). Just a few other comments: Rengar IS NOT underpowered now. Rengar's new ult is STRONGER than his old one, lategame at least. (There are some hidden OP changes from this but I am gonna keep them secret :p. Lets just say AP Rengar got a massive buff among other things...) W changes were fine Q change were NOT. The Q Changes There is NO INCENTIVE to max Q now, it is vastly inferior to other skill maxing. It really needs to be able to hit towers. Rengars early game needs adjusting as well, but Riot knows this. SOOOOOO. WHY DID I WRITE THIS? I wrote this for 3 reasons: I personally have waited for this rework for 6 months, mostly because I was sick of Rengar's problems (the first thing i detailed in the post, not necessarily OP but anti-fun for opponents for sure). The rework has solved most of Rengar's issues and is a step in the right direction. RIOT YOU HAVE DELIVERED! :D Despite what Only Rengar and Ryan Choi say , the rework is a step in the right direction. It IS NOT Skarner rework 2.0. I agree with their points about the problems with the rework but the way they detail it portrays it as extremely negative. Riot did a good job and these players, respectable as they are, are just bitter that they have to adjust. If Riot perceive Rengar to be underpowered, because of the feedback that people are giving due to what they are lead to believe through various credible opinions on Reddit, they may over buff rengar. He will become FOTM and receive more nerfs. PLEASE NO! I waited 6 months so that my lion would be anything but overpowered. I don't want him to be a pain in the ass for my opponents, I don't want him to be a FOTM nightmare. We all know that after being FOTM nightmare you become extinct/unplayable for a duration as well. I am just saying, Riot don't over buff Rengar because of the uninformed and generalised opinion you receive. Similarly, players don't underestimate Rengar because of the salty opinions of some past/present Rengar mains who are being forced to adapt. For

read the bold text. Also I am not attacking Ryan or OnlyRengar, they are really good and respectable players. However, they do reflect the rework as terrible, which it is far from.

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17/f, 20/m) I'm going to make this short, don't want to bore you all. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 years, and we've been living together for about one year. The biggest part of this situation as that I live in Florida and he lives in Tennessee. If I move out, I have to get a plane ticket and go back to FL. Now, as for the story, I don't think it's very important so I'll just say that some things have changed and we need to break up. I love him with all my heart, he is my everything. Neither of us want to seperate but it is best for the both of us. So my dilemma is that I can't bring myself to go back home. I think it would be easier if I lived down the road, I could just walk home. But in this situation I have to physically push myself to walk away from him and onto a plane flying 600 miles away. I bought a plane ticket a few months ago and ended up skipping out on the flight (no refund, heh) because I really just couldn't bring myself to do it. We've known we need to split since about December, but sleeping in the same bed every night makes it difficult to get rid of each other. (Let me also add, that we are on great terms. Again, splitting is what is just best for both of us) A couple issues are that: 1) My home/family situation is really unstable and it's difficult for me to leave my lover/best friend in his nice apartment with everything I need, and go home to my terrible parents in a bad home on low income. 2) I don't exactly have the support that I need waiting for me back in FL. I have a couple close friends who just keep saying "you need to come home" but they're honestly just getting tired of it. 3) I know this sounds silly, but I'm worried about him and how he's going to do without me. I will be a mess but I know that I am capable of moving on. We have basically consumed each other's lives in the past 3 years and I don't know what he's going to do with himself after I leave. I was planning on telling his friends to make sure they do their best to take care of him and keep him happy, since I won't be able to. So,

please read, haha): I need to leave my boyfriend and move out of his home, and go back to my home 6 miles away, but I don't know how.

ALegalGuy

relationships

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t3_22qac9

Yeah. That was hard to type. The rest is worse. We've had a tumultuous marriage, she's been mentally ill for most of it except for rare instances when she got treatment and took medication. For the first four years I was told I was an emotional abuser. A year ago I accepted that, but now after seeking treatment I wonder if that's accurate. I have no idea. My therapist says I'm not the "type" that acts in that manner, and believes some of that may have been my own illness which was I diagnosed and untreated at the time (I wasn't allowed to seek treatment after my one therapist in that time suggested a separation, and during a fight she destroyed my pills) coupled with codependent "instigation" on behalf of my spouse. Over the course of our marriage I was lied to about the father of her child from a prior relationship, details of her past abuse (it seems every person she's been with has been abusive to a degree according to her), her illnesses (she had MS when we met...which disappeared when we moved closer to her family), her spending habits (I've had to borrow money multiple times to cover her shopping trips), and her interactions with others. I'm no angel. I have done some pretty horrible things...for a year I was an addict, and got clean. I tried to tell her when it was ongoing, instead she made fun of me to her brother, and encouraged him to join in. Two years ago we had sex after a bad fight. She started crying afterwards. Months later she told me she felt it was sexual assault, that she felt she couldn't say no. At the time, I had no idea. We had fought, but she hadn't acted or said anything before or during that made me think it was unwelcome. I encouraged her to get counseling for it, saying that I didn't know that and taking responsibility. I felt like shit, and did everything I could to encourage her to get treatment and work through those feelings and conflicts because I wanted her to be healthy even if it meant the end of our marriage. Did I mention she was on affair one at that point? She never went to treatment. She had three more affairs, and if I tried to leave or even indicated I may fight her at all in the divorce (there are kids involved) she would throw things into my face, at one point saying if I called her lover, who didn't know she was married, to tell him, or if I tried to file a contested divorce she would throw herself down the stairs and tell the police I did it. More than that, she hits me. I mean a lot. I've been kicked in the head, punched, shoved down stairs, bitten, threatened with a knife, and hit with a car. But if i say I'll call the police, she threatens me with saying she'll hurt herself to say I did it. She hasn't yet. More than that as well, I'm afraid that if I don't just let her do what she wants and how she wants, she'll try to keep the kids from me. She's tried multiple times to turn our oldest against me, which has tended to end in our oldest hugging me and crying about the things "mommy is trying to get her to say." To everyone she knows, she's Job facing horrible things and handling them with preserverance. I'm terrible. She tells me that nobody will believe me and she'll get anything because "she's already told people how bad I am, they'll believe her in court." She even uses my career against me. I'm an attorney. The last several times I've tried to get out, she's threatened to file criminal reports to have me placed under bar investigation. The last time she told me "If you don't just let me do this, I'll make sure you never practice law again." I'm genuinely scared. I'm a big guy, and she's tiny. Nobody will believe me (I actually do a lot of pro bono work with abuse victims...I know how this goes). If I try to leave in a way that lets me protect myself, my rights to my kids, my share of the property, or goes against what she wants at all, I'm afraid I'll end up ruined. I feel like I don't have any options other than to just stay here a mental and physical mess until she's done playing with me and moves on to another target. If I leave, I lose everything. I can't summarize this...I'm sorry...I read the sidebar but I don't know how to

this one. I know what I need to do, just not how to do it.

fffwalker

relationship_advice

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t3_22qifg

Once upon a time.... there was a sandy-haired boy and a dark-haired girl who were best friend for years before they started dating, and right before college that turned into more. We dated long-distance through college and were head over heels for each other, first love, crazy love, all of that. After college (~ 3 years of dating) we moved in together and things were going really well (he moved to my city, we got a cat, joint banking account etc). The next year he got accepted to grad school in a different city (our home town, actually) 3 hours away. Things got rocky, he didn't want to ask me to leave my job and friends and move with him, I was okay with it but wanted some type of commitment (my family and friends were pressuring an engagement, at this point we had been dating for 5 years). In the end we decided to try long distance, but were both nervous about it, and before school started he sort of panicked broke up with me, pretty out of the blue. He said he was nervous that trying to date through school would ruin our relationship, and mentioned he wasn't confident enough that he wanted to marry me to drag me through that, and being in a relationship so serious so early in his life scared him. But he did love me, and nothing was wrong in our relationship other than the fact that he was going to be in another city and very busy for the next 2 years. I was confused and heartbroken. Had always been a little worried that I was the one who loved more in the relationship, and felt like this cemented that. It was a difficult breakup because our lives were so intertwined (mutual friends, family, the cat, and in addition to being partners he was my best friend). I wasn't really interested in finding other guys, and felt sort of convinced that he would come to his senses. Even during the break up he would contact me to say things like he still loved me, and he still hoped we could have a future together, it was really confusing. After about 6 months he asked to get back together. Event though it's what I had been wanting I said no, out of pride, and just general skepticism and uncertainty. I didn't (and still don't) understand how you can break up with someone you claim to love, and be okay with hurting them so much. He says he regrets it and that is wasn't logical but just a huge mistake, but making it helped clarify what he really wanted, and that he knows we should be together and wants a future with only me, and asked for an opportunity to show me he's serious. [[

after a 5 year relationship + living together, he broke up with me when he got accepted to grad school in a different city - i was beyond crushed. then after a few months said he made a huge mistake and wants to be back together forever.) Sooo he's currently trying to earn my trust back, I didn't want to jump into anything, we've been taking it slow for a few months he's been doing everything right, and I'm happy when I'm with him. But I'm hesitant to officially get back together because I just can't get past the fact that he was willing to throw our relationship away and had so many doubts about us. Has anyone been in a similar situation, or give some insight on "not realizing what you've got till it's gone"? I feel like some days I wake up and think "What a dummy for hurting me so much me and not appreciating me, I deserve someone who loves me without question" and other days I think "He knows now! He's my lover and my best friend and I can't picture my life without him". Having a hard time determining what's just my pride and self defense, and what's my instincts saying run, he doesn't love you like you deserve! And of course, it's reeeeeally hard to ignore the part of me that is crazy about him, regardless. Halp. Thanks in advance for any insight.

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Games

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Thought this deserved a submission as I doubt the gaming press will give it the attention it deserves, if only for how damned interesting it is. Not sure how else to report this except in a series of forum links and descriptions: The forum (all the threads can be found here): Start here: A seller named DavidG sold this guy "Aerofighters 3," notable for the fact that it's supposedly U.S. region and an AES version of the game (they were used on the home systems and are more rare/valuable.) Also, supposedly only a few copies in existence and their authenticity is in question. Charmane bought it for $30k and is now sure it's fake. That's the basic story. From there, it's like the TNA episode of South Park where they make fun of WWE stories-- it just gets more ridiculous and dramatic. All these people were involved with the sale, some claiming to be experts, some forum villains becoming heroes and vice-versa. They've all known each other for years and seem to have built up a very tight knit community complete with it's own politics, made up of people from all over the world. Reading through these posts, you find these intense monologues about guys flying to other countries to buy rare neogeo games, only to find the game wasn't in the condition described. Or how one guy learned all about neo-geo from another, only to betray his friend and use the knowledge to profit off of selling games to the community. In the thread linked above and below, you'll find the weird stories of just about everyone on the forum spilled out, with extra venom. It all has a logical flow though. You'll find yourself convinced by the evidence in one post (and by "evidence," make no mistake-- these arguments over rare items and thousands in cash rest on 90% opinion, give or take a little.) Then the next post will have you convinced the other way...of course, I mean this in a Maury Povich kind of way. It all surrounds the nucleus of the seller and a few forum members who helped him sell tens of thousands in games. Everyone is attacking or defending their credibility, with other people attacking/defending the people who attack/defend and so on. Like I said, there's clearly a lot of money involved. They are not just typical forum nerds, but forum nerds with lots of money seeking highly rare video games. On one hand, you have people who collect by scouring flea markets and such, hoping to score super rare games from unknowing hicks. On the other, some guys with cash to burn shooting for games with 10, 50, 100, etc. copies in existence. We've seen this before. But this is the most candid look you'll get at these communities. You really have to wonder if this was a major counterfeiting scam, but it's hard to remember how illegal it is since the forum members seem to care more about their reputations, the reputation of the buyers/seller, more than the money at this point. On the other hand, maybe the buyer just had bad buyer's remorse. The seller claims he will produce evidence and make it all right and is posting actively. Here is where it stands now. It's hard to track everything. But the

is that DavidG talked with other members about selling the games but kept it off the forums. During this, the members "authenticated" his games and said they would vouch for him. I think they may have purchased copies from him as well. These members then found buyers and told them they wouldn't reveal the seller until purchase. One of the guys who received a game that he paid $30k for then made a thread about how it's fake and all hell broke loose and suddenly everyone hates everyone and is pointing fingers left and right. The seller offered a refund, but it's difficult to say if the buyer even accepts it. He hasn't even mentioned it. In fact, nobody seems to care much about the value as much as they care about their reputations in the neogeo community! So, if you're a fan of forum psychology or collector community insanity/video game history (these people are all about showing off with knowledge of interesting SNK history haha), this is a goldmine.** Links to other important megathreads on this: DavidG reveals himself as the seller and tells his story: DavidG offering refunds, but reiterates that he was an employee of SNK, which many say is a blatant lie. He also mentions he has tons more to sell: Dion giving his opinion after not posting for 10 years, after massive amounts of controversy: Mod resigns amid allegations of fraudulence: Refresh these threads for more drama. Hope someone else finds this interesting. I'm bored before school starts and gladly let myself get sucked into reading.

CraptasticCommando

wow

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t3_xs0e1

As a game that is highly competitive to the point where your guildies try to be the first one to top level, is

a good way to enjoy the game when it comes to quest descriptions and storylines?

Erachten

gaming

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t3_xs6ho

I've been seeing a lot of posts and articles lately that are pretty much 'I'm a girl. I'm a gamer. Yes we exist and I'll probably pwn you in Halo. Having boobs, while awesome, doesn't mean I can't game too. So STFU because you probably just got beat by a girl.' And everyone will rejoice, and karma will be thrown out like beads at Mardi Gras. My question is, well, stated above. Because I'm pretty sure it's known that they do exist. Are kids in halo still going to be like "wow, holy crap a girl. Hey, can't I get you number? Can you send me a pic of your tits plz, lol, j/k....srs?" Yes, of course. They will always be that way. In the same way that they constantly swear, assume every person is homosexual, and would testify in court that they slept with your mother. But for the normal population, this isn't new. When I was a kid (we're talking like 10-15 years ago) yea, it was rare. I assume because back then it had more of a stigma and most guys would be viewed as outcasts or weird if they gamed hard. Girls, typically wanting more acceptance, would probably then keep quite about their gaming habits or not develop any to avoid the stigma. So back then, yes, it was slightly rare and cool to find a girl that games. But now it's not. Somehow, if your a girl and game, you've just become more awesome to about 83% of the male population. Even guys who aren't gamers think it's cool if a girl plays video games. What we don't need is you announcing that you play games. Now if you're defending yourself because some dumb guy is trolling about girl gamers, that's fine. Rock out. But so many of these are just "I'm a girl and I game. I hate the attention I get, I just want to game lol." (subtext of please notice and up vote me) If you want to be a gamer, awesome, be a gamer. But stop trying to create a prestige class of "Girl Gamer". Especially if your then going to complain that people treat you different. My wife, shes games. Console, computer, board, she's does a little of everything. Not once has she felt the need to announce to the world that she knows how to use a controller. And to finish, lets just define a few things here. If you're a gamer, it usually means that you not only play a lot of games but that you usually have an association with the culture (whether it's following gaming sites, or web comics, or forums, or reddit ect.), although not always. If you want to 'prove your cred', for the love of everything good and holy stop using games that you see commercials for on tv and have mainstream tv characters playing. If you pick up halo once in a while, you are not a gamer. You are someone who has played a video game. You don't need an obscure reference most don't know but pick something that isn't currently advertising and that might actually require a time commitment. Baldur's Gate, Metal Gear Solid, Morrowind, Catherine, Quake, Command and Conquer, any of these would be good for various reasons. Of the many posts and articles and videos I've seen lately about 'Gamer Girls', almost all of them have used either Halo or Battlefield 3 as their proof of being a gamer. In conclusion, please do not take this as an attack against girls who are gamers. You're awesome, we love you, keep doing you. The

version of this is basically : If you're a girl who's a gamer and post these things, stop it. We know you exist and even though you say you're tired of attention, you're probably doing it for the attention. If you're a girl who has played a video game and is posting as a 'gamer' stop it. Unless you're truly a gamer you can't cash in on this whole new 'nerdy girl = hot' thing. It's one of those things that if you want to stop being treated differently, you have to stop acting like you're different and special.

Fautlen

relationships

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So since I am a big believer in context here is the run down of the current situation as of today. Last week my best friend, who we'll just going to call Sally, calls me and tells me that they are going to kill themselves. I've known Sally for four years now and we met when we were both in college. Being my best friend I obviously do not want them to go through with this course of action and spent several minuets calming them down long enough to get them to wait for me to come over to their house and talk to them in person. After Sally ended the call I contacted the campus police at the college we recently graduated from and managed to have Sally's counselor call her. Long story short she either had the option of coming down herself or having the local police track her down and bring her to school forcibly. Since then Sally has seemed, for a lack of a better term, 'stable'. She hasn't really been happy or better in any sense, but she hasn't really gotten worse either. I've tried to keep in contact with her every few days to at least see how she is doing as well as making sure she doesn't cut herself off from the world. That would be a huge step backwards, but she still seems to be just as miserable with herself as the day before she called me. As her friend I feel that I should help her in some way, but I know that the root of this problem is that simply Sally hates herself. A lot. So Reddit what kind of advice would you recommend to help out a friend who doesn't love themselves? So for a little background on my friend. Sally has had a less than joyful life that has instilled a deeply rooted sense of self-loathing. They come from a broken family where the dad was an alcoholic and the mother was, and still is, a perfectionist who cannot tolerate anything that goes outside of their preconceptions. I know some level of abuse took place in that family. Although what and how much I am not aware of. Understandably it is not a topic I try to bring up or one she cares to indulge in. On top of that was the fact that she was bullied extensively through out middle and high school. Along with that Sally is also feeling very frustrated with having recently graduated from college and having a hard time finding a job that can support her. She did have a job not to long ago but was laid off and has sense moved back in with her father due to necessity. More to the point is that they feel very defeated and frustrated that they worked so hard through college to earn a degree that they felt pressured to get so that they could move away from their parents. However they now find themselves in the exact position they were trying to avoid. Real hard blow to the self-esteem. As for the rest of Sally's friends, it is really a mixed bag. She has a boyfriend who loves her, but isn't very sure how to handle this situation. Well meaning but incompetent is really the best way to describe him. He wants to help, but wanting to help and actually helping are two separate things. Sally has another friend who she enjoys hanging out with, but who I feel is a very negative influence on her. They are very immature, clingy, and are basically the very bowls of /b manifested in a socially awkward female. There is another friend as well who is very supportive and calm, but unfortunately the clingy one is almost always not very far behind them. So

my best friend tried to kill themselves last week and I need some help on how to get them the help they need.

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Fitness

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This gives anyone who is feeling

the chance to turn back.

Throwthisaway1127

relationships

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t3_xwrml

I (23f) have been with a m23 for a year and a half. We've been in love, stuff has been bad, stuff has been good, but the crux of the situation is occasionally he would say "I've been in long term relationships for too long, I love you, but I don't want to be in a relationship". We've broken up and got back together over this, we've had fights, I've been insecure because of this whole thing hovering over everything and we've now been broken up for a while because of it (It's probably unnecessary to add in all the bits where I'm like "they're still incredibly affectionate and handsome and intelligent and funny and I'm worried I won't meet someone this engaging for the rest of my life blah blah blah" But it's true) I acknowledge that this is bad, that we are incompatible, that we shouldn't be together and we've been apart for three weeks now and I have no intention of going back but my problem is I am finding this more difficult to move on from than any other relationship because I know, if I went back, he would still have me. Not in the way that I want, he'd still talk about finding himself and how he needed time to be single and couldn't fully commit to a relationship etc. and this is bad but he'd still have me for a while longer. And considering how much I'm in love with this person it's hard not to have thoughts like "I should have been a bit more patient" or "I'll get a bit more time with them, even if they don't see a future with me" and I don't know how to make these stop, even though I know they're unhealthy. It feels like breaking up hasn't properly happened because of it. So my question is the the same as my

how do you get over someone if you're in love with them and you know they'd still take you back?

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relationships

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t3_2ywdfd

So I am i grad school now and am living with 4 roommates now in a 4 bedroom house. Of course with 4 guys living together we are bound to do little things that annoy each other eventually, but for the most part I feel like I have gone out of my way to be nice and respectful to everyone. I've never made any personal attacks toward everyone and if anyone ever tells me I am doing something that bothers him, I try to take what they say to heart. The problem is 1 guy, let's call him Bob. Bob has said some really condescending things to me, or made really personal attacks when ever we have a disagreement; normally these disagreements are about things like sports, dating advice etc. For sports, when ever my team loses, he will constantly talk shit to me and tell me how incompetent the managers and players are. Normally this is fine because I talk like this to my other roommates to. The difference is, my other roommates can take it when I give it back to them. With Bob, if I ever say anything about his team he raises his voice, makes really derogatory remarks about me ( basically telling me I have no idea what I am talking about) and throwing a tantrum. If I ever state my opinion about anything actually he seems to get this way. Another example was one time we were all talking about girls and 1 of the guys was saying how "it's such bullshit that when it comes to sex and relationships, it's always what the girl wants and that the guy was pretty much no say". When I told him I dunno about that, I've turned down girls for sex before, Bob replied " well that's probably because you are on anti-depressants". I told him that in confidence and was pissed that he felt that that was ok to say. I've talked to him before that, he comes of really condescending and mean, and that I have no problem if he disagrees with me, but that I am not ok with him making personal attacks or raising his voice at me. Since then I have been generally avoiding him. The other problem is that Bob is kinda OCD and literally whenever I run in to him he constantly feels the need to remind me that I am not pulling my weight around the house. Some examples are that I don't take out the trash enough. The trash needs to be taken out about 2-3times a week usually and I usually take out the trash once a month. The reason is because I literally never use that trash can, and my 3 roommates eat out every single day. My contribution to that trash can may be 1 can of tuna a week ( if that, I buy in bulk and cook all my food, and what trash I usually have I throw away in my own trash can in my own room). Whenever I try explaining this to him he gets more upset and makes condescending remarks about it. Sometimes I forget to close the garage door and now every single time the door is open he feels the need to tell me to try to be more thoughtful next time. It's gotten really condescending. I finally confronted him today and asked him if he has a problem with me, and his response was basically that I am too sensitive and that he is tired of dealing brining it up. He says that most times when we are arguing that he doesn't even know we are arguing and is surprised that I am offended and that he has never made any personal attacks. For the record, I spoke with my other 2 roommates and they both agree that is has been really condescending and that he does throw tantrums but that I should just ignore it. He finally admitted that he does have a problem with me because I am an inconsiderate roommate because I don't take out the trash enough or because I forget to close the garage door. For some context this guy has: blasted music at all hour of the day, constantly leaves his drugs and drug trash scattered on the living room table, invited guests over to spend the night in our common area ( for days at a time sometimes) without asking if it's cool or even giving me a heads up. I've never brought any of these things up until today when he called me an inconsiderate roommate, and when I told him he does really selfish things too, he was completely oblivious to it, though he seemed to get it when I told him the list of things above. I honestly feel like I've done everything I can, to deal with this guy in a mature way but it's driving me crazy and I don't know how much longer I can keep it together. I can't move out until my lease is up in 4 months. What can I tell him to just say, dude stay out of my fucking way and be civil for the remainder of my time. We have a car pool permit together, but I am gonna try to see if it would be possible to get a temporary permit for myself in the mean time. **

roommate is a condescending jerk, don't know what more I can do to deal with him.

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gaming

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t3_2yy5z7

What exactly is multiboxing? >How do you guys feel about people who multibox? >Would you do it if you could? I want to know how other people feel about it. I've multiboxed no more than 4 characters. Some people gave me flak while others commended me for it. It wasn't against the rules but should I still do it? >What is multiboxing? see this [wiki](

have four characters logged in and you controll them all at once, press up they all go up. press attack they all attack

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tifu

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t3_2yz3bx

I'm not sure if this violates Rule 3, but it's Friday, and this disaster just occurred as I was leaving work to begin my weekend. Being on antibiotics, I've been gassy as hell these past few days, and today it culminated to disaster. I left work feeling great, but had a sudden deep rumble down under. I walked the few blocks to the subway, trying to force relief by gaseous expulsion, but soon realized that this was no mere stink cloud behind my growing discomfort. Not having any options nearby, I walked as quickly as a man with clenched buttcheeks can move. Steps impeded by the impending sense of doom, and the boulder knuckling itself against the inside of my ass, my gait was too crippled to reach my destination. That and the urging aroma of fresh coffee as I passed the Starbucks, and the burning envy I felt of a dog, carelessly plopping out a fresh one on the sidewalk was all too much. The magnificent beast defeated the iron grip of my asscheeks, and began forcing its way out of my ass like a chest burster ripping from John Hurt's chest in Alien. Thank god for tight boxer briefs - the mess was contained. No time to prepare myself, I ripped my pants down and collapsed onto the toilet seat. Little did I know, there was a conference getting out as I continued to exorcise the bean-and-salsa-fueled demons of my bowels. As bad as I felt bad for the stream of guys coming in to pee at the urinal next to me, I felt worse for the guy who came in to use stall after I exited. I tried my best to clean myself and the toilet, but the damage was too severe, and I used the entire industrial roll of TP. Hairy as I am, it was, as the saying goes, like trying to wipe peanut butter out of a shag carpet. Not only was the trek home bad enough for me with my mess, but I was in a state of panic over the potential of being identified as the source of the gaseous offensive that could land me on trial for war crimes. I felt horrible for subjecting the rush-hour crowd on the subway to the suffering induced by the stench of my bean-and-beef-encrusted asscrack as well. LPT/

bring a bag to store your dirties, and babywipes to clean up after yourself.

[deleted]

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_2i667e

My boyfriend is wonderful, funny, generally sensitive, bit of a child like temper over dishes, handsome, plays music, very smart, quirky, special guy. However he lives in the town he grew up, so there is a lot of small town baggage, I've gotten over the ex girlfriends but his friends just really suck. About two moths ago one if them tried to beat me up in our own home after another one of his shitty friends tried to call me an asshole and told me that "everyone here thinks you're an asshole", drunk me tried to be calm at first and then yelled audibly at everyone to get the fuck out of my yard if they thought I was an asshole. The whole thing was started by one of his best friends saying that I was trying to upset her by talking about the history of the word 'retard'. When I told everyone to leave, one of his shitty friends came running at me swinging. He jumped between us. I had a horrible panic attack and cried for two days, it was really traumatizing. One of his other friends (a best friends girlfriend) had taken my sincere attempts at connecting to be weird bad vibes and assumed that I was talking shit to her in code. She also ends every text message with 'namaste' while literally hating everything. I'm still nice to her even though I know all the weird shit she has said about me. Point being, now I'm not allowed at the girls house who tried to fight me, which I wouldn't mind if his best friend didn't live there also, and his other best friend the one who actually thought my conversation about linguistics was meant to make fun of her dead cousin. Right now I'm sitting alone while my boyfriend parties with mutual friends and a bunch of assholes and I'm not allowed to be there because ghetto girl tried to beat me up. I try not to get upset but every time I do, it really leaves me feeling left out (I'm the youngest of six so this doesn't vibe well). The girl who misunderstood my conversation has apologized profoundly to me, and the only reason I'm not allowed over is because this ghetto girl tried to beat me up in my own home. It infuriates me to see people not stick up for what is right, and my friends would never tolerate this shitty behavior, everyone is always welcome and especially new partners of close friends. I wish he would just not hang out there, if it were me I would make people come to our house since everyone is welcome. He doesn't really go out of his way to make me feel welcome, he does hang out there less but it really hurts whenever there is a birthday party or special event and I'm not allowed. Or when friends are visiting and she throws a get together. It makes me want to Not allow these assholes over, but i know that would just totally destroy our relationship in a bad way. <b>

b> on of my boyfriends friends (female) tried to beat me up in my own home, now I am not allowed to hang out with him at said house which also happens to be the house of two of his best friends.

Hippopotacrite

leagueoflegends

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t3_2i6vmn

I'm a graphic and webpage designer and one of my friends is a Diamond 1 player. Basically we had an idea for a website and are interested in whether or not you guys would want something like this. The website would contain guides and tutorials for every champion in the game. However we wouldn't stop where most guides do as far as only listing item sets, abilities and common lane match ups. We would go into deep detail on each champion covering things like basic mechanics, advanced mechanics every possible matchup (assuming its a meta pick) how to play each matchup, what the enemy might do during that match up and how to be prepared for it. What items to build in general as well as what items to build in every single matchup. We would also cover tutorials on general things like warding, where to ward, when to ward but on a large scale covering things like where to ward if you're ahead, behind, preparing for a dragon or baron etc. We also would cover teamfighting for every champion but our idea was rather than listing every possible team composition we would list what every champions main goal in a team fight is and how that champion is usually played in a teamfight, therefore if you read up on all the champions you'll have a good understanding going into a teamfight of what to watch for and how to react. We also would have other features like patch notes, lcs standings and stuff like that, that isn't any use as far as tutorials go but our goal if we do create this website is to make it a one stop shop for everything LoL Related. No

on this, Please take the time to read it and give us feedback on whether you guys would like something like this aswell as any features you think we could add.

Hippopotacrite

summonerschool

t5_2t9x3

t3_2i71l6

I'm a graphic and webpage designer and one of my friends is a Diamond 1 player. Basically we had an idea for a website and are interested in whether or not you guys would want something like this. The website would contain guides and tutorials for every champion in the game. However we wouldn't stop where most guides do as far as only listing item sets, abilities and common lane match ups. We would go into deep detail on each champion covering things like basic mechanics, advanced mechanics every possible matchup (assuming its a meta pick) how to play each matchup, what the enemy might do during that match up and how to be prepared for it. What items to build in general as well as what items to build in every single matchup. We would also cover tutorials on general things like warding, where to ward, when to ward but on a large scale covering things like where to ward if you're ahead, behind, preparing for a dragon or baron etc. We also would cover teamfighting for every champion but our idea was rather than listing every possible team composition we would list what every champions main goal in a team fight is and how that champion is usually played in a teamfight, therefore if you read up on all the champions you'll have a good understanding going into a teamfight of what to watch for and how to react. We also would have other features like patch notes, lcs standings and stuff like that, that isn't any use as far as tutorials go but our goal if we do create this website is to make it a one stop shop for everything LoL Related. No

on this, Please take the time to read it and give us feedback on whether you guys would like something like this aswell as any features you think we could add.

Taway1961

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_2icarb

My boyfriend (now ex!) and I have been together 2.5 years until he broke up with me yesterday morning. I have been incredibly unhappy through the duration of the relationship but never had the strength or courage to leave for fear of losing everything that I invested into the relationship. I was always the most emotionally / financially invested person and I couldn't bear to walk away - I just wanted to wake up one day and have him be the man he claimed to be when we first started dating. But now that it's done I'm not sad about what I have sacrificed and I am not sad because I cannot imagine him not being in my life. I am thrilled about life again and what it has just around the corner for me. Does that make me a bad person? Why would I miss someone that treated me so terribly? **

boyfriend dumped me (2.5 year relationship). I cried for an hour when he left and less than 24 hours later, don't feel anything but joy and optimism. Is there something wrong with me?

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leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_3je9t0

Last season watching the video i saw a huge flaw in their system, seeding didn't take preference. What do I mean by this? Well nick Allen posted the video and showed us how riot got the groups that they did but they completely randomized the draw. Meaning teams in pool 3 and 2 can effect what groups the top seeds can go into before they even get drawn. My point is a top seed shouldn't have to be moved away from a group because a lower Seed from their region was randomly chosen first, it should be the other way around. How to get around this? Draw each pool separately starting with #1 seeds first. Then you do 2nd group and finally the 3rd. What you don't want to happen is have is a the 3rd group drawn before the 2nd because it can really destroy odds for teams. Picking up an lcs team from group 3 early is really hurting the odds of #1 seeds picking up a favorable match up in groups and that doesn't seem right. Edit:

higher seeds shouldn't be forced into a group because a lower Seed gets drawn first

ghost_movement

tifu

t5_2to41

t3_38phcg

A friend was in a terrible state due to the suicide of one of his friends. Reluctant to do anything that night, I suggested we go see some standup comedy. It should be a good time and a chance to get out of the house. We arrive at the venue, and a couple minutes into the set, the comedian says, "Well, it's time to get a little real. I actually wrote my own suicide note last night." Friend says, "I'm sorry, excuse me," and leaves to use the restroom. He left for the majority of the special. And I felt like a jerk. No

this is short enough.

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wow

t5_2qio8

t3_38sp13

Hello guys! Sorry for spawning yet another one of these threads, but after lurking the sub for a few days I couldn't find a thread with circumstances THAT similar to mine so I decided to make my own. Long story short, I'm one of those players that's been around, on and off, since TBC. My last iteration was during MoP, a bit after launch until what I believe was patch 5.3 (whenever the Barrens Battlefield thing happened). I had a lot of fun during that time; I was a bit skeptical at first, but I found the expansion fun, I enjoyed exploring and knocking off old content to collect stuff (mounts, achievements and xmogs, mostly). However, I ragequit when they revealed the store helmets. A bit silly in retrospective, but to be honest I was also desiring to try new things after a few months in WoW and the sub reduced my flexibility in doing those, so that was probably the biggest factor, while the helmets were merely a trigger. Fast-forward to a few days ago when I started to have this itch to play again. I've always been a bit of a Warcraft nerd, so I deduced my return was inevitable, although Hearthstone (which I play often) helped me delay it... but those playtime tokens look damn appealing, since one of the things holding me back is the sub price. While my region, EU, asks for a much heftier amount of gold than NA, it still strikes me as an affordable price, as I don't recall that type of money being that hard to come across even in MoP. Still, as it stands, the expansion is still a bit too expensive for my tastes, so I'd like to ensure that I like playing the game before taking the dive. Incidentally, there's a 10-day trial that I still haven't used, and since one of the things I love doing is poking around old content and failing to level alts, I figured getting a token during that time would be a decent investment, as it'd allow me to have an "extended trial" of sorts and start my "sub-less life" right away. For some context, I only have one level 90 character, a druid. He's not clad in super fancy armor, but it's level 90 epic armor which made it easy enough to deal with MoP rares and such as I recall. I also have ~17K gold to begin with (I could have more, but shiny mounts were hard to resist heh). The other two high level characters I have are on their 70s, so I doubt they'll be of much help (and they are on different servers). I also can't play nonstop sadly(?), so I'm looking to reach 40K-50K gold in 10 days, but by playing, let's say, ~3-4 hours per day. And, as such, the main question of this thread (also

for the previous paragraphs)... what activities would you suggest to help me accomplish the 40K-50K gold goal in 10 days, as a returning player using the 10-day trial? Honestly I don't think it should be as hard as I'm making it sound like, but it's been a while since I played and I was never the biggest gold maker so I'm unsure! Other than this main issue, I have a few other questions: 1) Compared to MoP, how much stuff is there for a more casual player (that actually plays for a fair amount of hours per week) to do in WoD? I frankly don't mind easier content, and I also like knocking off older things (and there's too many alts I want to level!!), so as long as I could get at least 2-3 months of fun I'd be able to justify the box price. 2) How is Feral druid? I played Moonkin in MoP, and I loved it, but I'd love to roll a second druid to play a Feral/Guardian combo for old time's sake - loved my Kitty and Bear forms back in TBC and WoTLK. 3) Slightly related to the previous question, how hard is tanking dungeons nowadays? I used to enjoy tanking with the bear form back in mid-late Wrath, since the dungeons were relatively stress-free (aka easy), but I avoided them in MoP. I don't think dungeons were much harder, but it felt like PuGs would cut my throat if I was an inexperienced tank trying to not mess up and stuff (maybe I just got more anxious about it with the years...) 4) Add-ons are one of my favourite things about the game, so I was wondering if there have been any notable additions since 5.3, or if it's still the same "big deals". 5) Bit of a more abstract/silly question since this varies a lot from person to person, but how hard do you think it's going to be to keep buying tokens each month if I also like sinking some gold in mounts and such? I'm guessing it's not hard at all, but tokens feel too cheap to be true! 6) How is WoD's lore? I'm still a bit iffy about the whole AU premise, but I have a soft spot for the setting, so maybe if I suppress my belief a bit there's some cool storytelling to be experienced? Aaand that's all. Thanks for your time and have a nice day :)

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relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_38tu1s

So I've always had a crush on my female friend throughout college. But I never really bad the balls to ask her out prior to her having her boyfriend. Anyways.. Fast forward 3+ years later. I had my share of girlfriends and hookups throughout college. And I am about to graduate soon. My female friend, who has the boyfriend, eventually start to hang out quite often. Going to bars, having lunch, going to parties together, etc. One drunken night at the bars, my female friend and I start dancing. not the face to face type of dancing, but the kind where she was grinding up on me. We were just enjoying each other's company that night. Eventually we all went home and she decided to stay at my place for a bit. To chill and sober up. Things kind of got a little hot between us and we started making out. Nothing happened further than that. However she eventually went back home. After that night, we eventually started texting each other more often, wanting to see each other more often. And really enjoyed each other's company. Eventually she would ask to come over to my place at night and it led to hook ups with her. And this goes on for remaining months until we graduated. At first it started off as hook-ups. Then feelings started to get involve for both her and me. We eventually told each other how we felt about each other. Keep in mine she is still with her boyfriend. We say things like "I'm falling for you" "I have feelings for you" "I never felt like this before". Things start to heat up between her and me. We eventually graduate and it was one of the hardest goodbyes we had. While we're apart. We're still constantly texting each other saying "I miss you" "I can't wait to see you" "I want you to be here with me" "I miss cuddling with" "I miss kissing you", etc. I made plans to see her during the summer and we're both excited about it. All in all. The sex is amazing is with her. We definitely feel a deep connection whenever we have sex. And she's told me that I've performed better than her current boyfriend. Which blew my mind. While we're apart we also sext to spice things up between us. But other than the sex.. Throughout the times we hung out before we graduate. we both develop strong feelings for each other. Problem is she has a boyfriend. And she's conflicted with who she would want to be with. And I really want to be with her. I can honestly say she's the girl of my dreams. I never felt anything like this before with anyone. But should I keep continuing to pursue her even if she has a boyfriend? I really have a strong feeling that she is going to end up with me. *

falling for a crush that eventually became FWB who has a boyfriend. She's conflicted with who she wants to be with. Should I continue to express how much I want to be with her? Or am I eating my time. Thanks

One-confused-man

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_2tfyhm

We've been together for a while about 9 years married for 1. We have been fighting a lot lately we try to resolve it but I still feel like I am unheard in the whole thing. I've tried to talk to her about it but it turns into a whose at fault situation, I end up giving in and taking the blame, most of the time. Because I just get tired of fighting. We have our happy moments but its just to the same. We dont go out a lot with our friend like we used to because she doesn't like my friends but gets upset if I go alone. I just get tired of it. We don't share money we split everything because she has trust issues with her brother steeling for her long ago. We've tried but it doesn't end up even starting because she "forgets" to put her money in or doesnt have it. Communication is pretty bad in this relationship it started out OK and has gradually declined. Sometimes Im OK with it but it ends up building up with me and I become an asshole without meaning to. Some of our fights are just about little things our flatmates, money, who pays for dinner (mostly me because her income is for mostly her school and her bills) things like that. I'm just on the fence part of me wants to keep trying and part of me wants to just seek something a bit more investing. Either way its going to hurt I can feel it now. Just looking for some advice or input on any views. Edit* spelling, grammar...etc.. **

just not sure where what to do with my marriage.

crushedaria

tifu

t5_2to41

t3_2tglf0

We had a customer come in asking where our super glue was and an employee showed her the location. She wasn't happy with the price and asked me if we had anything else. I asked her what she needed it for so I could suggest something else. She needed to glue her license plate registration sticker onto her car as the adhesive had worn off. Super glue seemed about the only thing we sell that would keep it on well enough. After explaining that to her she ended up buying it, no problem. She asked me if I would mind gluing the tab to her plate for her so she could use the bathroom real quick. Not a problem I thought. She told me what kind of car it was (Foreign make car that starts with an H) and pointed to the right side of our store. I go out and glue the tag to the plate and go back in. As I walk in she comes outside and thanks me for the help. I go in and think nothing of it, but before I went back to the office I notice she gets into a different car than the one I glued the tag to. Turns out I got the manufacturer confused with another company.... Hopefully she doesn't get pulled over ... nor the person whose car I glued the tag to. So

attempted to help a customer glue a registration tag on her plate, put it on the wrong car. Wups.

SplishSplash82

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_2thcax

So... Most of you are probably thinking "Oh, it only lasted a month. It couldn't have been that serious." Or "How bad could it hurt?". So, if you're one of those people, please just bear with me while I explain. Back story on me: I've had kind of a fucked up past. Very unstable, abusive biological parents. When I lived with them I was babysitting my siblings starting when I was 5 years old. I went to 18 different schools from K-12, and my mom had 4 separate husbands from the time my dad split when I was 4 until I left there when I was 13 because I was sick of being controlled and abused by my step-dads. I then moved in with my dad, who, for the year and a half I lived with him, drank a bottle of booze a day, would regularly abuse me mentally, verbally, and on occasion, physically. Also, whenever he was sick of me being around the house, he would start a fight with me and provoke me until I freaked out and started yelling at me, then he would either bring me to the hospital and tell them I was suicidal, or call the cops and tell them I either assaulted him (which I never did) or I threatened to run away. Because of this, over 18 months I was sent to 4 separate hospital psych wards, two stays in a shelter for runaways (each lasting more than a month) and two 72 hour holds in juvenile detention. Finally, he just abandoned me. Told one of the psych wards he wasn't coming to pick me up, and I went into foster care. That ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me. I lived with one set of parents for 10 months, and when they didn't work out, I moved in my with the people I now consider my parents, who I'm convinced are angels sent to earth to be foster parents. I lived with them until I graduated high school over 4 years later. Back story on the ex and I: We'll call her Angie. We met back in the beginning of October when I moved in with some friends of mine. They lived a split level house and Angie lived with her parents in the upper "apartment" while we lived in the bottom. I would see her in passing, when we'd be smoking in the garage at the same time, etc. She was also friends with another roommate of mine, who we'll call Beth. Well after about a month and a half of living there and kind of getting to know each other, we were at the point where we were friends. Maybe some subtle flirting every now and then, but nothing too serious. One night towards the middle of November, I was making my weekly trip out to the bar, (Now, knowing what you know about my dad, I don't want you to think I'm following in his footsteps. Sure I drink a drink or two, but I go out to sing karaoke), and I just happened to invite Beth and Angie with me. They accepted, and we went out. About halfway through the night, Beth told me that Angie wanted to sleep with me. The feeling was definitely mutual at that point. So we finished up the night, went home, and did the deed. It was great, and before you know it, we're friends with benefits. You know how they say that never works, because one person always gets feelings? Well this is no exception. Except we both had feelings, but I was wary. I've never had a relationship that lasted longer than 3 months, and I wanted my next one to be different. We spent the month getting to know each other and I really thought it could work, so i asked her to be my girlfriend. She accepted, and things were great. Over the course of the month we dated, we'd have little arguments a couple times a week, mostly because we're both stubborn as hell, but what made it different with her was that we never held any grudges against each other for them. No matter how long the argument lasted, which was never longer than an hour, we were always back to two peas in a pod afterwards. And we were absolutely crazy about each other. She actually told me she wanted to marry me and we were looking at an apartment we'd go halves on. Normally, I'd never consider moving in with someone so quickly, but i'm a truck driver, and i'm only home on weekends for the most part. This past week is when I noticed things starting to fall apart. She rode with me on Monday and things were good until we got back to the shop. She was planning on riding with me all week, but must have changed her mind, because when we got back she wanted to go home and sleep at the house. I said we didn't have time, that I needed to get to bed so I could get up at 0345 and get going again. Mind you, I had just driven for 11 hours. I was exhausted. She finally got so frustrated that she told me either I would bring her back to town or she would call her dad and have him bring her. So, faced with that ultimatum, I caved. And i broke down in tears. I don't know why. Maybe because I don't like arguing with her. Maybe because I felt controlled. But whatever the reason, it shocked me. I hadn't cried in years. I can't even remember the last time I cried. I've always had to be the man of the house, the person everyone looked up to. I had to stay strong. But on this occasion, I wasn't strong. I was weak and vulnerable, and I didn't care. I had reached my limit of frustration. I sat in my truck, on the sleeper bunk, and blubbered like a toddler that stubbed his toe. She immediately softened up, held me, and the argument was over. We went home, had make up sex, and went to bed. The next morning she started another argument with me before I went to work, because I had woken her up before the alarm went off. That night I came home and everything was fine. She didn't talk to me for the next two days, which leads us to tonight. After a full day of not talking to Angie, I came home from work, went to the store, picked up a bouquet of roses, and I went over to her house, hoping to work things out. She looked at me, looked at the flowers, and said "I don't want those. Haven't you been home yet?". I said no, and she told me to "Go home and read the note on your bed." I stood there for a minute, puzzled, and she told me "go on, get the fuck out of here." So I did. I went home to a simple note, essentially saying she was done with this relationship. She realized there was someone out there who's better for her, she wishes the best for me, and she's deleting me on Facebook. For the second time in a very long time, I cried. I cried because we didn't rush into the relationship very fast, compared to previous relationships. We took time to get to know each other. I cried because she was one of my best friends, and now she's gone. I cried because she just gave up on us, after all the times she told me that all relationships require work, and she thought we would work out because I was willing to work on our issues. But most of all, I cried because I thought I had finally broken the cycle. The cycle of meeting someone, dating them, introducing them to my friends and family, falling for them, and getting broken up with. At this point I don't even know what to do. I have chronic depression that isn't currently controlled by medication, due to financial limitations, and I can already feel myself spiraling into a deep, dark hole that will take me months to crawl out of. I just got over my last girlfriend, and this shit happens. I guess I just need someone to talk to. So, because my friends aren't around right now, and my family is pretty judgemental, I'm turning to reddit. Sorry if I jumped all over the place. That's what my mind is doing right now. **

dated a girl for a month, fell in love, she broke up with me, I cried, please help.

KIMJONGBRAZIL

leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_2ti6j6

Is it just me that noticed this or is it an actual patch? On the live client you rarely get assists after dying to an opponent. for ex: if you get someone to 95% hp and he lives through ur ignite but gets killed by one of year teammates after you die you will not get an assist

did they genuinely change how assists work or is it bugged?

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relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_2tj3m3

This girl moved from Seattle to Chicago 3 months ago and I've been dating her for the last 2 months. 2 weeks ago she found out she has to move back to Seattle because she got an internship and has to leave ASAP. long story short, we both liked each other a lot and she was the first girl to kiss me. The night before she left (3 days ago) I gave her a goodbye gift and we kissed each other goodbye and said shed keep in touch. She said she will be back in the summer and were planning on going to a music festival together. The next morning I told her to text me when she gets to Seattle and she sent me some snapchats. I texted her that night asking how Seattle is treating her and she responded, "good! Sorry I forgot to text you!" I then replied, "that's alright. Did you meet your friends yet?" It's been over a day and she hasn't responded. I don't know if she hasn't recieved it or what but i haven't gotten anything from her since then. I really love this girl and I know a lot of you will say, forget about her, but when she was here with me I felt that she loved me too. She's the perfect girl and literally likes every single thing I do (music, football, space, engineering majors, movies). I don't want to give up on her this easily. What should I do? Should I text her back? What should I say? I was planning on going to college with her next fall and I know she wants me to visit her once in a while. I'm in a tight situation, any help would be appreciated. Thanks! **

girl Ive been seeing didn't respond. What do I do?

crozier11

leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_2tka7o

Everybody needs to realize that these technical difficulties were born out of RIOT taking a step to legitimize esports, and today should be the only day significantly affected by it. After today every player won't be unboxing new gear at the same time. EDIT removed

because short posts don't require them and I am stupid :P

Ipadassehole

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_2tls6q

Writing this from a hotel room on my phone-so sorry for any typos or lack of editing. Posted before and log story short left my optionally and (rarely-not that it matters, he sucks) abusive bf. the house is in his name and I had already paid rent to him for feb to make My life easier. No joint accts, 2 cats our with me is and currently breathing in my ear-(small shoutout to motel owner for letting them In which usually not allowed). So my question stems from the shot that went down when I left tonight. I tried to do it all while he was at work,and in a prefect world that would have worked. He came home and the tail end and while he took it better than I thought, it wasn't 100% smooth. From an outsider he probably seemed fine-he smiled and laughed and told me he "totally understood why I was leaving /s" and he'd "looove to help me pack my way to a better life/more sarcasm". I had neighbors helping who didn't know the situation as we never were yellers. Neighbor just though I was moving and offered help. ( only relevant since from an outsiders view-nothing seemed weird). So anyhow, the only things I had left were my laptop bag/small box of random stuff and my iPhone 5only mentioned for story) on the coffee table. I go to grab the last of it and my bf asks if I forgot anything as as I turn around see him throw a small candle that had been on Mantle at me-I wasn't expecting it or that close to table-so I basically turned to see the candle fall and hit my phone and crack the screen. To finish this off, my neighbor had fine downstairs to load stuff as he didn't know outlr situation. I know he did this on our purpose to ruin my stuff. As the title says, he'd broken some other expensive things within the last couple months. But nothing I had thought was worth report if at the time(4 year old tv, old iPod, some furniture. Etc) some other things not worth mentioning. Mainly sentimental-so whatever. He the said he's cut me a huge check to cover everything he'd broke and moving costs as long as I stay through feb for a ton of work events he has(he makes plenty of money) No worries-I won't be doing that, but do I have any recourse on my things? I had rental insurance, but it's prob not worth it for what I lost. The biggest thing is the phone. It will need a new screen and I need it for work. This got long and I came to ask about the phone, but after typing this all am realizing I maybe just needed some closure and support-and any tips on replacing iPad/iPhone screens for less than a million bucks! -- **

left my dumb bf-he broken phone screen and I needed Advice on how to get it replaced cheaply-but actually just needed some e-hugs..

Lorenn20

sex

t5_2qh3p

t3_4umwky

Hey, we have sex with my GF quite often, and in my humble opinion, it's great. She says it is great as well, but, she loves me, she would say that even if I was the worst at sex. I love foreplay, I love caressing her for couple of minutes, touching her, kissing, cuddling, going down on her - the foreplay takes about 20 minutes most of the time. It is much less if we both are incredibly turned on, but my point is, that I really focus on a foreplay. After that, the sex itself lasts for about 5-10 minutes most of the time. I do not consider myself as a person with premature ejaculation, but I would love to last more. As for my GF - she says she came about 75% of the time. There were times when she said she came two or three times, and I wasn't able to get off, but those are exceptions. Sometimes I can get her off with just my mouth. She says she doesn't have a problem to get off, to reach both vaginal and clitoral orgasm, and she can be done in couple of minutes because she loves me and when she realises the person inside her is me (the man who loves her) she can get off very quickly, and she swears she is completely honest with me in this. The thing is, we talk a lot, we talked about sex fantasies and stuff, and also, she is a very good friend with my sister and my sister told me some of the kinky stuff they were talking about, and for example - one of her sex fantasies was to sleep with a pornstar, who would f*** her brain out (her words :D)... Also, from what I know from my sister, one of her best sexual experiences was with a guy, who was banging her for 3 hours or so, and she said "I didn't even know I can do this stuff with my legs" (legs behind the neck, etc,... rough sex) -

that guy was a dominant beast. That is all right, however, the thing that bugs me is, that she says she is really into this stuff, that she really wants to be roughly fucked for a couple of hours, but most of the times when I increase the pace in bed, she immediately starts telling me to slow down, and I am just an average guy in size. Also, when she is on top and she can do practically whatever she wants, her pace is usually very slow, and the sex is really sensual. Why would she be like this, if she wants to have her brain fucked out of her head by an 8 inch beast? I like both sensual and fast sex. If I could last longer without ejaculatng, I would be able to be "the beast" too (:D), because my stamina allows me to, but unfortunately, it is not possible yet and when I learned this, it was a real self-confidence killer. I am 22 and she is 27, much more experienced, and I often have the feeling that I am not enough for her in bed. I would love to hear some opinions on this, especially from girls. Can you relate, and tell me what's going on?

Cupcakesalways

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_47h9nt

Basically, my dad cheated on my mom through many years of their relationship and they finally divorced after he left her for a woman, let's call her Kate in 2014. Almost two years down the road my dad and Kate are still together and he often expresses how badly he wants myself and my sister [18 F] to have a closer relationship with them. He says he isn't interested in marriage, though it appears otherwise, and wants us all to basically be a close knit family. My sister and I disagree very much. In our eyes she is the woman who had a hand in breaking our moms heart. We don't respect her, we feel like we would be betraying our mom by getting close to her, and my dads cheating has left me with a lot of self confidence issues in my own marriage that I just want to stay far away as possible from. I don't want her to be a "grandmother" to my kids. I don't want to listen to apologies from her because I think the fact she willingly went along cheating with my dad for years says a lot more about her than any apology she could give. My dad is at his wits end with my sister and I and he outright says he is miserable. He's always wanted a large close knit family, which we were when he was married to my mom. We don't want to see him unhappy but genuinely can't imagine tolerating this woman in our lives. He doesn't see our point of view and is basically upset that things didn't go his way. Are my sister and I in the wrong? We don't feel this way about my moms new boyfriend, and we genuinely feel it's all the baggage attached to my dads girlfriend that pushes us away. We are stressed and don't know how to handle this. **

dad cheated on mom and now wants my sister and I to have a close relationship with a woman we can't imagine in our lives. Are we in the wrong and how can we go forward from here?

throwawayyyyy87990

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_475dx4

Hi r/relationships thanks for reading. I need some advice as Im clearing doing everything wrong! Ive never had to "break up" with a friend before but Ive finally reached my breaking point (after 12 years of friendship). A bit of our backstory. We met when we were 12 at school. I have always been the super shy/self concious kid, and Eric was the new kid that year. He was crazy, funny, confident and very outgoing. Being quite opposite we became close friends, hanging out a lot. His family became like a second family to me. When we were having fun it was great, we would laugh till we almost peed and played video games all night. Through out highschool things got a bit weird. Eric was very controlling of me. He would constantly tell me how all of my other friends were bad influences and i should not hang out with any of them. I noticed he started to say and do mean things to purposefully hurt me. And i let him do it, i never called him out. I was so pathetic. After highschool ended we moved to different cities and I was hoping we would slowly drift apart and start our own seperate lives. We now only saw eachother in real life maybe twice a year, so the friendship seamed more bearable. I made the effort to travel and visit him once or twice a year for three years until I realized he never once visited me. I decided i would stop going to visit him until he made the effort to visit me. He kept nagging me to come visit him but made excuses why he couldnt visit me. So for the next three years we did not meet in person at all and would text a few times every couple months. We officialy had our own lives, our own friends, citites, jobs. Seemed normal. Then this year I got a text from Eric saying he was coming to my city to visit in a few days. I was pretty stressed with such short notice but thought "why not". Big mistake. It was awkward as fuck, and very very stressful. He was right back to his controlling and backhanded compliments. I felt like that pathetic kid i used to be, and let him get away with it. He was still ranting about an old friend who dated a girl he liked in 7th grade and how he was copying everything he did in life (not true). He also tried to get me to give him a bunch of my handmade ceramics for free. Saying he would bring them back to his city and tell all his friends to buy stuff from me. " promote" me. He even told me he was trying to repent for all the bad things he has done to people and asked for my forgiveness, but he literally said he was doing this to feel better about himself (wth). After this visit ended i was emotionaly exhasted and realized how different we were. I thought he realized too because we stopped texting each other for a long while. I should have said something then, but i didnt. Maybe a month ago eric casually texted me asking whats new. I just said i had been working a lot and that i had just planned a trip to Italy. I thought his reply would be something along the lines of "cool" or "sounds like fun". Instead he started freaking out going on a long rant about how upset he is that i didnt invite him and how he would drop everything to go on it. And how he still considers me his best friend and everyone he stuck his neck out for is abandoning him and how lonely he is and how he never gets any of these oppertunities that everyone else gets in life. I told him sorry i didnt think of inviting him because a friend invited me on the trip (who he doesnt know). This is true but I honestly could never go on a trip with eric. He kept going on with his pity party making me feel really guilty for his unhappiness and going on the trip and i just finally had enough. I stopped responding. Eventually he stopped texting. Then a few days ago he texted me saying " i hope we are still friends. Im still here you know". I didnt respond. I was kind of hopeing he would respond with an apology for his earlier attacks, not surprised he would rather pretend nothing happened. Then after realizing i wasnt going to respond he texted me again today saying " i hope your phone is broken. Are you scared or are you just being nasty". At this point these messages are really creeping me out and causing me a lot of anxiety. I know the next step is to block eric on social media and his number. My question is, before i do this, should i offer him an explaination to why im cutting him from my life? And why he has no friends left? He is obviously very unhappy and lonely but i want nothing to do with him. I know i must sound so bitter. Because i am. I need to let this part of my life go. I dont know why its so hard. Its probably obvious to you what i should do, but i feel lost. Help! //

is it too rude to go cold turkey no contact with an old friend who cant let go? Should I give an explaination why? // P.s. sorry if this is hard to read. English is not my first language, also on mobile. And im also quite upset. //

skinnyfatsad

Fitness

t5_2qhx4

t3_12i2n0

Male - 180 - 6'1" - 25yrs old Growing up I've been skinny/thin. I was happy with that and rarely felt the need to exercise outside of skateboarding. Now I'm putting on weight and have turned "skinnyfat". I've noticed it in my gut and face especially and it's all from the many weekends (and lets face it some weeknights after work) of alcohol and a crap diet. I understand the need to cut down/out on that and start some kind of regiment. I'm looking to gain some muscle throughout while eliminating my problem areas already mentioned. I've been reading a lot and some of the big points I've taken away for someone starting out is diet and compound movement exercises. Diet I can figure out, but the multitude of information on what to exercise with is intimidating. So if this was

does this seem like a good starting regiment for a beginner with a proper diet and access to a gym? //3x a week 10min warm up cardio incline bench dead lifts squats military press rows //every other non lift day 30-45min cardio abdominal exercise Sorry if this is extremely basic or obvious. All relevant and constructive feedback is valued and appreciated. Thank you for your time.

norb_omg

leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_12i5sz

Hi this is my 1st post here.... im playing a lot of 3v3 normals atm. Since there are no drafts and i am not feeling ready for rankeds darius is a pain in the arse for me. Singed is annoying as well. Often you get both. Darius dunks an entire team because you cant kill him even if hes at 20hp because he disappears in his ulti and hits r again to be gone and dunk again. Now to my point and the

how could riot balance these champs? untill that happens, how could you counter em? sadly i draw a complete blank, pls help!

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TwoXChromosomes

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Greetings, 2XC. Quite frankly I don't know who else to ask this question. I am from some pretty super liberal political roots, and I am looking for somewhere (podcast, blog, magazine, online discussion group) where I can wet my beak in some old school feminism - OSF. OSF, to me, is about total equality for women with men, and finds that trying to divine what is "just different" about the sexes to be dangerous territory that can too easily go wrong. I consider myself to be sex positive and want women to be able to own their own sexuality and sexual pleasure, but I am critical of hook-up culture because I think it is a way to trick young women into making themselves sex toys, and using sex-positivity against us. I want a world where a woman can be as cute/slutty/fat/scruffy as she wants and be assessed no more critically on her looks than men (by women or men). I think that for every human being to be happy, he/she needs people to love and work to love, and that all women should be allowed to at least try working outside the home even with children. This means making the economic landscape such that women don't make so much less than men that it "just makes sense" for them to stay home with children and for childcare to be easily affordable and accessible. And I also advocate for a change in the social lanscape so that men learn to be involved parents, desire to be so, and have a workplace that allows for it as much as for women to be mothers as well as professionals. Listening to Anne-Marie Savage (of "Women Still Can't Have it All" fame) say that all mothers are involved parents and only some fathers are, and that is just inherently the way we are, drives me up a wall. I do believe that for many professions, we live in a post-feminist world where the playing field is even for men and women. But I also believe that there are many refugia of intense discrimination, however unconscious. This cannot be ignored. Listening to Hannah Rosin, a modern feminist icon, opine on the Slate Double X Gabfest that she thinks women in corporate America are just holding themselves back at this point really irritates me. (This from a woman whose husband runs the whole company where she works.) To me, the ideal of feminism in this country is: (A) a couple (gay, straight, white or not) where both people have work they love and an equal role in raising their children and running the household. This split may not work for everyone, and some are just more professionally oriented by nature, but I in now way feel that men are naturally more professional and women more domestic. And (B) a world where women do not need a partner or a baby to be whole and accepted or feel that her life has worth. Feminism doesn't have to be about babies, babies, babies, boys, boys, boys, sex, sex, sex. EDIT:

what's some good, old-school feminist contemporary reading you can recommend?

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politics

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I'm trying to put my thoughts together on the topic, and could use some ideas beyond my own experience and research. Child sweatshops; exterminating indigenous people to get at their resources; etc. What are some

examples of the worst Capitalism has to offer?

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TwoXChromosomes

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t3_12ldjw

Lately, I've been realizing that perhaps our six year relationship is not as wonderful as it used to be. We both go to grad school and are pretty busy with our studies, but even when we are both home, we hardly spend anytime together. We've been engaged for over three years, but have never set a date for the wedding. Today, I had to attend an awards ceremony and he told me in the car on the way home that it lasted too long and he didn't want to be there. I just wished he would say congratulations. Every time I try to cuddle or hold his hand, he quickly squashes my attempts. We hardly ever have sex anymore. I just feel like we are growing apart and have been feeling really lonely lately. I have tried talking to him about the state of our relationship multiple times, and nothing ever comes of it. I saw a cute couple with a young child and mentioned how I can't wait to start a family with him, but he simply replied he doesn't want to have any kids. This was news to me, as he'd previously told me that he would like to have children. This is really rambling, so

six year relationship and I feel like I have a roommate instead of a fiance.

conflictedfeeling

dating_advice

t5_2s4kl

t3_12musp

I met this girl (18/f) at a house party with her boyfriend. For whatever reason she kept hanging out with me all night and being playful, she kept calling me cute; pushing me around, and lying on me. (probably the alcohol though.) Fast forward, she kept in contact with me, and we hit it off. We share a lot of the same views and interests, we started becoming pretty good friends. Around this time she started confiding in me about her relationship problems, and I gave her my opinions and advise, with genuine intent to help her and her boyfriend, she seems to be very in love with him since it's her first, and only relationship. All the problems seem to stem from their lack of communication, and she's stated several times that she's scared she's going to have to leave him, because he won't share anything. She kept telling me that she wishes he could be more like me and see the things I see. Edit: She's told me a few times that she feels stuck in that relationship. She has a bad relationship with her family, and she's living with him. She's said that if she leaves she has nowhere to go. I also get the feeling that he's feeding off that, because he knows she has nowhere to leave to. Fast forward again, we both attend the same party and hang out all night, her boyfriend didn't want to come. We both got pretty drunk and for some reason (that I can't remember too well) she ended up getting into the same bed as me. Nothing sexual happened, but I remember her being right up against me and lying on my chest and cuddling throughout the night. It was not a small bed. Now is when things are starting to worry me. I've always thought she was attractive, and she's said the same about me. At no point however has she ever said she has feelings for me, other than friendship, and I feel like I'm starting to have feelings for her. I'm having a rough day trying to figure myself out here. Part of me wants her to just leave him because he's treating her unfairly, and It makes me mad because I know so many other guys wouldn't do that. The other part of me is screaming that I need to stop, because I'm now emotionally invested, and my opinions will be biased. I feel like I can't tell the difference from friendly affection, and emotional affection on her part. Obviously I don't have any other experience with this type of situation or I wouldn't be here asking. I should make it clear that I have been very delicate as to not overstep boundaries with her, because I know she has a boyfriend. All this contact has been her doing. I'm sure a lot of people will tell me to just get out, and cut contact with her. But that's an incredibly hard and painful thing to do, we're very good friends. I just need some other people to think about this for me, I need an outside perspective. Thanks for reading. (

became friends with a girl in a relationship, she initiates a lot of contact, starting to have feelings for her, now feeling like a piece of sh!t)

ladydece

TwoXChromosomes

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Hello ladies (and other 2Xers), hope you're having a fine Sunday. Anyway, it's getting to be that most-wonderful incredibly-cold time of the year and I'm in the market for some tights/pantyhose/stockings to keep my legs from freezing. I'm looking for anything from simple plain tights to pretty stockings to wear for special occasions. As I'm a college girl I'm not really looking to spend a lot, so

where do you shop for hosiery that is both nice-looking, fairly warm and inexpensive? Thanks so much for your insights, and let me know if there's another subreddit that might be more helpful for this. Edit: Thanks for the help everyone. Per request, I'm from Massachusetts (Boston area).

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relationship_advice

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Basically I dislike this guy at my school who is really suspicious when it comes to girls and I recently found out that they were organising secretly to meet each other without telling me a couple months ago and this really annoyed me. So I decided today in class to go onto my friends computer and get his facebook password to see if they had been doing anything suspicious.....turns out they were saying oh lets have sex and she said to him lets not tell him ;). I don't know what to do :/ any help is appreciated thank you. Edit:

suspicious friend and fiancee saying they are going to have secret sex, what do I do?

idontknowwut

sex

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t3_12pojs

So, for the first few months of our relationship we did a lot of sexual things. We never got as far as sex, but she said she wanted it. Now, after about 7 months, everything sexual just dropped off the map. Unless I threw myself onto her, we would do everything but sex. This wasn't an issue at first, because I love this girl and I really enjoy spending time with her, but after about 6 months of not doing ANYTHING, I started to feel like we were just friends. And yes, I really should have said something earlier, 6 months is a long time, but I just thought "If I wait it out, she will want to do it more". Anyway, long story short, I tried to break up with her because I thought we felt differently about relationships, but I ended up giving her another chance. Both because I still loved her, and because she said she would change. Some night she told me she thinks she is Bi-Sexual, but wouldn't ever have sex with another girl, she just thought other women were attractive? I have no idea. Then she proceeded to tell me she doesn't have any sexual desire to do things with me, or anyone for that matter, and says she might be asexual. Our little band-aid to this situation is something she proposed. I would get blow-jobs when I asked for them, because she wants to make me happy. But, she said she doesn't want me to please her unless she specifically asks for it. Now this really bothers me, because I love to make her feel good, and I used to do it all the time, but maybe that's part of being asexual? I honestly feel like sex is just a chore for her, there is just, I dunno, no passion I suppose... I guess the

of the situation is that she said she is asexual/bi-sexual and I have absolutely no idea how to handle this situation. Do I just move on because it will never work? Or continue treating sex like some kind of chore she has to do in order to keep me happy. Oh and, she takes ADHD medication pills. Not sure what they are, but just thought I would throw that out there.

idontknowwut

relationships

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t3_12qcmd

So, for the first few months of our relationship we did a lot of sexual things. We never got as far as sex, but she said she wanted it. Now, after about 7 months, everything sexual just dropped off the map. Unless I threw myself onto her, we would do everything but sex. This wasn't an issue at first, because I love this girl and I really enjoy spending time with her, but after about 6 months of not doing ANYTHING, I started to feel like we were just friends. And yes, I really should have said something earlier, 6 months is a long time, but I just thought "If I wait it out, she will want to do it more". Anyway, long story short, I tried to break up with her because I thought we felt differently about relationships, but I ended up giving her another chance. Both because I still loved her, and because she said she would change. Some night she told me she thinks she is Bi-Sexual, but wouldn't ever have sex with another girl, she just thought other women were attractive? I have no idea. Then she proceeded to tell me she doesn't have any sexual desire to do things with me, or anyone for that matter, and says she might be asexual. Our little band-aid to this situation is something she proposed. I would get blow-jobs when I asked for them, because she wants to make me happy. But, she said she doesn't want me to please her unless she specifically asks for it. Now this really bothers me, because I love to make her feel good, and I used to do it all the time, but maybe that's part of being asexual? I honestly feel like sex is just a chore for her, there is just, I dunno, no passion I suppose... I guess the

of the situation is that she said she is asexual/bi-sexual and I have absolutely no idea how to handle this situation. Do I just move on because it will never work? Or continue treating sex like some kind of chore she has to do in order to keep me happy. Oh and, she takes ADHD medication pills. Not sure what they are, but just thought I would throw that out there.

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Games

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t3_12qk0o

I really feel like I want to be connected in some way while gaming. Usually I play WoT and Guild Wars with friends. In Skyrim I feel alone. I really crave a social aspect of gaming, or anything I do really. It is why I enjoyed Minecraft so much once I found a great server. I loved the gameplay of Diablo III (not so much the auction house) but the big thing that struck me was the lack of any guild or group up system in the game, and I never really found an active group of people that weren't all about grinding to the top as fast as possible. I also like having fun and doing incredibly stupid things, like throwing molotov cocktails at some explosive barrels near my friends in L4D2, I like filling a servermates house with chickens in Minecraft, and I liked pulling a hilarious amount of mobs in Diablo 3 just for the ridiculousness. So the

of it all is the post title question. I want to know what other games have friendly online communities attached to them (even single player games). I'd appreciate leaving out the hate on the bad communities. We already know all about those. Bonus: How's Torchlight 2 / Borderlands 2 in this respect? Can I get into Dwarf Fortress without feeling like a noob? EDIT: Downvoting a thread about games in a subreddit about games. Reddit, sometimes I just don't understand you...

Gaara_of_the_Baharma

leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_2k40it

I found it quite amusing with all of the posts saying "riot do this" and "riot do that"...I mean, some of the ideas like "Riot enough is enough let us surrender 4v5" and "has anyone else been lagging recently?" type posts keep getting recycled every few weeks and the same ideas keep getting upvoted to the front page...if anyone else browses /r/circlejerk the age old "ebola this" and "comcast that" ideas that get upvoted every day will see the similarities between that subreddit and this one. **

this subreddit is turning into /r/leaguecirclejerk and although it is funny, the recycled posts should really stop...

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relationship_advice

t5_2r0cn

t3_2k8wdu

I'm curious, it's been a while since I've dated anyone and I don't know what's normal. In my last serious relationship, my bf and I probably talked through FB, text, and Skype about an hour or more a day. However, I've been seeing a new guy for about 4 weeks, we've been sleeping together, but he doesn't text me much unless I text him. We see each other about once a week. The last 2 dates I planned although he mentions wanting to see me again at the end of our dates. I'll text him about my day or whatever and he'll respond but otherwise he might not text me. He's out of town this weekend and we haven't made plans to see each other when he gets back. When we said goodbye he said he'd see me next week, but no solid plans. He also didn't ask what I was doing this weekend. Bad sign? **

can't tell if this guy is actually interested, it hasn't been long but he hasn't been texting much

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dating_advice

t5_2s4kl

t3_2k8xdh

I'm curious, it's been a while since I've dated anyone and I don't know what's normal. In my last serious relationship, my bf and I probably talked through FB, text, and Skype about an hour or more a day. However, I've been seeing a new guy for about 4 weeks, we've been sleeping together, but he doesn't text me much unless I text him. We see each other about once a week. The last 2 dates I planned although he mentions wanting to see me again at the end of our dates. I'll text him about my day or whatever and he'll respond but otherwise he might not text me. He's out of town this weekend and we haven't made plans to see each other when he gets back. When we said goodbye he said he'd see me next week, but no solid plans. He also didn't ask what I was doing this weekend. Bad sign? **

can't tell if this guy is actually interested, it hasn't been long but he hasn't been texting much

gayd3n

summonerschool

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t3_2zyhm1

So, I'm silver, a friend of mine was challenger last season, and he told me that a diamond+ player should have 10 cs per minute, and a bronze/silver player will have around 5 per minute. I normally have between 5-7 per minute, but that's like a 40 minute game where I have just over 200 cs. I was also told that the 'ideal' number of minions to get at 5 minutes is 38, and I normally get above 35, but I find that as more and more fights start happening, my cs falls off really badly. So

how do I keep my cs up closer to 10 per minute when dealing with backing/dying and roaming to help teamfights? Is it just the case of lower elo players being too aggressive, or is there more of a strategy to it?

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relationship_advice

t5_2r0cn

t3_300y4a

not being the biological father won't tear the family apart. she wants to leave her husband but thinks if she takes her unborn baby away from her blood father, she'll ruin the child's life. I am willing to dedicate my life to raising her child

biological or not, does it matter

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relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_3019up

I have been hanging out with a group of 3 married couples regularly for the past 3-4 years. The ages of the couples currently range from 25-35. There has been nothing out of a friendship - I just have a genuinely good time hanging out and having a couple beers with them. Since I've been dating my boyfriend, he's also enjoyed hanging out with this group of people. Since I must leave for school during the week, he spends a couple nights a week with them. I do not have a problem with that. My boyfriend told me the other day at the bar that he had news but was hesitant to tell me - he didn't want my opinion to change. Husband 1 told my boyfriend that he let wife 2 perform oral sex on him several times, but his wife didn't know. Husband 1 said he felt bad about it but didn't plan on telling wife 1. Husband 2 would watch while wife 2 would perform oral on husband 1. This news has sickened me as I misjudged their characters. At least 3 people were involved in an affair and deceived wife 1. My boyfriend would like to continue to hang out with the entire group as frequently as he did in the past. Would it be stepping out of boundaries to ask him to at least cut back the frequency of their interactions? If so, how should I go about it? I feel uncomfortable asking my boyfriend to limit/end friendships; however, this goes far below my morals. **

my boyfriend hangs out with couples that openly engage in an affair- how do I ask him to terminate or limit the friendship?

Harrylum12

leagueoflegends

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t3_302plv

Elise. You have had many reworks, so many in fact that now your pretty much garbage and have been for nearly a year now. You can not build her full ap because she does not have the best of scalings so you then build her off-tank but then your do close to no damage and you rely heavily on your teammates to back you up and in solo queue which does not happen a lot of the time. So the only option now is to build her support jungler and i don't know about everyone else but i find elise to be rather boring in that department. Yeah okay you could be that one guy that actually likes playing support junglers and you get sightstone and all that good stuff but i still find her lacking, even in this department. When you gank you basically have to land your cocoon or you get nothing from the gank really and i don't know about you but that shit isn't the easiest of skill shots to land. Yeah okay the elise haters back from early to mid season 4 might say "elise is in the right place right now" and that's where your wrong kids. Although this basically is an elise rant to rito saying pls buff elise, i think it could apply to other ap junglers right now. The jungle is heavily dominated by reksai, vi, lee and nidalee. who are mostly ad junglers. Whats that you say? nidalee is not a ad jungler. Shes ap Harrylum12. Well i find nidalee does neither ad or ap BECAUSE NO ONE LANDS A FUCKING SPEAR ON ANYONE EVER, ever not even vvvortic himself. Yeah okay there is that one time you land a spear but every other time for it to be a "nuke" you need to get it close to max distance and unless you have no vision or hands or eyes then you just click slightly to the left or right of that spear and boom. no damage. simples. Back to elise after that rather unnecessary tangent. If anyone is reading this that works at rito then i believe this is what would make elise viable again, not saying perma ban good or anything. Just another person that doesn't get the "ermagawd troll pick, gg report this feeding cancerous noob" in champ select anymore. Human form - Increase the damage on her Q, Increase the damage on her W, Increase the width on her E slightly, but not to the same size as what is was in patch 4.12 (70) maybe make it 60, No need to change R In my opinion. Spider form - I find the damage on her Q is alright right now but then again rito, if your giving her a buff may as well buff this too? Imma right? ;) No need to change W in my opinion, E. This is tricky because i feel if you gave her range increase on her rappel then shes basically back to what she was back in 4.12 and i think we don't want her to go back there. To the people who agree with this post might think yes give elise a buff, give her the rappel buff but we all know what your like rito. you buff someone then they get super nerfed in later patches so maybe just leave it or give her a very slight increase. I am not fully aware how much "x" length is in league but if you wanted to make it so elise could rappel over dragon wall without having to go to that one spot where you can sometimes hit it on that day you wear those lucky socks of yours then that would be swell. No need to change R in my opinion. On a side note on elise. i have seen the elise 'changes' on pbe and basically i don't think changing her movement speed in human and spider form is what is holding her back and neither is the speed of missile on her cocoon. She either needs a damage increase or a utility increase of some form. not some fannying around with her movement speed buff/nerf. While i am here i might as well say to rito if you fancy buffing diana and evelynn in the jungle then I'd be sooooo happy. For all you

fans out there. yes, all..0 of you. then basically... Rito buff elise because she is fucking trash right now and we all miss aragog's long lost sister on the rift. Sincerely Harrylum12

LJKir

dating_advice

t5_2s4kl

t3_303ku9

Hi Reddit, New to Reddit posting though I'm going to give it a go. I've known this girl since I was 14 (one my best friends younger sisters). Didn't start liking her till a year or go back and I know she really likes me. Though there is another GUY. We've kissed though never had sex or anything like that because she has a boyfriend and I don't want to go down that road. So basically this guy is a general Douchebag not only in my eyes (her friends, my friends and her mum). Anyway she doesn't want to leave him until the year is up either way.. And who even knows if she will date me afterwards. Though I don't really want to wait around. The biggest problem that she has is she uses me as her emotional side and him as the physical side. He basically only wants her for sex and she comes to me for attention and affection. Eg. -At club. -Front Gate. -He comes and meets up. -I get pissed. -They go inside. -Huge argument. -I Stickup for her. -She stays with me all night. tells me how lucky she is to have someone like me. -Affectionate all night. -Boom like 2 am hits she just like doesn't want anything to do with me and goes finds him and goes home with him. What Do? Kind of over it though I don't want to let go. Cant

this sorry. Have any questions about feel free to ask me. THANKS Any help appreciated.

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tifu

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t3_1huknt

Here, I sit casually Redditing on my mobile device like i normally do after work and I feel the need to fart, but something is wrong. I don't feel like this will be a normal fart, there are subtle yet ominous forces at work in my anus. It could just be, you know, a juicy one because i had Mexican food tonight, but it could also be liquid shit about to blow out my ass like old faithful because i had Mexican food tonight. The question is do i try to just squeak it by or will i reset the counter here and now? EDIT: I tried to be gentle about the release of gas, but those subtle indicators from before are obvious that i will shit myself. As i am not a savage, i will excuse myself to the toilet. EDIT2:

almost shit myself, but recognized the signs. I couldn't have done it without you /r/tifu. Today i almost fucked up

solesierra117

sex

t5_2qh3p

t3_1hwweo

Okay, I know this sounds far-fetched but since I've gotten into high school, older girls have always been attracted to me, from a senior when I was a freshman, to where I am now. (bear with me, it's a lot to read) The other day I was at a community pool in my neighborhood when an incredibly hot older woman walked in the pool. We made eye contact and exchanged smiles and shit, and I sort of went on my day and hung out with my friends at the pool. Eventually she came in the water and sat on the stairs near us. She then chimed into our conversation and we began talking. At first I was a little confused at to what was going on but the conversations changed and my friend was being an excellent wingman and she kept asking more about me and stuff. She later exited the water and went back to tanning but she came in once more before leaving and talked to me more... She then left and we exchanged names and she said she'd definitely see me again soon... Throughout the day she made it clear she was single and that her 8 year old son was away with the father every other week and she even told me where she lived and was surprised when she noticed I lived on her street. That was two days ago, and now today I went to the pool with the same friends again and we were just chilling and minding our own business when she walked in again and was all like "Wow! Nice to see you here again! How's your day been, what are you up to?" and so we talked more except this time it was just her and I. When I left I asked for her name again cause I forgot and I gave her mine just in case. She said she could never forget my name and that she'd see me soon. As I walked with my friend home, she drove by, honked and pointed to where she lived and what car she drove... There was a dude working on a pick up truck there in the driveway but it had a company logo and she did say she was single so I have no clue what to do, how do I get her number, what should my next step be? Help would be greatly appreciated Reddit! (

milf has been hitting on me (i think) and i want to see where it goes but i have no idea how to get her number or what to do... help me reddit! *Hey guys here's an update for you all: Today I was on my way to the park and I saw her outside so I went over to her and was like hey listen we haven't talked in a few days so let's hangout tomorrow at the pool and she was like "Of course if it's not scheduled to rain then I can meet you there around 4" but my dumbass forgot to ask for her number again... :/ She is stuck with her kid this week but he goes to the dad this weekend so I figure if her kid tags along it'll be fine and I'll have her to myself this weekend... ( update 07-15-2013 11:13PM EST)*

advisethrow

TwoXChromosomes

t5_2r2jt

t3_1hy1pe

Throwaway because he's also a redditor. We're both in our early 20's, both graduated from undergrad. I knew I wanted to marry him two weeks into our relationship, after he blurted out "that's why I love you!" accidentally during an episode of Downton Abbey. He treats me like a princess. He is kind and honest, we have tons of similar interests, similar senses of humor. We're best friends! I know that I've found a good man, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But recently things have gotten hard, and the thing I thought would be the hardest thing is actually the least of our problems. We're currently halfway across the country from one another, both in transition out of the grad school that we met at that we both hated. After many lengthy decisions and with encouragement from me, he decided to go back to school to get a degree in what he loves, and to make a very, very long story short, it looks like it's unavoidable that he will have to go to school in his home state while living at home to save expenses. The plan was for him to get job in my home state and move down here with help from his parents (they had originally promised to help), but his parents once again proved to be abusive, manipulative shitheads and decided that won't pay for him to live here. So, we've been talking about our options, about whether or not I'll move back up or stay here and do LDR, which sparked what happened next. I knew he didn't want kids even before we were dating. Early in our relationship when things looked like they were getting really serious, I decided to just ovary up and set the record straight. So I sat him down and told him that I've always wanted kids, and that if that was a deal breaker then he could leave now and there would be no hard feelings. During that discussion, he said that he wasn't as opposed to it as he had been before after meeting me, and that it wasn't a deal breaker. Since we had been dating less than a month at this time, it felt safe to just move on. Well, 3 months later it came up again, when he asked me seemingly out of the blue if not wanting kids meant losing me. I was very upset, but we talked about it, and I asked him why he didn't want them. He told me that he was an accident and grew up never feeling wanted in his own home, and from that and every other couple around him saw nothing but kids making people's lives worse. What it seemed like at the time was simply that he didn't know how to be good to a child because he never had a good example, and after talking it out for a while he truly seemed more comfortable with the idea. We came to a compromise that we would only have one or maybe two, and we would wait for several more years than I had originally thought would be acceptable. Fast forward to last night. He started crying during our nightly video call after we had already had a long, emotional conversation about being long distance, which we finally were comfortable with. Well, when I asked him what was wrong, as this was unusual for him, he told me that, since our last conversation, he had been trying to become comfortable with the idea of having kids. In fact I recall two occasions where he had independently brought up us making our own baby food to save money, and him building a crib for the baby, both of which had seemed very genuine and gave me the happy warm fuzzies. In reality, he has still been sorting out his feelings, and finally decided to tell me that he isn't sure if he will ever want kids, and though he loves me and will happily grow old with me, he doesn't want to be unfair to me. He said that he doesn't want us to be so restricted by the responsibilities that come with having a kid. He told me about the future he envisioned for us, where we can just go out to dinner whenever we want, where we can jet off on random weekend trips and not have to worry about leaving the kid with a babysitter or relative, and where we have all of our money to ourselves and we can just enjoy each other. And honestly, that sounds wonderful, and I told him that. We left it last night basically promising each other that we would both think about how important our different stances were to ourselves. Neither of us want to be several years down the road and possibly regretting having/not having had kids. He said that he might be ok just having one if it meant he would keep me, and I thought that I might be ok with not having kids, so I started looking around on /r/childfree to understand. But I just found myself on /r/daddit crying while reading stories of excited fathers and soon-to-be fathers and realized that I'm probably not as ok as I want to believe. Mega

boyfriend and I want to get married, but he doesn't want kids and I do, Neither of us can imagine life without the other person and both of us would probably be willing to compromise, but uncertainty remains. Any and all advise is appreciated.

DocRaccoon

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_1hyonu

My bf and I have been together for a year and a half now. He's always been a bit "aloof" and really values his alone time. He occasionally will take off for days at a time to go fishing, climbing, camping, whatever. Whenever he's needed a few days in the past, I've always been cool with it. Every time he returns, he's more affectionate and happy. We've talked about it on several occasions and we agree that his "breaks" from me are good for our relationship. This time was different. My very unemotional boyfriend teared up telling me that he needed to be away from me because I don't respect his time. I completely didn't see this coming and I'll be honest; I didn't handle it like a big girl. I practically begged him, "please don't end this." He said he didn't want to break up, but needed a few weeks without me. I haven't heard from him in a week (we don't normally see each other every day, but we usually do talk every day). I understand how immature this sounds, but I'm pretty panicked right now. I don't know if I can trust myself to act rationally (in a crying and begging kind of a way, not scary or dangerous). I totally saw myself being with him for a very long time, if not forever. I know I'll be fine without him, but I'd really rather it didn't come to that. I want to talk to him about what's going on, but I don't want to disrespect his request for space. Now what? **

he asked for space. Should I start moving on now?

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Fitness

t5_2qhx4

t3_1hzvdp

Hey r/fitness, First time poster here, usually lurk vidya subreddits, hehe. Anyway, i've recently gotten really really into lifting. I've been hitting the gym 6 - 7 times a week, eating healthy, taking some creatine and whey protein etc. I'm seeing some really pleasing gains, i've put on about 3.5KG in the last 6 weeks and I personally can just begin to see a physical difference in myself (all my weights going us is another pleasing indication! :D) Anyway, my question is about post-workout soreness, because I have none, nothing, or very very little, the day after at all! I'm wondering if this is okay? I do drink a fair bit of water immediately after and during a workout, especially because it forms the basis of my supplement shakes. I don't place any particular importance on stretching after I work out, i do some basic ones and limber up as I walk back to my car etc. Do you think this is a sign that i'm not working hard enough? because I up my weights as frequently as I can, and often work to failure in my OHP and Incline/Decline bench. the

here is: is it okay to not be sore after pretty big workouts (1.5 - 2 hours)?

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relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_1hzzz3

So if spent everyday for the past month with my girlfriend everyday but I'm exhausted, I work from 6 am to 5:30 pm then she starts work at 2 pm and finishes at 8 pm, iv said to her that just for one night I need to go back home and sleep in my own bed because I'm exhausted but then se bursts into tears saying that she will lose me and she doesn't want to get close incase I break her heart, I feel like I walking on egg shells she gets upset at everything even if she sees a celebrity on tv she will say I deserve someone like her and then burst into tears I always tell her that its only we I want then she calms down a bit but then it will happen again sometime during the week, this is my first serious relationship but this is her second and I don't know what to do, I nearly burst into tears because I exhausted, I miss my home but don't want to lose her please help **

girlfriend is attached and I'm jut so exhausted from everything but don't want to lose her

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Fitness

t5_2qhx4

t3_1i1kw4

It started three days ago when I choked on some pizza. I was stuffing my face like usual and I choked. Now, every time I try and eat something solid I choke and I can't eat anything. I scheduled a Dr appointment, and I'm pretty sure they are going to give me some anxiety meds but I'm not sure because I have a history of substance abuse. I have been going hard in the gym for the past 15 months and I'm severely worried about my career as a body builder. If I don't get this phobia fixed, is it possible to live off of protein shakes for life and keep all the muscle and maintain a totally health life style? How long could one maintain a life like this? I'm on the verge of tears. Its getting to the point where I'm choking with nothing in my mouth. Edit:

can't eat food because of phobia, is it possible to keep good muscle mass from liquid diet

knowtoomuch1

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_1i3h0b

To summarize the scenario: I learned that my friend has been carrying on (at least several dates) with a woman other than his girlfriend. He likely knows I know now, based on the sequence of events that led to me discovering this. Over the course of his relationship with his current girlfriend (2 years) I have become friends with her as well. My girlfriend also knows, and feels a moral obligation to tell her. I'm about as sure of this infidelity as one can be, aside from actually seeing them together. I spoke to her myself, and the 'other girl' had no idea she was in fact the "other girl". I don't know if anything sexual took place. I haven't heard from him since the time I discovered this, but I will likely hear from him soon. My current plan is to simply present to him the information I know, and let his response dictate what happens next. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. I don't want to be accusatory or combative because frankly I care more about our friendship than I do about their relationship being open and honest. I do worry that she might be at a health risk. My questions to you are: Should I bring the topic up with him at all? Should I drop it if he denies it or invents a semi-plausible explanation? **

know my buddy is cheating on his girlfriend, what should I do? UPDATE He has come clean to his girlfriend, and they are working on their relationship. I confirmed this with both him and her. She has also spoken with my g/f. We're totally removing ourselves from the situation now, unless requested to provide support etc. Thank you for all of the advice and discussion. Great community here.

iReclaimerZ

leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_1qhcjg

So I was playing league with some friends and had to go jungle but forgot to pick smite with Hecarim. Obviously my red got stolen by Udyr, right after that he started being offensive: he told me that I was the worst Hecrim ever, so I told him taht I still had better cs and that I made better ganks at that point ( I forced Rivens flash). And immedeatly after that he started calling me crying baby (LOL). Then we discussed a LOT and that was prolly flas by me cause I completely had to ignore my team :/ ( NO, I didnt want to mute him) What you guys think? Is it my fault ignoring my Team and still discusssing with him? (it was like a discussion with a wall, prolly worse). And guess what, it's on EUW :/// here is a screenshot after I decided to ask you guys if i am wrong or he (after the match): I am new to reddit so i dont know if you want

but here it is: Udyr wants his bottle, and I have to bring it to him but gotta let my team behind.

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relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_1qhm4s

I've been dating this guy (25M) on and off for 3 years since I started college. Its finally time for me to graduate and I feel we've gotten over many issues and problems we've both faced during our time together. We've grown as a couple and are still usually in sync in terms of coinciding with one another, but lately things have become a little tense to say the least. He works a lot and doesn't always have time for me, which I've been understand of because his job is beyond important to him. However, when I ask him to come to my house (I live alone, he lives with his parents) he is usually resistant and gets angry with me for 'bothering' him to come over so much. I am growing resentful of having to spend so much time at his parents house when they clearly do not even want him there all the time, let alone me. This has been the majority of the problems for us. The big issue that also worries me is what comes next. We had always discussed moving in together after graduation, but now things seem to have shifted. I wanted to rent an apartment together and he claims he does not want to rent anymore, he wants to buy a house. I am not financially able to even consider purchasing a house right now and he knows that but seems okay with the idea of getting one on his own, even though he has not seriously explored any houses in the area. I've asked him about this many times already and he has blown me off about it to say the least. I'm trying to be neutral and understanding about this because he is trying to save money of his own, as am I. However I'm not sure how much longer I can let him ignore this issue and I feel him pushing me away each time I ask about it. He usually just says 'stop nagging me about this' or 'stop bothering me.' I need help seeing if I truly am being a nuisance by not letting this go or if I should further broach the subject. I hate the idea of ultimatums and don't believe in using those in a relationship ever but I'm starting to feel its one of my only options. Please help! *

am I being a bad girlfriend for pushing a serious issue too much or should I continue to bring it up?

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relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_1qi37z

Now, first things first, I have nothing against porn. Both of us watch it and enjoy it. We've been together for almost 5 years and I am not worried about losing our relationship. My SO has quite a bit of porn saved on his phone and we've never hid anything from eachother. So I was looking through the pictures and found a naked picture of a friend in the mix! He and this friend have never fooled around or even flirted as far as I know, but she is definitely better looking than I am and is more his type. He's assured me that he didn't realize it would make me so upset and has apologized but I can't seem to wrap my head around this. Am I wrong for being so upset? It's been a couple of days and I'm still just as mad as I was when I found it. I honestly just feel nasty when I look at him. Edit

why does my so have a naked picture of a friend and why am I so pissed Edit: this friend has done some modeling and it is possible he just came across the picture online.

ShatteredHope

dating_advice

t5_2s4kl

t3_1qkiz6

I am interested to get a take on this. Should a woman play hard to get, or not? In my previous relationship, I was very clingy and needy and initiating a lot of the contact or suggestions that we go out. Several friends told me I should be harder to get, not necessarily PLAY hard to get, but just be harder to get. I'm now in the very early stages of a new relationship and wondering if I am "showing my hand" too much, so to speak. He knows how much I like him and am into him, and I have told him. BUT he brought it up first by saying that he likes me, and we talked about that a little bit and the conversation went from there, etc. I feel so comfortable talking with him and not worried about how I'm coming across or what he'll think, the way I usually am. We have talked a lot about our feelings etc and I believe him when he has told me that he's so glad he met me, feels a connection unlike ever before, sees a potential future together, etc etc. But he said a few things last night about knowing that I want to be his girlfriend, knowing how much I want him etc that made me feel that he thinks he has me eating out of his hand and that it's a done deal. He hasn't done anything to made me think this, just a couple of statements. He still treats me the same and is wonderful to me, but I don't want him to get too comfortable and stop trying to impress me already, we JUST met, it's brand new. The

version...playing hard to get: yes or no?

mstrashpie

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_415wv8

I'm sure this happens ALL the time. Two people become friends, they hook up, and then they go back to being friends, without explicitly acknowledging what has happened. Because these things just happen. But like a dumb girl, I foolishly believed my good friend saw the opportunity to develop a more intimate relationship. He was my best friend for a couple of months. We got on so well, had the same dark and goofy sense of humor, and we shared a lot of personal details. The first night we really hung out we accidentally stayed up til sunrise, just talking. Anyway, the basis of our friendship has always consisted of mutual respect, as I genuinely think he is one of the best people I know. I think he sees me in the same light. When we started hooking up, I was hoping it would continue for awhile. A couple of months ago, he stopped accepting my late night invitations. The friendship remained the same, we still hung out. Just no more late night rendezvous. But when we did hook up, it was confirmed that our sexual chemistry was GREAT. I'm a little burnt because I would have loved to keep hooking up with him. He's still single. Here's a girl, offering him as much sex as he wants, and instead of taking her up on it, he decides to simply preserve the friendship. Idk what to think. Someone amuse me and tell me he cares about me and our friendship more than sex. I guess that state of mind would only be valid if you believed that he had been using me for sex, or that by having sex with him, I was giving him something for nothing in return. I don't like this way of thinking, because it makes it sound like I can't enjoy sex. If anything I wanted it more than him. But anyway,

he knows I CLEARLY have more than fwb-feelings for him, he told me he couldn't give me that now, we fooled around again, and never acknowledged the last times we hooked up and then we stopped, but he is still my friend. Did he stop hooking up with me out of respect?

throwaway18919

relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_4bpd0a

Throwaway and some numbers changed because my husband is an avid redditor. Apologies for any strange phrasing and mistakes, English is not my first language. Reason I'm writing is to get some ideas on how to deal with my husband, because I am at the end of patience here, and that's saying a lot about me. He's been unemployed for almost a year now, burned bridges at the last places of employment, no college degree, avoids applying to jobs or making any decision whatsoever. He gets angry and lashes out at me when I try to broach the subject: "you just take out the joy in life" and other hurtful comments. He apologizes later and I know it's stressful for him, but still I don't want to feel like shit every time I try to have a serious conversation with him. He's in a field that is in high demand where we are living, with very good salaries, he could easily find at least a decent job if he really tried. (keeping it however would be a different issue) He doesn't really have friends, something which initially when I met him I attributed to him just having moved from another country and considered just a temporary issue. But years after that and he can't seem to build a close relationship with anyone other than me. I think his issues stem from his negative personality, he seems the type to find a problem for every solution, gets angry very easily, quits anything at the first sign of discomfort. He is insecure and doesn't trust others. Things between us are generally good, just as long as I don't say anything about things that are sensitive to him. I have kept my tongue for a long time, partly because I didn't want to fight, partly because I wanted to show him that I trust his judgement regarding his career, but now a year later things aren't moving at all! I'm very disappointed in him, I feel like I'm losing my respect and admiration for him and once that happens it will go downhill from there. Before you suggest therapy, he told me he has seen several different therapists in the past for his emotional issues, but that none worked. Because of this he refuses to try again and, consequently, gets upset when I recommend it. As for me, I'm college educated, have a job in my field of study, where I'm appreciated for what I do. Over the span of a few years I've received salary increases, performance bonuses and recently a promotion! I have friends that love me, I get along well with my coworkers, and generally with most people, I'm pretty much an agreeable person. I'm actually very satisfied with where my life is at right now, I've achieved most of my life goals. I guess that's why it pains me so much to see that my husband hasn't reached that point yet. And, in marriage, your spouse's problems are your problems as well. So that's why this frustrates me this much: I have problems that I cannot solve myself! I can't go to interviews in my husband's stead, I can't be nice to his coworkers and build relationships in his place. But what can I do? I'm not trying to paint myself as a saint. I'm not without flaws, I'm very messy, I'm clumsy and forgetful. It's not easy living with me, and I am grateful that he puts up with me, I have some pretty negative traits myself. *

husband is unemployed, emotionally unstable and very negative - how can I help him?

[deleted]

leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_2a6exf

It helps us see many things that could help us improve. It's a season of teamwork, objectives and preventing comebacks once you have a lead. Here are a few of my games as examples: [Lulu game shows how a good dragon fight and sneaking a baron can win you the game]( [Another Lulu game shows how a baron steal can affect the game]( *[And a Jinx game showing how mid-game tower pressure and protecting the adc no matter how many deaths you have can impact the game]( J4 and Braum, you da real MVP *

soloq baron calls lose games and you should look at your defeats to see what you need to improve as a teammate.

joak22

leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_2a70qn

You linked in your article a quote from Richard Lewis who quotes directly a reddit admin: The admin specifically says: "reddit is not for content creators, it is for content consumers" and the rest of his comment goes in the same vein. We're all lurkers. We're just looking for good content. See, I work 1-10pm 4 days of the week. When I come home at 11pm, I don't have time to check cloth5, paravine, esportheaven, onGamers, Gamespot, mmo-champion, diablofans, manaflask, you name it. There are some which I regularly check, most notably the latter ones, but as for league, there are so many content creators now that it's impossible to regularly keep up with all of them unless you devote a significant portion of your time to them. I mean, just follow a regular LCS week, you'll have to keep up with the 6-8 hour LCS broadcast. Then maybe check 5-7 interviews from Travis. Read 2-3 "team fight breakdowns". Check 4-5 highlights. And then during the time you have no matches, you'll have articles talking about how the meta is changing, how this player should do X, how this team should do X, how this champion is better than this one. Really, there is NO WAY a normal person (most lurkers, really) can keep up with all these esports website. So what do we do? We come on Reddit to check what's hot. From there you see the best content voted by the people, you have direct access to what it is. You don't have to browse a website homepage or article page or interviews page to see what you want. No, you see it on Reddit's front page in mere minutes, rather than spending an hour just to browse through everything. Don't get me wrong, I understand Reddit's flawed and the algorithm makes it very easy to manipulate, but as people said, you shouldn't see Reddit as an advertising platform. It seems to me that people got good money from league (Travis, Richard Lewis, etc.) and then you saw a whole bunch of new esports website trying to get a piece of that "esport's hype" everybody has been building. Seriously, you're fighting against around ~30 regular league content creators. Don't expect to get all the views simply because "Reddit is flawed." No, Reddit is doing what it has been doing for years. Getting the best content from all the internet in one place. Not advertising your small website. Try to find a niche that /r/leagueoflegends hasn't filled and build on that niche. Blakinola

patch notes, foxdrop jungle guides, Sky's comedy, spellsy's infographics, travis' interviews, RoG tier lists, etc. all come to mind. Don't make simple long league articles and expect everybody to "bookmark and visit" your website everyday. That's not how it works, that's not how the internet works. And that's not how people consume content nowadays. We're in a new era. Adapt or die.

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leagueoflegends

t5_2rfxx

t3_2ad7mx

p>First off all I want to say that</p> <ul> <li>i dont want to witchhunting riot</li> <li>Im neither a Pro nor an Analist</li> <li>I can be totally wrong</li> </ul> <p>But anyway i want to share my thoughts</p><br /> <p>The current meta is really lategame-orientated. Champions like Kogmaw/Tristana/even jax are really high contested Picks right now.</p> <p>It seems to be the best to pick 1 lategamecarry and pair it with 4 supporting champs with solid waveclear to stall the game.</p> <p>Once your carry gets 3-4 Items u are ready to win the game thank to felt 10k health on your carry.</p> <p>It seems to be too "easy" that teams can just stack all shields/heals on 1 champion which actually solo wins the game</p> <p>The fact that Shields can stack creates Op champions</p> <p>If Op champs had to care more about Positioning and if they couldnt just rely on shields, they would be killable and not as op as they are currently.</p> <p><strong>

strong> So here is my solution: Limit the max.amount of shieldpoints a champion can have or reduce the power of the following shields (like summonerspell heal does). I havent done math but i guess the lagest possible shield should be something like 20-25% of champions health</p> <p>What do you guys think?</p>

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relationships

t5_2qjvn

t3_2adz6f

So one night 3 months ago my husband(25) ,of almost 4 years and parter of 7 years in total, says he wants a divorce. And then proceeds to sleep around with a girl a few days later while we are still living in the same house and the same bed . I end up moving out , and we try to remain friends. He tells me he won't do anything again until the divorce is final. So we start sleeping together again. Then a few weeks later he sleeps with someone else. This time I'm hurt, so I had originally agreed to leave the furniture in our house until it sold, but I took everything we agreed to divide and swore I would never talk to him again. He begged and pleaded to please give him my friendship and that he was sorry. So I started talking to him again. And now we are back to kind of having sex every time we see each other but I feel used. And when I tell him he says we don't have to have sex to be friends, but I'm not sure I want to be his friend at all. He is still seeing these girls and I just feel nasty at the end of it. And so I tell him again I don't think it's a good idea to stay friends but he begs me to please remain a part of his life. I'm confused. Why would he ask me for a divorce and not file after all this time. And what is the point of being his friend? I'm heartbroken and he doesn't understand remaining friends is hindering my ability to move on. Of course I still love him and I am willing to still work on our marriage , but I'm not willing to work on a friendship. >>

husband wants divore, but : he cheats, I say I'm never speaking to him again, he cries , I talk to him , we have sex & it repeats . What do I do?

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relationship_advice

t5_2r0cn

t3_2ae1gb

I'm going to try to keep this short so hopefully theres enough details. I've been living with my boyfriend for 2 months and we've been dating for 2 years. I've definitely thought he was the person I would spend the rest of my life with. I am his first love, he is my second. We are looked at like a power couple and a couple that is meant to be. We are both very ambitious and relatively heading towards similar(yet different) fields. All the time and people tell us we will have beautiful babies. That has seriously been the first thing 3 plus people we were meeting for the first time have said when looking at us. We've had significant ups and downs usually due to him flirting with other girls online or in text, but I am definitely over all of that and not feeling bitter (I was till bitter about these things like 6 months ago.) And thats what kinda makes me nervous. Like I feel no strong feelings towards him negative or positive. I dont know if I love him anymore, but I know that he doesn't have the capacity to make me mad or upset. I do still feel let down sometimes, like if i hope hes going to do something nice for me and he doesnt. He has so much work going on so I see him pretty much an hour in the morning and 2-3 hours before sleep and most of the weekend. I am stuck in a lease with him for ten more months, so maybe I just feel hopeless? We have fought before and I asked him to move out(empty threat) because I can afford the place on my own and he can not and he refuses. I feel no real connection with him. Very recently hes been very brief with me, doesnt start conversations, and will flat out not answer some of my questions. I don't know how he feels about me but I will say when we fight he is usually the one to initiate working things out. I haven't cheated on him or anything, but I find myself longing for a deep connection possibly with someone else. I do not think about any physical relationship with anyone else. I feel like to improve the relationship I would have to put in a lot of work and he won't do the same and I'll be kinda left in the dust. Like I'm starting grad school and maybe I should put more effort to growing on my own and time into meeting other people instead of working on something thats possibly not meant to be This is all really rambly but

how can you tell if you love someone, are stuck with someone, or can try to find the spark again?

ritzyfoxx

gaming

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Having already played through ME and ME2 on the xbox I figured, since I had the spare cash, I'd purchase and play the PS3 version today. I'm just posting this here in case anyone else is doing the same and to help save you all some time. First off, the code to download the Cerberus Network on the PS3 is having issues and EA is working to resolve them in the next 24-48hrs. Ok.. No problem, I'll just pick up Zaeed later but I can go ahead and create my Shepard and actually start the game, right? Well, yes and no. I can do it with the game default choices, but that awesome comic that allows for you to make ME1 choices? Yeah. It's only available via the Cerberus Network. Which is unavailable. Brilliant. ([Screen cap of support chat with EA rep]( So

if you want to play ME2 on the PS3 but want to make your own pre-ME2 choices you have to wait an additional 24-48hrs. EDIT: Now that the game has gone live for download on PSN the Cerberus Network code works! :D!!

throwaway6546

relationship_advice

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I've been dating a terrific girl for 8 months now and things have progressed quickly. I've really never felt this way about someone; she's constantly on my mind and myself on hers. We're talking about moving in together in a few months and I've shared everything with her. Obviously there's an exception here and it's something I've never told anyone, so what better place to start than on the internet for all to see, right? When I was 5 years old, I was molested multiple times by my 18 year old male cousin. It's really one of my first memories as a child. Yet just to be clear, this isn't something that really pervades my thoughts -- it's just something that happened. The only time I really think about it is when the issue of child molestation is broached. A major reason that I've never told anyone is that I do not want them to make this out to be bigger than what I consider it to be nor treating me any different for something that happened nearly 2 1/2 decades ago. I'm a fiercely independent person; I do not deal well with people being overly concerned with my welfare. Yet it is a part of my past and I feel a need to share it with my SO. I nearly told her last week when we saw something on television about a child molester and she said something to the effect of, "I don't know how anyone could grow up normal after having that done to them." Any advice about how to share this? Obviously the

answer is to just fucking do it, but I really feel presentation is key here. While there is an element of humiliation that makes me fear talking about it, I mostly don't want this fact to make her see me any differently.

ipv4fearmonger

technology

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Throwaway account. I am a network engineer at a large ISP or hosting company you've probably heard of. I have an inside source at IANA, the Internet Assigned Numbers Authority. Background: IANA has IP addresses. They give out huge blocks of 16 million IP addresses to the Regional Internet Registries (RIR's), which then dole them out inside their region (ARIN for the US and Canada, RIPE for Europe, APNIC for Southeast Asia and Pacific rim, etc). These huge blocks of IPs are commonly referred to as /8's. Once IANA hits 5 /8's, it triggers a doomsday allocation - one /8 to each RIR, and then the ipv4 internet (the internet as you know it) is "full". Each RIR estimates 6-9 months reserve IPs after IANA is out. Anyway,

that day... is today. Say goodbye to the IPv4 internet. And if you're not IPv6 ready, you should look to that. World IPv6 day is June 8th.

owiethrowaway

TwoXChromosomes

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Posting from a throwaway though I'm a regular poster here. I'm planning on going to see a doctor about this - I've gone before to no avail, but I'm going to go again and try to be a stronger advocate for myself. I just wanted to get some advice/encouragement/I don't know because it's making me feel like shit :/ I've had perineal pain with PIV intercourse from pretty much the time I started having it. I use plenty of lube, lots of foreplay, I feel safe and comfortable with my partner... I had some minor sexual trauma during high school but I've dealt with it through therapy. I'm nulliparous (no babies). I do my kegels. I've even tried non-latex condoms just in case I'm allergic... but no matter what I do I get perineal tearing which hurts like tiny papercuts on my vag. NOT FUN. The only thing that seems to help a bit is the female condom, but even then about 1/4 of the time I'll still get tearing. I've tried being on top, different positions, etc. Sex still feels like papercuts :( I don't have "trigger point pain" which seems to be among the diagnostic criteria for vulvodynia. I think it's just to do with how my ladyparts are shaped - has this happened to anyone else? This makes me wince to ask it, but is getting one's perineum snipped an option? Edit: upon a bit of further googling, it appears that the exact place I'm experiencing pain is the fourchette, which is the part of the perineum towards the labia minora. Also, I've been tested for every STD under the sun and don't have any. Edit 2:

paper-cut-like pain on my fourchette after sex, tried everything but surgery. I'd especially like to hear from anyone who's had surgery to deal with this. I'm going to sleep now but will check this in the morning. Thanks for your time, twox <3

squidthesid

gaming

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For me it's Gamespot. They never have a review out on time, all of their news is so old. The only good thing about Gamespot is their

at the begging of every review. How about you?

swigIT

relationships

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Okay - it may not be that big a deal, but every time me (edit: 22) and my girlfriend (edit: 20) of about 8 months talk, she's always done the same thing - but better, with her friends who are better, at a place that is better etc. Now, I just bite my tongue and let it slide, but it's really starting to annoy me and get me down. I'm joining The Royal Marines in September and worried that in the infrequent times we get to talk it'll have built up so much we'll fight more than enjoy the time we get. I really think it can work if we can get through my basic, but how do I talk to her about this without making her feel attacked, or without making me seem like a dick who is saying she's not good enough? edit:

how do I approach talking to my girlfriend about making my 'stories' seem inferior by 'topping' them without causing arguments?

[deleted]

politics

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My mom fled Cuba in 1961 and is pro-embargo (of course) and pro-Cuban Adjustment Act. I think the Cuban Adjustment Act dangerous, and it should be repealed in conjunction with the repeal of the embargo. There are a variety of other immigration options available to Cubans that don't involve risking your life on a smuggler's or friend's boat or a raft. However, exit visas can be a problem. Further, I think the embargo creates a migration burden on the U.S. by stifling Cuba's development which in turn leads Cubans to migrate to the U.S. seeking economic opportunity. Political oppression is certainly present in Cuba, but since the Mariel Boatlift, many Cubans migrate for economic opportunity. Lifting the embargo would allow Cuba to develop which will in turn incentivize Cubans to stay. Since Raul Castro is making the economy somewhat more free-market, economic development could really improve the quality of life for Cubans. In short, I think the embargo and Cuban Adjustment Act should both be repealed and that relations with Cuba will improve and immigration (and the dangers that come with migrating under the CAA) will lessen. All opinions are welcome. Let me know what you think! Edit:

the embargo and Cuban Adjustment Act should be repealed. What do you think?

kittensnmittens

gaming

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My wife just said this to me right before kissed me goodnight. We were talking about the new Civ Expansion that I'm currently downloading. She always laughs when I'm excited and makes snide comments. This last one made me upset though. I was trying to explain to her for the millionth time how much video games mean to me. I know it's something she'll never understand but I thought I had a great comparison this time. She loves Pandora charms and I explained how no matter how many individual charms you have, each one means something different to you. "What? Video games don't make real memories." Really? I sat for hours watching my Dad play Battlezone on our old Atari. I walked with my mother to K-mart to buy my first video game, Super Mario 3. I worked long weekends with my brothers to beat a frustrating anvil stage in Karate Kid. I learned the Contra Code. I traded games with my best friends and lost friends because of traded games. I rigged my NES. I played Mario Bro on my first watch. I snuck around to find my Super NES before Xmas and my mom was so pissed off. I was pissed off that my buddy with a Sega had blood in Mortal Kombat. I was conned by the Virtual Boy. I stole my brother's gameboy after I broke mine and acted like it was mine (of course I was busted) I've lived through Sega Saturn. I negotiated for an old Playstation. I won a N64. My ex bought my Xbox for Xmas in my first place outside of home. I purchased my own PS2. I I created a man space in my first home with my now wife for my Xbox 360 & PS3 and taught her the game of Football with Madden... All of these are memories that I cherish. I didn't say one word of this to her. I might have wasted a lot of time playing video games. Fuck it, I'm having a blast. bold

gamer's wife hating on video games not creating memories. She's wrong.

gam3p0t

wow

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It's been a while since i've played [ pretty much did icc 10/25 and some of the first cata 5 mans before i just had other things to deal with. So during that time frame I played a lock [ loved it back it ] and I also hit 80 on my death knight and did a little heroic 5 man tanking and enjoyed it as well. So that brings me to my point; or rather i rambled to it; having done both of those roles [ and upon coming back to WoW.draenor] I have come to see that i really dont enjoy my warlocks playstyle anymore, there is a lot of change and perhaps i'm just absolutely awful at adapting to the new mechanics and learning how to actually play my class; but i am somewhat of an altoholic and i've never actually healed other than playing a druid wayyy back in vanilla at which time i was enjoying this lovely game on a 56k dial up connection. SO here's the actual meat of the question, lets say that i want to learn a healer and level one with the intentions of doing 5 man content and possibly even raiding on the pve side, and being able to enjoy BG/Arena/ pvp side of things what do you guys feel is a "strong" pick for healer. I've been doing a bit of reading that have said that both disc and holy priests are strong; that druids are "different" because of HoTs but still workable. read a bit that Pallies and Shaman's have a little bit of a struggle this expansion release. SO before i start this new toon [ with my friend using the RaF program] i'd love some ideas on a) what i'm getting into as far as rolling healer, B) any helpful addon's besides the general [ DBM/recount] C) are you healing using the base UI frames or are you using an addon to make it easier. Any tips tricks or information would be greatly appreciated no matter how small or how "omg

wrote a novel" post i will dig into and enjoy. Thanks Gam3p0t

ThrowingAway3372

relationships

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So we ended things pretty well because we wanted to have fun and meet new people and we knew that we were too young to try a long distance college relationship and have much of a chance of success. Since then have kept very much in contact and in love, and we are basically dating when both at home. We have also visited eachother at eachothers schools a couple times. Obviously, open relationships like this are hard though. I have hooked up with girls, spent a night with one, and had sex with another. We have kind of a dont ask, don't tell policy. I recently accidentally found out she had slept with another guy after a party. Obviously this is kind of hard. I'm not mad or anything but I would like to know some tips to stop obsessing over what she does because it makes me kind of depressed. I know she loves me as much as I love her, but she seems to do a better job of not being quite so bothered by jealousy. Any tips on how I can come to terms with this? **

not worried about losing this girl, but want to be happier with our open relationship. Tips?